There's some information about intuition that is not being told in mbti community. God gave everyone intuition for a reason. It's hidden knowledge and creativity that God gives us. Intuition is also given us aso a guide to our higher self's and spirituality. Our intuition is a guidance to what's right or what's wrong, to give us warning signals when something is off, to give us information from God, to guide us to higher levels of awareness, to help our spirit to become awaken, and to connect more into the spiritual realm than physical realm.

The mbti website makes being a sensor (not listening to your intuition) sound normal. It's not normal to be a sensor. Sensing forcus on physical realm with our five senses rather than going spiritual by listening to our intuition(our six sense) . The physical realm is really just a illusion we are really spirits in a school to learn life lessons and to become like God.

(Se) which is Sensing Extrovert being overly attached to physical realm and physical pleasures like sports, games, inappropriate behavior is the lower self. The Adventurers types ESFP, ESTP, ISFP, and ISTP are too attached to physical realm and physical pleasures with low (Ni) which is to help us go to our higher self's and spirituality.

(Si) which is Sensing Introvert with low (Ne) is being less acceptable to new ways of thinking , change for God's kingdom and new things. The Sentinels types ESFJ, ESTJ, ISFJ, and ISTJ are closed minded for newer ways of thinking and doing things with low (Ne) which is to help us be opened minded for new things and change God wants

(Ni) is intuition that is inside of us as a guidance to higher self, spiritual awakening and God.

(Ne) is open-mindeness so we'll be accepting to new ways of thinking and change so we'll be opened to God's new kingdom

The Adventurers with high (Se) and low (Ni) is the lower self. God didn't put us on this earth to be overly attached to physicality and play all day. This world and universe is a school for our spirits to learn and go higher levels of awakenings and consciousness. When we forcus to much on physical realm we are ignoring our real reason why we are here. We are here to become like our father (God) .

The Sentinels with high (Si) and low (Ne) is rejecting newer ways of thinking. When God brings in his kingdom we can't stay in our old ways. Our minds have to be renewed and opened to new things and new ways of thinking. When God brings in his kingdom he's going to make everything new and want people to be renewed in our thinking so we become new creatures.

One thing is wrong about mbti when it says our personality types cannot change. Listening to our Intuition is a option not permanent. God gave everyone intuition. Intuition is not only available for a few or some group people. Everyone has intuition. If a sensor finally decides to listen to their intuition then their intuition gets stronger the more they listen to it. When we ignore our intuition it gets weaker. Sensors can become intuitives the more they start listening to their intuition. Being a sensor(choosing not to listen to their intuition) is a option but can change anything if the person decides to listen to it.

Killing our intuition is a crime towards God and we can get into trouble. If we become darker and eventually end up killing our intuition we are setting up ourselves for death spirituality. Try keeping your intuition alive as it helps keeps you alive spirituality.

In the mbti community they took God out of the meaning of intuition and made it like a mysterious magical thing that pops out of nowhere. God gave everyone intuition as a guide to awaken the spirit. Introvert intuition(Ni) is the self-accusing spirit that is inside of all of us in hopes we listen to it to awaken the spirit. The more we listen to it the stronger the voice becomes and the more awakened we become spirituality.

The mbti community made it seem like it's normal for us to ignore our (Ni) so we can stay asleep and be dead spirituality. It's not normal for us to ignore our (Ni) it's the inner guidance for spiritual awakening, God, and higher self. (Ni) is not only just a gut feeling that warns us when to stay away from trouble it's also our self-accusing spirit that tells us what's right and what's wrong and gives us guilt when we do something bad.

When we do evil and feel guilty about it that's our (Ni) talking to us and it shows we are spiritually awake but when you can do evil and feel nothing that's a sign of lack of (Ni) and spiritual blindness/death.

I noticed there are a lot of fake intuitives in the mbti community. People think being a "intuitive" makes them special because they "choose" to listen to their intuition. Everyone has intuition. Intuition is not only for a few people or small group of people. Everyone has it. Intuition is listening to our nature we were created/self-accusing spirit in hopes we come back to our nature which is obedience to God. Our nature is to be righteous and submission to God. Listening to your intuition doesn't make you better than other people.

Some fake intuitives only want to listen to their intuition so they can feel special and smarter than others. That's not what intuition was made for. Intuition was made to awaken the spirit so we can become God and reach higher levels of awareness. It seems like most "intuitives" only wanted to listen to their intuition for negative purposes and to make themselves feel special. Being a "intuitive" doesn't mean being interested/studying in science, computer programming, abstract conversations, meaningful conversations and etc.

A real "intuitive" is someone who is in complete submission to God. When you submit yourself to God your self-accusing spirit/intuition becomes stronger and your spirit will be wide awake.

Intuitives can also lose their intuition and become sensors. When we become dark and evil our intuition gets weaker and we lose our creative powers. The darker we become our intuition gets weaker and if dark enough we could end up also killing our intuition. God doesn't give intuition to the wicked and the rebellious . Intuition is for the righteous and was made to keep us spiritually awake. When someone ignores their intuition or becomes dark they go into sensor mode which is spiritual blindness.

When we become evil and in rebellion towards God we lose

1. (Ni) which is to help keep us spiritually awake. Losing (Ni) causes spiritual blindness and keeps our spirits asleep and dead
2. (Ne) which is to help us be opened-minded to God's new ways of thinking. Losing (Ne) causes us to lose our creative powers and become rejectful of God's new thinking

There are a lot of fake INFJs, INTJs, ENTPs, ENFPs, etc. INFJs/INTJs with (Ni) as their dominate function means they should have a strong self-accusing spirit and should be spirituality awake. If you see a INFJ/ENFJ/ENTJ/INTJ that can do evil and feel nothing or in rebellion towards God that's a sign they completely lost their (Ni) and they are no longer an INFJ they are a sensor(spiritual blindness). When we disconnect ourselves from God or in rebellion we lose (Ni) or it gets weaken. Listening to (Ni) Is listening to the nature of ourselves (self-accusing spirit) which is obedience to God

Same thing that there are a lot of fake ENTPs, INTPs, INFPs and ENFPs claiming they have (Ne) as their dominate function. When we are in rebellion towards God we lose our creative powers.

There are a lot of fake intuitives that would act like the type, so called claim they are "trying" to listen to their intuition for negative purposes, and study abstract ideas just so they have feel special and have a title of being smart. The one's who think just because they "choose" to listen to their intuition that they are better than other people are really sensors and fake. God does not like proud and arrogant people. When we become arrogant we shut off knowledge and lose (Ne) and (Ni) . If we want a strong intuition we must be humble and submit to God . God doesn't give intuition to the proud, arrogant, and rebellious people

The N > S is better is really silly and foolish. Intuitives think just because they have more knowledge and so called "trying" to listen to their intituion are better. Sensors can gain strong intuition too and become intuitives too if they choose to submit to God and finally listen to their intuition. One thing is wrong about mbti when it says our personality types cannot change. Not listening to our Intuition is a option not permanent. God gave everyone intuition. Intuition is not only available for a few or some group people. Everyone has intuition. If a sensor finally decides to listen to their intuition then their intuition gets stronger the more they listen to it. When we ignore our intuition it gets weaker. Sensors can become intuitives the more they start listening to their intuition. Being a sensor(choosing not to listen to their intuition) is a option but can change anything if the person decides to listen to it.

Anyone can become great and smart when they choose to listen to their intuition. God wouldn't make only a few people "special" and leave the rest out. Then it would make God unfair and unjust. Anybody can become smart, great, have creative powers, and do great things because everyone has intuition. God gave everyone intuition not only a small group of people. Any sensor can become great and intuitive if they choose to listen to their intuition. God wants all of his children to become great and intuitive. He wouldn't favor only a few people and leave rest of his children out

We are not supposed to listen to our intuition just to get a special title type, to feel superior, to feel smater than others, to feel special, and for many other negative purposes. We listen to our intuition to become one with God, come back to him and become spirituality awaken. The Inuitives that are arrogant, proud, rebellious towards God, evil and dark are not inuitives they are fake. They just want a title(N type) to feel special and superior to others. Intuition comes from God. The creative ideas, the gut feeling, the hidden knowledge all comes from God. When we disconnect ourselves from God and in rebellion towards him we lose our powers/intuition. The "real" intuitives are the righteous and ones who are in submission to the will of God.

There are a lot of fake physics, fake coming up with ideas, and fake "i have a strong intuition" in the mbti community. People think being good at science, history, computer programming = having a strong intuition. That's not intuition it's just you being good at a topic or subject. And fake physics that are evil and in rebellion towards God are not physics they are just using witchcraft. Using witchcraft and casting spells is not intuition it's satantic. There's a lot of so-called "i found the hidden meanings" in the community. Their so called "getting hIdden information" are coming from fallen angels/demons they are not getting it from God nor their intuition. The so-called "I'm coming up with all these ideas " If they are evil and in rebellion towards God those "ideas" did not came from their intuition it was stolen. When we are evil and in rebellion towards God we lose our creative powers.

Using witchcraft and casting spells is not intuition. Studying science/abstract stuff and being good at a scientific subjects is not intuition. Stealing other people ideas and claiming it as yours is not intuition. Being spiritual, growing in stages of spiritual growth and being in submission to God is intuition.

It seems like everyone want a strong intuition but you can't have a strong intuition if you are evil or in rebellion towards God. To get a strong intuition we have to connect ourselves with God and go up levels of self spiritual development. The more we connect ourselves with God and develop our spirits the stronger our intuition becomes. The more we disconnect ourselves from God and not develop our spirits the weaker our intuition becomes.

Do not try to listen to your intuition for the purpose of wanting to feel superior to others or feel special. God wouldn't only make a few people special and leave the rest of his children out. God is just and treats all of his children equal. People in the mbti only want a strong intuition only so they can brag about it and feel special. God does not give people a strong intuition if they are proud, arrogant and only want to listen to it for selfish/negative intentions.

The definition of intuition had been oversimplified to just "gut feeling" and "coming up with idea's". Intuition is more than just " gut feeling " and "coming up with idea's" . Intuition is the self-accusing spirit that tells us what's right and what's wrong, it's our key to spiritual awakening, to help us see things clearer(coming out of spiritual blindness), and to help connect ourselves to God. God had been completely taken out of the definition of intuition and been limited to just listening to your gut and coming up with ideas. Listening to your gut and coming up with new ideas is just the basic levels of intuition. There are higher levels of intuition. The more our spirit is developed and more we connect ourselves to God our intuition gets stronger and we grow into higher levels of intuition. When we go into higher levels of intuition we start seeing things brigher, clearer and grow into more self-awarness. The more when we don't develop our spirit and disconnect from God the more our intuition gets weaker and we come into spiritual blindness and don't see things clearly.

There are a couple of agents and fake intuitives in the mbti community. The ones that would say "it's okay to be a sensor" , "being a sensor is fine" or "everyone is just different. When someone chooses to ignore their intuition" are agents and snakes that what you to stay into spiritual blindness. They don't want you to wake up to what's really going on and want to keep you in the dark.

The mbti community took God out of intuition and made it a "how we see the world" or intuition is a "cognitive function". I could tell the people who made the mbti website are atheism because they are deceiving a lot of people and don't want people to wake up on what's really going on. They hide the true meaning of intuition because they want everyone to stay asleep and be dead spirituality. The post is not a religion thing it's to get people to wake up spirituality. Submitting to God is not a religion it's a way of life and our nature

I know this might seems stupid but I am an ENFJ and when I meet one, I don't know why but I find them so annoying. I can read so bad into what they are doing and also I find their naivety and over positivity annoying. It is not always the case though. Some of them I perceive as really good people but I just find it weird to get annoyed by people of my own type.

Just feel like this needs said occasionally.

If the basic definitions of ENFJ describe you, what others say about you, how you act, how you think, etc, then you are ENFJ.

If you test today and get XXXX your type isn't different, your circumstances and mental emotional state have simply changed.

Think of your type like your instinct. There are essentially 16 sets of human instincts under the Myers Briggs system. Dogs for instance have a certain set of instincts. There are subtle differences but dogs generally bark at perceived dangers. You can train a dog not to bark, or more specifically to suppress the instinct to bark, but the instinct didn't go away. A dog may act like a cat at times in little subtle ways, but (don't try this at home kiddies) drop that dog from a high height and it will not land on its feet like a cat. At it's core it's a dog.

That's why this isn't a buzzfeed quiz that predicts your future. It's a way to scientifically analyze and group behavior.

This also isn't a Cosmo quiz that will tell you who your soulmate is. No one type is attracted solely to another. Human relationships are based on far more than the way two people's brains function. Shared experiences, common beliefs, similar goals, hormones, genetics, and upbringing/culture/society play much bigger roles in finding friends and partners that your MBTI type. Your type CAN help you reflect on how you act in these relationships and things you can work on, but it CAN NOT tell you what people you will or won't connect with.

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I have a few writing projects in the works and one of them involves an ENFJ protagonist in a fantasy setting. The problem I'm running into is making him a bit too perfect and likable. (For me personally, ENFJs are hard not to like 😅)

But I want to add more complexity to his character and relationships; a little more friction and conflict.

To help me with this, I have a few questions:

1. What might trigger ENFJs and bring out their darker side? What happens when that darker side is summoned? 😈

2. For an ENFJ, what are some characters flaws that would create friction within their relationships? 📉

(Some flaws I was thinking of for my character is 1. at first being a bit overwhelming for his shy and introverted love interest and 2. being too giving and helpful, which causes him to burnout and temporarily become bitter and detached as an unhealthy defense mechanism.)

3. How might an ENFJ deal with being forced to work with others where there is mutual dislike? 💣💥

4. As an ENFJ, what conflicts have you dealt with in your relationships with friends, family or love interests? What have you learned about maintaining healthy relationships? 🌱🤝

Overall, I just want my ENFJ protagonist to be a complex and well rounded character; lovable but flawed. I appreciate any comments that might help me achieve this. 🥰

TLDR: I recently met a woman on an online dating app and we initially got along great with just a couple of hiccups that I apologized profusely for. Over the past week or so, however, it’s starting to feel like she’s pulling away and not reciprocating the feelings I have for her based on repeated patterns I’ve noticed. I’m getting mixed signals and I’m starting to think I should let her go to ease my feelings once and for all.

About a month ago I matched with a woman on an online dating app. We connected well and eventually met each other in person a few times. She’s about 2 hours away, but the commute wasn’t a problem for me.

Initially, things were fine; it seemed as if she reciprocated feelings. We went on several dates and I took her shopping a few times to buy her gifts, and we paid for each other’s meals when we went out to eat. She even cooked dinner for me at one point. Things got a little bumpy here and there as I made a few stupid mistakes, but I fought to keep her around and she somehow obliged.

With all of that being said, though, one thing that has been bothering me since our first time meeting in person is that she’s on her phone often. This alone wouldn’t normally bother me too much, but when we’re not together she takes forever to respond, and her texts are often short; sometimes it’ll take her hours to respond to a message, and the responses can be terse. I mean last time she responded to me was 18 hours ago when she asked if we were still on for a date tonight that I planned. Mind you, this is hours after my previous message to her. I don’t really have evidence, but I just know she’s on her phone and basically ignoring my messages regularly.

With all of that being said, even though she is on her phone often when we’re together, she also does make it seem like she’s interested and worries that I could be talking to someone else and needs reassurance that I like her. I’m really getting mixed signals from her.

Obviously I could be reading too far into things and jumping to conclusions too fast, but this has all been a pattern that’s repeated over the last month. It’s making me think she’s disinterested and keeping me around as a back up or something. She doesn’t seem to put in the effort or show as much affection towards me as I do her. At this point I’m really thinking she might be talking to or seeing other guys on the low. It’s like a gut feeling.

I’m honestly thinking of just letting her go. Right now our date for later is up in the air because she has yet to respond, but I don’t even know if I want to anymore. It’s hard because I caught feelings so fast, but I know I’m putting myself through it by talking to her.

Am I crazy for thinking this? I just feel like if someone cared enough they’d put in the bare minimum to at least respond to a simple text message on a reasonable basis, especially when I know you’re on your phone often.

Curious to know how you met your partners, because most people that come up to me always have the wrong intentions so i’ve never had a romantic relationship.

I’m an ISFJ. I personally believe, based upon my personal experience, that two people who have been married for more than 3 years have something in common, even if it doesn’t seem like it to outsiders. My parents have been married for 20+ years. When I was in middle school, a friend of mine asked why; because she thought my mom was more attractive than my dad. At the time, I didn’t quite know why myself, as my mom also seemed more well adjusted than my dad. Later on, it all came out. My mother is just as toxic as my father. Both of them had similar enough upbringings (abusive fathers.) They’re both very paranoid. This is what brought them together. And my mother lost her looks as her mental health deteriorated.

I've been crying more lately. Not sad crying, just welling up with emotion. Nostalgic songs, movie scores, and loud strong instrumental music hit the hardest. On the flip side I've noticed I cry less at funerals and such the last couple of years.

I kinda like crying sometimes but it's a little annoying when I'm trying to watch a movie or listen to music. I try not to do it in public because it's a little embarrassing but more than that it's distracting to people.

It's not really a problem or anything I'm just curious is all. :)

Thoughts? Do you cry often? Do you like crying? Do you suppress crying ever?

Basically, I've been curious about what do the people at the Myers-Briggs company have to say about my type.

Just for clarification, the 16p test isn't an MBTI test. They don't type by functions, they just correlate Big Five traits to their own types. So your results in 16p may not match other tests.

I have read a lot about functions and types, but sometimes I wonder what an actual MBTI professional has to say. Has anyone taken it? How was it like?

So, I am a male ENFJ, 18, and I’m having trouble making (real) friends. I could even say I don’t have any.

In summary, I feel like people consider me a friend because I can be “useful” and I’m always there to help out anyone, not because they like me or they want to spend time with me, I don’t know if that’s a very ENFJy thing to feel. Is it?

Hi! Need the opinion of older Fe doms and typists.

I'm an ENFJ, at the end of my teens and I feel like my Fe has been decreasing over the past year.

My sense of self preservation has obviously sky-rocketed but I feel like I no longer put in enough effort into any of my relationships. And if I do, it kinda feels like a chore. I'm still socially observant, enough to know how to act well, but I feel like my actions have become less...community centered? I can only do enough to save my arse.

Is this a Ti grip caused by the young adult life changes? Is it normal for Fe doms to go lower on stereotypical behavior as they age?

I'm personally into metal/power metal. Sabaton, alestorm etc

I have several questions, but as always I have a story as well.

Story time: I had two co-workers at a job I left very recently who are brothers. Though they are brothers they are physically completely different (mannerisms, build, height, weight, etc). Personality wise on the other hand, they are very very similar. I hesitate to type people (feel free to do so, I just don't think I know enough about mbti yet to make an attempt), but I am certain one is a thinking type while the other is feeling. Other than that they have seemingly identical personality structures.

I don't get along with the T type AT ALL (few do), nor do i care too honestly, and I cope with the F type (he fakes pleasantries and I accept that and avoid him at all costs when possible). Anyways, one of the most off-putting qualities of them both is total outspoken aversion to anything figurative. They loudly announce they "will neither listen or respond to hypotheticals". They even went so far as to say hypotheticals are "dangerous and destructive". If you even suggest a change they immediately want to know the number of people who agree (they literally ask for votes) or they want word for word exact recounts of multiple instances where they did whatever thing they feel accused of. The T type has gone so far as to say hyperbole and metaphor have no place in a dicision making environment (whatever the hell that means).

After years of (forced) interacting with them, I've come to the conclusion that they actually struggle to understand anything that's abstract in the slightest. I've also learned something else, this time about me. I LOVE the abstract. I use hypotheticals a LOT more than I realized. Metaphor, hyperbole, simile, and the like as well.

I'm wondering if this falls into S vs N or P vs J? Or is this more function specific?

Do you find you think and speak more in the abstract? Being so oriented towards feelings, I'd guess so, but I want to know your experiences. Have you met anyone like these two? Are they also so defensive and confrontational about these things? It baffles me when I deal with people who seem to be entirely the opposite of myself and have NO desire to try to find common ground or to meet me halfway on anything. I want to know what I can do to bridge the gap though it seems they never had any desire to do so themselves.

Though we seem to be entirely opposite why can they not grasp the abstract, while I can (at least I think I can) understand both abstract and literal (though I prefer one over the other)?

Thanks :)

As an INFP with primary function Fi I've noticed that while I don't have Ti as a function I sometimes can glimpse into the workings of Ti by flipping my Fi to logic or truth. One example is when a value of mine gets triggered and I go into mission mode to fight for it. Then I wonder if Ti primary has the same thing, except their mission mode is to "dig for the truth".

I'm also wondering if any ENFJ has had the same experience for Fe and Te? And wondering how you would explain Te from the perspective of your own Fe?

Asking because my wife is ENFJ and would love to see if this is one way to give insights for how Te works to an ENFJ.

Anyways if this is confusing sorry lol.

I’m doing my masters degree. One of the few guys in the class, Randall, is very well liked. But even though I tried to talk to him at the beginning of our program, he definitely seemed to prefer talking to other people over me. And I was fine with that. I admit that I am kind of a recluse. When I do speak in public, I’m often stammering and slurring my words. Not to mention, I’m just kind of ditzy.

We barely talked for the first four months. There was one instance where he was kind to me at a time when he didn’t need to be. Once after class, some of our friends wanted to go to a nearby market. I stayed standing where I was, but no one noticed except him. But we grew a little bit closer after our shared hatred for one of our professors. He’d help me with my homework sometimes. And we didn’t make a little jokes here and there. We’d often leave class together, along with another girl.

That being said, he’s been unkind to me at times. In one instance, he went over during lunch to talk to one of our classmates. And I walked over to the two of them. He then sighed and told our friend “yeah, go with (my name)”, and left. Another time, we were all studying for a midterm. He asked one of our friends, the answer to a question. I tried giving him one (to be fair, it was incorrect). He looked at me and then looked away and continued asking our friend.

I know he’s not a mean person, but again he’s been unkind to me when I don’t really think he needed to be. So it really surprised me that he agreed to come to my birthday party. And he gave me a beautiful bouquet of flowers. He was the very first to come and amongst the very last to leave. I don’t really know what this means. I wonder if maybe he feels bad for how he treated me, so this is kind of his way of showing me that he does care?

I recently commented on a post where a man was feeling down and was just informed that he's gone now. >!Suicide!< This made me ask myself, what I can do? and what can we as a society and loved ones do to help our fellow men to not have to face such a cruel destiny?

As an ENFJ I wanna do something but I need advice what that something is. I began with telling my partner that he must contact his friend who lives alone and is struggling. And remind him that we think about him and he's always welcome to our home. I also said we need to pay him a visit. My partner agreed.

Besides my own dear ones, how do I help society in this matter? It's itching in my fingers I can't just watch our men fall down like dominoes. I hate that toxic masculinity still takes lives.

Edit: This is a vent post, clearly my Fe domness went on a trip

I don't know if anyone else can relate to this...

I feel like I have 2 sides of myself and they are so balanced that they are constantly in conflict with each other.

On the one hand, I am very fearful of making people upset in any way or of pursuing a personal goal knowing that it might hurt someone or even rub them the wrong way. I do very much value harmony and peace in my relationships and will work very hard to make sure everyone is heard and happy.

On the other hand, I am also a very deeply individualistic person. I am passionate about what I'm passionate about and like creating goals just for the sake of it. I like doing things simply because it was me, not someone else, who decided to do it.

I don't know how to tie together my love of connection/harmonious relationships and my need for personal freedom and autonomy. Again, these things are held in almost perfectly equal regard and this makes it very difficult to make my own decisions.

For example, I am currently in the process of trying to start my own business, and I haven't managed to get it off the ground yet. I am also a mother of 2, divorced, and living at home with my parents. Working a full-time office job is something I did for a bit, but 1. it didn't pay enough to live, and 2. my parents were watching my kids and they wanted to me to quit so they wouldn't have to babysit as much. I am currently trying to do the very difficult task of trying to start a business while also trying to keep my family happy and make sure I'm spending enough time with my kids. But I know that most people trying to start a business will work like, 60-80 hours a week at first to try to gain some momentum.

It's just a lot to balance, I guess--trying to gain some perspective I guess about what I should be doing/focusing on....

Hello everyone, I hope you're all doing fine :)
Could you please give me advice on how to support my ENFJ little sister and help her grow and improve in a healthy way? Like, what type of advice do you wish you had received as a child/teenager? Or maybe it was not advice that you wish you had received, maybe it was something else?

Thank you all in advance for your help!

Edit: grammar

I decided to name this post this because I thought it's a good name, I know the issue may not be as bad as the name makes it out to be but it's certainly an issue.

Sometime in the evening last night, I was looking at new videos to watch. I saw one about why MBTI isn't fully accurate (it isn't) but then I decided to hop on reddit for a bit. I went on the MBTI and ENFJ subreddit and noticed 1 type of comment stand out. "Compatibility" posts. This would be where people would ask others if their type would match well with that type for example, "would my type INFP match well with ESTJ?". I don't have an issue with people looking at compatibility but for what I see, it creates 2 issues which are really bad for us:

1.) It makes people desire specific types, to a point of stalkerish behaviour. I don't know the right words to describe this but essentially it makes people desire specific traits in a relationship too much. The most common trend that I've heard about and made posts about is the INFP x ENFJ ordeal. If you use this subbreddit a lot, you'll get what I mean. They will often like us a lot for our "helpfulness" and other traits. Please don't desire very specific types.

2.) Overgeneralisation. This one is going to be a bit harder to explain. Each type can never perfectly describe someone. Even though I am an ENFJ, I may not perfectly describe one. We all have our differences. When I see these compatibility posts, I see basically the same thing every time of people loving these specific traits of us. For us, it could be how we act more "extroverted" but in reality, some ENFJs may be more quiet than others.

I'll say this again. I don't hate people for making compatibility posts, nor do I think they're a really bad idea but what I do think is that if we allow the types of behaviours to manifest, people will get worse.

I'd love to hear what everyone else thinks about this!

I'm ENFJ myself but my old man is ISTP and I have a few friends who are ISTPs.

In my experience, it is genuinely difficult for some ISTPs to hold friendships but they've been able to remain steady with ENFJs and ENFPs because they understand ISTPs. They can appear to be blunt and grumpy on the surface but they really do care - they just don't like showing it.

However I do sometimes feel like strangling em coz they know how to get on your nerves🤣what's your experiences?

Conspiracy theory.

"ENFJS CAN TALK THEIR WAY OUT OF ANYTHING"

is the most manipulative phrase it is literal gaslightimg.

What it does: there is no room to be heard. Any evidence or details that shift how any situation should be received are to be instantly dismissed and not considered which actually makes us doubt ourselves and ensures no one listens.

Its a real manipulators failsafe.

I see constantly that isfps do this. Holy shit.

This phrase is used to avoid their accountability and being called out.

The toxic nature baffles me.

I've seen people say this a lot about ENFJ women, and it's odd to me because I don't relate at all. I'm rather soft-spoken and easygoing, so hearing people scream "mommy dommy" at ENFJ women is so weird 💀 do you agree?

Looking for some ENFJ guys (preferably 25-35) to befriend (and potentially more with). I was told that you and XNFJs in general are the most compatible type for me and one of my ex-boyfriends was an ENFJ (although we didn't work at the time because we were young and dumb).

Just looking to hang with in general, not necessarily serious, can go with the flow. :) I'm a researcher and I may travel around for work, so even if you aren't from here that's okay.

I need to vent to fellow Enfjs. I was getting credit for have made this post in the main sub. I just wanna inform people that this is not my post. I could never take credit for what isn't my work. Sorry to the OP, it was a user who assumed it was my post because I was active in the discussion threads and they started telling people it's mine, so I wanted to come clean and prevent this misinformation /rumor spreading.

With this said. OP to this post, you are very brave and I have strong respect for your contribution. It lead to many interesting discourses and people who might have previously objectified us got an "aha-moment" and it has lead to more respect for us as indviduals.

Hi, last tine i checked i got entj but before that i got enfj, can You give me more details about the difference between these types?

And explain why! I’m also curious about your enneagram type because I feel like that can impact compatibility :)

You do so much for others. You are so generous with your time, energy, and efforts. You genuinely care about other people's happiness and wellbeing. You are a ray of sunshine in the lives of everyone lucky enough to be blessed with your presence.

But you are so much more than that. You are curious, creative, and open minded, lovers of learning and growing. You have this amazing ability to be both deep, wise, insightful, cerebral, and also grounded in real life and the present moment, enjoying it to the fullest. You are a bridge between living and dreaming, between what is and what you believe we all could be.

You embody hope and a belief in something more, something better than what we have, and you take action towards your visions. You understand the impact you can have on the world even with the smallest actions. And you keep showing up. The force inside you that keeps you going, despite how dark this world can be, is breathtaking to behold. I hope you know how amazing you are for keeping that flame inside you burning.

You deserve reciprocation. You deserve people who are gentle with your hearts and respectful of your needs and wishes. People who love you for who you are, not just for what you do for them. You deserve people in your life who want to give you their time, energy and efforts too. Not out of obligation, guilt, or discomfort with any imbalance in the give and take between you. But simply because they love who you are and want you to be happy.

You deserve people who want to see you safe and thriving. People who want to walk by your side through life, sharing both the burdens and the joy, not spending the whole journey being carried on your shoulders. And when you get tired, you deserve to have people who will happily carry you too, letting you rest and just be for a while.

You're amazing, with deep, rich, complex inner lives, and you deserve all the love and happiness in the world.

Thank you for being you <3