I was feeling some constant pulsating pain in my fingers for the past few days. Decided to take a sugar test and the result horrified the nurse. I am 33. Doctor comes at around 5 pm and I can't wait to see him.

Hello Everybody!

This is just a rant. Just wanted to share it with somebody, because it seems nobody in my family understands me. Being the oldest son, I am frustrated and feel burdened with the constant demand of money from my parents every now and then for something or the other. I'm working my ass off and I'm unable to save any money for my future or retirement, due to financial burden.

My father is retired and he gets a monthly pension of 25K. But he spends like he's still earning 80K from his old job. He has a habit of spending first, and asking me for money later. My mother is the same, spending money on useless stuff every now and then. When I say that I don't have money, they become sad and treat me like I did some crime and I'm not their son anymore. They say stuffs like, my father took care of me and paid for my education, and now I'm unfilial if I don't help them when they need money. My father is like:

"Oh! My phone is too slow now. Buy me a new phone."

"Oh! I need to pay for my insurance, but I don't have money now because we went on Vaishno Devi trip last money and ended up spending more than expected. So help me this month".

"Oh! I want to go to Maha Kumbh in Prayagraj because all my friends are going because it's a once in lifetime opportunity. Give me some money."

"We need new water filter in home. Look at reviews for some water filters on Amazon and order which you think is best."

"Our scooty needs servicing. Take it and have it serviced. (obviously I need to pay too)"

These are just couple examples. The need and demand for money is constant. I'm now 33 years old and single and I have almost zero savings. Whenever I save a bit of money to either buy something that I need or want or just to invest, there comes a demand for money.

Earlier, I had a saving of around 7 Lakhs. But all that money was spent within a year doing the interior decoration of our new home that my father bought after his retirement. His logic was "I'm retired now, I cannot afford to spend too much. So help me with just 3-4 Lakhs." But by the time the interior decoration of our home was completed, I ended up spending 7 Lakhs.

My younger brother (26 years old) also is working in Accenture and earns about 50K per month. But he too has zero savings of his own. He spends all his money on luxuries (buying iPhone, eating out everyday, enjoying with friends, or spending on the girl that he has a crush on, etc.) and doesn't help my parents. Whenever there is a need of money, my brother flat out says that he doesn't have it. My parents knows my brother's spending habit, and I'm known to spend frugally. Hence the demand of money is always from me. When I say that my parents should ask my brother because I'm don't have too much money this month, my mother starts defending my brother saying "You know, how it is. Your brother doesn't have money. He needs to pay rent, has EMI to pay for his iPhone, need to purchase a bike soon to commute to work, etc. You don't have to do all these as you work from home, so please give us money."

I'm frustrated and I don't know what to do. I've tried talking with my parents and asked them to spend less and within their means because they are retired now, but they just don't get it. They say that they are only spending on necessities, and I'm like "Yeah! Going to Maha Kumbh and Vaishno Devi is spending money on necessities, right?" "Buying a 5000 rupees showpiece to decorate new home, is spending on necessities, right?" "Spending 30K on having a CCTV installed in home without asking me, even though we live in a gated society, is spending on necessities, right?"

Just thinking about my future is giving me anxiety. It feels like, I'm one emergency away from going bankrupt. I want to be able to buy my own home someday, but even a 1BHK home seems unaffordable and will be forever unachievable for me. I'm trying to get salary hike, and also looking to switch to a different company for a better pay, but it's not going great.

Life sucks for me.

As you guys would’ve heard about the Atul Subash case. I wanted to draw light upon the similar incident we as a family are facing on a regular basis at home from the past 15 years. My uncle(mamu) brilliant guy did his Btech(IIT Kharagpur) MBA (Harvard). Was at once handling 33 countries at Yahoo back in 2008-09. He married this girl in 2008. Girl was of Noida. Has 2 daughters with her. They after marriage were living in Bangalore. The girl ran away from home took all the property papers. We came to know about the 2nd child later on. Wouldn’t let my mamu meet his children. He literally pleaded her in front of her family. Filed a fake case against my family that they used to beat her and ask for money. Everything fake. Hacked into our income tax records to know our property. Demands 4Cr. My mamu left his job 8-9 years back. In his words he said ,’kya fayda iss paise ka’. Nanaji and mamu used to go to noida from Chandigarh(out home city) for every single case hearing. The distance roughly is 300km one way. Mind that they did this for every hearing and most times when they arrived there the hearing was cancelled. The girl’s father is retired army officer. They judge ordered monthly maintainence charges although my mamu is jobless. Both nana-nani suffered heart attacks and has to go bypass 2 times. Nani is diabetic too. They developed these as a result of increased stress. Few days back the girl’s father gave bribes to delhi police and they came all the way to Chandigarh and arrested my nanu without any warrant. We told them that he was a heart patient and let him carry his medications and please cooperate but all in vain and was driven to delhi and locked up for the night. Call it harassment. We told the judge. Again all in vain. The girl and her dad secretly paid out lawyer which we were too late to notice . They even bribed every judge that was on the case. All results in their favour. We are still fighting that case 15 years later. Through my eyes you can see my family suffering every single day, the pain of my grandparents, the whole tension in the house, all the craze for the festivals is gone and everyone is just waiting for the day when it’ll be finally over. I just want my old family back where we celebrated festivals with fun, where i can wait for my mamu bringing gifts whenever he goes abroad for work, where we as a family go to drop him to delhi airport for his flight, where he is happily married, where my grandparents are finally living not just for the sake of it, where they don’t have to worry about the police coming again,where we live as a normal family which has done nothing wrong but just living how the circumstances prevail. Thank you for listening everyone. Each and every part above written is true.

Update- Again an arrest warrant has been issued against my mamu for not paying monthly maintainence. Our latest lawyer is also compromised. The girl has a well paying job at NIFT noida as a lecturer. She is living with her jiju. We suspect there’s a relationship as her sister is dead.

1.free from the time-sucking black hole of bad dialogue and unnecessary slow-motion shots,soul-crushing experience of watching a predictable plot, a dance number that feels as fresh as last year's leftovers, I’ve found something remarkable: time. Actual, unclaimed, untroubled time.

2.Bollywood movies, if nothing else, are LOUD. It’s as if someone had a bet to see who could make the most exaggerated sound effects and rattle your eardrums the most. Music blaring at all hours, villainous laughs echoing through the screen, and dun-dun-dun moments happening like clockwork. It's a miracle the buildings don’t collapse with all the noise. But two years of silence and quiet contemplation have made me realize: I don’t miss the noise. Now, when I hear a Bollywood song playing in the distance, I’m not flooded with joy; instead, I feel a deep, existential peace knowing I’ve transcended this auditory chaos. My ears have been liberated. And the best part? I can actually hear myself think.

3.The Intellectual Renaissance I Didn’t Know I Was Missing. Bollywood, bless its heart, has an unfortunate obsession with over-the-top drama, eye-roll-worthy “twists,” and plot lines that make a toddler’s crayon drawings look like Da Vinci sketches. But when I stopped feeding into that cinematic junk food, something incredible happened—I stumbled into the world of books. Real books. They don’t explode every five minutes or rely on the mystical powers of an actor’s hair to keep you engaged. Even watching grass grow provided me with more intellectual stimulation than some of the movies I sat through.

4.I’ve stumbled upon diverse cinema from all around the world—a world where the storylines are unpredictable, characters are complex, and no one, I repeat, no one, randomly bursts into song while walking through a field of daisies. What a revelation.

5. Now, the interesting part. The Bollywood industry, oh how it loves its celebrity obsession. Forget plot, forget acting—what truly matters is how many Instagram followers the lead actor has, or how many times they can post the same picture in a designer outfit. And then there’s the nepotism. We all know it’s like the secret ingredient in every Bollywood movie—every hero and heroine’s parents just happen to be famous.

6.now, without Bollywood weighing me down, I find my conversations are filled with substance. We talk about books, and history, and even the nature of the universe.

So, two years without Bollywood movies. Honestly, it’s been life-changing. No more annoying plot twists, no more cookie-cutter love stories, no more ear-splitting music numbers.

How many people are here who last watched bollywood movie years ago?

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Everytime you call a number, I am sure (at least for people in NCR) You get an automated voice message that warns you about the current ways scammers are trying to scam you and you should call Cyber Crime Helpline for assistance, etc etc.

While this message is definitely important and should be heard by people everyday to get reminded. It would be great if it was only something that comes once every 24 hours. Not every single call. What if I am in a medical emergency or someone in my family is on 1? I am going to be frantically making calls everywhere and I am losing 25 seconds of time PER CALL, hearing this repeated voice note from the government, and this happens BEFORE THE OTHER PERSON'S PHONE EVEN STARTS RINGING.

Either make this automated voice note a part of a caller autotune, or make it a once in every 24 hours thing. Why is this and many other telecom automated voice notes something that comes everytime you make a call and also something that happens before your call even starts connecting to the person you are trying to call???