Outside of sweatpants and jeans the only casual lower wear I have is like basketball shorts. I really don't want to wear basketball shorts anymore but I don't think I'm ready for stuff like short shorts or leggings yet. Is there anything else you girls would recommend?

Hey, folks…I have my first ever appointment with an endocrinologist this week and while I am excited, I am also a bit nervous.

Are there things that I should be asking them?

Are there things I SHOULDN’T be talking about?

I’ve read the Gender Dysphoria Bible and other resources (frankly, what I read just got me more excited about starting on estrogen, tbh). I just want to make the most of this opportunity/appointment.

Many thanks in advance for advice and encouragement.

I am non-binary and I have been on estrogen for about 6 months and a week ago I had my first full body orgasm. It was amazing!

I was using a hitachi magic wand primarily on my frenulum and I was masturbating for a long time before it happened. I have been trying to replicate it since but haven't had any luck so far.

I have been trying to find advice but mostly I see people saying to use the wand on my prostate but that hasn't gotten me close at all, I haven't found prostate stimulation to work great for me. I can't find anyone that has used a vibrator on their penis like I did.

Has anyone had similar experiences with getting a full body orgasm in a similar way or has any advice on how to get it to happen again?

Four years ago I'd started trying to get feminine clothing, as well as pursuing HRT, but there were complications.

These days I don't really care much about transition except for getting on HRT. I just feel so defeated that nothing else matters, but I'm not actively pursuing any transition as a result of that defeat. I don't even wear gender clothes anymore.

I don't see myself being able to get back on track anytime soon sadly.

Anyone else who, for any reason, has just stopped transitioning? If yes, how do you cope with that?

So I want to know how likely our friendship gets damaged if I confess to my friend and she rejects me (I can't know yet would she reject me 100% but I would want to hear how likely it would end up badly.). I have had this crush on her since the last summer. I thought it started fading and I'm over it but nope. I met her today and it brought these feelings back so strongly. I like her so much and I miss her so much when I have to be without her.

We are both trans women and we see each other in trans meetings pretty much monthly. We also chat on Discord sometimes. We always talk so much when we meet. Even if she talks with me quite much and often comes to sit next to me there I think she just views me as a friend. I wouldn't want to risk our friendship because she is a good friend but I have romantical feelings for her and can't get over her. I just would want to tell her how much I like her, how beautiful she is, how much she matters to me (as a friend also)... I just would want to hug her and tell her how awesome she is and how much I always miss her. I just hope everything good for her. I see such a beautiful young girl in her.

Today she came to sit next to me there again and the whole time we were there I just felt like I would want to hug her so much. I like her so much and I would want to make her feel so good. It is hard not to say too many nice things to her. I have said so many nice things to her what at least I would want to hear as a trans woman. Things that would make me feel so good and sometimes euphoric. It is hard not to drown her in such things. Most of them are genuine compliments because I really see her that way. I always confort her if she is feeling dysphoric or help if she needs help etc. The thing that matters to me is that she feels good. I would want to tell her so I can at least get over her but I don't want to damage our friendship.

Okay I can't get over her but I don't want to lose our friendship if things go wrong. What should I do?

Hi! Today i had my 3 months check up for hrt, i was expecting a dose bump but my doctor told me to keep taking the same dose, that being 2mg estradiol valerate and 50mg spironolactone a day.

For reference my initial levels were:

e : 75.3 pg/ml

t: 7.4 ng/ml

And the 3 month test results:

e : 45.9 pg/ml

t: 5.5 ng/ml

So yeah, i was a bit worried and everyone that i ask tells me that my dose is too low. What do you think?

I'm so happy!! :) ...

For a long time, I felt so hopeless that I would never master voice feminization & that I would never pass.
I started with a deep & booming voice; I thought I could never do a good fem voice.
Practice, practice, practice; one day, it just clicked for me, & now I can do it more & more consistently; & I'm on a streak of finally passing now, even with a masc/andro style, super short hair, little to no makeup, & while being very tall!

This might sound silly, but I'm building up the confidence to start using gendered restrooms. I'm fucking terrified, but if I can keep this streak of passing for a while, I'm kinda excited.

Love you, guys/gals/pals!! YOU CAN DO IT! 💕

🥰 🫶 🩵 🩷 🤍

Asking this question because I'm really insecure about my shoulder width being 17 inches and really just want them to be 15.5 inches at least. I measured my shoulder width and my bone width, and my bone width is around 15 inches! Im really curious to see how much shoulder width people like me lost after their transition

I've made noise music myself in the past, been dying to get back into it, and, I'm noticing more and more that the other transgirls I've been meeting/talking with fuck with noise music. What's wrong with us?

I'm trying to get to the bottom of this or just like hearing other theories.

Haii girls. I am having a bit of a dilema. I need more panties and need to figure out what style would be the best fit. I have hipster style but they like to slip about halfway down my butt. >.<

OK ladies. Two questions. For context I've been on hormones for just shy of 2 years. My levels have been good for for the last 9 months or so.

1. Did you see areola growth after your initial breast growth?

• my breaststroke have grown quite a bit and seem to have settled. My areolas grew some as well but have remained pretty small. I am a ginger, so thoughtit might just be that. But not sure if it's normal for them to keep growing.

2. My genitals smell like female genitals now.

I have read about smell down there changing but am not sure to what extent is normal. I have pretty good hygiene and shower typically at least once per day and sometimes twice. I don't think I have a utility or anything. I'm just a little surprised that my groin smells that much now. Maybe it's just a woman thing. I don't remember pre transition ever going to the bathroom and noticing smell but now most the time I go to pee I'm noticing the slight musky/fishy smell.

OK ladies. Two questions. For context I've been on hormones for just shy of 2 years. My levels have been good for for the last 9 months or so.

1. Did you see areola growth after your initial breast growth?

• my breaststroke have grown quite a bit and seem to have settled. My areolas grew some as well but have remained pretty small. I am a ginger, so thoughtit might just be that. But not sure if it's normal for them to keep growing.

2. My genitals smell like female genitals now.

I have read about smell down there changing but am not sure to what extent is normal. I have pretty good hygiene and shower typically at least once per day and sometimes twice. I don't think I have a utility or anything. I'm just a little surprised that my groin smells that much now. Maybe it's just a woman thing. I don't remember pre transition ever going to the bathroom and noticing smell but now most the time I go to pee I'm noticing the slight musky/fishy smell.

I’ve had a breast bud in my left breast for around 2 weeks or so and its definitely growing but the other side doesn’t have the bud yet, is that common? How long does it take to get the other breast’s bud after the first comes in?

OK so I'm a 20 year old nb / transman my partner (22) is outward presenting as a cis man but they've expressed to me that they wish they were born as a woman. They said they don't think they'll transition because it seems too hard and they're still tryna figure everything out. They will wear skirts and stuff around me and asked to be referred to as she / her every now and then but I want to do anything I can to help them. Any advice? I've bought them make up and stuff just to put on when they're around me, I want to support them without forcing them to transition but my experience as a trans person is obviously very different both because I'm afab and because I came out at 13. (they also said they were worried I wouldn't like them anymore if they did transition because I'm a gay man but I have assured them that I love them for who they are and as an nb transman something like gender and transitioning would never be a reason for me to break up with them). Sorry for the long post, I just want to help them in any way I can but ik they're scared. Much love to yall.

For all the gay ladies ,here's a question from a trans questioning teen, How did u know you were a lesbian and not faking it???

Hi ! So, I have known I'm trans for around 3 years now, with most of it being small steps towards social transitioning and trying to accept and understand myself better.

Since I started HRT a few months ago, I started to take more firm steps towards social transitioning and now that I'm called by my chosen name, Charlotte, more often, it feels awkward. It feels too strong and flashy (specially since it's not a common name around here at all), when I'm more quiet and shy type of person. Back then I believed it was just an extension of me being embarrassed about the fact I'm trans and that I would "grow" into it like I did with other stuff, even after I lost much of the shame around my transness, the name still feels awkward.

I've been thinking a lot about changing it to Júlia: it's cute, it's common around here, it's a nod towards my dead name and I don't feel the same awkwardness with it. But on the other hand it feels odd to change it after years using another name, specially since I heard it's easier to be taken seriously when you stick with a name and pronouns since the start, and a more personal thing, but I'm afraid that if I change now I will end up changing it again and again in a flux of indecision or something.

Has any of you passed through a similar struggle ? Any advice is appreciated !

After I came out to my mom and older brother and with them being fully supportive, I've decided to move out of Missouri to be with them in Oregon. I was told that there was a large community of lgbtq+ individuals that would support me in my transition and I'm both happy and anxious in taking a plane to Oregon. My flight is scheduled for the 29th of this month so if anyone has any words of encouragement for me taking a major step in my transition I will be appreciative to all of my trans brothers and sisters.

My doc said once I get my orchi, erections will become very difficult. I currently take Spiro and estrogen patches, and I'm on Cialis for erections. At the moment they're weaker, but still happen.

Other trans-fems...what has been your experience with erections post orchi? Does Cialis (or equivalent) help?

#rightofpassage I got the message from reddit from the haters. It’s so funny because I only post legitimate positive comments and things. I am fully LOL about this because I have never been in a better mental health place than the last 6-12mo. I am successful and am making great strides and am grateful to this community showing me things like this are just trolling. I love my sisters out here 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🫶🫶

Just recently discovered thru meditation honestly that-that’s whats been causing my agoraphobia. Don’t have any insurance to see a therapist so self-help videos helps me to be seen…but I don’t wanna feel like I have to be perfect to leave the house. Nor do I feel like I have to be afraid to be confrontational about my pronouns let alone prove why tf I’m me (and I love being me 🏳️‍⚧️) but it just feels embarrassing showing up as me esp when my dysphoria kicks in & tells me I’m everything I’m not, and it doesn’t help I’m petite with 32A/B breast 😅 but ik some of my sisters feel the same way, and I need some sisterly love 🥹💞

I'm feeling a dysphoria about my body and face. To counter that how do our beautiful sister deal with it?

And I think it's because of my mom?? Which feels really bad because I love her, and she loves me, and she wants what's best for me and isn't transphobic at all.

For context, I'm a 15 year old mtf (obviously), pre everything

Apparently it's really common to experience dysphoria without noticing, so I'm just I've had that before, but right now it's different, because I am very much aware, and it's much worse. I just came out to my parents less than a week ago. They told me that they love me no matter what, are supportive, and just want what's best for me. But about 2 hours ago, I asked my mom about the doctors appointment my parents said they would make (to talk about getting hrt). She kept asking me 'Are you sure about this?' and she told me that she believes me, but it doesn't really make sense to her yet, because she never saw any signs when I was younger.

She also told me that she doesn't want me to change, because I am amazing the way I am. And she's scared of losing her son. I tried to tell her that

1. We're in the Netherlands, so I'll have like 3 years to change my mind when on the waiting lists if I'm suddenly 'not sure' anymore
2. She won't lose her child, she won't have a son anymore, technically never did. (To which she frowned and told me that that's not true). And I won't change a lot as a person.

What I told her didn't seem to do much tho. She still asked me to give her and my father some 'space to think and process everything' which I don't really understand tbh.

Right now, I am feeling really bad about everything, I'm scared I'll never be a girl, my parents won't see me as a girl (even though I know that's not true). And the fact that I'll have to wait so long for hrt while my body is masculinizing. And I guess I just feel bad in general, without much reason. And I just know that I won't live a good and successful and happy life, ever.

I'm sorry for kind of just complaining, even though I shouldn't complain because I'm actually quite lucky. I just feel really bad, and it's my fault, more than my mom's, or parents'. So sorry for that

I've really wanted to go on estrogen for a while but I'm overweight and while I am losing its too slow for comfort (like 15 pounds in 5 months, and I need like fucking 80 more to get to 130 😭😭😭) so I'm scared I'd have to wait until early twenties (I'm 16 right now) when it'd be uncomfortably late instead of being able to as soon as I am out of the care of my parents and its made me miserable

I wrote this up for my other social media profile but I feel like this will get more traction and I’ll hear more of other peoples opinions.

I’m starting to realize after a few years transitioning that maybe I wasn’t very attracted to women to begin with and I more so just wanted to look like them.

I am still attracted to women in some small capacity but it’s nowhere near as much as it used to be since I sorta just live the same life and people treat me the same as any other woman.

I don’t really have much to envy anymore outside of the usual “oh she’s really pretty I wish I was that skinny so I could wear that outfit” or whatever.

I used to be in that camp where every girl I was friends with was at some point a potential girlfriend until they started treating me like one of their gay guy friends or a girl friend and I sorta just naturally fell into that role very easily.

That being said I don’t have a STRONG opinion about men either with the exception of my boyfriend but I think that mostly comes down to the fact that we have both an emotional connection and a physical one. We both had met playing world of Warcraft, a game I play VERY regularly… we share common interests and he was there for me during one of the worst years of my life and continues to be there while I get over my traumas and heal from them.

Idk if anyone has any similar experiences let me know.

I can't take it anymore. It's been months and months that I try to be happy with my gender. I always try to accept by body and how everybody sees me, but I feel like I'm gonna explode. I came out to some close friends, but they never and will never see me as a girl. I have long hair, shaves twice a day and wears a jacket that belonged to my mom, but I am nothing like what I want to be. I can't have more feminine clothes than this jacket, my face is ugly and I have body hair everywhere. I can't have help from my transphobic parents, so I try to accept my birth gender that I can't stand. I think I should give up everything, I have no idea how to be myself.

Sorry to have wasted your time if you just read that, I just wanted to write what I kept to myself since months, and maybe have some kind of support.

Hey People!

I (mtf, 24, german) am searching for a name. My old name is Christoph. I would like my feminin name to start with a ch/k sound but i am very uncreative. So pls give me some Ideas :)

The only name i could think of is Kaya Other than that i am thinking about "flora" because i love plants and my friends call me 'the plant guy'

Thx in advance <3

edit: spelling

Hi <3

Im currently overseas and have 4 month left to have a passing voice, before I need to go home. Also from September on I want to finally life fully as Female only. Official Name change is also incoming :))

I just can't do this boy mode shit any more, which I have to do even now and when I can't get my voice passing by mid Sept '24.

So I have a big motivation, but are absolut untalented in voice training. Other girls watch YouTube tutorials and that works for them. For me not..

I need exercise which which I can repead until I made it, than move on to the next sound.

Is there a video where there not talking a half an hour about vocal length, pitch, resonance and so on. BUT actually have the focus on practising and progress?

I've already lost 2 month due to a sore in my throat... Stl not great.. :!

• are there actually practise videos on Youtube?
• what app do u use where it's more visible than just the pitch (if this is nessesary)
• any helpful tipps are very welcome.

THANK YOU <3

SHORT: I basically need a Crashcourse with focus on exercise for dummy's. 4 month time to pass.

Okay, this being cold sh*t ALL of the time on E has got to stop!

I went on a short trip this past weekend — 80°-90° outside with heat on in the car — my feet were FREEZING!

I’ve always been extremely hot natured.

🙃🙃🤪🤪😔😔

So finally got the perception from my doctor, but only Spiro, he said that it's normal to be on blockers for a month or 2 before starting Estrogen. Is this normal process?

I'm currently in college and working a part-time job that's not customer-facing. I worked at a few other places that were very customer-service heavy, and I kinda miss that. On top of that, my current job is getting to be a little long in the tooth.

I've been wanting to find a job as a legal assistant or something similar, but I'm not sure how to handle all that gestures broadly. I've been on HRT for like 4 years but am still forced to boymode because I live in an abusive home situation (another story for another day). My hair is grown out, but I still present very neutral. Unfortunately, my style has become sweats and teeshirts because they're less bad than masc stuff and more acceptable than femme stuff. Getting gendered correctly is usually a 50/50 shot.

I'm curious, at this point, how it's best to handle this stuff when looking for a new job. I'd like to wear something presentable that's gender-neutral. I'd like to go in there and be fantastic and not have to talk about any of this. I would appreciate some help in terms of how it would be best to do this. Thank you all so much insert blahaj hugs