Planning a June wedding and originally went with Wedding Wire but now finding its seems to lack the ability to text guests to get information such as email and addresses. Before jumping ship, do people have opinions on what is the best (or better) wedding planning sites? I confess to only knowing of Wedding Wire, The Knot and Zola but surely there are many more!

Why always the same boring stuffy suit?

Black / grey / navy with black or brown shoes. Soooo dull.

Ugh.

I (NB) want to look cute, pretty and adorable on my wedding day!

I want to wear a floaty satin wedding dress with a super long fluttery veil to my own wedding! (Trainers underneath though - comfort comes first! My sister wore Converse underneath her wedding dress 😊)

Attached photo is the view from the location that was choice one. So now that I've come down from the initial aggravation from the email I'll go into detail. I had not fully set on that location as it was the fact it's 3 hours from all our friends and family. So the smaller 15 people location would work really well and I'm sure we could find a small place to rent to do the reception only because I was still waiting for the menu and the bar option from them. So the reception was never set for that at it was. Just the location was perfect, now as she had stated that doesn't mean it's not going to happen she was just unable to say, as they are a tourist attraction.

Hey, so we want to have a gay wedding on a beach somewhere in 9 months.

Wedding on the beach and in July is a must, willing to go anywhere in the US they are cool with doing a gay wedding.

Casual clothing like linen shirts and shorts. A hotel on the beach for the ceremony, like ceremony on the sand and some chairs, maybe that little archway thing. Someone to marry us. Prefer a reception room at that hotel for like 50-100 people. Very small. Catering, just my phone playlist and no DJ, and a smaller cake. Nothing fancy. Maybe some flowers and twinkle lights or like lanterns. And then just a newlywed room at that hotel for a night.

Estimated cost and any venue recommendations? Thanks!

So after a month of waiting for an email after emailing this event planner for a location I sent an email back to the main site, got one back with an apology that the guy I was emailing no longer worked there (first wtf) then the second apology that the two places they HAD!!! (second wtf) to rent is now down to one that only can be 15 people total and the locations they had to rent for reception the smaller I wanted is not available due to remodeling and they're not sure if it's going to be used for that any longer (third wtf) totally ruined plans. Lesson learned don't use a location that catering to more tourists than a wedding venue, now back to square one really as I had all this planned for this location and it's theme. The lady that emailed back did say that they're always growing and had no idea what they planned for the 26/27 season just the 2025 plans.

My partner and I are both ND and due to our children's needs also we feel a small event would suit us better - with just them and friends as witnesses (family might get pissed but we can have a party at a later date and include them). The venue would need to be wheelchair accessible (so we think Greta Green is out) and cheap because our budget is tight. Our local registry office isn't an option because it isn't accessible! It has to be in the UK though! Does anyone have any ideas? We would prefer a civil partnership to a civil marriage due to the patriarchal undertones of the legal bit of the marriage status.

Me(30F) and my partner (32F) have been together 7 years now and are weighing the outcomes of what would be the better/logical/financial/safer options of Marriage vs Mortgage. In the current administration we can easily get married in Iowa and buy a house on either income or joined. Benefits and Breaks the only thing differing. Even then im not sure what the best route would be. Regardless we will be doing both. But whats the better FIRST option? Paying less interest rate on a house if we're married and easier approved for a first time home buyers? Or if we have OK enough credit scores then don't bother?

Also have to consider the housing market now vs....a year from now...

Also have to consider the next administration and its potential federal stance on LGBT marriage a year from now...Is it even possible or worth it to get married?

My partner and I want to do a quick civil service sometime around new years and I’m getting conflicting information when I call county clerk offices. Some say that judges no longer perform marriages and some say I need to call each judge and see if they will do it.

Does anyone know what the case is? Or does anyone know someone willing to perform a quick wedding in the Nashville/Gallatin area?

My partner and I celebrated our 8 year anniversary of being together earlier this year. With the impending authoritarian regime around the corner, we wanted to expedite the civil ceremony for this year. Neither one of us is religious, rather we each have different but complementary spiritual practices. We are thinking about having a Rabbi (preferably a woman, nonbinary, and/or queer) officiate. Wondering if any queer couples have done so? We’re getting hitched in the San Francisco Bay Area, so we know there are Reform Rabbis that officiate interfaith weddings. Since neither one of us Jewish, we’re not sure if they would do this. Appreciate any wisdom or experiences ya’ll can share!

Gay marriage is legal nationally thanks to a Supreme Court ruling (Obergefell v. Hodges) in 2015. Congress and the President can't change that, only the Court.

What does that mean for us? It means that they can't realistically overturn Obergefell and remove a national right to gay marriage before June 2026.

Once they get a case, the court hears arguments October-May (except in very unusual circumstances) and release controversial decisions at the end of June or beginning of July. This is what happened with Dobbs (the abortion case): they got enough votes on the court to overturn Roe v Wade in September of 2020 after RBG died, the case got scheduled for the 2021-2022 term, argued December 2021, and the decision released in June 2022.

So, we'll be able to see whether they decide to take a case, and if they do, we'll still have time before it's decided.

What can you do now? Start pressuring your legislators to get gay marriage bans off the books: they'll go back into force if the court overturns Obergefell, and a lot of them are state constitutional amendments which can only be overturned with another amendment: that process can take a lot of time. Virginia is beginning the process of removing their constitutional amendment, but it'll take multiple years (if we're lucky it'll be off the books before June 2026 but only by the skin of its teeth).

My partner and I are getting married at the end of December. We’ve had our song picked out for awhile and we have just started working on our first dance. As neither of us are big dancers or anything we want it to be a pretty mellow dance. That being said neither of us really want to spin or dip. What are some alternative moves we could look into to switch up the dance since we also don’t want to just sway the whole time? Thanks in advance :)

This isn’t exactly an LGBT-specific issue, but I like this sub so here goes. My partner and I (30s/40s M/M) keep going back and forth on wedding planning. He loves the idea of having a party / bigger wedding, and so do I honestly, but realistically he doesn’t do well with larger groups of people, planning/organization, and, well, stress in general. Or being the center of attention. Or public speaking. He has cognitive issues related to severe mental illness, which for reference are similar to autism. Worst case, too much stress can also trigger a psychotic episode, in which case we’d have to reschedule the whole thing anyway. I’m trying to figure out how to bring him workable good ideas rather than being so cautious I get accused of treating him like a child/invalid/ticking timebomb (his words, not mine). If anyone’s got advice or similar experiences, I’m all ears.

ETA: I’m more looking for workarounds, ways to make it easier on him rather than relationship advice. He’s in therapy, and we do actually communicate well.

Hi all! My bestie/roommate decided yesterday to get married to her gf before the end of the month, they want to do it before the jan inauguration. Obviously extremely fast, so the bachelorette party is going to be Saturday!

I've never been to a bach so I need help. She wants a lowkey thing, so it's going to be at our apartment with 7/8 friends over. For activities I was thinking paint & sip and maybe a trivia about the bride/couple? Any games y'all would suggest?

Besides that I just bought balloons, banner, pink backdrop, and heart-shaped glasses for us + tiara for the bride. Going to make pink cocktails + charcuterie board, snacks.

Does anyone have any ideas? Accessories or decor or anything I'm missing? I'm completely oblivious here and would love literally ANY suggestions :)

Since the election, and having to cut off friends who led me to believe they were allies, I am just so gutted. Including my very best friend. I am just so heartbroken by those around me.

We are eloping in Vegas in two weeks! This has been planned for months, and in the back of our heads we were saying well it's probably good in case the election results are not in our favor....believing that it couldn't ACTUALLY happen right!? Scared but hopeful.

I am no longer hopeful. I'm drained. I'm sad. I'm going to try not to let it ruin the elopement we are so excited for but I can just tell I'm going to be scared for the future and not okay for a long time.

Just wanted to let anyone out there who is still feeling like I am that youre not alone. Queer people will get through it like we always have but what we will lose along the way terrifies me.

We were starting to rush into a quick civil marriage, but we are quickly realizing how stressful it will be. We would like to hear from those that are holding the course.

Are you waiting until your wedding date?

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Hi all, Like many others, due to the state of the world and marriage right concerns, my partner and I have decided to elope this December. We live in Long Island but are open to eloping outside of our town, as we’d like to do something cool and special. We do plan to have a big wedding next year.

A few things - I love the idea of a Christmas wedding/elopement, so any ideas related to a beautiful Christmas setting would be spectacular. No idea where to find that or what that could even look like.

I have heard city hall is a beautiful spot and there are photographers hanging around out front. I love that, but I also hate going into the city and part of me hopes there’s something better that doesn’t involve going into Manhattan, queens or Brooklyn. Just would add a lot of stress to the day. I would however be happy to drive elsewhere, say upstate and get an airbnb, or whatever would also be beautiful beyond a boring courthouse.

It’s worth noting my sister is a registered officiant, so though we don’t have a plan yet for who we are inviting, if anyone, we have the option of using her.

I don’t know if we’ll be able to hire a photographer unless they’re super super reasonable, would be so nice to have at least a few beautiful shots but we may end up having to take some ourselves after.

*we do want to get married specifically in New York State so that our marriage license will be tied to here.

I would so appreciate any suggestions or thoughts if anyone has them. This wasn’t our original plan so I am trying to do research on the process and all that, which I have a grasp of, however the ceremony location I can’t quite nail down. I do want to dress up and make it a special moment, or at least be able to celebrate or take pictures or something to commemorate it!

Thanks all!

i (21, afab he/they, but i dont really push my proper pronouns with my dad because he's older and i'd rather save myself the hassle) am nonbinary, and my spouse and i married a year ago in a courtroom but are just now getting around to having our wedding reception and such in December. since my (divorced) parents are splitting the cost of our reception hall (a couple thousand each, im they're firstborn and it's my first marriage and with my siblings not getting married anytime in the near future as they're still very young they agreed we'd go all out for mine, within reason), i asked my dad if he'd like to do a dance with me and, to my surprise, he said yes.

my problem is, my dad HATED me when i was in middle and high school, we got in countless fights and despite seeking outside help our relationship has always been stained. it's only bien tolerable within the last 3 years because ive moved out at 18 and have been living with my husband and had my own job so i didn't really need to contact my dad as much. we keep our cordial now and can kind of joke around but it's a very uncomfortable relationship.

anyways since he wants to do the damn dance is rather just do it since he's paying for the reception hall, but im having a hard time finding a song that's not a "daddys girl, i loved her first" song because we're not close like that, and i'd rather not pretend in front of everyone that we are. also my pronouns are he/they and every fucking song is a sappy girly song and i can't stand it... he sent me a youtube playlist of "daddys girl" songs and i shot them down and suggested something much less emotional (Stand by me, Prince Royce and Isnt she lovely, Stevie Wonder) but he claimed they were too fast for the dance so im at a loss. i figured maybe 'Nothing else matters, Metallica' or maybe even 'Rhiannon, Fleetwood Mac' because I'm an alt punk kid and my dad likes metallica and FFDP and Kiss and such (dad rock) so we can enjoy similar music but i think he'd just shoot those down too. also NEM is a 6 minute long song and i don't want to be up there with him for so long with everyone else watching so i'd rather something shorter..

if yall have any suggestions other than "just don't do the dance" pls send them my way 🙏

Hi looking for recs for queer DJs who can play a wedding next October in the Hudson Valley. Let me know if you know of anyone who can play a mix of queer classics and Latin music with a good vibe. Thanks!

Hi everyone! My fiancee and I (both cis gay men) are getting married outside of Phoenix next October. We are trying to make sure all of our vendors are either LGBT-owned businesses or have a clear track record of supporting the queer community - but it's not that easy to find just using Google! In particular, I'm most concerned about finding a DJ that is queer and understands queer music and culture. Does anyone have any recommendations for someone like this in the Phoenix area?

Thank you!

Just saw a post on this thread of somebody considering eloping after hearing the election results.

If anyone here is in MD and worried about it, I’m ordained and I’ll happily sign your license for you for free if you can come to me (I’m in Baltimore). DM me.

If there are any other ordained people in other states willing to offer the same, feel free to reply to this post so others can find you.

Also if anyone is in Pennsylvania, Colorado, Illinois, or Wisconsin, you can legally marry yourselves together. You don’t need someone else to do it. Happy to help people navigate the PA laws (they’re the ones I’m most familiar with) but you can call up your local marriage office for more info!

I know this is a scary time for people but I wanted to help offer some peace of mind.

My lifelong best friend jokingly proposed to his partner with a Ring Pop during the Pride Parade two years ago. Unbeknownst to them, a news photographer captured the moment, and their "engagement" made headlines! The photo sparked congratulatory calls and messages.

After the election… they’ve decided to just get married this Saturday!! Eek!

I secretly kept the half-eaten Ring Pop. I found it stuck to the nightstand in my guest bedroom days later 😂 I want to surprise them and gift it to them in a creative, meaningful way – perhaps a shadow box or customized keepsake???

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Please… Help me find the perfect way to present this as a gift to them. I have two days.

hello all :) my fiancée and i are eloping on dec 11th- we’re looking for wedding rings right now but there doesn’t seem to be a ton that focus on lesbian weddings, if any of you know of some good ring purchasing places that are lgbtq+ friendly and/or don’t break the bank, suggestions for those would be very appreciated!

hello! so my fiancée and i got engaged 3 months ago and rly dove in with the wedding planning. we were even about to lock in the venue where we were planning to have the ceremony + reception when the election happened and things started looking bleak.

our wedding is planned for 2026. should we still follow through with the typical ceremony and reception or should we have a Plan B of eloping just in case? i mostly ask because i'm from a blue state (california) so i believe we should be okay? but with tuesdays results i wasn't sure.

any thoughts and advice appreciated!

Hi there,

I read a few conversations about the topic in here, so I'm trying my luck! I'm a French journalist working for France 24 TV channel and we're currently planning a video report about international LGBTQA+ couples getting married in Denmark, because it's easier, quicker (and for some cases safer) to do so there than in many other European countries.

So we're looking for a couple who's planning to get married there (in Copenhagen or elsewhere) in the upcoming month OR who already got married who would be willing to be interviewed. It would of course be filmed with respect, we're just interested in hearing about your story and what led you to this choice.

If this is you and you're interested, you can contact me in the comments or via private message or via email : jade.briendguy@gmail.com !

Thank a lot ☀️

My fiancé and I live in DC. However, my grandparents are in their 90s and are unable to travel for our wedding. We decided to officially elope in Tupelo, MS so they can serve as our witnesses.

Based on initial research, the clerk of court cannot perform the marriage and it has to be conducted by an ordained minister, judge, or justice. I’m not sure how to find a judge or justice and am not really interested having a religious ceremony. I also have doubts that any of these people will be willing to perform the ceremony.

Does anyone have a recommendations on how to proceed?

Hello All, my fiancé (38M) and I (44M) are slowly but surely planning our Dream Wedding. I am little backstory we met on Tinder in January 2021, honestly both looking for friends. I know that sounds cliche but it is what it is… lol. Things escalated and soon started dating in April of 2021 and have been together ever since. Now before you ask why haven’t we gotten married or any other question. He still technically with his ex, they got married in 2020 for legal reasons that I will not go into. That is not my place to share. Please don’t ask or speculate. It is all legal, just really don’t want to go into logistics. Knowing, that things will be coming to end in 2023. I proposed to my fiancé December of last year. 2024 has rough year with me starting my own business and such but I am managing. This past October we started wedding planning and started looking into venues. We are planning a Fall Wedding in October 2026. We have only looked into one and honestly we had high expectations and those expectations were exceeded, to say the least, we are one those couples who looked at one venue and going to book it. Now before you make comments they are LGBT+ friendly. With the Orange men taking over the free world and taking all of our rights away. Should I even plan and invest all of the money and time to planning a wedding knowing that I might have that right taken away?
For context I live in Blue State which has rights protecting LGBT+ rights on getting married but I still besides myself that I may not be able to get married to the love of life.

I'm getting married to my gf in 5 weeks - eeeeek!

I decided to have a bespoke suit made for myself and the last 5 months have been so exciting, visiting the tailor, choosing colours etc. Finally, last night, my suit was delivered and it is just amazing. It fits like a dream and, if I do say so myself, I look bloody great in it!

It's now hanging up in a dark room and I must resist the urge to try it on every day....

OMG, I'm so excited!

Hi everyone,

My partner (27NB) and I (24NB) are not officially engaged yet but are planning on getting married in the next year. They would prefer to elope, I always wanted a big fancy wedding. As we’re talking about wedding planning, I’m now leaning much more into a micro-wedding with our immediate families in Las Vegas. However, here’s where the problem comes in:

They have a small, lovely, accepting immediate family. All of them would be more than happy to come and celebrate with us. I have a huge immediate family (8 siblings, 4 of which will be minors at the time of the wedding). My siblings are all affirming and some of them are queer as well, but my parents are homophobic. It’s been almost 2 years of us officially being together and they still have not met my partner. When I asked to bring them home to Christmas, my parents said they “couldn’t tolerate sin in their home” and immediately made plans to be out of the country for Christmas. So I know they won’t be coming.

I have a pair of aunt/uncle I would really love to invite to “stand in” for my parents. However, I get nervous at this because my extended family is also huge. I have 4 aunts & uncles on my dad’s side. I don’t want to offend them by only inviting my mom’s brother and his wife. But also, I don’t even know how many of my dad’s side would want to come (all Catholic).

I’m really struggling with this. It’s hard when you’ve dreamed of a big, Catholic wedding your whole life and then have to figure out what to do/what you actually want when that’s no longer an option at all. Does anyone have advice or similar experiences?

I’ve also considered doing a small courthouse ceremony with any family that wants to come all the way to our city for that and then doing a non-legal ceremony on our honeymoon where we exchange vows.