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I'm very disorganised when I don't have a plan or goal. When I have one I'm very organised. My Ne is powerful though as per my friends with them concluding me as an ENTP. People who knows me from outside say I'm an INTJ cause I don't get close to people much or I'm usually very skeptical of people and quiet, observant and calculative.

I don't mind leadership under a person who's capable. Under incapable individuals I usually take over the hierarchy. I absolutely prefer to be the lead unless as mentioned is someone capable than me.

As per enegram I'm 8w7, LIE by socionic and 835 by tri type.

When my friends said I'm Ne dominated I talked to few psycologists and learned individuals to understand the throughout process between intuitive thinkers and feelers (Since I speculated I might be an ISTP).

As per ENTP stereotypes they're portrayed as dumb yet intellectual individuals who always fight. In my case I only fight when I have much to gain. In my life I have 5 things to achieve as my end goal: Wealth, Power, Fame, Legacy and Love. I love to go to gym and believe in masculinity (The actual one not the toxic one) and hate being clownish or feminine as other ENTPs are portrayed as per memes. One thing true with me and other ENTPs is my love for conspiracy theories and what if scenarios and imaginary world I get stuck in often a time.

In relationships and friendships I've been overy assertive and controlling overlooking all facts of my partners because of which I couldn't sustain my relationships abeilt overthinking despite the passion and compatibility. I heard 8 wings are usually people raised in difficult environment. Looking at my past I had difficult childhood, which might be factor behind cause of me being 8 wing.

Now I want you ENTJs do analysis and use your Attention to detail TeNi to analyse my words, how I've written, etc to analyse whether I'm an ENTJ or ENTP 8. Share your understanding and analysis.

Hey there! INFJ here. I’m curious to know how you guys feel about tracking apps. As stated above, if your SO suggested using a tracking app, would you? What if it was a friend or a different family member? Do you feel like it’s too restrictive of your personal freedom?

Edit: I realize that some background information is needed.

I was actually the one who suggested it to my boyfriend, who might be an ENTJ. The reason I suggested it was because the poor man has been married twice before, and divorced both times because his exes cheated on him. As a result, I thought that he might feel more assured of my loyalty to him if he could track me on a regular basis. Perhaps I should have presented it in a different way, like if I said that I wouldn’t have to track him, it could just be him tracking me? Because I trust him completely and want to assure him of my loyalty. Is there anything you guys would suggest I can do to assure him that I will never cheat on him?

Your reports help us spot them faster.

I've been in the workforce for years, but every time I apply for jobs, I feel like I have to start from the bottom. Even when I gain experience, I don't really feel like I'm building on anything— it's like I keep resetting.

I've also noticed that I don't really think about my past wins much. Even if I was successful at something before, it doesn't make me feel any more confident when I face a new challenge. Have any other ENTJs experienced this? Do you feel like you're always proving yourself?

Does anyone else get frustrated, or find very few people, to have in depth conversations with?

I do spend time analyzing things on my free time, but I find most don't like to dig that deep. It can get quite frustrating at times.

I get people come here to have fun, but I can't shut off my analysis mode. It's fun for me to constantly break down information.

Don't know if anyone else here experiences the same.

My boyfriend is an ENTJ and I’m an INFP. We’ve had a pretty close bond, sometimes it feels really intense like we get each other on this fated level and at times there seems like there isn’t anything that he wouldn’t do for me. He goes above and beyond and jumps through all kinds of hoops even after a long day of work, but other days however, I feel like I’m talking to a stranger and he seems to want nothing to do with me. I want love and closeness and he seems guarded and closed off. Then randomly, and seemingly without pattern, he will be back to acting adoring, sending me sweet nothings, and planning future dates. I’m very confused by this and this backward forward, up and down sort of behavior. I can’t seem to understand if it’s a dwindling of his feelings or if life simply starts to catch up with him and I get moved back farther on the priorities list. Wondering if any other ENTJs have insight?

I’m working on a personal project. Trying to create fantasy cultures based off of each of the 16 personalities.

For ENTJ, your power is time manipulation and your animal counterparts are all fish.

This is not a modern society. What would you guys like a fantasy culture based on ENTJ to look like?

basically, I want to know how you guys go think about this thought process differently. Let's say I wanted to lose 5 pounds in 1 month.

My thought process is: think about idea for a while > try to research the best and most effective weight loss tactics > break it down into actionable steps (walk 10k, eat healthier etc)

I always HAVE to dabble with the idea first, play with it a little then after a while, I do the research and when I think I have something really good planned, I execute.

There always has to be a grand vision which is broken down, thats how I think.

How would an ENTJ, as opposed to an INTJ go about it?

although it sounds like a contradiction but i heard that it’s possible

I meant this ofc required improving functions so you improve.

For a while now I believed I was an ISTP, but after a proper session I’ve been told I seem more ENTJ.

While it’s true I feel comfortable with goals in my life, I wouldn’t say I fit the “productive” mindset. I do what I agree with, but I don’t enjoy doing what other people want just for the sake of it and I’m pretty lazy with anything that isn’t actually important or takes a lot of effort. (I.e. I’ll spend hours to get my finances out of order but I’m not the type of person to go out seeking responsibilities)

Overall, I don’t connect with some of the stereotypes of an ENTJ (I.e. I hate leading others but will if that’s what’s required to get something done. I’m also horrendous at convincing people to do stuff)

Do yall think I fit closer to an ENTJ or ISTP?

Question for ENTJ's. I know money is an easy metric that a lot of you strive for, but can "comfort" be one? How about "comfort" for someone else like a parent?

Does anybody else feel like their pattern recognition is so refined that it’s painful? I feel like so many people in my life are so predicable I spend a lot of time playing along knowing they have no intention of “absolutely doing that thing” that it makes me crazy.

Smile and wave boys… smile and wave.

Does it bother you when an email or text comes through with spelling errors? I find myself easily annoyed, especially combining words like high school, a lot, at least, etc as well as misuse of loose vs lose, defiantly vs definitively or misspelling of common names spelled differently.

I know it can come across pedantic. Just wondered if it bothers any other ENTJs.

I want to stop mentally investing in people too, because I need my headspace to make my life.

When thinking about complex ideas, it’s a good idea to use simple schema to work the idea around in your head. It’s not great to draw conclusions from as you need complexity to learn the “truer” things. No type is light or dark. No type is evil or good. That’s too simple. Simple draws us in, but it’s often a false friend. I like Myers Briggs but it ain’t word from on high.

By the way, I wouldn’t use the juxtaposition of light and dark to mean good and bad due to its history.

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk

I’m very wondered how’s it working in your case since it’s my dom, some examples would be good

Hello guys! I know what you might be thinking...this is the most weirdest question to ask but, how can I just be productive? I hate procrastinating and wasting my time being lazy. But i can't get myself up to do anything. Just wanna know your thoughts and ways to do actually complete stuffs instead of wasting time. Thank you for your time :))

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The thing is I love to lead but only when I know everyone. If I am not yet comfortable with everyone I prefer to feel everyone out before jumping in to lead people towards a plan.

I can jump directly into chaos and grab the reins and lead if others don’t interject. But I can also create and formulate during alone time. When I took the test I was equal parts both and so I cannot decide.

Can you be a hybrid given the situation??

I posted about being frustrated the other day and another ENTJ bro commented that we are judgemental based on standards we put ourselves into, and I wonder how that's working out for you.

I'm focusing on the negative aspects of our type bc I need more peace of mind hehe.

I realized recently that I dislike the answer "I don't know". I understand sometimes we don't have an opinion or fully formed thought on something, but to say "I don't know, couldn't tell you," can annoy me if someone said it a few days/weeks prior, and when asked again, gives the same response.

Any other ENTJs feel this way about it? Or is it just me?

So I'm an INTP and I've been thinking a lot about how temperament plays a significant role in the dynamics between certain MBTI types, particularly the ENTJ and INTP pairing. People often say these two types naturally complement each other, but I've noticed that isn't always the case. Many INTPs find ENTJs too controlling and demanding, while ENTJs sometimes view INTPs as lazy or unmotivated.

This made me wonder if temperament differences might explain these varying experiences. INTPs tend to fall into the phlegmatic or melancholic-phlegmatic categories. A pure phlegmatic INTP might be perceived as too passive and unproductive, whereas a melancholic-phlegmatic INTP is more thoughtful and capable, just not as intense as a choleric or sanguine type.

ENTJs, on the other hand, often lean toward being choleric-sanguine (cosan) or sanguine-choleric (sanco). A cosan ENTJ, with a stronger choleric temperament, would likely work better with a more put-together melancholic-phlegmatic INTP rather than a laid-back pure phlegmatic INTP. Meanwhile, a sanco ENTJ, who has more sanguine energy, might thrive with a phlegmatic INTP who can go with the flow and keep things light.

Ultimately, it seems like compatibility isn't just about MBTI types but also temperament balance. Personally, I think I'd prefer a cosan partner who has that assertiveness and leadership energy but isn't overly controlling—someone who's more choleric but just enough to take charge without overwhelming me. What do you guys think though

I’ve seen a lot of discourse in the general wellbeing / societal place for anger suppression or channeling it “in healthy ways” and lately I find myself disagreeing with this.

I used to suppress my anger growing up as I grew up in an Eastern European household full of ESTJs (should tell you more than enough). In the last couple of years really it’s when I started being more comfortable expressing anger and it’s been healing.

I’ve been able to reinforce boundaries, be more confident, take up space without worry about what other people think, contribute and lead more efficiently, defend myself and others, stand up and call out injustices and be louder about things that aren’t right.

I’m very skeptical now of people who say anger is not a good emotion. Id go as far as saying anger is transformative. If something can be improved or I am not happy with something, if it is not fair, anger is a good indicator of this.

To clarify, I don’t mean a destructive kind of anger (shouting, abuse etc). What I mean is an anger that borders on stubborness and does not care about the sensitivities that are blocking the path to getting the problem solved. It’s a straight forwardness of “consequences be damned in pursuit of this - it’s my way or the highway”. It simply does not care about the opposition anymore.

Just imagining my childhood again, I grew up in a challenging childhood where people were too busy to spend time together most of the time. I spent my days being addicted to television and internet that I talked to several strangers online without knowing that they are harmful for my mental, emotional and spiritual health.

As I get offline usually, my family members would just easily lash out in on me anout everything and if I talk back, I get punished more until they're satisfied.

I'm grateful I am born an ENTJ, I never cowered to the adversities I faced. I conquered the sh*t out of the dragons I slayed, the monsters I faced and the monster I had to become to end the chaos in my life once and for all.

Nobody's perfect and I'm just grateful I'm stronger now, gone are the days when I can't have a peace of mind.

I don't have breakdowns because of my life now, I have tears of joy. Thank God

So ask me some question, so I can identify something about myself.

Thank you for your valuable time, nonetheless.

Don't worry, I will make it fast, but I can give this type stuff attention no more than 3 or 4 hour. I got something to do, but knowing myself always benefits me in the long run.

I read alot of psychology, but I was not interested in this specfic personality type identification, but after reading that much, I thought to myself, "Well, why not?"

WARNING this is a rant. if u feel like that is a waste of ur time, dont type it just move on.

Guys, school. one teacher, 20 kids. "do u guys understand this?"

yes I do. i know what the teacher is saying, yet i need to hear her say what i already know three times before she shuts up and we can work in peace. That is just how school works right, not the teacher's fault, but daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn, cant wait to get the hell away from that. Like i know alot abt writing, that is the thing that i do, and then this person is gonna stand there and tell me something that i know, and learnt many years ago????? dOeS sHe tHiNk I aM sTuPid?!

anyone else feel this way. This is where u can rant.

Hello ENTJs, I (INFP, 25F) have an ENTJ sister is currently expecting. This will be her first child; she's only 6 weeks in her first trimester. She's the eldest in our family, so this is the first baby in our family. I'm beyond excited and still tear up about becoming an aunt and I'm so happy for her and proud of her. I'm currently living in another country, but will travel back home as soon as I can. She wants me to be there for when she'll break the news to our parents who are dying for a grandbaby.

Due to the distance between us right now, the most I can do is call her everyday, check in after every doctor's appointment, and help her plan things. What can I do to support her better? I try not to get too emotional outwardly because she's nervous about the whole thing and focus on talking things through with her. Her husband (INFJ) is beyond happy as well.

This pregnancy might be challenging, and I worry that her hyper-independence won't allow her to rest the way she should. How can I convince her to? This girl did not even rest during covid, whilst hooked onto an oxygen tank.

I'm terribly sorry for being overly verbose, but I was thinking of putting together a care package for her. What items do you think I should include?

Thank you in advance.

PS: I love you guys. I wish I was like you.

Hello fascinating ENTJs I hope you are well. I’d like a little peak in your mind to understand what really attracts you. The human mind is very fascinating along with its dynamics with world and people I’m doing this with the other subs so I want to know how this is for ENTJs so if someone were to trap you what bait do you know you would very much fall for without a second thought?

Hi friends,

How often do you feel stressed out? What do you do to cope? Do you have effective systems set in place to best deal with stress and its accompanying emotions? I'm currently going through a stressful time and may benefit from your perspectives/experiences.

Thanks.