I am only posting this because it is an example of how proudly misogynistic in different experiences they can be on my daily life.

I know folks don't have to give up seats but you don't have to purposely cut me off to grab it indicating AND saying that '' it was going to be their seat '' , how ? HOW ?! Yes, everyone at my work and surroundings is mostly WM but try to be a bit humble maybe ? They also laugh even though their grownaz men , their incompetence to see that giving up a seat to a BW won't affect their paycheck or their social status drives me freaking insane !!!!!

I saw how much of his fake gentleman side came out when another WW sat next to him. It made my blood boil.

Basically what the title says, I want to lose around 20 lbs and I just want to see where you guys notice changes on your face?

I graduated last spring with several internships and a semester being part of model UN…and I still can’t land a full time job. I’ve applied to 600+ jobs, been on dozens of interviews only to be ghosted for weeks on end, and haven’t received any job offers yet. I admit that I wasn’t the best at networking and could’ve done more of that in college, but I’d figured my resume and digital portfolio would be enough.

It gets me interviews but I’m just not getting offers. Before 2024 I never went more than 2 months without a part time job or internship, but ever since last year I’ve dealt with so much BS I didn’t several years ago when I had way less experience. I was constantly told that graduating with internships would help me get a job but here I am 8 months after graduation interviewing for retail jobs because I need money and nothing else is going through.

I don’t mind taking a retail job to at least have some money coming in because I have bills to pay even though I live at home. But I didn’t dedicate 4 years of my life to college and completed several internships just to work retail. I worked hard for my degree and the experience on my resume so I could get a job supporting myself using the skills I have.

To make matters worse, I’m a black woman that lives a red state where many companies are scaling back efforts to diversify their work place or eliminating it all together. Since Trump has been elected I feel like my future career and dreams are gone and people are less willing to give me a chance because of my race and the attack on DEI. 4 years of hard work down the drain.

there's this black guy on the internet called lovebeyondcolour is content is essentially centered around hating on his own people (black americans) and then disguising it as wanting "equality"

sometimes he makes valid points like saying black ppl can be racists and yes i agree with that, but the issue is he believes black ppl r the most racists historically.

he said deadass that white people face more racism than black ppl today because they r labeled as racist when they disagree with black ppl and can i just say that's that an incredibly stupid claim. Some niggas r just so fucking stupid they think racism is just insults, like i dont particularly agree with calling white people names and I do believe you can discriminate against white people but it will never carry the same systematic weight as racism against black ppl and racial minorities in general.

Like do we have to go over what segregation is hello wtf??? Like he and other white supremacist always use that argument of "well africans enslaved ppl too"

like does that suddenly dismiss the 1000 of years black people were enslaved and colonized??? Like If we are looking in a modern context black ppl have suffered more from systemic oppression despite every continent having history in it.

Now dont be suprised that this guy is a trump supporter who believes trump isn't racist... Like how delusional can you get!

and the worst part is that he gets away with sm bullshit he says just cus he says he advocates for equality when in truth he just hates black ppl. Like I agree once in a while even I make criticism on the black community and some ppls weird ass extensive victim complex but at same time, why ignore years of oppression?

Its a whole load of ignorance, the normal white ppl call him out even when he praises them, while I've noticed most of his content is supported by save Europe teenage boys that are not even white 60% of the time, like a good chunk r hispanic or indian. Both cultures are heavily discriminated against but tag team on black ppl always 💀

this why their bitch asses r getting deported first, Latinos from TRUMP ❤️

For a long time, I’ve been wanting to delete TikTok because I felt like I was just endlessly scrolling through content that didn’t truly resonate with me. A year ago, my feed was so much better. When I first joined TikTok, the algorithm didn’t immediately categorize me as a Black woman, so I was shown content I genuinely enjoyed—home decor, interior design, funny stories, and lighthearted moments. But as soon as the algorithm “figured out” I was a Black woman, my feed shifted dramatically. Suddenly, I was inundated with content about the drama between Black men and Black women, plastic surgeries and constant political discourse. It’s overwhelming. No matter how much I try to block certain accounts or tailor my feed, it doesn’t seem to help.

As a woman, I often feel it’s crucial to protect my mental and emotional well-being because the world already places so much weight on us. I just want my life to feel light and joyful. I’m not a “doom and gloom” kind of person. I’m aware of the realities of the world, but I don’t need to be reminded of them every single day. It’s draining. TikTok may no longer be on iOS, but I know I’ll be better off without it. This isn’t me telling anyone else what to do—it’s just me saying I’m tired. I’m Black, but I new hobbies, traveling and experiences kind of Black, and TikTok doesn’t seem to understand that.

So yes, I deleted TikTok. This Black girl truly believes in fairytales even though the world tells me thats not for me.

I don’t want to feel like I’m constantly being sold something or told im not living life right if dont have or do X. I’m just here for a good time. Social media used to be a place of refuge for me—a space to feel uplifted or for a few giggles . But now, it’s turning into a source of stress and negativity, and I’m not here for that. So, I said goodbye.

Anyway Time touch grass and enjoy life outdoors more hehe

Ladies who have had to get family court involved in your co-parenting situation, how was the process like for you? As I posted in another place on Reddit, I just need some advice, suggestions, personal experiences with anything related to child support and/or court?

I have a lot of thinking and planning to do moving forward, just need some words of wisdom!

Alright so as of tomorrow I'll be going to a new school and oh my days I don't know anyone there😭. I hate being lonely but I'm like soo shy, how do I make friends🥺

And she blocked him immediately and told me. I love my circle of friends. I love black women.

We broke up for reasons unrelated (black fetish manchild in disguise used love bombing to distract me and couldn’t keep it up after 90 days you know the usual) and I think this rejection really hit his ego hard because he’s very insecure but somehow still believes he deserves young hot women no matter how he acts which is to be expected because all men think like this.

Can everyone do me a favor and laugh at him with me? 🤣

The early morning hours are often when my creativity strikes, and I'm excited to share an idea that's been brewing!

I'm searching for like-minded women who'd be interested in joining me in forming an Afro-folk/gospel revival collective. I believe it's essential to preserve the rich cultural heritage of our ancestors through music and dance. If you're passionate about keeping these traditions alive, let's connect!

(Also, if anyone knows of other platforms or communities where I could share this idea, please let me know. I'll also be reaching out to my church community as well!)

https://ibb.co/fzmDYhmq

Examples:

Easter Rock Dance of Louisiana: https://youtu.be/WqyVZnOYMiw?si=wMJSiyfIVf3xahJs

"Adam in the Garden" Gullah Geechee Ring Shout:

https://youtu.be/DOJj_MNIBUg?si=JvH6JJz1yS2VxuTP

"Down In My Soul" Marlena Smalls & The Hallelujah Singers

https://youtu.be/FbRtmFGV8Vg?si=GDFDZaDg3tKoV5oC

I'm not sure what its called. It's not super big like japanese fashion, its softer and more appropriate for day-to-day wear. It's usually pink, white, or frilly with soft glam makeup? I can only describe it but don't know the name.

Follow up question, where do they shop and is 26 too old to get into that?

I don’t know if it’s due to lack of money or these Black designers are just making merch for cash grabs, but a lot of the Black history mech designs for totes, bags, hats, and accessories are just not it. As a Black consumer I feel a big disconnect when I see these designs, they are often plain and do not pose an authentic depiction of Black American culture. So many Black artist on twitter make amazing art depicting Black American culture and I can never see art like that in stores around Black History month. I want to support the Black designers around this time so they are able to get their coin for Black History month, but I am not indulging in purchasing garbage just bc they are black.

Hi Ladies,

Sending everyone love in these crazy times.

I wanted to share this resource here since it is specific to black women. Hopefully someone here finds it helpful!

calendly.com/ellisonink/meetup

Asking because I finally found a braider in my area that does that style but I have a feeling that amount is too high $$$

Hey all,

This Tuesday, I turned 33 and it was a very meh experience. It didn't help that everyone in my home is sick with the flu and even I had a cough. It was just a day. I still live my parents, but I'm moving out in a few months, and while I did do and accomplish some things, it's not much to brag about like becoming a doctor or getting married. Speaking of marriage, I guess I'm mourning that it's likely I'll never find anyone or have a family.

It's already out of vogue, so to speak, to desire having children, so I guess maybe I'm meant to be childfree. I don't know. I get this feeling - idk if it's jealousy or sadness - whenever a new baby is announced or an engagement. I was in some brutal, practically one-sided relationships with guys that (I know this is the blackgirls sub) on the surface, aren't the typical, shitty bf but the ultimately showed their true colors in time.

I have a complicated relationship with my family, both my mom and grandma have severe mental issues and are enmeshed with each other and have desperately tried to keep that going with me. But with me finally moving out for gradschool, that won't happen.

I wanted to be so many things. I wanted to be fashionable, wear make up, date, drive, do things that's expected of young women. But I ultimately never got to. It was shamed out of me. Wanting to 'prettify' myself was looked down upon or even mocked. My grandma even said she believed I'd never get married, several times.

My half-sister, through my dad, has told me to never have kids. She has 3, and her being single for most of their childhood has definitely colored her opinion of motherhood, so I get it.

But I guess I'm just sad.

I really wanted to be a wife and have a family. I wanted to have a career, a real career and life long friends. I didn't get that. I probably never will. So, I guess I'm mourning that. Is it okay to mourn this? I know it's not hip or modern to desire kids or a family for my generation, but man, I really wish I had one.

I just wanted to tell y’all… have a happy black history month.

I’ve used adore honey brown dye and it turned my lace kinda orange already tried apple cider and boiled water And yes I'm half black

I’ve been reminiscing about high school recently and in doing so I realized the amount of backhanded compliments I received. My first one happened with an ex. We were talking about our past relationship experiences and he told me I was the only black girl he’s ever dated and would ever date because black girls are “crazy”. I genuinely believed it was a compliment in that moment and now I’m sitting here like damn that was an insult, even more so because he’s black too.

Some of the friends I had back then would also say these backhanded compliments like “you have long hair for a black girl” or “you’re so well spoken for a black girl”. In hearing this throughout high school, I never realized how much it would affect my self-esteem as an adult. I had a lot of days where I feel not good enough or not as confident. I compared myself to others, criticized myself, and felt very uncomfortable in my skin. I still have those days sometimes.

On a positive note, becoming aware of this has greatly assisted me in how to respond to those “compliments”, addressing my low self-esteem, keeping a good circle of friends, and loving me.

Has anyone else experienced similar backhanded compliments? Also happy bhm girls! You are all beautiful as hell and I feel so included and welcomed here <33

and this has been a theme in my life, my whole life. Growing up, I even went to a predominantly white school and most of my friends during that time were either my cousins or mostly kids from other schools that looks like me. I never had an identity crisis, the same way that some of my black peers have had due to the area that we were living in. I honestly knew from a young age that I was very different from those other kids, and they would treat me as such just because of that and yes, I thought that they were jealous of me and later on in life a lot of them opened up about being just that or even just wanting to be closer to me, but we’re too scared simply because I’m black, but I already knew that.

I’m 27 now and I learned a long time ago that I usually do not connect on a deep friendship real level with non-Black people or white people. Yes I have connections and I meet amazing people, but I’m just saying when it comes to realness and relatability. I think I require that in my close relationships and when it’s not there, I just can’t connect because they always say something or act in a way that broadcasts their anti-blackness or racism to be honest. It’s too difficult explaining to these people certain topics and I don’t even feel it’s my job as a black woman to get these people to understand.

I’m writing this to say recently I tried hanging out with a woman non-black woman… and everything was great and I was telling her about my new job and how I’ll be working at a black owned business and that will be a lot better for me considering where I work now and the environment there.

She proceeds to say “I don’t like when people say black owned or like this and that is black owns where I’m from we don’t care about race or anything like that so I don’t like that shit.” I politely respond to her telling her that well. You’re a white passing woman in America. You probably feel like black owned means you’re not included, which isn’t the case. And you probably don’t complain about things that are Asian owned, or Muslim owned or anything else black alone. Just makes you feel uncomfortable because of internal anti blackness inside of you.

that absolutely changed the vibe for the whole night, and of course, she said, I was being aggressive, as these groups of people do.

I just needed somewhere to vent about about this. It never fails when I’m hanging out with people who don’t look like me, they feel comfortable enough to tell me how they really feel whether it’s sooner or later. They always disappoint me, and I hate to say it like that, but it’s just the truth. Also, I’m not the type of person to just stay quiet for the sake of still having a good time because I’m not going to sit here uncomfortable and not let you know about it when you’re just over here, having a great time letting get rip with commentary that is making me uncomfortable, or gestures.

I just want to start a conversation about this cause I know we are all affected by it. How are yall doing honestly?? mental health check with everything going on withing the gov? And what are your thoughts and opinions. I feel attacked. & I feel like a hypocrite at the same time I wanna check myself because I always say “white people don’t care about things until it affects them”. I know more people than just us are affected by all Trump is doing, but with the Dei, attack on CRT, talking down the BLM flags on fed buildings, and BHM not being recognized in the fed gov. Was just like DAMN I really feel like mfs want us to pack up and go. I’m calling myself out because I need to stand up. We deserve more. We’ve been deserved more.

Some of y'all need to travel. Some of y'all need to meet more people. Some of y'all need therapy.

Because these awful, negative generalizations about black women on here are exhausting. I truly dont give a damn about your personal experience with a mean black person. Making these blanket statements are detrimental to ALL of us. And weird as hell. EVERY RACE of human on this planet has mean people. Usually, the circumstances that lead to their bad attitudes is similar all over the world. Poor care. Poor education. Poor environments. These circumstances can be applied to everyone everywhere, with similar results. There are studies after studies about this. But god forbid a black woman act out of hand, ever. Then it's apparently all of us who must carry the brand of "Angry/mean/bad attitude" stereotypes. Some of y'all talk about not befriending your own kin folk out of fear of snark. You don't see the problem with that? How it overlaps with the racism we are trying to curb from the world? Perpetuating this shit helps no one. And if you want to miss out on the communion that we cultivate together all the time, thats your loss.

I love black women. The nice ones. The mean ones.Ghetto and bougie. Natural and sewn in. All of them.

Except Candance Owens.

As i’ve gotten into my late 20s I want to be fitter, I do yoga 2-3 times a week but definitely need more cardio. My doctor is also concerned about my weight - i’m not significantly overweight but would benefit from losing something. I’m 5”6 and 190lbs, i think running is definitely something i’d like to get into more, i enjoy it but i don’t go when it rains… which is often.

I want to unprivate my insta and start posting again, but I don’t know because insta is super toxic. I don’t want to get hooked on pointless likes and follows. I want to get myself out there, but idk where to start. I also want to do movie, tv shows and book reviews on YouTube, but idk about that either. I don’t want to put all of the work in and then it turns into nothing, lol

I’m so genuinely tired of the way some of us act. I went to a Doctors appointment today and as im sitting there a lady comes by me and starts loudly trying to start something with me because according to her i was looking at her. I’m not used to confrontation like that, used to staying to myself and keeping quiet. So I’m just sitting there in shock as she’s yelling at me considering i wasnt even really paying her any mind like that. No, we aren’t all like that but where I live LA, far too many of us are. It’s hard to connect with Black women where I live as it’s always an attitude that I’ll notice being carried with them. I’m just ranting, but I see behavior like that from us so much it’s upsetting as a Black woman who knows we have so many amazing, kind women amongst us.

I wish Disney could push more black princesses. So, I decided I might write about a black princess. Does anyone know a great name, fictional setting, and super powers, I could write about?

If you fall out with a close friend that you once considered to be your sister and you don't have beef with them do you delete the pictures/memories you have with them?

There's this girl that I was really, really close with, we even lived together at some point and we had been friends since high school until the summer of 2023 (that's when we stopped talking). We reconnected at the end of last year and we told each other we missed our friendship and that we didn’t have any resentment towards one another, but that was it. It still hurts me that she's no longer in my life, but I want to be able to move forward and focus on making new friendships. Even though I miss them, I know that things will never be the same. With that being said, I’ve been thinking about deleting all our pictures because I don’t like coming across old photos and feeling all nostalgic about them not being in my life anymore. Any advice?

I can’t imagine anyone asking these white ladies at work if their wigs were real 😒

Dude also kept asking why I was scratching my head??? It was all an odd micro aggressive interaction with a customer that wasn’t even mine! Dude would call out to me if I passed by to make these comments 🙄