What subreddits do you follow for your kinky pleasure?

Daddy and I are going away on a vacation to celebrate our ten year anniversary. We have three full days, no kids, no responsibilities, and a suite.Just time to relax and enjoy each other.

So, what fun ideas/games/suggestions do you have for us while we're there? We're bringing toys, restraints, impact play toys, and Daddy is picking out my special outfits We never get time just the two of us and want to make sure we have as much fun (ie pleasure) while we can.

Our dynamic is Daddy/pet and we're open to a whole lot 😘

What do you like stuffed in your mouth?

I'll go first: two to three used panties, hopefully ones my domme freshly came into

Per title - looking to up my edging game - seeking fun ideas, techniques or scenarios!

Sub, male. My gf (dom) asked me to think about her giving me a prostate massage and simultaneously giving me oral.

I have never had a prostat massage and im curious about experiences of undergoing a prostate massage with or without simultaneously getting oral.

Are there members here that want to share there experiences and how it feels like?

In the comments here feel free to introduce yourself, talk about what you've been up to lately, things you're looking forward to, anything you'd like. Talk to other people, get to know each other, share those stories and brags.

If you're new to the scene feel free to ask your beginner questions here too, such as where to find a partner, punishment and rule ideas, etc.

Please try to keep all story/brag type posts and commonly asked questions to this thread. Posts in this subreddit containing just stories, etc. with no questions or discussion prompts or frequently reposted questions run the risk of being removed. Also remember all the other subreddit rules still apply, absolutely no personals or contact information please.

Be sure to check back once in a while to read new comments, answer questions, and keep the conversation going!

Hi all we think we are a sub couple but it doesn’t seem to to be very popular looking to talk to either subs or doms who have experience of this dynamic

I'm so attracted to the thought of being used

I had not heard of this term before, and it seems self explanatory. But will others describe their experiences or boundaries with an event like this?

I tried checking out the site, because I'm interested in sharing some stuff online, but my antivirus tells me the site is a major threat and won't let me continue. I know I could turn my protection off; don't want to, looking for a safer site. And please not FetLife; I left the site due to witnessing heavily reported yet unmoderated racism.

Hello first off I don’t know if this is the right sub didn’t know if anything else would fit

And we just have a few questions about cages if you have any recommendations please leave below

So background we want to try chastity and I have problems finishing “naturally” so her and I wanna try putting me in a cage to make me extra sensitive

Does anyone know if I should do plastic or metal should we take it off when we bathe and I don’t have a particular large member but it’s quite thick should that factor in to choosing a cage

Thank you

To preface this... day to day im strong fierce independent mom to my kiddo that handles everything on my own.. Problem: I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over two years and he claimed he was a dom. Turns out he definitely is not and won't even broach the subject of anything sexual with me when I try to discuss anything with him.(we haven't done anything sexual in over a year due to him making me feel uncomfortable in the bedroom) I hide my little from him due to fear. He is such a sweet person and he feels safe as in I know he would never physically or purposely mentally abuse me or my child. He keeps pressuring to move in and I refuse to let him. He does not respect boundaries when I ask him not to do something involving me specifically and spending way to much money on me (makes me feel uncomfortable) He acts more like a little boy and I don't know how to handle it, he apologizes constantly and pouts to get what he wants. I love him but I'm confused on what to do, he doesn't fulfill my needs. I don't want to be with him but I don't want to leave him 😔 I apologize for the horrible sentence structure lol

I am dominant in real life but almost exclusively submissive sexually. It is difficult finding a compatible match because I am extremely submissive but do not look like I would be. Los of self esteem and confidence, it feels like my personality doesn't align with my sexuality

We've run into an issue that many of the various ring/ring style gags online can't accommodate my girth, but the companies that do make large ones either:

1. Are huge. Like no way it's going to fit in their mouth

2. Are far thicker metal which isn't comfortable.

Does anyone have recommendations for companies with a wider variety of sizes? I'm not enormous or anything, just a bit thicker.

Okay so my partner and I are finally attending Torture Garden together in Los Angeles this weekend. I’m aware of the dress code on their site but now I’m having my doubts. I (30 CHM) was thinking about wearing a black button up with some black pants, boots, black leather gloves and maybe hanging a flogger off my belt. But now I’m questioning if this is even acceptable. As a dom, I don’t want to wear a harness or a leather shirt. I feel like wearing leather would be appropriative to gay leather culture and inauthentic to me. Any suggestions welcome. I only have a week to put an outfit together. My alternative would be maybe instead of pants, a kilt. I don’t know tho.

TLDR: I don’t know what to wear to Torture Garden, please send suggestions.

Among those of you in Toronto & GTA who attended past fetish nights, I'd love your thoughts please. The next one's in a few weeks and I'm debating going.

Thanks in advance!

Some kinks get fulfilled. Others just don't line up. With any of my partners. So yeah, I'm poly and still not getting this itch scratched. It's not a deal breaker for any of these relationships, and I'm polysaturated. But I still feel unfulfilled in an aspect of my kinks life. How do I get past this?

Looking for free downloadable pretty intense bdsm books any suggestions?

Hello!

Dom looking some brands/companies/Etsy links for some subtle collars/jewelry variations for public wear. Sub & long term partner (32F) doesn't wear a ton of jewelry, but I'm looking for ssomething to have her wear as we head into the holiday season & will be around Vanillas & family more.

Open to any ideas/variations anyone likes! Materials don't matter. Can be gold, silver, platinum, rope, leather, anything! Thanks!

Hello I’m 26f exploring my myself and one of the things I’ve realized is I really like to be talked to in a certain way . I know I love praise but I liked being talked to like I’m a dog/ pet . I don’t think I’d be into drinking from a bowl or being on a leash but ears and collar actually intrigue me . I want to be owned and spoiled but be completely in that headspace to listen and submit to my partner. I just really love to be pet and talked to in that certain way . Help

I think I might like this but I don’t know what to call it…..maybe I came up with a new kink :D

I absolutely love the idea of being plugged 24/7 However, I’m scared of committing to it. And advice on how to actually commit? Also just general advice so it’s not a horrible experience would be lovely <3

Thank you in advance!!

Hi, I can’t log in or sign up for fetlife anymore for some reason I just won’t receive their mails or messages, can someone here who is on fetlife please invite me so I can get back on the site?

New here,

Hiya everyone (F25) , im very new and looking to seek some knowledge. My boyfriend (22) just brought up a few kinks that he has and I'm not very experienced or educated on them. He had an age play, regression, kink and I'm looking for some knowledge or other care givers (mommy's) to talk to. I'm willing to learn and try things!!!

Someone please send me in the right direction!!!

Thanks in advance

I’ve been doing self bondage for a while since my wife has not been interested in playing with a D/s dynamic again. I asked if she would help me to take it a little beyond what I can in self bondage and she agreed. Sometime in the next few days I’m going to set up like I do for self bondage, then she will restrain my arms in a way I can’t get out of myself, and after a set period of time free my arms.

Would you still consider this self bondage?

I still need to decide how long I’m telling her to leave me restrained, any suggestions?

TW: racial slurs

I wasn’t going to post this, it’s just a private little journal I keep, but a question in the community really inspired me and I just love this topic.

Most race-play porn is unwatchable to me. A black women in chains, the n-word sloppily written on her skin, getting railed by men in confederate shirts. Asian, Mexican & Arab women don’t seem to fair much better. Not when comes to servicing & worshiping the all powerful BWC.

Porn sites, literoctica, Bdsmlr. Its amazing actually, how even on fetish blogs, WOC (who engage in this kink) are absolutely unworthy of any mention of aftercare activities, ever. You would be forgiven, for thinking that this kink inspires nothing but sheer animalistic brutality. That it allows dominants to be on their absolute worst behavior. That in WOC they ,finally, find a body they can dehumanize so throughly, that their actions become inconsequential. So much overt racism, politics and warped fetishization.

I just wish race-play took another BDSM route occasionally. I’m a slave, this is known, can I please have more? More than the auction block, and the chains, and the brutal fucking? How about…

I’m a slave girl, you an abolitionist, you can’t stand the buying and selling of flesh. The only reason you have me, is because your last uncle bequeathed me to you in his will. My family was sold off when I was very young, I have no one, only you. By happy chance, a missionary (secretly) taught me to read and write, I speak well. You have decided to keep me.

While cleaning your study,I come across your abolishment propaganda,and start reading. I have no idea you wrote it, It’s wonderful. I don’t notice you standing there, until you ask “ What are you doing girl?”

I freeze, because we both know, chains or not,I am a slave, your slave. Your words control my very life, a whim could have me swinging from a tree in the hour. I lie. “Apologies, Master _ , I … I was just looking at the sketches”. You come closer, you know I’m lying, I know that you know. You lean in, your hand is fast , it twists into my hair and pulls me to you. Why does your body feel so wonderful pressed against me? You whisper into my ear, “ I could have you stripped and beaten for lying to me, slave”. Tightening your grip, my gasp of pain is muffled as you kiss me, hard, mercilessly.

This, this is the race-play that gets me wet. I don’t even have to mention skin tone, you know exactly what this is. He doesn’t have to call me a monkey,coon, or niggress, in order to assert his superiority. it’s the law, he owns me. Just because he believes in freedom, doesn’t mean he can’t be a sexual sadist, I like when he hurts me and he knows it.

“ Oh but Thrall, what’s the difference between this and a “regular” master/slave scene”. You got me there, but if that’s the case, then wouldn’t any interracial BDSM scene (especially CNC) with a white dom/black sub, be slavery reenactment?

If an Asian sub, dresses up as a geisha for her white GI Dom. Is this still race-play or just role play? What if the sub was white? Are we saying race play can only be classified by its overt racism? Is there room for more nuance?

My dominant allows me to be active on here and gave me the okay to follow my fantasy of “cyber intimacy” the only exception is he said “don’t let me find out.” & I tried asking what that meant, but he just says “don’t let me find out.” Does that mean like don’t let him see when I’m messaging someone online or? Should I even do it? He always wants me to follow my sexual needs and fantasies. He’s not super strict but can be. I just need opinions!

I’ve been into BDSM for a while now (roughly 5 years) and pet play has been something that’s interested me for a little while. I’ve met very few people that are actually into it and so haven’t gotten much exposure to all of it and how it works/differs from other dynamics. Where did you learn more about it or how did you go about learning/exploring it?

I've always felt that we have desires or fantasies that we keep secret, either because they seem difficult to fulfil or because we haven't yet found the right opportunity to live them out.

I would love to know what are those kink fantasies or desires that you feel are in a special corner of your mind.

Maybe it's something that excites you just by imagining it, or something you think you could never make happen.

Hello all!

I'll try to keep this concise. I'm someone who has spent a lot of time around Middle Eastern culture, been to the Maghreb and in college I had the opportunity to serve a few Arab Dommes. I'd go to their apartments, help cook/clean/keep them company and generally be a sounding board for them to vent about white men. I feel it helped me grow as a person.

I am looking into writing some raceplay erotica, but noticing that there isn't a whole lot featuring Arab or Desi women and what is there sometimes feels... problematic? Like fetishizing the hijab or the male MC using slurs just because and the woman magically finds it hot. I completely get that erotica & erotic romance is escapism but sometimes I read these works and I'm like "how did they sit down and write this". To me any good erotica involving BDSM sets up boundaries, these don't seem to as cleanly.

Like a lot of Europeans I was raised in a prejudiced environment and sought to leave that worldview. Just so happened that my journey into the BDSM scene started around that time and a POC friend I'd met from the Maghreb brought up the idea of race play, I found I enjoyed it.

What I love about this kink is uplifting the culture of my Domme, helping her feel desired for more than just physical beauty. . There was a night where my Domme invited a few friends (all in the kink community) over and said "no using the colonizer's language tonight, you're going to learn Arabic". That was a fun scene, even if we did end up using some English when I struggled. Despite having these experiences and knowing very well a lot of MENA folks are into BDSM, I feel a sense of shame and reluctance around publishing these erotica stories that I don't with other pairings?

TL;DR I'm trying to write raceplay smut and am worried about playing too heavily into slurs/stereotypes. Advice from women of color greatly appreciated.