I think my sister is going to prison for several years. Maybe if I was around more, she wouldn't have gotten herself into that mess, so I have this guilt. But I guess she is responsible for her actions. I just don't know what her life is going to be like now. What is life like in prison? She has a kid that I'll be more involved with taking care of now, suddenly. I just want her to know there are people that care about her out here, and anything I can do to make her sentence less miserable I'll try. I get worried sick about her in jail. Like is she going to get shanked or raped?

She is not a bad person but has bipolar and BPD. We suspect she was on meth when she attacked someone. Does meth really amp people up like that to attack people? Is it easy to get meth in prison? I suspect that stuff will just get her into more trouble.

I, 25f, am feeling very discouraged and ready to throw in the towel on dating ever again....

For a bit of background, my now ex boyfriend, 28m, and I were dating for 4 months. He did and said all the right things that I've never had the chance to experience from my previous relationship. He's patient, kind, gentlemanly, believes in the same religion I do; has the same love language that I do and is a family man. I really believed that this man was the one for me. He said I love you first, which I didn't mind because I felt the same way too. He was like a breath of fresh air and for once it felt like someone understood me other than my girlfriends. This understanding was on a vulnerable and deeper level that made me feel safe and secure in the relationship. Also, when i found out about a diagnosis recently, he full supported me and gave me comfort and love by saying we are a team and he loves and will love me through it. Furthermore, I envisioned a future with him that i've never been able to do that with any previous relationship, so this was a new turn for me. So, all in all, you could say I was very smitten with this guy.

As I write this while at work, (im a nignt shift girlie!), I randomly received a series of screenshots from my friend/coworker. (Her name will be A moving forward). I opened them and I my stomach dropped. I never gave my friends or family D's number since things are still new and frankly why would I after just 4 months? Anyways, I opened A's message and my heart dropped..

Here is how the convo went per the screnshots:

A: "Are you single?" D: "I am seeing someone at the moment however we can be friends." A: "booo...is it serious?" D: "It is but I don't think she's steering me in the direction that I want to go." A: what do you mean? D: "She's got me falling back into old habits. I used to smoke a lot of weed and stopped working out." A: "are you thinking of breaking up with her?" D: "No." A: "Ahh it see. Well the first question would be, do you love her?" D: "I'm starting to think that I don't. However, I think also bc she's super clingy and not focused on the right things when it comes to me." A: So, why not break up with her?" D: To be honest I wanted to give it a chance. She told me she's happy and I didn't want to hurt her feelings." D: "She sometimes asks me questions that have me thinking about the past. A: "Things like what? D: "She asked me one time if I would go back to my ex." A: "Would you?: D: "No." A: "Are you happy in the relationship and if you had to rate it from 1 to 10, what would it be?" D: "I am just not because of her. She has helped me make some improvements but my happiness doesn't depend on other people. It depends on how content I am. Like a 6 ngl." A: Do you envision marriage and kids with her? D: "I do want children and I believe marriage comes before having kids. I don't know if I would get married with her though."

It ends there. Reading that made me feel hurt, anger, and so very betrayed. He and I would have, what I thought, were open and honest conversations with each other about our potential future plans and goals. He is the one who brought up marriage and kids first and blantaly told me that he wanted to marry me in the future. Whenever we would see a tiktok with kids in it, he would make references about "our" kids, etc. So, to see how differently he feels is very disheartening...like I've been lied to during every conversation. One of the things I would encourage between us is doing check ins with each other to make sure he was feeling heard and seeing what he's thoughts were and each time we would reassure each other and grow closer. So, it's to my surprise that he says he's falling out of love with me and he doesn't see a future with me.

Furthermore, I'm not an over-the-top 420 participant. Due to my job, I only partake in yhe eddie variety one day on the weekends ever few weeks (a total of 4 times since we've been together). I've asked him a few times if he wanted to partake with me since he indicated he was 420 friendly, but no pressure and he would say no and I respected that. I also made sure that he was okay if I did and he said he had no problem with it. Then a couple a weeks go by and I happened to have him with me while i was reupping and across the street was a vape store. He was insisting very heavily that he wanted to stop in there. Hes a grown man, so i didnt mind stopping by. I sat in the parking lot since I don't vape, but ever since that day he has been hitting it way more frequently. I asked him about it one time if he was doing okay with starting up vaping again and he says he's fine; so I dropped it. In regards to him not working out; he doesn't have a car and since I work night shift, the bus is what he relies on. I've always been encouraging for him to keep working out and doing things that he enjoys and for the first couple of weeks of us dating; he went partially every day. Whenever he's with me we play video games and we cook together. He was interested in bulking, and I LOVE to cook; so I thought that this added to being encouraging. I've always made it a point to offer to take him to the gymwhen I can or I'm in the area,, but slowly he's not been going or bringing it up, so I wasn't going to push.

As for A. She and I have known each other for 3 years. She is married to an incredible guy (he's my cousin) and the love they share is so beautiful! I've been there for her during her breakups and she's been there for mine. She was my friend from college and we happen to both get hired at the same place. On our off days, we catch up and hang out when we can. She was like a sister to me. I say was because I equally feel betrayed what she did. I didn't tell her about my relationship until 2 months in when she teased me after hearing me say something flirty to him on the phone. I wanted to give time for the relationship to grow, but of course being my friend, I told her. She is known to be pushy at times, but as long as I've known her she has never done anything like this to me or any of our other girlfriends. To add more damage to the wound, she went behind my back, somehow got his number and messaged him. (He hadn't met my friends yet as we both wanted to build together first before the whole family and friends introduction. Both parties know of his existence though.) I never gave her any indication of testing him was needed or that we were having any issues. She would be the first one to ask me about how things were going and I wouldn't mind telling her a few highlights. I made it a point to not overshare or create a space where I was always gushing about my partner...that was what my diary was for lol... Plus I fully believe that whenever there is a problem or concern in a relationship, you should go to your partner first before telling the world. [Ironic enough right Reddit? ...lol...]. I also believe that doing the whole testing your partner thing is childish and immature and 100% lacks trust in your partner.

So, after reading the screenshots, I texted her back and told her that she hurt me and that I needed space from her for a while. I had to mute her because she's been blowing up my phone ever since; saying that I deserved to know the truth and that I'm overreacting. Then it would switch into how sorry she wanted to know what kind of man I was really with...she then proceeded to send the screenshots in the groupchat of our 3 girlfriends. 1 out of the 3 was completely on my side, defending me and saying how messed up it was of her to do that and going behind my back. However, the other 2 backed her up and one of the highlight that the two of them were saying was: "She honestly did you a favor so you didn't find out later. She just didn't go about it the right way." That stung. I truly don't believe it was any of their business or hers to insert herself like that. So, I muted the group chat and privately thanked the friend that backed me up.

During my break, I went home, gathered a few things he left at my place and I asked my brother to come with me since it's so late. This was in case I needed a witness if anything more were to happened. I didn't plan to stay long or have a long drawn out talk, because I felt like what D said in those messages was enough.

When I got to his place, I knocked on the door (he's a night owl), placed the bags on the ground and waited. I contemplated leaving the bags there, but I wanted it to be clear to him that I was done. He opened the door, said hey, and I flat out said: "I brought back your stuff...have a good life D." And walked away. He called after me asking what this was about, so I retorted, "Ask her." got into my car and drove off. Admittedly, i was shaking and trying not to cry the whole time.

When I got back to work, I saw that I had a few missed calls from him and a few messages asking to talk. Against my better judgment, I answered the call and asked him what he wanted. I will admit that I was searching for some sort of answer or maybe a cruel joke as to why he would even say all of that in the messages; nonetheless to a stranger...the convo wasn't good. I asked him why he said any of that and he would say that he didn't say that, so when I pulled out the receipts, he would backtrack and go on a tangent about how hard his life is, how the last thing on his mind was about breaking up, and how he cares about me... oh and the kicker...how he feels at times forced to say he loves me...(Again he said it first..) So, I asked him if I was to do the same thing to him, but with a guy, how would he feel; he sighed, avoided the questions and then proceeded to say that he needed sleep and he wants to have a face to face convo about this tomorrow after he processed some things/didn't say something he might regret. I laughed at that and hung up on him. The audacity for him to try to call the shots and not show any sort of remorse or feeling for my feels burned.

So, how do I stop entertaining the idea of having another conversation with him? I have a feeling I might be gaslight...but I'm also hoping that the man I was falling in love with will overtake whatever this hiccup is and correct the wrong. I don't believe that he chested...but also I can't help but feel betrayed.. And yes, I do have an anxious attachment style that I've been working with my therapist on. It's just so hard to push past my self sabotaging behaviors. I feel that this is my last chance to trust anyone and any romantic partner again. I understand that I'm young and there are plenty of fish in the sea...I'm just exhausted with starting over and giving myself/sharing my world to a guy that secretly is having alternate feelings, while telling me he loves me.

Any advice would be appreciated.

TLDR: My ex friend and ex boyfriend had a text convo where he revealed his true feeling about me and I'm struggling to not want to fight for the relationship...advice please!

I just found this Reddit after seeing the casualconversation Reddit, and I think this may fit better here, so I am posting it here too.

I have had a hard time getting people to seriously consider this on the Arcane Reddit, mostly because some guy named Ok-USE216 kept hijacking the thread with strawmen and deflectionary tactics. I have now blocked him, but I wanted to ask, how exactly was their (Vander and Co's) escape attempt going to work? The door was already busted off it's rollers as you see when Vi looks up while she pushes her back against the door (you can see this when the timer is at 16:45). Vi was beaten badly. Vander was beaten badly and couldn't even defeat Deckard and Silco's combined efforts even AFTER they had been blown up. Claggor had barely removed a few bricks from the wall, plus they still had to climb down this wall without falling and dying, while Vi and Vander were beaten badly. Plus this doesn't even count that possibility that one of the most intelligent and paranoid characters in Arcane, Silco, would have other guards outside down the way somewhere. Plus there is the issue where the whole underground was rather sick of slowly dying in a toxic hell and were all rather sick of not seeing any results with Vander's leadership (as the scene with Sevika getting in Vander's face showed). Vander was only maintaining the status quo. So, chances are, even if the escape somehow magically worked, they were all going to end up as toast somewhere down the line anyway. As Babette made clear, Silco took out all of his competition and was quite competent at it.
So, how was this escape attempt to prevent Vander and Co from being offed going to work, had the monkey bomb gone off?
Any deflectionary posts will be deleted or removed soon as I figure out how to do that. And please don't waste our time with emotional knee jerk responses. I apologize for the rather rough attitude. But this matter is curious to me, and the Arcane Reddit gave me nothing but vitriol and deflection tactics instead of an honest analysis showing that this escape would have worked.
Simply prove this escape attempt would have worked. And "the writers could have written it anyway they wanted" isn't likely to succeed here. And no, the writers clearly did not write that the escape would have worked IMO. Otherwise Claggor would have been MUCH further through demolishing that wall, and the room they were being kept in would probably have been on the ground floor, and the door would not have been busted off its rollers. And Vi at least would need to be less banged up to safely make it down that wall. But prove me wrong if you think I am.
And please don't just say I am right. Prove that I am wrong. Make a good argument as to how I am wrong, please.
And please stay on topic. This thread will be focused solely on this issue.

I think a lot about this friend that blocked me on everything overnight a year and a half ago, and I feel bad that the reason she did so was based off a totally warped view of who I was. It sucked, because for months we didn't talk and I tried reconnecting but she always had some excuse to not talk with me. It hurts more because we used to be real close months earlier than that. I later came to realize with a third friend in our group that she was pretty immature and not worth being friends with anyway, but I still felt depressed for a while.

Has anyone else been shunned like that, especially if it felt like it came out of the blue? What have you done to move on from that feeling?

So I’m not sad or anything about this I’m happiest I’ve ever been, but there’s this issue. I am pretty young not stating how young but still young I had this crush and I gave her a note stating something along the lines of “hey I like you wanna go to the movie theatre” stating that I basically wanted to go on a date. She also sent me a note and it states word for word “I can’t go bc I’m going to hang out with my boy best friend for the next 3 weeks bc he went to Tokyo for a year and he came to visit” now I know the moment I read the note it was bs but I still went along with it. I sent her some more notes (forgot what they were now) and we talked back and forth through notes, I tried to give her something for Valentine’s Day but she rejected it. Eventually she gave me this note, it says “(my name), I wanna be honest with you I don’t like you, I like someone else in the this school but it’s not you so yeah I don’t like you… I never liked you”. A day or so went by and these two girls associated with the note girl asked me how I felt about the note. I said I didn’t really care about it and I guess they reported it back to her because the next week or so she gave me a note saying “Hi I’m sorry for what I said in the other note wasn’t trying to be rude I’m sorry okay one question )wanna be friends( :) open it and read it(:”. I didn’t notice the open it and read it part until a bit later, I showed my friend this note and fake ripped it up. Later I saw the open it and read it part so I did, it said “SIKE SIKE I don’t wont to be friend with you especially •n• cry about it” that part didn’t really hurt me as I pretended to rip it up (that’s how little I cared about it) but here’s where I am stuck. I don’t know what to do, how to move forward. If you can help me Reddit would be appreciated, thank you.

So lately I’ve been trying my best to quit my female coworker cold turkey, after she came back from her vacation with her new bf. The reason being that I felt she was giving me signals that she was really into me (ie flirting, teasing me, forcefully holding my hand, giving her massage, making me give her massages, taking me to drinks and movies after work, etc), but now I felt she had me in friend zone all along, and maybe was just using me for emotional support since her breakup from her last bf. But now since I’ve ignored her, she’s said that she feels like I no longer talk to her and feels I might be mad at her. In a way, I am/was upset over the situation because I ended up developing strong feelings for her. However, is me ignoring her subconsciously manipulating the situation and her feelings? It feels like I’m punishing her for my un-expressed resentment over her new relationship. And if the opportunity arises where she asks me if something is wrong, should I be honest and say “yes, I’m pretty hurt that you now have a bf, when I was developing feelings for you during all those times we’ve interacted and spent time together”? What’s the best way to go about this? And should I feel guilty about ignoring her now?

People cringily cling to the mass delusion of "gender equality" but when the shizzle hits the fan, it's WE men, yet again, in 2024, who are being demanded to do the vast majority of the heavy lifting, the struggle, the battling, the sweating, bleeding, fighting and dying.

It's one thing to make a show of "gender equality" in the workplace - and quite frankly, the ONLY reason governments don't mandate a near parity (shall we say, 60-40?) of engineers, data scientists etc, is because they know DAMN well, you won't get 40% of women applying in the first place. They'll hide behind the "Oh it's full of toxic males (so much for the legions of "brave, unafraid" hetero women who somehow almost all opt for the softer professions like Marketing)

It's taken up a LOT of notches, however, when your entire nation's very existence hinges upon the appetite for combat of the people entering your armed forces - and the vast majority of Ukrainian women, as with women everywhere, would FAR rather ditch "gender equality" when life gets tough, than pick up a rifle themselves.

Seriously, where are Ukraine's (or Russia's, or nato or any other nation's) all-female divisions/battalions /infantry?? They can get equal supplies, pay, nearly equal barracks AND get to fight shoulder to shoulder in some cases, with their brethren. They're not there, because they have UNEQUAL appetites for, and pre+post trained capabilities in, combat.

What operational reason exists for women in the infantry? About 9 years ago the US military did an analysis of gender-integrated and male-only infantry units in simulated combat. The all-male teams greatly outperformed the integrated teams, whether on shooting, surmounting obstacles or evacuating casualties. Female Marines were injured at more than six times the rate of men during preliminary training—unsurprising, since men’s higher testosterone levels produce stronger bones and muscles. Even the fittest women (which the study participants were) must work at maximal physical capacity when carrying a 100-pound pack or repeatedly loading heavy shells into a cannon, which wasn't the case with the men, who broke a sweat but that's it.

Ukraine had a whole 8 years to recruit and integrate hundreds of thousands of women into it's military, whose sheer numbers, assuming they were willing to engage in warfare, to simply point and shoot, would now have made a difference; it DIDN'T.

Let's zoom out a bit; forget the military. Do men and women have an equally difficult time going out at night, alone? No sane person would suggest so. Time and again, across all western societies, kindergartens have a hugely difficult time recruiting men, mechanic garages have almost no hope of recruiting women. Why?

Quite simply, you already have a HUGE amount of women, who would rather get paid to play with kids, than change timing belts.

And go up the chain, our leaders know it's one enormous fallacy too. The next step they don't dare take, is mandating bus companies, mechanics, software labs etc hire 40% women in hard, front line roles. Not some female director who sits as a figurehead making 200k and not really knowing much about the division she "leads" (I've seen this with my own eyes)

Stop it with this "gender equality" nonsense. It's not "sexist!", or "Misogynist!!" to recognize simple outcomes of simple biological truths; we men are, generally, physically larger, stronger, have a higher preponderance of fast-twitch muscles, and our heightened testosterone drives us to take riskier, more difficult and thus better paid work. I completely believe in equality of opportunity for women; just don't try to mandate equality of outcome, you'll be sorry. Understand we're not equal; and that's NOT a bad thing.

A bad thing, is to perpetuate this gross untruth.

Hello everyone, I am using a burner account for various reasons, I am not quite sure if this is truly the best place to put this, but I am in very need of serious advice in this particular situation. Note: this will have some detail on a very important matter with the information that I only have at this time.

How it started: I met this girl about a week ago on this VR meeting app (flirtual) and came across this girl who is currently homeless..following that week I sent her a message and about 2 to 3 ish days I finally got a reply, we ended up chatting quite a bit and I learned more about her situation, this is everything I know leading up to where I am now. Her name is Callie, she has been bouncing to friends house to friends house trying to get some days with a roof over her head so she can turn things around. She hasn't had much luck with anyone finding her a spot that will take her for a little bit, until she finds her footing. For more clarification leading to her homelessness, she had some personal drama in her family that ended up with her being kicked out, it is not my story to tell as to why, so I am just going to leave it at that. Me and her have spoke for 2 days and maybe a bit more which is quite little time for sure, but mind you this a continuous conversation with her in these 2 days because I wanted her to feel safe on her own. She would mostly hang around a McDonald's located somewhere in Trenton, Missouri, this is important information later on I promise. As I started learning more about this girl I found that she is super sweet, and tough, she could hold out well on her own and is no push over so this was just a rough step back for her, but she is positive and didn't let her situation that she is in be her worst one. She is brave but cautious which is something you should be when you are an attractive girl on your own with no home. Me and her really connected, I spotted her a total of $20 so she should could at least eat some food and buy some self cleaning essentials, we later made plans to meet and live together as soon as possible because I ended up really liking her and I didn't want her to stay homeless forever, something to note I live in a completely different state so I couldn't just show up and help her my self. As we spoke for awhile she went to a local library to call me, I got to VC with her and we had a fantastic conversation, I got to learn more about why she was homeless, what has been going, things she likes and enjoys and so on.

The situation: To keep things comfortable for her I just kept a nice conversation to take the edge off her issue, she really appreciated it and I wanted to be there for her as much as I can. I really care for her you know? So around 11:00 pm the McDonald's dinning area she would hang out at would close, Before hand she would start messaging all her friends she knows for a place to sleep. I remember her sad response when I asked her if she ever had to sleep outside..she said yes. She had a spot to stay but it was house hold with a couple, long story short it didn't end well, and she had to leave (nothing her fault of her own) and went back to the McDonald's. She did the best she could to find some kind of roof, but everyone kept ignoring her, I grew worried. I was so invested in her well being all I could think about was: "is she going to be ok?"

Things go dark: It was sunday, 03/31/2024 8:07 PM where she sent me a text message, "I’m going to walk to Walmart really quick and get me a candy bar. Chocolate sounds really good" "I'll brb"Unfortunately, this was the last text message I received from her, it has been 3 days since this eerie disappearance, she left on her own at night to a store and never returned.

What do I do?: Look, I am going to be 100% honest, I am just some guy who met some girl on the internet and connected with someone, but in my 24 years of living and using the internet I never experienced something so chilling, this is..different. as far as info about goes, I only have a few pictures of her, her cashapp, her instagram, and roughly her last location. I don't even have her phone number because she didn't have a plan of course because she was kicked out, and her homeless story checks out because I have receipts from the argument she had with her friend about finding a spot to live/crash out for awhile. All I know is her first name (Callie) and age (turns 20 on april 8th) and that's about it. I checked all her socials, she is dead air offline, and has very little socials at all to even find, her instagram is even new, made before she was kicked out, so having no trail of her what so ever is so odd. I am still on her friends list, but no sign of life anywhere. I hope she is ok, maybe her phone died, or maybe worse.. I don't wanna think about it. I gave her a few days because I didn't wanna jump to any conclusions just yet since it took her 2ish days just to reply to me the first time, but now I'm seriously worried. I can't even bare the thought being the last person she ever spoke too before her..incident. what do I do? is this a hoax? should I call someone? I don't even have access to anyone who may have known her or live near her, and the info I have is minimal, I miss her, I wanna know if she is ok.

I went to a small boarding school in a rural part of a state at 13 years old, which is 8th grade.

A boy who I had gone on a few dates with was the son of two adults who worked at the school. He was two or three years older than me. He was very upset when I told him I didn’t want to date him anymore. He did some self harming behaviors and showed up at my dorm covered in blood. Being young and naive I got a first aid kit, cleaned up his wounds and put bandages on him.

Important information to remember: my dorm roommate could sleep through a marching band practice. She told everyone this and was known for it.

I woke up one morning on the ground of my dorm room next to my bed laying on my back with my pillow under my head and my comforter over me. Drenched in sweat, uncontrollably shaking and red flushed marks on my body and face. I had a twin bed with a box spring. If I fell off my bed I would have been injured. When I first woke up I was disoriented and confused, after a few minutes I started having flash backs of being carried somewhere then being r*ped by that boy and his friend who was big, 6’3 or taller and heavy set.

The flashbacks included me being semi aware however I couldn’t move my body or scream.

I went to the restroom then saw the blood. I disassociated after that. My 13 year old brain could not conceptualize two boys drugging, kidnapping and r*ping me.

My adult brain has been haunted by trying to figure out the details. So he either stole the keys from his parents to my dorm room or was handed them by his dad. The reason I say his dad handed him the keys is because his dad was the school nurse.

I don’t remember how long after the incident this took place. I was sick one day and was sleeping in one of the infirmary beds. I woke up to his dad ( the school nurse) sitting on the bed wanting to check my vitals.

I remember saying “ I think I need to go to the hospital, I need medicine that you can’t provide here.” He smirked and said “ you would be surprised what kind of drugs I can buy legally because I’m a registered nurse” then he winked at me. The hair on the back of my neck stood up and I got that feeling when you are in the presence of someone dangerous.

I think he bought the legal drugs and gave them to his son to incapacitate me and r*pe me.

I’m thinking about hiring a lawyer to receive some kind of justice. I’m seeing a therapist no need for that advice.

If you are a kid reading this, never blindly trust any adult.

What are y'all takes on minors (like 14 y.os (my age )) drawing NSFW characters who are also 14 or older? ( And not showing it in public obviously) I never did a drawing like this but when I was 13 I used to follow an artist's old account where he did NSFW of characters that were 2 years older than me at that time ) since then, I always had this question in my mind The problem here isn't age gaps or pedophilia, but yes the security of the minor who posted this type of drawing and a basic sense of the maturity levels of someone this age, for example, there is clone high which all characters are like 16-17 and have relationships with themselves

But I want to hear y'all opinion, what you think about it ?

My first ex taught me that the word love is just a word and has no deeper meaning to it. People just say it.

My second ex taught me that even if you view someone as perfect, they will have flaws and you have to compromise, you just have to realize if the flaws are worth it or not(news flash: having a kid straight out of high school is not worth it no matter how perfect the girl is)

My third ex taught me that if you meet someone online superficially, that you truly never know the person, and they can do whatever in their free time that you wouldn’t know about, such as having multiple romantic relationships with a title at the same time( happened multiple times btw,only once when we put a title on it)

My fourth ex is probably never coming and I’ll be happy about it, this taught me to be complacent with personal progress and realizing I don’t need someone else to be happy. If people are only going to lie to my face and use me for what I have, why am i going to invest emotionally in a relationship where no one else does the same?

Then on top of that I really don’t know how to treat a girl right and make her love me even though I try my best, mostly because I’ve seen my dad mentally abuse my mom and his current girlfriend over the course of my entire life so it’s all I’ve seen. Misery in relationships.

I've never had many friends. Maybe a handful of people at most. There's been a track record of people ghosting me and leaving me for reasons out of my control. I've lost all of my friends, I have no one to talk to. I live in the middle of no where with no community and no ability to just 'go out and make friends' because its such a small town, and idk man. I'm lonely. I'm so fucking lonely and have no resources to do anything about the things I hate in my life, and the only place I have to look is fucking reddit and even then half the time people just end up being needlessly mean or purposefully unhelpful when i ask for help on things. I fully expect the same to happen here with a wave of 'get over yourself' comments or a bunch of 'find god' suggestions.

Idk. How do you make friends?? There's no one in my life and it's destroying me every day. I can't afford to go somewhere else, and there's no communities where I live, life just feels so lonely, how do you guys manage to do anything that isn't being forced into isolation?

Help I think my accounts or webpages I use regularly have been cloned or are phishing sites? I’m not super tech plz help.. any free apps or extensions I can try… or a lovely human to help. I’m desperate 😢😢

So I met this chick online, starting chatting and I actually video called her to see if she is a real person.

She wants me to pay for her travels to come.

She wants to come all the way to London from Birmingham. Obviously looking like a one nighter as she asked what was the nearest station to mine, so I plan to pick her up from there.

Is this a good idea?

Recently when I look through some discussion about this topic.

I saw some people said :

If you are simply watching leaked sex tape but don’t sharing or spreading it

It’s totally okay.

Or they think watching itself doesn’t cause any harm to the victims .

They said the people who leak it or spreading it is the " bad " guy . But they are " innocent " .

To be clear I’m not here to judge anyone.

I just a little confused about this logic.

I try comprehend this notion of

" It’s okay to just simply watching it by yourself " .

I think it’s because they think they are not "directly" involve in this crime .

And probably think I’m just one of the thousands clicks it doesn’t make any difference if I click it or not .

However when I really think about it I find it hard to rationalize.

My point is :

If you are watching a leaked sex tape you are peeping something you shouldn’t be able to see in other words you are invading their privacy .

For example we all know it’s illegal to peep someone showing or bathing .

You won’t go out and say I just peep a person showering what’s wrong with that ?

Because it’s so obviously wrong .

You shouldn’t be able to see people’s private body parts without their consent.

So my question is :

What’s the difference between peeping someone showering and watching leaked sex tape of a celebrity or stranger ?

It’s still peeping

It’s still invading their privacy

Isn’t it ?

I believe most people watching leaked sex tape on the internet would never peep other people having sex in real life .

I guess the reason they rationalize doing that through internet.

It’s not because the behavior itself suddenly become moral or justified .

It’s because you won’t be hold any responsibility or face any consequences if you watching leaked sex tape online.

If anyone get caught or punished it would be the one who leak it or spread it .

It wouldn’t be you .

You are " innocent ".

I came up with a comparison : ( Maybe not a accurate one but I try my best )

Hypothetically speaking

If you go to a state that drunk driving isn’t illegal there is no consequences whatsoever for doing so

Would you do it then ?

Or

You still wouldn’t do it because you understand even there is no punishment for that .

It could potential cause damage of people’s lives .

Also I guess it feels less "wrong" when you know there are probably thousands or millions people doing the same thing on the internet.

But just because something happens quite often doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right.

I believe there are countless people getting bully in school every day but it doesn’t make it okay isn’t it ?

About how it will impact the victims’ life .

I read some articles by journalists talked about the shame and the deep fear victims carry once they find out their sex tapes get leaked ( or potentially get leaked ).

I try to imagine how they feel at that moment.

It really take a huge toll on your mind when you feel like the world has seen you naked .

I think it probably similar like 10000 thousands people watching you taking showering.

It feels very very disturbing .

We all deserve and need some privacy isn’t it ?

I think most people won’t tell everyone in the world everything about you and every part of your life .

We want something keep it to ourselves.

Even if we share it , we share it to people we trust not with strangers.

I know there is no legal consequence by simply watching a leaked sex tape or a nude picture of celebrity and probably will never be because it’s nearly impossible to regulate that .

But still I don’t think you are allowed to watch or see that private part of peoples’s life or themselves .

General speaking laws protect our freedom as long as we don’t compromise other people’s right .

I think it’s the same logic with you can’t just go to a bakery and eat the stuff on the shelves and say I am just too hungry .

You need to pay .

Again not trying to judge people just sharing some of my opinion about this topic .

Thanks for reading it 🙏

If you don't understand English, here's the short version: I need help to streamline my 3D modelling process to obtain 3D models of things I’ll need for my Blender animation - with whatever strategy I can improvise. I need any readily available and already made 3D models for my Blender animation. I’m currently 28 years of age; I got this far in my life, but I’m not sure how much further I can go. But this is one case where I won’t accept “Too bad, so sad” that easily.

Whether it’s requesting for the thing for this game via the game dev team’s email by emailing them what you request for in the game and once they do make it for the game and upload it to their client and I update my copy of the game via patching, I then decompile the game from my end and presto. I obtain that game’s new model.
It’s faster to rip them from a game as they’re already made for that game.

Sadly, I have yet to find a high graphic Columbine High School in it’s original floor plan as a 3D model via any game. So I have to fall back to Plan B and make it via Blender. But that (learning to use Blender) takes time and I’m not that skilled at using Blender yet. So I have to seek help from someone who’s already an expert and fluent with using Blender or any other 3D modelling software to make it for me to streamline that process.

But some people have died earlier than anticipated like Terry Fox when he died of cancer at 22 and Wowaka when he died of heart failure at 31. So I’m not taking any chances and need to streamline the modelling process with any measure or strategy I can think up before I meet a similar early fate like they did.

Columbine High School is going to play an important role in my Class of 1999 (starring Bradley Gregg) parody movie. But so many people are reluctant to help me due to this school building.

And also, you can’t imagine the heartache I endured while trying to seek assistance in searching for sound effects. They treated me like I’m some felon trying to “pirate” sound effects. So after 3 months of wasted time on my sound effects search quest, the least I can do right now is make up for that wasted time.

Recently I saw people on the internet discussing the potential problems or the reasons they think it’s immoral or illegal.

I get the point that deepfake could potentially cause harm because it might twist the reality.

And not only it serve up in things like deepfake porn but it can create a very convincing political speech by famous politicians but they don’t really say those words .

It’s misleading and it’s dangerous.

I have no problems with people try to regulate this technology.

Because it’s just wrong to create misleading or fake information.

The thing I want to ask is deepfake porn inherently wrong or it’s based on circumstances ?

Some people said it is .

But I came up a scenario : If someone create a celebrity deepfake porn using her public picture and SPECIFICALLY noted it is a deepfake video not a real event while sharing online ( a website that legally allow nude body pictures ) And the most importantly

That person won’t get any profits from it . None . Zero money .

He just simply sharing it doesn’t get any money out of it .

Can anyone tell me if there is still a problem what is it ?

Because for my understanding of deepfake one of the problems is it can make people believe something isn’t true .

For example , if I just sharing a celebrity deepfake porn WITHOUT any other descriptions some people might believe that’s a real sex tape and it’s leaked . In that case the reputation of that celebrity might get damaged the perception of some people towards that celebrity also could shift downward.

If someone does that I think it’s wrong because you manipulate the reality and people probably will suffer .

But if I SPECIFICALLY note that it’s deepfake it’s not real .

No one’s reputation will get ruined right ? Because I clearly state it’s fake . Who would think oh that might be real if I just specifically say it’s not .

For example if I create a deepfake video of a celebrity hitting someone in the face but I CLEARLY state it is deepfake not an actual event that happened.

Do I need to hold accountable for that ?

It sounds okay right ?

Because no one would believe that’s a real thing.

Secondly , I don’t think you are allowed to get any profits from it simply because you have no right to do so . If you make money out of that You are clearly making it because that celebrity’s face fame or likeness. Just like you can’t just advertise something with some celebrity pictures without their consent unless they agree a endorsement.

But the scenario I think of there is no profits whatsoever.

So that remove the problem of illegally gaining profits in my opinion .

Does that make sense ?

What’s your opinion about it ?

In my experience, instances like this are uncommon. There was this guy who mistakenly believed he had romantic interest in me, but he was okay with associating with a white supremacist, which, in my opinion, indicates significant differences between us and makes compatibility unlikely for many reasons. He told me it's romantic to accept the flaws of others, but I believe he is being naive. Despite feeling lonely for longer than I care to admit, I realized that I could still feel lonely and alienated even in the company of others. I befriended someone last year out of mutual isolation and loneliness, but we couldn't get along. I found this person to be self-absorbed, stubborn to the point of ignorance (such as claiming that being homeless wasn't that bad), complained excessively despite claiming to be stoic, harshly judged others while exempting themselves from the same scrutiny, and unhealthily fixated on their own deficiencies. It was evident that they didn't value my opinion, often expressing views I disagreed with and monopolizing conversations with lengthy monologues. This experience made me realize that despite both being lonely, we couldn't stand each other, fundamentally altering my perspective. I felt terrible for finding this person irritating; I used to pride myself on getting along with others and began to question if I was a nag, which made me feel like a bad person. Eventually, I gave up on it and became more selective in my interactions, feeling burned out from previous social experiences. I had to distance myself from people I had grown attached to because of their anti-woke attitudes. Anyways, what do you guys think? Do you have similar thoughts or maybe different?

Let's say everyone who's ever been abusive to another just suddenly went poof and vanished. Would the world be a significantly better place? What would this new world amd society look like?

So I was on discord when my friend pinged me and showed me an image of a conversation him and a new dude in my server had. The new dude had asked “who should I rape” and then proceeded to show a slightly zoomed in photo of 2 girls (can’t tell age). They told me in DMs, when I said that is serious shit, that “my friend rapes his girlfriend wl.” I don’t know what to from here, all I have done is report, block and ban him. Anyone have any good ideas?

Why adults find problem into minors (13+ y.os ) feeling romantically or sexually attracted to other minors (13+ y.os, like both have the same age) I agree indeed, that finding sexual attraction into another person your age when you're like 13+ is a little bit too much because like... You need to think that, you're a minor and so is the person who have the same age as yours, you both don't have enough maturity or anything to feel sexually attracted to each other. So it is indeed a problem mainly when it comes for a teen wanting to have s3xual things, but when it comes like, in talks ( a teen talking with each other ) or drawings of other teens ( that isn't publicly pls, like posted in social media ,, since if a teen post or make a nsfw acc it would be really risky since there's a bunch of creeps in the internet and your arts aren't going only to reach people your age ) I don't really see a problem, only when it's make by like an 18 y.o creep feeling attracted to minors or some shit, this is bizarre and the 18 y.o should immediately see a therapist. But when it comes for like ( will take my age as an example) 14 year old, feeling attracted for example to a character that is 14 too, there is no problems with that .. ( will take an example as clone high, were all characters are 16 and feel attracted to each other , that's pretty much fine ) I want to talk about this because it's something serious , and if you think I said anything wrong, pls say it!

Hello r/SeriousConversation, I currently find myself at a crossroads in life, one that I imagine many of you have or will face at some point in life. Having a recent profound mental shift I've ended up in a deep reevaluation of the morals, values, and beliefs that I was raised with and have guided me until now. This upbringing shaped much of my worldview. This process has been both scary and exciting, as I've so far managed to clarify and solidify my core values but remain uncertain in other areas such as spirituality, personal goals, and things like family importance and dynamics. I'm still in the initial stages of discovering what I truly believe independent of my past conditioning and am trying to figure out how to systematically approach this complex problem.

I'm curious to hear from others who have gone through a similar journey about how you approached this situation and found resolution when approaching and questioning long-standing beliefs. What strategies did you use to build this independence? What worked and what didn't? I appreciate all answers and am grateful for any who share their thoughts in guiding me and possibly others on this introspective journey.

Have you ever witnessed anything that has made you believe or genuinely consider the possibility that some form of does life perist after death? (Also, if yes do you lean towards any particular theory being correct? I.e. Heaven/Hell, reincarnation, ghosts)? Or Alternatively, has anything convinced you that it more than likely doesn't exist?

For the past two years, it seems we've been told that anytime now Russia is gonna collapse.

For example, they said Russia's gonna run out of tanks in mere months and guess what that didn't happen. Or at least that's the implication.

Sanctions are being circumvented and Russian industries are finding ways to obtain materials it needs to produce equipment.

I don't see sanctions hurting the basics like munitions and artillery. Russia has the resources for this, but what if Ukraine runs out of men?

Let's say another 2 more years go by, and Russia starts building more factories to produce & repair artillery and armored equipment?

For now, Russia is said to be producing 90 to 100 tanks a month, most of them being refurbished old cold war tanks. I know there's a stigma against older equipment, but its the quantity that complicates the war. They might not be able to destroy a modern tank, but they sure can disable it by hitting the treads or other weak spots. We've seen how Bradley's disabled T-90s by hitting the optic sights.

What happens when Ukraine runs out of men, then what? Are we gonna send in men? Without soldiers, sending in equipment really doesn't help much.

I(25) female almost 26 has been a stay at home mom for a couple years I have almost a bachelors in healthcare management that I can finish in like three months! What field do I go to be self sufficient from this point I know I fucked up but I want to be self sufficient because my husband keeps cheating and I don’t think I’ll keep up with this!

I wanted to share a recent puzzling experience I had with my mom and her car that has left me scratching my head.

So, I took my mom's car to get an oil change at a place she had reservations about. Despite my reassurances based on previous visits, she harbored doubts about the oil quality and its potential impact on the car's performance. Fast forward to when her car started displaying issues indicating low oil life and a possible engine problem, she was quick to point fingers at the oil change place.

However, as we delved deeper into the issue, it became evident that the problems weren't related to the oil quality but rather some underlying engine issue. The mechanics at the oil change place even struggled to reset the oil life indicator, adding to the confusion.

I invited a roadside mechanic I knew to check out my mom's car. After the roadside mechanic conducted his assessment, he wiped out all the diagnostic codes without explanation,. He even blatantly told me this. I found myself questioning his motives. Was it a ploy to ensure we solely relied on his services in the future? Despite my request to capture the codes or take a picture for reference, I failed to secure this crucial information before he left, adding to the frustration.

Subsequently, my parents decided to take the car to the dealership's mechanic for a second opinion, even though I had reservations about the potentially higher cost involved. They said they wanted to compare and contrast the mechanic and the dealership. My dad, in his usual careless manner, failed to articulate the main issue to the dealership mechanics, leading to a superficial examination that missed the core problem. To make matters worse, the diagnostic code had wasn't there for them to see exactly what the issue was. I guess, eventually they did when my dad went there again for a second time

Amidst the chaos, my brother added fuel to the fire by casting doubt on the roadside mechanic I had recommended. Despite my positive experiences with him in the past, my brother painted him as "too cheap to be true" and untrustworthy, especially when it came to diagnosing and fixing an engine problem. It's ironic because he knows firsthand that this mechanic has successfully resolved issues with my car in the past. Despite the skepticism, my brother pushed for the dealership, disregarding the significant cost disparity between the two options.

Fast forward to the dealership visit, upon the second visit there came a laundry list of what I feel may have been extra unrelated issues and an estimated bill of $5,000, sending shockwaves through our plans and budget. This revelation prompted me after a lot of convincing to my mom to consider revisiting the roadside mechanic to clarify the actual problems with the car and question why the diagnostic codes were mysteriously cleared. The stark difference in cost between the dealership's quote and the roadside mechanic's estimate ($300) raises concerns about whether the roadside mechanic knew what he was doing or talking about. I feel like he's just charging for the main issue while the dealership is starting for that issue in every other issue possible along with a bunch of other fees.

As we stand at a crossroads, torn between conflicting advice and mounting expenses, I find myself grappling with the dilemma of trusting the expertise of the roadside mechanic versus the dealership's potentially inflated charges. How do we navigate this complex situation and ensure we address the root cause of the car issues without breaking the bank? What should I say to the roadside mechanic?

Your insights and suggestions would be greatly appreciated as we strive to make an informed decision for my mom's car.

The social networks have for a long time been dominated by these memes and cartoons like virgin/chad cartoon, forever alone, troll face, philosoraptor, bad luck Brian, wojak, soy face, and also the animal videos and this sort of cheeky absurd humor that prevails everywhere. Im particularly talking about Zuckerberg's platforms here, but it was also prevalent in others like Tumblr, Twitter, etc...

I struggle with this because it seems like there is no social network where I can find all the things I want and avoid the things I don't want. It's both a library and a playground, a museum and a strip club and constantly flooded by memes and sensational short-form videos.

On top of this there is also the political, religious, and cultural conflict. Many things are simplified, infantilized, in other words, they are "meme-ified" and I just can't bond with this. In many ways, this mode of communication is as appreciated by the younger generations as cable television news is appreciated by the older generations.

On a professional level, Im very demoralized by Instagram. Say what you want about the algorithm, at the end of the day the medium is the message. If your content doesn't conform to the nature of the medium, it doesn't go anywhere.

Im just touching on the tip of the iceberg here but overall it feels like the bulk of the social internet doesn't seem to value genuine communication, interpersonal exchange, adult dialogue, etc...

The algorithm for these platform are constantly changing, I've noticed that either content i block will still continue to be forced into my feed or that the feed just stops showing certian content all together.

I've also noticed this at lower levels like admins will deem something as "political" or not appropriate when none of the criteria they claim fit the reasons they list.

It's becoming run in the way old cable television was, becoming sliced and diced and not raw like the intended.

I’m 61 F, retired 5 years from a toxic work environment, and have run out of things to do. I fill my days scrolling. That’s it. At first I was busy with home projects I had fallen behind on, babysat grandkids who are now in school, helped my mom with her dying husband, all before Covid hit. I managed to putter around happily enough a couple more years but now nothing holds any appeal. I’m creative and like making things but I don’t need any more crap. I used to like going to estate sales but again I don’t need any more crap. I don’t think I have the mental capacity to try another job. The thought of it makes me too anxious. I don’t feel like I would be an asset to any business. I don’t think I’d even like selling my own crafts. That feels too stressful to be obligated to complete orders or set prices or promote myself in any way. I just thought these years would be different. My husband of 13 years is still working. He’s a workaholic and only expects dinner and bed. He doesn’t take vacation time and hates to travel. I have two friends but they are always busy and I only see them a couple times a year. We see my husband’s daughter and her two kids occasionally but not often, and rarely see mine, holidays if I’m lucky. I’ve started therapy which has helped with the crippling anxiety that was new to me this year. Now I’m just sad, realizing I’ve wasted my life working dead end jobs, putting up with toxic people and never learned how to just be happy with myself. I’m old and feel so alone. I’m only 61 but live like I’m 81. I’ve gained 60 pounds and it’s affecting my health. I used to be very fit and now feel like it would kill me to do the workouts I used to do. I woke up at 5am and started scrolling. I’ll still be here at 10 pm as I’m falling asleep.

Edit. Thank you all for your responses. A couple things I’d like to address:

I never expected this post to be a dissection of my marriage. My husband is a hard working man whose goals in life are very simple. He’s a manager in manufacturing who puts in 12 hour days. He’s the guy who loses benefits when the VPs need more boats and vacations, and when the union is striking for more pay. He has over 30 years in this company. All he wants is peace, privacy, and a little security. Because of his upbringing his security is $. Do I find this all a little boring? Yes, but his stable, dependable, even temperament has been a godsend in comparison to the nut jobs I have previously dated/lived with/been married to. I admit that I have a habit of considering other people’s needs before my own and I am working on that. This is why I am looking desperately to enrich myself. We are all responsible for our own happiness. I do, however, feel concerned that his retirement will not be easy for either of us.

There is no financial strain other than squeezing every drop of energy into prioritizing savings. I’m a live life now person, who was swayed to believe it’s better to put off living until that mystical “someday” that I now know never arrives. Downsizing to offset my measly 30 grand/year contribution is just to attempt eliminating the five years left on our mortgage, to squeeze more into savings. With both of our 401Ks, we should hit really close to that 2 mil goalpost. I know it isn’t really about money. It’s about fear. Fear of lack. And my feelings of guilt for contributing to that fear.

I have always suffered from depression. Too much to unpack here. I’m hoping therapy will be enough this round. I have been on and off meds for 20 years. Currently off. Therapy is something I always wanted to try but never felt good about spending the money on such a luxury. I like my therapist. I feel like we are two old friends chitchatting, but I sometimes wonder if I’m not just paying $200 a week for someone to be my friend.

I live in a small community with limited resources for both youth and seniors, especially seniors. The senior center i briefly worked at is really just a hang out spot for the very aged, that also coordinates transport for shut ins, disabled, etc. Our brand new community rec center offers a walking track. Their pickle ball courts are not organized leagues yet. There are no meetups within an hour drive. I have to drive 20 miles to the nearest Al Anon meetings, and alcoholism is rampant in our community. Our only pet shelter doesn’t want me. Our library has no programs and never updates their website. I’m not a member anyway because I live outside city limits and don’t want to pay $100 for a library card when I can read my kindle unlimited. Normally I’m ok with just doing my own things: journaling, cooking, baking, gardening, hiking, painting, sewing, walking and playing with my dog, refinishing furniture, decorating my home by moving things around, thrifting… I think I’m finally sick of myself. Sick of listening to my own voice inside my head while I try to keep myself busy.

I know it’s time to push myself outside this little cocoon I made for myself these past 5 years. I think COVID had a big hand in this habit of isolation. I’ve always been a loner but it’s gotten way worse. It’s why my husband and I stopped our Saturday night date night. And he has no interest in restaurants or movie theaters anymore. Not sure I do either.

Again, thanks. I think I got the encouragement I needed to push myself out into the world a little bit.

It can be a pundit, a candidate, a YouTube personality, a columnist, whoever YOU trust for news and opinion. When was the last time they got something wrong in your eyes, and what was it? I've seen increasing amounts of people just lock-stepping along party lines for years and years, and I really need my faith in humanity restored.