It’s like I don’t know how to feel them so it’s rare I feel them. I felt depressed and bored even with screen time just now and set my phone down for once. Then I suddenly started to cry about how long it takes me to get anything done and how will I ever get caught back up with life. I imagined myself hugging myself while I cried haha. Then I picked my phone back up, called the Dr, and asked for a refill on my adhd meds. It’s been a few months that task was weighing on me. I think we need to feel our feelings you guys.

I live with my dad and our house has gotten messy. My room has been messy for a while and Id start to clean but then I’d get overwhelmed and stop. We recently discovered mice in the house and I’m almost positive some are in my messy room. I’ve been cleaning little by little but I’m terrified to, I guess, really get in there and truly deep clean because I’m scared of finding a mouse. I’m terrified of mice, rats, bugs, or anything I see as being “contaminated” or being able to “contaminate” me, which makes cleaning really difficult. I can’t ask my dad for help because he’d just ridicule me the entire time. Does anyone have advice? I really regret not cleaning before we had this problem with mice but there’s nothing I can do about it now.

I’m also a full time wheelchair user, if that affects advice that can be given.

It’s my one day by myself (I’m off work and my toddler is at the sitters) and I really need to do a few things around the house. I need to finish the laundry, clean the bathroom, vacuum and do the dishes. I have rapid cycling bipolar and I’m in a really depressive episode right now. I’m finding it really difficult to even get out of bed and start on anything. My anxiety is making me feel physically ill but is also amping up because there’s so much to do. Somebody please give me a place to start. I feel stuck.

I started seriously UFing a month or two ago and I’ve been making HUGE progress. To the point where all main areas of my apartment were good, and not only that but I was keeping up with it! I did the dishes every day, I made my bed, everyday laundry was being kept up with and I was getting some additional backlog laundry done, I vacuumed and mopped regularly, I dusted and wiped counters, everything! I had two areas left in the house, the junk room and the sunporch, which had become an overflow of the junk room, and was starting to make progress on them as well!

I felt like it gave me a new lease on life. Unfortunately, it seems my productivity is directly tied to my emotional state (other than stress cleaning which ends with me crying on the floor amidst cleaning supplies). The UFing began because my relationship was in a REALLY good place. Or so I thought. That went out the window and eventually led to me having a mental breakdown over the last month, concentrated over the last two weeks. I nearly ended up in hospital. Now every room in my house is back to being F’ed up. Not nearly as bad as it was, but a week of complete neglect shows quick especially with a dog and cat!

I’m slowly coming out of it and managed to do a couple small tasks today, but damn is it discouraging! Any advice/motivation for getting back on track?

i desperately need to ufmh due to a year or more of depression winning but constant nagging from family about the issues is making me want to do it less. how do you get them to understand it’s not as simple as “just clean it”??

and how/where do i start?? 😭

When Covid hit us in August and we grieved the loss of our dog in September, the house became a huge overwhelming mess again. I broke down to a friend and then discussed things with hubby. Well we stepped up. We got some big tasks done. Toddler is happy to have more space to run around and it's safer for her so I can be less constantly on her.

There's still a lot to do but mostly upstairs now! Once we get on top of the dishes, the kitchen will no longer stress me out and downstairs will be good. So far the island is usable again. Will try to work on more tonight but I might just need to rest.

I'm hoping to get to starting on the upstairs this week, starting with our bedroom and bathroom, as I want them to be places to relax again.

Hey all, we’re on day 4 of a cold with a three year old and a 3 month old. Today is the first day I’ve actually felt a little bit better (at the very least I can breathe out of my left nostril lol) The past four days I have done nothing but take care of the kids and my house is a disaster. I think if it was just laundry or dishes piling up it would be one thing but I feel like the whole house needs to be sanitized. I don’t even know where to start. I just put my comforter in the wash, I feel like prioritizing clean bedding and a clean kitchen is a good idea. Then if I still have energy probably the bathroom? God this is already so overwhelming. Does anyone have a whole house post sickness cleaning list you could share?

Thank you!

I have boxes and boxes of old mail - the kind of mail you don’t just want to throw away in case of sensitive information that could be used for identity theft. I’m moving again soon and need to get rid of all this mail once and for all - but I don’t have the time to shred it all myself, I don’t have the money to take it somewhere to be shredded, and I don’t have access to a firepit to burn it all.

So, realistically, will it matter if I just throw it all away? Or put most of it in recycling? What are the chances I’ll have my identity stolen, do you think? I can’t bear the thought of lugging these boxes to yet another apartment.

Every year around the holidays I get the same anxious feeling about getting gifts and adding more "stuff" to my space.

I don't know how to word this to not sound ungrateful, because I really am so grateful for my loved ones and the ways they show their love for me. But it's so stressful each year to get more "stuff", especially when at least half of the gifts feel like they've been given out of obligation, like folks wanted to give you a Christmas gift but didn't know what you'd like. So they feel like gifts meant for another person, or the version of you they have in their head.

I've tried asking for a specific item (I read a lot, so one year I asked for everyone to send a copy of their favorite book. I got only one and he hadn't even read it). I've tried asking for non-physical gifts (like tickets for experiences). But each year I feel like consumerism just drives people to give more and more and it ends up in my tiny studio apartment.

Has anyone had any luck in this? I am I being a Grinch and totally ungrateful? If I need perspective on this I welcome it. I'm autistic and sometimes mess up on the social rules, this could definitely be one of them.

Edit: I can't reply to everyone, so I'll say it here: thank you all for the thoughtful responses! The general consensus seems to be that the act of giving is what gives people joy most of the time (I was misunderstanding this before), and they think I'll get joy from the act of receiving the gift. I won't usually, but will do what others have said and be very sincere in thanking them for thinking of me. Then I'll donate the gift or put it in a special box for donating later if it's not something I'll use! I'll also look into the suggestions for asking for other kinds of gifts. Thanks again!

This sub inspired me to clean my closet and dresser today. I threw away a large black bag of things that are worn out and have another of good clothes to donate.

I can't stand doing laundry especially because the washer and dryer are 2 floors down (in the basement). It's like if I take the laundry down there and starting 1 load that's day 1. Then day 2 I will begin 2nd load and put first load in the dryer. Etc. It takes me about 3-4 days to do my laundry and that does not include the folding or hanging and putting back up which rarely happens. They'll stay in different bags that I have to rummage through daily. So I'm thinking how could a laundry service help me UFML?

Anyone done this before? How does it feel to have someone else wash your dirty undies? And how do you know if they are actually washing your clothes or not? I've read some reviews of just one company so far that provides the service in my city and I've read "clothes not washed, just dried, clothes lost, clothes not picked up but card was still charged, etc".😩 Then from a cost perspective does it seem worth it? Any feedback from someone who used a laundry service or considered it would be helpful. Thanks!

I am in the process of unf-ing my condo for like the 3rd time. I don't want to be here again. It is not fair to my cats and it's not fair to me. How do you keep it uf-ed when you don't have the energy?

Just a reminder, sometimes it just helps to have a floor you can walk on. I haven’t even done the laundry yet and I’m already feeling lighter