I’ve been extremely sick for six days. I woke up this morning feeling almost better, maybe like 80-90%? The wedding is 3 hours away and I would also be staying at my husbands parents house.

I have no idea if I’d be contagious or not at this stage. I would feel severe guilt for not going (and leaving my husband to go alone), but I would feel even worse if I got people sick there.

I also feel like what if it’s rude to not go now that I’m almost at the recovered status?

I need advice on what to do. If I don’t go, I will add a little extra $$ in the card for my dinner.

I'll preface this by saying i'm an idiot. I should've been adamant about remembering the date.

okay, so... it's a black tie wedding. I don't have a tuxedo & i'm pretty sure all of the places near me require you to rent the tuxedo ahead of time. I was a bit surprised I wasn't in the wedding party, but I genuinely don't care. it's a non-issue. me and him still keep in relatively decent contact (maybe once every couple weeks, but we'll have the same in-depth conversations we once had). when he went off to college in another state, we stayed in contact but weren't nearly as close as we once were. i'm in my early 20s if that adds anything.

I am semi-sick right now, but not anything that would prevent me from going by any means (runny nose, thats it). should I drive an hour away to go get a tux rental (hope that they do same-day rentals) & go to the wedding? or should I plead the sick card. pls give me some input. I do feel pretty bad, but on the same note I feel like getting him a thoughtful wedding gift would do fine in my absence.

i look forward to your responses & only have a few hours to make the decision. thanks in advance

Hey! For those who have recently gotten married, are you able to please share how much you roughly paid for your wedding cake and how many guest attended your wedding? Would also be useful to know if you had any fake/faux wedding cake tiers. Thanks!

I’m a British citizen and so is my fiance. We want to get married abroad but we have no clue how it works.

I see a lot of people getting married abroad with a ceremony but I don’t understand how it works. Do they come back to the UK and go to the registry office or go to the registry office before the abroad wedding’?

Is the ‘abroad wedding’ essentially a celebration and not the legal wedding part?

Hope somebody can help, thanks!

My cousin is getting married. She had a bridal shower in April. I did not attend but gave $100 towards a bigger gift (kitchen aid mixer). The following month she had a baby shower. And I also contributed to a larger gift. Her wedding is tomorrow. I honestly thought the point of a bridal shower was to give gifts then so the newly weds don’t have to juggle gifts on their wedding night. But I have read that bridal shower gifts and wedding gifts are different gifts?? I don’t consider myself cheap- but I feel like I gave a really generous gift for the bridal shower and didn’t plan to give for the wedding. We’re not really that close. I personally never had a bridal shower. Idk. Am I an asshole? We’re a very average family and none of us really make a ton of money. It’s an average wedding at a barn venue. I kinda feel bad that I don’t plan to give another gift- but if I had known that I was going to be expected to give a gift at the wedding I wouldn’t have contributed to the bridal shower that I didn’t even attend.. thoughts? Am I over thinking this?

My fiancé and I went to confirm his choice of wedding band today. We went to Jared to try on and we officially landed at a brushed 14k yellow gold, beveled ring that is 7mm width. When priced out it came to around 1230$. I have def seen cheaper rings that are the exact same style for less on Etsy and other local mom and pop jewelers. I’m just wondering if purchasing from Etsy is legit? Is the gold actually real and does it last?

Also, the sales person at Jared told us that they have a lifetime warranty and all rings are made in house which is an extra benefit of buying through them. Will we have to come out of pocket for future polishes, knicks etc for a ring not purchased directly through the dealer? Just basically want to know pros and cons. I have heard bad reviews about Jared in the past.

for fun / just curious!

my wedding is in less than 3 weeks and our cake flavor will be cookie butter crunch, described as: vanilla bean cake, filled with cookie butter swiss meringue buttercream and Biscoff cookie pieces

The wedding is a week away and I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4+ years yesterday.

Me, my ex, the bride, and groom all used to hangout together, but I would say my ex was better friends with the groom than I am with either of the two. We were both invited individually and RSVP'd separately.

I know it's last minute but it's way too soon for me to see my ex and I wouldn't really know anyone else at the wedding so I'm probably going to cancel. Also, I know that some of my ex's other friends will be at the wedding so I'm hoping he goes and has a good time.

How do I handle this? I've never been to a wedding so I have no clue about any etiquette. I'm going to let the couple know of the situation and hope they will understand.

We were planning on giving them money as their wedding gift. I should still give them the gift right? Is there anything else that would be expected of me in this situation?

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for the advice! I talked to the bride and she was completely understanding and sympathetic to the situation. I'll be sending them my gift with well wishes!

Just wanted to share a photo of our dreamy elopement in the autumn mountains. 🍂🖤

I already have the perfect wedding dress and can't wait to wear it in 29 days(!!), but, in looking for a rehearsal dinner dress, I was hoping to find something similar to a runner-up I tried on.

https://preview.redd.it/9r1yvotnnrzd1.jpg?width=1536&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=72279de9c94151ae9478fced51ec561f3f956443

I love the bodice and silhouette of this gown but cannot figure out what keywords to include in my searches to find 'dupes' or similar styles (other than a-line).

I'd like it to be midi, tea, or maxi in length and preferably in a more casual fabric... Any ideas or suggestions for what keywords to include or stores you'd recommend for something like this?

Hi, I was just wondering if I should make any adjustments to my timeline? My wedding day is 4.5 hours long.

5pm ceremony 5:30 cocktail hour 6:30 grand entrance 6:35 first dance 6:45 dinner begins 7:10 speeches during dinner 7:35 cake cutting 7:40 dancing begins

7:40-9:30 dancing 9:30-invite guest to hotel bar and cash bar begins

This gives guests 1 hour and 50 minutes of dancing. Should I make any adjustments? Thank you!

Hi! My husband and I are throwing a big celebration for our 10 year anniversary! I am looking for a silver gown since it is supposed to be “aluminum anniversary” I found a lovely Andrea & Leo Gown but I don’t know what size to order? Has anyone here usted the size chart as reference? I normally don’t have good luck with the charts. Lol Anyone knows if it runs true to the chart? True to size? Small? Thanks!!

Long story short, my husband and I have had an incredibly difficult year since before our wedding and the 8 months following the wedding, and we haven't finished writing/mailed our thank you's as a result of the difficulties we've been dealing with. We had a pretty nontraditional/casual wedding, didn't have a registry, just a honeymoon fund which we made clear was not required by any means.

So my question is, at this point, is it incredibly rude to not send thank you's? We've seen and spent time with a majority of our guests since the wedding and have shared verbal gratitude for their attendance/those who supported our honeymoon fund.

I've had horrific anxiety about the whole thing and just need to know if it's still better to send very late (eight months late) thank you's than not sending them at all?

I had my wedding end of September and it was magical!! But post wedding i got a bad cold and felt relieved and honestly exhausted when it was all over. I love being married but the planning and day of were exhausting. I planned my wedding while working full time as a nurse and going school full time so needless to say I needed a break after my wedding. The day after my wedding my husband and I were going through all the cards we recieved so we could send out thank you notes. I had a card addressed to me from a friend asking me to be her bridesmaid. I was so happy but then realized that I would have to do it all over again this next year. Six days later my best friend got engaged and 2 weeks after that asked me to be her MOH. both their weddings are less then a month apart and I am feeling so burnt out from my own wedding but am trying to be supportive and excited because I know that I will feel better with time. I also feel like I havent even wrapped up my own wedding stuff since I am still waiting for our photos and need to send out thank you notes (waiting for our photos so we can attach the link for our guests). Is it ok to be happy for them but also feel burnt out and wanting a break from all things wedding?

Thinking of using the view point in York for our wedding venue. Has anyone gotten married there, or attended a wedding there. Everything seems to be an extra cost so any insight on cost/ budget would be helpful. Thank you!

Hello! Newly engaged and planning on a 2 year engagement. Reason being to spread out cost after completing graduate school in Fall 2025 and paying back school loans.

I have 5 bridesmaids in mind and I know a few of them aim to get pregnant within the next 3 years and also so many people our age are getting married these years as well.

I was thinking of doing the bachelorette next fall 2025 and the wedding the year after, just so it gives people less financial stress all at once and also in case people are pregnant for one they can enjoy the other. (I plan on paying for much of the bridesmaid expenses and well as bachelorette lodging) Is this a bad idea?

Hello! I'm recently engaged and beginning to plan my wedding. I have two baby siblings (2 and 4) and a baby niece (2) that i would really like to attend my wedding. they are very well behaved and quiet. Unfortunately, there's some other kids in my family who I would really really NOT like to attend my wedding. My cousin has 5 kids all under 7 who receive no discipline whatsoever and are allowed to run wild and do pretty much whatever they want. So I guess I just need suggestions on how to invite only my baby siblings and niece and no one else's kids. I've seen some people say to specify that only named guests are invited, but i think my cousin would read that and just assume her kids are invited as well. I've also seen some people say to specify that only the kids involved in the wedding are invited, but i feel like that wouldn't work, because my 2 year old brother and niece will not be in the wedding, only the 4 year old will be the flower girl. Not looking for criticism, just advice. thank you!

I’m trying really hard to make this short so that I can get advice.

There’s two women in my fiancés family that have accused me of horrible things. They’ve turned the entire family against me and I only have proof to dispute a few things that have been listed.

I’ve been kicked out of fiancés family unless I agree to have a family meeting with all family members and admit to everything even if it’s not true.

Fiancés parents still have me around because they don’t agree with what’s happening.

The wedding is coming up and we were not planning to invite the two women, however his family found out and now do not approve of us getting married unless they are there regardless if things are resolved.

I was warned years ago to not be close with the two women, that they would “ruin my life”, however I saw this as something so ridiculous, because they were very kind when we met.

Fiancé wants to resolve things for his parents but doesn’t want me to have to admit to things I didn’t do. However they keep telling me that if I don’t apologize that it’s gaslighting. I tried fixing things with them but they twisted my words when I’ve talked with them that I have proof of being my fiancé was listening while I had them over. If it wasn’t for that, I would feel insane.

This entire situation has sucked the joy out of engagement and wedding planning, and now I don’t know what to do.

Do we elope? Do I just lie and admit to being an awful person to his family and feel miserable around them for the rest of my life? What is the right move?

Hi, I'm 29F, live in the UK and a lot of my friends have started to get engaged. So multiple weddings are on the cards for 2025-2027. Two are already confirmed. Most of my friends don't know one another so they won't all be at the same weddings. I've started to get anxious about the costs to attend multiple weddings and hen dos in a year on top of my own plans and savings goals. Hen dos have become so expensive!

Last year I was a bridesmaid at one wedding and spent £1k/$1.3k in total for the hen do (bachelorette), hotel near the wedding venue, travel to the wedding, hair, shoes, bridesmaid dress alteration, bridal shower and a wedding gift. I was able to make that work.

However, I'm now saving hard to buy a house with my fiancè and towards my own wedding. If other friends have expensive hen dos abroad or weddings that will cost me a lot to attend - I may have to say no to some. Does anyone have any advice on broaching this if I end up in this situation? I don't want them to think differently of our friendship of I can only attend the wedding and not the hen do due to costs. Weddings are super important to people and I know feelings run high. I've started to save a bit per month towards a wedding/hen do sinking fund to attend friends weddings so the costs are more spread. But even then I wouldn't feel comfortable spending £4k/$5K in one year to attend 4 weddings and hens.

So after a year of searching we finally found a nice hotel we want our reception in. We’re getting married at a church at 4pm so by the time we get to the hotel it’ll be about 6.30pm. We’re having cocktails and canapés and then a sit down meal (with an open bar). Our venue has just told us we’re only allowed acoustic music, and no dancing. I was fine with the music but worried people will be bored with no dancing? We’ll have a band, but is it a bad idea to have no dancing? Venue closes at 11pm, so thinking there won’t be time for dancing anyway? Not sure I can go back to the drawing board of finding somewhere new 😓 They’ll be about 60 people.

It’s only three girls. Bride, maid of honor, and me (bridesmaid). I’m currently in school, so I don’t have that much money. The bride has a lot of money and likes to spend a lot of money, so it’s an expensive trip. It’s also “customary” for the bride to not pay for her trip. This means the maid of honor and I will be costing a lot with flights, accommodations, rental car, dinners, etc. Should the maid of honor and I split everything?

My friend is getting married in June and I am one of her bridesmaids. I just learned that she decided that only people in long term relationships can bring a plus one, which means me and one other bridesmaid who is my friend are the only ones not allowed to bring someone.

Me because I’m in a bit complicated (as in no-label, not troubles in a relationship )relationship that by that time might become serious and her because she started dating someone month ago. The bride said that if by the time the wedding her and the guy she’s dating are really serious then she might reconsider inviting him.

I feel a bit weirded out, because if that happens I’ll be the only one alone and I’m a lesbian so it’s not like I will meet someone there…

Is this normal? Should I maybe talk to her about it?

Edit:

• complicated in a way of just calling it by name, not complicated in a problems in a relationship kinda way. we are happy, adult and in love
• By meet someone I meant to dance with at the wedding, I am serious by my relationship
• In Poland where I’m from people usually dance with their partners
• It’s impossible for me to be married, no same sex laws in my country (and a lot of homophobia)
• bridesmaids in Poland are not a custom, it’s just for pre wedding activities (bachelorette party, dress searching and wearing same coloured dresses)

Hello there, My cousin recently invited me to her wedding in a few months. She is a few years older than me and always likes to say that, 'she is older and thus in charge.' Her and I haven't hung out for several years for that reason, my choice. A little background of us. We come from a vary Catholic family and I left the faith decades ago. I also deal with Alopecia, so I've worn a headscarf since I was 9 to hid the hairless/ keep my falling hair from ending up all over the place. She does not like me wearing it calling it, ' A blight on my soul and a disgrace to the lord!' We are both in our 30's with most of our surviving family members being on the older side. She wants the wedding party to be young and full of life so she asked me to be her Maid of Honour with the caveat that I don't wear a scarf. I initially agreed saying I'd wear a wig instead. It does the same thing a scarf does anyway. She also declined that. Her logic, 'covering my punishment from God for leaving is not what "I" want the new family to see.' I reminded her that my alopecia started when I was 9 and still vary much brainwashed by the church. I want to tell her it's the wig or me not showing up, but I'm not sure if I'm approaching this the right way. Any advice?

Add-on: A thought that came to mind is the short timeframe. Weddings are usually planned a year or more in advance. It leads me to believe that her chosen MOH quit and she needs a replacement quick. I’m going to call and decline after I talk to the fiancé. I’m curious as to how long ago he heard of me.

Update: thank you for all your kind words and support. I spoke with the fiancé this morning before reading them. His family is Jewish. She had to convert to even to start the wedding process. And I was also right about the previous MOH. She dropped after my cousin declined to allow her walk the aisle with her boot after she broke her ankle. I explained why I wouldn't be attending and asked him to pass the message along. I sent the email and screenshots for evidence and blocked her whole side on everything I could think of. I'll update if I get wind of the insanity that happens now.

Hi! Im wondering if its acceptable for my fiance to be at my bachelorette party in costa rica. We dont get to take trips often together and i cant imagine him not there, & dont want to be there without him anyways. We share ALL the same friends. Neither of us have a friend that the other isnt very close with. We have been friends for 7 years and together for 5. Also almost all of our friends are either queer or transgender so were not sure who to invite to each party. We talked about inviting all of our friends to each party and doing them on separate days, but it just wouldnt feel complete without eachother there, especially having a party where all of your friends are and your fiance is alone at home lol. What should we do?