So I(33M) recently bought an under the bed restraint setup to surprise the wife(29F.) I set it up a few days ago while she was at work and waited for the right opportunity to use it. We were in bed last night when we started to get at each other with kissing and heavy petting. I pulled away and told her "I have a surprise for you." She smiled as I reached under each corner of the mattress and pulled out a strap with a thick velcro shackle. She readily lifted up her hips and let me slip off her leggings and panties and allowed me to start restraining each limb then tightening the straps so she's spread completely bare. I told her to tell me to stop if it becomes too much as I put her blindfold on and watched her nod with a smirk still on her face. Next it was time to get to work.

I started off simply with my hands exploring her vulnerable body, she said that she enjoyed feeling helpless and trusted me completely. By the time my fingers started to explore between her legs she was already soaking wet and ready to recieve my cock. I reached for her vibrating wand and flicked it on, I love the way her body reacts when the vibrating tip presses against her clit and she let's out a moan, this time being more intense considering that she's powerless and deprived of her senses. I watched her grind her hips into the vibrator as I massaged it on her clit and slowly increased the speed. It only took about 2 minutes of this before she started to shake and a orgasim rolled over her. I'm guilty of leaving the vibrator on a few seconds too long as I overstimulated her and watched her desperately attempt to close up her legs. When I was done with the vibrator I let her come down by rubbing my hands over her sensitive goose bumped skin, gently caressing her throat and teasing her nipples.

Next I grabbed her lush vibrator and began lubing it up to insert inside her. She was wet enough to do it as is but she always flinches as I put it inside so I wanted it to go in as smoothly as possible for her. She still flinch as I inserted it then gasped as i turned it on and adjusted it to a gradually increasing pulse setting. The affect was immediate as she again began to moan and grind her hips again. I was ready to send her over the edge again as I grabbed her wand and started using it on her clit while her lush simultaneously stimulated her Gspot. I watched her go crazy as i used her own body against her. I shifted my body around and pulled my cock out so it hovered over her cheeks and continued my process of driving her to her next orgasim. At the same time I leaned forward and caressed the tip of my cock against her cheeks and down to the corner of her mouth, as soon as she realized what it was she snapped her head towards it and immediately took it in. I watched as the mother of my children greedily swallowed my cock as she was being sexually overwhelmed. She suddenly paused with my cock still in her mouth as her body completely tensed up and she attempted to pull into herself but was kept spread bare as another orgasim pulsate through her. I watched as she turned her head away and saw a string of saliva still attached from my cock to the corner of her mouth. "Please!" She gasped as I continued to massage her poor clit with the vibrator at max setting even as her orgasim was fading. I asked her what she would do to make me stop and she said "anything you want!" I smiled and said there was only one thing I want and that it was for her to be overcome with pleasure. She whimpered at that but still refused to tell me to stop at this point. I continued my work and watched as her squirming movements of discomfort turned into a familiar rhythmic grinding and was surprised to watch her roll into another orgasim, only this one coming far quicker than the others.

At this point she was completely spent after having several orgasims forced on her she was limp as I turned off both vibrators and pulled the lush out of her gently. She didn't move as I unclipped the shackles still on her wrists and ankles. She was breathless as she started to say "oh my g--" as i interrupted her and commanded her to lay on her stomach. She looked pitiful as she gathered the strength to roll over and watched her instinctively reach out her shackled limbs in the directions of the restraints. This was enough of a signal to me to show that she completely accepted her circumstances and would be obedient to me for anything to come. I reclipped her restraints back up and lifted up her hips to put a pillow under them. She said nothing as I positioned myself between her legs and grabbed her hips. She was wetter than I've ever felt her I loved the sound of her gasp as I slammed my hips into hers, driving myself as deep as I could go. She immediately started to maon again as started fucking her like I owned her completely. I grabbed a fistful of her hair and she presented her throat to me as grabbed it with my free hand. She was beginning to fuck me back and started meeting me half way between thrust as I could feel myself get closer to the edge. She whimpered that she was going to cum and that's all it took to send me driving into her with one final push. We both moaned and I could feel her pussy spasm around my cock as I filled her with a huge load and collapsed onto her still bound body. After a few minutes of kissing and cuddling like that I undid the restraints and got her a towel to clean up. She said how that was amazing and that she loved the feeling of helplessness and trust that it forced her to experience.

This was the most out of control I've ever seen my wife and it was for sure the beginning of new sexual experiences for the both of us. If anyone has any suggestions of what we could do next I'm definitely open to ideas. Otherwise I hope you enjoyed my telling you what we were able to do last night, sorry for the long story.

Hi I am very new to the BDSM and kink community. I have an exhibitionism kink and the way I express that is through my online content creation even aspiring to get into adult film. I made a fet life account and saw there were events of local gb parties in hotels that were filmed. The thought of being in someone film or being film makes me feel very good and special. Some how I saw other creators on the platform that produce videos and have links to only fan etc. I decide to add mine in my profile and my account got locked. I spent hours making my account and now I can't see when any event is happening. I also completed overwhelmed with the amount of dick pictures on there. Yes I'm extra bisexual but damn I would like some mystique in this lol. I am new to this and don't really have anyone to discuss this with in real life and don't want to come off as gross or inappropriate. Out of all the places I been frequenting this Reddit page has actually been legit and helpful. I'm just lost in all of this and it's too overwhelming for me when I know I'm a true freak. What should I do? Should I make another account or just keep making content and exploring myself in that way. Even talking to other content creators haven't been that helpful. I feel like I want to give up on it all and be boring vanilla but I'm too deep into my kinky interests. Thank you for all listening to me.

So, yeah! We already did this years ago, we both liked it but then went on and kinda forgot about it. We're about to go for it again today, and I need advice as the dom! The pet is a generic house pet, dog-ish if it matters

Got ideas as to what to say/do? I already have some but I'd definitely love to expand a bit more, ideally with someone more experienced in this specific kinda scenario

Thank you so much for your time!

Hello, it is my throwaway account cause i don't want wveryone to know about this worries.

I have been wondering, how do you deal with marks from rough play when suddenly going to doctor? Of course when it is planned appointment, i plan to do it so that i don't have visible marks. But it happens to be urgent situation sometimes. I know doctors give suspicious and judging looks and sometimes ask question, and i don't know how or if to explain where this marks come from. I mean bruises, marks from cane, burns. Do you have any excuse in this type of situation? Had it ever happened to you to go to doctor with visible marks?

Thanks in advance for answers.

My gf and I ( me 25M gf 25F submit to our Dom (27M) full time… And 98% of the time it’s the best thing in the world we all live together we’re all happy life’s pretty much amazing… But today I’m feeling down and in my own head.. Somedays I wonder what a “normal” life would look like how exciting it could be to not do some of the “degrading” emotional taxing things I’m expected to do as apart of my submission.. Somedays I wonder why I choose to have my life be lived this way.. why I am always kneeling at his feet at home why am I always drinking his piss from cups or coming home after a hard days work and expected to do chores and serve him.. Somedays I wonder what a normal life would be like if my gf and I just chose to end things with Him or if we all 3 chose to go separate ways and I found a new gf and we lived a “normal” life..

I'm new to bdsm and I just found out that I am a submissive. I don't know if it's just pure curiosity or what but I always crave to be controlled by someone. The humiliation and degradation turns me on so much. I had a dom online before but she just taught me surface level things. Now, I am still continuing exploring lots of kinks but I can't seem to figure out why am I so submissive? Is that even normal? it's just so out of my picture. I never imagined that someone who always showed a masculine dom side turns out to be a submissive after all. I don't know how to help myself. No one knows this side of me. I feel very lost. I'm starting to be afraid that I am so submissive. why am I so submissive?

I enjoy being submissive in the bedroom and I've expressed that to my partner. I can tell he really enjoys dominating me, and it's so obvious when he's in the moment. Any advice on things I can do to help him become more comfortable and confident?

Fellow kinksters, I wonder what your take on this is. I know there are no official definitions for M/s and D/s, and how it is defined varies wildly from subculture to subculture (Leather, etc) or even from one local community to the next.

My husband and I practice 24/7 D/s, and I‘m hoping to have what I define as M/s someday. So I wonder, how do you define these terms? And what do you currently live like?

So I [M25] recently started dating one of my coworkers [F25]. Have been some bumps but that's beside the point. Yesterday she was very clear that although she does not yet know of she wants to pursue a romantic relationship. She was very clear with her desire to being in a dom/sub relationship. Even going so far as to explicit say that she prefer just being shoved down in the office.

Now this is not normally my tea but I honestly want to accomendate her . Since technically being her superior in a small office, im not really sure how I feel about having sex during office hours in broad daylight. Instead I asked if i could come over tonight which was brushed off which confused me.

How would suggest to initiate sex while accomendating her preferences but without risking my job or putting her off by coming across as to insecure?

Sunday morning reflections on Bondage & Discipline. I was thinking about the first time I did bondage with someone in a sexual teasing way and was gagged for the first time.

My hands had been tied behind my back first. Not sure what was going to happen next. Then a blur over my eyes and a long black silk scarf was thrust between my teeth, bringing my lips back. As they tightened it at the back of my neck, and it pulled my lips back, I remember thinking that my face must look funny like I'm smiling.

At one point, I was placed in front of a full-length mirror to watch the rest of my bondage, and I remember how jarring the look was of my lips pulled back. I got into the role play and shook my head back and forth like a damsel in distress. This was before people started using the term cleave gag.

I was well on my way to being a gag slut.

What was the first time being gagged like for you?

Hey brains trust. My partner and I are looking for a silicone anal hook. We’ve seen at least one model post on reddit but we can’t find one that with a ring on the end so we can tie it in place.

If anyone has any links or ideas of where we could get one that’d be much appreciated

So I’m a switch and I have found I do really like being a domme but I was wondering what you all suggest in regards to clothing, how to act, any good trainings y’all recommend? I really like giving off the dark feminine goddess energy but I want to know how I can improve that. I also enjoy the “drone trainer” persona as well. I’m bisexual but mostly prefer women/non binary individuals (I’m a 6ft 3in transwoman myself).

This year my dominant partner is giving me a hard swat per day from his favourite impact toy (1 on the first, 2 on the second, 3 on the third… you get the idea).

In other years we’ve done more complicated projects, this year is busy but we still wanted to mark the holiday season with a kinky lil project.

How about y’all? Are you doing a kinky advent calendar at all?

Hello!

Like the title says, I’m a little as well as a service sub, been one for a long time, but my Dom and I haven’t really gotten into that little part of me and he’s interested in giving it a try for me but would like to get educated as much as he can first so I’m trying to also help find resources and things for him to read up or watch (he does prefer videos like in YT) since I really want this and want him to feel comfortable.

He knows how it would look for me, my age range and what things make me feel little, he’s more of looking for resources for Doms and what to look for, what things to do, he wants to be informed to be able yo make it a good experience for me

Any and all help and advice is greatly appreciated!

Hi all, I wanted other people’s thoughts and feelings on this.

Some short context, me and my partner are both switches, but usually go through phases where one of us is more submissive and the other is more dominant; it will switch back after a couple or several months. It’s weird to explain, but I consider him my dom and my sub. He has the key to my heart and I love our dynamic, we also balance each other out, and are lucky that we’ve never been both leaning submissive or dominant at the same time. Anyway, right now I’m the one feeling very submissive.

Right now all I want is to be owned, used, adored, and played with. However, part of me feels conflicted because I’m someone who feels pressure to be a strong and confident woman, and when I’m begging for him to fuck me or choke me there is this little voice in my head after the scene is over telling me I’m a fraud.

To be honest, I’m sure part of this issue is some religious trauma. I grew up in a church that emphasized women being men’s “helpers”, and that while we’re equal we should still listen to men because that’s just the natural way things are. The idea that we’re the weaker sex was drilled into me through some subtle (and not to subtle) interactions and conversations for my entire childhood, and while I have a rebellious spirit it was still something I struggled to overcome.

I always felt like I needed to prove the people who made me feel like I was weaker just because I wasn’t a man wrong.

Well, I feel like I did. I am not really a part of the church anymore, and am known by most of my friends as someone who is very strong and independent. Confident, and can handle myself.

That being said sometimes I don’t want to be that person, I want to relax and allow my partner to take control. I want to he treated like a cute little toy, and that’s where my internal battle happens. I don’t know, I just feel like I am letting the rebellious and tough little girl inside me that wanted to prove everyone wrong, and get out of that lifestyle, down.

I’m so sorry if this is all so cliche or doesn’t make sense, or doesn’t quite fit here, but I love love to hear if any other subs have felt this way before.

I’d like to add I LOVE the things me and my dom do, they make me feel so amazing and loved, but again, there is that little part of me. How do I accept that I can be strong and love being used at the same time?

Also, I’d like to clarify that I don’t feel like anyone that is a sub is a weak person. I am just dealing with some weird shitty internal issues. I apologize if I made you feel that way

I got a divorce a couple years ago, then my job burnt me out with constant toxicity, then I got swept up in their mass layoffs. Started a new job (they gave me the offer on November 6th, which was a uniquely bad day to process that), so hopefully things will stabilize.

I kind of just need basic vanilla intimacy right now, but I know from my prior marriage that kink will likely need to be a part of things long term. So I'm really not sure where to look for companionship.

• If I focus on the kink community (I've got a very nice community nearby), then I feel like I'd be letting down potential partners who might want someone more consistently kinky.
• If I focus on the vanilla community, then there's the awkward chance that they're really not into kink, or even have the opposite needs if they are.

How common is this sort of thing, or am I just overthinking things?

For all the females that have this kink, I'm working on a free use cnc novel and I need to understand various female perspectives as intimately as possible. Can you please share here how you discovered this kink? Can you talk about your first fantasies and what may have inspired them? Did it get more and more taboo, more and more violent in your head? Were you scared or ashamed of what you were feeling? Were you repulsed at any point? What are some limits for you? Have your limits changed?

I'm not even trying to sext with anyone (happily married), I just need people to give me as detailed a testimony as possible.

For all the females that have this kink, I'm working on a free use/cnc novel and I need to understand various female perspectives as intimately as possible. Can you please share here how you discovered this kink? Can you talk about your first fantasies and what may have inspired them? Did it get more and more taboo, more and more violent in your head? Were you scared or ashamed of what you were feeling? Were you repulsed by your own desires at any point? What are some limits for you? Have your limits changed?

I'm not even trying to sext with anyone (happily married), I just need somebody to give me as detailed a testimony as possible. Thank you in advance.

Hi guy I'm new to reddit and a friend suggested me to come here with my question.
So my partner (M24) is wanting me (F22) to try to dom him. I feel comfortable with this, but I don't know much of how to do this since passed partners would force me into the sub role. What would you guys suggest for me? I'm also autistic so please be patient with me if I have extra question. The more I ask the more I'll understand.

I have a Dom leaning play partner who seems interested in abandonment play and when we’ve talked about fantasies is interested in using me and then leaving. I’m not adverse to it, but I’ve been trying to understand why that’s an attractive thing to do that from a Dom perspective? Asking because sometimes when I understand the mindset things can click and I can get more excited (I’m going to ask him as well next time it comes up).

Edit: I’m aware that it’s important to communicate with your partner and we have pretty good communication and I have a pretty good sense of what my limits and boundaries are, so not really looking for advice on how to communicate, plan a scene, be assertive, etc. This is not a situation where I’m scared for my safety or being pressured into anything.

When you’re doing a scene that features a lot of active pain, is it the pleasure of the pain that you feel in that very moment, or the pleasure coming from the moment the pain stops? Like a slow boil or a direct heat? Please I’m genuinely curious. This is a safe space🧍🏾‍♀️🫶🏾

Hello everyone, I don't know what's gonna happen after this but this space is the only space i feel like i can vent at.

I'm a Nurse and my work is really intense and definitely dangerous but mentally rewardong as i work in public health management position and a rescue team member that works in the Mediterranean. So through all of my years of work, i've been really caring and focusing on helping people around me and i've always enjoyed doing that. Now for the kinky part of me, I have so many kinks that can't be accepted in my daily life such as CNC or misogyny or rough play that includes impact play and free use. From time to time i have this inner dialog that really torment me especially with how much i feel aroused tl those things. Also, i'm trying to be a better dom so i'm constantly evaluating myself to be a better dom.

It's really draing and i feel like this is gonna keep happening. I really appreciate you for reading this rant and if there are other Doms who had that kind of issues and overcame it, i'd definitely feel grateful for any kind of advice you can provide.

Thank you.

This is primarily my gfs fetish, not mine.

I am fit, masculine, good looking, long flowing hair. For whatever reason, she gets uncontrollably wet for the idea of cucking me with a fat, bald, ugly, older man, with penis size (and race) being a total non issue.

She also primarily imagines it as being nonconsensual, like he has blackmailed her somehow (think those silly landlord/boss type videos), I'm kind of just in the background either not even knowing about it or being forced to accept it alongside her.

I guess it's ultimately degradation and the control loss that turns her on according to her, but can anyone else offer any insight as to why she likes this? Is this more unique to her? How come she wants a guy that's the total opposite of me?

I saw a lot of women posting here after the US election talking about how they couldn’t get turned on by degradation in the bedroom with the state of affairs in the US. I’m in the opposite situation. The other day I saw a video of a man saying some truly awful stuff about woman and I still enjoyed it even though logically I know it’s disgusting of him.

On another occasion I heard about how somebody in my community had been blackmailed for months by a guy, obviously that’s disgusting of him and a nightmare for her, I know that logically, but I can’t help but fantasise about being in that situation.

Does anyone else have this issue? I would like some insight on how to navigate this.

What’s the best makeup to wear for messing up? Everything is so waterproof and smear proof these days! But I want running mascara and lipstick that smears easily for my daddy to have fun with. Any recommendations?

Aweee man last night was a awesome pegging night but I hurt him:-( i feel like shit for going hard !!! And now he's hurt :-( how do you ladies deal with that?? What do you do?? Help??

Hey, I am ging to Buenos Aires in January 2025.

Somebody know Clubs, Socialmedia, Foren to explorere?

I was thinking recently about how doms often collar their subs to show ownership in a way. And it got me thinking, is there an equivalent thing subs can do to their dom? Not a collar per se, but something similar. To show that dom is taken. Some of us subs are possessive too. If you have any ideas I’d love to hear them!

Hi everyone! Been lurking for a few months now, made a new account for the usual reasons to start posting. A few months ago I saw a post on tumblr where a Dom expressed his desire to masturbate his sub while she peed on the toilet, with the idea that over time she'd come to associate arousal with peeing and would associate the acts. I was very taken with the idea (to uh...the extent that it actually kicked my libido back into gear for the first time in a few years. Welcome back!) but the problem is, despite trawling through this subreddit and a few others, I can't seem to find anything about it, regardless of what search terms I used. Most of what I can find is the more standard watersports stuff which I don't think I'm terribly interested in. I'm curious to read about other people's experiences, and how it could be ramped up, done slightly differently etc etc and how it could be used outside of the bathroom.

Could anyone point me in the right direction or share their own tips?

(Note, I am new, I'm definitely submissive. I'm trying to muster up the courage to go to a munch tomorrow!)

What is the 1 thing your sex playroom or dungeon must have?