I've been messing around with the subreddit stats website because I find the user overlap function fascinating. I tried out the Myers Briggs personalities on it, and for some reason this personality type isn't there.

https://subredditstats.com/subreddit-user-overlaps/estj

I spent the last half-hour looking at the other 15 and they're all there even mbti. Why is this one the odd one out?

My ESTJ is constantly nitpicking or hurt by things that I cant logically comprehend…We had vegetable soup that he made twice. I love more egg noodles than soup; plus I need a higher calorie diet. So yayyyy win win for me. However the first time I ate it? He says in an admonishing tone. « That’s not soup, you can’t eat it like that » I then tell him, please leave me alone to eat my soup how I like. Him: it hurts my feelings I spent all day making this soup…at the point I started to think « are you freaking kidding me? In my head » I then said ok understood. I get another serving the same way, he claims that it was a slap in the face doing that, I listened and just said ok. Tonight he made the soup again. I fixed it how I like it, he says the same thing « that is not soup, you are not eating soup » I worked hard all day to make a soup, it hurts my feelings that you eat it that way » I finally had enough, and asked if he had to parent his mom? Or if he was OCD. B/C I just couldn’t for the life of me understand this at all. Can anyone help here?

You can answer this in detail or on a scale of 1 to 10 or both. You may also answer this question in general and ignore the situations altogether.

1. You are casually going by and a person bumped into you. They didn't say sorry and just moved on.
2. Out of the blue, an acquaintance shouts at you. You didn't do anything. Later on, they come to you and say sorry. They don't seem genuine.
3. Same as above but this time they do seem genuine.
4. You have a really, really close friend; like 'someone who understands you' kind of friend. You find out (from a genuine source, i.e. what you heard is 100% accurate) that they were actually manipulative. They lied to you. When you confronted them about it, they ignored you.
5. Same as above but here they seemed shocked that you know about it. After a while they come to you and say sorry. They apologized multiple times and said that they didn't mean to manipulate you and that they'll not do this again.

I asked this on the ENFP sub and I'm curious about what you guys think.. Also, I wonder if it has any correlation with MBTI, so I'm planning to ask this on the other MBTI subreddits.

I'm curious about ESTJs and Tik Tok. I wonder if I am in the minority in the estj sub for having never cared about tik tok. What are your thoughts?

I know I’ve posted on this sub before, but this ESTJ broke up with me 6 months ago and I still can’t handle it. I had the biggest crush on him since my freshman year of high school, and when I confessed how I felt he said he reciprocated and felt the same way. I felt on top of the world and I just thought I’d finally be given a chance. A month into the summer (after we started dating) he practically ghosted me for weeks at a time. Even when breaking up with me he said he “loved me” but didn’t have the time since he’s a workaholic and needs to focus on school. However, we go to the same school, so I don’t see how we can’t just meet up every once in a while, even if it’s just for 5 minutes in the hallways.

And it has REALLY been affecting my performance in school. I used to do really well but my grades have completely tanked. Even as I type this, I have 4 exams to be studying for. But I can’t move past this. The worst part is that I know he’s excelling and doing well in his studies. I’ve just been so miserable. I never even kissed the guy and the relationship lasted for 2 months only. He said I was the perfect girl idk why he did this.

The absolute worst part is that his “friend” told me about his p*rn addiction. And now I’M watching that stuff too. Not for any gratification, I just think "maybe if I loooked like that he wouldn’t have left me.”

Please help me I have so many college scholarships on the line. I can’t afford to do bad in school.

If it’s not in a checklist, is it even real? We ESTJs spend our time solving problems, not sitting around “discussing feelings.” Meanwhile, the dreamers out there are turning simple tasks into abstract art. Can we just agree that planning is the solution to everything? Let’s fix the chaos, one spreadsheet at a time.

The incompatibility has grown so much as we get older.. we married young and had kids quick and now I’m feeling more and more misunderstand and unloved… what is this? What do I do 🙃

Hi, I am looking for ESTJs who are reasonably confident of their type, and are willing to take a personality test that I've been working on. Comment below if you're interested and I'll send you a private message. Thank you!

Hi, my mom is an ESTJ and my dad is an ESTP. I am a middle child and I have been late diagnosed with autism. My older brother is an ENFJ and my little sister is an ESFP, so really only my mom values traditions, sentimentality, social status, and long held rules. Every other member of my family questions life's rules in one way or another. None of us cared much for holiday traditions and prefered doing something different every year, my mom was almost always out voted. However the house did revolve around her. She was volatile and easily angry and easily offended.

I learned very early on that my interests, questions and manner of speaking was not her cup of tea 😅. I was unusually laughed at, called weird and annoying, or condescending and rude most time times I brought up an idea or question to my mom. Mind you I now know asking "why do you care that the neighbors have another car?" Usually comes off as a rude question lol but I genuinely just wanted to know because I didn't know. Some of the things I'd do would ask "Why or How?" after everything she said because I didn't understand and this just what I did with literally every single thing I encountered growing up. If a blade of grass was smooth on one side and rough on another I'd ask how is this possible and why is it like this until I found out, if a girl was crying because her hair was a mess if ask why he hair made her sad and how do I to fix it?

My mom was a very jealous person and I've never understood jealousy even as an adult, so I'd ask questions. She never liked my questions.. so I stopped asking as I got older realizing I "was annoying and rude" no matter how much I tried not to be. I also never understood how "this table holds memories" but I do kinda understand it now after studying Si but it's still a foreign concept to me. So I can easily recognize I was a hit of a thorn in her side, a constant stream of questions to the way she knew life to be. I also left the church which seemed to cause her alot of grief, she said my denouncing of my faith me being the glacier that sunk the family Titanic 😅

She has always called me names and said the I am rude and disrespectful no matter how gentle I try to be. I wonder now if my being and INTJ is part of her problem with me or if she is just to hard to please. I'm not sure what to do but after a 4 hour long screaming episode where I was crying and didn't understand why I was being yelled at she called me a Satanist who wants to watch the world burn and that I was trying to disrespect her (this is something I have never done on purpose) I asked her if she truly believed that about me, she said yes so I told her she wouldn't have to deal with my disrespect anymore and haven't spoken to her since. This was about a year ago.

I've been think about this a lot since the 1 year is coming up and I'm not entirely sure what to do so I figured I'd ask other estjs what I can do as an intj

Hey ESTJs,

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Your direct feedback would be valuable, particularly on the ESTJ characters' effectiveness. Do they demonstrate that Te-Si efficiency and decisive communication style you'd expect?

Please help me understand how you use your Te for dating? With examples. Do you fix your goal from the beginning or do you let your moods dictate your decision making?

Hello ESTJs, I am doing a survey about MBTI compatibility and I want your participation!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeKkfF0gb-1DakmT4s7PJ-kFDS0Tl1cbIjW901F4xMR_vFPlQ/viewform

It’s like watching a bulldozer in action—efficient, direct, and bulldozing everything in sightut when I can’t find my favorite mug because it’s been “put away where it belongs,” maybe it’s time to ease up on the organizational zeal? Let’s try a little less perfectionism, and a bit more “good enough,” please

I am starting to date an estj, so everything is in the title. And one more thing:

He is really great but I don't know him deeply right now. It feels like sometimes he is answering stuff with irony, and he always have this smiley face, I think it's fake.

Are you a little fake? Why? For the sake of peace? Are you really giving a fuck or are you faking it for social behavior?

What do you guys think about ESTJ women and INTP guy relationship pairing. Kinda spotting this pair occassionally. How's your experience?

Hi ESTJ‘s

I remember coming here in my early stages a lot while getting to know my ESTJ and just wanted to give an update. We‘re still together and grew together a lot. It was sometimes a bit bumpy even more at the beginning. But after getting to know each other more and being brutally honest with our communication I just have to say how much I love him. This is the most straightforward and healthiest relationship I ever had. I grew as a person by seeing a lot of situations more rational with him by my side and I think I help him a lot emotionally. Wishing for him and us being lifepartners but we will see. Right now I’m just enjoying the present more than ever.

Just wanted to share my love for you guys because ESTJ don’t get a lot of love for some reason. Stay cool the way you guys are!

Hi there!

I'm F istp looking for a man estj I am really attracted to many qualities that high Te user have especially estj , But for some reasons I don't understand I always attract NF M.

But I notice that me and the estj in my life ( mom and best friend only haha ) we get along well and I love how they are always there no matter what .

So what are the places you frequent often? Some hobbies?

Source: https://vultology.com/database/?type=TeSi&development=

The Te function approaches life with a mechanical mindset, seeking truth through understanding clockwork relationships. They thrive in domains with logical computation and interactions between variables, such as computer programming, physics and engineering. Their strategic approach often leads them into entrepreneurial ventures and politics. In professional settings, their result-oriented mindset and ability to tackle necessary tasks makes them able leaders, although navigating the social aspects of teamwork can be a challenge. Yet, despite their blunt communication, Te users bring a refreshing honesty and wit to discussions, cutting through ambiguity with forthrightness.

ESTJs (Standard)

• Abby Hafer*(Zoologist)
• Anna Runkle(Content Creator: Psychology)
• Anthony Mason*(American broadcaster)
• Blaire White*(American YouTuber: Political Commentator)
• Chris Wallace*(American broadcaster)
• Daniel Bonevac(Philosopher)
• Drew Barrymore*(American actress and film producer)
• Fran Lebowitz*(American author and orator)
• Greg Koukl(Christian apologist and radio talk show host)
• Jake Tapper*(American journalist)
• James Lindsay(American political commentator)
• Janet Conrad*(American physicist)
• Jennifer Doudna(American biochemist)
• John Demartini(Inspirational speaker)
• Justin Trudeau(Prime Minister of Canada)
• Lauren Southern*(Political activist)
• Lindsay Ellis*(American media critic)
• Loren Grush*(Reporter)
• Michael Malice(American author)
• Michael O'Donnell*(Former Kansas State Senator)
• Peter Harvey(British scholar of Buddhism)
• Philip DeFranco*(American YouTuber: Current events, politics and pop culture)
• Rebecca Watson*(American blogger and YouTuber: Atheism and feminist politics)
• Richard Carrier(American historian)
• Ron DeSantis(Governor of Florida)
• Safiya Nygaard*(American YouTuber: Fashion and beauty)
• Scott Pruitt*(Former Administrator of the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency)
• Ted Cruz*(United States Senator)
• Terri L. Orbuch*(Date and relationship coach)
• Tom Hanks*(American actor and filmmaker)
• Tucker Carlson*(American political commentator)

ESTJs with developed Si (Bureaucrats)

• Beatrice Chestnut*(Psychotherapist)
• Ben Sasse*(Former United States Senator)
• Bill Maher*(American comedian, writer, and television host)
• Carl Reiner*(American actor, screenwriter, and director)
• Erin Brockovich*(American paralegal)
• Gene Roddenberry*(American television screenwriter)
• George Lucas*(American filmmaker)
• Hugh Bonneville*(Actor)
• James Cameron*(Canadian filmmaker)
• John Ronald Reuel Tolkien*(Writer and philologist)
• Mitt Romney*(United States Senator)
• Pierre Poilievre(Member of the Canadian Parliament)
• Piers Morgan(Broadcaster)
• Robert Barron(American prelate)
• Dr. Robert DeMaria*(Doctor)
• Volodymyr Zelenskyy(President of Ukraine)

ESTJs with developed Ne (Inventors)

• Abby Lee Miller*(American dance teacher and choreographer)
• Amy Schumer*(American comedian and actress)
• Anna Kendrick*(American actress)
• Belinda Luscombe*(Australian journalist)
• Brennan Lee Mulligan(American actor and writer)
• Douglas Adams(English author)
• Elizabeth Warren*(United States Senator)
• Germaine Greer*(Australian writer and feminist)
• Janina Ramirez(British art historian)
• John Carmack*(American computer programmer and video game developer)
• Joy Behar*(American comedian and television host)
• Ken Jennings*(American game show host)
• Liza Fromer*(Canadian broadcaster)
• Morgan Housel(Financial journalist and author)
• Rachel Maddow*(American TV show host)
• Robert Rinder(British barrister and television host)
• Savannah Guthrie*(Australian-American broadcaster and journalist)
• Stephen Colbert*(American comedian and writer)
• Tanmay Bakshi*(Computer Scientist)
• Tim Allen*(American actor and comedian)
• Tim Berners-Lee(Computer scientist)
• Tina Fey*(American actress and comedian)

ESTJs with developed Fi (J Polarized)

• Adolf Hitler(Dictator of Nazi Germany)
• Antonia Dodge(Co-founder of Personality Hacker)
• Ayn Rand*(Russian-American author and philosopher)
• Brené Brown*(American academic and podcaster)
• Emerald Fennell(Actress and filmmaker)
• Richard Dawkins*(British evolutionary biologist and zoologist)

ESTJs with developed Si and Ne (P Heavy)

• Barbara Sher*(Career/lifestyle coach and author)
• Bart D. Ehrman(American New Testament scholar)
• Colin Mochrie*(Canadian actor)
• Craig Kilborn*(American television host and comedian)
• Ryan Stiles*(American-Canadian comedian and actor)
• Stephen Wolfram(American computer scientist and CEO of Wolfram Research)
• Steve Carell*(American actor and comedian)

ESTJs with developed Ne and Fi (Etherealists)

• Chloë Sevigny(American actress)
• Christoph Waltz(Austrian-German actor)
• Gugu Mbatha-Raw(English actress)
• J. K. Rowling*(British author)
• Kallie Moore(Paleontologist)
• Laura Lynne Jackson(Psychic medium)
• Martha Beck*(American sociologist and life coach)
• Robert Spitzer*(Philosopher and Jesuit priest)
• Saoirse Ronan(American-Irish actress)

ESTJs with developed Si, Ne, and Fi (Fully Conscious)

• Darren M. Slade(Theological historian)

Hi I am an admire of systems and results you can see like business and sales. But I lack action and I want to learn about the connection between the inner and the outer world.

I was hoping to learn from your understanding of the inner world. Anything about having a solid foundation and how to cultivate it and changing the external world through it.

Since you change the external world like you eat breakfast and you have fi I was wondering how you see the connections

For example I want to do something with expressing blessings and building meaning and purpose but I don't know how that translates into real world. I was hoping that you have been in the fields and seen this in action

Not talking about stereotypes, that's 16p shitty dicothomy and stereotypical typing, but more on a cognitive function level. Basically, I got mistyped a lot for ExFP or ESTP for my friendly, chill approach with people, not judgmental (at least, on the outside) and my ability to put people at ease around me and make them open up, and also because I always loved trying new things for the sake of exploration to figure out the best fits for me, what I could get competent at, but I cannot draw similiraties by the cognitive functions of these aforementioned types and the people I know who are probably that type.

I relate a lot to Si in general as a function, and Te-Fi makes the most sense to me as how I approach the world, the knowledge, the activities I do, but, how did you figured out your Te dominance, rather than Te auxiliary? And, especially, how do you manifest or "get" Fi as the inf function?

Thanks a lot guys, love you

Could Billy be an ESTJ that goes into an INFP subconscious for music? I just have a hard time imagining an ESTJ Rock Star! lol

You know his communication style reminds me of VP-elect JD Vance.

https://youtu.be/GLvqzWSRwnA

Just watched the Netflix documentary. She is theee showcase frontline stereotypical yet healthy representative of a female ESTJ. Funny, charismatic, perfectionist, intimidating, hawt as heck (lol for her age) and successful. Estj’s are known to be the parents of society and its so nice to watch her throughout the different stages of her life. Have y’all watched it ?!

Im asking this on all the subs and i might post the most common adjectives for each type later

*Sees Road Work Ahead sign*

Te: Yes, we know the joke/Vine reference, you don't have to say it every single-

Si: You can't take both of us! Quick Ne, go ahead and say it!

Ne: "Uh yeah, I sure hope it does!"

Fi: Sigh. I don't wike it.

1. Initiating Conversations: Often (30%) to sometimes (60%), showcasing their structured and planned communication style.
2. Value in Social Interactions: Fun entertainment (30%) topped the list, with deep conversations and networking also significant.
3. Group Conversations: Most ESTJs take the lead (50%) or actively participate (30%), reflecting their assertive and organized nature.
4. Meeting New People: Emotions are mixed, ranging from excited (20%) to cautious (10%), depending on the situation.
5. Preferred Interaction Style: 80% prefer structured and planned interactions, aligning with their organized personality.
6. Disagreements: 70% defend their point strongly, trusting their logic and structure.
7. Social Setting Duration: They last 4–8 hours, depending on comfort and connection.
8. Frequency of Social Gatherings: Responses varied, with most attending a few times a month (30%) or occasionally (20%).
9. Feeling Left Out: Sometimes (60%) due to potential misalignment with group dynamics.
10. Small Talk: 40% enjoy it, but 30% prefer deep conversations.
11. Fulfilling Interactions: 70% love sharing ideas and debating topics over quiet moments or group activities.
12. Handling Personal Problems: 100% offer practical advice and solutions.
13. Response to Invitations: 50% decide based on the event, while 40% are always enthusiastic.
14. Public Speaking: Most are confident, with 40% very comfortable and 20% somewhat comfortable.
15. Spending Time Alone: 60% enjoy occasional solitude, but 30% prefer being with others.