I’m curious about this. How did those in your grade regard you?

YO, if you are an ENFP and you are also a gamer, please let us know what kind of games you're generally into. bonus points if you also include games you avoid and why. I'll start. I like playing Fighting Games, MOBAs, Auto battlers, FPS games. I think my main enjoyment comes from thinking up new strategies that might catch the enemy off guard. Ironically, I tend to avoid RTS games, the reason being the (perceived) high barrier to entry. It feels like I would have to take classes to even be able to do the most simple of actions. It's just super intimidating, and having it be in real time is like just begging to give me decision paralysis.

I'll preface this by saying that I don't want anyone to feel like they should stop posting because some no name online said something. You do you. I just won't engage, most of the time.

Ever since I joined, there has been a post about some romantic relationship or other nearly every single day on this subreddit. I don't see this happening nearly as much on others, though each subreddit seems to have their own dead horse. INTJ with their Euphoric posts and INFPs being sad, for example.

Is this an ENFP thing? Are we really this obsessed over romance? I'm genuinely curious. No hate to anybody posting. I'm just a little tired of all the relationship talk, or at least how frequently it comes up, and would like to know a reason if there is one.

Thanks!

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Our creativity and ability to innovate, combined with our extroverted thinking, makes us effective and impactful leaders later in life.

For the longest time, I told myself I couldn't ever follow through on my hobby (game development) because I couldn't ever be attached to a game idea long enough to ever do substantial work on it.

But as of late, things are progressing incredibly well! Everything is falling into place. Extroverted thinking is working to put all the pieces into place. Setting deadlines, scoping out work, keeping development moving. Ensuring stuff gets completed. All things that supposedly ENFPs are bad at!

Well, let me tell you. It is possible for ENFPs to follow through and achieve great success on their own personal endeavors. (Though it REALLY helps to be passionate about the thing you're doing)

I knew I wanted to make games for as long as I can remember. And simply put. I never gave up. Banged my head against a wall. Started countless projects. Failed countless projects. Each one was a lesson in logistics, scope, priorities, budgeting, etc.

Now I'm proud to say it. This game is happening. It's going to be innovative, unique, and shake up the gaming world. Am I delusional? Maybe a little. But sometimes you have to go a little crazy to achieve big things.

Best of luck to all of my fellow ENFPs, and if you're passionate about something (creating, building, etc.), chase it without self doubt. You will get there as long as you don't give up.

Lmao just curious. Despite my flaws, I think I would choose to be me in every life.

27m

I posted here a while back that sort of got me the feedback that I might be struggling with an executive function issue.

Thing is that I’ve failed a lot in the past few years and this deep feeling of being behind in life and also not being on top of things is really getting to me.

I can’t seem to understand how to exist. Period. I keep on putting off my own life matters and it doesn’t help that I’m in a bad place financially.

I have a list of things I should / could do to upskill and just sit and do the work but I’m in a cyclical rut where I just don’t do it?

simple things like ok shower/ wake up on time/ try and keep my room organised.

be ok that I didn’t make good choices. The world itself and how strangely it’s all about money = freedom is getting too me.

I’ve done a lot of praying to God and also spent time looking at different faiths. Only to feel more confused and it all seeming like it’s just made up ancient stuff.

in all honesty, I sleep and often wish I just don’t wake up and I just want to feel normal. Like how other people are coping with things.

the whole world just doesn’t make any sense to me. We get brought up in highly structured environments/ but really in a lot of ways you’re just in your own.

As a teen I consumed so much self help to be like my best version. I grew up in a very dysfunctional household ( Pakistani society on top of it is quite disfunctional )

I just want to be ok with not knowing and also just not be so anxious about how I’ll figure out life.

I understand that there’s no one pill anymore that will fix my life up but why is it that I just don’t take action? why is it that I’m just waiting for death and time to time contemplating how to end it. It doesn’t make any sense.

Yesterday, I was chatting with my ENFP friends, and we realized that most of our media crushes over the years have one big thing in common: DARKNESS.

Do you also feel drawn to characters or people with that kind of aesthetic? If so, why? And who are some of your biggest crushes that fit this category?

Here's an image we made about it.

I was just reflecting on this a bit, and realized that all the people I wanted to be like when I was a kid fit very well with my ENFP personality, haha. Not just like, people I admired, mind you - but people where I saw them or heard them and it just resonated so strongly with me and I just knew that that's the kind of person I wanted to be.

For me, some big ones were the Disney version of Robin Hood, the ladies from the band The B-52s, Fran Drescher, and Gwen Stefani in her No Doubt days.

I'm just curious if you had a similar kind of thing, and what people you wanted to be like as a kid! (Or want to be like now, for that matter!)

A while back I listened to a podcast and one idea stood out to me:

People remember you for the things that stand out and are unique - even if they could be narrow-mindedly viewed as "negative" or weird by some.

Since realizing that, I have started to pay attention to that and it's so true. What I love my friends, families, or romantic partners for are usually things that are a bit unusual - because they stand out. A quality within you that everyone has will not be noticed.

So, if you ever feel like you're being weird - embrace it. My house mate is tattooed from head to toe, likes cowboy stuff, and we drive enduro dirt bikes instead of scooters (we live in Bali). He's fucking unique and many people will not like him - but those who do, really like him.

So whatever makes you unique, lean into that. It repells people who would only like you if you were to put on a mask (which is a lose-lose), and attracts everyone who vibes with you.

I myself have been very scared to show my flaws when growing up. So I hope this insight helps.

I (27m) was seeing a girl (26f) and after going on three dates with her, I really thought we were going somewhere then all of a sudden, she told me she was seeing someone else over text today. I feel real devastated and heartbroken- she was an INTJ so I considered myself lucky.

I never went on three dates with someone and she too hasn't had much relationship experience. Now I can't go through the day without breaking down and shouting/ranting. I really feel like I lost someone special, and it's really tragic because I really liked her, but I guess it wasn't me. All our values/interests clicked and I feel like I'm not gonna find someone like that again. I feel like I've committed a lot, and I've waited a long time for this, and I just feel like dying now. How do you guys go about heartbreak?

I wanted to share something!

Over the past month, I’ve joined a few Reddit groups that bring together folks like us, and I’m having a great time!

Before finding these communities, I often felt a bit lonely and disconnected, like I was a lone unicorn on this life alone. It turns I’m not.

I deeply appreciate the ENFP’s and all the wonderfully supportive and inspiring XNFXs!!

I’m working on a personal project. Trying to create fantasy cultures based off of each of the 16 personalities.

For ENFP, your power is mischief (you guys are the Loki’s of my universe) and your animal counterparts are all mustelids (ferrets, wolverines, otters, weasels, etc).

This is not a modern society. What would you guys like a fantasy culture based on ENFP to look like?

or did you know right away?

i feel like having Fi aux should just kinda know who they are… but the idealism, constantly questioning and changing mind, and ego also make me feel like it would be really hard to not mistype, and/or question your type.

(ego ≠ egotistical/narcissistic, more like the spiritual ego or disconnect between the perceived identity/desires and the actual self)

also, if you mistyped a bunch, are you an sx7w6 (or so7w6) enneagram? (lol) i feel like that type just adds more idealism, and ego (disconnect from reality).

i still might not be an ENFP, this is all so confusing 😭

please tell me about yourself and your typing journey!!! i need closure lol

Enfp poet spilling pain in the form of words

I looked and I looked and I looked for him, I mean, I believe he is out there.

But, how come my soul recognized none till now? It makes me wonder, is he that far? Or is he too near? Would I recognise him? Would he recognise me?

I mean, what is he? What kind of creature can he be?

If all this agony in searching to no avail, this sorrow in his absence, this longing which eats away at my within,

If it is all for him, who shall he be?

If I'm honest guys, I'm tired of looking, I would like to not care, but I can't. I want to find someone to share my world with, to look up to, to be protected and loved by. An embrace by half of my sould, just that one.

I do not know why that is the strongest wish of mine, I have alot of blessings,

so just, pray that I find that lost half of me.

I read this statement on a comment I saw before and it suddenly popped up on my mind today. This statement is from an outsider's perspective. I wonder what you guys think about this..

I think, for me it's kind of true?

Does anyone here also have BPD? I do, and it’s an interesting combo to have. Thanks in advance for any comments on this.

Y'all Ne doms out there, I need your help with something veryyyy interesting you'll love it.

You don’t know me, I know. But I’ll assume you’re around my age and that’s exactly what I need. I would like to make a proposition to you if you are interested. I would like to ask if you are interested in being co-founder of an enterprise along with a few other people I’m still looking for. Let’s not jump right to the serious thing. We’re just a bunch of individuals who will discuss share interest and build mutual trust... so that we all may know you are a reliable person for the team and not just one of those people who fake their cover letters and CVs since we’ve known you from the start. I need a team, but not just, we’ll all be friends. The position won’t matter whether you’ll just be a janitor or if you’re the CEO, you can all share your very own ideas. There won’t be any strict hierarchy as long as everyone gets the work done efficiently. Anyway, I’m getting too ahead of myself. If you are indeed interested in this, it’s also an opportunity for you to not have to search through the city for a job. And since you’re one of the “originals”, not the ones we might be recruiting in 10 years, I’ll tell this right now, you won’t need to go to the university. I have a better option that I am willing to share with you but that’s up to you if you are interested or not. I’m only 16 but hey, there’s no age to be ambitious. Better too soon than too late. And I already have a plan on how to bring us all there, of course if you have any feedback, recommendations, or you can add your own input, you are very much welcome. I haven’t found a name for the team (there is a server… an empty one still ;_;) yet and we’ll all discuss together. And last little detail… it’s an entertainment business!! Doesn’t that sound fun. I’ll tell the details if you’re joining the team

DM me for more details :P

Discord: ne_thing

It's not even about actually doing it that excites me, but moreso wanting to have the option to do if I felt like it.

Where I live, many people are very focused on making money - but I've never been able to motivate myself based on that prospect. What motivates you the most?

Hi, there, everyone.

I'm here to just get a little support. Will someone be able to listen to me? I just broke up with my boyfriend who's the safest place I can turn to, even now actually. But I want to help myself to balance my dependence on him. Maybe even just for today, I can share my story to someone else. My other friends are no good. They're not great listeners. If anyone have time here, please let me know. I'll request a chat with you 🥹. Thank you so much in advance. I'll try my best to not drag things in chat.

Edit: Thanks for all those that reached out to me today. I'm feeling much better now. May your kindnesses get rewarded with multiple happiness in your life. Much love ❤️.

Hi ENFPs,

INFJ here - seeking insight on this topic. What are some things a good friend could do for you (or perhaps already has done for you) to make you feel truly loved, cherished, and respected? Or, at the very least, to bring you joy?

Hi fellow ENFPs!

Wanted to ask if any of you are like me - at times, we can just get really happy, hyped and feel a high/ energy naturally, without the need to consume any sugar, caffeine, alcohol etc?

Of course I love and indulge in my sugar, caffeine and alcohol, they just serve to get me to an even higher high. 😂

And when I crash, I feel more down than anyone else and at times almost have no energy and just want to stay in bed.

Also wanted to ask if your energy is at times so enthusiastic and infectious that it scares the other types? I've heard this remark a few times. Kind of naturally like a hyperactive lovable ENFP furball zooming around before crashing, I guess.

When it comes to romance, sometimes I think all I want is someone super sweet and nice, understanding, good humored, and smart. And then I think….I am all those things. And yet, I could NEVER imagine someone describing me to someone else as being everything they wanted or a catch or someone super impressive. AND IDK WHY 😭

Anyone else get major social burnout?

It’s strange, I always have a lot of physical energy. I can dance for hours, workout, move my body, but when it comes to socializing, I get tired very easily.

I enjoy people but I find socializing pretty energy draining, especially in larger groups of people. Not very “extraverted” of me. I wonder if it’s normal

OK, this is a random message. I don’t know who’s going to respond to this. But what the hell I don’t have anyone else to tell.

So I have a flowing endless barrage of notes capturing, quite frankly, creative, brilliant ideas, contemplations, self knowing, you name it I have it.

Realistically, I’m not going to get it every single note and do something with it. But yet more and more and more and more material comes every day. I love it, but it’s making me crazy because I also want to organize it and categorize it… What the hell is wrong with me lol

Calling all brilliant, creative, go-getters - people who have found their way out of their own labyrinth. I can use some advice.

I am in freeze/stuck state! I had a business that got hijacked by my ex business partner, and… I’m needing to start from scratch… With everything.

I have to bring in money fast, but I can’t force myself to get a job. I know I’m going to be way overqualified for, that I will hate, and feel like my life is slipping away, even faster.

I’m an ENFP & sometimes J

But it’s probably the first time my life I feel as if I’m in a freeze/stuck mode. I can’t seem to force myself to jump on that hamster wheel again.

I love business and entrepreneurship. I’m great at it… But it will take a long time before I can even start making money at that.

What should I do? Does anyone know an entrepreneur group for people like us. People that are truly deeply supportive and excited about other people success while supporting each other?