Hello,

I love Asian movies, atleast whenever I get a chance to watch one.

I really loved Oldboy, imo it is a masterpiece. There was also a brilliant Japanese movie, can't remember what it was called. It was like the movie Seven - brilliant stuff.

Wondering if you guys can recommend some new movies which are so good like that. I really love thrillers and investigation type thrillers.

I'm even currently playing the game Judgement right now and really enjoying it. Thanks.

Born and raised in a multicultural country in which the common language is English, I was embarrassed to use my Chinese given name and instead went by a boring 'white' name. I'll be starting a new job in the UK next year and have been thinking about reclaiming my given name, but don't think I have the confidence yet to walk into a room and introduce myself with pride. Does anyone have experience with something similar?

UPDATE 11/19 -

Thank you so much to those who've taken interest in our story. We have tried to contact the corporate office that owns this property and obviously, couldn't get in contact with any real human being. My brother and I left a bunch of voicemails detailing the egregious situation but to date, we have not heard back. When I asked to speak with her supervisor, the property manager said, and I quote "I'm as high up as you're gonna get. I will not disclose his [her supervisor] information to you. You can try and contact the corporate office - you're gonna leave a bunch of voicemails but guess what, I'm gonna be the one who gets those voicemails"

Re: the police - they said we could not file a restraining order as it's a voice recording only and does not actually prove that the neighbor was directing those comments/threats to our parents. All the police could offer to do was to speak to the property manager to help us get separated from said neighbor.

Thank you to those who recommended reaching out to local council and/or the korean senior center, we'll definitely try those avenues next!

____

Hi everyone - I never thought I’d be posting here, but I’m feeling overwhelmed and don’t really know where else to turn, would appreciate any and all guidance you can provide!

I'm in New York, and my Korean parents live in a senior housing community in California. They've loved living there, but recently this new neighbor moved in who's been blasting music post 10pm and just being very loud. They raised the noise concern directly with the neighbor and with the management many times, but it only incited the neighbor even more - the neighbor started slinging hate speech and actually threatening to kill them - "Go back to where you came from" "I'll put a bullet through your pan-eyed effing head" "This is my country, get out of my country" "you ain't qualified b**ch, I'll run you over"... and we have all this in recording.

My parents no longer felt safe living there and sharing a wall with the neighbor, so they evacuated. We spent days trying to get in contact with the property manager in hopes of getting a unit transfer, but she did not pay us any attention until finally, we got the police involved. We shared the recordings with the police and they said that they couldn't do anything re: the guy because the recordings don't prove that he was saying these things to my parents directly. The police did however go talk to the property manager and that's when she reluctantly gave us the transfer. In her email to us, she said "As a courtesy, I'll approve the transfer" - which, to me, is ridiculous, considering this is a situation where one would have to share a wall with somebody who's constantly making death threats and racial hate comments. There is no courtesy here.

My family and I are seeking some guidance as to what we can do to get the property manager for gross negligence of the matter, and to at least cover the financial costs of us moving. They're going to make us pay rent on both units (the old and new), and we need some way to financially protect ourselves. Any comments or guidance is so appreciated, thank you for reading!

Growing up as an Asian guy in the West, many of us had no one to guide us through life’s challenges. We lacked role models who truly understood our struggles—people who looked like us and could inspire us to rise above the stereotypes and expectations forced on us.

Bruce Lee was the symbol of what was possible, but he’s been gone for over 50 years. Since then, we’ve been left to figure things out in a world that often refuses to see us. Sure there's been the rising tide of Kpop/Bollywood, but it's still not all that popular in the West. And yeah, we got Simu Liu in MCU's Shang Chi, both their first Asian superhero but also the very first male lead superhero that did NOT get a romantic interest in all of the MCU.

So two steps forward, one step back. This absence of representation has real consequences. It chips away at our confidence, our self-image, and our ability to connect with others, especially in relationships, self-esteem and mental wellness.

That’s why I created this video, "Generation Lost: Why Role Models Are Important for Young Asian Men." It’s not just about recognizing the problem—it’s about starting the solution. Asian men can and should step up as leaders, as role models, and as examples of strength and success.

It’s time to fill the vacuum ourselves. Watch the video and see how we’re breaking down barriers and building the foundation for a stronger future. Let’s show the world—and ourselves—what we’re capable of. 💪

I'm Viet and a lot of Viet immigrant families seem to be big Trump supporters. My family is also Catholic, so they are pro-life.

If you've been able to get your family to understand your "progressive" point of view, how?

Source

Voting breakdown by women: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Gbv_9AiWUAsw5v9?format=jpg&name=4096x4096

Voting breakdown by men: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Gbv_9h9X0AcdMKE?format=jpg&name=4096x4096

I have (well, had, we're no contact because of this) a male white friend who always goes after Asian girls. There doesn't seem to be a certain type of girl he likes, just as long as they're Asian. Like once, I introduced him to an Asian friend of mine and even though she's tatted and pierced (which he doesn't like) he was smitten with her after only an hour.. All his friends also seem to have an Asian girlfriend. They often travel to Asia s well. He purposefully puts his dating app radius very far away so he can match with Asian girls abroad as well. He seems really desperate to get a girlfriend and I think he's scaring a lot of girls away by being way too eager from the start.

I once asked him what the appeal was and he said he obviously likes the looks but also that Asian women are often more traditional while white women are 'too much' 🚩. When I confronted him about that expression, he obviously felt attacked and told me 'You only go for white guys as well? What's the difference?'. But I don't think that's the same at all. I live in Europe and I AM half white, so obviously I'm going to meet more white guys?

I'm just not 100% about it being yellow fever, because he's not your stereotypical cringy weeb. He is really respectful about it and he seems genuinely interested in the culture (and not only pop culture) etc. He's never said gross sexual shit about Asians, the only real red flag he's given me is what I mentioned above.

So this made me think. What IS the difference? When is it just a preference and when does it turn to Asian fetishism? Though it feel icky about it I'm not too sure about the why and how and would like to have a more solid opinion so I can better discuss this stuff when encountering people like him again.

Edit as people are asking about it, I decided to add this here: while my last two serious relationships were with white men, my attraction is definitely not solely to white men. But unfortunately it hasn't turned into anything with any of the non-white guys I liked. I'm guessing he said that bc 1) I'm not telling him about every damn crush I have 2) I'm also not making a big deal of the ethnicity of every crush I have and 3) he probably only remembers the two recent guys since we lost contact for a long time

I see a lot of bad aspects but I’m trying really hard to find positive aspects resulting from Asian culture/parenting. I feel like any positive aspects mentioned from toxic or just asian parenting in general seems to be a stretch and really just people trying to cope with trauma and joking.

Whenever you see pre-debut photos of kpop stars, their skin is much darker and resembles typical Koreans. But after debut it’s way lighter - and not just their faces, but arms, legs, etc.

How do they do this? It’s too even to be whitening cream. Genuinely curious.

1. Media portrayal. White males in tv/movies are often given the best portrayal of a man, with white men often having the perfect balance of being both masculine and intelligent. Asian men, outside of martial arts films, are self-sabotage in being portrayed as wimps, who often are subordinates to a white man. This implants in women's minds to not see Asian men as leaders.
2. Western media beauty magazine over arching reach whereby caucasian features are seen as the standard of beauty with everything else seen as exotic. This combined with tv shows/media where whites are often portrayed heavily as beautiful leads can shape an early impression in kids' minds.

A perfect example of this can be seen in an online YouTube video whereby black children were asked to pick between a black and white doll when it came to which one was prettier. An overwhelming amount of black children picked the white doll. Thus, showing how this affects kids at an early age.

3. White males often being in positions of power. A lot of world leaders and the richest men in the world tend to be white. This in turn paints a picture of associating white skin with power and high status in a woman's mind. Many Asian women therefore will desire to have a white partner and hapa kids to try to elevate their status in Western society.

4. White men tend to be taller than Asian men with the average height of white males in predominantly white countries, like the Netherlands, eclipsing many Asian countries. It's no secret that women in general find taller men attractive. The underlying reason for this is due to women believing that said male is more capable of defending her against attackers than that of a shorter male.

5. Negative stereotypes of Asian men. In addition to being portrayed as less masculine, Asian men often are faced with the negative stereotype of having a smaller penis than that of men of other races. This in turn can result in further lowering their dating value and women seeing them as less sexually desirable. We can even see how the reverse of this helps other races, as black men being associated with the BBC myth, often opens up more doors for them when it comes to dating/sex.

https://national-conservative.com/extremist-files/interracial-killings-2023/

With as many Asians claiming to be gangstas & "from the hood", why are our numbers lacking???? Can't our gangstas not even take out the weak, elderly, disabled, defenseless of other races, like constantly being done to ours?

Getting our numbers up isn't quite the boast we should be pursuing, but damn it, why are we not acing this test??

With the amount of violent assaults on Asians often not reported and/or ignored due to agenda to deployment of political narrative & lack of prosecution, especially in areas like Alameda County CA with DAs like Pamela Price, authenticating sources even from FBI is difficult. So appreciate any help in propositions in how to go about gathering data to verify the posted data.

https://www.justice.gov/usao-cdca/pr/ex-law-enforcement-and-former-military-officers-charged-alleged-sham-raid-extort-oc

Not the first time nonAsians play dress up as law enforcement officers, politician, religious clerics or other governing authority to extort money & goods from Asians.

Question is, when/if MSM call them out, will that stop the narcissistic entitlement driven criminal behavior?

An unlinked article by the conversation (don't wanna give them any views) talks about how 53% of all deepfakes on the internet are of south korean actresses. Then it blames Korean men and Korean society when from what I've stumbled on, most of those deepfakes seem to be made by white westerners and actually come from america in IP addresses.

Anyone else feel grossed out about how much white westerners fetishsize Korean women?? Like they're NEVER going to get a Korean gf unless they have an incredible amount of money, or are Calvin Klein model levels of good looking from what I've seen but it doesn't give them the right to make all this disgusting revolting stuff about Korean women.

What is so disingenuous about the conversation about the deepfakes is how it is blaming Korean men (and implying that Asian men are at fault by connection) when most of those deepfakes were by westerners for westerners.

These incels are just so gross and give me such an ick because I know they're fat, disgusting losers in their mama's basement but what do people in this sub think about this?

I literally just put on a brand new tshirt and decided to eat grass jelly dessert. In the making, that black juice splashed on my shirt and now I can’t get it out.

Any advice is appreciated.

I’m really sick of not being able to drink when I’m out with friends. I honestly don’t know if my reaction is even normal for Asians. My face swells up, gets so red it’s almost purple and my head hurts and I get sad. I’m almost offended by “lightweight” comments even though it’s true 😔

What’s ur guys’ reaction to alcohol if you have any at all?

When I see comments like “99% of Asians can do this” or “it’s very easy, I didn’t know other people can’t do it” I feel like shit cause I grew up in the UAE, I don’t know my parents 3 vocabulary distinct languages. Unlike Asian Americans I can’t get citizenship to get a Filipino-Emirati identity, more so in a country made up of 90% foreigners it’s like I have no identity.

Maybe it’s cause of the heat and car dependence you get locked up in an American suburbia type house or an old apartment and I’m weakened from that.

But to be unable to do something intrinsically Asian. I feel like an impostor or something… like God dammit I thought I had a capable body.

I squat and sit on the floor in the kitchen when I procrastinate but I can’t put my feet flat on the floor without my thighs burning in 20 seconds.

Do any of you guys struggle with it or is it just me?