For context: My daughter is 8 years old. It's just her and I in our home.

My daughter has behavioral issues and I feel like I am her venting center / punching bag when at home. As I was told by close people who are on the outside looking in, my daughter is very disrespectful towards me. My friends say "if my child ever talked to me that way, I would whoop their ass!" Although I do not put my hands on my child, I do take things away from her or make her do chores she doesn't like.

Other than that, what do I do? I am working on trying to get some professional in-home services that can help me make home a better environment for her but staffing for that kind of thing is scarce around here.

Advice? Tips? Words of encouragement?

TIA! <3

TLDR: Any other games similar to this game we just played that kids can play?

Note: I just want to play similar games with my kids since they really liked this one

Hi fellow parents!! Asking this because lately my friends and I played this game. Since my friend was a teacher, she told me that they recommend this game to the kids' parents since it was a great bonding activity. So we printed the PDF of the challenges from here and then we downloaded the app. The game is basically a fusion of a digital and physical game. It's called Escape Team. We really loved it so much that I wondered if there are other games for kids that are similar to this? It's really cool because there are lots of puzzles to solve. To be clear, this game is already great for kids. Just wondering if there are also others like this.

Upvotes appreciated, thanks!

Hello!! This post is for an Academic Requirement, and we would really appreciate it if you helped us out 🙏🙏🙏. Our group is doing a research on the impacts of gaming on parent gamers, and we would simply like to hear the thoughts and experiences of people online on this topic. If you would like to be a part of this research please feel free to share your thoughts and opinions in this thread!! You can use the following questions as prompts for your responses. Let us know as well if you’d be willing to let us use your responses in our paper and whether or not you would like to keep your response anonymous! Thank you!!

Some Prompt Questions:

1. How has gaming affected your life as a parent and your bond with your children?
2. How do you balance your gaming time with family time, particularly time spent with your children?
3. How does gaming affect your mental health considering the other aspects of your life that you also have to focus on?
4. What does gaming mean to you, as well as your personal life and hobbies?
5. Do you ever find that gaming cuts into your work hours or family responsibilities? If so, how do you handle this?

wondering how others feel about their kids interacting with these new artificial intelligence products.

whether it's talking toys, something useful for school, or just random ai chat apps,

do you draw the line somewhere? -- would love any tips or how others are going about this!

Am I the only one who puts their kids in the tub to take a bath when you have to go number 2. When I’m home alone with Almost 2 year old. Who is potty training. I put her in the tub to take a bath. Which she loves bath and don’t fight it. I’m right next to her and she just plays while I got potty.

So my oldest child just started pre k 4 and the moms all seem to know each other maybe from prek 3 or older siblings not sure... I’m pretty introverted so I’m really going out of my comfort zone here to try ti make small talk and get to know some moms -even though they all kind of have thier little groups of friends already, to try to make sure my daughter has fun. (I’m not trying to make mom friends here I just want my kid to have fun because she’s soooo social and craves play with other kids)

So I managed to make small talk and exchange numbers with two moms of kids my daughter seems to enjoy playing with in school- she always talks about them and plays with them for a few minutes at pick up.

The other moms seemed nice & eager. One mom even texted me first just saying here’s my number etc and we chatted a bit over text. We also ran into eachother grocery shopping and she stopped me to talk, offered help if I needed it ever etc. The next day I texted her if she wanted to meet up at a playground this week to let the kids play and literally no response … just completely ghosted me. I can take a “sorry we’re busy” but to not answer at all? Seems so rude

So strange. The other mom has two older kids and she just seems really busy and told me she would check her calendar but never got back to me so I left it as that—-not going to bother her again.

Is this common ? Or am I missing something 😂 I know it’s only preschool but these parents will ultimately be the same parents her entire school career in our small town

We have a one year old and a three year old and live in a very expensive mountain town that we love in BC, Canada.

Our family is all 14 hours away in Alberta, specifically Edmonton.

We're strongly considering moving back to be closer to help and support and also because it's extremely affordable.

Still, we wonder if it's the right choice because--even if we can only afford a small townhouse-- we are living in a very safe idyllic mountain town where we hike and have ties to nature.

What is best for kids?? Financial security and family or beauty and nature?

(I should add we do have access to a place in the mountains about four hours from Edmonton, but it is a slog with young kids.)

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Play dates ??

How often if at all are you doing play dates for your kids?

My daughter (4) -she’s VERY social and loves other kids. I’m pretty introverted. She just started pre k and I try to make small talk with the other moms at pick up or at school events, and have painfully managed to exchange numbers with 2 moms.

I have tried setting park meet ups with both of these moms and they both so far have brushed me off, “this week is crazy, I’ll text you next week if the schedule is any better” this was like 3 weeks ago and nothing. I definitely don’t want to ask again because that would be … weird lol!

All the moms seem to already know each other somehow. Maybe from older siblings or day care or something ? They all talk at pick up and I definitely try to talk too but they do just gravitate towards the ones they already know which I understand too

Am i doing something wrong? Im not trying to make new best friends for me here im just trying to make sure my daughter is getting enough socialization and having fun. Will these things happen more organically as they get a little older? I feel like I just don’t want my introvertness to interfere with my daughter having friends. Just trying to make moves for her 😩😂

It feels like not a day goes by we don’t end up having an argument. I feel like I do everything I can to try and make her happy; she does her clubs and sports, I take interests in all her hobbies and schooling, make time for games as often as I can, day trips. I love her so much and I try so so hard to make sure she has a nice life. I had her when I was still a teenager and probably did a pretty shit job in the early years but we’re okay now. I’m separated from her father who she sees every other weekend (we’ve been separated since just after birth and have a good coparenting relationship) he has no complaints about her behaviour but he does let her do whatever she wants when she’s at his house. I have a new partner along with a 6 and 4 year old, new partner and daughter have always seemed to get along fine but she also says she hates him (often doesn’t have a reason why) She usually says she hates me because I never let her do what she wants, she has a horrible life, she wants a new family, she’s going to run away from home, she prays to god she’ll get sent to a different family. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m up all night thinking about it, I try so hard to give her enough attention and show her how much I love her. I often feel like I am a lot nicer to her than my two younger children in a desperate attempt to make her happy. Ultimately I end up telling her off and punishing her (usually this is screen time bans ) because she’s so nasty to me and especially her younger sister (6yo)

I hope it's OK if an uncle posts here instead of a direct parent.

A few months ago my eight-year-old second niece completed a cognitive test and her deductive and reasoning capacity was equivalent to that of a twenty-three-year-old. I'm so excited for her potential and I'm curious if anyone has any interesting activities or gifts I can utilize to help develop that aspect. She has one older and one younger sister and I love them all equally, but I want to encourage her to develop and apply her mind further.

I am going back to work 40 hours a week tomorrow and it is killing me. What is better for the kids, ages 3 and 5? Going to daycare full time and having some money, or staying at home and being poor?

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Sorry for the long post but I have so much to get off my chest.

My son started kindergarten this year. For context, he was at an in-home preschool before with a smaller class size. They have school district counselors come in weekly to access the kids to make sure they're well prepared for kindergarten according to state standards. Their schedules are also structured like in kindergartens. He performed really well there. He adhered to the schedule, actively participated in activities, transition from one activity to the next just fine, minimal outburst.

However, after a couple months in kindergarten, his teacher has been informing us about his behavior. How he struggles to pay attention, throwing tantrums big enough to disrupt the class. She said he should have been accustomed to the school by now so it raised a concern. We've tried the activities she recommended to help him focus (example: Simon Says, board games). And we also taught him different ways to keep focus (twiddling his thumb instead of having to constantly move around). We also allocate 1 hour everyday to go over his school materials, reading and writing.

She said he's shown some improvements since then but I guess it was not enough because now she's recommending a program for him to help with his emotions and focus. My husband and I are considering the program, especially if it's in the best interest of our child.

But I can't help but feel that I'm not doing enough for him. I've talk about this to his former preschool teacher (we still keep in touch) and she said it's normal for a boy his age and that he's actually a really smart boy.

Any advice?

I think often parents who are hyper focused on “not being like their parents” fall into a trap where they end up going too far in the other direction. For example, I’ve worked with many parents who are so resentful of how they were raised in a strict way, and as a result they do not teach their children any sort of discipline and allow their children to walk all over them. Each child is going to have unique needs and generational context that is often very different from that of their parents, and I think that is too often ignored when deciding what’s best for your child. And often these attitudes about how to parent are decided well before birth and have nothing to do with a child’s individual needs. Another issue with this mentality is that as a child you are not an unbiased representative of the performance of your parents.

Of course there are many cases where parenting differently is extremely positive,such as ending cycles of abuse. I’m talking about the moderate/reasonable or gray area cases where all involved could be considered to be good enough parents or try their best with what they are given.

Bottom line is, I think we should take time to think about how healthy it is to base a parenting style off of resentment or unfulfilled desires of one’s own childhood that may have nothing to do with your own children. And all of this with due respect to how incomprehensibly hard being a good parent can be for everyone, and even moreso for those with less resources.

Start off by saying I do enjoy the festive mood of Halloween and opportunity for dress up and be silly. However, I've never been one for trick or treating. I've been raised with 'don't take sweets off strangers' in mind and it must've stuck, because knocking on neighbours/strangers doors and practically asking for sweets seems very alien to say the least.

Anyone else out there with the same outlook? How do you go about spending this festive period with kids? I would still like my child to participate in dressing up as she's getting older and Halloween themed parties, just skipping the trick or treat part. Maybe do Halloween themed activities instead on the night or movie night?

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My 12 year old son likes to spend his whole day on Computer/ iPad playing games…..

How do I get him away from Electronics, how do I get him into Physical activities and more into reading etc

Hellloooo

My guys are really into forts right now and I want to get them a cool fort building kit. Any suggestions? I'm in Canada

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We have had custody of 4 grandkids for 1 year. The older two were potty trained at 5 and 4. (Basically trained at the same time because when they older one started going, the younger decided they could too) The next youngest was potty trained at 3 after being with us a few weeks. The youngest just turned 3. We have been working with her for a while. Most days, no accidents, stays dry all night. Spends a day with the parents….. well she forgets that she has learned how to use the bathroom. We haven’t had to change a poop diaper in over a month… until after last weekend… we are back to using the bathroom now, but parent pickup is tomorrow. Do I just send her in underwear and say hey your kid is potty trained, please let her use the bathroom. —- She even asks to use the bathroom. (Even when she doesn’t have to) The first time that she asked them to go potty, they just thought it was the greatest thing… I’m like yeah she has been for a while… but yet I’m not sure if they have taken her since.

Hey friends,
My 16yo daughter has trouble getting the point on things. Doesn't know her own address, parents' phone numbers, the relatively simple route to/from school, doesn't understand how to use Google Maps. It's ironic and concerning when I know she's figured out YouTube and Netflix, goes for walks through the neighborhood, walked to and from school last year with her brother... We currently live in a town of under 10k people, and she rides to high school with her mother, who is a teacher.

Any tips on helping her "get it"? *Exposure* & *practice*, I would presume would be the main two tools. But I would love to hear your hacks and success stories.

Trying to decide which wearable breast pump to get as a first time breast feeding mom. I have a spectra plug in one but am also looking for something I can move around in and not be stuck to the wall. I saw momcozy recommendations but saw a lot of moms were dealing with faulty batteries and them leaking at the bottom. I was looking into eufy pro with the charging case. Anyone have those? What do u think about them? & what do yall recommend?:)

Is it normal for napping babies to sit up and stare off into space?

Oke this is maybe a weird question, but i was raised by parents how had haute couture stores. So appearance was super important to them. Me and my siblings for example couldn't get fat. And we were brought up that beauty is the most important thing. This fuckt me up as child and as an adult. Eating disorders and finding myself ugly and not good enough.

But now i have my own baby boy, hes the most beautiful thing i ever laid my eyes on. I cant stop saying it to him.

But i dont want to make a big deal out off appearances like my parents did. I want him to not give a damn. So what do you guys think?

This is going to be long, so whoever takes the time out to answer, thank you so much. I really need to know if my son's behavior is just a preschooler being a preschooler, or if it's something more. I am at such a loss and I feel like giving up on everything. Please help. My son is 3.5 (he'll be 4 at the end of December). We are currently living with my mother in law because our house is being built. My son is in Prek-3 at a private Catholic school. He is often cared for by my mother in law or my mother, so he has A LOT of voices telling him what to do. I am a special education teacher. I teach students with a range of different disabilities from Autism to ADHD to Oppositional Defiance Disorder. Maybe my job is making me hyper aware and anxious. I just don't know.

My son just doesn't listen. He will deliberately disobey. He whines constantly and it's either his way or the highway. Just this morning he gave an entire tomato to my mother in law's dog. We told him that if he gave the dog our food again, he would be in time out. He literally took his multivitamin off his breakfast plate, handed it to the dog, and laughed. My husband lost his shit, SCREAMED at him and put him in time out. Time out will fix the issue temporarily, but minutes later he's back to disobeying. It is a deliberate disobedience and it is constant. My son is very intelligent. He has no delays. He speaks VERY well and understands everything. This is why I am convinced he either has a psychological disorder such as ODD or he truly cannot control his intrusive thoughts/impulses and has ADHD. Some days, he will happily sit at the table and eat. Other days he's running around the kitchen refusing to sit. Some days, he happily gets ready for school and talks about what he wants to do once he gets there, other days (like today) it takes a Herculean effort to get him ready. He refuses to get dressed, refuses to brush his teeth, refuses to eat, refuses EVERYTHING. Everything is a joke to him. I see TikToks of young children crying when their parents tell them "no!" That was NEVER my son. Since he was 2.5, he has always found discipline funny. He takes nothing seriously and I can't take it anymore.

He's been in school for a little over a month. The first month was amazing. His teachers could not stop raving about how well behaved he is, how polite he is, and what an incredible listener he is. I thought, "Wow, we're past it! We're finally past that horrific defiant stage!" Yeah...no. Starting last week, we have been getting reports from his head teacher that he is not listening. She will tell him not to do something and he will deliberately do it. He is making silly noises and disrupting the class when not appropriate. He has been separated from the class multiple times because he continues to not listen and to be silly. His teacher feels like he has become comfortable in his environment now and that's why he's acting up.

But here' the kicker- he's the sweetest soul. He cares DEEPLY about his friends and his teachers and grandparents. He is the first child to check on a crying kid on the playground and ask if they are alright and if they want to play. He is constantly giving compliments to everyone. He says how pretty his teachers and I (his mother) am all the time. He loves hugs, loves to cuddle, and loves animals. A classmate was crying during drop off at school yesterday and he walked over to them and said completely unprompted, "It's okay, don't' cry. Hold my hand. Let's walk in together." His school friends wait for him at dismissal so they can all play for a few minutes on the grass. His teachers say he is so loveable and kind... he just does. not. listen.

I truly do not know what to do. I feel like I constantly have my teacher hat on. I deal with it at work and now I deal with the same shit at home. I can't live like this. I am so tired. This was my greatest fear- having a child like my students. I am SO SORRY if that offends anyone but I am just speaking freely. I'm burning out and I can't take it. Somebody please offer some advice or some help because I'm at the end of my rope. Thanks so much.