So I (F 18) can't get wet anymore? Like I have no idea how to explain it. I found this reddit by searching high and low for anything about this. I have been hypersexual ever since I was a kid, I am an CSA victim however came out with no nerve damage miraculously. I mention this because maybe it's an unknowing trauma response but I've mentally been fine with that?? Recently I just can't seem to get wet? Even with my boyfriend when we do the deed even if I am horny or I'm desperate touching myself like I don't get wet and I can't reach my orgasm. I come from a traditional family so it's pretty hard to ask about this stuff or randomly say I'm going to the doctors cuz I'm not feeling well over this. Not that I would be shamed for it, but my parents are pretty protective. This has been happening for like 2 months now, I'll masterbate for I'm not even kidding 2 hours straight and nothing. I've tried drinking more water and even then no improvement. It's like being in never ending frustration and Chasity. Any help or idea what's going on??

So basically when my bf (M22) and i (F18) were doing the deed he said he was going to cum inside me. At the time i didn’t think much of it because i thought he was joking but now im confused and worried as to what actually happened.

Long story short when he pulled out he had no condom on. I immediately started freaking out and he looked surprised but acted nonchalant at the same time which was to me suspicious. i asked him if he knew the condom slipped off and he said no. the condom was inside of me and he fished it out. Prior to having sex i made it very clear that he needs to put on a condom because i’m not on any BC.

Now looking back at it, i’m wondering as to whether he took the condom off on purpose and just didn’t care about my consent. I’ve browsed the internet to figure out whether men can feel a condom slip off and 90% of the responses i saw said it was super obvious since there was a change in sensation. it’s also worth noting that he’s been acting progressively more aggressive during sex the past few weeks. This is why i was too scared to say anything after he said he would cum inside me. when he told me he would, he was harshly holding onto my whole back and pushing me into him really hard. The same day as well as a week prior to this he also put his hands around my neck as if he wanted to ch0ke me during sex and making out. He also has recently started to hold my head down when giving him oral to the point where i would gag and need air.

Anyways back to the condom situation. After “we” realized the condom had slipped off he examined my last parts for any white stuff around there and he said there was but on the outer parts of my lady parts. tbh i was in such a panicking mood that i didn’t even check myself to see if he was telling the truth. He then kept telling me everything was going to be fine bc it wasn’t my ovulating time even tho i was very close to ovulation. He would also reassure me that i wouldn’t get pregnant and kept making excuses as to why i wouldn’t. he told me he read online that it’s better to pee immediately after unprotected sex to flush anything out. However when i asked him where his bathroom was he said actually no don’t go the bathroom bc my parents are in the living room (he keeps hiding me from his friends and family so much to the point where they don’t even know we r dating).

GENERAL POINT: did he stealth me? or was it an accident? I honestly don’t know what to think. I feel so violated hurt and scared. I’m only 18 and cannot be pregnant right now.

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