As in, do you suck the full length of the guy’s dick?

I have always gone as far as I can (maybe 4 inches?) and then use my hand at the base for anything I can’t comfortably get my mouth to. No one has ever complained

However, the last three guys I’ve dated have moved my hand to push their whole dick in my mouth so their head hits the back of my throat. That is very uncomfortable to me so I tell them to stop and they do.

The first time it happened I assumed it was just that guy’s thing but now I’m wondering if taking the guys entire dick in your mouth is standard for blow jobs?? The guys I’ve been with are a normal size (6-7 inches?) but I can’t handle the whole thing and am wondering if I’m unusual.. appreciate any insight thanks

I don’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t have the time, money, or energy to deal with a girlfriend. I’d go as far to say very bluntly that I don’t care for any of that(at least for now). But I do still crave sex. Intensely. It feels weird to go about. I’m told I’m attractive, even blatantly lusted after from the mouths of women themselves, but it’s not a common thing(women are typically reserved). I’m in great shape, good hygiene, and have fashion sense. Maybe it’s for better or for worse, but I’ve realized how blunt I can be. I don’t like to play games(unless it’s foreplay), but I experience on and off time as a result. I find it exhausting. I understand you don’t just plug a woman with your meat the moment you lay eyes on her, but I’m blunt because I don’t like being lead on. I also understand not everybody appreciates casual sex without a relationship. Weird dilemma. Thoughts?

I just want to know what the best way to finger my ass is and how it should be done I’ve not done it before but want to try it

So we have been in a relationship for 8 months now and 4 months in things have changed a bit yes ik there's a honeymoon phase but even if that's over with I am still the same I show my man love and super affectionate I'm all over him I text him asap all the time he's always my first priority and yes he does love me the same way it's nothing abt the love in the relationship, we are all good but his attention for me has died down and mine had stayed the same, what can I do to make him feel obsessed again? Make him go crazy abt me or what can I do? Should I space things out a bit and not be all over him sm and maybe he will run to me more? Idk what I should do. Currently l've just been talking when he talks or l've been trying to keep to myself more but I don't want to seem like l'm upset at him cuz l'm not lol. Well anyways what should I do? Also I'm so fucking talkative maybe I should talk less cuz he could get annoyed from how much I talk? What are some changes I can make to make him come to me more or sum?

So, i've never experienced this with another guy. But everytime my boyfriend cums in my mouth I get this burning and stinging sensation. Like iv'e been putting pepper in my mouth? After a while I start feeling numb and it lasts for a couple of hours.

It's not uncomfortable at all, just weird.

Anyone else experienced this? Why is this happening? I don't think it's affected by what he has been eating, he eats just normal things and this happens litterally every time.

I’m curious to know about whether people tend to date couples, or have sex with couples, or if there are any couples out there who share a partner or ever have. I’m 20F, bisexual, and one of my biggest fantasies is to be with a couple one day, just once to try it out. It seems so interesting to me: how the dynamics would work, how it would happen. I’m the type of person to like creativity and desire, and I don’t know much about threesomes or couples so I wouldn’t know anything about how that would work, or if this is just one of my silly fantasies.

I’ve never actually heard of anyone who’s been with a couple, or any couples that are willing to open to a third party. So, the thought makes me curious: is it a polyamory thing? Or is it just having a threesome? I’ve heard of couples who like to have threesomes, but I guess it all depends on the person.

I’m curious to know if this has ever been a reality to anyone, or if anyone has an experience.

Personally, I like it a little rougher, but my partner is the sweetest guy who doesn’t like that. Even if he wants to try, it just ends up with me telling him what to do and that kind of kills the mood for me. Like I want a man to take me and ravish me, I want him to be a little more dominant. Instead we have the same vanilla sex all the time. I tried breaching this topic with him but it’s always the same result. I can understand that he’s not into that, but how do you get over Never having Sex like that again? I know fantasies are a thing but it’s just not the same.

Hi Reddit, I, 23f and my boyfriend, 23m have been together for almost 3 years now. We are in a long distance relationship and see each other for a few days every two months. We've had sex since shortly after getting together and it used to be really enjoyable. Since some time now though, it has started hurting really badly for me. He's pretty big down there and we've tried different lubes and I'm always using a vibrator. We've also tried slow sex and different positions. But nothing seems to help. My gynocologist says everything's fine physically. He recommended some muscle relaxers but I don't want to take those every time I'm having sex. My bf suggests that I should get a dildo in his size and use it when we're apart. I am very against the idea though since I don't have a lot of privacy and am simply not in the mood most days after working 8 hours. Back when we started having sex and it felt good, I had a significantly less busy life. Every time I see him, I'm using my paid time off though and am basically "on vacation". The pain occurs either when he enters or after sex. The pain after sex is equivalent to period cramps. I can't really describe the pain when he enters but it occurs mainly at my opening.

Has anyone else had similar issues or knows what might help?

Thank you very much in advance for your advice.

This is a genuine question.
For context: My girlfriend (F18) asked one time if I (M19) wanted to get head. She definitely wants to go to the next level in the relationship, but I'm really not sure if I'm comfortable with it. I've always "shunned" the idea of having sex or getting head, and when she suggested it I had a gut "uncomfortable" reaction. However, I'm worried that she sees it as the only way to progress the relationship, and that if I don't she might break up with me (I haven't asked her, I don't know if she was just curious if I wanted to or not).
In your guys' experiences, do you regret your first time? Do you wish that you could take it back for whatever reason?
(Also, wondering if there are better subreddits to post this to).

My bf and I have been dating for two years and we've been having sex for one. When we first started we did it as much and as often as we could since we were both living with our parents. I would say that our sex drives were fairly well matched, but he was the one to always initiate and be in control. He got his own place and the amount of sex we had went through the roof for a while, but over the past few months it's taken a huge dive.

He initiates way less and pretty much only when I stay the night. I started initiating much more, and while he doesn't say 'no' and we still have sex, it's much shorter, and the passion we used to have isn't there. He still tries to make sure I cum, but sometimes he stops there and says that he wants to cuddle instead.

Last night we were cuddling and I started touching him and I put my hand down his pants, but he stopped me and said he just want to lay there with me. I tried to push him a little but he was inistant (I didn't realize it till later, but it was wrong to push him) but that's the first and only time he's flat out said no to sex.

Several months ago he wanted to try some of his fantasies and kinks, which at the time I wasn't ready for. But now I'm worried that he's gotten bored with our fairly vanilla sex, or that he's loosing his attraction to me.

I know I need to apologize for trying to push him, but I'm not sure how to go about addressing our sex issue.

I feel that when I get excited, say by a thought or I feel provoked sexually, it sends directly a stimulation to my clit. It feels very good but it also makes me feel very much like needing to cover it. It’s like getting an invisible hard on. I don’t know how to word that. I have an easy time orgasming, probably as fast as men. Been wondering if feeling this way is normal in women. Thanks

I took a girl home and fucked her all night and longer. It was amazing, we kept doing it and I must have pushed it to my limits because some hours after she left, I saw that my dick was all swollen up like a blob. Feels like it's filled with liquid and at the middle of it, there are like 2 rings where the skin goes inwards. Has anyone had anything similar and know any thing I can do?

okay so a while back i (19F) was chilling with my bf (21M), watching a tv show and cuddling. think he was stroking my head, then i think i kissed his hand and playfully bit it (super gently ofc), and then i kissed one of his fingers, and he moved his fingers into my mouth so i started sucking on them sensually. he said, and i quote, 'why does this turn me on?'. we had sex soon after, that was about a month ago.

ever since, i've been mentioning it from time to time during sexting (we're in a ldr) - sucking on his fingers as part of foreplay. the other day i mentioned it in a non-sexual convo (after he sent a pic w his hand in it) and he was like 'ok i have to ask, what is up with the finger sucking thing? im not into it. im not not into it, but im not actively into it'. i just felt so confused and rejected because i'm so used to doing everything right sexually lmao. i mean this is my first relationship so i dont have a load of data but i'm not used to sexual rejection basically.

i felt like he thought it was super weird and he basically said that if i'm only mentioning it because i think it turns him on, then i shouldn't. which is totally fair ig. i was like 'oh sorry i must have got the wrong idea when you said that it turned you on when i did it', but quickly said gn after, and he didn't respond to the message where i mentioned that he said it turned him on, he just said gn. i went and cried. ik it's ridiculous and childish. but i just felt so embarrassed!!

it doesn't help that im a highly sensitive person but it there a way to stop feeling embarrassed and criticised at the smallest sexual 'rejection'?

I’ve been wondering about this lately. Obviously, normally things like depression and stress play a role, but what could be other factors I’m disregarding? For context: I’m a 33 y/o. I used to have a normal to high libido a while ago, which was fairly consistent for years, but right now there is nothing. My stress levels have lowered, I’m feeling pretty content in life, I have been dating someone I really like, but my desire for sex is gone. It all just seems like a chore somehow. I’m looking for reasons my libido may have called it quits on me but everything I read about it cites stress as a source.

We are students 20f and 22m so we can't meet often for sex. He used to be a porn addict so he quit before we started dating. Both of us have high sex drives When he gets horny and we can't meet, he tells me he imagines porn stars and gets hard but he doesn't masturbate. How can I make sure he's satisfied sexually if we aren't meeting often? Does it have to be nudes?

I’ve been guilty of this and been down the rabbit hole. It’s got to be common is what I’m guessing. I’ve talked to people and there’s stuff I’d never say in person to someone but I’m comfortable saying it here.. to the point at where it’s “sexting”.

This would be a form of cheating or no? Definitions may be different.

I’ve always wanted to do a joi over text without sending pics tho but idk where to find women who would do that does anyone know?

My fiancée watches videos of me masturbating while I play with him and I’m not sure what I think of it. Why would it be necessary to watch a video while the person is right in front of you? Is this some sort of kink?

My girl and I have been sexting each other whenever we can’t meet up and I swear she’s a professional photographer with things like posing and shot composition and shit, meanwhile I’m just sending pictures of my hard member at different angles. She says she likes those pics, but I still want to up my game for her.

I guess I’m just not sure how to get attractive angles/poses of my body, or what even is a turn-on for women. I don’t exactly have a full length mirror (or any mirror tbh) in my room, so for the time being photos that require one have to be in the bathroom.

I have been having amazing sex with my FWB for several months now. He knows that I like mild kink, such as spanking and hair pulling, and has been more than willing to do those things with me.

However, I purchased some silicone handcuffs a while ago and have been wanting to try them out -- with my partner using them on me, just for context. They stayed in the drawer when I was with my ex because I just never had the particular urge to try them with him, but I find myself really wanting to experience them at least once with my FWB. I'm curious about what it would be like and would hope that we could repeat the experience if I do end up liking it! I just don't know how exactly to bring it up or ask him. I am also afraid of squicking him out. Any advice would be appreciated.

So, this guy was fucking me the other day and would intermittently pull out and jerk off. I thought at first that it was for him to get harder, but he felt to be as hard as a brick. I have never had anyone do that, so I basically just want to understand if there’s any reasoning behind it

So I M21 haven't had sex in over a month. And I'm afraid that my fiancé F23 is going to think that I'll cum too quickly. And I also think this. She is on the "permanent pill" (rod in shoulder) and would also like me to cum inside of her. But I've always had to pull out with previous partner's. Any idea on how I can get around that. And how can I tell myself not to cum too quickly whilst in her. Normally last with her a good 2 mins maybe. Edit: I live away from my fiancé. So yeah. I see her in 2 weeks aswell. Advice will be greatfully appreciated

Does anyone have any recommendations for sex themed shows that a couple could watch? Not porn per say, but someone akin to Real sex that used to play in HBO.

I haven't doing a streaming service that offers any.

me (19M) and my gf(20) have always kinda been into base level stuff when it comes to sex, don’t get me wrong I love everything we do but we never really did anything out of the ordinary besides maybe me being dom by choking, slapping,name calling and what not but tbh that is very normal in today’s sex climate 😭, one thing I always loved doing to my gf was sensitivity torture and while we were on the topic of talking about that she brought up the idea of doing that to me and i was kinda like nahhhh because I didn’t want her to see me the way I see her when I do that but one day when we were doing what we do and she was giving me head and I was telling her I was about to finish she ended up going harder and I didn’t think much of it until i had already climaxed and she was still going and when I tell you I have never felt something so painful but pleasurable and i was like okay okay thats it but she kept going for the next 2 minutes i deadass thought I was gonna pass out I kept seeing black dots in my vision and shit 😭 and NO JOKE caught a foot cramp cuz of all the curling, she also had me saying things that I KNOW I don’t say which i’m still teased for till this day but at a point i was like “okay thats it for real” and she got off me and when i tried to sit back straight my stomach collapsed and it did a little weird twitch thing that i have never seen before and she thought that was the funniest thing in the world while I was just sitting there embarrassed. Now I can’t go without that, but i’m also kinda curious why the male body does that, I know thats completely different than the title question but I kinda wanna know the science behind all that😭.

I’m not sure if this sub is the right place to ask these questions.

I 29f am not new to sex. I have had previous sexual partners but no serious relationship. Until a few months ago I had NEVER masturbated before. I had tried but I never got any sexual satisfaction from it, that is until a friend gifted me a sex kit.

The kit has a small battery powered vibrator in it and I slowly started to mess about with it. Over time I have come to love my little vibrator. I watched videos online showing me how to use it etc etc. Fast forward to now approximately 7.5 months after receiving the toy, I am HOOKED 2-8 times a day I can be found masturbating. Is this normal?

Not only am I masturbating a lot but I have to watch/listen to porn. But not just any porn. Interracial. BWWM. BWC. If it’s not any of those categories I won’t cum. Why this worries me is because while I have been with men of different races in the past, I have never fantasised about BWC or white males like I do now. When I wake up in the morning that’s all I think about and I grab my device to get my fix. Before I go to bed I have to watch porn and use my toy or I can’t sleep. It’s all I think about hence why I think I may have a race kink? Is this normal?

I have not had sex with a man in a very long time, so I wonder if these feelings are because of that? I am also super active in the gym and have dropped quite a bit of weight, could that also be a reason for my increased libido (even though I’ve always had a high sex drive)?

I have tried talking to one of my female friends about this and she looked at me like I had 5 heads. Do I need to seek therapy?

im a virgin and i havent had alot of sexual experiences so im a complete beginner. I have an extremely high libido and so does my partner. I want to give him head and hes told me he wants it too (hes also unexperienxed) so i really needs tips on doing it. Im scared ill be bad at it and wont end up giving him pleasure. Im also really scared ill hurt him with my teeth or something, and im just clueless overa to the whole experience so id be happy to receive advice or to hear other peoples experiences!!

I (25F) have been dating this guy for 3 years but it is mostly long distance due to work and school. We are in a committed relationship, and I have no issues except that our sex life is dead. We both have been extremely stressed with life and work (due to the job market) since a year now. For context, I have a steady job and he is still in school.

Recently he told me that he experienced some form of sexual abuse in his pre teens from bullying (the memories suddenly resurfaced after years). He is not comfortable with telling me more, and I respect that. He is finally seeking therapy too.

Here is the problem : we were quite physical when we started dating, but it has been over a year since we have had sex (we are long distance, but meet once every 2-3 months) I have been desperate for some action and have told him that (this was before he mentioned his past). It is affecting me as I have a high libido and it is affecting my work life. I have tried masturbating, but it is him that I crave.

Question : What is something I can do 1) with him while respecting his boundaries? 2) by myself so I can focus on other things?

TLDR; Dead bedroom due to stress and his past trauma resurfacing. Need suggestions on how to navigate the situation

Long story short, the frenulum on the head of my penis got cut almost a year ago when accidentally hitting a tooth during oral. Since then, it has healed a few times but just keeps ripping back open, even after going to the doctor and them saying I’m good to go after waiting over a month for it to heal. Even when I’ve gone slow, not been rough, used lots of lube, it has still ended up ripping. It’s painful asf. Right now, I just finished a cycle of steroids prescribed by my doctor for the cut area, and have not had sex or masturbated in over a month. Planning on waiting until the end of summer (with maybe some small tests to see how healed I am) throughout the summer.

Currently, me and my girlfriend have been abstaining for just over a month for the second time, I am very grateful for her for sticking with me through this difficulty. Our sex life has been the best I’ve ever had (and her as well from what she’s told me), and this has put a hold on it for the moment which has been really frustrating because of how much I want to experience with her as we both have quite explorative personalities.

This “incompetence” to have sex has let to quite distressing thoughts in my head. It has made me really anxious about sex and has really hurt my self confidence. I will obviously do anything for my girlfriend, and LOVE eating her out. I know I’m not useless, but it feels that way with this injury. Even talking about sex and kinks lowkey makes me feel like shit because I don’t know how long this is gonna go on for, and I know my girlfriend loves having me inside her, and I can’t do that for her right now.

I’m honestly looking for any advice you guys have, if you’ve experienced this or not. Any thoughts are appreciate too!

Hello, my girl and I have been trying to have sex and it has been difficult as she finds it painful since it's her first time. We have taken most obvious precautions like foreplay, lube, fingering, and bought a dildo to get her used to it and that went well. The main issue is when we try to have sex she immediately tenses up and it becomes impossible, she has a very hard time relaxing for penetration. With the dildo we bought, while it is slightly smaller she has no issue. We are looking for any tips to help her relax for penetration, or a way around the issue.

Me (29) and my gf (29) were discussing kinks and we’re both pretty basic when it comes to sex. Any recommendations to spice things up?