I'm in a long distance relationship, and I'm trying to find more things I can do for my partner to help make her feel a bit special, something to learn to do with her, or just to make her day. So far I got making a list of the things I love about her, writing poems, making food from her culture, and singing songs she likes. Any ideas what else I can do?

I’m 18(f), in my senior year of high school. I haven’t come out to my parents and have been keeping the fact that I’m a lesbian a secret since the age of 12. I grew up in a hispanic and catholic family so my parents have always been very strict with my freedom and have very conservative beliefs. I had no issues hiding my sexuality until recently when I started crushing on one of my close friends. She’s bisexual and very masc presenting which set my parents off. At first it was fine they didn’t really care and would let her take me out often. This was new because usually they would be really strict about me leaving the house. It wasn’t until after we both confessed are feelings that they started to catch on. We’ve gone on a few dates but my mom was always especially difficult to convince. My parents ended up confronting saying they think she has feelings for me and that I should stop hanging out with her alone and it turned into a whole argument where they expressed their homophobia. After a week of back and forth screaming matches my mom finally let up and decided they would leave it alone since I’m straight and have no feelings towards her (yet obviously this isn’t true). So we went back to normal and I tried to not immediately go out with her again because I didn’t want to get my parents suspicious again. Unfortunately my mom ended up reading my texts one day and basically discovered that I was gay and that I liked my friend. She confronted me and while she wasn’t mad she was very much not accepting of the situation and was labeling it as me being confused so I just denied what she found. I kept denying that I was gay to her every time she’d ask. Now while I feel like there might be a possibility for her to at least try and accept me, my dad is very much too homophobic to ever accept it and because of that I don’t think I can come out. But while that’s never bothered me before, it’s getting extremely hard to go out with the girl I like and I don’t want her to lose interest. She has a car so she’s been able to take me on dates but I won’t have my license until a month from now. I want to ask her out on dates too but with my parents and not having a car it makes everything extremely difficult. I feel so much guilt for not being truthful about my sexuality but I feel even worse not being able to do more for the girl I like. I’m just hoping for some advice on what I could do to take her out on dates without me having a car and without my parents knowing. They track my location on my phone which makes everything even more difficult. I know that in March when I get my license everything will be much easier to hide. But I just need ideas and help on what I can do now in February so she won’t lose interest in me. I was planning on getting her some cute things to ask her to be my valentine but I’m just worried on how I’ll go around hiding a date on actual valentines day from my parents. Please help if you have any advice for the dating or maybe even advice on if I should just come out to my parents and hope they won’t stop me from seeing her again.

i (f 19) have been talking to this girl (f 20) for about a month know. I know I love her. I’m scared to admit I’m in love with her because she told me she’s not there ‘yet’. I don’t know what to do cuz as i said, it’s going amazingly, but i’m afraid i’m getting into a relationship with someone that doesn’t even like me that much. i’ve always loved romance and grand gestures. not to say that she needs to like it too (ofc it’s worked regardless), but i’ve always expected that in the next relationship i go to, because i’ve built enough of a relationship with myself to respect my own love and needs, and not accept anything less than that. i can’t tell if this is less… or if she just hasn’t opened up yet..? like what if i go into this relationship and 8 months in she’s still like… this. and by this i mean, reserved, hyper-independent and closed off. i don’t want to go into a relationship knowing both of us are gonna get hurt. she says she really likes me, that she’s never felt this way before but ive been played before and because her actions don’t line up, these just seem like words to me. it’s ironic because all those qualities i listed before drew me to her most. and it’s almost like those are the very qualities that scare me the most. i’m terrified, idk if i should run. i still talk to her cuz ofc i don’t wanna lose her, but i hate having this constant battle in my head about whether or not i should actually mentally be in it. especially when i want to be. i can’t even talk to my friends about cuz they just won’t get ittt. help.

hi im 13(m) and im bi (mabye gay) and ive been wanting to come out for a while but many of my friends is saying "jokes" that is homophobic and i dont know if they really mean it but at the same time i dont want to loose all my school friends. have someone experienced something like this or have advice

btw sry for the spelling (if there was any mistakes) english is not my first language

hi i am 13(m) and is bisexuel(mabye gay) and have been wanting to come out for a while but many of my friends "joke" saying homophobic stuff and i dont know if they actually mean it have anyone expirenced something like this or have any advice btw sry for spelling mistakes english is not my first languenge

So Back in class 10th ( it's been two years since then), I started actively looking for a relationship. Before that I'd always been too focused on my academics. I had this crush on one of my friends from tution and school(let's call her 1A). We got along so well. But she was oblivious (Or well ig she was just straight/Hetero). Oh right I forgot to mention but I'd recently began exploring my sexuality that year and found that I was a tad bit more appreciative of girls to be anything but a raging bisexual. So back to the story, my bestie(2B) usually had to listen to me bemoaning about 1A. One day 2B just randomly says why is it always 1A and not her? And I was surprised of course 2B was not unattractive rather opposite she was almost my type (a tomboy, flirty, sorta funny) but there were of course somethings about her that just didn't mesh well with me. At that time I didn't think too much about it I should've but after some more situations like this I asked her out. Only to a week later have her say that she's straight and was only just having a bit of fun. That hurt more than I thought it would.I found she's in a relationship with a guy. She only ever cared about me because of the academic perks I could offer her due to my topper student status. After almost two years I'm still hesitant to ever broach the topic about relationships and it makes me feel pathetic to still care about what happened then.

I have a severe chronic issue of ruining friendships by developing a huge crush on my heterosexual friend and developing a delusion in my head where I interpret everything they do as flirtatious and then when I ask them out they are weirded out and obviously uncomfortable. I’m 18, I’ve done this 5 or so times throughout high school, I was just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience or some guidance to offer. Also note, I am sort of closeted and act super straight because I am low key ashamed of my sexuality, so this type of stuff tends to be a surprise to people.

I just turend 12 years old (I know this burner will get banned) and recently started having thoughts of the romantic and sexual kind. I am only sexually attracted to women, I cannot get sexuallly aroused by a man, but I have 0 interest in pursuing a woman romantically at all, I do however have 5 guys who I would want to date. Am I bisexual, or something else? Thanks in advance!

So basically I have a few problems. This is gonna be kinda long so bear with me here... At first, I thought I was an aroace of some sort, but as soon as I was happy with that label... I got a boyfriend! It lasted only about 2 months because any feelings I had rapidly disappeared... I'm debating whether I ever even liked him because I probably have some internalized homophobia and was also crushing on a girl at the time??

Once both faded I felt pretty relieved but now I think I like another girl. All I wanna do is follow her around and laugh with her and hug her... I think about her all the time. She's a lesbian but I don't think she likes me. We are friends, but even though she's grabby in person (also with other people) she doesn't text much.

I also feel like I have a third category in between friends and crushes because there's like various people I'm completely normal about unless I am in close proximity with them...

What are the signs I like someone? What's my sexuality? Anyone else experience the "third category"? I'm pretty confused but any perspectives help!!

TL;DR: Thought I was aroace, then got a bf I don't think I cared about, now crushing on a girl and feel "in between" platonic and romantic for a few more, boys and girls... Thoughts?

I have a crush on a cis guy and I want to get him something for valentines day to possibly confess to him but I have no idea what guys like.. so what do guys around 14-15 like? I know he does theater but isn't really into musicals. He kinda likes marvel but idk much more that he's really into.. anyone got ideas?🙏

Things have been sorta crazy for me this past month. I fear this post shall be very long, but I mean it may be interesting so join me for it perchance.

For context few months ago I realized I had a crush on this one person. We have a complicated history and I was very much in a relationship so I was willing to just let it subside, until I realized they so definitely had a crush on me too (We'll call the crush N).

The relationship I was in was quite toxic on both sides and we eventually broke up, which was certainly for the better. Around this time N was helping me work through everything in that relationship as well. They sorta served as the spokesperson of my friends who were all concerned about it. Eventually my ex and I realized we wanted our stuff back so we planned a day to swap stuff. N came with me because they had been helping me out before and my ex said someone was going to be there with them and I wanted balance. After we swapped stuff (very casually I might add), N and I decided to hang out because we were out of town in a nearby city.

We went to get lunch/brunch, and as we were walking in we both realized it very much seemed as though we were on a date. From there it was sorta awkward but we laughed it off. It also didn't help that N had dressed very nicely because they were going out later. Over the course of our accidental date (as we called it), I fully realized we most definitely both liked each other.

Fast forward a couple months (I'm just skipping over us pining over each other silently, nothing interesting), I talk over this whole situation with a mutual friend of ours, I'll call them S. S honestly gave me a lot of great advice/opinions, and eventually we landed on I should tell N about this but not pursue anything serious like my past relationship because that ended very poorly.

A week after this conversation, my friends and I went to see a movie together. This was right around the start of the year. After the movie, N, S and I hung out for a while. Eventually S had to go because they had a tighter curfew. Then it was honestly a lot like a movie. N and I moved to our separate cars, and I just stood by mine for a few moments. I kept looking back at them, and something in me was finally yelling "oh my god you homo just tell them," so I went over to their car and asked if we could talk about one more thing. After a lot of yapping and rambling, I finally said I felt that we both liked each other, and... (drumroll please)... N agreed.

N and I have talked about what we want and have agreed to go with the flow. The only reason I tagged this as relationships is because we are both technically in an undefined something right now. We've been hanging out a ton in our cars recently, and just like alfjsjfjsfjheje. They are genuinely the cutest little guy. They're currently still very easily flustered around me, so they've started fidgeting with my hands a lot and I just find it very cute. They have the most comforting brown eyes and the prettiest smile and just GAH. I fear the gay is taking me over.

We've been getting a lot more comfortable with each other over the past few weeks as well, like getting more flirty and showing more physical affection. Honestly, the best part of all of this is that I don't think either of us feel pressured to do a single thing. We've both had a rough go of it relationship-wise, but we are just so comfortable with each other comparatively.

I'm gonna say something that happened today because it was just like mmmm yes. I was working on something at school and N was there with me sitting on their phone. The teacher there with us stepped out (because she's awesome and was getting us cookies from the teacher's lounge), so I decided to be a silly little guy and kiss N's hand. What was really mmm yes about it was that as I was walking away they kept holding onto my hand and glanced at me a bit, like they were asking me to come back. I just smiled back at them because the thing I was working on very much needed to be done, but yeah :). We've had a lot of little moments like that and I find it simply lovely.

I just wanted to share my little gay tales because I'm just having a nice time with them and I think it's good to try to share positivity when things are so dark right now. Even in this time, little gays are being little and gay. If people want more of this then I'll be happy to divulge, or I will just because I like yapping about N.

TL;DR - A happy gay teen story, yippee!

Um so for a little bit now I've been thinking about pronouns. I normally go by she/her but recently I have been thinking about she/he pronouns. Like today at school we had to write down a little bit about our selves and I was debating so hard about not putting she her and putting she he instead. I also thought about changing my Instagram description pronouns to that as well but idk why? Like I'm a cis girl who is a lesbian so isn't it weird to be ok with masculine pronouns as well? But like I keep thinking about this.

Idk help 😭

So my friend and I are both M15, and he’s “straight” (when I asked him how straight he was, he said “about 90%, if they have a good personality I would date them.”), and I’m gay. A long time ago, he was pansexual.. anyway let’s get to the story. So for the past like 5 months he’s gotten a lot more touchy. For example, we had an assembly, and he sat in front of me and laid back on me.. in private he cuddles me sometimes. This type of behavior has been bothering me, because he’s had a crush on this girl for like, the whole school year. He really wants to ask her out, but is scared of rejection. I’ve been watching this the entire time without putting any thought into it, but only recently, have I been feeling different. I started to think about what I was feeling. It wasn’t like a crush, because a crush is just a lack of information, or whatever that TikTok video said. I liked him for who he was. I feel a deep sense of love for him, and it’s so deep rooted that I don’t know how I can ignore it.. so now I’m here. I wanna know how I can go about this. Do I confess to him? Do I give this all up? I mean we literally do everything together. In the span of a year, we’ve became best friends! I can’t let all of that go, but I also don’t know what else to do if he doesn’t like me..

I (15M) am a closeted bi guy. Lately I’ve just been on a journey to discover myself and I’m now sure that I am bi. I want to come out to my best friend but every time I think about doing it (even when I’m not with anybody) I get this nauseous feeling and start to feel anxious. I don’t know what to do.

I just need to rant right now (M16) and I just realized how much that I dislike myself and I even question myself why can’t I be normal. Just have a normal relationship with people judging me just because I like boy.like I just want to be who I want to be without think about anything what other people say. There times that I think should I try to force myself to like a women knowing that I’ll be unhappy with it. I’m at outcast at school, I’m a people pleaser (you all ready now now that’s going), and I don’t get why is there different categories just for being gay and me knowing that I’ll never be apart of those “categories”. I just want to feel a human touch, I’m tired of just me rotting in my bedroom,and I don’t want to be alone I only have a 2 more year until I’m out to the real world but even with that the world is all ready shity as it is right now and I don’t know I’m I even ready for me to do anything when that time comes. I’m tired of my body, how I look, act, speak, all of it even my own mind. And the time that I’m like this I can’t fuckin look at myself in the mirror with me seeing flaws within my self or just them reflecting back in to me. I just don’t know what to do or what to feel I think that the world is up in flames,I’m never going to find love without people disapproval of my life style, and just me can’t standing how I look (I’m sorry for the long post despite it being my first post here I just feel like that i can’t tell my friends who all ready know that I’m gay or just tell anyone that I know how I’m feeling right now”

Idk whats up with me

(So im currently undergoing personal gender questioning but lets put that aside for now.)

So for a long time ive been a gay guy. Thats what I’ve considered myself and thats what other people have considered me. But lately? I dont like men. And I try, I really do, to like them, but if I imagine hugging or kissing another guy I feel nothing. Im attracted to none of the guys at my school. But I still have gay mannerisms? I still feel queer. And I’m not even especially attracted to women either. Its this weird sort of attraction where I think theyre really beautiful but wouldnt want to date them?? Im just so confused. I wish I could be more concrete and descisive about this but im losing sleep over it

This is a predicament I'm in

So I go to a school in Germany (Gymnasium) and about 5 months ago I saw this dude and I started crushing on him SO BADLY about a month ago, now the thing is: I am 14 and he is 17 flipping years. Now I would not care about the age gap but I am pretty sure he would :((( ANOTHER PROBLEM is: I don’t know if he is gay which makes everything 10x harder. My brothers both are his friends and there are no known relationships at all, and they said that he could be gay/ bi. So I thought it would be best just to befriend him or make him notice me BECAUSE HE DOESNT KNOW I EXIST (Im 8th grade and hes 10th grade btw) sooo, do you guys have any idea on how to get to know him and make him notice me without it feeling weird/forced/pushy (Well put the being gay part to the side for now) I think it is also important to note that my psychologist, my school psychologist and teacher that I know really well all said that I am way more mature than other people my age. (U guys get me right?)

So, I'm taking some time to see if my unsettling of saying that I'm gay goes away before coming out, but if it doesn't go away then I'm just going to stick with unlabeled and come out. But, apart of me just want to see if my unsettling of saying that I'm gay goes away because I think it's mostly internalized homophobia rather than being unsettled by saying I'm gay, which I'm fine saying I'm only attractive to guys both romantically and sexually, but say I'm gay makes me unsettled. But, yeah, I'm just going to take some time to see if my whole getting unsettled when saying I'm gay goes away before coming out. I hope it does go away so that I can be truthful to myself and others, I don't know how long it will take; it could take days, months, a year. I don't know yet, but I guess I see you all when I get that unsettling when saying I'm gay goes away. Take care everyone, see you next time I post.

I'm 16, a high school junior. I'm anticipating going to college. Aerospace engineering is a very demanding and education-heavy field, so there's absolutely no alternative. I'm excited about pushing frontiers in companies like Firefly, Boom Supersonic, Astra, and the like.

I'm also gay and considering my gender identity. I'm not a masculine person at all. I may be non-binary, but I'm figuring it out. (he/they)

I'm watching the United States collapse. That fat orange spray-tanned shit that is running our country with a circus of MAGA monkey loyalists is creating striking parallels to a total recession of the United States. His impulsive greedy power grab is freezing the government and dragging the entire United States deeper into a hole of messy, stinky, "conservative Christian" disregard for the American people.

All I want to do is to make planes and rockets and live a quiet gay little life outside of Boston with my future husband and a cat. But increasingly, it's not looking likely I'll ever achieve that dream; between going to college and being gay, it seems like I'm not in a good position at all. The US is on shaky ground, and I'm afraid I won't be one of the people fortunate enough to escape unscathed.

I'm in a vulnerable position after I leave high school, and I'm afraid I won't be able to achieve my dreams at all. I'm afraid the walls will crash in and I won't "figure it out".

Sillycide has entered my mind more in the past week that it has in the past three years. I just want to punch myself and bleed out in the shower so my parents don't have to clean up a mess after I'm gone. I'm so god damn hopeless right now.

What the hell do I do?

Sorry for bad grammar, I'm eepy rn

im a cisgender girl, and have always been attracted to men. however, i occasionally have dreams of having a girlfriend or kissing girls. the first one i had happened when i was five. i remember it because it was the first time i had heard of woman x woman romance. in that dream, there was a girl that i loved. i held hands with her and kissed her and married her in princess dresses, since i was five and only cares about disney princesses. i felt weird when i woke up. in the dream i hadnt even registered that i was loving a girl, i just knew that id loved her and that she WAS a girl. these types of dreams happened maybe 2 more times throughout elementary school - middle school. middle school was when i was more exposed and accepting of the lgbt community, as i learned more and educated myself more. i knew that i was straight though, despite me being kind of attracted to one girl. last night, i had another dream of being attracted to a girl. it was differently formatted though, me and this stunning blonde girl were watching movies. we were flirting and we were making our way to making out, but then i woke up. i dont understand why this keeps happening. i dont feel attracted to girls anymore and i genuinely cannot imagine a future with a woman. i cant imagine myself marrying a woman, having a girlfriend, or introducing a girl to my parents. moreover, i dont want to be gay. where i live, everyone is homophobic. im an ally since im very exposed to the concept since ive been online since 3 years old and learned a lot about the lgbt community when i was 12, but i would rather just like men and not have complicated feelings towards women. i dont understand why this keeps happening.

(16F) | never dated anyone before, but all of my crushes in the past were male and I only talked to males in a sexual manner. Until recently, there's this senior in my school, shes very pretty. Her hair is short and curly, her body is slim and curvy. She dresses like a main character in an early 2000s movie. Her makeup is always bold she uses a lot of blue and sometimes pink. Her eyeliner is heavy and thick and she has a mild case of blush blindness. She's never ever caught with a backpack on, and prefers to wear a purse to school. Sometimes they're so small I worry if she can even fit a book in there. At first I guess it was admiration? She was my whole Pinterest board and more. She was practically hairless and her body was completely flawless even her motions carried grace. I used to complain to my friends about her and nicknamed her "2000s babe". It got so bad to the point I would randomly think of her while I was trying to sleep. I even started changing my way to class to see her more. I knew it wasn't admiration at this stage. I wanted to talk to her, become friends with her, kiss her-okay am I gay? I had to test it out myself, so I did what any 16 year old did and watched lesbian love making. I spent 2 hours just watching. I felt like a true pervert after the rush faded. I kept watching more and more girl x girl it was so bad. It was to a point I started reading y/n fan fictions about older women. I always cried bad after the rush ended and felt so nasty and weird. I never thought ill of the LGBTQ community but growing up religious I couldn't help but feel gross about it. So I prayed to God to get rid of my homosexual tendencies. But it still lingered I stopped following her to class and stopped talking about her to my friends. Until once when I was skipping lunch I seen her and her friends. They were outside the restroom on their phones. I was flustered and my face felt as it was melting as she and her friends stared at me entering the restroom. When I was skipping lunch I seen her and her friends. They were outside the restroom on their phones. I was flustered and my face felt as it was melting as she and her friends stared at me entering the restroom. When lunch ended I seen her and her friends again but instead of being on their phones they were recording TikTok's and thats when I heard it, her voice. When I first heard her talk I was surprised, it was very deep. I thought I heard wrong and sat closer to her at breakfast the next day to confirm and it was confirmed. I told my friends that 2000's babe had a really deep voice. They laughed and told me one person can't have everything. One day I was walking along with my friends and I pointed her out in the hallway and my friend looked at me crazy. It wasn't a girl but a gay male. I was honestly so confused, I was thinking he was a girl and felt so weird being attracted to another girl. But now that I know it's a boy does that make me still straight? I'm honestly so confused right now. Ps. He identifies as a boy 100% he uses he him because his friends addresses him as such.

I've been with a boy for almost 3 years. I love him, we're in eleventh grade and he's my everything. But he tells me all the time that he wants to marry me. I love him, sometimes I reciprocate that thought, but God, I want to kiss a girl so bad. At least that's how it started, curiosity. Wanting to kiss a girl. But now I need it, I need to date a girl, I just need it sometime in my life. I'm just so confused, I love him. I know it won't last forever. He hopes it will. But I know the statistics. I think my biggest fear in regards to him is being with him my whole life. Awful, I know. Maybe we'll make it out of high school, maybe through a bit of Uni. But I need to be with a girl, I can't stress it enough. Some days it's all I think about is this confusion and regret and angst. I just don't know what to do, and we've been together so long. I also can't stress enough that I really do love him, I'm attracted to him, Everything. I just don't see forever with him.

Where on the lgbt am I?

Hey so like, I genuinely don't know where abouts is fall with this. I'm a cis female, and usually I use the terms Bi or Pan to describe myself but I think i might be streight but I have to keep second guessing myself.

I've only ever really dated cis men, and I primarily date men, so I might be streight because that's my preference for dateing. HOWEVER! I have recently began to prefer trans men because they tend to be more likely to have the traits in someone I'd like to date where as cis men are for the most part... lame.

I have also, in the past on rare occasion, have been attracted to fems and had crushes on individuals with bio fem bodies or identify as fem. I also have a tendency to check women out, because I can appreciate a woman with a nice rack weather it be itty bitties or big bitties.

So please I need answers because I have no idea what table to use anymore.

I am a 19 year old cis girl who is a deeply closeted lesbian. My family comes from a country not accepting of LGBT+ at all. There has been countless casual family discussions where they talk about the queer community incredibly negatively through out my entire life. My immediate family is the type to scowl at a gay couple. Despite this, I love my family with my entire heart. I have never actually acted on my sexuality and I doubt I ever will. I will never go farther than liking relatable wlw TikTok’s. I’m genuinely fearful of my families reaction. I may end up killing my grandma. And all though it’s kinda twisted. I would hate to hurt my grandma in such a way. Even if my family hates me, I’ll still love them. 🙃

I’ve accepted the fact that I have to marry a man. Even though the idea of having to be with one makes me sick to my stomach. But I’m down for a lavender marriage hmu!

I’d never think I’d end up making a post here, but I’ve been a little back and forward on this for the past few months. I (17m) have been heterosexual my whole life and have never had any doubts about that. I’m also quite comfortable within my masculinity and with myself as a whole. However, for the past maybe year or so, there’s been a little flexibility to that whole heterosexual thing. I’ve never been completely opposed to the idea of being in a relationship with another man, but I simply was never attracted to men (especially more masculine presenting men). As of recently, I’ve been seeing more and more feminine presenting men or “femboys” as some of yall might call them. And after wrestling with if for a bit, I found myself attracted to them , sexually, and possibly even romantically. As someone who has been for the most part masculine presenting and heterosexual all of his life, this development has been a little confusing for me. A little outside input would be helpful, and thanks to anyone who took the time to read all of this.

Okay, I'm neptunic, asexual, demiromantic and genderflux, I'm only out online tho. My dad and older brother are super homophobic, and I've been trying to keep my little brother out of that. So I normally ask him questions like "You don't like [older brother] right?" as in a hope to keep him from repeating what he says and ignoring him abt certain topics, then sometimes I ask him a question like "Would you be a girl if you could" and he always answers yes for the reason "So I can wear heels or lipstick" it's adorable and I'm kind of manipulative (Shhhh). So, I got with my non-binary partner a few days ago and a few of the friends know. The few that I told that don't know that me and them have been talking they think I'm dating a boy since I haven't showed them any other texts and we're long distance. I want to be gayer at school (Like out) and I want to use a chosen name, but I'm really scared cuz when my friend told out friends that she was dating a girl our one friend looked uncomfortable, and the other one gave her a nasty look and started to ship her with a new boy. So I'm super worried that if I go out they could out me to my dad and then that would be a whole thing. So how do I be gayer, but less gay?

I would like to know how and at what age they told their parents, friends or acquaintances about their transition because I would like to tell my parents but I don't know how.

So I believe I am straight, but recently l've been questioning it. I only find myself romantically attractive to woman, like I could only cuddle with a woman or go on dates with one, but find myself wanting to have sex with all genders. Is there a term for this, how do I experiment without being a bottom at all to start off, or do I jsut stay with women because they are fucking hot, l've never had feelings or a crush on a man. What should I do, come out? Expiremnt in the closet? Or just let it be? Thank you so much for any advice!!

i need some advice from trans people.

i’ve been debating this for a long time and i have no idea how to know if i am trans or not. i don’t experience any major disphoria but i look fairly androgynous already. its mostly towards my face and my hips, but its not a gross bad feeling- more like id prefer if it was more feminine. like if i had the option to id go on estrogen without a second thought, but i don’t know if i “feel like a girl” if that makes sense.

i can’t stand body hair, that’s the one thing that i do have very negative feelings about.

writing it out it really feels obvious that i’m trans, i guess it’s more an issue of whether/how to know if it’s worth it to me to transition, because it’s stressful and hard and socially risky and takes a long time

maybe i’m just scared, who knows

thank you for reading my brain dump.