My gf says she’s not into shower sex or other aquatic forms of sex. Her experience is it’s not pleasurable from what I assume is the chafing caused by water getting rid of lubricant. That opinion seems to be shared by lots of others who dislike activities like shower sex as well. My gf has only been with circumcised guys and I am uncircumcised. In my experience things like shower sex is normally pleasurable I thought everyone liked it. I am assuming it is because of the foreskin acting like a sleeve that prevents chafing? And possibly able to better maintain its own lubricant?

What are other names that you like in this dynamic? I like ‘good girl’ and encouragement conversation, and a more innocent version of my name. For him I use ‘love’ and ‘baby’, which still work for us when coming from me. Are there any other names that soft male doms like that are different to the 3 above that don’t fit us?

So my wife and I have had this on going fantasy of adding another M to our marital bed. We’ve role played with realistic toys and sexted about it but we don’t know if we would ever actually go through with it. Even though I’d love to try it once IRL. What could we do to spice it up a little further?

What’s it like to actually go through with it for the first time?

I don't know why, but I really like the smell of my girlfriend's armpits. I felt quite excited and comfortable smelling and licking her armpits. My girlfriend sometimes likes and is comfortable with that. But is that perversion?.

So, I was with this girl and after we were done she told me that when she was with her ex partner she felt attracted by his looks, and all of that, but with me she said that sex was more delicious. I migth be dumb, but I didn't fully understood what she meant. Can someone explain it to me?

So, I've never actually been able to think about myself in any kind of sexual situation while masturbating, it's like I always need to think of another woman who I would catalog as "desirable" or just more sexual than me in order to cum. I also can't see myself in videos where I'm having sex (my boyfriend likes to record a lot) even though I find the idea of being recorded hot.

Now that I'm in a relationship I think about my partner while I jerk off, the problem is, I only can cum if I think about him with other women, since I can't picture myself in any sexual situation or don't find myself attractive/hot enough to be desired by my boyfriend. I even get shocked when he asks me for pics of myself, even though I can acknowledge that my body is very hegemonic and sexy, I can't feel that way about myself in order to achieve attraction of any kind.

This is very upsetting because thinking about my boyfriend with other women does get me very wet at that moment BUT as soon as I'm finished I feel devastated and very very disgusted. I wish I could do something to see myself in my own sexual fantasies but I don't seem to find any solutions.

What could you advise me to do?

Maybe my ovulation wants just has me crabby. I fully knew my partner was on the ace spectrum when we started dating so I’m not harboring resentment. I love them and when we do have sex it’s great. But it’s maybe once, twice a month?

I’m 23. I’d say my libido is pretty high. We’ve been together for about a year and in this time—when I need to—I take care of myself with the vibrator. But it’s getting old. I initiate sex most times and that can be so exhausting. Sometimes I want to feel wanted. And it irritates me because that’s something they said to me when we were in the first half of our relationship. That they want me to initiate more.

Now I’m pretty sure I’m the only one that initiates. Even when they plan to have sex with me (we had a romantic anniversary weekend with some kinky stuff), I have to be the one to say “hey, we having sex?”. I know it’s not an attraction issue. They affirm me about that. Yet I still sometimes blame it on something with me (maybe I’m not feminine enough in my behaviors, freaky in a “bad” way, maybe it’s my body, etc). I know sex isn’t the only way to show attraction. This relationship has taught me about exploring intimacy. But I don’t know. Sometimes I feel perverted. And angry. And I want to be left alone. It’s gotten to the point where I’m thinking of writing fanfiction of me and my partner having sex to satisfy myself. Which just feels so odd to even think about. I do aim to branch into kink scene more which may satisfy me at least mentally, since we are monogamous.

But I don’t want them to feel shameful or upset or embarrassed. We’ve had some trouble with sex/rejection in the past. I try to talk about sex with them but they seem to either close off or get irritated. We’re a year in and they still really don’t want to talk to me about sex. It makes me want to cry because I just feel so isolated from that part of our relationship.

Any advice on if I should keep bringing it up? Things I can do to enhance this part of our relationship? Is it fruitless or has anyone had experience with this? And just some kind words are much appreciated.

My wife and I have a pretty good sex life have been been together for almost 13 years, and married for 8. Frequency is pretty good, even despite of having a 2 month old and a 3.5 year old. I initiate most of the time, which I wish was a little bit more balanced, but I'm fine with things as is. Over the last few years, we've probably averaged around 3x/week, which I've been happy with. Lately since the newborn though, I've been extra horny, and we are doing it more like 5x/week. No complaints there

However, my wife has always a weird couple of hang-ups I haven't experienced with other women. For example, she is very ticklish whenever I touch her boobs in any way and won't let me touch them for more than 2-3 seconds (but oddly loves when I suck on her nipples when riding me), I also can't do any hand stuff with her vagina, at all. She doesn't like when I touch her clit and doesn't want me to ever finger her. She also always cuts me off after 1 orgasm, and there seems to be some kind of mental block stopping her because of these hangups, for lack of a better word. I could literally go down on her for over a half an hour. It does kind of make me sad to some degree, but I respect her boundaries.

My wife likes and enjoys sex, but doesn't initiate that often, which is fine with me like I mentioned above. She rarely turns me down and she has easy orgasms, but pretty much only in two ways: by me going down on her, which tends to happen before we do anything sexual, or by riding me in cowgirl. Sometimes I've tried to introduce a vibrator so she can orgasm with penetration in other positions, and she hasn't fought it too hard, but I can tell she's not letting herself get fully into it because of whatever her mental block is in regards to that kind of stimulation. She also really love cumming by having me eat her out, so maybe part of it is not trying hard to come in other ways so I will finish her that way.

Anyways, recently I talked with her about her sexual past, trying to understand better why things are they way they are and I never really realized or thought of it this way, but she has only ever been in two serious relationships (me, and her college bf, and they were long distance for 6 months out of the 2 years they were together). Other then that, maybe 5-10 partners, all very short spans of dating. She didn't lose her virginity unless she was a Junior in College, either.

Then it kind of dawned on me that she has been sexually repressed and never really been in a position to explore her own sexuality outside of "what I know works and what I know feels funny"... possibly by herself. She is kind of a control freak micro-managey type, but I don't think she was raised in an environment that encourages any kind of sexual exploration or openness. It was kind of a "don't ask, don't tell" thing at home. I wasn't either, but I love sex, so I pushed through it. I just think if I could find stuff that isn't "scary to her" or ways to introduce things that she has this resistance/stigma towards, I could kind of unlock a part of her she doesn't even know exists. I can tell there is a girl in there who loves to have orgasms, and I just want to help bring that out of her.

So, I would love to hear if anyone has any suggestion of what to try to get her out of the box of "I will only have sex this way" and "I don't like being touched or stimulated at all except for oral or grinding down on me during cowgirl".

Or maybe this is just it and I should leave it, but in addition to also wanting to have a more fun sex life, I also feel like she is robbing herself of more and better orgasms because she won't get out of her own way.

Thanks for the help in advance, or just for reading!

My partner was sucking my dick and I began to ejaculate. It felt good but she started stroking my penis moments after ejaculating and the tip of my penis felt so sensitive. It felt so sensitive I had to ask her to stop. Is this normal?

I (FTM25) have always felt so unsatisfied. I need to be wanted I need to be desired. I want to be roughly treated, pinned down and told what to do and how to do it. I’ve only ever been with women and I’ve always satisfied them (from what they tell me) but I have never felt satisfied. I want to be dominated by a woman, called I want to be degraded and forced to with stand finishing until she chooses. I want her to want me. I’m also into men so the thought of a man dominating me as well is such a fantasy to me. I just feel as if I deserve more than just a few touches here and there enough to get me to finish and that’s it.

I’ll be deleting this later.

TL;DR: We have a great relationship, but the sex part is lacking—he has a lower sex drive and only lasts around 20 minutes, leaving me unsatisfied. I don’t want to hurt his feelings or make him insecure by bringing it up, but sex is important to me. Any advice on how to approach this without making him feel inadequate?

Hey, everyone. I’m a 27-year-old woman in a relationship with a 37-year-old man. Things are great overall—he’s a good person, genuine, treats me well, and takes care of me. I genuinely love him and enjoy spending time with him, but there’s one issue that I’ve been struggling with: our sex life.

I have a pretty high sex drive, and unfortunately, my boyfriend just can’t keep up. He’s an amazing partner in every other way, but the sexual part has become a bit of a challenge. He lasts about 20 minutes, which, to be honest, leaves me unsatisfied. I’m someone who really values intimacy and sex in a relationship, and it’s important to me. So while everything else is wonderful, the sexual part of our relationship is leaving me feeling unfulfilled.

I’ve thought about bringing it up with him, but I’m afraid it might make him feel insecure or sad. I really don’t want him to feel like he’s not enough for me, because that’s absolutely not the case. He’s great in so many ways. I guess I’m just struggling to figure out how to approach this conversation without hurting his feelings.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I bring this up gently? I just want to find a way to address my needs without making him feel inadequate. Any advice would be really helpful. Thanks so much in advance.

So my boyfriend Jason (19) is transgender, he transitioned a while ago when we were teenagers I (20) have always been supportive of him no matter what.

Since we were 16 we had been messing around although we had never fully had sex, he’s given me head and I’ve helped him get off but I had never penetrated him.

Today he had asked me to take his virginity, I didn’t even know he was a virgin, so we had done it, he’s around 5 foot and he’s very very skinny, and I don’t mean this in a bragging way but my dicks very thick, so when i penetration him he got very worked up, I asked him if he wanted to stop and he said no, so I kept going, I got a little carried away and went a bit faster then I should have he said it was ok but after a bit he just started sobbing, I immediately stopped and knew he was having a meltdown, he’s autistic and pretty high on the spectrum so i immediately wrapped him in a blanket and started freaking out I never meant to hurt him, he’s gone non verbal so I’ve been trying to calm him down but it hasn’t been working, I’m just so scared I hurt him bad, when he was freaking out he told me it stinged and hurt a lot so I checked him and he was bleeding it wasn’t a lot so I figured it was just because It was his first time so I cleaned him up and put some ointment on it, right now he’s wrapped in a blanket, I had him eat something and I gave him some iced tea hoping it would calm him down, I feel like I need to talk to him find out what really caused it, I figure it was just overwhelming but he’s been really excited about it and I know he never meant to do this, I just really need to talk to him about what happened but I don’t know how too, I really need advice because I’m so scared to mess up

Hey so I recently got a girlfriend and i was eating her out (still pretty new to it) and she pushes my head down into her while I do it which I have no issue with but it is kind of hard to move my tongue around when im so slammed into her. Do you guys have any tips?

I checked previous posts but I found nothing about it

My partner came over the other day. We were hanging out and I kept telling them to stop, but they kept grabbing me in my vagina. We hadn’t even been doing anything suggestive just cuddling and talking. And they did this multiple times while we were hanging out. I do have sexual trauma, but I don’t know if I’m overreacting. I love them, but it made me really uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do. They then said “I'm afraid of this happening again and it being much worse” WHAT DOES THAT MEAN??? i love them but I don’t know what to do

Edit: My friend told me (she was very close to my partner, their friendship going back years at this point) that my partner has a history of ignoring boundaries and consent, both with my friend and also with other people that have now cut her out due to her behavior.

My bf doesn’t have sex with me anymore he said he doesn’t want to have any accidents I was like we can use condoms but he really doesn’t even want to get intimate anymore. It’s been a year like that for me! Plz advise

Doggy and legs on shoulders used to feel good until recently. And by used to i mean ive only been having sex for about 2 and a half months? Now its like a sharp pain where my g spot usually would be. It has been since my copper iud was inserted maybe 3 weeks ago, could that have to do? Any advice is appreciated

Throwaway account here because my family and friends are on reddit. I have been married for 3 years and we have a 2 year old child, I don't know for some reason sex with my husband doesn't feel that good, it's not like it's been like that all the time, it was good few months back, but it doesn't just feel right nowadays, which I understand because he has been stressed out with work

Husband doesn't actually have a problem with his penis (girth and length are good) and also his performance is good (not extraordinary), but from past few days I feel like I am missing out on something...

I have discussions with my friends and they tell how great sex that they have, and how men must last for atleast 40 mins in penetrative which really makes me think that I am missing out big time😅😅 I have also heard some stories that women seek to have good sex with someone else except thier partners, and this is the path I don't want to take..(sorry)

I didn't have any sexual partners before marriage and I lost my virginity to my husband only, so basically I don't have much sexual experience so I am really confused about the quality of sex life I am having cause I have heard many stories and certainly my stories aren't like them...and there goes my thought train thinking about things that upsets me

I really would like to make sex life w my husband better, serious advises would really help me.. thankyou so much :)

I have the fantasy of being torn between a deep caring tender relationship with a man who loves me, only to lose my ability to protect myself from an aggressive possessive man. This corrupt older man taking me and using me as he pleases. He takes specific sadistic please in my discomfort and humiliation. I am helpless against his possessive torment.

I want to be at my wits end, tournament while I put up in an endless struggle against my captor. Eventually rescued from the powerful aggressive captor by that man who cared deeply for me.

I want to be treated gently and attentive. Finally able to let go of my stress and melt away in his arms. To have trust that he can have control over my me as I rest and I will be supported and safe.

I have a very uncomfortable problem and it’s ruining sex for me :(. I (18F) have a really hard time orgasming, so usually during sex I never finish no matter how many times we go. I honestly don’t mind this since the sex with my bf feels so good. But the problem is whenever we have sex a lot of times in a day (specifically when I have a lot of g spot stimulation) afterwards I get this horrible, terrible burning sensation, similar to the feeling of a uti. I do not have any stds or infections, and never have this pain unless it’s after I have sex. Whenever it flairs up, the only thing that helps is making myself orgasm (which once again, is not easy and takes a very long time) or just peeing a BUNCH until it eventually goes away, but when I pee the pain is EXCRUCIATING. The only way I can describe it is it feels like I have to pee very badly and my bladder is being squeezed, but whenever I pee the sensation doesnt subside and I get no relief. This is also accompanied by intense burning. I also feel myself throbbing whenever I get this pain. The only relief I get during the flair ups is for some reason when I’m sitting on the toilet, but as soon as I stand up the pain just hits me immediately and I have to just sit there until my legs are numb and the pain subsides enough for me to be able to lay down. I really have no idea what causes this and how to fix it. While cumming does help, it also is extremely tedious and I would like to just be able to have sex without worrying about it. Any advice?

I love deeper penetration when the area close to my cervix but NOT my actual cervix gets hit especially at certain angles, I think that’s when my A spot is getting stimualated and very occasionally I can cum from that but usually I just cum from clitoral stimulation though someone hitting my A spot is when I enjoy PiV the most (along with my clit being rubbed during it). I just hear a lot of women complain about not feeling much during PiV so wanted to offer my perspective >.<

Hey all! Thank you in advance for reading.

I am looking for some advice on enhancing my wife’s sexual experience while we are trying for a baby. I want to try to make her experience as whole as possible, while still accomplishing the penetration necessary for TTC.

Some barriers:

My wife has pelvic floor issues, so sex hasn’t always been the best experience for her. After many years of working and building, we have managed to make it positive., but she does not always derive pleasure from the experience. She does not believe she could ever experience orgasm from penetration.

I am able to give her orgasms with no penetration just using hands. She has a pretty considerable amount of time after an orgasm in which her pelvic floor is very tight, so an orgasm for her usually means sex is done for the day.

She is not okay with me playing with her after TTC sex, as she doesn’t want anything down near there with the various fluids (sorry) around

Vibes can be a challenge, she says that she is very quickly over stimulated with an intense vibrator. We have struggled to find a toy with the right vibration level for her.

She doesn’t not respond to finger stimulation to her clit during penetration, we have not yet tried a vibe.

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I’d just really like to make this fun for her all around. Any ideas on things to try to bring more pleasure forward and a better experience all around for her?

I have this fantasy of me and my partner being covered in blood during sex but I have NO interest in actually cutting myself or them, and because I’m on birth control, I no longer get my period, so I’m curious, would it be possible to use food coloring to dye lube red or would that just give me a UTI? is there anything that exists for such a purpose?

Today I got a 5oz bottle of water based lube, the CVS brand. I wish I could upload images bc idk how well I’ll be able to describe this. There are like, tiny thin white strands, no longer than half a centimeter, throughout the entire bottle. They don’t dissolve when I shake the bottle. When I squirted some of the lube on my fingers, it was like they vanished and weren’t there anymore. No clue what they are. I’ve only bought lube one other time before, but the bottle was like cloudy so I don’t know if it would’ve looked the same if the bottle was designed to be clear like this one. This bottle was unopened/still sealed. If there’s something wrong with it I’m really embarrassed to go back and ask for a refund, I specifically went through self checkout to get this. Helppp…

This is a very personal and heavy question that's been on my mind. Hope no one takes offense, im just curious.

Are there any women who are ok having a threesome with their boyfriend/husbands, but it would be (to put it bluntly) one-sided. This means a threesome would happen (in the relationship), but only with another woman and never another man, Even if it's just once. I am a male and obviously, this is a very "male" question/thought. It's no surprise but I think this is a lot (not all) of men's fantasies.

I know it's probably rare, but I would like to know if such a thing exists, are there any women into that, okay with it, have done it, currently doing it, etc? If so I'm curious about the mindset that goes into that. Why is it that you'd do it with another woman and not another man? Is it because you are bi? The security you have in your relationship? a fantasy/kink of your? so many questions. No judgment here or from me, I promise, If it's something you're not into, that's totally okay. And you also don't have to share anything you're not willing to, obviously. Just a burning curiosity.

TL;DR Are there any women who are ok having a threesome with their boyfriend/husbands, but it would be (to put it bluntly) one-sided. If so I'm curious about the mindset that goes into that?

I have been with my partner (F19) for 3 months now. We each met one another during our first semester of university. We initially intended on simply hooking up, however we quickly realised that we had far more intimate feelings for another, and a few months later we began a relationship.

We had intercourse very early on, obviously, and whilst it was undoubtedly the greatest sex of my life, I found myself unable to finish.

This is nothing new, I lost my virginity at 16 (from UK to clarify), and had several other sexual encounters since then, some good some bad, but unable to orgasm none the less.

To clarify, I am able to orgasm and ejaculate frequently during masturbation, however during intercourse I am unable to do neither.

My relationship with this person is stronger than any I have ever experienced before, by a margin. She is the most beautiful soul I have ever encountered, and I am incredibly grateful for our relationship, however this is beginning to become an issue. I hoped that when the relationship would process, it would happen, however I now worry that I'm putting too much pressure on myself.

I have been very open with her about my problem, and she has been very accepting of it and has placed no strain on me to finish, however I can sense a degree of disappointment when it doesn't happen.

If anyone else has experienced this, or similar, I would love some advice on what I'm best off doing.

Hello everyone. This is my first post here so please be lenient and ask me questions for more details if needed :)

To give you some context, I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years, we're 22 years old and we got together at 17, in high school just before COVID. In terms of sex, it's both our "first time" and I put it in quotes because you'll understand later. And so we've never had other partners.

My girlfriend is a girl who could be called innocent, she doesn't watch porn, is not interested in sex, has never masturbated and when we talk about all this, we can quickly see that it disgusts her, and these are her words!

But at the beginning of our relationship everything was fine so we started with basic foreplay, I touch her and she does too. And that was during our first months together as high school students, I remind you! Then I started doing new things, which she didn't know like fingering her or licking her. But a problem quickly appeared. She was extremely sensitive as soon as I put something in, even just a finger hurt her a lot... So I asked around, I looked to see if there could be a problem and I saw that the woman should preferably be well lubricated before penetration (it started out obvious but at 17 not always). In the meantime we continued our foreplay but she didn't want to suck me, she has a very special relationship with sex, everything disgusts her, so sucking a cock is not her thing. It frustrated me a lot but I didn't say anything and when she asked me the question I told her that yes I would like to but that I would never force her obviously.

Then little by little our intercourse began to space out, she who was in demand sometimes no longer asked for anything. We tried penetration a few times but nothing to do, she was completely curled up in pain despite the lubricant and that I went gently after 30 minutes of foreplay... And I can now jump back in time 5 years.

We are still at the same stage, I have not experienced penetration or fellatio, but frustration yes. She still has a libido close to zero and tells me that she sometimes forces herself to do it which has the gift of annoying me and especially of disgusting me with myself because I have the impression of forcing her.

So if you ever have any advice or anything else. I don't know, I may have missed something obvious, please tell me!

Thanks for reading to the end in any case :)

I am 21M talking to this girl right now and she is telling me how she wants to take things to the next level the next time we see eachtoher. I have already lost my v-card, but she told me that she hasn't yet and she wants me to. I have never taken a girls v-card before, so I am wondering for any of the guys out there if you have, and if so what was it like, any adivce you would give etc. Or, from a womans perspective, what was something you noticed that a guy did for you during this, or what you wish was done for you to make the experience better? Thank you

(22F) For me, love comes, then sex. But nowadays it seems like the opposite is the standard. Hook up after a couple dates, and if you’re sexually compatible then continue the relationship.

My problem is to get to the point of sex, I’m already heavily emotionally invested, and I’d be heartbroken if things don’t work out. I don’t want to hold out either, so interest isn’t lost. I’m just struggling to find a balance.

I’m fresh into the dating world after a long term relationship. I’ve never even kissed someone that I wasn’t their girlfriend already.

I really like this guy, and we went pretty far but a layer of clothes were always on. We are equally incredibly kinky, and we are incredibly sexually compatible. On the third date, he put my favorite necklace around my neck (🫱🫲), so we went pretty far. I want to go all the way, but I’m afraid he’s going to leave, or go sleep with others. I’ll be having the ‘exclusive or not exclusive’ conversation before I put out.

He didn’t want to go all the way that time because his roommate just got back, and he said he wants to save it. I’m hoping that’s meaningful, that he didn’t just want to fuck and go. We were kissing and cuddling for a good couple hours beforehand.

Anyone have advice? I’m a 22F, so still very very new at all this.

30-40 grades to the left

I just want to know

My last sexual experience i wasnt concious about my curvature

So i tried to have sex like a "normal" way but dick hurts (it feel like i was trying to penetrate a wall lol) and so i wasnt able to penetrate her. It might have be the wrong position or the angle of my hips

So i just want to know guys, 30-40 grades of curve makes penetration impssible ? Or i just need more experience with my body and adjust my position to be able to penetrate someone

In other words, anyone here (guy or someone with boyfriend) that has 30-40 grades curved to left dick were able to penetrate ?

Im afraid of needing surgery, but i will face the truth, if its impossible the only way is to do thw surgery, but before that my biggest concern is if its or not possible to enjoy sex me and my partner with a curve dick like mine

Thank u

After having 4 kids and being over 40 I've never been able to regain full strength in my pelvic floor and I don't think it's ever going to go back to the way it was when I was younger. I'm divorced and single now and have had sex with a couple guys who I would say were average in the girth department but barely felt anything.

I used to really enjoy penetration and could orgasm from it without my clit being touched. I remember hearing a woman on a dating show make the comment that she prefers being with guys who have a lot of girth after she's had a few kids. This made me wonder/feel hopeful that I can still enjoy sex but size will matter more to me now. Can you still feel a lot of friction and pressure with a weak pelvic floor if the guy has a thick enough penis or will I never be able to enjoy penetration again? Does anyone have experience with this?