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Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving


INTP is a personality type within Jungian Cognitive Function theory.

If you used an online test of any sort to determine your personality type, it is recommended that you become educated in Jungian Cognitive Functions. The following resource is a very all-encompassing outline of the system and describes the difference between the generalizations perpetuated by MBTI and the more systematic approach cognitive functions take in categorizing people in the way they think:

MBTI is akin to horoscope, while Jungian Cognitive Functions (often incorrectly referred to as "MBTI") categorizes people according to their intrinsic differences in cognitive attitudes.


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Hidden information about intuition and exposing fake intuitives

There's some information about intuition that is not being told in mbti community. God gave everyone intuition for a reason. It's hidden knowledge and creativity that God gives us. Intuition is also given us aso a guide to our higher self's and spirituality. Our intuition is a guidance to what's right or what's wrong, to give us warning signals when something is off, to give us information from God, to guide us to higher levels of awareness, to help our spirit to become awaken, and to connect more into the spiritual realm than physical realm.

The mbti website makes being a sensor (not listening to your intuition) sound normal. It's not normal to be a sensor. Sensing forcus on physical realm with our five senses rather than going spiritual by listening to our intuition(our six sense) . The physical realm is really just a illusion we are really spirits in a school to learn life lessons and to become like God.

(Se) which is Sensing Extrovert being overly attached to physical realm and physical pleasures like sports, games, inappropriate behavior is the lower self. The Adventurers types ESFP, ESTP, ISFP, and ISTP are too attached to physical realm and physical pleasures with low (Ni) which is to help us go to our higher self's and spirituality.

(Si) which is Sensing Introvert with low (Ne) is being less acceptable to new ways of thinking , change for God's kingdom and new things. The Sentinels types ESFJ, ESTJ, ISFJ, and ISTJ are closed minded for newer ways of thinking and doing things with low (Ne) which is to help us be opened minded for new things and change God wants

(Ni) is intuition that is inside of us as a guidance to higher self, spiritual awakening and God.

(Ne) is open-mindeness so we'll be accepting to new ways of thinking and change so we'll be opened to God's new kingdom

The Adventurers with high (Se) and low (Ni) is the lower self. God didn't put us on this earth to be overly attached to physicality and play all day. This world and universe is a school for our spirits to learn and go higher levels of awakenings and consciousness. When we forcus to much on physical realm we are ignoring our real reason why we are here. We are here to become like our father (God) .

The Sentinels with high (Si) and low (Ne) is rejecting newer ways of thinking. When God brings in his kingdom we can't stay in our old ways. Our minds have to be renewed and opened to new things and new ways of thinking. When God brings in his kingdom he's going to make everything new and want people to be renewed in our thinking so we become new creatures.

One thing is wrong about mbti when it says our personality types cannot change. Listening to our Intuition is a option not permanent. God gave everyone intuition. Intuition is not only available for a few or some group people. Everyone has intuition. If a sensor finally decides to listen to their intuition then their intuition gets stronger the more they listen to it. When we ignore our intuition it gets weaker. Sensors can become intuitives the more they start listening to their intuition. Being a sensor(choosing not to listen to their intuition) is a option but can change anything if the person decides to listen to it.

Killing our intuition is a crime towards God and we can get into trouble. If we become darker and eventually end up killing our intuition we are setting up ourselves for death spirituality. Try keeping your intuition alive as it helps keeps you alive spirituality.

In the mbti community they took God out of the meaning of intuition and made it like a mysterious magical thing that pops out of nowhere. God gave everyone intuition as a guide to awaken the spirit. Introvert intuition(Ni) is the self-accusing spirit that is inside of all of us in hopes we listen to it to awaken the spirit. The more we listen to it the stronger the voice becomes and the more awakened we become spirituality.

The mbti community made it seem like it's normal for us to ignore our (Ni) so we can stay asleep and be dead spirituality. It's not normal for us to ignore our (Ni) it's the inner guidance for spiritual awakening, God, and higher self. (Ni) is not only just a gut feeling that warns us when to stay away from trouble it's also our self-accusing spirit that tells us what's right and what's wrong and gives us guilt when we do something bad.

When we do evil and feel guilty about it that's our (Ni) talking to us and it shows we are spiritually awake but when you can do evil and feel nothing that's a sign of lack of (Ni) and spiritual blindness/death.

I noticed there are a lot of fake intuitives in the mbti community. People think being a "intuitive" makes them special because they "choose" to listen to their intuition. Everyone has intuition. Intuition is not only for a few people or small group of people. Everyone has it. Intuition is listening to our nature we were created/self-accusing spirit in hopes we come back to our nature which is obedience to God. Our nature is to be righteous and submission to God. Listening to your intuition doesn't make you better than other people.

Some fake intuitives only want to listen to their intuition so they can feel special and smarter than others. That's not what intuition was made for. Intuition was made to awaken the spirit so we can become God and reach higher levels of awareness. It seems like most "intuitives" only wanted to listen to their intuition for negative purposes and to make themselves feel special. Being a "intuitive" doesn't mean being interested/studying in science, computer programming, abstract conversations, meaningful conversations and etc.

A real "intuitive" is someone who is in complete submission to God. When you submit yourself to God your self-accusing spirit/intuition becomes stronger and your spirit will be wide awake.

Intuitives can also lose their intuition and become sensors. When we become dark and evil our intuition gets weaker and we lose our creative powers. The darker we become our intuition gets weaker and if dark enough we could end up also killing our intuition. God doesn't give intuition to the wicked and the rebellious . Intuition is for the righteous and was made to keep us spiritually awake. When someone ignores their intuition or becomes dark they go into sensor mode which is spiritual blindness.

When we become evil and in rebellion towards God we lose

  1. (Ni) which is to help keep us spiritually awake. Losing (Ni) causes spiritual blindness and keeps our spirits asleep and dead
  2. (Ne) which is to help us be opened-minded to God's new ways of thinking. Losing (Ne) causes us to lose our creative powers and become rejectful of God's new thinking

There are a lot of fake INFJs, INTJs, ENTPs, ENFPs, etc. INFJs/INTJs with (Ni) as their dominate function means they should have a strong self-accusing spirit and should be spirituality awake. If you see a INFJ/ENFJ/ENTJ/INTJ that can do evil and feel nothing or in rebellion towards God that's a sign they completely lost their (Ni) and they are no longer an INFJ they are a sensor(spiritual blindness). When we disconnect ourselves from God or in rebellion we lose (Ni) or it gets weaken. Listening to (Ni) Is listening to the nature of ourselves (self-accusing spirit) which is obedience to God

Same thing that there are a lot of fake ENTPs, INTPs, INFPs and ENFPs claiming they have (Ne) as their dominate function. When we are in rebellion towards God we lose our creative powers.

There are a lot of fake intuitives that would act like the type, so called claim they are "trying" to listen to their intuition for negative purposes, and study abstract ideas just so they have feel special and have a title of being smart. The one's who think just because they "choose" to listen to their intuition that they are better than other people are really sensors and fake. God does not like proud and arrogant people. When we become arrogant we shut off knowledge and lose (Ne) and (Ni) . If we want a strong intuition we must be humble and submit to God . God doesn't give intuition to the proud, arrogant, and rebellious people

The N > S is better is really silly and foolish. Intuitives think just because they have more knowledge and so called "trying" to listen to their intituion are better. Sensors can gain strong intuition too and become intuitives too if they choose to submit to God and finally listen to their intuition. One thing is wrong about mbti when it says our personality types cannot change. Not listening to our Intuition is a option not permanent. God gave everyone intuition. Intuition is not only available for a few or some group people. Everyone has intuition. If a sensor finally decides to listen to their intuition then their intuition gets stronger the more they listen to it. When we ignore our intuition it gets weaker. Sensors can become intuitives the more they start listening to their intuition. Being a sensor(choosing not to listen to their intuition) is a option but can change anything if the person decides to listen to it.

Anyone can become great and smart when they choose to listen to their intuition. God wouldn't make only a few people "special" and leave the rest out. Then it would make God unfair and unjust. Anybody can become smart, great, have creative powers, and do great things because everyone has intuition. God gave everyone intuition not only a small group of people. Any sensor can become great and intuitive if they choose to listen to their intuition. God wants all of his children to become great and intuitive. He wouldn't favor only a few people and leave rest of his children out

We are not supposed to listen to our intuition just to get a special title type, to feel superior, to feel smater than others, to feel special, and for many other negative purposes. We listen to our intuition to become one with God, come back to him and become spirituality awaken. The Inuitives that are arrogant, proud, rebellious towards God, evil and dark are not inuitives they are fake. They just want a title(N type) to feel special and superior to others. Intuition comes from God. The creative ideas, the gut feeling, the hidden knowledge all comes from God. When we disconnect ourselves from God and in rebellion towards him we lose our powers/intuition. The "real" intuitives are the righteous and ones who are in submission to the will of God.

There are a lot of fake physics, fake coming up with ideas, and fake "i have a strong intuition" in the mbti community. People think being good at science, history, computer programming = having a strong intuition. That's not intuition it's just you being good at a topic or subject. And fake physics that are evil and in rebellion towards God are not physics they are just using witchcraft. Using witchcraft and casting spells is not intuition it's satantic. There's a lot of so-called "i found the hidden meanings" in the community. Their so called "getting hIdden information" are coming from fallen angels/demons they are not getting it from God nor their intuition. The so-called "I'm coming up with all these ideas " If they are evil and in rebellion towards God those "ideas" did not came from their intuition it was stolen. When we are evil and in rebellion towards God we lose our creative powers.

Using witchcraft and casting spells is not intuition. Studying science/abstract stuff and being good at a scientific subjects is not intuition. Stealing other people ideas and claiming it as yours is not intuition. Being spiritual, growing in stages of spiritual growth and being in submission to God is intuition.

It seems like everyone want a strong intuition but you can't have a strong intuition if you are evil or in rebellion towards God. To get a strong intuition we have to connect ourselves with God and go up levels of self spiritual development. The more we connect ourselves with God and develop our spirits the stronger our intuition becomes. The more we disconnect ourselves from God and not develop our spirits the weaker our intuition becomes.

Do not try to listen to your intuition for the purpose of wanting to feel superior to others or feel special. God wouldn't only make a few people special and leave the rest of his children out. God is just and treats all of his children equal. People in the mbti only want a strong intuition only so they can brag about it and feel special. God does not give people a strong intuition if they are proud, arrogant and only want to listen to it for selfish/negative intentions.

The definition of intuition had been oversimplified to just "gut feeling" and "coming up with idea's". Intuition is more than just " gut feeling " and "coming up with idea's" . Intuition is the self-accusing spirit that tells us what's right and what's wrong, it's our key to spiritual awakening, to help us see things clearer(coming out of spiritual blindness), and to help connect ourselves to God. God had been completely taken out of the definition of intuition and been limited to just listening to your gut and coming up with ideas. Listening to your gut and coming up with new ideas is just the basic levels of intuition. There are higher levels of intuition. The more our spirit is developed and more we connect ourselves to God our intuition gets stronger and we grow into higher levels of intuition. When we go into higher levels of intuition we start seeing things brigher, clearer and grow into more self-awarness. The more when we don't develop our spirit and disconnect from God the more our intuition gets weaker and we come into spiritual blindness and don't see things clearly.

There are a couple of agents and fake intuitives in the mbti community. The ones that would say "it's okay to be a sensor" , "being a sensor is fine" or "everyone is just different. When someone chooses to ignore their intuition" are agents and snakes that what you to stay into spiritual blindness. They don't want you to wake up to what's really going on and want to keep you in the dark.

The mbti community took God out of intuition and made it a "how we see the world" or intuition is a "cognitive function". I could tell the people who made the mbti website are atheism because they are deceiving a lot of people and don't want people to wake up on what's really going on. They hide the true meaning of intuition because they want everyone to stay asleep and be dead spirituality. The post is not a religion thing it's to get people to wake up spirituality. Submitting to God is not a religion it's a way of life and our nature

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2024/12/05
01:22 UTC

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What do you think about ideas and taking action on them?

A colleague at work once remarked, “Ideas are amazing and heavily needed in this world, but without action they are just dreams.” I invent products, processes, software and solutions in my head all the time and then the procrastinate helps me to forget the idea. Have you overcome this curse?

3 Comments
2024/12/05
01:18 UTC

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Should I feel bad for not feeling that bad

I don't know if there is something wrong with me but I just can't relate to other people in trems of mindset and there problems and I feel bad about is that normal

2 Comments
2024/12/05
01:16 UTC

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Has any intp ever done anything like this before?

I like to challenge myself in my head where I generalize a keyboard and I have to spell out a word. I hover over each letter I go over but once I go over that letter I can’t go back to that letter. So now I have think to of a strategy which way to go to spell out the word. I know this may sound confusing but this is the best way to describe it.

1 Comment
2024/12/04
22:24 UTC

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Do any of you intentionally try to be funny or does it just naturally happen?

I’ve heard we’re supposed to be funny are you funny?

27 Comments
2024/12/04
22:07 UTC

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INTPs what's your spotify wrapped look like?

Or if you listen to music via some other way and have acces to stats or whatever idk. I personally have shifted back and forth between soundtracks and rap/hiphop.

66 Comments
2024/12/04
21:32 UTC

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Are you more of a poopoo head, or a doodie doo doo head?

Serious answers only.

11 Comments
2024/12/04
21:11 UTC

4

I hate certain people’s good mood

They just don’t stfu even when absolutely nobody is talking to them or trying to listen. But I’d be mean and unprofessional to tell them to shut their mouth

6 Comments
2024/12/04
21:00 UTC

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are intps and infjs often mistyped?

when i was much younger i always tested as infj but i then switched to typing to intp and i thought it really resonated with me so i didnt question it much, but now that ive looked in to other types i feel as though im quite similar to an infj as well and just did a test and scored infj. idk what to do and i feel like ive spent so long thinking im someone im not

the other thing is my cognitive functions do not add up at all and dont really make sense for either of these types but idk maybe i did the test wrong

ive always scored somewhat of the border of t/f and p/j but maybe im looking at it the wrong way and reading the results wrong? please help !!

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2024/12/04
20:58 UTC

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Anyone have ISFP fantasies?

Sometimes I have moments. In these moments, I think about what it would be like to twist open the throttle on my Harley and disappear onto the open highway. I could be a ski bum, painter, designer, musician, poet, mechanic. Just vibes, beers on the beach, engine rumbles.

Of course, I never do this stuff. But maybe...

7 Comments
2024/12/04
20:33 UTC

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Need advice from lawyers or entrepreneurs

I’m currently a second year associate in big law. I can’t find passion/motivation as a lawyer although I’m not bad at it and have essentially cornered an area of practice where there are no other juniors working on it so my job security is good. I’ve got ADHD so I literally want to gouge my eyes out reading long boring legal documents or doing anything that is repetitive in nature. I find it “pointless” from my perspective.

I can’t get rid of this itch to start my own business. I’ve always felt much more energy talking to founders or people working in start ups. I came from an entrepreneurial family where my dad ran his own business.

I like to think that I am very entrepreneurial minded, and when I speak with entrepreneurs I can come up with lots of business ideas and opportunities. However, on the flip side because of my adhd I know I lose interest in an idea very quickly and I can lack accountability which is crucial in executing any business. I’m afraid that I’m quitting a very well paying job for a “delusion”. Any INTP lawyers or entrepreneurs have been in a similar situation?

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2024/12/04
19:56 UTC

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check this out

hey everyone, test says that i'm INTP but what i've always liked talking and being the center of attention, but could never do so due to low self-confidence, i've tried many a times, sometimes successful and rest of them being failures, i'm really looking forward to meet some new people here on reddit, mainly INTPs who could maybe have similar feelings about people/anything, kindly dm if you too want someone to talk to or else idk what for, reason i'm looking for people online is because i'm done with people around me here, minimal common interests and i can't get along with them for some reason :⁠-⁠( also, i'm open to find some dating advices as ig i need to find some kind of love apart from my family as well. (i'm focusing on my career too so don't worry about that) for reference i'm [20M].

3 Comments
2024/12/04
19:25 UTC

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Are you a Genralist or Specialist?

You may define generalist as a Jack of All trades.

And specialist as Master of few.

49 Comments
2024/12/04
18:00 UTC

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How do you guys feel about chilvary and how has it affected your dating life?

I personally dislike it overall. It's not neccesssarily the acts in itself, it's more of the constant expectation. I don't providing for women. Obviously, I want to provide financial stability on my side, but I don't like the idea of buying her clothes, bags, makeup, etc. I don't like it when a woman won't get out the car until I open her door. The overall idea of a woman being or pretending to be helpless or waiting for me to do something she can easily do herself just turns me off. Anyone else?

40 Comments
2024/12/04
14:58 UTC

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INTPs, what do you guys like to research? And how often do you research stuff?

I personally like to research about consciousness and the mind. It may be a bit odd or stupid but I just really like to research it. Although, I haven't had as much time to do research because school unfortunately.

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2024/12/04
14:50 UTC

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Guys Im worried about losing my thought process

Hi guys, many months ago I gained the thought process of a NPC. I could barely have deep thoughts, was emotional and didn't have self-awareness. Idk why I got brain fog.

I recently placed this game coffin of andy and leyley. Some of the messed up stuff that happened awoke me and now Im able to have thoughts in my mind and its flowing. It's not like brain fog anymore.

I dont want to lose my thought process. It caused me lot of pain in past but I need it and want it. It makes me "me" even if it means being lonely.

I think I may lose my self-awareness. I don't want to lose it. Please help me. Im also INTP. Idk why I lost my personality. Please dont delete this post and help me

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2024/12/04
14:39 UTC

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Calling the INTP Who Shared Their Thoughts on Time

To the INTP who recently shared their perspective on time: If you’ve deleted your post, would you consider reposting it? I found your insights fascinating and was looking forward to discussing them further. It’s rare to come across someone who has deeply reflected on such an intriguing topic.

7 Comments
2024/12/04
13:27 UTC

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Do your emotions and feelings ever just take over so that even logical thinking doesn't do anything.

I get this thing almost everyday. I get anxious about my future and I have to explain to myself what I've planned and that there's nothing to worry about, but my mind still acts as if im about to die tomorrow. Most of the time I have no worries and just think what I'm going to do in said situation but then all of a sudden I lose my tracks and my mind is in a state of delirium and dissociation. I know this topic is more related to r/mentalhealth but I wanna hear you guys cause you are the best.

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2024/12/04
13:26 UTC

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Have you ever been asked if you are “xyz” profession while talking to someone from that profession?

I realized that before talking to certain people I research relevant concepts and topics related to their field. I think the motivation behind doing this is to reduce the potential for people to lie, cheat, or somehow take advantage of me.

For example, I’ve been asked if I’m a doctor, an HVAC tech, a dentist, a plumber, a lawyer, etc while talking to people in those fields. Usually over the phone.

I also realized this can be polarizing. People are either more open, honest, and direct…or it rubs them the wrong way and they shutdown communication. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

5 Comments
2024/12/04
12:54 UTC

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What’s something that’s been normalized recently that you dislike?

For me,

  • constant over-sharing on social media
  • instant gratification and always being "on"
  • non-stop productivity culture
  • echo chambers and groupthink
  • lack of depth in discussions

Anyone else feel like some of these things have just become way too normal?

51 Comments
2024/12/04
11:46 UTC

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Do you think it's possible to change type to INTP

looking back at myself a year or more ago I'd say I was for sure an INFP with some Ti usage, but mostly Fi and I had all the idealistic principles it implies. But after a somewhat recent extensive self research it seems like I've become Ti dom and the principles system alltogether vanished and I only have some Fi effects left. Also seems like i got a tiny bit of Fe and absolutely no Te.

17 Comments
2024/12/04
11:26 UTC

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Struggling to stay motivated in the 9-to-5 grind

I'm genuinely curious how you manage to keep yourselves motivated in the traditional work environment. Lately, I've been feeling like I'm constantly swimming against the current of corporate expectations. The repetitive tasks, the endless meetings, the bureaucratic nonsense , it all feels so draining and meaningless. I'm just going through the motions.

How do you find purpose? How do you stay engaged when everything feels so... mundane? I know we're not really wired for traditional productivity, so I'm hoping some of you have discovered strategies that actually work.

18 Comments
2024/12/04
08:59 UTC

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Why can’t I stop saying “alternatively” instead of “but”

I don’t know why I do it. Honestly I might just be a douchebag

31 Comments
2024/12/04
08:13 UTC

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Is there any INTP who has truly mastered their emotions? And it doesn't come into play of their day to day work?

I'm using some rules for myself when it comes to emotions, to not let myself be affected and keep up my schedule.

But I'm still sulking in the weak emotional moments.

Rules only help to keep me on the track a little longer. But then I feel like I will have to face those emotions eventually.

6 Comments
2024/12/04
07:19 UTC

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is it normal for us to think were not an intp?

cause if not im ab to retest and join a dif subreddit😂

28 Comments
2024/12/04
06:52 UTC

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Realising the value of failure in an INTP's life.

I see in my life that I need a lot of failures to push me to the correct direction. Part of this has to do with Te and Se in shadow. Which means we don't apply the general logic of the masses. And we don't learn from others. Doing everything by yourself will make you fail a lot. Because what people have been told doesn't work, is challenged by an INTP.

We are skeptical of what people say and think it should work. Then we go through the process of experimentation to find out it doesn't work. Our whole life is an experiment and if you don't do that, you remain impractical just because it's hard for us to believe until we see for ourselves, even with the most basic steps of life involving career and relationship. Some of them life experiments can be groundbreaking. Most of them necessary to make us a functioning adult.

Another effect of that is we are often late bloomers as a result of doing everything on our own. Unless you already have very developed interests in tech or finance.

In conclusion, the fail a lot and fail fast idea has never been more true for me. It's very easy to look into the past and have regrets but we are meant to fail a lot so I hope nobody gets disheartened by where they are at.

24 Comments
2024/12/04
05:48 UTC

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Is this normal?

I got INTP on the MBTI test after consistently getting results of INFJ or INFP but the F and the P were 50-60 percent so it could be swayed

But i took the enneagram and i got equal types 2 and 4 which contrast the INTP type

am i normal?

5 Comments
2024/12/04
05:43 UTC

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Thoughts on AI and the Impacts it has on Society

I'm taking a social change class and we've been discussing a lot about AI recently. So far, we've mostly focused on the bias in AI and how it amplifies bias that's found in humans and the data that is implemented into it; making me wonder what exactly we aim to create. Is the goal to make AI unbiased or emotionally intelligent and all knowing (if that makes sense, I don't know if I'm explaining it right)?

Right now, my class and I are working on a project to discuss the impacts on certain factors: relationships, education, work, mental health, and learning & brain function

My group has focused on relationships and it's quite interesting to research and think about. I'm both fascinated and scared of the impact technology and AI has already had on society and am curious to see how it pans out. For example, with the creation of apps that allow the users to have an AI companion, what effect with that have on the users? Will it effect their social skills? Warp perceptions on consent and boundaries as AI likely won't deny what you ask of them? Will it effect the dopamine (and all the chemicals that create happiness) when talking to real people?

I've been finding it all very interesting and just wanted to hear some outside thoughts on the matter as well as to possibly discuss.

What do you think of AI? Should it be stopped (if so how), how should it be improved, and do you think there needs to be laws against it's usage in particular circumstances (such as a courtroom or reviewing resumes)? Is there enough data to begin making accurate assumptions for the future? Do we have an idea on how this will play out in our societies?

9 Comments
2024/12/04
05:03 UTC

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Moral fiber of INTPs, how strong is it?

I don't feel like I have a sense of righteousness when it comes to victimless crimes like forgery. Especially when I see that someone can get away with it. End of the day, seems like it's a crime if you get caught. I know it's wrong because it's unfair for others following the system.

idk, I'm glad I have humanity but I'm scared of what I'm capable of. I hope I don't get the "one bad day".

fyi: no, I have never committed a crime of any kind

43 Comments
2024/12/04
04:50 UTC

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Am I the only one who gets torn over leading vs following?

Lately, hanging out with friends and family feels like herding cats. Every time, it boils down to indecision—what to eat, where to go—and somehow, I’m the one researching restaurants, filtering for 4+ star reviews, and trying to coordinate. I don’t mind taking charge, but then someone else jumps in with their own ideas, and the whole process just derails. Like, can we pick a lane? Either let me handle it or decide who’s calling the shots so we’re not stuck in this chaotic limbo every time lmao. I know a lot of INTPs here are more go with the flow, but I like taking charge most of the time, and sometimes there's just too many cooks in the kitchen.

10 Comments
2024/12/04
04:46 UTC

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