hi, i’m new to the city and looking to go to this standup show with bangla people if anyone’s interested on bangladesh victory day. I’d love some company. Comment or PM me.

Dec 16, 7pm at Sugar Mouse

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bangladesh-victory-day-celebration-music-poetry-and-stnadup-comedy-tickets-1071465926429?aff=ebdssbdestsearch

Just something I was thinking about. Do darker desis face more discrimination than lighter desis….or skin tone doesn’t make a difference?

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cx2ld7r4432o

Has anyone bought eSIM from them for use in India?

I have Verizon and too expensive to buy their travel passes.

Thanka

Yay for Trump appointing so many ABCD’s

Hey everyone, I’d like your thoughts on something. I grew up in the U.S. since I was around 10, did most of my schooling and college here, and later spent some time in India before coming back. I have an accent, and while it doesn’t bother me (I think I speak clearly), I get a lot of questions about it—especially from Indian people, both recent immigrants and ABCDs.

They ask, “Why do you have an accent if you grew up here?” Americans rarely bring it up, but Indians seem to always ask. I don’t want to dive into my whole life story when they ask, and honestly, it’s frustrating. I know everyone’s unique and not everyone fits the “typical” mold, but I’m stuck on how to reply without sounding rude.

How would you handle it? Or why do you think people fixate on accents so much?

Ya ya i fucking know this subreddit doesn't like any such call to action, i saw the poor post yesterday asking us to unite and fight against racism towards south Asians, get hate for doing something admirable. But idc, it needs to be said. There are so many of popular racist posts against us like that gross racist post on r / overworked. Most Indians dont give enough of a damn or are scared to respond back on those posts. Even if you're right that it won't change a lot, it will change the narrative a bit when gullible idiots who would otherwise subscribe to racist misinfo against us, - when they see someone to fight back against it, will think twice before subscribing to the false narratives. some of those racists won't be so directly conformable sharing those opinions about us when they realize we exist in the thread either. Enough of this passive bulshit.

At 27, as an attorney with most major life milestones already checked off, I’ve reached the age where my pxrents are eager for me to settle down. I don’t currently have anyone I’m interested in enough to marry, so I’ve agreed to let them use Shaadi.com. Honestly, their standards for me are probably higher than mine anyway, so why not?

(Using shaadi dot com just so it wouldn’t link the actual website here lol)

The research paper goes into a lot of detail.

"Anti-Hindu disinformation is masked through the use of ethnic pejoratives, slurs and coded language". Increase in use of Pajeet across social media.

Key findings -

1. Surge in derogatory posts toward Hindus across social media platforms. Instances of anti-Hindu memes, hashtags and slogans across Twitter.

2. Previous analysis shows that extremist content targeting specific vulnerable communities on social media are upstream predictors of real world violence against those communities.

3. Evidence of Iranian trolls disseminating anti-Hindu stereotypes to inflame divisions.

https://millercenter.rutgers.edu/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Hinduphobia-NC-Labs_6.22.22.pdf

Curious if anyone else who is abd has siblings who act more fob (sorry - is there a better term than this?:) than abd. My sister grew up in India until middle school but is mostly fob in her outlook ( bringing the same biases and competitiveness), interests and social circle

Of course she’s still my sister and we have a basic love and respect, but there’s still a divide. I get looked down on (holier than thou kind of attitude) from time to time and it’s nice to have a shared experience with you siblings (but often not the case). I’m perfectly happy with myself and not insecure about it, just curious if it’s common

The weekly relationship thread for all topics related to the bravest pursuit of all - love. This thread will be automatically posted every Sunday @ 5:00 A.M (UTC -5). All other dating or relationship based posts during the week will be removed and redirected to this thread.

This thread is a place to share your stories, ask for advice, or vent about issues. Or anything in between!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxAOUJt1PaU

This movie looks amazing! Looks highly inspired by Studio Ghibli. This is the kind of news we need more.

Curious how many of you grew up without any religious beliefs/were never really religious but were still culturally Hindu/desi.

Is this super common? Were you pretty religious as a kid but later became agnostic/atheist as you grew up?

I saw a post on R/Somalia about a guy complaining about the familial instability of their community and praised how South Asian/Arab are more stable due to their culture and completely got dogged on for supporting misogny https://www.reddit.com/r/Somalia/comments/1h33cdq/why_do_somalis_act_like_the_lack_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button Coming from a foreigner, what are you guys thoughts on the low reputation of desi marriage culture from Muslim and ethnically similar communities?

My neighbors are from Kerala and they are mostly vegetarian, except that they also consume fish. I feel like asking why is a bit too personal. I want to know if there is any kind of precedent for this, or if this is just some fad. They are from an upper-caste background if that is important.

Willing to pay or it. Or a website

My friend and I are both in interracial relationships. We both moved to Canada recently as grad students, and despite all the apprehension about resentment towards Indians in Canada, the move here has been great for us so far.

Recently, she told her mother about her boyfriend and as expected, all hell broke loose. Her mother went into denial about it all and still refuses to acknowledge him as her child's partner. One of the arguments she put forth was that interracial relationships and marriages don't last, that our values and lifestyles are too different and that it leads to unhappiness down the line. My friend is struggling to find ways to battle those arguments because neither of us know anything about what life is like after tying the knot with someone non-desi. A lot of the stories we found online are mostly about the struggle to get parents to accept the partner, and not so much about what life is like afterwards.

I have been trying to rip the bandaid off myself and tell my parents about my partner, but my friend's experience is making me pause. I think these are things I do need to think about and discuss with my partner before talking to my parents.

What are the challenges of building a life with someone non-desi? How did you deal with value/tradition clashes (if any)? Especially if you are a first generation immigrant with family back home.

Hey Desi community,

It's time to stand together and take action against the rising tide of racism in Canada. We've all seen the disturbing incidents, the hateful rhetoric, and the discrimination that South Asians face daily.

And promoting of fake stories like people shitting on a beach and Old uncle shiting on gas station ... and people buy it.. if you find something please post it and ask people to mass report on those fake stories

We can't remain silent any longer.

Let's come together to:

• Organize: Form local and online groups to discuss strategies, share experiences, and support each other.
• Educate: Raise awareness about the history of racism and discrimination against South Asians in Canada.
• Advocate: Lobby government officials, businesses, and institutions to implement policies that protect our rights and promote inclusivity.
• Support: Offer support to victims of hate crimes and discrimination.

Here are some ideas to get started:

• Join or start a local Desi community group.
• Share your experiences with racism on social media.
• Contact your local elected officials.
• Support South Asian-owned businesses.
• Donate to organizations fighting for racial justice for South Asians.

Let's make our voices heard and create a more just and equitable society for all.

#DesiLivesMatter, #StopAsianHate, #EndRacism #StopIndianHate

Remember, our strength lies in our unity. Let's work together to build a stronger, more resilient Desi community.

edit:- our biggest weakness is we are not organized like other groups

Edit2:-

i created this subreddit r/DesiLivesMatter rightnow to fight against racism toward South Asians (Desi). We need to stand together and fight back against the rising tide of racism toward South Asians. We can't remain silent any longer. Let's come together to organize, educate, advocate, and support each other. And also mass report pages promoting racism

edit - share any video or anything if you face any racism so we make people awarre about it

A lot of people nowadays are saying that college is getting very expensive and it’s not worth it. What do you guys think? Is it a scam?

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