I spent almost 10 years single willingly because I wanted to value first my personal growth. But 3 years ago I felt like all those years came back at my face like a yo-yo. It's terrible being alone. Maybe I forgot how terrible it is not being alone ? Lol

I also have a very few friends I can't meet anymore because of distance.

What are your thought on this ?
How can you cope with the feeling of "not being desired" ?

I wish I could be more social and more friendly towards other. I struggle with dopamine "addiction" too.

curious to know

I (26F) am an INTP, and I have feelings for an ISFP friend (27M) since high school. It has been around 15 years and my feelings for this person hasn't changed. He is really shy (which is common among ISFPs i guess) and never had a girlfriend before. Sometimes, i get a feeling that there might be a little (very little) chance that he might also be into me as he is very comfortable around me (he gets a bit extroverted, jokes around, teases me/makes fun of me, spends time talking to me when we are in a group). However, I learned that that is actually the opposite for ISFPs-- they get more shy and tense around the person they actually like. I observed that he acts this way (shy, tense, doesn't talk to her, can't maintain eye contact) around another girl in our friend group so I think that she's the one he really likes. It actually broke my heart but what can you do hehe you ISFPs are really confusing 🥲

Do you think that I have a chance with him or should I just get over my feelings? 15 years is a pretty long time.

I’ve been exploring this idea for a while, not to stereotype ISFPs but to better understand our diversity through existing frameworks.

Here’s mine: ISFP 4w5 — I was mistyped as INFP and INTJ in the past, but I identify most with the “Artist” archetype.

Feel free to share yours in the comments! Include your Enneagram type with wing and any mistypes you’ve experienced.

Same question with the Socionics types ? Apparently I type SEI more than ESI (in MBTI would translate to ISFJ more than ISFP).

What's yours ?

It seems not very a surprising thing, but I post this in order to remind myself what I have to do, I want to be more focused and prepared well, it would be my geography exam. I need to tell myself need to prepare all the stationary I need. Add oil.

ok so i’ve identified as isfp for a while, however, i have been wondering if i could be an esfp. especially after being diagnosed with anxiety and depression and that im currently undergoing treatment for it, ive been wondering if im actually an esfp instead.

i still can be shy and stuff when it comes to meeting new people, but i feel like im more bolder than before. like i feel like ive kinda always been that way, but its been a little bit subdued. like how i would say or do whatever is on my mind. but now, for example, i make a lot of crass or sexual jokes, and idrc about what others think. i make jokes pertaining to my own race a lot and poke fun at my friends who are also that race. i enjoy singing and dancing loudly in public without caring (for the most part, when around friends mainly). i can be pretty loud sometimes without being aware of it. i can also have the tendency to constantly stare at people or just look at them with a deep gaze without realizing it.

i used to think i was pretty politically correct (bc of my conservative high school) til i came to college and realized how im barely politically correct. my only standards are people just not really using slurs that don’t pertain towards them. i don’t believe that’s okay.

i used to daydream sometimes when i was younger. i can still be like that sometimes, and can be absentminded.

i don’t like conflict and drama, so i tend to kinda avoid it. just recently someone bad mouthed me, but idrc enough to actually get into it and i’d rather not deal with all that. i have also wondered before if i was a burden to others and if people hate me.

i’ve wanted to make a difference in this world since i was 12 and still aspire to do so.

I wish the world was better and I try to make it better. Do you relate ? Do you think ISFP are the true realistic idealist ?
How do you think we compare to INFJ or INFP ?
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I’m curious about this. I’ve seen people typology related subs propose that ESTJ’s are most attracted to ISFPs, and I’m trying to figure out which type ESTP’s are most into.

As an isfp, i've often read that isfps should choose creative and laid-back jobs, which does make sense since we often are creative and chill. But i actively decided against a creative job, partly because i didnt want to force myself to be creative and make money off of it.

I am at uni now (med school) where i currently have to study a lot of science and just plain facts, and i couldnt help but question if it was really the right choice, since i dont have that much time to use my creativity in my free time and since its not something where you can bring your own personality into. Also, other people around me seem to be much more science oriented, productive and strict. I still dont want to change my career choice and i like what im doing, but i am feeling a bit out of place.

My question is: are there other isfps in non creative jobs and what are your experiences with it? Can you relate to feeling like you chose a "difficult path" instead of what comes natural to you?

(edit: ik that not all ispfs are creative but i still feel like i havent seen many ispfs in medicine or similar jobs)

asking just out of curiosity

edit: were you born 💀 ........my bad okay don't look at me i didn't create english lmao

This should be an INFP thing to daydream and widly think of different Interpretations/theories. Now while i am fully ISFP, in this case i actually do daydream a lot and have a really wide inner world in which i consider lots of world problems, fictions etc. Can someone also relate to it?

Source: https://vultology.com/database/?type=FiSe&development=

The Fi function is on a quest to find the living principles lying at the core of the universe and nature, and to live in harmony with these ideals. This journey unfolds internally, guided by a profound connection to a deeper, often spiritual, essence that leads them towards the authenticity of their true selves. This includes removing internal emotional distortions that dissalow them from being well attuned to the divine spirit residing within them. As they search, many Fi users find in their core something raw, wild and untamed, leading them embody that nature in idiosyncratic artistic expressions.

ISFPs (Standard)

• Alice Kristiansen*(American singer-songwriter)
• Björk*(Icelandic singer-songwriter and composer)
• Cher(American singer and actress)
• Diana, Princess of Wales*
• Dua Lipa(Albanian singer-songwriter)
• Kate Bush*(English singer-songwriter and record producer)
• Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis*(Former First Lady of the United States)
• Janet Jackson*(American singer-songwriter and actress)
• Joni Mitchell*(Canadian-American singer-songwriter and multi-instrumentalist)
• Madonna*(American singer-songwriter and actress)
• Marilyn Monroe*(American actress and model)
• Marina Abramović(Serbian performance artist)
• Molly Nilsson(Swedish singer-songwriter and musician)
• Prince*(American singer and multi-instrumentalist)

ISFPs with developed Se (Sensualists)

• Angel Olsen(American singer-songwriter)
• Aubrey Plaza(American actress and comedian)
• Eva Holbrook(Singer and multi-instrumentalist)
• Fernanda Pistelli(Brazilian musical artist)
• Francesca Eastwood(American actress and model)
• Holly Henry*(American singer-songwriter)
• Jonna Jinton(Swedish vlogger)
• Lana Del Rey(American singer-songwriter)
• Megan Fox(American actress)
• Miranda Kerr*(Australian model)
• Natalia Osipova(Russian ballet dancer)
• Natalie Portman(Israeli-American actress)
• Winona Ryder(American actress)

ISFPs with developed Ni (Occultists)

• Zeena Schreck(American musical artist and spiritual leader)

ISFPs with developed Te (J Polarized)

• Freya Allan(English actress)
• Sharon Gannon(Yoga instructor and animal rights advocate)

ISFPs with developed Se and Ni (P Heavy)

• Max Cooper(Musical artist)

ISFPs with developed Se and Te (Realizers)

• Adam Lambert(American singer)
• Anna Sawai(Japanese actress)
• Bill Kaulitz(German singer-songwriter)
• Billie Joe Armstrong(American musician and actor)
• Blawan(British DJ and record producer)
• Christina Aguilera(American singer-songwriter and actress)
• Essie Davis(Australian actress and singer)
• Paris Hilton(American television personality)

ISFPs with developed Ni and Te (Meritocrats)

• Sven Marquardt(Bouncer and Berlin cultural icon)

ISFPs with developed Se, Ni, and Te (Fully Conscious)

• Marion Cotillard(French film actress)
• Sasha Grey(American actress and model)

I mean Intuition moments, for example in movies, concerning people etc... where you guess the intention of people very accurately, or you guess the plot of the movie or characters etc.

For me, it happens all the time, almost every time. It extremely natural for me (which is why I typed as an intuitive most of the time, and it's why I still have some doubts today but anyway).

I’ve been in denial for a long time about being an ISFP. When I first tested as one, I thought, ‘Oh, the artist? That’s so me,’ but I dismissed it because it felt too simple. Intuitives like INFPs seemed cooler, more profound, and I wanted to align with that image. Especially as I considered a career change, I felt insecure about being ‘smart enough’ and thought being an intuitive might make me feel more confident. Deep down, though, I knew I was avoiding the truth.

As a 4w5, I’ve always felt misunderstood. I live deeply in my own world, and my struggles with communication make it hard for people to see the depth of what I’m trying to express. On top of that, sometimes I feel like I have unhealthy Fi, where I get stuck in my own emotions and lose perspective, which only makes me doubt myself more.

Now, I see there’s so much depth to being an ISFP. It’s not just about being ‘the artist’; it’s about living authentically, creating meaning through experience, and expressing myself in ways that feel true to me. I want to embrace this fully and become the best version of myself, but I realize I need help. If anyone has advice on nurturing creativity, staying true to my values, or balancing living in the moment with planning for the future, I’d love to hear it.

Meaning your clothes, hairs, nails etc everything you can think about.

Are you very looking on other person appearance too ?

I don't feel very caring for my clothes or such. I more into natural beauty, symmetry etc

So my Dad thinks Im an ISFP and hes been obsessively watching videos about it.

(1. My Dad assuming I dont like deep conversations.)

We watched one and the Narrator said "ISFP's have a hard time thinking abstractly/theoretically, you'll see ISFP's talking more about a sunset than the multiverse, for example." My dad heard that, yelling "YOU'RE DEFINITELY AN ISFP ____!" Ironic cuz I used to talk all about stuff like the multiverse, even to strangers and I stopped BECAUSE everybody wasnt interested. I know not ALL ISFP's are uninterested in deep talks, its just everyone around us thinks we're not interested. If no one understands my bluntness ill just have to show them through art... wait nevermind they dont see the depth wtf do I do?!!! Honestly wish I was an INFJ, they are considered the "deep" ones and evidently good at getting people to talk about in depth topics with em.

(2. My dad thinking Im good at staying in the present which im not and im not easy going either.)

Not good at staying in the moment, in fact I JUST started trying to stay in the present, Im either completely in space 87% of the time or the extremely down to earth. I think it has to do with DPDR, though who knows, and for goodness sakes IM NOT EASY GOING IN THE SLIGHTEST. My dad is just comparing how I am this week (Which was a pretty calm week.) to the test and not my overall nature.. *sigh*

(3. My dad assuming I dont want to be a leader to cause change.)

And lastly, it's truly funny how he thinks Im perfectly fine with life and how it is, that I dont want anything to change, not like theres anything wrong with that, but for me I am very passionate about changing this world in a big way, even though I am someone who sticks to the "behind the scenes" I REALLY want to be at the for front of change.

So, in conclusion my dad is probably going to misunderstand me even more and keep repeating "No dont get that nonart job that is related to one of your other interests, YOU ONLY LIKE ART DANG IT!"

What do you do best ?

What do you feel you need to do in life ?

What would you do if you had no limits ?

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I hate planning with passion, just thinking abt it makes me anxious.

it's so hard for me to sit and think about working on goals, it feels tedious & i end up just doing whatever is in front of me, like cleaning or organising but I'm aware I'm only distracting myself w sensory activities that gives me false sense of control to avoid any mental burden that comes w planning.

idk for me it's hard to visualise future, even harder to work towards it...like doing laundry rn makes sense, u get up and do it..Boom clean clothes + one less task to do... INSTANT RESULT! and a very concrete one, i like that bt long term achievements get very blurred in my mind, I feel disconnected and disinterested in attaining them.

I used to be decent at it? bt i took a critical acadmic hit once in my life and my confidence haven't rly recovered from that, it feels like i cannot trust myself w my future and so I don't even bother, just surviving doing whatever i can in the present and avoiding thinking ahead is my go to

Today smn said to me "if u don't start taking control of ur life, someone else will" ...insert panik emoji I'm so frustrated w having to plan but I want to start doing it despite fear and anxiety

pls let me know how do y'all as ISFPs (or non ISFP) go about it??! 🙏

I am an infj and I have seen this from a few close isfp. Any clue as to what goes on in your minds when you act this away?

I relate a lot to ISFP. But many people also see me as INFP or ISFJ (for some reasons).

How do you relate to Extroverted Sensing ?
How do you consider Introverted Sensing ?

What is a deal breaker difference between ISFP / INFP ?

Also INTP but I'm pretty sure of my high Fi. Even if I'm really good at logic

I really like this girl and we are friends and I at least want to get along better and be better friends but it just so hard and I have tried everything and I know this is considered a conflict relationship with ENTP and ISFP but she with in my close group of friends so I can’t just get away from her so I have to figure out a way to be a better friend to her and for her to hopefully treat me better. So anyway I have know this girl since high school through my other friends and when I met her I welcomed her into my friend group and I did have to much trouble with her but later on I noticed that she didn’t like me much and would sometimes give me mean look and I didn’t even know what I did and at the time I liked her a little but I had huge crush on another girl so I didn’t invest too much thought into it but now her and my friends all go to the same college and after a gap year I joined last semester earlier and throughout the semester grew to like her but we would still have many ups and downs and while we definitely have a much better understanding of each now and we are much closer there is still a lot of distance between us and we will get in little arguments and I will eventually apologize and many times she will also apologize ( which ngl I think is really cute) but also a lot of times she will ignore me be and not even give what I would consider basic respect and curiosity and yes she is a normally a quite and blunt person but she clearly treats everyone else better and I will make a joke she won’t laugh but a few minutes later she hears the same or similar joke from someone else and she laughs and I think she also looks down on me a lot just because she is really smart and even smarter than me academically at the least and are friend group is all academics and I am just worst of them even though most people would consider me very smart. But anyway she isn’t all bad and she can be a very sweet girls who seemingly cares about me like when I get hurt she wants to make sure I am okay and makes sure I clean any open wounds ( and I get hurt a lot being a gym rat with hobbies in martial arts) or she will sometimes want to cook with me if I have an idea or she has fixed my clothes for me and helped me with my homework because she is a really good teacher and sometimes she will be sweet in other ways. So anyways I would love or here some advice and experiences and feel free to ask me follow up questions I just want to do all I can to get along with her but I also can’t act like someone else even though I am sure as an ENTP I give her many problems as well but anyway I just want to have some ideas on how to better go about dealing with her in the future with the next semester starting in a few days Ps sorry for the super long rant and I am sure my punctuation is horrible lol

Do you relate ?

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And how it manifests in intj and isfp