So I made a request for one of my friends to make a list of best black films that released each year since 1993. When I say black films not majority back cast but black written and or directed. Black - (African, Latin African, or African American).

So here is my issue I can't find a bunch of movies available to either purchase rent nothing. Some were in black film festivals or African film Festivals. I have searched online and I have not found a way to watch them or location to buy.

Some of the films I'm looking for with no success is Peripheral, he looked like a postcard....

Hey ladies, and whoever else is listening here, seeing that your orange-peel of a president raised the price on imported produce and goods from Mexico and Canada, it's time to start growing your own food, your own vegetables, fruits, and, if you're lucky, maybe raise your own chickens and cows because things are going to get difficult for you all moving forward.

Hi ladies, I'm not sure where else to turn so I'm hoping I can get some good advice here. I need help with the best responses to deter men who bother me in public. I am planning my first solo trip and I am worried about my safety and sanity. I know I have a history of people pleasing and that combined with my fear of male violence makes me feel unequipped in these scenarios, particularly being in a foreign country being pursue by men of another culture. Before anyone asks, yes I'm in therapy.

I'm a black American living in Europe. I used to get a ton of harassment back home and heavily modified my behaviors to try to lessen it (dressing in loose masculine clothes when going places I'll be bothered/alone, always wearing sunglasses and big headphones, ignoring them when they speak on the street). It also helped that I drove and therefore didn't reply on Uber or public transit.

However, here there's a language barrier. I'm learning the language but im not conversational yet. I hate to say it, but I am only harassed by black men, presumably African immigrants. I can't avoid these scenarios. Last year one followed me after a nice walk in the parj. He saw me from across the street and aggressively picked up his pace to try to reach me but I was luckily able to turn the corner and hide until it was safe. I was never followed like this back in the states.

Just this past week, I was bothered on two separate instances while they were on shift, working.

One was a young waiter at a cafe, hovering over me using Google translate for 5 min trying to chat me up. Completely ignoring my discomfort and one word answers. He only went away after I told him via Google translate that I was in a hurry and needed to leave. That plus his female coworker pacing back and forth is what worked.

Days later I'm catching an Uber to meet a friend. I had slight disappointment when I saw the driver was a black man and I hate typing that. I gave it the benefit of the doubt and hoped that he'd be chill and professional. Of course it didn't work out that way. He started off asking where I was from, then that moved to him asking if I'd take down his number for language practicing, wanted me to call him so he'd have mine (I refused) and then proceeded to try to interrogate me about my love life. This was a 12 min ride and mind you, I was wearing my giant headphones. He only stopped harassing me when I stopped responding. Even when I said I needed to stop talking to catch up on some important stuff I was listening to, he kept trying to talk. I was so scared that he wouldn't let me out the car without making sure he got my number. Luckily I was able to leave. Yes this probably sounds too passive and that's what I need help with - being assertive and firm while minimizing the risk of violence. I definitely reported him to Uber afterwards though I'm doubtful it'll do anything.

There are other instances but this is already long enough. Every time, they continue to persist despite the language barrier.

Now I have a solo trip planned to Paris that I was looking forward to, but this is huge hang up for me. Ive been threatened with violence by men in the past so it truly sends me into a panic response when they refuse to accept the first no. I defaulted to polite rejections because that's how I avoided violent escalation back home, but that doesn't seem to work here. Any advice? I'm gonna have to take Ubers at some point and might be dealing with the same shit there.

I feel weird complaining about this to my friends who don't experience this similar burden. I don't have a huge pool of people to seek advice from.

An intelligent black girl is dangerous,

People fear Her, dread Her,

Tremble by the first letters of Her name. 

The ground She walks on crackles, splits, ruptures,

The touch of Her skin induces blisters, bubbles, sores.

Lighting and thunder are bent to Her will. 

Could anyone ever cross paths with an intelligent black girl,

Puffing up their chest, cocking their head,

Without being struck down by God Himself for the blatant disrespect of His Daughter?

No, one must not dare offend Her,

For Her intellect, Her prowess is unmatched.

Not even the greatest scholars can compete with Her. 

The intelligent black girl is destined to lead a nation,

Guide the masses, teach the underprivileged, nurture the weak.

She is the Mother of the world. 

If you are an intelligent black girl,

Harness your talent, learn your skills, sharpen your superpower

For a great privilege has been bestowed unto you.

For many are jealous of an intelligent black girl,

Many whisper behind Her back,

And mock Her aptness.

But do not heed these fools any mind,

For the simple sigh of an intelligent black girl,

Can uproot houses off their foundation. 

Intelligent black girls, I name You!

I call you by Your awesome and powerful names.

Go forth into the world and learn!

I am an intelligent black girl,

Y soy poderosa, contundente, feroz.

Pa gen anyen ki ka bloke desten mwen,

Na niko katika udhibiti kamili wa nafsi yangu na utawala wangu.

Akukho mntu unokundilinga, akukho namnye unokundikhohlisa,

And ain’t no one finna tell me a thing, you feel me?

I am an intelligent black girl,

And I am powerful, forceful, fierce,

Nothing can block my destiny,

And I am in full control of my soul and my rule. 

No one can tempt me, no one can deceive me,

And ain’t no one finna tell me a thing, you feel me?

Hey everyone!

Looking to get recommendations for a firearm for self defense.

I'm taking my safety course next week to apply for my conceal carry permit and want to get a head start with a firearm purchase.

I'd also take any advice about gun and personal safety as well.

For me its stretch marks, i dont make myself obsess about getting rid of them anymore.

I’m a special education teacher and I work closely with another special education teacher who is white.

Every week we do a breakfast cafe for the staff. The students in the self contained classrooms take orders and count money. At the end of the year we use the money we raise from breakfast cafe to sponsor a field trip for the students.

We were wrapping up and I mentioned to one of the students that I had a brother. The students asked me how old my brother was. I said “he’s 47.” I’m 35. There’s a 12-year gap between us, which isn’t uncommon in my family. There’s about a 10-12 year gap between several of my cousins and their older siblings.

My coworker heard this and said “What?!” I said nonchalantly, “yeah he’s 47.” She continued, “so how many years are between you two?” I replied “12 years and some change.” Again, it’s not a big deal to me. She ends with “wow, that’s crazy.” I didn’t know what else to say in this situation (I have social anxiety) so I just gave a halfhearted “yeah…” and moved on.

I’m just gonna drop it because I have more things to deal with at work but I just wanted to vent here. Her little comment didn’t sit right with me. Age gaps between siblings aren’t that uncommon! Even in white families!

In my mom’s case, she met my brother’s father and gave birth to my brother when she was very young. By the time I came into the picture, she had long since left my brother’s dad and had been married to my dad for five years. She was more established in her career and life.

People have kids young, get divorced/separate, remarry and have more kids. It’s a thing.

Her acting like it was the shock of the century felt like a microaggression. She’s mostly ok to work with but every so often she’ll say or do little things that make me side eye her.

Me: "don't believe the hype, black people really don't hate white people. As long as we see you "coo people" and you "fk with us" we will fk with you 💯 no matter what race. We low-key colorblind, and many of us just have self-hatred issues. YT friend: "okay lemme lace you up on game, don't believe the hype, yt ppl DO NOT like black ppl.. don't trust them, they are jealous of black people and will always be in competition with you."

I'm sitting here like "so do YOU hate black ppl too?" But I don't have the heart to ask lol

I’m 34 and we were starting family planning this year. However, I don’t feel safe to get pregnant during this administration (at least not if I stay in this country). I’m mourning the fact that I can’t look forward to baby planning right now.

I’m going to look into freezing my eggs, but I also have a lot of anxiety about being an older mother and wondering if I’m selfish for having my babies later in life and bringing them into this crazy world 😭

Is anyone else dealing with something similar?

First day of BHM and I was already yelling at yns. I'm a millennial and went to a gen z babyshower yesterday. It was clean up and time and these guys act like they don't see me and my cousin struggling. They were in the way, the pathway to the door. No one offered to open the door for us or take the items from us. So yes I went off on them. I said men and males but I should've said yns. And been more specific bc the men in attendance over 40 was very helpful. But them 20 y/o were useless. They mama's should've swallowed them. And I told them that I must be the only one with some dick and balls as I was doing most of the heavy lifting. My cousin is 20 and her and her bf friends were there. A lot of them. And they pissed me tf off. No manners and no chivalry.

Anyway, how do you guys plan on celebrating BHM?

I’ve been treated weird my entire life. It hasn’t been negative necessarily, but people are always intimidated by me for simply being a carefreee black woman and sometimes it gets me down, but this evening I had a revelation that my power scares people, and it really boosted my self-esteem. If you don’t like me because you’re a weak spirit, make room for the strong ones who really see me. Fuck yall lol.

This is a weekly post, as KhaleesiBubblegum first put it:

Got any secrets weighing you down?? or just a light confession?

No judging, no hate. Pure venting and support.

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Hey everyone,

This isn’t a complaint about Black men—I love them! But for context, I’m Black and White, and I’ve only ever dated Black men. The thing is, I’ve never been approached by a non-Black man or even casually flirted with by one.

I’m at a point where I’d love to broaden my dating experiences and see what’s out there. I’m not sure how to put myself in spaces where I’d meet them naturally.

For those of you who have dated interracially: • What has your experience been like? • Are there certain places or settings where you were more likely to meet men of different backgrounds? • Any tips for making myself more approachable to a wider range of people?

I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

I'm 32 , I have been dealing with deep loneliness for a while now atleast a full year. Fall 2023 my best friend of 10 years passed away and my world has been quiet. I've always been an introvert but that happening just made me even more closed off. Also being in a unfilled bare minimum relationship for the last 2 years also just made me feel even more lonely & unheard with him than when I was single... Now that it's just me again I'm trying to do things to curb the loneliness. So far it has been reading , learning Spanish and taking walks . Ladies who get lonely with no or little friends , don't have a big family or no romantic relationship what are things you do to cope , keep busy or just love on yourself in general? Even if its just crying in bed seriously. Thanks for listening💜

Let me preface by saying that I love my friends and they are very supportive and this post in no way is to disparage anything about them or their identities. Everyone knows that with being biracial there’s overlap with the black identity but more often than not they aren’t a 1:1 experience.

I have recently been reflecting on the fact that I am a fully black person who is stuck at a pwi and almost every other black person around me is multiracial, I’ve even reflected on my childhood and realized that the bulk of black identifying ppl around me are mixed. It’s to the point that non-black people have assumed I had to have a non-black parent just because I went to school with them and nothing else.

I was watching the trailer for a new movie called forever that features two monoracial black people in the lead roles and I felt so excited and wanted to share it with someone else but I realized I truly had no one to talk to about how exciting this felt

My friends care about these things and especially representation but imo its one thing to care and another to actually feel the lack of representation of monoracial people and realize that the person who isn’t being represented is yourself not them.

I am sure if I talked to them about the movie they would be excited and cheer for monoracial representation but at the same time there is that degree of separation.

My friends and I have actually had conversations on this about how we can experience a similar concept but have the reasoning behind why we are having these experiences be different

For example: not being seen as black,

-I may get this reaction because people have a very narrow concept of how black people can express themselves

-where as they may get it for not having a black parent and in return either seen as not black by people who cling to their other side or fetishized for it

But at the same time we can relate on something like being called a dei hire, Being the only bipoc person in a class, people feeling comfortable expressing racism because they don’t actually see you as part of the black community, not being able to find people who actually know how to do our hair/braid prices

I just needed to rant for second

I'm planning to travel more this year and have taken five days off in March for my first solo trip. I'm looking for destination recommendations that would be great for a 29-year-old solo traveler. I'd love suggestions for restaurants, museums, and any events happening during that time. Preferably in the States, I'm not ready to do international travel alone but y'all can still drop them below.

I (21f) have had not so much good luck when men. After therapy and doing the hard work it’s hard for me to find a decent guy bc a bunch of them are red flags to me. My standards are someone who’s emotionally intelligent, doesn’t have a crazy overbearing mom, smart, in school or has a job, kind, generous, is dating for a relationship, likes to travel, giving, is a Democrat (sorry no trumpies) and empathetic. My sister tells me that I expect too much from guys my age. My mom tells me that I’m too young for a boyfriend and that I should date many men. Don’t get serious until I’m at least 25…Is the problem just me?