Sooooo uh I am new to the trans thing (came out last week, made like four posts on egg_irl about it, and since ever the day I came out I've been pretty much emotionally unstable, but that out of the way to the point (I didn't screenshot and blocked and reported for harassment) but I got an invite to chat, throught it would be maybe something nice, like I didn't really know, people don't chat with me on Reddit much so yeah, I open that chat and the first message there is "it's a phase", like mf I was here being an emotional introverted mess for Over a week because of something I have known for over a year and now you say it's a phase??? Man if it was a phase (which it isn't, I even talked with my therapist and so on about it) that mf would need to say that like when I just started questioning myself, like that guy's at least half year to late (saying half year cause I'm not specifying how long I've known about me being trans)

I’ve always tried my best to educate my family on trans issues and being ally’s to the trans community but unfortunately I’ve had a lot of push back with them being transphobic. I recently found out my 11 year old niece is being transphobic towards another student at school and I’m heart broken. I’m wanting to know if anyone has any advice on how I can explain to her why this isn’t okay. I don’t want to shame her and I’ve explained a thousand times that we should be kind to others and someone’s identify is none of her business but unfortunately her parents are also quite transphobic. If anyone is willing to give helpful advice on this, I’d really appreciate it

Just remember that JK Rowling basically threw away her career to tweet transphobia. Take this information as you please.

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https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGegcBLA1/ so many videos of hateful rhetoric about transgender people being predators and a crime against humanity. In this video she calls gender affirming surgery mutilation. TikTok has banned her account twice but she keeps coming back. 52k followers

https://www.youtube.com/@chipstick./videos

The channel art (banner image on the profile page) shows an offensive stereotypical image of a trans person being hanged (notice they are wearing a shirt with the trans flag colours). They have also uploaded a video called "jump around" which also contains this imagery.

Both hateful "memes" and photos of LGBT people encouraging people to harass them.

If you have time please consider scrolling through their posts and reporting the hateful ones, Facebook removes hateful posts and repeat offenders can be banned.

No point in contacting them directly, they reply with "piss off" and block you.

I recently came upon a youtube short in which a cishet man explained that you cannot define what a woman is without excluding biological women. I felt like spreading this information to the people of reddit. Use that knowledge however you please. Have a wonderful day.

Big wall of text coming. Scroll to the bottom for a TL;DR.

Ever since Nex Benedict’s death was ruled a suicide, it seems like his story has fallen into the background and been forgotten. I’m sure we all remember, but if we aren't taking action in a way that’s visible to the wider public, does it make a difference? Pride Month seems like a perfect time to remind everyone that Nex was here, that he died, and that we aren’t going to let him die in vain. (Side note—it doesn’t matter if you think the ruling of a suicide is suspect or not. Suicide or not, he died because he was bullied, and because his state and country failed him. Let’s be united in that fact, rather than get caught up in distractions.)

I’ll be real with you here, I don’t know if there are already plans to protest en masse or honor Nex in another visible way. But if I, a chronically online queer person, don’t know about it, then that means the general public doesn’t either. June is almost here, but there’s still time to organize. In a perfect world, that would mean pride parades marching on the capitols in all 50 states. I mean, why not? It’s already as big a gathering of queer people as you’re gonna get. You could even get a bunch of people to camp there for days on end to really put the pressure on. That may be a pipe dream, but considering everything—the worsening anti-LGBTQ+ laws, Nex’s death, and the potential consequences of the 2024 election—we need to make ourselves loud and clear, in whatever form that takes. Demand that homophobic and transphobic laws get repealed. Tell Nex’s story—heck, tell it alongside the older stories, people like Tyler Clementi. Did you know the Tyler Clementi Higher Education Anti-Harassment Act has been a bill in Congress since 2010 and has never been passed? These are the same old stories repeating over and over again, getting a little media attention before fading into the background. We can do better. Things are better now than they were in 2010, but we need to organize if we want to defeat queerphobia decisively. Where’s our civil rights movement? Where’s our March on Washington?

Regardless of whether we can reach March on Washington levels of organizing (and honestly, there are enough queer/ally celebrities that it could totally snowball if we and they committed to it), this Pride Month is a chance to open a respectful channel of communication between the queer community and the cishet community like never before. I read an article by a pastor back when Nex’s death was first reported on—even though he didn’t understand what trans people feel inside, he saw the tragedy of Nex’s death and the ripples it would have on those who loved him. He saw himself in Sue Benedict—what if it was his grandchild that had died? This is a powerful way to reach people because it’s so fundamentally human. We all fear losing the people we love. Any parent especially knows how horrible the thought of losing a child is.

So, this Pride Month, I want us all to make sure Americans are reminded of Nex. Talk to the organizers of your local pride parade and discuss ways to honor him. Contact news organizations about the ways Nex is being honored and the ways in which we need to make change in his memory. Organize a protest if you can. I’m going to do my part, but I can’t do it alone. We need to act; we can’t keep quiet. If we all work together, maybe we can make 2024 be the year we stop the hate.

TL;DR: If we organize, we can get Nex back in the media cycle, put pressure on politicians, and turn bigots into non-bigots. Organize and attend protests, talk to your local news station, and make sure your local pride march is doing something to honor Nex. Let’s show America that “protect queer youth” is about empathy and love, not indoctrination or whatever bullshit they think it is.

Puberty blockers, referenced above, do what it says on the tin. They don’t cause any changes of their own, but for as long as they’re taken they mute the signalling hormone the brain uses to tell the body to produce sex hormones (e.g., oestrogen and optionally progesterone, means breast development, softer skin, and curves. Semi-anecdotally, many trans people — me included, for the record — find that HRT has another effect: it stops us feeling like amorphous putrefying masses passing painfully through an incomprehensible howling void. Why does it do this? Fucked if I know. Whips though.

There’s also social transition. This is non-medical: it’s stuff like changing how you dress, cutting or growing out your hair, changing your pronouns, changing your name. While way easier to explain, it’s an equally important part of transition.

Regardless, whether social or medical, when it comes to transition, the Cass Review has nothing kind to say about any of it.

It finds that the evidence base for the safety and effectiveness of either puberty blockers or HRT is insufficient. It also highlights the suggestion that there are high rates of regret. It therefore recommends that young trans girls should only be given puberty blockers on a case-by-case basis, and trans boys, who “masculinise well” should not be given them at all. It does not let them access HRT earlier to compensate - on the contrary, it says “the option” to prescribe HRT “is available” from 16 but orders that there must be a “clear clinical rationale” — simply being trans and wanting to transition doesn’t count.

One might think that since social transition is non-medical, a medical service would not have a lot to say about it. Bzzt. Wrongo, bitch. The Cass Review decides it can intervene because it says social transition “may have significant effects on the child or young person in terms of their psychological functioning or longer-term outcomes”.

It finds that “the majority of children who had socially transitioned went on to progress to medical interventions”. Rather than consider the obvious explanation — kids who socially transition are probably trans — it instead asserts that “social transition may have solidified the gender incongruence,” i.e., that letting kids socially transition probably makes them trans. On that basis, it recommends that kids should not be allowed more than “partial social transition”. In the sense the Cass Review uses it, this means that they should be allowed to change their hair and maybe how they dress, but should not be allowed to change their name or pronouns — i.e., they should not be able to actually ask people to treat them as the gender they are.

It’s pretty remarkable that Cass was able to reach these conclusions. It’s remarkable because it flies in the face of everything else we know. Puberty blockers are safe and reversible. HRT is not fully reversible — that’s kind of the point! — but it is safe. The number of kids who choose to stop either once they’ve started them is low. As the Final Report itself admits, the number who do so because they no longer want to be on them is lower. The number of people who regret them is lower than that.

Speaking objectively, and with absolutely all due respect, the Cass Review is a crock of shit.

See more here: https://heterosexualnonsense.substack.com/p/explainer-cass-reviewed?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

I 14F would like to think im a good person who is well rounded fair and has a steong understanding of emotions and morals But for some reason i feel the need to almost protect or gatekeep my woman/girl hood? Like no man or somone who was once a man will ever understand it and i know its bad i know trans woman are just trying to live how they want and that's fine i hope their happy! I'll use their pronouns but some part of me thinks "you'll never really understand being a girl though" and i don't like that about me why am i so protective of a shared experience and especially ethel cain her music connects to me so much but for some sick reason i almost dont let myself listen to it because shes trans shes trans and somehow feels what i feel? Does anyone have and input?