Tl;dr Has anyone successfully unfucked a really messy apartment on your own?

I'm finally getting around to unfucking my apartment where I've lived for the last 5 years. But I'm feeling really discouraged because it's been much harder on my body than I thought, and it's feeling like I will never make progress at this rate.

My apartment is very cluttered, almost a hoarding type situation. I've also done barely any deep cleaning since I've lived here. So I need to go through lots of boxes/piles and also clean the underlying filth.

I have asthma, and I also spent most of last year recovering from a back injury. My back is healed but my muscles are weak. So going through the clutter triggers both asthma attacks and back spasms. Sometimes I can only work for about 30 minutes before I'm done for the whole day.

If I had money I'd just hire professional help but I don't. Just doing 30 minutes at a time doesn't feel doable, because some things take more than 30 min to avoid creating a bigger mess (e.g. clearing out trash/donation items and then actually getting them out of the house).

I would love to hear from anyone who's successfully unfucked a big, daunting job like this, especially with physical limitations. How did you get through it? If you've done smaller jobs but haven't tackled a whole apartment before, I appreciate your support but I really would like to hear from people who have actually gotten this sort of thing done.

I know I can just wipe it off with some toilet paper or a tissue, but I mean, other people are gonna walk on the floor... Would some dish soap and warm water be enough to get the germs and any nasty stuff, or do I have to use a disinfectant of some sort? And how would I use that? I just wanna be a good samaritan who doesn't leave cum on the floor

I’ve been a bed rotter for the last year. For multiple reasons. One thing that I’ve found hard to break is the fact I don’t really listen to music. I’ve always been much more interested in films and TV. So it’s kept me in this permanent state of ‘just one more episode’. I found my jam though. I’ve been blaring Celine Dion, and I just don’t care! It took a lot! I’ve always been worried about what people may think. But, by gosh, I picked up a fucking broom and danced away. I’m your lady…..and my broom, you’re my man 🧹

I finally took the many years worth of dead vape batteries to Lowe's to recycle. I taped them all about two years ago.

I want to get my home UFed this week but between work/classes/life… it never happens. I’ve been seeing someone for a month now and haven’t had him over yet and want to change that next week or so. Should I pull an all-nighter? I’d love just some support or even “one like and I’ll stay up all night and UF” type vibe, haha 💛🥺

Kon Mari folding is the way to go for non-hanging clothes organization. I don't use it for my unmentionables, but I can see every t-shirt, every nightgown, every pair of socks or workout pants. No more digging. No knocking things over. It takes just as long as regular folding for the most part. Unfucking isn't just a project, but learning maintenance habits and behaviors. In my opinion, anyway!

First post!

Any advice and suggestions would be appreciated, frequently use plastic buckets with plastic bags in them as bins (thinking of getting a foot pedal bin even though it's serves the same purpose)

From our family milkbar business, we have many plastic bags, and also in the photo is our (red) large container of rice for storage.

My first attempt at trying to clean (tidy) the area as I frankly am tired of the way it looks. Again, our family's kitchen area so there isn't really one person responsible for it, and I'm trying to contribute where I can

Thanks!

Hi I’m new here. I’m also on a hoarding subreddit. Long story short my mom is a hoarder and she lives downstairs because of some health issues. So our whole downstairs is filled with her stuff. Her room upstairs is still how she left it which is just filled with her stuff. I picked up on her habit and my room is filled with stuff. And my old room is filled with stuff.

We apparently have to move out by the summer. I say apparently because i literally have zero clue how we’re going to do this with the state of our house.

We have pipe issues, no updates at all, cracks in the ceiling. We don’t have the money to repair it. I’ve also been struggling severely with depression. I have adhd as well. I’ve done my best the last couple of days to clean downstairs but all my will power is gone. And I may just hire a service at this point. If anyone has done the same please let me know. I’m at my limit.

I am so so happy to have found this subreddit! I suffer from severe depression and OCD. Suspected ADHD but not diagnosed though. My husband (who also has depression) and I's apartment has been really bad on and off for years. Hording and just stopped caring about taking care of our bodies and living space.

My anxiety has gotten so much worse lately from not being able to get myself started on anything. Last night something finally snapped into place and I just grabbed a garbage bag and went to work. I had 9 garbage bags filled within 3 hours while my husband was at work. He loved the surprised and appreciated it and thanked me. We talked more about setting up some sort of system to work together.

I grew up in a very tidy environment all the time. My husband's environment as a child was very much a horders. So we believe it just blended between us, especially with both of us with depression. Feeling like we don't deserve anything good.

The goal is to keep it clean. That's another problem we've had. That once in a while something happens that we're forced to clean the place for whatever reason. But then a month later it's back to where it was.

I believe we're finally getting into the right mindset to when we can finally keep it up.

It helps to know we're not alone. I am so proud of everyone on here for reaching out to people for help and making progress. No matter how small or slowly. This community is amazing. These posts are so inspiring.

Well. It's minor. And don't have a before picture on new phone. My cat is busy going wtf .(She herself is motivation to get better . Especially for HER. She's helping my mental health!!) But new bedding and mattress protector . Need new pillows but have learned with CPAP it helps me if I'm lying almost completely flat IF I'm on my back. And I like my corner spot. Did have it in the middle of that side wall for the first batch of months I've been here. Things (like my giant bear) kept falling off. Could have straightened out the three stuffed creatures but meh. Some chaos still 😂

My grown son is in jail, that trauma is for another Reddit. About 7 years ago, he convinced us to purchase a large home that he has filled with broken tools, construction materials, untitled vehicles, half-finished mechanical and construction projects, musical instruments, electronics, broken appliances and more junk than I can even list. I’d like to just wash my hands and walk away, but we need to recoup some cash to cover some losses. We received a letter recently that there is a warrant for my husbands arrest due to the vehicles and trash. I have until Tuesday before the city starts court proceedings. Ps: would they actually arrest a guy with stage 4 Parkinson’s? Where do I start?

Hey guys, I need some advice.

I've been sick since November and at this point, I’ve kind of accepted that it’s not going to just go away. I don’t really want to get into details, but the main issue right now is that my apartment is a complete mess. It’s been piling up since November and I feel disgusting in it, but I also have zero energy or motivation to clean because I feel awful.

I sweat easily because of my illness, so even light activity makes me feel worse. But I can’t put it off any longer. Just thinking about dealing with it makes me want to cry and I don’t know how to start without feeling completely overwhelmed.

If you’ve ever been in a similar situation, how did you push through? Any small steps or tricks that helped? I’d really appreciate any advice.

I don't know what to do anymore. I got a notice on my door threatening me with eviction. Recently the whole building was infested with roaches after they had pest control out to treat one unit, which caused them to flee to other units, mine included. I didn't cause them, but I didn't help the issue, I know that. My apartment is cluttered now, but not dirty. Pest control came through once. I was told they would come by twice more, but the date for them to come came and went and they never showed. I asked the maintenance guys what happened, and they said they wanted to contact the land lady to see what she wanted done since I'm on oxygen and the roach spray would be hazardous for me. I told them I would use my tanks and keep my concentrators off until it was safe to turn them on again. But instead, I woke up today to that notice threatening eviction if the roaches continue. But I don't know what they want me to do? The bug guys won't spray because of the oxygen, they told me I couldn't do my own treatments because they have a contract with the apartment, and the roaches are still coming in from the hallway whenever I open my door. They are setting me up for failure and it's really not fair!!! What am I supposed to do?? Being clean doesn't get rid of them, they eat things like paper, cardboard, and each other so I can't starve them out!

Hi everyone… so… I live with my mom, I have adhd, depression, anxiety and ocd, and she… well, I really think she is autistic. Ever since I have memory I had a REALLY messy and crowded home. I was never allowed to have visits, nor had a room for me and my stuff nor even sometimes a place to see the floor. I’ve been battling with that all my life and now I’m quite an organized person (my things are always tidy, but I have to place other than bags to store them) but I’m a mess at doing daily stuff. My mom is chaos, she has everything everywhere and has a problem with buying and not throwing anything away. She doesn’t tidy, doesn’t clean, doesn’t do laundry nor even throw her trash in the bin. As I’m currently unemployed I do everything here… and I’m always so ashamed. I’m doing a lot of work on myself to understand this isn’t my fault and that I have to be kinder to myself, but all my family blames me for the mess my house is and I just can’t do this anymore. When my dad was around we were four counting my sister, my dad did most of the house work as he was retired, and I always helped. But now I’m alone and everything seems to be out of my control, even having weekly help.

Anyways, I’m now so sick of this that I decided to throw everything away and rearrange the house (of course my mom gave me permission, the thing is she will do her “best” not to do things even harder for me and she won’t interfere with my decisions). The thing is, this is taking a toll on me. I keep crying every day, I can’t seem to have energy and all I do and think of is cleaning this place, but I feel like Sisyphus.

So… today I saw a post in r/adhdwomen and someone tag this sub, and I just… felt so seen. I’m proud of you all, and I’m so amazed at all the bravery I see here. Thank you for showing me I’m not alone.

Im so sorry for this rant/sad post. I just really needed to vent and show some appreciation. Hope you all have a good day (or night if you are in a similar time zone as me)

I feel depressed and overwhelmed and can't figure out where to start. I'm ADHD so it's really a struggle. Literally sitting in bed crying as I type this bc idk what to do.