You can answer this in detail or on a scale of 1 to 10 or both. You may also answer this question in general and ignore the situations altogether.

1. You are casually going by and a person bumped into you. They didn't say sorry and just moved on.
2. Out of the blue, an acquaintance shouts at you. You didn't do anything. Later on, they come to you and say sorry. They don't seem genuine.
3. Same as above but this time they do seem genuine.
4. You have a really, really close friend; like 'someone who understands you' kind of friend. You find out (from a genuine source, i.e. what you heard is 100% accurate) that they were actually manipulative. They lied to you. When you confronted them about it, they ignored you.
5. Same as above but here they seemed shocked that you know about it. After a while they come to you and say sorry. They apologized multiple times and said that they didn't mean to manipulate you and that they'll not do this again.

I asked this on the ENFP sub and I'm curious about what you guys think.. Also, I wonder if it has any correlation with MBTI, so I'm planning to ask this on the other MBTI subreddits.

I had a meeting with a person who I believe to be an istj and is in a position of guiding me for some time now. We had a great discussion, but, at the end, I didn’t know what else to say, he also got up and left before me with a very brief “Goodbye”. Usually, they are warmer to me, especially after a nice interaction.

As an enfp who is sensitive to disruptions in the perceived harmony of my close relationships, I felt a slight rejection. And I have the impression that maybe I did something wrong. Could you give me some possibilities as to what could have happened?

I don’t really relate to INTJs, but I relate to their way of thinking when solving personal problems. I have an overarching future based goal then find out how to reach it, and that’s where the si comes in. I use ni to figure things out, and si in the process of actually doing the things in order to reach the goal I found from ni. I’m sorry if this sounds confusing. Would I still be considered an istj?

Deepseek can’t tell if I’m an ISTJ or an INTJ with a developed Si.

Does anyone else share this dilemma?

Hello istj, Want to ask you if your secret crush would come to you with start talking, or interact in some way, how would you react? what would be your first reaction? Would you avoud them, run away cause you would feel embarrassed and nervous, or you will talk too. What would it be your aproach?

Preferably something that isn't an article, preposition, pronoun, or conjuction.

I only recently realized how often I say "that's interesting". I don't have to factor in context and I can clearly convey exactly what I'm thinking just with tone. It does make texting interesting though.

I've taken many MBTI tests (I've taken the official test about 5 times in the last few years) and have had different results. Most of the time I was identified as an ISFJ, ISFJ or INFJ and I still get confused between them. Was there anything that helped you to finally be sure that this was your type?

Since ISTJs are so common, there's got to be a connection right? I'm not gonna jump to conclusions because honestly, I have no idea how you guys truly feel. Also, the posts on this subreddit don't confirm nor deny how I feel about this.

But I'd like to know if you feel connected to people or if you feel alone. If you feel like the energy around you is too much, or if you feel like it is actually quite warming, even if you don't always reflect it yourself.

I read a comment a little bit ago that an ISTJ felt like they didn't know any other ISTJs which really surprised me and made me think more into this. Hence why I created this post now lol.

Im curious about this cause I don’t think I’ve met any istj’s or are friends with any but I wonder how a infj and istj would work together

By attracted I mean personality wise, feels very strong pull towards them. Most likely to develop a crush on even if physically they aren’t your type. Platonically tend to seek out friendships with people of this type, there’s an intrigue and strong attraction there that isn’t present for most types.

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I have an ISTJ cousin and also a few people in my social circle who are ISTJs. It always seems very hard to understand you people on a fundamental level. I never know if you guys have warmed up to me or am I just delusional.

But the ISTJs that I got close with tend to have some unique and unexpected hobby that nobody could imagine them indulging into. It's almost funny yet endearing. They are indeed passionate about it too.

I am curious to read to what extent is this common among ISTJs.

I recently met an ISTJ through a friend of a friend. He is one of the most fascinating men I've ever met.

There's just something about him which brings out my playful side and I like pushing all his buttons. He's not argumentative though and doesn't have a "I need to be right" mindset when we talk and will entertain all my outlandish theories. Yet when I act out and get testy, he acts very calm.

He says things like, "A man should never argue with a woman."

I overheard him though talking to our mutual friends that he thought he had "instant chemistry" with ENTJs (me?) but that "you have to stand up to ENTJs otherwise they get bored" and that he found ENTJs "annoying"! 😂

So ISTJ ladies and gentlemen, what is your opinion of ENTJs?

It feels like ISTJ 5 is a bit weird because 5 is all about theories and ideas and afaik, ISTJ prefer to be grounded and do things pratically instead of theorizing.

Any ISTJ 5s here? How does it work?

Source: https://vultology.com/database/?type=SiTe&development=

The Si function understands life as a series of events located in specific moments in time, and tied to each other in definite relationships. Si is keenly focused on accuracy and readily notices misquotations, invalid facts and is generally skeptical of unverified data. Si users emphasize the importance of understanding the historical context of things, frequently incorporating additional narrative details in their discussions. Thus, Si users often have an appreciation for history which drives them to gather extensive knowledge, often becoming avid readers, storytellers, and experts in many fields like anthropology, geography, and archeology.

ISTJs (Standard)

• Andrew Yang(American businessman and attorney)
• Ben Carson*(Former United States Secretary of Housing and Urban Development)
• Ben Stein(American writer and actor)
• Celia Deane-Drummond(Theologian)
• Edward Ruscha(American artist)
• Edward Witten*(American theoretical physicist)
• Fred Rogers*(American television host)
• George W. Bush*(43rd U.S. President)
• Joe Flint*(Reporter)
• Max Planck(German physicist)
• Mustafa Al-Bassam(British computer security researcher and hacker)
• Sara Seager(Canadian-American astronomer)
• Saul Kripke(American philosopher and logician)
• Stephen Wiltshire(British artist)

ISTJs with developed Te (Bureaucrats)

• Brian Williams*(American journalist)
• Bob Kahn(American electrical engineer)
• Charles III(King of the United Kingdom)
• David Axelrod*(Former Senior Advisor to the President of the United States)
• Elizabeth May*(Member of the House of Commons of Canada)
• Frank Caprio(Former Chief Judge of the Municipal Court of Providence)
• Gifford Nielsen*(American American football quarterback)
• Helen J. Swift(Professor of Medieval French Studies)
• Jay Inslee*(23rd Governor of Washington)
• John Kerry*(68th United States Secretary of State)
• Milton Friedman(American economist)
• Peter Welch*(United States Senator)
• Scott Walker*(45th Governor of Wisconsin)
• Victor Gulenko(Socionist)
• Vladimir Kramnik(Russian chess grandmaster)

ISTJs with developed Fi (Druidists)

• Mark Rylance*(British actor and playwright)

ISTJs with developed Ne (P Polarized)

• Bill Hicks*(American comedian)
• Chris Stuckmann(American YouTuber: film criticism)
• Kurt Hugo Schneider*(American Youtuber: music producer)

ISTJs with developed Te and Fi (J Heavy)

• Gilbert Strang(American mathematician)
• Sabine Hossenfelder(German physicist)

ISTJs with developed Te and Ne (Inventors)

• Bob Odenkirk*(American actor and comedian)
• David Sedaris(American humorist and comedian)
• Federico Faggin(Italian-American physicist and engineer)
• Jamie Hyneman*(American tv host)
• Mark Zuckerberg*(CEO of Facebook)
• Scott Adams*(American cartoonist)

If I marry someone, I dont expect her to take the responsibility of doing chores, cleaning, cooking, and doing whatever other gender roles people used to do in the older times. I would honestly prefer being the one to cook for her, and to be the one to meal prep my own lunches instead of depending on her to pack lunch for me

I literally do not care about gender roles. Just do what works the best. I think the 'roles' should be shared instead of everything being on one person

Edit: also I said traditional because apparently that’s a major stereotype of ISTJs

If you are an ISTJ male, would you be comfortable in a marriage to a woman who was very career oriented?

I'm quite confident that I'm an IST

But how to easily tell if I'm J or P?

I'm did 16 personalities, it shows ISTJ while some other shorter tests showed I'm ISTP.

1 website mentioned ISTP are willing to try bungee jumping, but I won't. An ISTP friend also mentioned she might.

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As a ISTJ American citizen living in the UNITED STATES, would you rather live in the city, suburbs or rural country?

How do you analyze/think through them and how long does it take for you to forget about them?

Told my mother that I was gonna buy a Blue Lock manga with my friend after watching Sonic 3. Then she says “you should read other books about like science or nutrition”. She wanted me to read just have some knowledge about it. She said things about people who’s succeeded in life has read tons of books. And said that stuff like manga you can read but it doesn’t help or improve you as much in life. Then for some reason I hear things and I know what she’s saying, but sometimes I take personal for no reason then get pissed. And by the end of this conversation I feel like a dumbass. She even said can read manga alongside other books. For me I’ve never enjoyed reading books unless it was for class or hw. I really loved manga for than any for form or book

Edit: Mol felt bad after and apologized. But I understand where she’s coming in trying to want me to know this and help me grow and stuff. I’ll try and read some time to gain some knowledge.

Hey ISTJs,

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Hello, I've heard about this game recently. Have anyone tried? What did you think?

Hello ISTJs, I am conducting a survey about MBTI compatibility and I would like your input.

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I have solved many of your "mysteries,"' but one thing bugs me above all. What the actual fuck is your definition of "a clean room." I've visited y'all's places (several of my irl ISTJ's friends houses now stop looking out the window) before & you complain about how it's such a mess when your place can be SPOTLESS. As if you were selling the house.

Like are you embarrassed because you went above & beyond? Are you trying to be modest? Why do you look genuinely embarrassed?🤔

Also, before anyone says "oh it's my organized mess" I'm calling bullshit. A spotless room is NOT an organized mess. An organized mess is you have a bunch of crap in boxes or a table with scattered papers, writing utensils, & maybe a computer with a drink a reasonable distance away from it.