/r/toastme
Welcome to r/ToastMe! We are the polar opposite of r/RoastMe - only genuine and unique compliments by awesomely nice people are allowed here.
You don't have to state a reason why you want to be toasted! This sub is not only about being there for each other in bad times, but also to celebrate life and the good things that happen to you!
r/ToastMe is NOT affiliated with any product, app, external sites or other subreddits SFW OR NSFW. We will not promote such.
Rules
The full rules are found here. In summary see below:
-1. Be kind and make someone feel good! No insults. report any comments that violate this rule. Mods will deal with the bad behaviour.
-2. No advice. No ratings. ! Moderators will remove comments and/or posts that are asking for advice/ratings. Only comedy over-scores or full marks are acceptable
-3. All posts must contain a verification note. For full details: Brief: A physical sign/note with your u/ or username and "Toast Me!" on it, both clearly legible. Your username must match your account exactly! Verification featuring an image of a person CANNOT be digitally added. It must be a piece of paper or a physical object.
-4. Advertising/Self-Promotion: Toastme is not a subreddit for product advertisement, promoting a career or asking for money/donations (including youtube or similar). Posts outright asking doing so on the sub or by DM will be removed.
-5. Final Word/NSFW. Moderators have the final word. If we deem something unsuitable, we remove it. If you deem something unsuitable, report it, don’t pick a fight over it. Due to concerns raised by our subscribers, pictures of shirtless/showing a lot of “décolletage” will be marked as NSFW. Full nudity will be removed. Injury content will be removed. Links to such will be removed.
-6. Please do not judge others' motivation for posting - there's no such thing as karma-whoring here! Accusations of such and rudeness may result in bans.
-7. Age (U13) & reddit's content policy: Minimum age to post is 13 years old, so behave around them! There is a difference between telling someone they look pretty and then sexualising them/their attributes.
-8. No Sexual Comments: Applies to all ages. Comments resorting to sexual comments/sexually harassing will be removed and the responder risks being banned.
-9. Self Harm/Suicidal Ideations: Posts prominently showing self harm scars/injuries or express current thoughts of suicide will be removed and OP will be directed to support. Remember, if you feel this way, please seek professional help. Toastme and Reddit is in no way a substitute for real life help.
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Resources
In a Crisis?
This sub and its moderators are not equipped to handle mental health crises and suicidal ideations. If you are having such thoughts or are in a crisis, please check out our resource post: For those of us that are in the darkest of places.
/r/toastme
555,789 Subscribers
21M. Struggling in all areas of life. Could use some love or encouragement.
18:05 UTC
Really struggling mentally - losing half of your hair under just a year will do that to you 😕
14:18 UTC
I can’t sleep and have wanted to try this
03:40 UTC
Not great at accepting praise and felt crappy about deleting my last attempt at this—but I’m working through some stuff and trying to get better. Your kindness means a lot.
22:05 UTC
35F getting over a break up and just feeling really low. Toast mr, please?
It's been a rough month and I know it shows on me. I'm not ready to get back out there but I wanna feel like I'm still worth it.
21:44 UTC
Woman I thought would be The One just shattered my heart, feeling dejected and alone
20:41 UTC
In a very low point in my life, ex made me feel repulsive to the world around me. And job market hasn't been kind, could really use a smile or a laugh
19:50 UTC
39M about to hit 40 - feeling a bit meh after some rough times. Please toast me!
11:37 UTC
Heartbroken and completely alone. My life is darkness. Shine some light?
13:38 UTC
38M. I've been striking out at love, and feeling down about myself. Kind words help
12:42 UTC
Good luck
Just joined the 50+ club
12:33 UTC
19, Feels pathetic to post , but just been depressed for long- glad to not be anorexic but also not been able to gain weight at all and feel like I look the most hideous one- idk how to fix things to be normal someday , so tired of the stares
Sorry for the current mess of the hair and outfit
09:10 UTC
My first dress
Bought my first dress this week! I feel so cute and free!!
06:33 UTC
23F - currently on week 2 of 4 at rehab for opioid addiction of 8 years. Having a hard time being here and want to go home.
I just wanna see my dogs and be in my own space. I’m just losing my flair and everybody is saying my “sparkle” isn’t showing anymore, but I’m just so depressed being here, despite it being my own dang choice agh.
02:15 UTC
Difficult week I could use some cheering up✨
22:58 UTC
17M, I'm told by family and some friends that I'm pretty good looking, but I don't see it. I don't get what they see in me that is attractive.
19:30 UTC
38M - Been feeling incredibly insecure and depressed over my appearance and possibly have some form of dysmorphia.
18:00 UTC
I've felt completely drained, I've been called ugly by many people
02:03 UTC
36M feeling old and ugly
22:15 UTC
Been having a hard time lately in a lot of different ways. Self esteem and mental health have never been great. Could use some nice words. Thanks.
22:03 UTC
Words of kindness 🤍
I’m recently divorced. I feel super lonely and down on myself most of the time.
But you wouldn’t really know it because I appear positive and polite in public.
I’m trying to heal and become stronger but it’s hard.
21:45 UTC
toast me!
20:39 UTC
Been told I'm attractive my whole life but have a hard time believing it, I hate how feminine I appear and I feel like people perceive my beauty with a feminine lens. Please toast me I feel like shit today.
17:22 UTC
had a tough sick week... still recovering... cheer me up!
16:06 UTC
Sharing Joy
If you asked my younger self if I would ever do something like this, I would of said no! A photo?! Hell no! Online, double hell no!
It's a joy to see and feel the changes.
My running joke is that I have more therapy acronyms after my name that I do educational ones.
I've worked hard through childhood trauma/neglect via CBT, DBT, ACT (acceptance and compassion therapy), EDMR (eye movement desensitisation retraining), IFS (internal family systems) and lots of books (currently shadow self and inner child ie early memory and early encoded patterns).
The biggest thing I've learnt is that 1) often the negative feelings we have about ourselves is actually someone else's pain and 2) trial and error is a perfectly good enough route to changing how we feel about ourselves and life.
Is it hard? Absolutely. But is it impossible...nope.
Go gentle lovely people.
07:38 UTC
(29 m) Feeling goodlooking and happy today even with a pimple lol
02:01 UTC
I just had an awful manic episode and now I'm crashing into depression. I'm safe but feel awful. I could use some kindness.
13:17 UTC
Toast me 20M
19:43 UTC
32yr, Mom and Wife
I am just feeling super burnt out and not really liking how I look in literally anything
19:06 UTC
20M I feel better than last time I posted here.
I just decided to lean into my good beard genes and grow one. And it has partly solved my BDD. Like I used to get comments that I looked like a 40yo with 2 kids, and I saw myself as too old for my age. Now I look 27, but atleast it's better than 40 lol.
The other aspects like height (5'3 and the "6ft only" criteria makes me feel inadequate) are still there. And I think my whole system of me looking for self confidence is shaky because just one comment from any IRL person could destroy my newfound solution.
17:33 UTC