Getting straight to the point (as i usually do), i use several tactics with people of feeling personality types to manage my day to day life. I thought it would be useful to share this for other INTPs too.

1. Testing honesty before starting a argument: I don't argue the shit out of people. > 60% cases arguers are just entertaining themselves rather than having actual discussion, especially in public places. If i disagree with someone - i don't start with disagreement or a counter point. Instead, i will ask a probing question to expose the flaw in their ideology. In most cases, this ends up in 3 possibilities.

Like women check me out and flirt with me all the time but brain just goes blue screen i stutters something stupid and fuck off. No anxiety around dudes or ugly chicks but if im attracted to her my brain decides its time to shut down.

Fellow procrastinators how do i make brain work right

Also i INTP IDK Y I LABELS IT WRONG

Hello. I'm a M24+ & she is a F22. We are both studying in a private university in different batches.

I recently underwent in a relationship, even though I don't want to admit myself. I got mad, because she didn't want to meet me after ignoring me for 3-4 days (just dry replies with attitude). I blocked her for 6 days and then unblocked her. I tried to console her & made ammends, but I failed because she doesn't want to give me that chance.

If she wanted to, she would've shown 🤌 this level of interest. But she just says that I made the biggest mistake by blocking her.

And lastly, I was adament and then met her. But this time, she was the same. She didn't want to listen to anything, she just wants to be a brat & do what she pleases, disregarding what I want, using me as a toy whenever she wants. This is humiliating & I don't want this. And when I said "Do you want me to leave without finishing?" & she said "That would be better". And I left without looking back. She didn't do anything, just stood there by herself. And I got in a bus & left. I said Farewell & blocked her while I sat on the bus. I was relieved sonehow. But these days, it's getting harder. The loneliness is kicking in.

What do you think I should do?

Also what kind of coffee is it? Because there’s a difference in the effect produced by grinder grain coffee and instant one. Are you used to it? How its effect changes your daily life? Is it worthy?

PS: okay everyone. We NEED MORE TIERLISTS OF COFFEE there are too few in Reddit

Not sure if this pertains to personality type but curious of others’ experiences. I have no idea what true relaxation is. My brain is incapable of being completely present and in the moment, enjoying whatever I’m doing that others widely deem enjoyable. I might have a few minutes when I’m watching The Office or something though. But there’s always something in the back of my mind

hi ... i am new to reddit and i joined this community today

instead of doing my missing assignments here i am (i hope i moved your hearts cuz i value being here more than doing my work)

Why do i keep noticing this number everywhere? Ive only recently noticed this numbers persistence i standing out. I notice the written number everywhere, collections of things compiled of that number, conversations and titles with the number. Am i going crazy?

Why do i keep noticing this number everywhere? Ive only recently noticed this numbers persistence i standing out. I notice the written number everywhere, collections of things compiled of that number, conversations and titles with the number. Am i going crazy?

I was recommended a post from this sub and thought "what is my type?"

Did the test and I'm "Logician INTP-A"

The algorithm knew me before I did. Wild.

Hi y'all, I'm an INFP, the gross emotional mess. I have one very close friends and they're INTP. I love them very much and I think they're absolutely amazing, but we just tend to have... Difficult moments. Like, a lot. Like, I never argued this much with anyone and as a person who hates arguments and doesn't cope well with them, it's just very hard for me sometimes. The arguments are mostly caused by me taking their behaviour as negative towards me and their not understanding why some things they say/do make me feel bad. We've been friends for 7 years already and we made many beautiful memories, but also have been through some really awful fights.

Are there any INTPS here who have INFP friend/partner? I was just wondering, is it possible for our types to work out common language, or are we too different to really get close and understand each other.

Thanks for reading and have a good day.

Okay so I would be taking up the mantle of mad scientist with my current predisposition. Here goes nothing.

It seems to me that on a fundamental level an INTP is running on a program which seems to be a loop which I will be referring to as [Eternal Cycle] which usually comes to an end with the [Fall].

I would like to point out that this shit is volatile as fuck, and [Fall] can occur at any level and any point in our abstractions causing everything to plummet into the ground immediately.

Our first layer of abstractions includes the [Mind], the [Body] and the [Consciousness]. In a nutshell the [Mind] and [Body] are in a constant state of stalemate / deadlock from which everyone wants to go first and no one is budging, so that is why INTP gains [Consciousness] like the awakening of Skynet central computer.

The [Mind] abysmally sucks at communicating that it wants the INTP to walk, run, workout or do anything of that matter. (It makes them horny… no I’m not kidding this is just plain stupid.)

I have a grip with this guy because if I am not exercising and built like a Titan which it again sucks communicating it acts like a 5 year old who won’t give the candy. How does that play out? I don’t have fucking access to 99.999% or more of my memory!!! I could be setting and need to do 30 different things and this fucker would say… "I don’t know what to do, nothing comes to mind! Let’s glare at the wall!" - So I literally have to write a list of things I want to, need to, should be doing in order to get my self to move. It’s starts to sound awfully like Dementia and Alzheimer’s if you think about it.

The [Body] our other main player who for whatever reason is the source of most of said need, want, should become it has access to the [Brain] that I do not! Mind you if I get up without satisfying the [Body] we come to the common situation of me hitting walls, doors or kicking into random shit which I am whole heartedly convinced it is intentional on this guys part, but it gets worse because it can cause random loss of balance, issue with muscle control and other crap if it is extremely dissatisfied with how are things are going… this on the other hand reminds me to Parkinson’s.

The [Consciousness] well it is kinda there to decide to give way to [Brain] to let exercise or give way to [Body] and think about what [Body] wants to do. (This is the easier option btw because during exercise your [Body] can just fuck you over and say I don’t wanna do this… so thinking about what you wanna do is more beneficial in this state… could go with the mindset example. (I could attribute cancer here but I’m not that sure as there are still feelings and emotions involved and those guys could very well be a cause for that too.

In our next abstraction we have 4 players: [Predation], [Hunger], [Production], [Digestion]

[Predation] seems to be a state where stars align and INTP clears their room, does their work or gets some other menial tasks done.

[Hunger] is a problematic one cuz it can literally cause binding on food, alcohol, drugs or anything that the Intp interested in aka rapid studying. (I’m still standing by the fact that INTP will remember everything after the first glance and they literally don’t have to study… but remember requires [Brain] cooperation… which usually doesn’t happen.)

[Production] now this is the good shit, the drug that every INTP clinging to! The random burst of productivity in which case the INTP performance is in 1000% compared to their usual 1%. (The usual 1% is the INTP drunk driving, it’s sucks but the more you do it the better you are at it. Which we are forced to do..)

[Digestion] is a state similar to sleep yet completely different, it can cause a situation in which INTP digest’s falls asleep and the first thing it does after waking up is going to sleep for 3 hours after an 8 hour sleep. (It can cause wtf reaction from ppl.)

Essentially [Digestion] is kinda where [Consciousness] is thinking with [Mind] and [Body] knocked out.

And this is where my science ends… you may notice that there are at least 2 other layers of abstraction which I haven’t touched on. I flat out don’t understand them… they can force me to drop everything I was doing and accomplish a task at the costs of everything else which usually causes me to be in a state of hungover if we continue our 1% drunk analogy.

My main grip with the hangover state is none of the previously mentioned things matter there, every part of the body is crying that they have been treated unfairly and we kinda just binge YouTube or sleep to recharge.

{Feelings}

{Emotions}

Another thing worth mentioning is that other personality types seems to employ a brute force approach for example ESTJ/ESTP just follow the [Body] which later in life bites them in the butt as ESTJ tend to suffer from dementia and body problems while ESTP can get some nasty cancers. I’m guessing that there are something similar with Feelings and Emotions…

The whole idea is built on the premise that no matter what [Eternal Cycle] and the [Fall] are a constant variable in our math problem that is the INTP. I tried thousands of ways to deal with it and these two guys seem to be always rising from the ashes of every project like a Phoenix…

Well it’s already 1 am so I am going to sleep… got yoinked by emotions by the looks of it… anyways feel free to correct me if I’m wrong.

Hi INTP community,

35F ISFJ-T here, I just got into a new 2 hour LDR relationship with an INTP-T 34M boyfriend for about a month now, We fell in love hot and fast because he pursued me very hard ever since we met and has been making tons of marriage jokes since day 1. We both have good careers and enjoy nerdy things like computer games. He takes good care of his appearance and works out regularly (probably due to a lack of self-esteem from being turbulent). However, I have since discovered that he has serious issues with social anxiety.

For example, he claims he only has maybe 3 friends that he stays in touch with and he doesn't see them very often. In our relationship, he would save up all his social energy to hang out with me for 2-3 hours and then he would somehow end the date abruptly. We've hit all the I love you and the sex milestones so far but we've pretty much only seen each other once a week, and our dates have never gone past 3 hours. He used to text me vigorously throughout the day and wanted to play games together in the evenings, however, lately the amount and quality of texting have slowly dropped to very sporadic and short bursts of texting about twice a day and he doesn't call or facetime me before bed neither. He also got sick with a chronic and painful stomach ulcer condition and we had our disputes over whether I should go stay and take care of him. I thought that is what a loving supportive partner is supposed to do especially given we are in LDR, but he has always given me a firm no and gets upset if I push further. Maybe the lack of communication also stems from him being sick???

I've asked him if he gets anxious being with me and he denies it, but I don't think it's a coincidence we don't see each other more frequently or for longer periods. I mean the drive back and forth is 4 hours and longer than the time we spend together. Despite not wanting to see me a lot, he claims he has brought a ring and that he is planning to shift his life focus to move to my city in the next 3 years ( I don't think I am cool with LDR for 3 years).

I am 99% sure he's not having an affair and that he probably does love me dearly, but I am also super baffled by what's going on in his head. Any help and insight is highly appreciated!

A distressed ISFJ

I would like to introduce myself my name is Jermaine. I feel like i found my home. My people I thougyt i was alone on the revenge thing. Tho i no longer want revenge for others and because of others as much(still their abit working on it). I know took back my power and do it for me. I have negative bias. And yesterday in a test of negative bias after missing a dancing bear right in front of my face. I realized its possible to not see things. I seen a lady i see every other week smile for the first time or atleast I seen it for the first time. Not forced like how i might do it but a genuine smile. I guess what im saying is where not always going to get it right but we have to try and see things differently. Trust me im intp just like you. You got to find gratitude. Thank full i can hear the annoying dog next door barking. I grateful i got hearing. Or a big one Im greatful im in a great country where there people eat when their depressed. There are places that there people are depressed because they cant eat. You know all im saying is were not that bad

I have tried meditating on countless occasions. I would try for 15-30min a couple times a day for a month or so and just gave up. I dont feel like i ever made any progress. I am interested in your stories.

As title says. Even when it’s unnecessary.

I blame myself a lot. Really quite severely as well. The self deprecation is not constant, as in I’m often content with myself, but when I blame myself I detest myself. Even when it’s not my fault.

Are any of you content with the idea that no one is to blame? I find that I’ll prioritise blaming myself over others. And I’ll blame myself if there’s no clear root cause of the problem.

I just can’t be satisfied with myself unless I’m performing above and beyond. Perfectionism is the root cause I suppose.

Hope you’re all having a good morning/day/afternoon/evening/night

Any Belgians INTP here? Just looking for interesting people to go out grabbing a beer.. or two..

Or (my personal one) The (walking) Lbrary? Or Walking Wikipedia? Or something like this? Been called Alien as well, but that wasn't meant to be a kind trope (been the most nice thing I was ever called in school though!!!)

I've "always" seen us as a Scattered Professor type, personally.

Discuss, please.

Yeah one of my friends wants to take it

I built a little house,

Beside, a little tree.

I took a peep inside.

What had this tree for a me?

The tree had an apology,

A sorry, little sap.

I waded through the forest

Of beatles, bark and crap.

I feasted fast upon its fruits,

Which swayed in gentle breeze.

I had too much, and so, as such,

Got down on hands and knees.

Oh, my dear. Oh, what had happened?

I thought, and had to spew.

A thousand things, ten golden rings,

Just had to follow through.

Why bother, I thought. It's all the same,

And I'm just a sorry sap.

May all the blame for this old game,

End up in scribbled scraps.

Hello INFJ(m) dating INTP(f) here in need of advice, as I am falling for one of you...seductive mind...havers.

We are both in our late twenties, with not much long term dating experience and also we are mostly long distance. It is 4 months of us together.

I was reading a lot of posts here trying to better understand the mind of INTPs(love you). While a lot of things is like, yuuuup, some of course are different as different experiences and multiple different things can shape person.

She is smart, funny, supportive, incredibly cute and pretty AND I could go on and on. She is the best woman I met in years(maybe ever) and while we are both shy as hell when it comes to physical aspect, we clicked instantly in everything(+insane flirt to roast ratio SHE started)

Since the start when we met on dating app, I knew she is not much of a texter(frequency, not quality...quality is insanely good) So I do not really mind waiting the usual 1-2 days for a response. (I know she needs her space and respect that) Over the last month and few weeks I noticed, the frequency going to 2-4 days for a response. She is also not much into calling, so she just turns her phone off, which...sadly makes it hard to plan a meetup, mainly if I have opportunity to visit her city in near future.

We did not meet whole month(work mismatch, sickness and multitude of things that made it great start of 2025, yay!) So I did not have the opportunity to talk about it with her and do not want to do it over text.

I am not entitled to her time or energy, yet, while I was chill with the frequency set first two months, I probably found my limit where I start to be worried. Not if she likes me, I have no doubts about that, but if she is alive and well.

We are about to meet this week, so my question is:

How would you want your so, to bring up communication/phrase it , so we can find a compromise?

First time poster here, so I'm not totally sure how to start this or if it'll get any attention. The title is pretty much the most blunt way of summing up what I'm trying to communicate. For as long as I've known, I am an intp, tried and true. But it's always nagged at me that I don't really fit into the idea of a stereotypical INTP. I'm not inclined towards math, never got into video games or coding, and frankly I really suck at using basically any sort of tech. Lately, I've started questioning if I really am an intp at all. Obviously my interests aren't the only reason, but I do wonder, are there other creatively inclined intps out there? I was always more the art prodigy, a language enthusiast, etc. I guess I already know that your interest don't necessarily dictate your mbti, but I think I'm curious to know if there's more of you like me out there.

Every day I can’t go anywhere outside my apartment without feeling like I’m in a dystopian society. Everything doesn’t feel right, I feel like everything I do is perceived as incorrect by others.

I go on walks early every morning at a pretty massive park near me but it’s all artificial beauty; I spend two hours trying to clear my head of all the fuckery I have to put up with at work. My job doesn’t actually mean anything as I have the software skills to automate it and already have as I built a web portal for myself and end up doing things in a few clicks every time something lands on my desk.

The well being of those people around me seems to get worse over time.

When I bring up how I feel to my gf or my family they just ignore it because I’ve always felt this way.

I really don’t think humans are adapted to this environment. I feel so trapped; like say I start a business and make a lot of money, I would still feel trapped merely out of how my interactions with other people feel.

Hi INTPs,

There's this coworker of mine who is an INTP. There is a clear unspoken attraction between us, but I can confirm that we both know we like each other (I fucked up and got nervous, and he picked up on it. The teasing won't stop - help).

As much as he likes me, I noticed that he isn't great at texting or initiating conversations. He has become better over time, but it seems that I am taking the lead 95% of the time.

Why do you not initiate more? Especially if you knew the woman you liked, liked you back?

I'm just interested in understanding him better, not to put pressure on him. I'm an ENFJ with a ravenous curiousity.

Thanks for enlightening me today.

I haven't been acting like an INTP lately. It has been an entire year. Often I feel like I have moved on but the moment I approach her again, I end up having those uncomfortable feelings rise up in me. I also feel a bit anxious. Kinda afraid? Dunno.

I destroyed myself (in a good way?) after the breakup and everything but I still haven't moved on completely. I kind of end up in a state similar to Ne-Fe loop often.

I can't help but overthink at times and just feel a lot of things that I probably haven't felt much before in life.

There's a lot more... But uh, I don't wanna go over that mess rn... She's an ISTP in tests but she acts like she doesn't know stuff everytime, asking dumb things and act like she doesn't know a thing? I dunno.

Well, I got lovebombed in my opinion. I can't think of much rn lol.

What do you guys think? I think I hate everything. I don't find any interest in most things now. I have become a bit too detached and goal oriented. I feel dead whenever I'm not doing something productivity. Like my life has no meaning.

I (intp) have fallen in love with my best friend(enfj) and I don't know what to do. She's one of the best people I know and I wouldn't ever risk our relationship but I feel like there could be a chance. Do I go for it?

If so, why? And how did you do it?

cute nerdz

One of my friends(entj or enfj I'm pretty sure) wouldn't tell me something pretty important to me and they just started saying that they're selfish and mean so they don't wanna tell. How do I deal with this?

Does anyone else rejected from the world? Like everyone has always had high expectations for you and every time you failed they didnt outright say it but they implied they were disappointed, all the while everyone else whether it be siblings or schoolmates could do whatever and there would barely be any consequences. I feel hatred towards others because of this and at times i feel like just giving up and trying to just burn the world down as much as i can.

I like the idea of certain lives, but I struggle with desire and motivation. I ride bursts of energy. My advice given was to do things little bit at a time, but I don’t have the motivation to even try to get better. I am a slave to impulse yet without true guidance of desire. How am I supposed to accomplish anything? I hope you relate so I can get advice, but I also hope you can’t relate because this sucks.