I feel so fucking disgusted and violated and I’m sobbing because I don’t even know how to feel.

I’m 22F, an only child, I have a full time job and my mom was looking through my messages. I feel so uncomfortable because there were convos with my boyfriend, messages from my Birth Control prescription (she has no idea about this), and then my friends and some other convos about apartment hunting (and she doesn’t want me to move out). I caught her looking through my phone and when I confronted her she said she was trying to find the App Store. It was right in front of her, so I decided to look through my app history and saw that she scrolled through my convos. Immediately I felt so pissed that I stormed up to my room without a word. When I went back downstairs I told her not to look through my phone because it makes me uncomfortable.

Then the screaming match began with her screaming over me and saying stupid shit like “it’s not a big deal!! I’m the mother I can look through your phone!!” And other horrible things. I felt so violated and helpless because those were things that should have remained private to me and she just rummaged through it. Then she started yelling even more and saying to get out of the house and how the world is gonna backstab me and teach me a lesson. I had to hold my tears back in agony and I decided to calmly speak with her and tell her that if she wants to look through my phone she needs to ask me first.

That did not settle it. Because after she reluctantly said “I’m sorry as always” she continued to curse her life and say things that hurt me. I feel like it’s so ironic because I’ve always been a good kid, got amazing grades, always listened and never gave my parents trouble. It’s only until recently that I’ve wanted to make my own decisions like learning to drive, being with my boyfriend, and becoming sexually active. I’m not an irresponsible person, but I deserve some say in my life after being controlled for so long. But my mother does not see this the same way - she still thinks I’m a stupid child. And she texted the group chat saying we have lost her and not to speak to her.

The worst part was I decided today I’ll forgive her for everything and try to make peace and this just set me back so much. I feel guilty that I hid my life from her, but I think at this age I deserve some privacy too. And autonomy to make my own decisions. I just don’t know I’m a mess and I feel so vulnerable and gross.

Hey guys, super random question but apparently bowing is a sign of respect in Asia and the lower you bow the more respect you convey.

In a corporate setting if say the client was Asian as in they flew from China into the office and I entered the room, would it be appropriate for me to bow?

I want to be super respectful but don’t want to do some shit that looks dumb and makes me look as if im trying too hard.

I’m south East Asian so the stuff we do is completely different.

Seeing it everywhere on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, etc.

Usually Korean too.

https://youtube.com/shorts/XknLlC_wXmM?si=9q595EV7RkF6vwi1

https://youtube.com/@juneofdasha?si=ftx8ecnx_kOVRDMQ

https://youtube.com/@jinandhattie?si=3uWA_oOkfYVa1UFy

https://youtu.be/42mzK-5e7Tk?si=YV9M1AW4X5RMdoGj

https://youtube.com/@JayNastya?si=YBit7YD6JZUtpl2a

https://youtube.com/@Sasha-Jay?si=0cIkzl6k0rS0GFyB

https://youtube.com/@familee6729?si=GNhDg8uzGkoZQHDJ

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLaTjj6d/

https://www.tiktok.com/@pernilletorhov_?_t=8lmlnS5bS9b&_r=1

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLmyxqeL/

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLmyA8rL/

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLmyoaTN/

I’m in Oklahoma City, and a popular local brewer made a rice lager with this rice, and I have absolutely no idea what it means, but it seems awfully important.

Hello friends! I found a pair of very beautiful Chinese ancestor portraits in an antique shop and I bought them because my husband and I love and appreciate Chinese culture so much. I always want to be as respectful as I can to other cultures and am wondering if it would be looked upon harshly to display these in my house even though I am not Chinese?

I was born with a syndrome that made it to where I don't grow hair on my legs or arms. I don't know any Asians to ask, so I hope you're willing to help me. I do have armpit hair and pubic hair, and of course head hair.

I really like the look of these conical hats from Kavu, but if there is a brand out there that's actually run by asian folks I'd like to give them my money instead. I'm looking for ones made with a similar kind of of foam/fabric combo (not the traditional woven kind).

https://kavu.com/products/chillba?variant=32110509228103

I am from India and even though my country has experienced rapid growth in the past 2 decades and there have been massive improvements in major sectors - Indian cities don't look as clean, pristine, organized and aesthetically appealing as Japanese cities.

What can India do make its urban space more neat and clean, energy-efficient and environmentally-friendly, like Japan?

Hi,

I am an Asian studying in an English speaking European university.

Today, there was a module feedback discussion on one of my class modules. The subject is regarded by many as pretty poorly run. Many students and the course coordinator were in the room to discuss any complaints/suggestions, and what could be done.

The class is generally well split between nationalities. I would say 40% Asians , 50% Europeans 10% Others.

In this discussion today, the majority were Europeans/Locals who voiced their opinions about any weaknesses of the module . There appeared quite confident and were unafraid to voice their viewpoints. And the course coordinator was willing to engage in it. Like it gave me the vibes the Europeans were willing to stand up to injustice very fiercely.

I felt like it such a healthy engagement for close to an hour.

Only 1/10 times issues raised was an Asian who was willing to voice their opinion.

I wonder if its an Asian thing where Asian may be more unconfident to ask for their needs.

For me, that's what I feel. I regularly feel like my needs are silly, and I am not confident.

If I want to find any root reason from childhood, when I young my AP always shun me down I guess... I cannot give opinion or I will be scolded...

But this discussion we had in the class today was good food for thought to reflect on life, and improve myself

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/s/BKbq8Ku0vF

Eyes rolling to the back of my head. Are white people really that dumb and racist?

I have British friends but no other mixed or native Japanese friends in the same country as me now. Sometimes I just want people to laugh at my 2000s j-culture references or wax lyrical about nat-toast w/ kewpie I'm not mad into anime or anything, I just watched whatever was on TV at the time in Japan and knows a few odd quirky titles. I guess I'm missing that connection of people that understand what honne and tatemae are, why does the number of tangerines in the bowl in top of the low table at grandmas never ever decrease? And how do you cope when your British friends come in and don't take their shoes off, or worse, they ask if they should and you can't respond because in Japanese noone asks, people just do, and to say yes makes it awkward and to say no isn't normal 🤣🤣🤣 I want to bond over these silly things bilingually.

So I think many people in the west have heard about the 4B movement and Koreas low birth rate. It's almost everywhere online and as a Korean woman in Korea, I thought I'd share my thoughts on this subject.

So first, the 4B movement was first brought to my attention by a Korean American woman on tiktok. I started to see more videos about the subject more and more even on other social media sights, and, well... The 4B movement is sorta the equivalent of a small 'sub reddit' that happened to go viral in the west. I've not heard a single person nor have I seen a single news article in Korea talking about the movement. I am very curious to see if it'll continue to blow up in the west.

The low birth rate is because the work hours are long for most people, people don't get paid enough and even people who do get paid enough simply just don't want kids. Why have kids when you can just spend your free time with your partner and a couple pets? There's so much to do and explore within Korea and in neighboring countries. So many people are opting to spend their money and time traveling or pampering themselves instead of raising babies.

The rampant misogyny. It's not a secret that many Korean men are extremely misogynistic and even see the word 'feminism' as a slur... but there are also MANY MORE Korean men who are not misogynistic. Koreans aren't a monolith. There are many wonderful men and women here and it's so exhausting seeing people generalize the entire country. People have gotten way too comfortable slandering Koreans, and asians in general and I think asians aren't doing nearly enough to call these people out. If anything, I see more asians being the reason for spreading most of the hate than anything.

I hope I worded this properly. Feel free to ask questions or state your opinion on this matter, especially if you're an asian women. I'm curious to hear you alls thoughts.

*Also, I don't intend to be a "pick-me" nor to offend anyone. I've gotten backlash before for saying these things on other forums so I had to delete my posts. I just thought I'd share my take on this subject.☺️

I’m a 23 yr old Indian girl and I recently graduated from college. Originally, I wanted to go for healthcare but ended up failing because my grades weren’t as competitive as the other applicants. It’s been a year since I graduated and my degree honestly means nothing unless I go to physical therapy school. Now as an Asian, I feel like I failed? I’ve been working part-time and no one wants to hire me for a full time job like HR. My brother and cousins are all successful, going to medical school or working in a major company. I know I shouldn’t feel like this, but I just feel “less Asian”, if that makes sense.

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My bf(27)’s sister(40)’s husband (45) is white. We’re Asian. The first time I met the husband, he made a joke about how he was visiting an Asian country and the Asian women there were all over him. Weird or no? Am I being too analytical here?

Silly title, but lately I've started doing makeup to enhance my Asian features (I'm mixed race) instead of what I used to do, which was makeup that goes against my natural features to look more "white". For reference, I have mixed features. "Asian" features: epicanthic fold, round nose, high but full cheekbones, soft chin, yellow/bronze skin tone in summer even with little sun exposure "European" features: hollow cheeks, sharp jaw, prominent brow, light skin tone in winter.

I've got to the point where I'm sick of putting in so much effort to look more white, drawing on a fake eyelid, making my nose pointy with contour etc. But the problem I have is that people seem to take issue with me acknowledging that I'm part Asian, as if I'm not Asian enough to participate unless I'm pure blooded.

I've started to use more Asian makeup styles and in doing so, people are now surprised and people have implied that I'm appropriating (my own) culture and that I'm "Asian fishing" despite literally being part Asian and the fact that Asian makeup techniques are the easiest and most flattering for me.

I personally don't care what others think (especially white ppl who shouldn't be talking about it anyway), I'm proud of my heritage on both sides, but apparently it's wrong for me to acknowledge that I'm Asian.

TLDR: is it ok for mixed Asian people to wear makeup that accentuates their Asian features they already have, or is that somehow inappropriate?

When I was a little girl I had a small slender V shaped face like my mother who was a gorgeous movie star. I looked more like her then. However at the age of 12 my whole head shape started to change to be like my father's side with a bigger face and square jaw. I also got their small eyes. My mother had large beautiful cat eyes. She looked like an Asian Elizabeth Taylor. She was so upset about my face changing shape and I could tell she wished I had bigger eyes even though she didn't say much about it. Even though I'm Chinese American, I'm still influenced by Asian beauty standards. I know I can't change anything (I'm not open to plastic surgery), but just wanted to vent.