I have been cutting my own hair since before COVID and always struggled with clippers due to my thick asian hair and I'm looking for your recommendation.

I have to make multiple passes to have a buzzer properly cut my hair and I often have to grab chunks of straggler long hair and snip it. I upgraded to a Wahl clipper and still it wouldn't cut through all of my hair after multiple passes. I use an extra long hair guide because I typically like to leave my hair long other wise I'll look like a porcupine with my hair sticking straight up.

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Saw a video about a sheep sheerer and I was wondering if I needed to get a buzzer for sheep wool. lol.

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I'm a Taiwanese person living In California.

Here is my recipe for Milk Tea.

Ingredients About 1.3 per drink

1. 1.5 Tablespoon Of Milk Oolong Tea Leaves .83 cents
2. 1 Cup 2 percent Milk .25 cents
3. 1 Teaspoon Premium 52 Shaoxing Wine From Amazon 20 Cents
4. 2 Teaspoons Sugar 2 cents

Recipe

1. Pour milk, tea leaves , and SW into pot.
2. Heat on high for 5 minutes
3. Pour into glass.
4. Take out leaves
5. Put in sugar
6. Put in freezer for 10 minutes.

Done!

I am curious what part of the world likes to drink milk tea that is more tea infused milk than milk infused tea?

Hi everyone,We're planning to visit the Smithsonian w/ toddlers, and looking for recommendations on how to make the most of our experience as an Asian(Korean) American family with young children. While exploring the usual favorite exhibits, particularly interested in finding exhibits, programs, or activities that might be especially meaningful or educational for us as Asian Americans.Any suggestions on must-see exhbits, tours, family friendly programs that focus on asian american topics?

I was eating at a Chinese restaurant with family the other day and for dessert we ordered a dish that was a sweet white soup. I had a throwback moment to all the red bean dessert soups that used to come complimentary at my local restaurants. They used to load them up with so much stuff too. Tapioca balls and a bunch of other things that I never really identified, but gladly ate.

Since they were complimentary I guess a lot of people would ask for it and just not finish which led to a lot of waste, but damn they were good and a nice way to cap off a meal.

Idk what he preaches but my aunt and mom (buddhist) seem too obsessed with him as if he’s a god because he’s rich and can see spirits and such they get so angry and defensive and say I shouldn’t comment because they don’t question my beliefs (Christian)

How can one possibly love themselves growing up in this western world? I am an American citizen, born on American soil, first language was English. I love my country, and yet, why do I recall so much harassment, racial slurs/jokes, bullying, etc in school? All the harassment made me develop body dysmorphia and a strong sense of self hatred. All the other non-Asian girls I see are so beautiful, but when I look in the mirror, I see deformities; If my eyes were a little bigger, if my nose bridge and brow ridge were a little higher, then maybe I’d be accepted. My self hatred and wanting to escape has lead me to self-harm and become suicidal in the past. One of the worst periods of my life was when I had a 1.5 month long mental breakdown when I was a teen after some drama revolving around my race. I wish I wasn’t Asian, I wish I wasn’t cursed to live in this body. Can’t I at least be West Asian instead?

Anyways, this was my vent.

I’m homeschooling my kids next year and would like to include Asian American history as part of our curriculum. I have almost no knowledge of it myself and would like to learn so I can teach. Anyone have any recommendations on where I should start? My plan is to google “Asian American Studies textbooks” and study it, but if you have any other ideas/suggestions/recommendations, send my way! TIA!

Edit: Thank you so much for all your recommendations!!

Curious if anyone has watched this documentary? I feel like some things are relatable to general immigrant communities but the film did not go into enough detail on Jennifer's relationship with her parents and mostly focused on her relationship with Daniel Wong.

I know there are a lot of true stories, memes and jokes about mean, overly strict, competitive Asian families, but I wanted to give a shout out to the caring loving ones. I'm Chinese American and I was recently assaulted and have a broken and crushed wrist. I had to have surgery. I live alone and everything is really hard to do. Relatives brought me food. My aunt and uncle came over and they both cleaned my place for me. I didn't ask them to do that, but they just wanted to. My uncle comes over to clean, take out the garbage/recycling and prepares food for me. They have been taking me to all of my medical appointments since I can't drive right now. I don't know how I could manage everything without them. I barely saw them the last few years, but they have been totally there for me in an emergency.

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My mom and my mother in law (both in their mid to late 60s, one has depression/anxiety) are both quick to say hurtful words. They’re both Chinese. The issue is they’re extremely blunt. They might say some “you used to be skinny, now you’re fat, I liked the old you better.” Then when you try to confront them on how hurtful that is, they’ll deflect back with something like “you never listen” followed by a new attack about another topic.

The other parent can also have a lot of hurtful comments. Theres a lot of should do this, should do that, don’t be lazy. I’ve also tried to clarify things, point out false assumptions and misunderstandings. While there appears be mutual understanding, it is short lived. A week later, all reason again goes out the window and they repeat the exact same conversation. Is there short term memory loss? I don’t know, but sometimes it sure feels like it.

How do you deal with parents with a lot of hurtful words?

I am in mid 20s now and I feel as though I should be accomplished or feel like I am doing well. It's difficult to write this I do not mean to come off as ungrateful. I am currently a Programmer Analyst at Johns Hopkins University and Hospital as well as a Grad Student and JHU I make close to 6 figures as well. I moved to another city to be with my partner.

However, my family seems to disapprove or never feel satisfied with my accomplishments. They never tell me that they are proud or celebrate accomplishment they simply just start to critique the next thing I should do such as buy a house, or move somewhere else, or how I could have done things better. I feel like my inner thoughts are conflicting cause I know I am doing well but I am being told I am not. I feel constantly stressed and unable to enjoy life. That I won't have enough savings or money to buy a nice car or house.

They also do not like that I have moved far away as they think its a waste of money that I should live at home and save money to buy a house etc. I am realizing how much this is affecting me and my relationship as I am find myself putting these pressures on my partner.

I would really just like some reassurance or some advice amongst all this. I feel guilty leaving my family and I know they talk poorly but I know its because they are worried and care about me.

TLDR: Parents are never proud of me no matter how much I accomplish. Affecting my decisions and relationship.

I know all families and parent-child relationships are different, but I'd love some insight from others.

For context: I have a "good" relationship with my parents in that they've made incredible sacrifices for my advantage, and I am immensely grateful and do my best to make them proud (sometimes to the point I find myself "fawning" or only choosing to say things that I know they want to hear, etc.).

My parents and I currently live in an East Asian country, after living in the U.S. for over 20 years. I was born and raised/spent the majority of my life in the U.S. and identify as "American" before I consider myself from this country. My parents moved to the U.S. as adults and don't consider "American" as any part of their identity.

Unfortunately there is a perception that women (of any ethnicity/race) who have lived in the "West" are very sexually promiscuous and as a result, I have experienced a lot of sexual harassment, assault and just generally really inappropriate behavior on dates with men from this culture. These experiences have shaped not only my approach to dating and men here but also my overall racial identity (e.g., these people may look like me but don't consider me as anything more than an easy lay, etc.). It's to the point I can't talk about it without bursting into tears.

Lately I've felt a growing desire to share these experiences in more detail with my parents. Should I be sharing these thoughts and experiences with my parents in detail, or will this just hurt them? Do other people share this kind of thing with their parents? I've become so accustomed to only sharing positive things with my parents that the thought of sharing "negative" things like this almost makes me sick.

A lot of Asian Pacific ethnic enclaves have disappeared over the years. In S04E17 we discuss the History of The Hawaiian Settlement in Iosepa, Utah. This is part of our ongoing series on ethnic enclaves that have been destroyed or become ghost towns.