recently moved from my hometown and college town of Boston to the Phoenix area and have been trying to adjust to life here. Back in Boston, I had a solid group of Asian friends, but now that I’m in a new city and postgrad, I’m finding it harder to meet people let alone make friends with similar backgrounds and interests.

For those who have moved to a new city, how did you go about making Asian friends? Are there any specific communities, events, or groups in Phoenix/Chandler that I should check out? Tbh I'm open to alot of things and trying to get out my comfort zone.

A bit about me: I’m in my early-20s, work in tech, and enjoy music (especially concerts and raves), watching basketball, working out, and food. I’d love to find people to grab boba with, go to events, or just hang out. Thanks guys

I guess for extra security measure I will bring my pass port or birth cirt with me where ever I go though even though I been a US citizen for now +20 years am I over thinking/ over worrying?

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This comes after reading some posts related to Trump countering Diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) policies. Like how this person's lunar new year celebration got cancelled last minute. I'm Malaysian so this resonates with my neighbours in Indonesia where expressing Chinese culture was banned for a good number of decades until Gusdur came into power. I don't see the benefit of doing that, this is nonsensical to me as I grew up in a culture where you're allowed to practise your religion and culture, with the ethnic school and all, freely as protected by the constitution. Needless to say, I don't understand what the hell's going on there but convinced that Americans of all races are getting assimilated into...a dominant culture of an ethnic group (previous version was a tad mean).

Side question: I suppose even Eid is banned as well then. Ramadan's coming up in a bit, quicker than expected. What if the Muslim Malaysian Americans don't celebrate Raya Puasa out of fear of reprisal? To Malaysian Americans, I have this to say: LAWAN TETAP LAWAN

Not sure if any other Chinatowns have been affected, but Philadelphia Chinatown is getting hit with ICE raids. Stay safe out there guys

I feel very conflicted. I’ve been asked to participate in an event where they need a girl to be in it. I’m one of the only ones left, however, I have absolutely no interests at all.

It is by no means a cultural tradition that is harmful, it’s just that I have no interests to take on the responsibilities I will have during the event.

For my people, we have very strong feelings about family and helping out family. Seeing as I’m one of the only ones who can do what is needed, I do feel a sense of guilt in not wanting to play my role, but I just have absolutely no interest.

I don’t want to do it and I am fully aware of the pressure and fight that I will have to face because of my decision. How do I deal with the inner turmoil and how do I deal with the family pressure that goes with it?

Hey so Vietnamese/Chinese American here and a couple of days ago I ordered some Hong Kong style bbq(bbq pork, roast duck and crispy pork for anyone curious) and the restaurant had a special where they were giving away a free snack item if you spent enough, which I did, and I decided to get the marinated duck liver, but as I've never eaten it before I don't really know any good ideas for how to eat it.

Is it meant to be eaten alone? With rice? With bread/toast? As part of a stir fry? I genuinely have no idea, so any advice/ideas from anyone on here would be appreciated.

Saw this survey today about how Americans overestimate the size of minority groups and underestimate the size of most majority groups. https://today.yougov.com/politics/articles/41556-americans-misestimate-small-subgroups-population

It says that surveyed Americans believe Asian Americans make up 29% of American adults when the reality is 6% as of 2022. Now, either this means that Asian Americans have done a lot to make are actual presence seem larger than it really is, or that Americans just naturally assume there are more of non white people in the country than there actually are. Either way, it's interesting.

So I'm a Korean-American currently attending college in Long Island. I'm a citizen raised in New Jersey, as is my parents who are both American as well (My mom is from New Jersey and my dad is from New York), and my grandparents, who have American citizenship.

So my main concern is that I plan to go to New York City with a couple of my friends this weekend. However, I've heard about the recent ICE detentions going on at the moment and I'm worried because I'm getting my non driver's license in March and my parents didn't want me bringing my passport/SS card. my girlfriend has assured me that everything is going to be fine but part of me is worried I'm going to be detained simply because my Korean heritage/ethnicity. Should I be worried? or am I overthinking this?

Hope everyone is having a great day and a good year!

also, just want to say, as someone with a fear of snakes, google really didn't need to make it CNY Snake Doodle looks so cute

so i'm usually good with following traditions and not showering on the first day, but i'm a nursing student and had to go visit patients today. some things happened and i really feel uncomfortable not taking a shower, especially after everything that's happened today. would it be okay to make an exception to shower? i'm alright with leaving my hair alone for today but i can't imagine getting into bed without taking a shower.

Hi everyone, I’m non-Chinese Asian and have been interested in starting gua sha, but I don’t want to just get one on Am*zon. Cann anyone recommend a small business or similar?

I have Asian extended family members.

How much should I give their kids?

I’m Filipino American and my family only celebrates the Western New Year. In the past couple years, I’ve had people ask what I’m doing for Lunar New Year only for them to react super shocked and confused when I respond with “I don’t celebrate”. It’s always an awkward interaction. Does anyone else get people assuming that just because you’re Asian you celebrate Lunar New Year?

My boyfriend and I went áo dài shopping for his very first áo dài. We bought it at Asian Garden Mall/Phước Lộc Thọ. He bought this exact áo dài design in store for $65. We believe it’s hand painted. I don’t know áo dài prices because my mother buys her/my áo dài in Vietnam. She says it’s more expensive in America. I’m curious to see if we got a good deal or if we got up-priced.

Hi all, just moved to Koreatown Los Angeles. I’m a Korean American but didn’t grow up really along other Koreans nor a lot of Asians in general (you know how it goes… your parents decided to settle in America’s heartland aka Whitestan and have children). So here I am, trying to understand my own tribe and I’m befuddled at the extreme naïveté… and trust. Uh, Koreatown is rife with crime. Yet so many instances of Korean immigrants or Korean Americans just trusting the eff out of some obvious scammer/thief. Too many instances to spotlight. So a general question. Why are Korean people so trusting ( kore am or immigrant)?

I've been to sushi restaurants and they have these reddish beef skewers that smell delicious and apparently taste good.

Does anyone know if they have an official name? If not then does anyone know what the recipe is? I want to try recreating them at home if I can get the spice list.

Thanks!