I am prochoice, in spite of the fact that my mother is pro life (I am a woman.) I have posted multiple times today asking people on different subreddits if they think Trump and his administration will go after birth control. I’m an ISFJ. I expect that they will. I think they’ll try to ban it. I admit that I don’t know enough about politics to comment on whether or not I expect this will actually be passed. Though I have a feeling that they are going to try, and find it disturbing that a lot of Redditors are waving off the idea. I had posted a prediction suggesting that I think Gen Z and/or Gen Alpha will have children at higher rates than expected if Trump’s administrative teams succeeds in banning birth control. I think women should have the right to make a choice, however. I know that pregnancy can be quite dangerous, I think it’s immoral to suggest that a woman shouldn’t be able to decide for herself. I mean, pregnancy can literally kill you.

However, I myself may still have a child. Some part of me thinks having children is a blessing (I recall my maternal aunt saying something like that. My mother is religious, she’s very annoying about it and often asks me nowadays to pray, she was asking ne this morning if I’m still saying the Ten Commandments before bed. I do not.) My first job out of high school was as a teaching assistant, for a little over a year (a year and a few months.) My current job is as a behavioral technician. I still work with children at this job, and am to have two new clients soon. I enjoy working with kindergarten aged children the most, it’s easiest for me. I babysit sometimes on the weekends, I babysat this past Friday and Saturday. I’ve babysat two children multiple times. I was teased about my appearance (well, talked about behind my back in middle school and 9th grade) which is partly why I’m unsure about having a child (if I do, I’ll be in my early thirties anyhow, and I’ve always known this. In eleventh grade I remember mentioning often in Spanish that I wanted a child, even before I gained any childcare experience.) I know that having a child would cause weight gain, and I don’t want that. I have $27k saved from my two jobs. I actually don’t have much sexual experience. I had a boyfriend in high school, and do recall having given him a blowjob. We did do sexual things, technically, though we never actually had sex. I knew that I would need to be on birth control to avoid a pregnancy (and even then, using birth control or protection doesn’t always guarantee that you won’t become pregnant. I remember learning that in 11th grade when I was an intern for an extracurricular at school that taught students about sexual and mental health. I was very depressed back then due to negligent parenting and prior trauma - family member once nearly hit me with a tennis racket when I was in 8th grade intentionally though I know they were having serious mental health issues and have moved on from it for the most part - so I wasn’t terribly consistent about it in my first year or two. It wasn’t until I was a senior and taking easier courses - which was intentional, a bit of a self care year for me especially since I knew I’d be going off to community college - that I started taking it more “seriously” and caring about mentoring the newer members.) I have been approached for sex multiple times in the past. I’d be lying if I said I’d never considered it (there was a particularly good looking man around my age who approached me for it maybe in late 2023. I did give him my number, almost went for it but ultimately didn’t because I didn’t want to get pregnant.) I have negative feelings towards my own mother, who has accused the other family members and I of being apart of a plot to have her killed for her money (she decided this after we all learned my father took $10k from me. My parents argue often.) I “cope” with life by trying my best to avoid thinking about bothersome things like that. I think that both of my parents are terrible people, but choose to continue living with them because I’m used to it and care a lot about saving money.

If you ask me why I’ve considered having kids, I’d tell you (honestly) that it’s in part because of socialization, I think. I grew up on shows like “The Simpsons” and “Stranger Things” that portray a household wherein there’s a housewife, working husband, and kids. I was a weird kid who strangely romanticized the 1950s even though I understand as an adult that it’d have been a terrible time period (I mostly just liked the fashion and music. I grew up watching the first two back to the future films often, which is why I think this happened. I know that it was perhaps dumb, though since I’m a black woman or I see why someone would say that.) Deep down inside, some part of me does believe that part of my role as a woman in this society is to marry and have a child. I don’t want multiple children, I couldn’t handle three and likely couldn’t handle two either. I’d be comfortable with one, potentially, later on down the line. I know I probably would really dislike pregnancy and childbirth (well, I’d certainly dislike childbirth, I’ve always had a memory of seeing a woman on Babycenter give birth when I was 7 and feeling really frightened and uncomfortable) but I’d be lying if I said I don’t occasionally ponder what experiencing it would be like. In a very strange way I know I somehow feel like I wouldn’t be fulfilling my “duty” if I didn’t marry and have a kid, but I know that I really shouldn’t be thinking like that. I grew up with a stay at home mother, who is a terrible person, and don’t know how to cook. I have a low pain tolerance, always have, so I’m sure that mentally a pregnancy could be a nightmare for me. In high school I stayed home from school multiple times because I thought I had a hemorrhoid. I was like that as a child, too. I have a memory of having had to use an enema once (well, I was a child so my mother had to for me) and I still get kind of squirmy and uncomfortable when I think about it. It’s been over a decade so I might be misremembering, but I think I had almost passed out. A lot of it was just anxiety, though, I do have an anxiety disorder. I was that bothered. I’ve never been “calm” about things like that. So if I really stop and think about it I can envision myself screaming if I were to give birth in the future, screaming and crying and sweating, hyperventilating. It doesn’t mean I’m 100% unlikely to go through with it, though. In a strange way, I don’t like how antinatalist some on Reddit are. I notice how cynical a lot of people on this site seem, I don’t like that. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting kids. But I think it’s weird to act like you’re a lot smarter than those who chose to. I’ve judged someone for having a kid before, someone whose two years older than me with an infant. I didn’t judge them because I think having kids is just a dumb decision. I judged them because they aren’t married and I knew they surely couldn’t afford it yet. Even if you have a lot of money saved between 20-22, it’s very rare that you’ll have enough money and maturity as a single mother to provide that child with everything they need - especially a black child, who will have many barriers to success. This is why if I have a baby, I’ll be twenty nine at the least. But probably in my thirties, honestly.

I feel that my social skills improved after high school. In high school I felt a lot of anxiety because my grade was honestly terrible (the upperclassman thought so, too.) A lot of gossipy rude people (boys in our grade who shoved the girls aside in the hallways, people who followed my private spam acc just to discuss the content of it with others - I stopped letting people follow that almost entirely in senior year. I just decided to do a personal reboot. I know it was dumb of me to post any of my business there.)

I have 1302 LinkedIn connections. I technically “know” or at least am connected to people who are arguably in positions of power, though I haven’t leveraged those connections. Someone in a position of power complimented me years ago for being good at public speaking. I still have them in social media, though I don’t go out of my way to converse with them other than having wished them a happy birthday.

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You know what you did. Why'd you do it ? What set you off and what were your motivations? What's the end goal?

Hey all, I’m a pre med student. How do I keep myself from being distressed about the state of the country (USA). Thanks xoxo 🙃

I've got an ENTP friend and I'm so done with him. Pissing me off is the only thing he knows and he thinks that's cool. But the stuff he does is not too serious and I can't actually get real mad at him. And the worst part is, even when I'm mad at him, he doesn't understand or take me seriously until I say "I'm being really serious now". When I try to retaliate and piss him off instead, he enjoys it too much that I hate even coming up with that idea. Omg, how do I deal with this?!

P.S.: I'm an ENFP. When I'm mad at trivial things, my tone would be serious but I'd still be nice. Help, please.

im doing okay at school, getting the second best grading rank for subjects and for computer science, i got the best one. (ion really know what u call them)

BUTTT i want to improve more!! i use the feyman technique (never realised i used it until now) so like yeah.. 💔.

also, list some jobs that you believe ENTPs are best at bc i need to pick my GCSES soon and i only know i am going to do drama.

(really need to get off genshin)

Hey there! INFJ here. I’m curious to know how you guys feel about tracking apps. As stated above, if your SO suggested using a tracking app, would you? What if it was a friend or a different family member? Do you feel like it’s too restrictive of your personal freedom?

Edit: I now realize that some background information is needed.

I was actually the one who suggested it to my boyfriend, who I think is an ENTP. The reason I suggested it was because the poor man has been married twice before, and divorced both times because his exes cheated on him. As a result, I thought that he might feel more assured of my loyalty to him if he could track me on a regular basis. Funilly enough though, he also said no vehemently, like many of the other responders have so far on this Subreddit. Perhaps I should have presented it in a different way, like if I said that I wouldn’t have to track him, it could just be him tracking me? Because I trust him completely and want to assure him of my loyalty. Is there anything you guys would suggest I can do to assure him that I will never cheat on him?

Did anyone else know red head’s hair is orange? it was coined “red” because the French or whoever that coined it; didn’t have oranges(the fruit) yet, and orange doesn’t appear in nature like that, so they just said red, I had this argument with this lady that swore her daughter hair was “super red” after saying how red heads hair is orange, shocker it was orange, and it got me thinking wow people really put themselves in an illusion, it was interesting seeing people lie to themselves to further their point and mind’s status quo, We should come up with a new name for them

Yeah ngl reason was stupid as fuck we had quiz kid gets caught after trying to cheat off me

And that dumb fuck thinks is my fault so she comes with her friends to bathroom and jumps me

I can't fight so beat down 3 vs 1

So do I put expired rat poison an Laxatives in her drink

One of mine:

-I think Gen Z will have kids at a higher rate than people right now expect. I think this in part because I believe it is possible that Trump and our conservative congress will try to ban birth control. I don’t know whether or not they’ll succeed, but I fully expect they’ll try. However, I also just think that, no matter what a lot of Redditors say, having a kid is something a fair amount of people will always do in part because of how we are socialized. I feel like Reddit’s overall perception of Gen Z in general is and always has often not been entirely accurate anyway, I say this as a Gen Zer myself. It makes sense to me that people of my generation are more conservative than Reddit anticipated when I think back to my school days, and it also makes sense to me to assume that more of my classmates will become parents than people right now think.

The desire to crack a joke at a serious time, when I shouldn’t be doing it at all. Going on rampages about some random/ridiculous topic when the other person doesn’t have interest in it. Having intellectual debates, when the other person didn’t want such debate, and by result, hurting their feelings. Saying “but actually”, or something of that nature, when nobody is wanting input. Sharing my suggestions or ideas, when the other person just wanted someone alive to rant to.

This is horrible. 0/10 does not recommend being an ENTP. Choose ENTJ during conception or something.

My theory is which weapon represents your personality better--the rapier or the hammer? Don’t take this too literally, it’s more a question of when you’re trying to solve problems, do your favour precision and finesse of a rapier (Ti/Fe axis) or steamrolling efficiency of a hammer (Te/Fi axis).

The hammer is the EFP Te bitch slap in weapon form. I sometimes see it represented in popular media with a whimsical, cute EFP coded character who packs a wallop.

Let’s contrast popular characters for exemplars:

Flynn Rider: Rapier Rapunzel: Hammer (frying pan)

The Joker: Rapier Harley Quinn: Hammer (Bat)

Iron Man: Rapier Thor: Hammer

Conan O’Brien: Rapier Sona Movsesian: Hammer

Jaime Lannister: Rapier Robert Baratheon: Hammer

Bart Simpson: Rapier Homer Simpson: Hammer

Jim Halpert: Rapier Michael Scott: Hammer

Vanellope: Rapier Wreck-It Ralph: Frying Pan

Barney Stinson: Rapier Marshall Eriksen: Frying Pan

Chris Rock: Rapier Will Smith: Hammer (literal Te bitch slap)

So I want you to ask yourself—do you wield a rapier or a hammer?

Let me know which one you identify with, your type, and any thoughts you might want to add.

Are entps usually avoidant kindof beings? Or do they generally create high walls around themselves to save themselves from the fear of abandonment ?

Idk what flair to use

My grammar is shit thank you

Is there a point in your life when you barely had a social life and didn't prefer to interact at all?

Can ENTPs naturally be very introverted, making you think that you are an INTP and the fact that you are an ENTP after all astonished you?

Curious what you guys taste in music looks like. I mainly listen to music at the gym but this is my top songs rn (in no particular order):

• “I Bring the Weather with me” - The Amity Affliction
• “Hometownhero.” - Oblé Reed
• “Wildfire” - In Hearts Wake
• “WHERE SHE GOES” - Bad Bunny
• “Planez” - Jermih ft. J. Cole
• “Your Betrayal” - Bullet for my Valentine
• “My Outlaw Ways” - Fisher Creed
• “Bad at Love” - Halsey
• “This could be Heartbreak” - The Amity Affliction
• “Past Life” - Trevor Daniel’s ft. Selena Gomez

You don’t have to list 10, 5 was just too few! Let’s see what y’all got

I’m working on a personal project. Trying to create fantasy cultures based off of each of the 16 personalities.

For ENTP, the other types all have God given abilities but you guys’ culture invented magic alchemy out of rebellion (you’re the last born in my world build and decided to make magic for humans) and your animal counterparts are all felines.

This is not a modern society. What would you guys like a fantasy culture based on ENTP to look like?

I know it doesn't make sense to correlate the two but I'd just like to explore this idea.

I've been with an ENFP, an avoidant. We had an intense passion and then he cut me off suddenly. I've never suffered so horribly--I feel like once we give our trust, we can't just have it betrayed and start again. Has anyone been in the same situation? When I love I love fully 100%, and I feel like many ENTPs are like that.

What is his most ENTP quality, too?

I have come to realize that empathizing has been pretty easy for me and I can understand people without putting in much effort.

Is it common for you too?

So, I'm speaking for myself primarily, but I think this is a common sentiment among ENTPs (see here, here, here, here, and here). I find most people to be quite... well, the right word is difficult. Predictable? Uninteresting? Unoriginal? Boring? Like as you talk to them, you realize that the ideas you have that are fascinating to you are really just flying over their heads, and the things they talk about are so trivial that you feel as if they are reading off a script at times. Try as I might to disbelieve this, I have come to the conclusion that most people are just not interested in thinking past the fog of the everyday, rendering themselves and their conversation quite dull to anyone who does look deeper.

The kindest word might be: simple. Not unintelligent; just 'un-curious.' Concerned only with placing one foot in front of the other. Perhaps this is a Sensor/Intuitive thing, but honestly, it doesn't matter. What matters is that in most conversations, I can expect a 'one-sided' feeling, like I can play the game they are playing, but they can't play mine. So I walk away with a hollow sort of feeling; I wanted steak and I got Burger King. I'll quickly wind up tired and even bitter after a few of these interactions.

For a time, I thought that everyone must have something deeper going on inside. Surely, they weren't as shallow as this. But I think they are, and the problem is with my expectations. I've been going to Burger King and expecting steak. Of course, I will wind up disappointed. Once I realized this, something shifted for me. Freed of that expectation, I was able to look at these people for what they were: simple, yes, but somehow more human for it. I was able to look at what qualities they did have that made them valuable and beautiful.

And that's when I had a thought. ENTPs are renowned for being fast learners, charismatic, and able to see multiple sides of an argument. What I think this means is that we can quickly learn about a person and what makes them tick, then see the good in them by looking through multiple viewpoints, and compliment them in a charismatic way that doesn't come off as awkward. Now, this will take practice; complimenting is becoming a lost art. But with a little patience, I think we can be insane forces for positive good in social circles. We might not receive the mental stimulation we need from others, but we can give them the validation and encouragement they need. In fact, I think we are extremely well equipped for it.

Now, I have no doubt that this will drain us, but if you're like me, socializing with most people was already draining. What have you got to lose? Hopefully, you have a few people in your life with whom conversation is fun and interesting and crazy and unpredictable. Recharge with them and space out the draining interactions so you can give your best to them.

And what's more, even those non-stimulating sort of people can be fun in the right contexts. When you make them feel good, they'll open up more, showing more interesting sides of themselves. More stimulation for you! Never underestimate the power of even a simple compliment. Think about the ones you have received that you still look back on to this day. For me, compliments act as lighthouses. When I get into a dark place and think poorly about myself, I can look back and see those wonderful things other people said about me. The things you say can matter that much too.

So use those natural skills you have to make the people around you feel better about themselves and the world around them even if they are really pretty boring to you. Don't get into an arrogant nihilism where you obsess over how inferior others are and despair at their inability to understand. Value them for what they have and then tell them what that is! Who knows? You may even crack open a few tough nuts and make friends you didn't expect.

Yes titel does look like it was written by incel but most beauty standards are rooted in pedophile and mommy kinks I'm sorry small high pitch voice hairless isn't that weird your opinions about this

First and foremost, I am not a native English speaker so the punctuation and grammar can be horrible so I apologize for giving a hard read so thank you.

Well I got into trouble with my sister of which we work together to rent our family property to earn money so that I can have my income during college and she for her baby. The story is very long and complicate so I just short it as a results, we argu with each other, I quit the gig and our parent intervene and take my sides since bad performance is my fault but I leave on good term while all she did were to spread the story and badmouth about me (badmouth is a light word in this case, she insults with every insults there is and my parent didn't like it). She got reprimand by my parent in which she cry much and demand me to explain to my parent that it was my fault.

Yeah it is bs, but I didn't want my family to be in disharmony, so I step up and explain to them that it all over, and we leave in good will in which my parent is okay but if anything up I should tell them. But in the literally next days she still talking about how I betrayed her trust and didn't be grateful for anything she did for me.

I know that there is many option for me, 1. I could tell my parent that she still doing it, 2. stay away from my family, continues my study in a another land. 3. Step up to her. But all I ask that what should I do mentally, any of the option I present have some risk and the results aren't likely.

tl;dr I hate that my sister still badmouth about me since we leave the argument in good will.

Hi all!

I’ve been conflicted recently about my typing. I’m somewhere right in between an ENTP and an INTJ, but I think I swing more ENTP all things considered. (Or at least 80-90% sure)

However… I’m also conflicted about what might be my enneagram typing and how it affects or colors me as an ENTP. So, I’m curious to see what the community thinks different variations of ENTPs vis-à-vis enneagrams and tritypes would behave like:

ENTP 3w4 358 or 385

ENTP 3w4 378

ENTP 5w6 583 or 584

There’s a quite lot about 3w4 that I identify in myself, ie image creation-centered. I can also be rather domineering and I’ve been told, but sometimes I’m quite insecure about it, that I’m charismatic. I feel I’m quite good at seeming to be many things to many people and that I can turn on the image I need to be in the moment. I’m extremely achievement and success oriented. I feel that I’m always chasing that next ‘rung’ of the ladder. I do like to be in charge and a old mentor once told me I had the “disposition of an enlightened despot.” I like power and I like using it towards a vision, my vision. I’m highly politically ambitious.

A current mentor has also said that my propensity is an “unstoppable flow of words and idea chasing thats so much of a mix of the broad and specific that most simply can’t keep up.”—that may sound like nest feathering, but I assure you it’s something that I consider a bit of a drawback because I can pick up when I lose people in discussions because I’m connecting how a well-written academic article is like a good piece of musical counterpoint or how it can thematically function like a Mahler symphony. If not that, perhaps how the article touches on some deep instinct within the English speaking political tradition that no one has picked up on. And yet… I feel I’m making a compelling but I can see people ‘trying to keep up’. It’s a very weird and disconcerting feeling because it’s not as if colleagues are losing interest per se, or that their eyes a glossing over. It’s the tangible manifestation of what one of my aforementioned mentors said, I suppose.

I am rather head centered, but sometimes I’m foggy about whether or not it’s a 5 or 7 ‘centering’. Sometimes it feels like I’m a bit of a jack-of-all-trades, trying to dabble in everything all at once. I have three undergraduate degrees, one in music (piano performance and composition), the others in political science and history. By this fall, I will also have an MA in Government from KCL and afterwards I’ll be going on to get my PhD in History and War Studies. I’m a native English speaker (southern United States, specifically east Texas) but I also speak Italian, German, French, and my Latin is just passable. I compose music a lot. My “specialty”—if I can call it that—is chamber music in the Brahmsian style or piano works in the vein of Rachmaninoff—or Bartok and Prokofiev (when I’m feeling zany). I’m not even in their universe, and don’t claim to be, but I can convincingly (I think) play and compose in their styles, with my own personal ‘flair’, of course—everyone is original but not necessarily inventive, so I do not claim to be anything more. However, I can’t tell you how many times a music colleague has walked in on me improvising on a piano in what ever of the above styles happens to take my fancy at the moment and they’ve asked: “Who is that?” To which I’ve usually replied it’s Rachmaninoff or Bartok, or some such other just to absolve myself of the feeling of ‘putting myself out there’ artistically. They’ve always been convinced. (Cowardly perhaps, but I’ve thought sometimes is the image-protectiveness of a 3.)

I’m new here so apologies if my personal fishing expedition is misplaced.

Basically I've seen alot of people say that entp's are really willing to change their opinions and other people saying entp's will stubbornly stick to their opinion when they're clearly wrong, so I wanted to give my take on this and maybe start a discussion.

Now of course it really depends on the individual and their level of maturity, but I think the idea that entp's are not willing to change their opinions might come from the fact that we change our opinions in different situations than other people. Alot of people change or atleast reconsider their opinions purely based on what the majority thinks for example, while entp's need a solid argument to change their mind and I've noticed that atleast in my family many people don't seem to understand this kind of mindset.

So basically entp's are really willing to change their minds when faced with a logical argument, but are also confident enough in their own logic that they are willing to disagree with the majority.

(I do aknowledge this depends largely on the individual though.)

What do you folks think?

Be honest with yourself. What are you most insecure about yourself?

I struggle to admit when I can't do something because I feel insecure about not figuring it out on my own.

I'm dying to be rizzed by someone with actual brains.

Hi Friends,

I met an ENTP recently through online dating. We’ve been on two dates, from my perspective we “clicked” super well - the conversation in each date flowed effortlessly and we ended up talking for 4 hours and 3 hours in each date. Tbh I haven’t had an experience quite like this before. Though I really don’t know what the ENTP thinks. The last date ended with a generic “this was fun” comment from him.

He texted me after the last date and we’ve been sporadically texting with no concrete 3rd date planned (and likely none for this weekend so far)

I can’t really tell what he is thinking because my impression of ENTP is that they are super social and love talking to everyone. I can’t tell if he’s romantically interested in me or this is just his normal talking to anyone.

Please share me your ideas and thoughts on ways or how to differentiate if an ENTP is actually interested in you? And what would be an ideal date activity for y’all?

The streetlights hum, a mellow refrain,
Footsteps echo, like drops in the rain.
Concrete whispers, stories untold,
In the cracks of the pavement, the city grows old.

The saxophone wails, a cry in the night,
Bassline shadows keep the rhythm tight.
A coffee cup steams in a poet’s hands,
Writing verses in time’s shifting sands.

Lost in the haze of neon dreams,
Where the truth gets blurred in moonlit streams.
Windows reflect what the heart can’t hide,
The jazzman’s sorrow, the rapper’s pride.
Looping beats, like a clock on rewind,

Searching the alleys for peace of mind.
The groove’s alive, it pulls me in,
A battle of chaos, where soul begins.
So I spit these lines, let the rhythm collide,
Jazz and rap, two worlds that glide.

Through the city's veins, where the echoes play,
This is the anthem of night turned day.
From the subway roar to the rooftop blues,
Every sound in this city leaves a clue.
A siren cries, it paints the air red,

While the rhythm of life keeps pounding ahead.
There’s a drummer in the shadows, hands on steel,
Tapping out truths only the night can reveal.
A cypher forms under flickering lights,
With rhymes that cut sharper than city fights.

On the edge of dawn, the skyline yawns,
A silent witness to nights that are gone.
But the groove don’t sleep, it carries the day,
Through whispers of dreams that never decay.

Graffiti walls scream with colors ablaze,
Stories of hope in the city’s maze.
The past, the future, it’s all in the beat,
A timeless connection beneath my feet.

The jazzman nods as the rapper flows,
Two rhythms united, wherever it goes.
This is the hymn of a world combined,
A melody carved in the depths of time.

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"You're just saying words" during an argument. My dad says this all the time. It is my #1 most hated phrase. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it's meaningless.