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We currently have more than 1600 member users and more than 195 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people added to the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/GalsAndPals that we built because of popular demand.

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We currently also have more than 220 member users and more than 35 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people added to the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/DollsAndPals that we also built because of popular demand.

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Idk if anyone has seen the Oxford study comments and trend on TikTok but it’s to point out the high number of relationships between Asian woman and white men and make this point that such big statistics show that Asian women worship white men or that they’d prefer a mid white guy over anything else.

This is quite literally the dumbest fucking thing I’ve seen in a while, not just because of how absurdly illogical it is but how all these incels of color justify this as to why their eighth grade Asian crush liked a white guy over them instead of their lack of social skills. And I’m not even the audience who’s attacked by this since I primarily date and like Asian men 😭. I promise you, if you had a personality and didn’t spew out sexist rhetoric, you would have a chance. But no self respecting Asian woman wants to get with a partner who talks shit abt them like that.

Jokes aside, it’s more depressing than hurtful that men within our culture are saying stupid shit like this. For them to be so obsessed of “preserving culture” and blaming women for the decline in homogenous relationships, has it ever come to them as to WHY there’s been stereotypes of Asian women preferring white men (newsflash: military imperialism). And I would bet money that they barely address the problems within their own cultural community (e.g. rape, digital sex exploitation, domestic violence) whilst blaming Asian women for “worshipping” white men, when’s the last time you had a genuine conversation with your own mother?

This is more of an annoyed rant if anything bc I’ve been seeing way too many influencers and chronically online commenters say shit that make me lose brain cells. I promise you there are Asian women out there who gasp date and like Asian men???? I hope once you stop frothing at the mouth and do something productive like placing your self worth outside of being in a romantic relationship will there come progress.

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i’ve been thinking about this for a while, especially since asian fishing has become more and more rampant on platforms like instagram and tik tok.

i might lose some here, but i don’t really even think the makeup is the problem. i think it’s also problematic to blindly point fingers at someone who you may look asian wearing makeup when you don’t know what they look like without makeup. i’ve most commonly seen this within native/latina/sometimes polish girls. they are the most likely to have “asian” features naturally.

while i think it is important to acknowledge the ones who purposely elongate their eyes or somehow make their facial structure and nose look asian (i don’t know how they do it and it’s scary), i think it’s more so a problem with how these asian fishers ACT.

i honestly wouldn’t have much of a problem at all with how any of these people do their makeup if they didn’t do those dumbass ahego or “cutesy” faces to go along with it.

that’s where i think the problem lies. it’s how they act like, for lack of better words, a CHILD. and it disgusts me every time.

it annoys me to no end how they can put on some makeup, go on the internet, further perpetrate the negative stereotypes against asian women, then take off the makeup and live their life as a (usually) white woman. it just irks me so much and i needed to talk about it.

so all in all, it bothers me how a lot of people on the internet are focusing on the wrong people, like micro analyzing whether a girls eyes are REALLY that small or hooded or if she’s asianfishing, when we should really focus on the people who solidify those stereotypes against us.

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#Let's discuss!

Me and my pals built together three mostly Safe For Work, mixed and inclusive subreddit communities for everything centered on adult women and gender variant people after our totally private and inclusive group chat room grew so big that we had to build a subreddit community.

We currently have more than 1300 member users and more than 100 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people in the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our older subreddit community called r/GalsAndPals that we built because of popular demand as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with unconventional womanhood, including top, verse, dominant, switchy, gentlewomanly, girlboss, tomboyish, futchy, butchy, ursine, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the gals and request mod permission.

We currently also have more than 140 member users in our younger subreddit community called r/DollsAndPals that we are also building because of popular demand as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with conventional womanhood, including bottom, verse, subby, switchy, ladylike, femme, futchy, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the dolls and request mod permission.

We also currently have more than 260 member users and more than 80 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people in the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/GuysAndPals that we are also building because of popular demand as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with unconventional manhood, including bottom, verse, subby, switchy, malewifey, twinkish, softboyish, femboyish, ladylike, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer man-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the guys and request mod permission.

We do have some basic respect safety guideline expectations written in the rules page section of our subreddit communities to help sustain the health of our groups as inclusive safer spaces free of judgement and harm that you should read.

We are inclusive of transy, transbianish, transfeminine, transandrogynous, transmasculine, detrans, retrans, genderfluid, and genderqueer people in all three of our subreddit communities.

Anyone is welcome to be in our community subreddits and contribute posting, but ONLY AS LONG AS they are RESPECTFUL WITH EVERYONE AND HAVE already had a sent MOD PERMISSION REQUEST APPROVED, because our subreddits have changed status from being totally private communities to being a somewhat restricted communities.

Our subreddits are only currently temporarily somewhat restricted for being in an experimental early development stage until becoming more accessible, public and welcoming after a time when we are more prepared enough to deal with more diverse types of visitors having access to our place.

If you may be feeling interested in joining, just drop a comment here below or send a moderator mail message to get permission granted to be able to post in one or all of our subreddits or if you want support to create another group.

Also make sure to check out our long creative, diverse and inclusive lists of silly and cute user flairs and post sections, especially the "Transcribed" and "User Introductions" post sections, to familiarize yourself with examples of how and what content is posted in our communities.

The moderation is always open to answering questions and clearing doubts.

No need to be shy as we do not bite.

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I get enough harassments from men in my own country for criticizing misogyny, but apparently you also get harassed outside of Asia such as here on Reddit. Apparently, some of them are Asians living outside of Asia like Asian-Americans. Obviously not ALL of them are like that, but there's something wrong with the Asian culture that wants to maintain misogyny?

In my country you get the usual "Oh you must be Chinese/Korean/Japanese etc.", while here apparently it's "Oh you must be a white person LARPing as an Asian". So which is it? lol. Their cookie-cutter responses are getting old.

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Obligatory note: Obviously, this isn't an #allasianmen or anti-asian men article/post. We likely all know healthy, supportive Asian men, whether through family, romantic relationships, friendships, or work, and many of our experiences will not reflect the incel-aligned, chronically online Asian men. I think this article warrants a discussion avoiding the whataboutism of exceptions and as Asian women, I think many of us are tired of whatabouts and overjustification anyway.

My thoughts on the article:

Men are not adapting well to a society where women are better educated, compete with them for jobs and do not want to have babies with them. According to one survey in 2021, 79% of South Korean men in their 20s believe they are victims of “reverse discrimination”. In neighbouring Japan, a survey the same year found that 43% of men aged 18 to 30 “hate feminism”.

Women are increasingly entering the workforce: in Japan the employment rate for women aged 25-39 surpassed 80% for the first time in 2022. In South Korea 74% of women aged 25-29 are employed.

This success is the first cause of the backlash. Young men are “surrounded by women who do better in school or excel in work”, says Lee Hyun-jae of the University of Seoul. 

Not surprising. When the default person is threatened by an increase of success from those historically deemed lesser, they feel left behind. They feel, but what about me? The sweat, blood, and often harassment that the lesser had to work through is diminished to the diversity hire.

It can seem like Asian women are taking the jobs of Asian men (which mirrors how white people are told minorities and illegals are taking their jobs), but women are forced to accept lower wages for doing the same amount of work.

Meanwhile,

In South Korea the share of young men not in education, employment or training (NEET) has surged from 8% in 2000 to 21%. By contrast the share of female NEETs has fallen from 44% to 21% over the same period.

And, of course, we can't talk about our male counterparts without talking about the dating pool. Asian women are stereotyped to be prized in dating, though in my experience, this "prizing" comes down to assumptions of our submissiveness and domestic, loyal nature.

Race aside, some men feel like we have nothing to complain about because there is always a buffet of ready and waiting dick for us to speed dial. However, how is this the fault of women? Should we be giving pity sex to men because dick isn't valued the way pussy is? To incels, women have the upper hand solely due to a choice of dick and choice to not want dick at all!

In 2022, 42% of [Japanese] men in their 20s said they had never had sex, while 17% of those in their 30s were virgins, too. A government report from 2022 found that 40% of men had never been on a date.

In South Korea some women have sworn off heterosexual relationships altogether. In 2019 a fringe “4B” movement emerged there. It involves women abstaining not just from marriage and childbirth, but also dating and sex with men. They believe a life with a man is a life without freedom. “I’m not even fighting the patriarchy—I’ve decided to walk out of it,” says Kim Jina, a 4B practitioner.

This is outside my scope of understanding, but this almost reads to me that sapphic relationships or asexuality is becoming more accepted by Asian women. It's not anti-male to be in wlw relationships or to decline sexual relationships, it's removing men from the equation completely.

The rise in anti-feminist sentiment bodes badly for the region’s birth rates. In South Korea, a government survey showed that over 60% of Korean men in their late 20s believe getting married and having children is “necessary” in their lives. Only 34% of women in the same age group agreed. But can East Asian men and women find common ground? A survey by a dating app last year found that, among divorced singles, 37% of Korean women said that a “patriarchal” man would be their least favourite date. A similar share of men said they didn’t want to date feminists. 

The last sentence is a no-brainer. In the west, people are unlikely to marry or stay married to someone they have differing political views with in general. If I want to work but my other half wants me to stay barefoot and pregnant, it's not going to happen.

Final thoughts: I don't spend too much time in Asian-centric groups or discords online because they always devolve to this same damn argument- men aren't getting laid, and it's the fault of asian women. Then insert the conversation of Asian women dating white men, and Asian men compensating by saying how "white/Latina women are better anyway," which is no different from white men fetishing asian women.

To me, I think Asians in both the west and motherlands are experiencing the "equality" that's afforded to western women. We no longer depend on hetero relationships with men for security in any form- not in romance, not in money, not in work. Our independence is a perceived threat, but more threatening is the choice that we have. The idea of "son preference" is leaving and daughters are encouraged to pursue the same opportunities, even if equal pay isn't always on the table.

As an Asian woman, who is going to have Asian children, this issue is so important to me because it raises the question of how do I raise proud Asian daughters who not only have to combat being a sexual fetish to non-Asian men but also entitlement from Asian men? If I have sons, how do I raise them to not be defined by whether women want to fuck/date them and not allow people (especially non-Asian men) to degrade him for his race? How do I instill confidence that breaks racial barriers and allow him to self-define and self-defend without the prison of stereotypes?

Knowing that the type of incel, anti-feminist Asian man, as explained in the article, exists and exists in hoards, is concerning. I will never accept responsibility for how an Asian man becomes an incel, outside of potential future sons, but I hope that the next generation is better.

Link to article: https://www.economist.com/asia/2024/06/27/meet-the-incels-and-anti-feminists-of-asia

Link if you are being paywall blocked: https://archive.ph/fiQ6P

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Everything is so damn politicized nowadays. I can't even enjoy a game about my culture without sinophobia clashing with white feminism

Won't go over the drama in detail here, but basically chinese game studio was accused of being sexist due to bad faith translations and the fact that their game based on Journey To The West and the freaking Monkey King lacked female characters (lol???).

This led to two camps being formed, with the anti-woke gamerdude bro crowd praising the studio for hating women, and the female gamer crowd who has devolved to generalized insults about how ALL chinese (and korean) men are sexist and evil. 🤦‍♀️

(Like why the fuck is korean men even mentioned in a conversation that has nothing to do with them. It is insane. On my knees begging white women to not call korean men sexist for one second because they watched a few videos on it)

My understanding is that this whole thing was way overblown. I swear diversity discourse is so freaking superficial. Here we are with a gorgeous game about chinese culture and it got pulled into this hellscape discourse and i am seriously so tired