Me and a friend will go to Halloween dressed up as CDs. We will march in the halloween parade and then go to a party. Any of you would like to join us as CDs? If you don't have a wig, I have one for you. Hit me up!

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When it comes to fun side with a partner, I'm a side/kinky, but open minded when it comes to a partner. Finding another side is nearly impossible on dating apps. I was curious if any of you Tops would be fine with sliding your cock between a partners cheeks or thigh instead of anal-penetration? I've only asked one top, who seemed fine with it, but we never got to go on dates due to schedule conflicts. Like is it worth asking a top, or should I just continue skipping on them?

My bf has the most adorable feet..this is speaking from a guy who hates feet.. He's considering starting an OF for feet pics. Is there actually a market for gay feet pics?

My SO earns a lot more money than me and is much wealthier than me. He regularly travels to Europe from the US several times a year on vacation in business class.

I am financially independent, own my own place, have an income of roughly $130k, have investments in a brokerage account, funds in a 401k and generally feel financially stable.

He would like me to join a trip with him and his friend to Berlin, Vienna and Prague and they will fly business class. Despite being financially stable, a business class flight to Europe is generally not in my travel budget. Side note I have acquired the Chase Sapphire Preferred credit card to accumulate points to be able to afford some travel in business class with him, however I will likely not have enough points for this trip.

Do you think it is reasonable for me to ask him to help contribute to my business class ticket so we can all sit together? I would be happy to pay him what I normally pay for an air fare (main cabin ticket), and ask him to pay the difference.

I plan to talk to him about this but am curious to hear first how others have handled traveling with a SO where there is a significant wealth gap?

How do you propose we split expenses for this trip?

I am a social worker and I just had a conversation that made me feel very uncomfortable. A client's mother said she did not want to work with a certain company because the representative sounded "very gay and unprofessional." I was taken aback when she said this because I have a gay voice. I've also interacted with the person she was referring to on many occasions and always felt that he was very professional. Now, I feel very self-conscious about the way I talk to clients. I don't feel that I have ever been unprofessional but I am definitely feeling very uncomfortable with being myself and talking the way that I naturally talk.

Have any of you experienced this? Do you have any advice for me to not worry about this?

My SO and I are taking our first trip together. We have a significant wealth gap and he usually flies First Class and I fly Main. I am financially stable with a well-paying job, own my own place but I do not believe I can financially sustain booking first class or business class tickets every time I travel, so I usually book Main.

So we could sit together, he suggested we book Comfort+, and if we both saw a cheap upgrade offer to first, we would pay to upgrade. He said he would also book a Comfort+ ticket because the First Class tickets were awfully expensive.

Several weeks later, I found out that he did end up booking a First Class ticket, his reasoning being so that he could reach a higher status with the airline.

Am I in the wrong for feeling disrespected, misled and for wanting to sit together with my SO on a trip we are taking together? Or am I making a bigger deal out of this than it is. I’n curious to hear others perspective - thanks!

I almost never stain when bottoming without douching, but lately when i do i AM staining… i have a small douche with a short-medium soft tip…

Water runs clear… but in the act i do stain.

So i dont really know what to do about it… what the fuck am i doing wrong… do i just not douche?

Due to complex childhood trauma, I have a deep-seated yet apparent fear of isolation and neglect. I’ve been in therapy, but taking things one day at a time has been the most comforting approach for me.

I’m currently seeing someone, and I’ve been spending more time with him than I have with anyone else in a very long time. He’s looking for a relationship, but I am undecided, even though, deep down, I’d secretly love to end up in a happy relationship. However, he’s quite vocal about things about me that bother him—he’s very specific about his ideal body type (which I’m not), he wants someone who can care for him in every way, and he’s told me I shouldn’t act sweet and nice all the time but should get more assertive. He’s told me he likes me, but there’s often a “but” that follows (such as these reasons), the main one being his desire to wait a bit longer to decide if he can trust me completely.

As for me, I am inherently very humble, especially when I like someone, and I make tangible efforts to help them feel safe and okay. But I’ve been questioning things: Is it really reciprocated? Can I trust myself to be with him? Can he help me remain secure? Last night, I ran into an epiphany with these questions, and some of the untoward comments he’s made about who I am and how I am. This has put me in a pessimistic frame of mind, where I have an ongoing itch to “test” him and the situation. The current test is seeing if he’ll text me first if I don’t greet him first thing in the morning (which I almost always do) to gauge if he’ll take the initiative.

With all that said, I feel bogged down by how this all ties back to my long-standing fears of being deserted, neglected, and undervalued.

Then, there are some instant turnoffs—he openly compliments men in his friend circle around me. Recently, he even followed a guy we met at a party, someone he thought was “hot” (and jokingly mentioned he’d be elated if that guy turned out to be “side/versatile”). Given that I’m not actively seeking a committed relationship with him, I’ve tried to overlook these tendencies, but I’m beginning to feel that I’m downplaying them at the cost of my own self-esteem.

Hey there,

I recently started a new job, and unfortunately, the person who’s supposed to be training me is turning out to be a bit of a nightmare. She talks to me in this condescending, commanding tone, almost like she’s my boss. I told her directly that I don’t appreciate the way she speaks to me, and while she’ll back off for a bit, she’s back at it after a few days.

Yesterday things got even worse. She started provoking me, saying, “You’re making me so nervous because of (ome issue)” so I replied, “You’re letting me make you nervous.” (I meant to say she’s making herself nervous, but I was so frustrated it just came out that way). After that, she started bringing up how men should go to the military “because they need discipline” and, whenever I’d try to stand up for myself, she’d go, “Are you a man or not?” And then she was like “Okay this is part of the training where you are alone in the shift. (because we do those aswell sometimes)” resulting in is finishing 10 minutes later and she know I don’t have regular buses. Didn’t even offer to drive me so I can catch bus faster. Also, One of her coworkers has started joining in, too, making the situation even worse. I’m really not interested in quitting, as there aren’t many other job openings around here, but this is draining me. She is acting like 2000s mean girl lol. At home I have 0 support and mother that is telling me that I have to endure it because every job has people like that. I live in Balkans and I understand they got to know i am gay, by my behavior and they don’t like it that much, I just don’t know what to do.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Any tips for keeping my boundaries without letting them walk all over me?

I (29m) could use some advice about a guy (27m) who I met on bumble and I’ve been talking to. He's giving off mixed signals, and it’s leaving me second-guessing. We’ve been chatting regularly for a few days about shared interests like travel and movies. He seems engaged, sending playful responses, but his reply timing is inconsistent—sometimes he takes a couple of hours, other times longer.

Recently, after we joked about going to the movies, I suggested we actually set a date, and he replied positively. I followed up to plan a specific day, but he left me on "seen" almost 24 hours ago. I’m genuinely interested but don’t want to push. This isn’t the first time he’s left a message unanswered for a while, even though he seems engaged when he does reply.

Anyone else dealt with this? At what point should I step back and see if he initiates?

Recent messages for context:

• Me: "My dream country to visit right now is Japan."
• Him: "Oh, don't forget to take me with you haha. Also, much cheaper to share accommodation!"
• Me: "It would be very lovely!! Hope we have the cinema date before then though!"
• Him: "Hahahah, I hope so too."
• Me: "How about we actually make it happen? Any day you're free coming up?"

Also, I feel like this kind of mixed signal is super common in the gay dating scene, and it’s honestly exhausting. I’ve noticed people start conversations only to disappear, and it’s hard to know who’s genuinely interested. i'd appreciate any advice and thoughts on this :(

I've dated and liked men who still wasn't out of the closet or who were discovering themselves. There is absolutely nothing wrong with either of these things but I will NEVER be romantically or sexually involved with these kind of men again. They will bring you down to the pits of hell and make you sit on satan's lap himself in EVERY aspect... Emotionally, mentally and physically.

I find that these kind of men will use you purely for their gain and benefit, when you no longer serve a purpose in their life they will dispose of you so easily. Throughout the relationship you'd give nothing but your honesty and your kindness and they'll throw it right back in your face.

They dont just hurt other gay/bi men, they hurt women too, I've heard stories where a man will be in a 'committed' relationship with a woman but they will have secret affairs with another man, they'll only be with a woman to purely portray themself as 'straight' to the world.

This isn't targeted towards ALL closeted men but I've been through and heard enough experiences to speak on this topic.

I recently came out as gay for my family last month and they all decided to cut me off. I still struggle with being gay and this only intensifies my huge insecurities as well. I had to flee my city, and now I'm on a secret address. They went into my apartment and wrote down letters hoping for me to come back, and there's a part of me that wishes to return but at the same time, I know it's a trap. Why do I say that? In the religion I was raised in (islam), you'll be stoned for being gay. I don't feel particularly safe around my family due to this, and all I want from them is acceptance but they refuse to do so, even using my little sister to write me a letter in order for me to drop my gayness and become straight again and trust me, I've tried. I just like cock way too much to drop it for pussy lmao. But jokes aside, I'm emotionally stuck and I have no idea on what to do. I hope y'all can provide me advice since I suspect some of you all have gone through similar experiences. Peace

DP plot but make it kinda gay

danny was a normal kid living his normal life till one day he discovered that he was.... this freaked him out was scared but he lived with that side of him eventually. he told his friends and they all told him that they love him and support him and this doesn't make him any different.

his sister suspects his secret until one day she found out that danny was... and protected him from his parents. Danny didn't know that his sister knew and his sister never told him but loved him anyways.

Danny struggled with his newly discovered side and had to deal with beings like him telling him that he's evil but he persevered and came to fully accept his other half. in the end he showed everyone in his life this other side that was kept a secret and the people cheered him on proud of who he has become and his parents embraced him

I wanna expand my underwear wardrobe a bit with some new cool stuff. What are some cool and underrated underwear brands to look into? Brands like Kvrt Stvff, OnTracks, Pump! Are super cool, something like that.

There is pretty much no HIV/AIDS representations on "straight" media,the guy would be whoring out with like 20 women many times unprotected and still NOTHING other than maybe some other STI.but on the other hand in some show/movie the gay guy would get HIV after sleeping with ONE dude.i know maybe its stupid but why are only we're getting HIV trauma,its not like they're not getting infected. I get if the show/movie is set in 80s or something but even the modern ones are the same.

I don’t know if I’m venting, looking for advice, or just throwing thoughts out there. I’m 38 yrs old and have had absolutely zero luck in the dating world (literally no one), and subsequently no sex life either. I decided to put myself out there in the hookup scene and I’ve hooked up with a few guys, purely hookups, and all different experiences (to clarify I’m a bottom). Before actually having sex the idea of being the one to give myself for a top, a release for them is exactly what I wanted, what turned me on. Now, after each time it felt like it just doesn’t do anything for me. And I’m bit confused because I see these beautiful men that range from the fit and toned to the realistic bodies and I definitely find them all to be very attractive and would definitely bottom for them given an opportunity but after these last few times I really feel it’s just not for me.

I know I’m definitely a bottom, the idea of topping or being a side never did anything for me and don’t think I’m asexual. I feel broken, not complete, and confused. I just don’t know…not really sure where to go from here.

Or do you take some time to heal from the attachment first? For my self I kinda wish I could just use it as a tool to help me move on but I know that it's going to backfire and I feel anxious just thinking about it.

Looking for some advice on teeth whitening products to use it by myself.

I do take care of my oral hygiene a lot. I brush twice a day, floss and try to keep it tidy. I also do have oral hygienist appointments every quarter. But apart from all of this, I suffer from quite an inferiority complex about the color of my teeth.

Just wanted to know if you guys have advice for products that you use to keep your teeth white?

Thanks in advance

So I’m pretty new to anal I’ve always experimented but been afraid to go bigger and I finally mustered up some courage and stuck something I’d say around 5-6 inches with good thickness up there and there was blood spilt. Uhhh what should I do to fix this damage or will I be okay?

What’s everyone’s nontradiotnal gay couple. By non traditional I mean the more obscure or not as popular portrayals of a gay couple. Whether it be the being just two normal looking guys or a gay couple that is not often brought up. Mine is Terry and Korvo from Solar Opposites. They’re a gay alien couple who raise two younger clone versions of themselves as a family.

I'm just here venting...

I'm mostly an introvert person. The most when I shouldn't be... A couple of years ago, I met this really nice guy. We only hang out for a couple of hours to be honest, but I think we did enjoy the company of each other. Better than that, there was kind of a "I want to get to know you better" vibe. But, for some damn reason, we never got each other's phone number (just Facebook profiles) and we stopped finding each other (we were briefly working in the same place). So, the connection was gone.

Today, I saw him. Fucking hell, I saw him and suddenly I remembered how nice and cute and exciting it was to talk to him, even if we didn't talk all that much. And I never really forgot that feeling... And I wanted to go talk to him, say hi, this time ask for his phone number... and I couldn't. Not because I didn't want to, I really wanted to, but I'm so fucking shy I didn't know how to start the conversation without sounding desperate or clingy or whatever. And now I can't stop thinking about it.

Also, I think he saw me? I'm not sure, maybe I'm just hoping, but I did see him wandering around too much at some point, and I started wondering if he was trying to talk to me as well...

I don't even think he's gay. He's just a really nice guy who I wanted to get to know and maybe be friends with, I don't have many friends here anyway. I really think I just lost something good here...

Sorry for rambling, I'm just really frustrated. I keep thinking if I'm able to somehow recreate a moment where we meet again, but sounds unlikely. And I'm pretty sure he will not try to contact me... And I have no reason to contact him as well.

So... yeah, fuck me and my stupid shyness. Thank you for giving me the space to vent.

So i hookef up with a guy and his dick was 7 inches. He fucked me real good. I unfortunately felt like having to poop after but i couldnt go since i had to run some errands, and only got to do it after like 2-3 hours. I felt so relieved after.

Now fast forward to today i get home from work and i go to the bathroom and it hurt sooo much to poop and when i wiped i noticed a bit of red on the paper and now im kinda scared. I hope i just strained myself or something. Or it might be that i didnt prep well enough? Or maybe not enough lube since we started with just spit and i suggested lube cause it was hurting a little. And now im a little scared haha... maybe im not the size queen i thought i was

My ex was a rollercoaster to say the least. Battled with drugs (Coke, Meth, Alcohol, Poppers, and more) and had a very compulsive sexual addiction. I tried my best with him, but after repeat episodes of him cheating, lying about drug use, and other breaches of trust - I moved out and separated from him. He begged for me to come back the day before he did it, and I said no. The next day, he was gone.

It's been 6 months, and it feels like my world has shrunk. His family has floated away, l've moved areas, and every potential l've crossed paths with has ended up sinking for a variety of reasons. I'm at the stage where l keep seeing a lot of repeat faces on apps now, and it shows me how small the gay world can be - even in a large place like the Los Angeles/Orange County area.

I know finding love is hard, and even tougher in the gay scene, but l'm hoping some of the older guys in here might be able to help a younger guy in distress find some light here.

Any insight would be appreciated

Hi all,

I’ve posted here a few times in the past, but to sum me up: I’m 28M years-old living in Toronto, ON; I have diagnosed ADHD and PTSD. I work full-time - a pretty stable job. I’m gay, I love to bake and cook. I’m a baby gaymer, and life has generally been pretty rough as of late.

I have recently found myself in a position where I feel like I have lost my community. In a matter of months, all of my close friends (all in different circles) have been going through huge life changes - pregnancy, wars in their home countries abroad, new relationships. All hugely valid reasons for friends to not have the energy to reach out as much, to not keep in touch as much, etc. Obviously I am still in contact with them, offer support when needed. I have accepted that they don’t have the bandwidth to check in on me. I understand, even if it is hard to swallow. Thing is, I understand relationships ebb and flow, but I am keenly aware that there are periods in life where friendships change. Just so happens that all my meaningful friendships changed at once. In essence, I’m feeling fairly lonely.

I am looking to broaden my community, but I tend to be socially anxious. I think I need more queer guy pals - I tend to make friends with only women bc Trauma lol But I’ve done a lot of work on myself and I would like to have guy friends :) I want to put myself out there and meet new people, so I’m hoping for tips and suggestions on how to do that. I’ve spoken with my therapist and she’s happy that I’m looking to meet new folks - she tells me that it’s important to aim for a goal (go out once a week), and to be patient with myself if I don’t make friends right away.

This kind of sounds pathetic lol All in all: what are your recommendations for meeting friends?