/r/PregnancyAfterLoss

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This sub is for people who are pregnant after any type of pregnancy or infant loss.

At PAL, the daily and weekly threads act like the main sub in other subreddits: nearly everything gets posted there. Standalone posts require mod approval (and will have a delay). Details about how to participate are in our Rules and FAQ.

Who we are:

This sub is for people who are pregnant after any type of pregnancy or infant loss.

Many of our members come here from r/ttcafterloss.

Pregnancy after loss is a special kind of hard and this sub is an area where you will find other people going through it, too. Here you can share your anxiety, your worries, your grief, your milestones, and your joy throughout PAL. Many people who have experienced loss struggle to enjoy their specific bumpers sub, but here everyone has experienced loss, too.

New members:

Please review the rules before posting.

While not mandatory, introduction posts are encouraged in order for us to get to know you and your story.

What are the daily/weekly threads?

The Intro Thread is a weekly thread to announce your pregnancy and introduce yourself.

The Daily Thread #1 is posted in the morning, for general discussion.

The Daily Thread # 2 is posted later in the day, for general discussion.

Feel free to post in both AM and PM, they are separated just to give people more space to talk, for later in the day updates, and for different time zones.

Common Acronyms: r/BabyBumps version

Common Acronyms: r/ttcafterloss version

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Rainbow baby girl’s arrival

Wanted to join in on posting when baby got here but I forgot lol. After a 9 week loss in October 2023, our sweet baby girl was born on Halloween via a scheduled C-section that was so much better than my first. We and everyone else are obsessed with her! She is also the first girl in the family on both sides so it’s extra special. 💜

(Fun facts our loss was 10/30/2023, my due date was 10/29, and was born on 10/31/24🎃)

0 Comments
2024/12/01
06:54 UTC

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Weekly Introductions Thread - December 01, 2024

This thread is for new members who are now pregnant after a previous pregnancy or baby loss.

Please introduce yourself, tell us about your TTC/loss journey, and give us details on your new pregnancy. Share your line porn if you want!

If you're new to this sub, or are rejoining us after some time away, please see our Welcome post to familiarize yourself with how our sub works.

0 Comments
2024/12/01
07:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - December 01, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

3 Comments
2024/12/01
05:00 UTC

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Cerclage and squatting

I lost my first baby at 25 weeks due to infection and cervical incompetency. I am now pregnant with my rainbow baby and doctor gave me cervical stitch at 16 weeks. I am 18 weeks now . I sometimes squat mildly to wipe myself after toilet. Can squatting affect the stitches. I am panicking about it since yesterday as I watched the video on YouTube and doctor said that there shouldn’t be any squatting post cerclage. I am on bed all the time except when I use toilet or eat my meals.

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2024/11/30
21:40 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 30, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

68 Comments
2024/11/30
17:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 30, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

80 Comments
2024/11/30
05:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 29, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

75 Comments
2024/11/29
17:00 UTC

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Weekly r/ttcafterloss Q&A and Check ins! - November 29, 2024

**Please remember to stop by r/ttcafterloss to give updates on how things are going in the Alumni Check-In Thread and to answer questions in the Ask an Alumni thread! **

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2024/11/29
07:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 29, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

35 Comments
2024/11/29
05:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 28, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

44 Comments
2024/11/28
17:00 UTC

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Our triple rainbow is here!

After 3 devastating losses in the last 2 years, our rainbow Wyatt Matthew is finally here! He was born 11/20 weighing in at 7lb 10oz and 19” long.

He was born with a cleft lip and palate so he is still in the hospital but thankfully the only issues we’re having so far are figuring out the best way to feed for his anatomy. Otherwise he is perfectly healthy and thriving and thankfully he is not in the NICU, just a regular room at the children’s hospital.

We are so in love and so relieved to have finally made it.

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2024/11/28
04:44 UTC

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Grief and Memorial - November 28, 2024

A new pregnancy doesn't mean we forget the babies we've lost. This weekly Thursday thread is for all members to talk about their grief. Looking for support? Just need to share some memories? This is the place for you!

23 Comments
2024/11/28
07:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 28, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

28 Comments
2024/11/28
05:00 UTC

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Our Rainbow is Here! 🌈

Our rainbow baby, Iris Adeline, was born 11/24 weighing 8 lbs 1.5 oz and measuring 20 1/2 inches. We are all so happy and relieved. My husband and I sobbed as soon as she was out and crying. I think I, personally, have felt a million things since her arrival!

She was born at the same hospital big sister Clara was last year. Much of the staff remembered Clara with a few telling us how she held a special place in their hearts, too. We will always remember and love Clara while also celebrating Iris. ❤️

We are all over the moon. I pray everyone here gets to experience the multitude of joy a rainbow baby brings!

26 Comments
2024/11/27
18:36 UTC

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My rainbow is here 💜❤️‍🩹

After an almost 30 week loss last year with my daughter we have welcomed her little sister Clara into the world last week. She was early and did not want to miss Thanksgiving. So grateful but oh so anxious.

35 Comments
2024/11/27
17:22 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 27, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

72 Comments
2024/11/27
17:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 27, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

48 Comments
2024/11/27
05:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 26, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

108 Comments
2024/11/26
17:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 26, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

88 Comments
2024/11/26
05:00 UTC

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Ask an Alumni - November 25, 2024

This weekly Monday thread is for members to ask questions of ttcal Alumni (members who are currently pregnant after loss or who have had a pregnancy after loss that resulted in a living child).

2 Comments
2024/11/25
18:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 25, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

64 Comments
2024/11/25
17:00 UTC

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Weekly Pregnancy Limbo/Concerns - November 25, 2024

We created this space to share pregnancy concerns like:

- Beta HCGs that seem low or might not be doubling appropriately

- Concerning ultrasound findings

- Bleeding issues

- Etc

These posts are welcome in our Daily Thread, but this is a specific area to discuss limbo and concerns.

Lets all remember HCG averages, too!
- Under 1,200 mIU/ml: <72 Hours

- 1200-6000 mIU/ml: Between 72 and 96 Hours is average, so <96 is good

- Over 6,000 mIU/ml: >96 Hours is normal, with no known average (so varied)

21 Comments
2024/11/25
11:01 UTC

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My Rainbow Baby is Here

After my loss in January, we finally have our sweet boy Finn! He was born November 3rd (3 days before his daddy's birthday!), I went into labor naturally a few hours before my scheduled induction which was pretty neat lol. It was a wonderful labor despite the epidural failing on me at the end, and I managed to push him out in five minutes! He's such a blessing and I remind myself that if I hadn't experienced my loss in January, I wouldn't have this specific sweet little boy. I'm so grateful that he's here and I hope everyone gets their sweet rainbow babies!

13 Comments
2024/11/25
06:29 UTC

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Self Care Weekly Thread - November 25, 2024

This weekly Monday thread is for members to share what they've been doing to care for themselves. How are you handling your PAL anxieties? Or just regular life/pregnancy self care. Share here!

3 Comments
2024/11/25
07:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 25, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

59 Comments
2024/11/25
05:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 24, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

87 Comments
2024/11/24
17:00 UTC

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Success!

It’s 3am in the Midwest and I am staring at my hours-old daughter through her cot in the hospital. I should sleep but how can I close my eyes on this dream come true?!

I had infertility issues throughout my first marriage and never fell pregnant in over a decade of trying. A few years after my divorce my current partner and I became pregnant despite using birth control, but sadly we found out it was a blighted ovum at 8 weeks. Two years later (while actively trying) we became pregnant again but had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. That was absolutely devastating and included a D&C that became an antibiotic-resistant uterine infection. I had a chemical pregnancy in December of that same year and felt absolutely broken.

I got a positive pregnancy test at 8DPO in February after my losses and spent the first trimester in absolutely disbelief. Every bathroom trip was an agony in case I saw blood, and I had so little trust in my body. Little one kept going though, and after a very physically easy pregnancy I opted for an induction at 40w1d when my fluid showed as low.

Over 30 hours of cytotec/pitocin induced labor later and I had minimal progress. We tried so many interventions but baby wasn’t interested. Her heart rate started rising and we made the difficult choice to do a c-section. I was particularly gutted because I wanted to be able to do skin-to-skin right away and all kinds of other good-for-baby things. Instead her dad saw her and held her first while I was being sewn up, and took photos of her to show me as she was whisked off to be assessed. Nothing went to plan! And here I am, floored at how absolutely lucky I am to have my daughter here after so much heartache. We have had all our sweet moments, just not on my particular timeline.

This sub was such an integral part of this pregnancy and I want to thank everyone who takes time to read, comment, and commiserate with others here. I love this community!

16 Comments
2024/11/24
08:19 UTC

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Weekly Introductions Thread - November 24, 2024

This thread is for new members who are now pregnant after a previous pregnancy or baby loss.

Please introduce yourself, tell us about your TTC/loss journey, and give us details on your new pregnancy. Share your line porn if you want!

If you're new to this sub, or are rejoining us after some time away, please see our Welcome post to familiarize yourself with how our sub works.

13 Comments
2024/11/24
07:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #1 - November 24, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

62 Comments
2024/11/24
05:00 UTC

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Daily Thread #2 - November 23, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements. Thanks for helping us create a great community.

55 Comments
2024/11/23
17:00 UTC

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