Please like this status if you want to find out and adapt the exact method I have used to relate to my thoughts in a better, more positive and healthy way.

What’s the one thing you struggle the most with in mental health and what are you currently doing about it?

Is guided imagery, mindfulness and meditation something you personally practice in your own life? If not, is it something you’ve wanted to learn?

According to the World Health Organization, more than 280 million people worldwide suffer from Depression. Be kind, always..... we never know what someone is internally dealing with behind closed doors.

For those suffering from PTSD, OCD, GAD, Panic Disorders, phobias, hypochondriasis or other similar issues.... give exposure therapy a try. I was completely closed off to this until over time I started seeing the positive effects slowly but surely. Face the feared object head on whatever it may be, fact check your surroundings, imagine the object in your head and see if its as scary as your portraying it to be in real life, become engulfed with your body sensations and everything your feeling and then process the situation through your most effective coping techniques after you leave the situation. These are all obviously generic and modified, but this is a very short and concise version on some steps that can work if done correctly!

For those suffering from PTSD, OCD, GAD, Panic Disorders, phobias, hypochondriasis or other similar issues.... give exposure therapy a try. I was completely closed off to this until over time I started seeing the positive effects slowly but surely. Face the feared object head on whatever it may be, fact check your surroundings, imagine the object in your head and see if its as scary as your portraying it to be in real life, become engulfed with your body sensations and everything your feeling and then process the situation through your most effective coping techniques after you leave the situation. These are all obviously generic and modified, but this is a very short and concise version on some steps that can work if done correctly!

When i get frustrated over something (sometimes even mentioning something i have negative emotions towards triggers it) i get an urge to stretch my upper body that i can't control. I feel like this has been part of my life since forever and hadn't thought about it much until recently. Any thoughts or conclusions why i get this?

I hate it when people say "it wasn't that bad." It's actually pretty traumatizing for others. No one else gets to decide what is traumatic and not traumatic for you.

Have you ever been in a situation wherein you just want to pretend that you're okay because it's easier to pretend than explain those feelings inside you cause you just can't find the right words to describe them?

Hi, I know that having depression and anxiety makes us very vulnerable emotionally but how do you handle stressful situations?

I'm 16 and originally i was planning on just waiting until i was an adult to see if there's anything actually wrong but it has become more difficult to ignore. Without going into too much detail in order to keep this short, i was able to ignore a lot of mental health stuff when i was younger because i thought it was normal and it didn't bother me that much but recently its been a lot harder. A friend even picked up on a couple weird habits i have and told me apparently it's not normal??

I feel like it might come off as i'm faking it for attention, especially if it just turns out to be nothing and i got all panicky and dramatic over something i made up in my head. Also, i don't even know if my parents would take me seriously bc it would be kind of sudden and out of the blue. I don't think they'd understand what i'm trying to tell them and even so the thought of having that awkward conversation makes me want to vomit.

Any advise?

I am not diagnosed with anything but will see a doctor soon. I need to get this off my mind and maybe some advice. I know it’s a lot to read, but please hear me out. Thanks.

tl;dr: I do risky thinks and put myself in danger because I want to push myself too far into overwork and getting overwhelmed. Suffering feels not only like being alive but being worth anything. It makes me feel recognized, I want people to look at me and see my effort and my worth. That’s why I think I am not in a position to become a doctor of any kind, I don’t do it to save someone, just to feel worthy by making myself suffer from overwork.

I show many symptoms of the white knight syndrome, seems like I have a hero complex and it influences my job choice. I soon have to decide what job I want to do, therefore what I need to study. My grades are average, I’m not a bad student but not super hard working either. I live in the middle of almost nowhere but I could move, and probably have to, to study at a university of choice if I even get that far. I love series like Doctor House and other similar ones. I am not very sensitive with injuries or body fluids etc. This only adds to my problem.

First of all, it’s very difficult to decide what job I want to do in general, I wake up with different ideas too often and get bored of those after a short time. I can’t stick to a plan but I have to decide soon. My current dream job is pathologist, this requires excellent grades and a long long time studying for it. I believe I am capable of it but I am worried.

The human and everything around it fascinates me, about the mind, psychology, surgeries, toxicology, organs, biology, neuroscience, and so much more. I am also very interested in anything with weapons, guns, knives, all kinds of martial arts, my last job idea was to join the army and become a sniper. (I’m not from the us, I’m from Europe) That’s also a rather extreme profession, very difficult, I’d need to be super fit physically and mentally.

I don’t exactly know why, but I can’t help wanting to put myself in these dangerous situations, overwhelming and stressful ones. Deep down I want to prove that I am capable to deal with it, that I can be the greatest and that I would be invincible. I can’t help but imagine myself in these situations where I am the hero at the end, often suffering too. It is sadistic sometimes and makes me feel like a madman. I’ve been like this since I was a child, always imagining that people around me suffer so that I could shine while saving them. Only in my early teens it happened that I started putting/imagining myself in danger or self-injurious behavior too. That’s why I am scared (regardless of if my grades would be good enough) that these are wrong jobs for me.

I can’t help but find it “cool” to be the one saving someone even if it includes failing. It’s not about saving someone, saving someone’s life or fighting for my country, it’s about me getting feeling good about myself. This morning I drifted off into a daydream about someone taking too many drugs, (I dont know much about medical stuff so this might not be realistic) he had heart failure, was clinically dead and ofc I was the one to help first, did cpr, didn’t help, tried giving him any antidote I magically had with me and after a very stressful period of time he was alive but very weak. Since it was so stressful I broke down too, almost fainted and had to be saved as well. As you can see, it’s childish and dumb, it’s not about me saving someone’s life, it’s about me getting attention and feeling good about myself.I made another post about this, I can’t help but overwork myself.I mentioned that I’m not a hard working student, I have always been fond of people who worked hard. There was a time when I felt I wasn’t worth anything just because I never really had to work hard for anything, I was always lucky and spoiled.I workout until I am dizzy, I fainted because of this, when I’m hungry I don’t eat sometimes. I think “a bit longer won’t hurt” but very deep down it’s just “you don’t deserve to eat, you should suffer“. I am healthy overall, guess I am lucky. My bmi is normal I am very happy with my looks, so I don’t have an eating disorder. It’s also not that people being worried about me “oh, you didn’t eat anything all day, are you okay?” is why I do this. I say that I want to be recognized but I don’t even want people to interfere with my life that much or influence it or be worried about me, working out until I get dizzy and almost faint isn’t in order for people to see me weak like that, it makes me and my existence feel valid and good when I am like that. People shouldn’t notice it, they would make too much drama of it.

I do risky thinks and put myself in danger because I want to push myself too far into overwork and getting overwhelmed. Suffering feels not only like being alive but being worth anything. It makes me feel recognized, I want people to look at me and see my effort and my worth.

Read the other post if you want more infos, but it’s a very long post. This is a second private account.

This is why I don’t think that being a doctor of any kind (a pathologist at least doesn’t need to save anyone like a normal doctor and usually works with dead people) or being a soldier is any good.

Feels hard to say it, but I can’t do a job simply because I want to get attention from it + I know my daydreams are nothing like real life and just movie inspired. Attention in terms of people recognizing me, suffering and being the hero seems to me like people look at me. They don’t have to care, just notice. I don’t want to entertain people, just that I am the center of attention. God it feels so bad to write this, I wish I weren’t so selfish but in the end it is what it is… I just want to feel like I am worth anything. Having a job that I like doesn’t even occur to me, I don’t have any hobbies, in my free time I sit around all day, stay in bed or workout. I wouldn’t know what else I like to do. And I am stick of my lifestyle, I’d rather do something exhausting. I don’t mind getting up in the middle of the night for work, putting myself in danger or anything like that.But saying that also feels wrong, if my thoughts weren’t like this and wouldn’t tell me that I need to do this to be valid, I’d just want a normal life. No putting myself in danger. I don’t even care that much about people as that I’d really put my life in danger to save theirs.

I feel so bad about this, I don’t know what to do. I can draw well, that kinda my talent and my mom wants me to do something artistic. That isn’t my cup of tea at all, it’s so boring. How could I feel alive like that? Having such a normal job, not being recognized. Even if I were a famous artist and people would look at me and know me it wouldn’t be the same. There’s no suffering in that. There’s not worth in that. There is no need to step out of my comfort zone or overwhelming work or anything in that. There is no life in that. That’s what I feel like, I don’t want to insult anyone. I admire passionate people. I am not passionate about anything really.

Also, I don’t want to invalidate anyone else’s problems and pain and suffering. I am sure there’s something wrong with me, I had a normal childhood and was never abused. I do lack emotional closeness to my parents but except that, everything in my life is normal. It’s all going well, as I said, I’ve always been lucky. Things just came to me without me having to do much for them, it’s like I didn’t put any effort into anything. So I feel like I should suffer too to deserve it, to deserve life. Apart from it being one of the only things that makes me feel alive. But it also makes me feel bad for people who had to sacrifice their childhood or teenage years or anything else to achieve or live up to their or someone else’s expectations. It shouldn’t be like that. I hate expectations, I just want to do what I want without having to justify it to anyone. But I don’t want to harm anyone because I am being selfish. I need help.

Just what do I do? I’m f, 18.

I know not everyone believes in psychics or mediums but I'd like to think that there's a possibility im not losing it and maybe I actually am psychic. It's not all the time, but sometimes it's a lot more than others but when it does happen there's no explanation. there's times where I spend few minutes thinking about someone I haven't seen in months and having this specific feeling and then later run into them in the most unlikely places. Or one time that really freaked me out was when I was watching a show I'd never seen before and for some reason, I knew a specific character was going to die and I even knew exactly how. And the time that made me come on here was a few weeks ago when I simply said out loud someone is dying and a few weeks later a family member of mine became ill and passed.

There are even more instances like this and I know it sounds insane and it's not possible which is why I've come on here. Any advice is appreciated, please it's hard to differentiate between me being worried about something and knowing so now I get stressed about terrible things I've thought are going to happen. Thanks

So I'm in school and have shity grades like i pass but its like the bare minimum. And now the big exams are close so I'm trying to study. Like I can understand some stuff but mostly I'm really not doing good and the problem is when I'm in class and I have like an assignment I most likely do very little because I just can't concentrate on it like it feels like I can understand what needs to be done but I just cant, like my brain is on fire and I just cant do it(ofc I finish it some time and then its not that hard most of the time but i need to study in school bc at home i can bearly get to it if i dont have some sort of deadline).

Like i would love it if i could just study normally. But I just can't concentrate and I really try. And honestly, if someone who knows something about mental health issues could tell me I'm just lazy or not would be good so I can either fully embrace being lazy or maybe actually get help or something and start living normaly.

And like I have thought oh maybe I have adhd or something but personally, i don't think the symptoms match up that much like the only thing is not being able to concentrate on stuff like biology, math and other "smart" subjects, so it just sounds dumb. I have heard that for people born females ( im a trans guy), the signs are different from the male ones but idk.

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For the past few months, everyday has been receiving bad news. Failing classes. Family issues. Health issues. Health issues with my family. Struggles with making friends. Money issues. Essentially, the hole of darkness grows deeper. This year has had more bad than good, and I feel like I am cycling through the stages of grief on repeat. Any advice for coping with bad news so frequently. I feel like there is no joy in my life. I am in counseling and seeking medical attention, but I would like to hear how others deal with it.

Growing up I faced extreme bullying, for being a slightly different child, from other students, teachers and the people I considered as my friends. I only realised the later towards the end of high school but I always recognised the feeling of being treated as a filler friend and not being of any importance to those people. Those events have deeply affected me and I’ve only come around to accepting this fact quite recently.

During the pandemic, there was a friendship I finally ended after 7 years since there were situations where their actions and behaviour towards me had reached an extreme I was unwilling to tolerate anymore. After ending that friendship I feel like this greater growing fear sort of sat in my heart and it’s becoming difficult to cope with it.

The two current friends that I made in uni are the closest I’ve ever had and we deeply care and support each-other. But every now and then there’s this sinking feeling that there are times I feel like I’m not much of a priority in their lives. I feel like I’m over-reacting but I’ve reached a point where I don’t think I should ignore and push those feelings away. It’s not anything major, it’s the little things that sort of trigger me and in those moments I feel like I’m choking up and holding back my tears because I don’t think I should react that way even though that’s how I feel.

Can anyone suggest anything I can do to help myself cope with this please?

To be clear, I am NOT self-diagnosing schizophrenia. I am, however, showing many of what I think are symptoms of schizophrenia. Depersonalization, mania, disorganized thinking, word salad, auditory hallucinations, anxiety, paranoia, and thought blocking to be specific. I'm also at the age when symptoms of schizophrenia begin to present in adults. I know I should talk to my psychiatrist about this, but I'm hesitant because if it actually is schizophrenia, I really don't want to be labeled as crazy. Most of the people who know me know I've spent time in a mental hospital and that I'm already mentally and emotionally unstable with manic tendencies. I'm pretty sure people already think I'm nuts, but adding schizophrenia to that is only going to double down on people's already existing thoughts that I'm crazy. I know avoiding it and waiting for it to go away is unhealthy and counterintuitive, but I'm not at a point where I can bring myself to reach out to a professional and get help for it. What should I do?

like how do u make people like u when they hate u for no reason?

trigger warning for SH

i self harm a lot, and a common way i do so is to hit myself in the head. i usually hit myself in the temples, sometimes not too hard, but sometimes i hit myself as hard as i can. i don't usually think about it before i do it, but i do it frequently and am starting to worry that i might be giving myself some sort of brain damage. i tried to google it, but the results were only about getting hit, not actually hitting yourself, so if anyone has any knowledge on the subject your input would be greatly appreciated. if you don't no worries, just move on and try to have a good day

Hey everyone! Recently my friend has started to really decline in his mental health and started to use unhealthy coping mechanisms to cope, the kind where if we were in say middle school I would report him to Guidance or possibly tell his parents, however we're both at that age where you are expected to figure things out for yourself. I've always tried to remind him that I'm here for him, and that he's not alone, but I'm a kid. I'm not a licensed therapist, or his dad, I can't heal whatever is going on with him, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't mad at him for declining so rapidly, especially since this is something that could easily be prevented (For reference he is dealing with prediagnosed mental illness, not any sort of outer triggers) if he talked to an adult, or told his mom he really wasn't doing well. I know I sound like an asshole saying this, but I'm tired of him relying on other people to fix this for him, especially since ever since I was little I've been expected to be independent mental-health-wise and find a way to feel better myself. I'm tired of being the one to hold him, especially since I know if I wasn't there he could just find someone to replace me. But I also want him to feel safe and to get better. Sorry this was so long, but does anyone have advice?

A little backstory I've always heard voices as a child but lately throughout the years the voices have gotten more and I've seen notes around my house and in my backpack all from different people it seems but in my handwriting it looks if not slightly altered, my friends who have known me for years has started calling me different names, I have large memory gaps and people who claim are my friends but call me different names. I was speaking with my counselor and she said to look into Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) since she says I meet criteria, I'm really confused and need some guidance on where to research, if there's maybe a subreddit that talks about the disorder? I'm confused on everything, any guidance on how to successfully research and understand?

So, ever since I was younger I never really cared for babies. My other cousins would adorable the sight of them and get so excited and would want to hug them, but I just never felt that. I only feel that way with animals or people that I closely feel connected to and it's always made me feel weird I guess? I don't feel jealous whenever a baby gets more attention than I do or anything like that, so I don't think it's a jealousy thing. I just don't care or feel the urge to care for it.

Recently I've had a niece that was born, and I tried to bond with her only cuz my sister wanted to but then I stopped.. cuz- I didn't care.

My mom would always make jokes that I secretly was jealous but.. it's not that. I just- don't care.

I just wanted to know if anybody knew the phycological reason behind this? Cuz I've felt like this ever since I was like.. 9-10 but I'm not really sure.

Using a throwaway as my boyfriend also has access to this laptop and i dont want to scare him - also a trigger warning for suicidal thoughts, abuse, and depression.

I have struggled with my mental health my entire life, my dad was emtionally/mentally abusive, other family issues, i have been suicidal a lot of my life after 15 years old, and have struggled with anixety my entire life so severe that i am often delusional about things that are meant to be normal (example, my anxiety focuses on embarrasment and the fear of so much that i often struggle to cross a road even if there is no cars there, because if i get hit by a car, to me that would be so horribly embarassing) - theres a lot going on in my brain 24/7 and yet i still have one unanswered question that bothers me.

When the dperession comes again as it does so often, there seems to be no in between when it comes to being fine and suicidal - i dont feel depression without suicidal thoughts, and it seems to turn dark very quickly. i have never attempted but have been very close many many times. I just feel the need to find an answer as to why i cant just be depressed without it being so dark.

If anyone has any ideas i would really appreciate it, and sorry if this is way too much information, i just never know exactly what needs to be said. -E

I had a crazy roller over a year and a half ago. It really threw my perception of reality off , I wasn't hurt whatsoever , basically I sped at 110 hit a dip in the road , caught a bit of air time. Fish tailed crazy, almost hit another car on the highway, aimed at a landline I uttered " the wheels in your hands jesus " maybe as a manifestation who knows? Glared at my rosary I had at the time and spun the roulette wheel ( I spun the sterling wheel the opposite direction ) Instead of hitting the landlines I rolled over the road , then rolled over 2 more times.

I come out of the vehicle unscaved, the sun breaks the clouds and the gent I almost head on collisioned flipped a bitch, checked on me, told me to go to church that Sunday, called the local authorities.

After this I was in a surrealistic state. I met a girl and it opened me up a bit. I got a close connection without a relationship, a few months which my sister died. I ghosted her and everyone I knew in some cloud of depression with suicidal thoughts. I let this all ride me in this crazy overwhelming cocktail. We connected a few months after I ghosted her. We got together , she moved in. I realized we had similar vices. Wasted time on such, not the best with rent. We had gotten jobs together, chose a place way far out and it wrecked our finances with gas plus pre explained poor prioritization. I was living on my own for almost 2 years no issues. I got too depressed let stress of this whole ordeal get the better of me. I let myself turn this seed that could've bloomed bright into a toxic night, mare.

A few months in, she got harassed at work. ( whole other issue not necessary to explain). We both quit, unemployed for a bit. She moved out. We digressed. Communication digressed. We weren't benefiting each other through communication. Arguments ensured, we made a lot of love ( apologize for tmi) we both questioned if it was just lust.

A part of me is so deeply bound towards what I felt when we had sex. I'm sorry to sound so vain or lustful. Self centered or whatever. I've had a mismatched life. A few months into our relationship her grandma died. ( very close ). My mother died a month after ( I want the closest, she was a drug addiction. OD Ed in jail )

Either or, ik death can bring the worst out in us. She felt like my soulmate. I feel like I dropped the ball so many times Near the end of the relationship she was way more reserved. Very cut off emotionally, I felt like I kept trying to smoothen things out. I'd fall through communication sometimes, I'd be too frustrated a bit and come off a bit rude and we'd argue. Finally it digressed and 2 nights ago she had assaulted me given I told her she shouldn't drive intoxicated home. I offered to call her mom or an uber , as well as drive her she declined. No license, dirty regirstion no insurance . She left , I called 988 ( Google it ) she came back.

Screamed who is that on the phone? At the random operator lady helping me I suppose. Either way I hung up, said she lost her phone.shes arguing , rude , still drunk. We walk around for her phone. I check everywhere good. Old lady tenant by where I checked told us to leave if we didn't live there. She yelled at the old lady called her names. A couple in their 40s 50s had tired to assist verbally with the tension but they sorta minded themselves watching. We checked her car again, she slapped me very badly, very obviously. Eventually we got back mid complex where my unit is , we sat. I talked to her. She got upset, she tried to claw me. I dodged them. She was shaking crying she lost her phone her stuff w her grandma. It felt different, like I'd fallen out of love I didn't know who I was looking at.

At this point it milds out, she goes into the unit. On my bed , knock knock policia

I was faded coming down from being a bit high off a thc pen. Anxiety high after all of that realism. I accidentally say she's in the unit they go to talk to her. I think it's up I'm going to jail damn. I told them she acted in self defense I didn't let her leave since she's drunk. I didn't want her to get a dui since I've gotten one before. Cop was a bit 6 6 gent. Both stern men, I could see their glares. Eventually after the 2nd spoke to her, the tallest one I was speaking to said she's going to jail. I was shocked I mentioned again I held her. I pushed her a few times. She was scared for her life it felt.

This guy basically had me understand how fucked up I looked. And told me to realize she looks fine. I'm a victim

A grown man telling you that, man to man is a crazy gut check. I lost some morals and standards along the journey so far. I'm not sure how to feel. This relationship at the end , had opened an old addiction. Subconsciously maybe I thought it'd be a saving grace, or the opposite to relapse. The coin flip sadly lands on usage either fork of the road. I've gone through rehab classes for a past dui, no advice needed on vices. This ordeal demolished urges to use whatever. I feel very flat

I feel direct. I feel like a rock bottom has been hit. Emotionally I'm not sure. I loved her. We tried for a kid idk why for a few months. I felt close to her, I feel as if genuinely I was very intrusive and toxic which fucked us up bad. I let my prioties go when I could've been a rock. She is a good girl, she tired until her Witts end. I hate to have seen someone so vibrant dull out their sparkle so much. I can't be the blame in total with her own respective grievance.

Any advice guys? I love her, it feel so deep and sorrown. I hate to admit despite the loss of drive to use I've relapsed with drinking smoking etc. I feel numb all together. An eviction enuses,, a friend at work I've vented to lately and has been through similar ordeals is letting me crash at their place temporarily hopefully a roomate situation In a 2 bed. Either way

God let me live through a car crash God gave me the opportunity to save some money living with a coworker possibly a stable condition in a 2 bed It feels lie God gave me her, And I misused the blessing I hadn't watered it effectively The soil I planted wasn't the purest foundation I could've put forth into a relationship

I'm torn between , eviction facing me means I may lose these pets of mine dog 🐕 🐈 Idk if that matters, been homeless before. My brother is, mother way before she passed

Life's a trip and I feel like I can get some good vibrant waves to surf yet I don't let myself ride them out whole heartedly. I fall in the ocean and choke on the water a bit as if I can't swim, I've let myself divulge into terrible self destructive habits that hindered a solid opportunity for something I think was genuine at first.

Dualialsatically guys, it was good sex. I hate to sound brainwashed by hormones. But it was the driving force to get to know her sorta, always noticed we hadn't much in common

From the grt I noticed we had opposing personalities. Besides that w her pineal gland cyst she was very hormonallly imbalanced would get mad or pissy easy. I hate to think I let a seed ( relationship ) with so much potential falter. Her mother called me an hr or 2 after her arrest. She said why weren't you arrested why was she, I explained the officer told me I was the victim ( poorly phrased have you) ex GF old 80 yr old uncle said your lucky I don't go over and shoot you. The mom said you know she has 2 unless not in prison right? ( loose threat ) , other 2 uncles in prison are degenerative ex junkies or are wild cards. Don't get me wrong I can fight , I've boxed amongst other things. Possibly I could get a legal fire arm for self defense. However it is eery to feel I need to have an excessive guard. It nice to hopefully not have a place in my name but a coworkers for however long for incognitive purposes. But what? I just ignore this shit? Idk how to roll through the dough of this thick flower

Any advice ?

So as a child, i was adopted by another family because Cps deemed that my grandmother (next of kin after my schizophrenic mother was murdered) she did the following to tick Cps off enough to refuse placement with her: 1- said to me at age 4 “she’s cute, but I don’t want her” 2- I never wanted kids and I wanted my daughter gone because her hyperactivity upset me. 3- I need to check myself into (name of local mental hospital of the 80s because I can’t handle people and hate the world 4- made my mother a latchkey child and teachers called Cps. She voluntarily surrendered her to Cps in the 70s saying “if you think you can do better take her!” Cps noted remarked that she was “extremely reclusive, suspicious, and strange. Cannot take anything at face value and questions/ argues with everything and is always paranoid, paranoid schizophrenia suspected “

these days, she does many odd things. We have had many episodes of not speaking sometimes for a year or more because she is racist, obsessed with her Republican politics, refuses to watch any movie or have any interest in TV shows unless the character is a Republican in real life obviously her variety is very limited. She is extremely frugal to the point of being selfish, she let her apartment go that she had had since the 80s because they went up on her rent $50 and changed ownership to a non-Catholic family. she refuses to use her debit card at the gas pump or in public because she is obsessed with someone stealing her information she also believes that a QR code has the purpose of taking her personal information and cannot be persuaded that that is not what they do because she “read it”. She makes constant attacks on me calling me an overspender when she knows that I am poor after paying for my mother‘s funeral at a pocket she told me that maybe if I wouldn’t have spent all my money I would have plenty of money. She owns about 20 acres in her home state which she has had offers around the country for(she claims she is poor) I told her that I would buy the land once I can access the money in my folks probate, she refused saying she “would rather sell to a stranger “, then at times says she’s gonna move there . After my mom died my adoptive mom that is she offered to stay with us in the house to help with the children and then left a day later saying that they were too bad and that she wasn’t coming back and as punishment she was going to not go to the funeral. Also she believes a silly myth that leaving things plugged in the wall even with the breakers off will pull electricity into the device and run up the light bill and my husband being an electrician disputed this and she said “he’s wrong I’m right and I’ll show you you’re wrong and ask people” she ALWAYS has to have the last word. She hates men and marriage and said that she “didn’t wanna hear about my in law bc I hate them and I don’t care ! They’re boring !”(my MIL said she’s toxic and doesn’t wanna hear abt her ) she’s never met my in laws !

What could be wrong with her ? My bio grandpa is a lawyer (her ex husband who’s also nuts ) and he said he “divorced her due to her mental illness “. She also mispronounces his last name, which she kept 50 years later. It’s not old age, she is only 75, Cps said she was like this in her 30s when I was born.

How do I get her to understand logic ? She frustrates me and It’s overwhelming. Unfortunately I have no other family to talk to.

Before I explain want to ask can comas be caused by a stressful situation? I've never really used this app before but I have been told it's a good place to get answers so I'll explain I just had a stressful situation happen earlier this morning. I went to sleep because there's nothing left I could do about it. I fell asleep quickly and Started to dream about the situation and what would come of it and decided I'd get up. And I did but shortly after that I realized I wasn't actually awake so I tried waking myself up in the dream by focusing on my body and trying to move it and I got up. But in reality I guess I was still sleeping because it kept happening the way I realized I as still asleep is because certain things or people would show up shortly after I thought I was awake. For example the owner of the house I'm currently staying at she came home in the dream. But really she's in Hawaii right now with her family. I finally woke up for real but 2 hours had passed. What just happened to me? I'm quite startled

I'm in my early 40's and recently had a realization that my mother has suffered from mental health issues. A couple years ago her husband, my step-father passed away and she flew into a negativity spiral. This happened from time to time in the past and I had always just looked at it as "that's the way mom is sometimes". This time, since her husband was gone she had no one else to help her through this episode and it all fell to me. I became the focus of her pain and anger.

I reached out to a therapist for advice on how to help her. The therapist gave me some advice but it was mostly around how to manage our communication and set boundaries, etc. It was only after speaking with the therapist that I started to realize that my mother's outbursts throughout my life may not be normal, they might be a sign of mental illness.

Many years ago my mother made me promise her that I would never put her in a home. She was emphatic about this and in her typically over-the-top fashion said she would rather die than be put in a home. I didn't think much of it at the time. Since then I've realized that she is likely aware of her illness and does not want to risk being "found out" through any sort of medical facility. She was always very hesitant to go to a hospital even if it was for someone else. She was especially resistant to any type of therapy.

I remember vividly being sent to a therapist when I was an adolescent. The combination of puberty and my mother had taken a severe mental toll on me and I was quite depressed. My mother was fed up and took me to see a therapist. I broke down completely during the session and the therapist asked me to send my mother in to talk before our next session. I relayed the message, my mother went in to speak with the therapist before my session. When my mother came out she grabbed my arm and dragged me out of the office fuming and said "well, you're never going back there again!"

It's been two years since my step-father passed and the only communication I have with my mother is a text message or ten every few months. Usually saying something incredibly hurtful, racist, or expressing her pain and disappointment with me. Using the tips from the therapist I spoke with I've tried to set boundaries but that's no longer working. I even had to block my mother's number for my own mental health. After that, she continued the barrage via email. My last communication with her stated that if she wanted to continue to communicate with me in this way, I will have to break the promise I made so long ago and treat her outburst as a cry for help. Basically, telling her that if she continued to send hateful messages to me I would get her mental health help. There's been no communication since then.

I could go on and on about all the things she's said and done over my life and more recently since her husband passed, but only if it's helpful to anyone reading this. It causes me stress to think about the past and I am also stressed about how to help, or not help now and in the future. I don't want to burden my family with this issue. I tried telling my father (they've been divorced for nearly 40 years) and he broke down crying when I started telling him some of this.

I don't think my mother is going to hurt herself or anyone else. She occasionally threatens people but it's all a big dramatic show. For example, she was selling her husbands car to a family friend and when the buyer told her she was missing a specific document to finalize the sale she announced to the entire room (they were in a AAA office) that she was going to get a gun and come back and shoot everyone. Of course she didn't, she doesn't own a gun, as far as I know. But that's the type of over-the-top statements she can make.

So all that lead up for a simple question. Should I get my mom help? Fully realizing that this would be against her will and breaking a promise I made to her.

Thanks to anyone who reads this and wants to help.

My brain immediately goes to negative thoughts health wise, I've looked and Haven't found anything talking about this, i don't even know if it's anxiety related but please tell me I'm not alone

Multiple times i have felt a pain in my side or a hurting stomach and my brain immediately says "what if your internally bleeding? I've tried sleeping many times but couldn't until i checked in light that i wasn't. I've had a pain in my head the reasonable answer was probably a migraine but my brain said "what if it's a tumor? What if it's a brain bleed? " and just like in my title i have a chest pain and my brain thinks it's a heart attack. Why is that? What is this???