To clarify I posted about my experience with misogyny and all I’ve been getting is hate. I don’t think I went about it in a bad way but men keep commenting and saying “bad things happen to men too.” Of course I agree with that and there are downsides to being a man but they seem like they’re trying to say me complaint about sexism is sexist and I’m lowk starting to believe them. HELP !!

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I saw a post about how the synonyms for manly vs womanly and it brought to mind the translation for some certain words in french.

woman = femme wife = femme man = homme husband = mari

im pretty sure it’s very similar in all romantic languages

i hate how the backbone for so many languages is based off of misogyny

Edit: the comments have giving me excellent perspectives. I really like how one person made a point about men making diss tracks but no one really bats an eye (Drakes new diss track anyone?).

Feeling like an idiot who didn’t know the correct feminism definition and got bamboozled by the patriarchy.

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NOT bashing Swift, I just need this to make sense.

I have a handful of friends that LOVE Taylor Swift. I don’t mind her and have a few of her older songs on my playlist because they’re fun to dance to. The new album dropped, and they're all over it - no judgement. I am confused because this is so contradictory (hypocritical?) to me. Taylor supports women, but then bullies them in her songs. My friends and her fans support her and put an emphasis on being a "girls girl", but have no issues saying "fuck Joe/fuck Kim K!"

What I am judging are her lyrics and that people are agreeing with the messages. Apparently there is one about Kim K with lyrics of her (Swift's mom) wants her dead. North is included too - she will be singing the song Swift wrote.

Now I am not a fan of the Kardashians either, but how can one claim to be a feminism/supporter of women while agreeing with Taylor and opening bashing Kim K? Is that even possible? How can someone be pro Palestine and for climate action, but support and love the artist for repeatedly using her jet and bashing her exes, one of them being vocal about the Israel conflict.

Does supporting Taylor Swift (including her hateful lyrics and bullying) make one a feminist? Thoughts?

“So, now Everett can again finally enjoy their coffee with a side of semi-clothed ass 'n' titties, as god intended.” 😐

Do you have any suggestions on educational/informative books on feminism?

After 6 months of dating a 36 year old straight man who identifies as an anarchist/feminist, I just found out that the entire time we've been dating he has been bothered by my leg hair (which I have not shaved for 20 years as a feminist statement and a personal preference). To the point where he has not touched my lower legs before and been avoiding them. He knows it is from cultural conditioning but says it is his "shitty preference". It was shocking and painful to learn, and I did not expect this because of his politics. He says he is overall attracted to me and that it hasn't gotten in the way of that.

I was previously very comfortable sharing my body with him, and am now feeling uncomfortable knowing he has an aversion to this part of my body, especially a part that I have faced adversity by society over and have strong feelings about. He says he wants to learn to be neutral with it at least. I'm not sure how to move forward now, even though otherwise the relationship has been really great and I love him. I'm very hurt and confused.

Females with leg hair or allies- how do you feel about this? Does it sound like something that can be navigated? He wants to change some deep cultural conditioning, I know it's possible, but how long can that take and hard can it be? How can I be comfortable in the meantime? I'd really appreciate some advice!

I've found myself repeatedly drawn to Stephanie de Vries's "Rich Mom Poor Mom," a book that I've read approximately 15 times while multitasking with other tasks. The blend of personal finance and motherhood presented in de Vries’s narrative has deeply resonated with me, and I'm searching for a similar depth of insight.

Could anyone recommend a book that delves even deeper into the intricacies of balancing business acumen with the demands of being a mom? I’m particularly interested in resources that offer practical advice and real-world examples of successful business-minded mothers.

Thank you so much in advance for your suggestions! 💕💕

I remember when the word pick-me was used to describe women or girls who would belittle women and cater to men now it's a safe term to use to be a rampant misogynist who makes fun of women for just existing. It's insane how many videos you'll find on different social media platforms, especially on tiktok, making fun and doing some caricaturistic personification of the pick-me archetype. And then you have the girl best friend who is a more frowned upon type of pick-me because ofc men and women can't be friends and if a woman is friends with a man she's obviously secretly in love with him and trying to "steal" him from you.

The thing you'll notice is that most of the creators who make such skits rarely ever make fun of men , it's always their female characters that bad ,"bit*hy", mean , "home-wreckers" etc....

im full of rage of how the world treats women. every f day everywhere all time it just never stops. idk how to deal with all that anger. i literally cannot describe how angry i am. pls dont tell me to ignore it like everyone else so i can be happy. i need some way to deal with it so i can still live

I was thinking about this and I was like wait, why are so many things that we do for fun always shit on? Like I know people don't like Taylor Swift for their own reasons that are completely valid but why is liking Taylor Swift so antagonized? Like this is just music that makes a lot of people happy yet there's all these stigmas that liking Taylor swift inherently makes you crazy online.

Same thing with makeup, it's like oh makeup is used to catfish people or whatever and first of all, it's not, they have no idea what makeup looks like and just like anything else it's a hobby, an art form, or we use it for vanity, nevertheless, it makes us happy yet it's often scrutinized.

Personally I've never seen people online shitting on guys who plays video games. Nobody cares. Like I've genuinely never seen anyone bring it up and put a negative connotation on it. Same with other fanbases who are primarily male. Like comic fans, marvel fans, etc. No one cared when a bunch of dudes were obsessing over the PS5, but it seems like every time there is a product with an audience of primarily women there's always people who oppose it.

I could be wrong but does anyone else feel this way?

This is mostly just a rant but I was watching Grey's Anatomy and there is an episode where a woman is trying to get her ovaries, breasts and uterus removed. The reason being is because she has this cancer gene and there is an 85% that she will get cancer. She has also witnessed a couple of family members die from ovarian cancer one of them being her own mother. She is trying to get these removals but almost everyone seems to be against it. Their reasons being like how she won't have real boobs anymore, and how she will have a low sex drive. For some reason this really bothers me. This woman has a very high chance of getting cancer and will probably die from it if she does get cancer and the people close to her like her husband are trying to stop her. Her husband was even talking about how she was kind of betraying him because they talked about having kids and the woman even brought up other options like adoption. Like, sir your wife might die before you get the chance to have kids via any form. He even goes on to say how he's losing his wife when they are at dinner with some friends and making the woman very upset. They did make up in the end though but still! Everyone is pressuring this woman into not doing this even though she will probably die if she doesn't. She mentions multiple times how she is not changing her mind. Stop trying to change her mind!

this podcast episode talks a lot about the book men who hate women, female hysteria, trends like “girl hobbies” & “girl dinner”, etc.

https://youtu.be/2F2Jf_XzxAA?si=3Vz5MkGuM99Zfj6M

{Quote by Amy Poehler in Yes Please}

saw this quote and it resonated with me so much. I come from a deeply islamist and backwards family and country. Where if a woman does not bleed the first night of marriage she is throw back to her father as this shameful being.

When I was a child under the age of 10, my mother began routinely stripping me naked from the waist down and aggressively check my vagina to see if I am still a virgin or not. And by routinely, I mean each time she suspected someone molested me. Sometimes adults. She would slap my ass and call me a whore for allowing people to touch me while i was a child.

My mother did not allow me to wash my vagina on my own, and each time i went to the bathroom she would stand outside the door threatening that if i accidentally touch my vagina in the wrong way then i would ruin my life.

I was refused any form of sport activity or hobby because my parents believed if i ran too fast, or jumped too high, or fell too hard, that my hymen would break and I would be worth nothing.

can i truly blame my parents when 100% of the men in my north african country refuse to accept that 42% of women are born without a hymen.

And that the ones who are born with it, have an elastic ones that won't bleed the first time. I can't tell you how many horror stories I have heard of women getting shamed and beaten on their first night of marriage because they didn't bleed immediately, only for them to have to go to millions of doctors to prove their purity!

And that virginity isn't determined by the hymen itself as it can be broken by other things than sexual intercourse like masterbation.

And that the concept of purity and virginity is not logical and that women are normal human beings with desires and needs.

And that if their preference is a virgin pure wife, then they should hold themselves to that standard as well and not sleep around with every woman you possibly get the chance to.

Women here are put through "satanic rituals" and "black magic" to get a demon sort of entity guard their virginity throughout their lives. They are cut with a dirty razor blade on their thighs in order to summon some spirits. Many of my friends went through this and it caused them insane cases of religious trauma , hallucinations and nightmares.

in 2024, a piece of tissue in my vagina is so powerful and can determine my whole existence. It's absolutely insane.

with all the awareness i have around this topic, i can't bring myself to break my own hymen with my finger or with my partner even though we are both atheists.

I can't break free from this. My boyfriend brushed his penis on my vagina once and I bled a little bit and I had an absolute breakdown over it for months.

The thought of doing penetration scares the living shit out of me even though I am so aware that this is pure trauma and brainwashing.

I can't bring myself to break free.

earlier this morning I went to the store to buy a couple things as I was ready to check out there was this guy in front of me who I really didn’t pay no mind to at first I was a bit distracted and in my head so I don’t know if he was watching me the whole time. He is about to get checked out by the cashier when he kinda turns around looks at me and grabs me by the shoulder while smiling at me ? I was confused at first and caught off guard I just thought he forgot something and was in a hurry. (Mind you there was definitely enough space to get around me) I was in shock trying to convince myself not to get too caught up in it when he comes back from behind me and grabs my shoulder again this time a little longer while still smiling. I was a deer in headlights I didn’t smile back this time. I gave him the most unamused face ever and he finally turned around and dropped the smile. This was all I could think to do. Then he finished checking out and would not move away from the checkout, when I finally went up he was next to me watching me. I didn’t know what to do I was scared he was waiting for me and was gonna follow me to my car. We made eye contact and I just smiled because I was so uncomfortable and scared. Then the cashier told him that he was all done (I think she was annoyed he was still standing there) he walked off but not out of the store. After I checked out I got out of there so quick. He didn’t come out immediately behind me I was so relieved. I have tried gaslighting myself into thinking that it wasn’t that weird but it was. I’m also mad at myself that I wasn’t able to say anything. I felt frozen in fear. Any thoughts on this and how to not be scared in these situations I cannot believe I did not say anything. This has never happened to me before

I think a majority of us on this sub believe in my body my choice. Meaning that politics and lawmaking should have no control over our bodies and what we do with them. So why is it ok to let capitalism into our uterus? The idea that paid surrogacy exists is overlooked and so genuinely upsetting. Like the fact that rich people who can afford hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of fertility funds can find women struggling financially usually from underprivileged minorities and communities and PAY THEM MONEY (fuck the Kardashians) to literally plant their zygote in them and permanently scare their bodies for whatever reason. BUT WORST OF ALL the fact that there's a rise in people using surrogates for cosmetic reasons is so truly awful. Like I don't want to get fat and waste a liposuction so let me pay someone on the brink of poverty to give my baby her blood and nutrients for nine months, have her give birth to my baby coming out of her body then taking it and going our separate ways. Does anyone else think this is absolutely horrible?

You can't buy organs legally because it's unethical, there are serious health issues that can arise from organ donation. But guess what? There are SERIOUS risks to pregnancy, these people essentially pay women to risk their lives and be heavily inconvenienced for months for money. And I understand that these women are making the choice but they aren't. Their choices are being bought. There's no way in hell a stranger would carry your baby for free so essentially they take advantage of economically disadvantaged women so they can have their miracle baby mess free. And I don't agree with it even if it's for infertility reasons. The only time when surrogacy ethically makes sense is when someone willingly does it for a loved one. That is an at will agreement instead of a borderline bribe.

Edit: Also.. Is it not weird that Hollywood and the rich will use new science and technology to put themselves at an advantage? Like cool! Ozempic will help people with diabetes and save lives! Oh wait, no it's just a bunch of people in Hollywood who want to be skinny. Oh wow! There is new technology that can make genetic alterations! Oh wait, here are more rich people planting their babies in poor people so they don't get fat or have to adopt.

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so i have this classmate, he's known to be....not so intellectually gifted, anyways while we were in class he just turns to me says "can i hit you? your face is irritating and it makes me want to do it" obviously i took it as a joke and said "sure, if you let me hit you back"

uhh he didn't take it well and got angry at me and told me i can't hit him because he's a man and i'm woman, so i was like... so you can hit ME since i'm a woman? he said yes and went on about "survival of the strongest" and "rules of the jungle" and kept yapping about that weird barbaric stuff.

he genuinely thinks that since he's a man and i'm a woman, he's superior to me because "if there was no law he could do whatever he wants to me and i can't fight back because i'm a weak female".

i told my friends about it and they found it funny, but i really felt if i tried to argue back he might try to hurt me to prove his point, so i just kept smiling awkwardly and ignored him.

This conversation left me feeling really uneasy. I'm wondering if there's a better way I could have handled the situation.

It's 2024, and the Pennsylvania state application for a learner's permit and driver's license still requires a physician to certify that the applicant does not suffer from, among other things, hysteria.

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I can't believe that this kind of historically loaded language would still be in use in a form as mundane as one used to apply for a driver's license.

Someone please explain to me why porn is still defended by some feminists? It just does not make sense to me of how porn is seen as feminist?

hey guys, looking for some advice here. i’ve recently found my boyfriend on some very demeaning sites (telegrams of horrible men showing horrible treatment of women, sexualising women etc). none of which i have been okay with, i asked him to leave them which he did immediately but i don’t think he should’ve been there in the first place. he also lied about what was on the particular sites when i asked. has since admitted to it all. i want to know some creative ways i could deal with this situation to genuinely improve his behaviour. i do believe he is a good person at heart but i definitely think this has caused some very poor behaviour and i fear how this may turn if it continues without actual corrective action being taken. i had one idea of making him watch documentaries/follow accounts etc on DV, sexual abuse of women and general women’s oppression and feminism but i’m looking for some more ideas