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Whether your first child or children came without intervention, you struggled to conceive, or you experienced pregnancy loss, this is a place to discuss the hurdles that come with secondary infertility.

Whether your first child or children came without intervention, you struggled to conceive, or you experienced pregnancy loss, this is a place to discuss the hurdles that come with secondary infertility.

Secondary infertility refers to the inability to become pregnant, or to carry a pregnancy to term, following the birth of one or more biological children.

Everyone with secondary infertility is welcome here. Also, you don't have to be experiencing secondary infertility to post pictures, questions, or articles. Please check out the rules, pinned READ ME, and the Wiki with FAQs to better get to know the community.

Some guidelines to consider while you're here, borrowed from a sister community, /r/infertility:

Infertility is stressful, and treatment is jam-packed with crazy-making hormones. Sometimes, it's easier to step on peoples' toes than you would expect. Please consider the probable emotional state of other members before taking offense or causing it.

Infertility is isolating, but here we can come together with the only other people in the world who really understand what we're going through. For that reason, you'll find that members often vent the jealousy and bitterness that is unacceptable anywhere else. Most of us can understand and empathize, but if you can't, don't bother trying to change it. It is what it is.

Infertility is not cute and full of numerous medical acronyms. For these reasons, many members find cutesy acronyms to be needlessly confusing and sometimes offensive. Use cutesy acronyms at your own risk.

Secondary infertility fucking sucks - expect some cursing.

So, feel free to share, tell, and vent, but remember to be kind to others here; secondary infertility is often complicated, isolating, and very painful.

/r/SecondaryInfertility

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Weekly Secondary Infertility Meme Thread

Have a meme/GIF/image too good not to share? Looking for some fun with internet pictures? This is the thread you've been waiting for! A few ground rules:

  1. You must follow all rules and general culture of the sub as usual
  2. Use common sense about what you post and remember your audience here
  3. Links for memes, images, and GIFs only - no text-only submissions (comments to submissions are fine)
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2024/11/30
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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Saturday, November 30, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/30
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Saturday, November 30, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/30
11:00 UTC

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After Secondary Infertility Thread - Friday, November 29, 2024

Just because you have a successful pregnancy doesn't mean that the effects of secondary infertility go away, and sometimes it is nice to connect with others who know the struggle you went through, even after success. This thread is intended for people who have successful pregnancies and births after struggling with secondary infertility while TTC. Please use this thread and not non-pregnancy/success threads (e.g., Daily Chat, NonTTC Thread) for support with your pregnancy and/or for support or discussions related to the effects of secondary infertility after your child's birth.

Note: This is a recurring thread that comes out every week on Fridays. All are welcome to participate here.

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2024/11/29
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Friday, November 29, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/29
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Friday, November 29, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/29
11:00 UTC

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Weekly Moving Forward Thread - Thursday, November 28, 2024

This is space is dedicated to members who have officially ended, or are seriously considering ending, their journeys of adding to their families without having success and are looking for advice and support. All members of the sub can contribute here to make this thread a place to validate those in this difficult space while they explore grieving and making peace with moving forward.

You can also check out our sister sub, r/BeyondSI, that is a dedicated subreddit for people in the Moving Forward place.

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2024/11/28
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Thursday, November 28, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/28
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Thursday, November 28, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/28
11:00 UTC

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Weekly Miscarriage, Loss, and RPL Thread - Wednesday, November 27, 2024

Going through a miscarriage? Suffered a chemical pregnancy, pregnancy loss, or stillbirth? Have a RPL diagnosis? Anything to do with miscarriage and loss can be explored in this thread.

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2024/11/27
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Wednesday, November 27, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/27
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Wednesday, November 27, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/27
11:00 UTC

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Secondary Infertility Long Hauler Thread - Tuesday, November 26, 2024

This space is dedicated to help support the secondary infertility long haulers. We believe strongly in this sub that no one's pain is more important than another's, but there are nuances to the compounded grief of secondary, especially when trying for years or after multiple failed rounds of treatment.

In this sub, long haulers are people who have been trying for another for at least 18 months without success. Testing and treatment aren't requirements, and all are welcome to offer support to these members.

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2024/11/26
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Tuesday, November 26, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/26
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Tuesday, November 26, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/26
11:00 UTC

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Weekly Pregnancy Thread - Monday, November 25, 2024

All pregnancy content goes here. This includes: Positive pregnancy test results, betas, ultrasound results, birth announcements, and anything else pertaining to the state of being pregnant.

This also includes pregnancy content related to secondary infertility (miscarriage/loss related, low/slow-rising betas, ultrasound measuring behind, complications from ART treatment affecting pregnancy, dealing with age gap, etc.). We also have a thread called After Secondary Infertility that is intended for people who have successful pregnancies/births after struggling with secondary infertility while TTC.

Please note: This thread is intended for active and contributing members only. Most of our members are struggling to get pregnant, so try to make sure your presence in this community isn't only about your pregnancy.

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2024/11/25
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Monday, November 25, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/25
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Monday, November 25, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/25
11:00 UTC

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Secondary Infertility Intros - Sunday, November 24, 2024

New to r/SecondaryInfertility? Want to come out of lurking? Welcome, and introduce yourself here! (If you haven't added user flair yet, here's how to do that.)

Note: This is a weekly post that renews every Sunday.

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2024/11/24
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Sunday, November 24, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

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2024/11/24
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Sunday, November 24, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/24
11:00 UTC

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Weekly Secondary Infertility Meme Thread

Have a meme/GIF/image too good not to share? Looking for some fun with internet pictures? This is the thread you've been waiting for! A few ground rules:

  1. You must follow all rules and general culture of the sub as usual
  2. Use common sense about what you post and remember your audience here
  3. Links for memes, images, and GIFs only - no text-only submissions (comments to submissions are fine)
10 Comments
2024/11/23
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Saturday, November 23, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

9 Comments
2024/11/23
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Saturday, November 23, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/23
11:00 UTC

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After Secondary Infertility Thread - Friday, November 22, 2024

Just because you have a successful pregnancy doesn't mean that the effects of secondary infertility go away, and sometimes it is nice to connect with others who know the struggle you went through, even after success. This thread is intended for people who have successful pregnancies and births after struggling with secondary infertility while TTC. Please use this thread and not non-pregnancy/success threads (e.g., Daily Chat, NonTTC Thread) for support with your pregnancy and/or for support or discussions related to the effects of secondary infertility after your child's birth.

Note: This is a recurring thread that comes out every week on Fridays. All are welcome to participate here.

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2024/11/22
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Friday, November 22, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

75 Comments
2024/11/22
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Friday, November 22, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

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2024/11/22
11:00 UTC

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Weekly Moving Forward Thread - Thursday, November 21, 2024

This is space is dedicated to members who have officially ended, or are seriously considering ending, their journeys of adding to their families without having success and are looking for advice and support. All members of the sub can contribute here to make this thread a place to validate those in this difficult space while they explore grieving and making peace with moving forward.

You can also check out our sister sub, r/BeyondSI, that is a dedicated subreddit for people in the Moving Forward place.

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2024/11/21
11:00 UTC

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Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Thursday, November 21, 2024

What's going on with your trying to conceive efforts today? Started treatment or have an update? Question about a test you're scheduled for or need to vent about disappointing results? Whatever you have on your mind about TTC, let us know!

(If your post does not have anything directly related to TTC, check out our other daily - the Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread.)

36 Comments
2024/11/21
11:00 UTC

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Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Thursday, November 21, 2024

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

12 Comments
2024/11/21
11:00 UTC

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