So this is super normal for trans ppl ik but I hat can’t get over how ugly I feel allllll the time. Like at work for example, people don’t tend to gender me at all and if they do it’ll be he/him unfortunately… I see myself as more nonbinary and I’m on HRT and stuff but getting called a man or brother or anything sets me off and idk how to get over that yk. I always feel like the people who’d wanna hookup with me are lying too, like there’s no way in hell this many random men find me hot in any way.

MAYBE I’m crazy but between hookup people saying I’m pretty and customers at work misgendering me, it’s really confusing and makes it feel like anybody who likes anything about my body is lying. I’m sure this is normal but I’m really sick of crying about it all the time. I can’t change my fucking skeleton. I’m not asking for much I just hate the looks and the staring, it makes me feel so worthless ig. I’ve never just started at someone when I didn’t know what to call them like it’s not that hard. Also I live in the Bible Belt soooo that’s not helping. Might start wearing a mask to work ngl.

This was super al over the place but yeah… how do you cope with not being able to fit into the cishet Eurocentric beauty standard for femininity?

(Reposting what I said in the r/Trans subreddit)

Hi! This was something I wanted to make recently with the rise of transphobia obviously getting worse. But as college interfered with my personal life again, I stopped having the time to work on this document. And with time being something that is too vital, and with the erasure of trans people already in U.S. government websites, I think it's better to release a sort of messy list that still gets a point across rather than a clean and clearer list that is no longer relevant and with the damage already being done. I also believe at the end of the day, what matters most is just getting information across so YOU can use it! :D

Some things:
- I AM NOT A BIOLOGIST.
- Bold = sources I have read, non-bold = sources I haven't read. I'm confident in the facts I say with the bold ones but take the non-bold points with a grain of salt.
- As per the rules, I know I mainly list binary trans people (and some mentions of intersex people here) but I hope the main thing you take away is not "oh wow, I feel excluded because you didn't mention much about non-binary people" for example but rather "wow, there is so much to sex it's impossible to use strictly one marker to define people in one category so therefore, gender is a spectrum because sex is and me or some people might define themselves closer that way."
- Most of the top resources are scientific journals or YouTube videos and news articles from experts. Further down, it gets less professional because the topics stop being related to biology and in the very bottom, the sources become very informal and are anecdotes from other people. I still believe everything is important enough to warrant sharing but (like with everything you read online) do take things with some grain of salt.
- Because this resource guide is unfinished, the grammar will be terrible, citations will be messy, and the language might be less formal. Again, at this point, I just want the idea to get across.
- Sources with brackets my summaries on what the source says. You can tell the contrast with the sources I have read and the ones I don't.

If someone wants to correct a point I mentioned, share the list, wants me to add a point, or even make a better resource guide (if you have the ability, more than anything, I would love that), PLEASE DO!

With all the talk out of the way, feel free to use this list however you like and use whatever is relevant to you! :D Anyone

Trans Biology (General; Skeletons, Muscles):

- https://www.nature.com/articles/518288a Ainsworth, C. Sex redefined. Nature 518, 288–291 (2015). https://doi.org/10.1038/518288a (Biologists believe there is more to sex than a binary system such as chromosomes, genitals, secondary sex characteristics, and gonads. First page talks about chromosome variation in cells. 2nd page talks about gene influencing gonad production such as WNT4 making XY people develop atypical gonads and genitals while a deactivated Foxl2 gene switched support in mice from egg production to sperm production. Page 3 elaborates with sex variation such as a 70 year old father having a womb or deceased women having XY chromosomes found in their b brain. Because of all of this, gender is a spectrum because sex is. “In other words, if you want to know whether someone is male or female, it may be best just to ask”)

- https://academic.oup.com/icb/article/63/4/891/7157109?login=false Integrative and Comparative Biology, Volume 63, Issue 4, October 2023, Pages 891–906, https://doi.org/10.1093/icb/icad027(It mainly looks at examples of animal sex to prove how sex is comprised of many variations that aren’t binary (regardless of it being an exception to the rule of commonality in sex) and how arguments otherwise are flawed before going over three case examples that prove why this framing is flawed. The first case example it provides goes over how birds like Jacanas for example have varying sex traits everywhere from genetic, to hormonal, to gonadal, to neurological/behavioural (furthermore, goes on to explain how larger jacanas are intended to reproduce while floater ones can’t). The second example goes over how some animals are classified with multiple sexes. Third example goes over why this binary understanding is restrictive on understanding sex. It also mentions how it interferes with our understanding of people too (culture influences our thinking which influences how we view the world) and how a restrictive view on sex is harmful for the biological realties of trans people and bills passed have been based on this misunderstanding (even though regardless, sex should not dictate how trans people should live). Not just that but this misunderstanding has been harmful for women and other minorities in the past and also isn’t actually helpful in science for ecologists and evolutionary biologists and our understanding of biology overall (it goes over how an unrestricted view of sex allows us to understand fungus evolution better for example). “Once we detach our assumptions of binary sex classifications, we can ask more expansive questions such as ‘how does variation within and among these sexual traits shape ecological and evolutionary processes?’”)

- https://www.scientificamerican.com/blog/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/ Stop Using Phony Science to Justify Transphobia (Basically argues that sex is not not binary either. Mentions how there is also people with X and XXY chromosomes and how even people with XX and XY can have opposite sex gonads. Mentions outside of generalizations, there isn’t really a male or female brain per say and that even so, trans people with those generalized values are closer to their cis counterparts. Finally mentions that hormones are also diverse. Because there are many biological markers to sex, biology isn’t a helpful indicator for gender identity.)

- https://youtu.be/szf4hzQ5ztg?si=L8GODO4Bnvn2p4KN (Biologist backs up the idea of sex not being strictly defined by any one trait. Cites over +200 sources at the end of the video)

- https://youtu.be/8QScpDGqwsQ?si=JCCH-Sd9CL-qh3LU Neuro-biology of trans-sexuality : Prof. Robert Sapolsky (Robert Sapolsky, a neuroscientist, talks about the neurobiology of trans people and how their brain size matched closer to the sex of their gender identity than as their birth sex even when unaffected by hormone replacement therapy. Furthermore, he mentions how when trans woman lose their penises, they don’t feel any phantom sensation like cis men do who lose theirs)

- https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jne.12562 Roselli CE. Neurobiology of gender identity and sexual orientation. J Neuroendocrinol. 2018; 30:e12562. https://doi.org/10.1111/jne.12562 (Further proves the neurobiology of trans people along with gay people through pre-natal hormone environment that is unchangeable around adulthood. Testosterone plays a role in behavioral sex differences. Outside of fringe family studies, there is no CLEAR support for genetic factors making someone have their gender identity but rather, most support indicates it stems from hormones. Goes over David Reimer's tragic case and how, being born male and forced to live as a girl, caused him serious dysphoria to end his life. How trans people’s neurobiology are similar to the sex of their gender identity. In terms of sexual orientation, conversion therapy doesn’t change orientation. Genetic information, social goals, and hormones all play a role in sexual orientation. For genetic information in particular, a gene called “Xq28”, and Chromosomes 7 and 8 might contribute to homosexuality in gay men (although this has been criticized). Women with congenital adrenal hyperplasia were more likely to act masculine and be homosexual. People who have cloacal exstrophy typically adopt a male gender identity even if surgery and their body makes them female (also almost all of them were attracted to women). More siblings also contribute to someone being homosexual. Furthermore in neurology for gay people, the “third interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus (INAH3)” is smaller compared to heterosexual men but similar to other homosexual men and women. Ring and index finger size also contribute to sexual orientation. “prenatal and neonatal exposure to testosterone causes male-  typical development (masculinisation), whereas female-typical development (feminization) occurs in the relative absence of testosterone.”)

- https://www.amsterdamumc.org/en/spotlight/hormone-therapy-reshapes-the-skeleton-in-transgender-individuals-who-previously-blocked-puberty.htm (Trans people who take HRT before experiencing puberty have a skeletal structure biologically similar to their cis counterparts. This isn't quite the case with those who experience their birth puberty however (which is why youth trans health care is important). This IS NOT related to bone mass and there is an anecdotal experience that contradicts this (the last source I cite.)).

- https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0378512219302099 Caroline Davidge-Pitts, Bart L. Clarke, Transgender bone health, Maturitas, Volume 127, 2019, Pages 35-42, ISSN 0378-5122, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.maturitas.2019.05.002. (Even before starting HRT, trans women bone mass density is already lower compared to cis men but trans men have a similar bone mass density to cis women before HRT. Regardless, COMBINED hormone therapy doesn’t negatively impact bone mass density and in fact, seems to prove otherwise. I should note the original paper is locked behind a paywall so there is absolutely no way for me to access it sadly and I can only go off the summary listed in Science Direct instead.)

- https://www.mayoclinic.org/medical-professionals/endocrinology/news/managing-skeletal-issues-in-transgender-and-gender-nonconforming-individuals/mac-20477707 (Backs up the study above that trans women have a lower bone mass density even before starting HRT. Seems to suggest, in theory, hormone replacement therapy helps cortical and cancellous bones in trans people similar to their cis counterparts. Fracture risk was lower in trans men compared to cis men and women. Trans women have a higher fracture risk than cis women but similar to cis men under 40. Yet trans women have a similar fracturer risk to compared to cis women but “increased almost twofold” with cis men.)

Trans Biology (Trans Men):

- https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-024-07789-z Lakshmikanth, T., Consiglio, C., Sardh, F. et al. Immune system adaptation during gender-affirming testosterone treatment. Nature 633, 155–164 (2024). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41586-024-07789-z(Trans men on HRT have a similar immune system to cis men, proving one aspect trans men are biologically similar to cis men. The test was done with 23 adults healthy trans men who started their transition. It’s a bit more complicated than even for me to understand but it says near the end how to replicate the study).

Trans Biology (Trans Women):

- https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/hypatia/article/trans-women-are-or-are-becoming-female-disputing-the-endogeneity-constraint/090DEAA53EA17414C5D3E8D76ED5A75C Carter M. Trans Women Are (or Are Becoming) Female: Disputing the Endogeneity Constraint. Hypatia. 2022;37(2):384-401. doi:10.1017/hyp.2022.12 (Why trans women, as the title says, are or are becoming female such as how hormone replacement therapy or trans women who undergoes sex reassignment surgery is proof they’re biologically women and also validates sex being on a spectrum. Goes over why biological essentialist viewpoints (including why counter-arguments to these points) aren’t consistent and even how arguments calling for “more research” will only continue to prove the point of the paper such as future uterus transplants for trans women or functional penis transplants for trans men.)

- https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/55/15/865  (Trans women have an equal hemogoblin level with cis women on HRT but LBM and Muscle area remained the same)

- https://www.fertstert.org/article/S0015-0282%2823%2900055-9/fulltext A “first” on the horizon: the expansion of uterus transplantation to transgender women Richards, Elliott G. et al. Fertility and Sterility, Volume 119, Issue 3, 390 - 391(Uterus transplants are possible in the future and the link only talks about both its existence and ethical considerations for them. With that in mind, while not mentioned in the article, the fact trans women could be biologically pregnant makes them “biological women” under a strict biological essentialist view. “Trans Women Are (or Are Becoming) Female” further backs this claim and even says that any current limitation to full sex reassignment is due to lack of curent knowledge).

- https://www.mdpi.com/2077-0383/11/6/1582 J. Clin. Med. 2022, 11(6), 1582; https://doi.org/10.3390/jcm11061582 (Confirms the same neurobiology arguments but beyond brain size and hormone exposure by also including a multivariate classifier to argue this over a simple binary method; Using a brain sex index to classify different parts of the brain as male typical variants or female typical. The study found even before any kind of medical transition, trans women's brains share a combination of variations between male and female (although closer to male). The drift from typically male variations supports their gender identity. While this study doesn’t look it over, it mentions another study that found brain sex drifts even closer towards desire gender identity under hormone replacement therapy. Lastly mentions “uncinate nucleus (INAH-3), the insula and pars triangularis, the area around the central sulcus, posterior cingulate, and occipital regions as well as the bed nucleus of the stria terminalis” are all the important areas of the brain that support trans neurobiology.

Trans Biology (Intersex)

Trans Biology (Intersex):
- https://interactadvocates.org/intersex-definitions/ (Intersex people have varying degrees of sex and sex markers. Website is from an intersex advocacy group.)

- https://interaction.org.au/4045/richard-goldschmidt-intersexuality-endocrine/ Richard Goldschmidt: “Intersexuality and the Endocrine Aspect of Sex” (Richard Goldschmidt, who coined the term “intersex” acknowledged sex is not binary and that we take two sexes for granted. Author of the article (not Richard Goldschmidt) also says sex “exists on a gradation or continuum”).

Trans Sports (Trans Men)

Trans Sports (Trans Men):

- https://gayexpress.co.nz/2023/06/worlds-first-trans-male-boxer-wins-third-fight-over-cis-man/
World’s First Trans Male Boxer Wins Third fight Over Cis Man (Patricio Manuel, the first trans male professional boxer, has a 3 - 0 win rate. After his first fight, he ended up dominating in his other two fights. He was ranked 99th best boxer in America according to the article.)

- https://www.texastribune.org/2017/02/26/transgender-wrestler-mack-beggs-identifies-male-he-just-won-texas-stat/ Transgender wrestler Mack Beggs identifies as a male. He just won the Texas state girls' title. (Mack Beggs, a trans male wrestler high schooler in Texas, won the Texas state’s girls title with a 12 - 2. He entered the competition with a previous undefeated record against 52 female wrestlers. He was unable to be in the boy’s division due to Texas forcing you to play as your assigned gender at birth. The rest of the article talks about Mack and his transition journey as a wrestler and a high schooler’s mom, in which her daughter faced Mack.)

Trans Sports (Trans Women)

Trans Sports (Trans/Intersex Women):

- https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/58/11/586
Hamilton B, Brown A, Montagner-Moraes S, et al Strength, power and aerobic capacity of transgender athletes: a cross-sectional study British Journal of Sports Medicine 2024;58:586-597. (Trans women had same levels of testosterone, more levels of estrogen, better grip strength, less expiratory time, lower ability to jump, lower cardiovascular fitness, and lower max volume of oxygen than cis women. Trans men had same levels of testosterone, less grip strength, and lower volume of oxygen than cis men. AMAB people had more body mass than AFAB people, which is why trans women have lower volume of oxygen.Trans and cis athletes have the same bone mass density. Also argues that trans women aren’t a proxy for cis men due to lower performance overall. Also argues that studies need to account for athletic and sedentary populations for sports.)

- https://cgscholar.com/bookstore/works/race-times-for-transgender-athletes?category_id=common-ground-publishing Harper, Joanna. 2015. "Race Times for Transgender Athletes." Journal of Sporting Cultures and Identities 6 (1): 1-9. doi:10.18848/2381-6678/CGP/v06i01/54079.(8 trans women athletes were judged using the following age grading formula:AG (%) = (AS x 100) / RTAS = Age Standard (Fastest run time ever by a person with the same age and sex)RT = Person’s fastest race timeAG = Age Grade (Percentage of their speed; Journal cites two 40-year-old runners having the same age grade at around 70% despite the fact the male one was faster. This is to say if the formula was wrong, the trans person's age grade post-transition would be noticeably higher (replacing the female’s time in the example with the male changes her age grade to 78% and 62% vice versa). The study found that AVERAGING all of the athletes’ times, 7 of the 8 had no significant difference in age grade, with 4 of the 7 having a slower age grade than their male times. The one runner who was an exception got more serious about training and so, had a higher age grade).

- https://cces.ca/transgender-women-athletes-and-elite-sport-scientific-reviewTransgender Women Athletes and Elite Sport: A Scientific Review (Okay I have actually read about half of this, Some of the main points were that trans women have no significant biological advantages, studies that tried to argue otherwise weren’t well researched, cis women even having certain advantages to cis men, and a lot of anti-trans sports bans rooted in transphobia, racism, and misogyny)

- https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/lia-thomas-trans-swimmer-ron-desantis-b2091218.html Critics accuse trans swimming star Lia Thomas of having an unfair advantage. The data tells a different story(Argues how HRT is the main driving force for performance differences between men and women. How Lia Thomas had impressive records but didn’t beat her college’s all-time best and is average with other cis women. A lot of Lia’s worse times while she was in the men’s category only cropped up when the effects of HRT started to take place and before that, was already one of the top swimmers. A similar method to “age grading” in “Race Times for Transgender Athletes" was done where, comparing Lia’s top time as a woman, she performed 5% - 7% worse compared to her time as a guy. If anything, this just alludes to the idea that HRT makes trans women and cis men uncomparable, as “Strength, power and aerobic capacity of transgender athlete” would back up. Near the end of the article, it talks about the double standard trans athletes face compared to cis women.)

- https://olympics.com/en/news/weightlifting-laurel-hubbard-transgender-three-failed-lifts-tokyo Laurel Hubbard out of women's +87kg final after three failed lifts (How Laurel Hubbard, the first trans woman to make it to the Olympics, couldn’t even complete her first lift in weightlifting and was therefore, out of the competition.)

- https://www.outsports.com/2021/2/22/22296155/fallon-fox-trans-mma-fighter-lie-inclusion-misleading/ (Goes over fourth myths about Fallon Fox such as her impact on breaking her opponent’s skull when it was more so an injury typically rare but not too uncommon in MMA fights. Her fast win with Ericka Newsome was due to Newsome just being a horrible fighter as Katalina Malungahu also knocked her out at a similar speed to Fox. There is one about Fox’s opponent after a fight but I can’t seem to see the image; Whatever the image was, it was from Kal Schwartz. Finally, she lost to Ashlee Evans-Smith, a cis woman).

- https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/55/11/577.full?ijkey=yjlCzZVZFRDZzHz&keytype=ref (Typically the one scientific journal gender critical people cite to say trans women have an advantage in sport. While I don’t disagree with the findings on a surface level (most noticeably, trans women, even with a few years on HRT, still having about 10% of a faster race time than cis women (although contradicts "Race Times for Transgender Athletes." with its different method)), I think it’s misconstructive to claim trans women have an advantage at all. What isn’t talked about are how trans women’s performance with sit-ups and push-ups still decreased to cis women levels and how trans men massively outperform even cis men in sports. The study acknowledges that “The conceptual model for our multivariable analysis could be wrong and incorrectly estimate the relationship of testosterone or oestrogen with changes in athletic performance” and that “estosterone and oestrogen protocols were not standardised for our participants”. “Transgender Women Athletes and Elite Sport: A Scientific Review” would support the former claim as it didn’t count arbitrary traits in its empirical evidence to judge a trans woman’s participation.)

Other Sources (Trans Related)

Other Sources (Trans Related):

- https://youtu.be/M0uCLgFMC-c?si=MpUq1tboDMufmB61 (Also from Forrest Valkai, a biologist. It mainly talks about how “Adult human female” includes anyone who labels themselves as a woman. While not mentioned in the video, however, even going off the definition in 2:28 - 2:38, it supports the idea that even if we rigidly define womanhood, with everything mentioned so far, trans people who pursue any medical transition and intersex people are still women because they are related to/of the female sex).

- https://www.transadvocate.com/fact-check-study-shows-transition-makes-trans-people-suicidal_n_15483.htm (Author of the linked article contacted the journalist for “Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery”, a paper cited by many gender criticals for declaring that trans women commit r*pe at a similar level to cis men. The author clarifies that doesn’t mean the types of crimes committed were similar and more so that the conviction rate is similar. And even then, splitting between data of trans people from 1973 to 1988 and trans people from 1989 – 2003, the 1989 – 2003 group’s conviction rate being male pattern disappeared as quality of life improved; This promotes more so that the male convicted rates were more so related to discrimination. They also clarified that just because the study reported an increase in suicide among trans people under SRS, that’s more to do with social oppression and not related to gender dysphoria treatments).

- https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885
(Related scientific journal to the above article with that context. I did not read this one).

- https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36727823/ (Transgender regret rate is as low as 0.3% from 2016 - 2021. Note that isn’t to ignore concerns over detrans people but they are in the minority of care that works for a large majority of people.)

- https://escholarship.org/content/qt2gz31123/qt2gz31123.pdf
(trans people felt more likely to experience victimization for crimes against them)

- https://equityhealthj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12939-022-01632-5 (Trans people experience discrimination)

- https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10227974/ (In general, trans people’s quality of life improve with age and support (as in whether trans people have educational opportunities, helping with health, to having a partner). The lowest satisifactions were found with those from a migrant background (18.2%), unemployed (25.0%) or those who have no college level education (26.9%). Those with or pursuing a college education reported highest levels of satisfaction (74.4%). 18 - 29 year olds were 47.2% satisfied while those 30 or older 47.4%. Those who have gender reassignment surgery reported higher levels of satisifaction (52.6%) along with those those without a chronic disease for health (65.2%). Those with a partner were 54.8% satisfied. “Among transgender people, 12.9% can be classified as “extremely dissatisfied”, 18.3% can be classified as“dissatisfied”, 12.9% can be classified as “slightly dissatisfied”, 7.5% as “neutral”, 30.1% as “slightly satisfied”, 17.2% as “satisfied” and 1.1% as “extremely satisfied””.)

- https://www.thetrevorproject.org/blog/new-poll-emphasizes-negative-impacts-of-anti-lgbtq-policies-on-lgbtq-youth/ “Issues Impacting LGBTQ Youth”(Trevor Project’s survey analysis study found anti-trans laws had a 71% negative impact for LGBT young and up to 86% when only accounting for the trans/non-binary population, among other survey questions asked. For some in particular, LGBTQ cis youth did not feel safe at home, at school, or with family but this was higher with trans people and EXTREMELY higher with trans people not feeling safe in hospitals. Shows personal accounts from trans youth on how these bills have impacted their personal lives. Black LGBTQ youth felt most concerned about racism and trans LGBTQ youth felt most concerned about transphobia; With LGBTQ rights, abortion, and racism being the three most concerning issues with LGBTQ youth. Based on my understanding of the wording of the survey, the data collected didn’t seem to differentiate between trans people who live in blue and red states so the data collected may include trans people who fear these anti-trans laws who also live in blue states. P.S. Not important but trans people in the same survey felt seen in media like Heartstoppers, Owl House, and Euphoria.)

- https://www.researchgate.net/publication/320916737_Gender-Inclusive_Bathrooms_Signal_Fairness_Across_Identity_Dimensions Chaney, Kimberly & Sanchez, Diana. (2017). Gender-Inclusive Bathrooms Signal Fairness Across Identity Dimensions. Social Psychological and Personality Science. 9. 194855061773760. 10.1177/1948550617737601.(The general public (including cis women and racial minorites) not only are more receptive to gender neutral bathrooms but they actually feel safer in them than regular restrooms! The journal does three studies and found the neutral bathrooms were usually more fair and inclusive for women and minorities over male and female restrooms. Study One stood out as women reported more fairness in gender neutral restrooms while men didn’t find a difference with either types of restrooms. Study Two was particularly difference since white people felt safer than racial minorities (black people and latinos) over the restrooms overall. However, while racial minorities still reported higher levels of racial stigma than white people, they saw the gender inclusive restroom as less hostile.)

- https://escholarship.org/uc/item/4rs4n6h0 Hasenbush, A., Flores, A. R, & Herman, J. L. (2018). Gender Identity Nondiscrimination Laws in Public Accommodations: a Review of Evidence Regarding Safety and Privacy in Public Restrooms, Locker Rooms, and Changing Rooms. UCLA: The Williams Institute. http://dx.doi.org/10.1007/s13178-018-0335-z Retrieved from https://escholarship.org/uc/item/4rs4n6h0 (Bathroom bans would not actually make bathrooms safer. This was done by comparing restrooms before inclusive bathroom laws were passed and after. Inclusive laws passed show a slight decrease in bathroom crimes when introduced, slight increase in the 10-20 month period, and then shows no difference in crime in 24 months. Not a single crime reported in the study related to trans people at all. Also includes locker and changing rooms when referring to restrooms.)

Other Sources (Trans Related blogs/videos)

Other Sources (Trans Related Blogs/Videos):

- https://youtu.be/zRQHZcU9ZqU?si=JkfkNPRmbbRXe3up (Backs up the idea that trans people are biologically closer to their gender identity. Video is similar to “Trans Women Are (or Are Becoming) Female” in talking about gender criticals having double standards. Sources in the description).

- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dnekBOZbfrM (The video is in Spanish but it has English subtitles. Basically goes over why using bone sex as biological marker for sex is inconsistent, in a style similar to Contrapoints. Sources in the description).

- https://youtu.be/cnshnUk-UKU?si=p7RGb3q6vE9x7jSZ (Backs up the idea that sex is not binary or as the video title states, on “The Biological Sex Constellation”. Sources cited within the video)

- https://youtu.be/JWQo2oVT4qE?si=BFg8dpjcaHyT1hxQ (Reupload of Jessie Gender’s criticism of “What is a Woman”. I think it’s her best video as it debunks everything about trans people from biology, to participation in sports, to every other weak point in the film. Sources in the video.)

- https://youtu.be/Y410v7OmAm4?si=3qe7rOX7LSE28tsr (Backs up the idea to let trans people play in their respective sports. Sources in the video).

- https://youtu.be/39uen84KnNg?si=t6bIYierw_4yUYae (Backs up the idea that trans people are closer to their gender identities and cites how sexism and racism also plays a role. I think this is Jessie's weakest video out of all the ones listed since skimming over when I last watched it, there isn’t really any direct source about sex being on a spectrum, even though what she is saying about it is correct. And her arguments also seem weak if you’re someone that does have a biological essentialist viewpoint)

- https://youtu.be/ptyng78A0jk?si=DvczVcAWU0W8IujD (Title and main point might be outdated now but goes over how transphobia is actually a losing issue. What I find particular interesting is a story on how 4 kids in Utah were the main targets of anti-trans bills).

- https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/9hrj9g/30_plus_years_on_hormones_what_effects_did_i/ (Ancedotal experience of someone recounting her different experiences on HRT; One of which in particular is a skeletal (pelvic) changes after 18 years on HRT).

Last friday i was walking home from a party at 3am when a car pulled up to me, rolled down the window and i immediately knew what's going on

"Hey baby, you need a ride?"

I said no and kept walking. He drove away, i saw a cop walk past me and half a minute later, that same car pulled up again

"Hold on a sec, are you trans?!?" he asked while opening the door with one foot outside.

I reached into my purse, grabbed my pepper spray, looked him dead in the eye and gestured "come on, try me!"

He stayed in his car and i kept walking, praying he doesn't get out and follow me because i was in no mood to run or gamble on the effectiveness of my pepper spray. He didn't follow me and i got home safe but that kinda crap happens so often that i lost count. Some guy even ran across a four lane road when he spotted me alone on the street

I hope everyone's doing okay. I know the world is a scary place at the moment and my heart goes out to all of you. Hang in there.

Fortunately, I'm almost at the end of the waiting list for the gender clinic. I was wondering if anybody has any advice for what I should expect?

I recently made a fresh plume account and subscribed. I was trying to chat on the app with customer support but it's not working. Is something going on?

I have been questioning my gender identity for 4-6 years now and I recently have been thinking about whether or not I should fake gender dysphoria in order to get HRT, electrolysis, laser hair removal and maybe FFS if I really need it when I have my appointment with Yale New Haven Health in Connecticut in 1 month. Also, for those who are wondering, I have Blue Cross Blue Shield insurance. And yes, I know it’s probably illegal but my parents don’t have a lot of money and I don’t wanna deal with having to shave everyday for the rest of my life and or looking like a man if I don’t have FFS done. If any other trans girlies think this is a good idea or have any other alternative solutions, let me know.

Hi everyone. So I dress somewhat feminine usually and have long hair. But I have a masculine face unfortunately (not on HRT yet and I'm like years away from affording FFS unfortunately). As a result I'm in an awkward stage where I'm visibly trans.

I've noticed the more I do things to feminize my appearance like laser hair removal for facial hair, growing my hair out, eyebrow shaping, skincare, etc, that men already act way different with me now.

Most guys would engage in conversation with me right away without any issues before my appearance became more feminine looking.

Now most men that I see/meet for the first time seem WAY more distant from me. They don't typically strike up conversation with me anymore or seem interested in talking to me. Most guys do not speak to me unless I talk to them first.

And even though they don't directly say it, I can tell whenever I'm around guys, most of them seem really uncomfortable around me or "put off" by my presence and appearance. Like I get the sense that my existence alone bothers them in a way that they don't know how to deal with. The previous friendliness from before is gone.

I've found that I have a way better time making friends with and talking to women now. Women still engage in conversation with me and it seems to be more often now. Women, even some that I don't know sometimes compliment me on my appearance like my hair, or my clothes. The few friends I still have are pretty much all women now.

Even guys that knew me from before do still talk to me, but it's still less often compared to before everything. The guys that do still talk to me kinda ignore my appearance and it almost seems like they are walking on egg shells or something? Idk

Anyways why is this? Any other trans women experience the changes in how men act around you?

I have been questioning my gender identity for 4-6 years now and I recently have been thinking about whether or not I should fake gender dysphoria in order to get HRT, electrolysis, laser hair removal and maybe FFS if I really need it when I have my appointment with Yale New Haven Health in Connecticut in 1 month. Also, for those who are wondering, I have Blue Cross Blue Shield insurance. And yes, I know it’s probably illegal but my parents don’t have a lot of money and I don’t wanna deal with having to shave everyday for the rest of my life and or looking like a man if I don’t have FFS done. If any other trans girlies think this is a good idea or have any other alternative solutions, let me know.

I have been questioning my gender identity for 4-6 years now and I don’t think I have gender dysphoria but I want insurance to cover things like HRT, electrolysis and laser hair removal. And maybe FFS if my appearance still looks masculine in 1 or 2 years. I just wanted to hear some feedback from other trans girlies on if I should attempt to try this or if there’s any other way for them to cover it without having to do this. Thanks.

I hate everything that comes with the gender I was born as..ever since I was a kid I’ve always felt like something wasn’t right…I was always being compared to a girl but was somehow still expected to be following the regulations of a man…no emotions no empathy no vulnerability…but, being called “Mijo” just makes me fall apart and feel like I won’t get beaten for doing so.

I’ve felt kinda meh all week (cough, nasal drip, occasional chills, etc.) but somehow it’s allowed my voice to reach resonances higher than I’ve ever reached before.

Has anyone else experienced this and is there some explanation? I’m curious if this will continue to be easier when I’m feeling 100% again.

For context I’m not out to anyone at my college yet and boymode everywhere. So the other night I was at my college’s paranormal club and they were doing a class on tarot cards and crystals. Near the end of the meeting the founder who runs a mystic shop and does pro tarot card readings have a few people a free tarot card reading. I was the first up and she pulled:

Reversed Ten of Wands: I’m exhausted from carrying some sort of burden. (Dysphoria)

Reversed Queen of Cups: My emotions and actions aren’t aligned (boymoding). It also means I’m in a situation where I can’t express my true feelings.

Reversed High Priestess: I need to look inward to my heart to find solutions for the situation I’m in.

Upright Knight of Wands: I’m looking to the future with courage and excitement for upcoming projects. (Estrogen hopefully but also art projects)

I’m not that into believing in paranormal things but this definitely pushed me further to believe in it lol. Also I came out to the founder after the meeting and she was really nice, I’ll probably start coming out to more people at my college now. Also Also if I got any of these wrong feel free to correct me.

I don't know why but every time i wear girls clothes, do something feminine, or sometimes even think about feminine stuff, i get oddly turned on and really flustered by it and i don't know what it is. I don't know if it means all my dysphoria is just a fetish or what but im really confused. Girls clothes just feel so comfortable and right and makes me all warm and fuzzy and it just gets too much sometimes. I'm sorry if this questions been asked to death and i could just look it up but i like human input a lot better than just using google and wanna know from others in my community.

(My doctor upped my e dose from 4mg to 6mg)

i don't feel dysphoric, like ever, it's so weird. the only times i feel "dysphoric" is when i see body hair and feel the urge to shave. but, that feeling isn't dysphoria..it's more just me not liking body hair.

so i don't understand. even when i hear my deadname or someone uses the wrong pronouns for me, i always correct them but i don't feel dysphoric. it makes me feel a little wonky, but i don't know if that counts!

i know i'm trans and i feel much happier with the thought of me living as a woman. i just find it weird that i don't really feel dysphoria like how other girlies talk about. is this wrong of me? does this explain something about me?

i don't entirely understand this. would love your insight if you have any!

(i just wanted to add that dysphoria is completely normal, and those who do experience it are 100% valid in every way. i just find it weird that i don't)

I've finally come to the realization that I shouldn't stop denying it I AM a girl and even though there's that part that wants to deny it I know it's true, and it's not just me you too, you're a girl.

Don't lie to yourself, you've done so much to get to this point so why deny it when the evidence is clear? You're a girl accept it, it will make you feel better in the end. I love you girl! We got this! ❤️

I live in an informed consent area, I finally got the call today saying to come in for a health consultation in about a month :3 I’m very excited. I’ve been waiting for years. I already know how I want to answer everything :3 I only have like, two friends left after my whole experience so I needed somewhere to come and scream it to the sky it’s finally happening ❤️❤️❤️

I feel like I'm abandoning them, I don't want to leave her behind out of fear that she might dissappear, she's mtf like me, and if my family has to flee there's no chance that she's able to come along, she doesn't have a passport, lives with her manipulative parents, and is 1 year younger than me. What do I do? Is her best bet just to try and survive?

I recently started HRT December 14th this year, and I am 23 years old. I have seen my breast develop, but my smell hasn’t changed. I’m taking 100MG spiral, and (1.5 ML) 3 MG dose estrogen shots. Except recently I have been taking (2 ML) 4 MG dose estrogen shots. I can’t tell if the dose I got was too low. How long does it take for smell to change?

I (29mtf) just recently came out last November to my partners and have since came out to a few select people. I grew up in a very Christian household and, unfortunately, don't have much experience doing anything feminine. I started HRT on January 7th and have since then been struggling with where to start when it comes to feeling and acting more feminine. I struggle with male pattern baldness due to genetics, I grow a lot of facial and body hair, and just overall have been struggling with how "manly" I feel when i want to feel the complete opposite, even if it's just little things.

TLDR; Just started HRT and have no ide where to start when it comes to feeling and presenting more feminine!

I met her in middle school. Before her I had never felt anything for anyone. I thought I was incapable of attraction. Before anything bloomed. Barren, ashen soil.

I still remember her laugh. Her jet black hair. Her deep brown eyes and freckled pale face. Her flannels and ripped jeans and excessive jewelry.

The way she would walk with me when no one else would. The way she would be thrilled to show me new music or a new outfit. Her wide eyed excitement and big grin when I showed up. When I could walk into the room and we’d already be on the same page without talking. Nobody ever cared about me like that. Nobody ever bothered to water me and she nearly drowned me.

She embodied rebellion. She didn’t care what the boys or girls said. She plowed right through and carved her own path wherever she saw fit.

She loved women. She spoke to me about how she loved them. About her crushes. About what she liked about them. I never wanted her to be straight or even bi. I wanted her just the way she was. I wanted so desperately to be that woman she loved. I longed to be her girlfriend. Yet nature seemed to have other plans when it made me a man. That the flower couldn’t bloom.

She allowed me to be gentle and delicate when nobody else would. It was like I could bloom when I was with her. We would laugh and laugh. We could talk about life and know the other got it. I started to feel comfortable.

But then the reality of what I was came dragging me back. She got a girlfriend, and we slowly drifted apart. The flower I was becoming began to wilt. I was locked in this human prison. This body of a man. I would only make her suffer. She was in love with a woman. She was happy, and thus I was happy for her. We could never be. And then she moved away. The flower died.

For years I looked for someone else like her. I never found anyone who could even possibly compare. And even if I had, I was still a man, and was treated as such. No matter who I was with, the flower never bloomed again.

One day, years later, we met again, now adults. The flower had been burned, frozen, trampled, unrecognizable. One late night I confessed how I once felt. How impossible it was. How I began to feel like myself around her. I apologized profusely, knowing she was lesbian. Knowing I was a man confessing this embarrassing feeling. Admitting defeat that I was in fact a male.

She looked at me and told me I had had her confused. That back in those flowery days she felt something for me too. Something she didn’t understand. She liked women… so why had she liked me? She didn’t get it. Not then, nor now. So she ignored it. We joked about how maybe we could have been something. The one exception to her love of women. The flower that wasn’t.

To her it was funny. To me it was like a bittersweet dagger to the heart. That light in her eyes… Had she been able to see without even knowing? Had she glimpsed the glow of a television in my house through my windows? Eyes that could see what even I couldn’t? Maybe if I had looked closer, held the gaze of those brown eyes a little longer, I could have seen what the light they reflected was.

I have long moved on. I discovered myself on my own. Only now does the flower try to bloom again. But now and again I think about what could have been if things had been a little different. If only I had been born a little different. If only I had stayed in her pale moonlight. If only I had been able to bloom in her embrace.

If only I could have been her flower, maybe everything would be alright.

An opportunity has opened up for me to start on hrt in 6 months. It's not set in stone, there are some insurance questions for me to be able to afford it, and I will have to convincingly be able to boy mode for at least 6 months into taking it, but if I do take this opportunity it will be two years before I know I can do it again.

I've wanted a chance like this since I was 8, and it finally feels possible. I started crying after got off the phone from finding out. But even with all the research I've done I'm still so scared. HRT effects everyone differently, and I haven't read about many trans girls with my dimensions going on HRT. I'm scared I'm going to look like a monster, and I know that sounds stupid but I can't shake the feeling.

I'm 6'3 290 pounds and I have a dad bod. I work weekends moving furniture to help pay the bills, so there is some muscle, but I was told that would be hard to keep anyway.

So, please you lovely girls, if you can help, or if any of you have shared experience please let me know. Cause I'm scared, and I only kind of know what to expect

It’s a long read, if you’re patient enough to read and give me real advice I’d be eternally gratefully 🙏🏻❤️🥺

(There are a few experiences of mine that are nsfw) I go into it because it’s relevant to my story but if you’re not comfortable with that I’ve utilised paragraphs so just skip over.

A bit nervous but… here we go:

l've fit into the role a guy really well my whole life. Depending on my diet I can be quiete athletic or thick.

I’ve been crossdressing since before I could get erections. So it’s definitely not a “horny” thing.

I’ve always had girlfriends before but the last two years I just can’t be bothered anymore…idk

My second last ex girlfriend, was trans herself. And pansexual. So she really didn’t care what I was. She was an escort but super caring and responsible and never judged me. So I never judged her. Since I’m bi I’ve never been caught up in the whole “guys? girls?am I this! Or am I that? “ We needed money during Covid and she threw the idea bi me if I’d ever be up for working dressed up as a girl. I wasn’t against the idea at all. But At first I was hesitant and felt insecure about how she might see me, but her caring non judgemental nature made it easy for me and eventually I took the plunge.

(I was never in any danger) but there were some creepy clients for sure. And I also didn’t like being top while dressed as a girl. Eventually I found my rythym and developed me “radar” and ended up really getting the hang of it.

But as time went by I wouldn’t just dress for the clients. I’d spend the whole day dressed and tell my gf “just in case someone comes today” (which was partly true) She didn’t mind. She chose the name Lara for me to work at the time but I never felt like a Lara lol(today I’m Kayla ) Eventually I lost interest in having sex with her and would be much more excited for sex as a girl (but I never cheated on her, I never let a guy come over for free)

One time a few months in a guy came and he was perfect. He was mas masculine and I felt so feminine. Left the money on the table for me. And I led him to the bedroom. He brought me wine, kept saying my (female) name, asked me to lie my head down on his chest. After a while we were both feeling it, kissed and eventually got undressed. I reached for the condom and put it on the bed along with the lube.

As things got more heated I completely disregarded the condom and guided him towards my back door. But he (a gentleman as usual) said “where’s the condom ?” Then reality hit me and i realised where i was at this point… I was wrapped up in my new role that i nearly put myself and living gf in danger. I felt shame, regret and disgust with myself. I stopped escorting and suppressed this side of me for years. Broke up with my gf on good terms I still love her as a sister. Met my next gf who love hyper masculine men. But when we broke up I felt lost and needed to find myself … that was 2 years ago and I think I’ve found myself :/

Recently (even if just in the bedroom) I’ve been exploring my role of a girl. I love feeling feminine, doing my make up, shaving, feeling cute, trying on delicate perfumes….

I enjoy that part so much more than the sex to be honest.

Part of me really wants to go to the club or something dressed, of find a female friend to open up to … but being raised as the only child son in a conservative home… Ivee been taught that this is wrong and ‘ugly’ My whole life if my mum saw a trans woman in the street or in a pub or… she would frown and make a disgusted face… and move me away from them as if I would catch a disease from them :/ My mum had seen me dressed a few times and every time she’s shouted at me, told me “what would your family think, especially the guys like your uncles and step dad, imagine if they saw you … She would demand an explanation from me and I’d lie that I was high or drunk and had a cross dress fetish … It was easier for her to stomach then the reality … and i don’t even know how to explain it to myself lol… she would throw away all my things each time. Hundreds of £ lost in clothes. Shed force me to remove the toenail paint if she ever saw it. She’d also cry. She asked several times if I was every abused :/

But the more time goes on l've been caring less about my role as a guy. I’ve bought better clothes. Normal clothes not just sexy. I’ve learnt to do make up. Completely hairless. Stopped pursuing girls totally but also stopped watching by 70-80% (I don’t want that to influence my decisions especially big ones. More and more Ive been realising I want to be a better fit as Kayla, not (boy name)

I’ve been on the fence about this for a while because like I said before I make a half decent guy lol … scared to lose that part of me with No way back but at the same time doing a half way job of boy or girl is not good either. But something because obvious to me today.

I looked on my phone album and I haven’t take. A selfie/ pic of myself as a guy in nearly a year. I haven’t bought male clothes in more than a year … I wasn’t intentional but I think it speaks volumes

For months I’ve been aware of how to get hrtbut I didn’t want to be impulsive. (Currently 23:53 ) But laying in bed since 6pm this has been on my mind the whole time. I’ve messaged to order the estradiol and spironolactone.

Any Words of encouragement? I’m really nervous and scared of having cold feet.

While I’m sure of how I feel I still feel on the fence because of years of conditioning to think this was bad. And I feel scared about not being able to be the fairly successful male I have been up until recently

It’s a long read, if you’re patient enough to read and give me real advice I’d be eternally gratefully 🙏🏻❤️🥺

(There are a few experiences of mine that are nsfw) I go into it because it’s relevant to my story but if you’re not comfortable with that I’ve utilised paragraphs so just skip over.

A bit nervous but… here we go:

l've fit into the role a guy really well my whole life. Depending on my diet I can be quiete athletic or thick.

I’ve been crossdressing since before I could get erections. So it’s definitely not a “horny” thing.

I’ve always had girlfriends before but the last two years I just can’t be bothered anymore…idk

My second last ex girlfriend, was trans herself. And pansexual. So she really didn’t care what I was. She was an escort but super caring and responsible and never judged me. So I never judged her. Since I’m bi I’ve never been caught up in the whole “guys? girls?am I this! Or am I that? “ We needed money during Covid and she threw the idea bi me if I’d ever be up for working dressed up as a girl. I wasn’t against the idea at all. But At first I was hesitant and felt insecure about how she might see me, but her caring non judgemental nature made it easy for me and eventually I took the plunge.

(I was never in any danger) but there were some creepy clients for sure. And I also didn’t like being top while dressed as a girl. Eventually I found my rythym and developed me “radar” and ended up really getting the hang of it.

But as time went by I wouldn’t just dress for the clients. I’d spend the whole day dressed and tell my gf “just in case someone comes today” (which was partly true) She didn’t mind. She chose the name Lara for me to work at the time but I never felt like a Lara lol(today I’m Kayla ) Eventually I lost interest in having sex with her and would be much more excited for sex as a girl (but I never cheated on her, I never let a guy come over for free)

One time a few months in a guy came and he was perfect. He was mas masculine and I felt so feminine. Left the money on the table for me. And I led him to the bedroom. He brought me wine, kept saying my (female) name, asked me to lie my head down on his chest. After a while we were both feeling it, kissed and eventually got undressed. I reached for the condom and put it on the bed along with the lube.

As things got more heated I completely disregarded the condom and guided him towards my back door. But he (a gentleman as usual) said “where’s the condom ?” Then reality hit me and i realised where i was at this point… I was wrapped up in my new role that i nearly put myself and living gf in danger. I felt shame, regret and disgust with myself. I stopped escorting and suppressed this side of me for years. Broke up with my gf on good terms I still love her as a sister. Met my next gf who love hyper masculine men. But when we broke up I felt lost and needed to find myself … that was 2 years ago and I think I’ve found myself :/

Recently (even if just in the bedroom) I’ve been exploring my role of a girl. I love feeling feminine, doing my make up, shaving, feeling cute, trying on delicate perfumes….

I enjoy that part so much more than the sex to be honest.

Part of me really wants to go to the club or something dressed, of find a female friend to open up to … but being raised as the only child son in a conservative home… Ivee been taught that this is wrong and ‘ugly’ My whole life if my mum saw a trans woman in the street or in a pub or… she would frown and make a disgusted face… and move me away from them as if I would catch a disease from them :/ My mum had seen me dressed a few times and every time she’s shouted at me, told me “what would your family think, especially the guys like your uncles and step dad, imagine if they saw you … She would demand an explanation from me and I’d lie that I was high or drunk and had a cross dress fetish … It was easier for her to stomach then the reality … and i don’t even know how to explain it to myself lol… she would throw away all my things each time. Hundreds of £ lost in clothes. Shed force me to remove the toenail paint if she ever saw it. She’d also cry. She asked several times if I was every abused :/

But the more time goes on l've been caring less about my role as a guy. I’ve bought better clothes. Normal clothes not just sexy. I’ve learnt to do make up. Completely hairless. Stopped pursuing girls totally but also stopped watching by 70-80% (I don’t want that to influence my decisions especially big ones. More and more Ive been realising I want to be a better fit as Kayla, not (boy name)

I’ve been on the fence about this for a while because like I said before I make a half decent guy lol … scared to lose that part of me with No way back but at the same time doing a half way job of boy or girl is not good either. But something because obvious to me today.

I looked on my phone album and I haven’t take. A selfie/ pic of myself as a guy in nearly a year. I haven’t bought male clothes in more than a year … I wasn’t intentional but I think it speaks volumes

For months I’ve been aware of how to get hrtbut I didn’t want to be impulsive. (Currently 23:53 ) But laying in bed since 6pm this has been on my mind the whole time. I’ve messaged to order the estradiol and spironolactone.

Any Words of encouragement? I’m really nervous and scared of having cold feet.

While I’m sure of how I feel I still feel on the fence because of years of conditioning to think this was bad. And I feel scared about not being able to be the fairly successful male I have been up until recently

I was watching someone's video on YouTube (don't know if I'm allowed to post the link here), and this person says that whenever a cis woman gives a trans woman a compliment, it means that she clocked you and she is showing her support. This YouTuber proceeds to analyze a TikTok video of a trans woman who got complimented by a cis woman at a drive-thru. This trans woman is at the beginning of her transition.

Of course, I'm not talking about over-the-top, patronizing compliments like, "YAS! Slay it queen." I know that some compliments are genuine, but my friend who is also trans says that most of the time, when a cis woman gives you a compliment like, "You're so pretty" or "You're beautiful" it means you've been clocked. I know that women, cis or trans, compliment each other, but what my friend said got me thinking. I compliment on women's outfits all the time if I genuinely like them, but what do I know? I mean, it's not far-fetched. Some cis women are our allies and want to make our day. I don't see any malice in that. But does it truly mean that they've clocked you?

Ugh omg I had surgery in December 2023 and over a full year later I finally got to do the thing!

Once I got over my initial like "omg here we go" insecurity it literally just got more and more fun and natural and normal feeling.

Well worth the 30 some year wait lolol

I'm like all glowy lolol 😂

<3

Edit: eehhhhh thank you all so much. I'm so glad I can share some joy with everyone. We deserve it.

There are good days still my friends. Don't ever forget that.

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I've done a lot of research about bottom surgery over the last year and have a date scheduled for April. I did consults with a bunch in December and got a feel for their processes and wait times.

For people with the ability to travel, or who are local to them, I highly recommend these there surgeons - 

Dr. Ramineni (District Plastic Surgery, Washington D.C.)
https://www.districtplasticsurgery.com/about-plastic-surgeon-washington-dc/
Wait Time: 1-2 months
Letters not required until insurance pre-auth.

Dr. Ley (Gender Confirmation Center, San Franciso)
https://www.genderconfirmation.com/team/dr-ellie-ley/
Wait Time: 5 months
Required letters before scheduling consult. They are sticklers about it.

Dr. Wittenburg (MoZaic Care, San Franciso) 
https://www.mozaiccare.net
Wait Time: 6 months
Required letters before scheduling surgery.

The wait times are as of when I was doing consults in November/December. Things could have changed of course. 

In the many reddit posts I've read about top surgeons in the USA, these three often come up. They also have a lot more reviews in the WIKI of this sub the prolly 95% of the surgeons in the USA, which I found very helpful when evaluting safety, quality-of-care, and overall outcome.

All surgeons have problems, and all sugeons get some negative reviews. Even terrible surgeons with high complication rates have some good outcomes, and the best method I could figure out to suss this out was to consider the ratio between positive and negative reviews.

I'd be comfortable having surgery with any of them. I wondered at first if their wait times are not for lack of quality, but after reading their reviews and those of many other surgeons, I don't think that is the case at all.

Wait times are a function of supply and demand, and what I noticed is that surgeons had really high wait times in areas without many surgeons. For example, Wisconsin has one surgeon and her wait list is 2 years. In contrast, there are a lot of surgeons on the coasts, especially in the San Fran and New York - Washington D.C. cooridor. The only two surgeons on the coast I found with super long waits were RBL and Minn Jun, both marquee names. There may be others, I of course didn't talk to everyone.

Notably, Dr. Ramineni and Dr. Ley do not require hair removal (they use a technique called follicle scraping).

Dr. Ramineni (my surgeon) I think is the easiest to work with. No gatekeeping with letters, after the consult, he answers any additional questions you have personally by email, usually the same day.

 
Also notably, Dr. Ley is a trans woman and has bottom surgery herself. She was a close second choice for me to Dr. Ramineni. Dr. Wittenberg was my third choice because of hair removal requirement and I just didn't quite click with her personality wise, but many people in reviews say she's super nice to work with.

Hiiiii! I (25mtf) just got offered a job at a rather large corporate architecture firm in my city. I have only worked labour or retail so uhhhhh… any advice to like fit in? Not as in like passing just advice to make corporate life easy.

Thanks yall!!

I’m about to receive my hormones and was wondering what dosage is best.

Dosage for best results

Dosage to start

Dosage side effects.

Thanks in advance ❤️

EDIT: 150mg bottle, not to inject at once.

Edit2: I know it’s a doctor question and I’ve had doctors answer this for me. But I’m looking for real life experiences and dosages and how they affect/ have affected you.

I just want to know what to expect, I’m a bit of a nerd so I like to know everything from everyone haha

I hate this place. I've been on HRT for a year. I can beay see a change. I know its not been long. I know it's a marathon. But it all seems so far. I have not even started voicetraining.