Hi, I’m 30 M south east asian living with my partner. We are a gay couple who lived together for quite sometime.

Context:

Before we moved in together I already learned that my partner who is white had a particularly tough time growing up as a gay person in rural Belgian village, so he knows how it feels personally to be marginalized based on who you are, informally denied access to opportunities , physically and mentally abused, excluded from his own people who are predominantly also white. Luckily his family accepts him which is not a common thing if you are born in the 80s so he grew up only with his close family and few friends until his early 20s. So in short, he knows how it is to be discriminated and marginalized in a different context.

The present day:

I recently observed that

1. He particularly doesn’t enjoy when people are joking about white people like ”these white people 🤦🏽‍♂️” kind of jokes because he doesn’t want to be associated with them as he doesn’t relate to their racist behavior. But he can’t because he is born white skinned, so he has to share the burden of shame that he didn’t do.

2. He questioned why a lot of PoC get away with derogating white people in a stereotypical way? Instead of addressing the bad behavior to individuals?

3. He feels like he had been denied opinion on racism because he is white. When this happened it triggered his memory from when he grew up as marginalized gay men in the 80s and 90s that he cannot participate in the society because of his sexual orientation, and he know how it feels to be casted aside of simply being a person.

The question 🙋🏽‍♂️

I love him so much, he is a kind and loving person. But how should I engage in this conversation with him about how he feels? I don’t want to invalidate his own experiences on being discriminated against and marginalized. I know it is a different subject but I do also think sexual orientation discrimination and racism shares similar characteristics.

Thank you 🧡

My white boomer MIL has instituted a tradition of taking us to dinner once a month, and she has done a micro-aggression to a POC service worker every time the opportunity has arisen. My partner, thier sibling, and I have all spoken to her about it each time, and her position each time is that what she's done is right and good and not offending anyone, because the person has "smiled at her." She believes herself to be an anti-racist. We have made all the arguments, but she doesn't process information well verbally, and doesn't think we could know more than her. She really responds to reading articles. I believe my best hope at getting through to her is to send her articles, but everything I've found assumes a level of understanding or facility in extrapolation that she doesn't possess.

Do any of you out there have any written resources to share that explain microagressions, specifically linguistic microagressions, in a simple but also detailed and way?

Thank you all!

I keep hearing the word “get” directed to me sometimes and other black people in public. I hear it mostly from non black Hispanics. Anyone else experience this ?

For information, I (19F) am a very pale mixed white-hispanic and my bigender boyfriend (17F) is a chinese-filipino who is quite pale with a very subtle tan. I can easily pass for full white, despite my constant reminding that I was raised in a Hispanic household. He, on the other hand, is very clearly mixed race. We have been dating for 2yrs and 6mnths, his racism slowly became more and more obvious to a point that it is blatant now and it bothers me. I love him and I just wish he had a more humanistic perspective on life.

I'm not one to care for race when deciding who to befriend or to date. I make sure I'm respectful about others cultures and make active efforts to educate myself on the customs of other ethnic or racial individuals if I find myself wanting to form a bond with them. The races of my exs are decently diverse with no obvious preference too. I find myself interacting with people of all races and cultures on a daily basis within friendgroups or commraderies.

My boyfriend cares too much about race. When he was younger he idolized Adolf Hitler and would actively draw swastikas all over his artwork. When he showed me a picture he took posing with people dressed up as nazis I scolded him to delete the photo entirely and to never do that again because it is too insensitive and just morally wrong. He doesn't see it as an issue and only does what I say because im saying it.

He loves my pale skin, which doesn't bother me because I want my lover to think I'm pretty of course. However, when I started to get a slight tan from the sun he freaked out and told me to wear sunscreen, long sleeves, or use an umbrella (it is very hot during summer but he insisted I wear long sleeves and pants only so I won't tan). He claims that it is normal because it is "an asian thing", but I have tried telling him that even if he is asian, he can't just claim being racist is fine for all asians. It's self-racism in a sense? Im not sure if that even makes sense.

He is racist towards other asians as well. He told me that he does not like people from Brunei, and makes rude comments about every asian country except China. Yes, even Philippines!! I begged him to stop that, especially when he scolded me for trying to learn Tagalog as it is his own mother tongue- he claims it is an ugly language and that his own culture is ugly. I tried to convince him that it is a beautiful culture but he refuses to listen to me and only allows me to appreciate Chinese culture. I just don't understand how he can be racist not just to everyone else but also himself! It's crazy!! The only race he is fine with is WHITE ETHNICITIES and Chinese. He even told me he only wants to date white people and doesn't like asians. It makes me wonder if this type of thinking was taught to him as white supremacy or what?????

As for actual skin colors, he is blatantly racist. He does not like anything a little bit tanned, he doesn't even like his own skin color if it gets sun tanned!!! He said that it's "dirty" and he has no issue saying ewwww when he sees a person of color at all. Even in media! When I talked with him about Genshin Impact's issue with skin color rep, he said he prefers the characters all pasty white because "it's asian standard" and everyone looks better that way. I disagreed. He has no issue degrading others for their skin color and proudly says the N-word when looking at images of black characters or videos with black people.

I have told him to stop because it's not right and tried to give him an example that he wouldn't like it if someone slurred at him- but he proudly calls himself slurs as well!! It doesn't help that my dad's nickname for him is quite literally "Ping Pong"..... yea... I'm so srs. My dad calls him "Ping Pong" everytime he refers to him! (He does NOT play ping-pong either, it is a word play for his actual name and a slur for chinese people). He also jokes about eating cats and other racist stereotypes. I can't be upset at him for making racist jokes at himself, but I can't help feeling bad- maybe this is some kind of coping mechanism for the discrimination he faces?? I'm not sure, I don't really understand his reasoning because everytime I ask he only says it's "normal for asians" bc apparently all asians are racist (which I don't agree with).

Recently I showed him a photo of me and two friends, one being black and the other being Vietnamese. My intention for the photo was just me compiling the photos I took during a fun trip but he said some harmful things about my friends. He called the black one the N-word, and he gave me a "fun fact" about Vietnamese and how they're the stupidest asians. The Vietnamese friend's ethnicity wasn't even any of my concern, I just found out because my bf ASKED what it was and I had to look at his last name to figure it out.

I feel so disgusted by his behaviors but I really want to make the relationship work. Other than this, he is a great lover to me personally. His racism doesn't directly affect me but I just can't help feeling upset by it anyways. Can anyone give advice on how to help him understand what he's doing is wrong? I want to fix him.

TLDR; My (19F) boyfriend (17F) is racist and it makes me very upset. He isn't racist towards me but he is racist towards himself and others. I want to fix him.

Okay so I 18(f) am a medical student in my first year. Started in September so I’m really new to this stuff. Anyway we have something called a gp group were you get put in a group of 9 ppl and you will do to the gp/family practice and will learn from GP (general practitioner). Today we presented a poster on vaping which highlighted the impact on a person but also the societal, cultural influence and so forth. Btw there were about 9 topics so we each did one and these are just a few examples.

Okay so I ended up doing societal influence and it was all good. Please note that I’m the only black person in the group and the rest are white-ish. Another Irish girl (f 23) had to write about cultural differences and pulled a figure that BAME ( black, Asian and other ethnic minorities) were less likely to vape then white young adults. Now the doctor would ask each of us a question about what we wrote and so she asked the girl why she thought Blacks vaped less. The girl answered that she wasn’t sure. The the GP said this word for word…. I think that it is because of poverty, blacks can’t afford vapes and therefore vape less.

Now personally I was really shocked by this and looked around if anyone noticed but no one did. The gp then went on to say that another reason is that they can’t speak English well and therefore won’t be peer pressured as much as white kids.

To me this just sounded like she is saying that most black people and poc’s are in poverty and can’t speak English. I tried to explain it to my south East Asian friend but she says I’m reaching. However I genuinely don’t think I’m over reacting and I genuinely felt a bit appalled and hurt by this statement. Especially the fact that those three sentences came right after each other must mean is related rightttt?!!

Just to clarify this is what happened Girl: BAME people are less likely to vape then white people GP: why do you think is that Girl: I’m not sure GP: it’s probably because o poverty and they can’t afford vapes GP: also they don’t succumb to peer pressure as much because they can’t speak English

Like a more valid reason would have beeen that vaping just is not in their culture or stricter parents or something. Like I think vaping is a pretty westernised thing as I haven’t seen anyone in my country in Africa vape. Even so the statement she made is wild to me.

Also about the English thing that has to be racist no? Like it’s not like people can’t learn English after a few years. You can’t assume that most BAME ppl can’t speak English.

Anyway let me know what you think.

From: https://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/lincoln-proclaims-official-thanksgiving-holiday

On October 3, 1863, expressing gratitude for a pivotal Union Army victory at Gettysburg, President Abraham Lincoln announces that the nation will celebrate an official Thanksgiving holiday on November 26, 1863.

From: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/thanksgiving-myth-and-what-we-should-be-teaching-kids-180973655/

[In] the late 19th century, when there was an enormous amount of anxiety and agitation over immigration. The white Protestant stock of the United States was widely unhappy about the influx of European Catholics and Jews, and wanted to assert its cultural authority over these newcomers. How better to do that than to create this national founding myth around the Pilgrims and the Indians inviting them to take over the land?

This mythmaking was also impacted by the racial politics of the late 19th century. The Indian Wars were coming to a close and that was an opportune time to have Indians included in a national founding myth. [...]

What’s more, during Reconstruction, that Thanksgiving myth allowed New Englanders to create this idea that bloodless colonialism in their region was the origin of the country, having nothing to do with the Indian Wars and slavery. Americans could feel good about their colonial past without having to confront the really dark characteristics of it.

Puritans were religious extremists who left England to create their own theocracy. Before the United States existed, Christians were waging war on each other. It was the memory of this violence that spurred Washington, Jefferson, Madison, and Adams to argue for a nominally secular country.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bilboes

Did you know:

Lord of the Rings is a series written by a white Oxford professor from 33-55 during the height of Nazi and also KKK power.

About a grand white wizard uniting the “white races” of Europe (middle earth is literally ancient Europe in the book)

To fight off hordes of asiatic and dark skinned monsters named orc (hell devil) in a reference to what racist christians tried to “justify slavery with” saying dark skin was the “mark of cain”

Whose a supreme council (with white wizards on it) called “the white council” that the author used synonymously with “the wise council”

And the authors (jr Tolkein) only known drawing of orcs is black humanoids being slaughtered by a white bear and white soldiers

And the name of the most famous character in the series (Bilbo) also is the name of the shackles that held enslaved Black people on slave ships together one leg to the others, a passage of the Atlantic that 15-20% of the enslaved people died painful horrible deaths.

And he said he modelled their facial features off what he called “the least lovely mongol types.”

The hordes of Hell Devil (orc) monsters of tolkeins works invading europes strongholds were east and south.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beowulf:_A_Translation_and_Commentary

Tolkein took the term Orc from the 10th century Beowulf poem, in which they are the “cursed race of Cain” (of the Jewish / Christian Bible story of Cain and able) which was used extensively during Black Slavery, and is famously in the Book of Mormon.

He had done a translation and commentary of it prior to doing lotr.

Tolkein said he chose the word for “phonetic” (the way the word orc literally sounds) reasons.

Tolkein never said anything about the fact his book was about grand white wizards on white / wise councils in Europe uniting white races to fight hell devil Black and Asiatic demon monsters from east and south and the main characters name was the word for shackles that held slaves together, not at any point during his life when millions of white kids were being indoctrinated by this “white = good and human and black = monstrous and evil. He of course knew this indoctrination was happening - that was the point - and he was tragically common of his era (Princeton freshman class voted Hitler greatest man alive in 1939, Churchill ran on “keep Britain white after the war). Martin Luther King JR marched on him and those like him, he lost, and now the freedom those Civil Rights Heroes and Heroines secured for us combined with the internet has finally broadly exposed Tolkein.

People say he was “anti colonial” and “anti empire” and that is true. It’s also a common position of white racists, who view contact with dark skinned people like being in contact with a contagious virus. Many white racists also can be found to have statements that seem to speak out against cruelty in racist institutions, and Tolkein has a few, but it is important to keep in mind white racists also view non whites like animals and such comments can be understood as them saying “there’s no reason to be cruel to the monkeys in the jungle” or “if we capture a monkey in the jungle to work on our farm, we do not want to cause the monkey anymore harm than necessary for us to get sugar in our tea or make rum.”

I recently left a problematic middle school by skipping 8th grade and am now in a virtual school. Throughout my experience there, I encountered the frequent use of racial slurs, swastikas, and heil Hitlers. From what I can tell, society doesn't acknowledge that this sort of thing exists. The scandals in the news about n-word passes and such pale in comparison to what occurs on a regular basis at my former middle school, and my parents inform me that they didn't see this sort of thing when they were kids. I'm wondering if this has happened to other people and if this is part of a more dramatic social shift. My mom mentioned that her friends who have kids have also noticed increased racism/homophobia/ableism.

A concerning number of teachers weren't even fazed by casual displays of dehumanization and discrimination; even when the word autistic was used as an insult within both my and a teacher's earshot (I should note that I'm autistic) the adult didn't even seem to notice or realize how hurtful it was, even when I repeatedly asked people what was so insulting about being autistic.

The administration seemed to not recognize the prevalence of this bigotry, with most parents virtually unaware. Eventually, my mom stirred up enough discourse in the school's parent WhatsApp to cause an assembly, which resulted in a 24-hour moratorium on the use of racial slurs. (Everything, of course, proceeded back to normal after a day or two.)

Essentially, none of the measures instituted by the admins had any major effect. The swastikas, n-words, uses of "gay" or "autistic" as insults, and general bigotry didn't seem to end. Nearly everything done by the adults did nothing. Which brings us to the second weird and concerning phenomena occurred during my middle school years: punishment, even for people who had been caught literally distributing n-word passes, was not an option.

Now, to be clear, I'm not advocating for more behaviorism and pointless discipline. But, having read the student handbook, it seems to me that suspension is a pretty reasonable punishment for people who say racial slurs. Disciplining students is indeed a viable solution, and one that has been perhaps a bit too overused. Yet, rather than choosing the straightforward solution, admins chose the difficult and ineffective method of "reminders." That is to say, repeatedly showing us videos about just how bad fascism and Nazism is and the disturbing history behind it. Which is great, I should note, to a degree. But when kids, after sitting through ten consecutive presentations on why the n-word is so horrible, continue to engage in bigotry, the answer is not more presentations.

You might think that the admins were unaware of the problems, and were simply doing their jobs. However, at the beginning of the year, a survey was taken, asking students about the frequency of racial slurs and other forms of hatred. (While this was happening, a worrying number of kids asked what "ableism" meant.) The results, of course, were probably incriminating, although they suspiciously were not shared. The admins clearly knew what was going on. And yet they did nothing.

I'm writing this because I'm curious whether this has happened to other people, and if this problem has only occurred after social media or the 2016 and election and the subsequent rise in white supremacy. I'm guessing it's the combination of the two.

Anyway, thanks for reading this. I hope the situation eventually improves, but I doubt it will and chose not to stick around to find out.

I’m Asian man and my gf is white but we’ve been dating for about a year now and I’m kind of annoyed by her friends who believe in the racial stereotypes of me. My gf recently told me that one of her friends had asked her if my penis was small just because I’m an Asian man. This is the second time one of her friends has asked about my penis and I really can’t stand it. I’m by no means small (above average) in the penis department and I’ve just about had it with people assuming I have a small penis, like grow up!

Whenever this happens I shut down and just internalize it because it’s something I keep hearing my entire life and now as an adult I would expect grown people to stop believing it but nope…. Like how do I even handle this? I feel like I’ve been gaslit my whole life into thinking I have a small penis and it’s killing my self esteem! I’ve been getting in my head about it and I can’t stop.

A long time ago, there was this Korean guy who approached and eventually asked me on a date since he found me pretty. I'd say I have a very East Asian feature and demeanor. And I'm actually half Chinese and Malay. During the date, I figured he asked me multiple times if I was Korean. I then replied no, and days later he stopped talking to me. So I assume maybe he realized that dating a non-Korean may lead to disapproval or other family complications, so he chose to distance himself early. Thoughts? 😭

BACKGROUND INFO (not very important but kind of a rant and also adds some context): Hi, so my mom growing up was exposed to a lot of racism. Her dad is incredibly racist and has said the n word a ton of times among MANY other things. Thankfully, my mom isn’t nearly as racist, when she grew up she went to a school that was very mixed and wasn’t overwhelming white like my dad’s was. From her childhood to high school she was best friends with a girl who’s black that lived near her, even though her dad was SUPER against it (ex: he wouldn’t allow my mom to give her their food, wouldn’t allow her to sleep over, asked her several times why she would want to hang out/be around her, etc). However, my mom has still said outrageously racist things, including telling us to only give one piece of candy to colored kids on Halloween because they’re from apartments and not from our neighborhood. Even my dad (who has his own racism issues) was like weirded out when she said this. Something that especially bothers me however is how she always uses the “my best friend growing up was black” excuse, like, my dad probably has had some close friends of color but even he doesn’t say that.

QUESTION: How do I dumb down/summarize that the black friend argument isn’t valid? I love my mom but she isn’t the brightest bulb, if anyone has any arguments/simplified ways of explaining it they might want to share that would help a lot Thx

I am so tired of being angry. Imagine having a lover. This lover spends years abusing you mentally, physically and emotionally. From the start of your relationship he has separated you from everything you have ever known. This lover tells you that you will amount to nothing because of the way you look. Any opportunities given to you is because you are appealing to the eye and everyone wants a piece of you to feel better about themselves. You couldn’t get a job because he’s worked with his friends to make sure you aren’t hired even though you have the same qualifications. He always say “I hit you last week that means nothing now, when will you let it go?” You work yourself 3x harder than his mistresses just to get the opportunity to hold his hand. Everything around your house are memories of when you were beaten, lied to and gaslit. You can’t go anywhere because he’s in control of your finances and you have no one else. Even today he tells you that “you have to stop playing victim for something that happened so long ago.”

Sounds familiar?

My entire childhood I had no concept of race as a black woman. I learned it through experience. I see it in the way I choose two or more races on my job applications. I see it when I pass by plantation houses in my state. I see it when they look up from the paper and see that my skin doesn’t match my name. I see my town littered with remnants of housing that was meant for oppression. I am a constant reminder of the history that came before me. I have always had to work 3x harder than my pale counterpart and had never complained. But when you tell me to my face that racism is gone, my forever simmering anger comes to a boil. How can you tell me that we are equal when you have never suffered inequality?

I (20F) have been seeing this guy (20M) for a few months. Things have been going really well but yesterday I saw a conversation between him and his friend from months ago, (both of them are white), referring to me as the “latina b*tch”. He has also made comments about knowing i am “good in bed” because i am latina, and also has called me exotic. he mentions my ethnicity a lot and says his type is latinas, it feels degrading and like he is putting me in a category. there are many red flags and it has been really taxing. However I’ve gone to certain friends about this and have heard a lot of different viewpoints. i don’t know if im overreacting because he is a really nice kid and we have a lot in common. I just have a weird feeling about it and need more feedback from an outside perspective.

I’m sorry but not sorry. If you use a term or phrase with a dark history,racial undertones or racist origin then you shouldn’t be saying it 🤷‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Today the delivery guy started being rude as soon as he noticed that my boyfriend doesn't speak english "good enough" and started handling our packages without care (They are electronics!) then he didn't carry them up our apartment and my boyfriend had to do it alone. I was at the door only for a split second, so I wasn't sure of what exactly is going on (I thought the delivery guy was just confused about the last name of the adress), which is why I couldn't help him in that situation. On the street aswell he gets called racial slurs, or gets stared at. I am aware of my status so I feel like I should intervene somehow but I always notice way too late that something bad just happened, the same goes for my other POC friends that have similiar things happen to them. They all prefer to not interact of course. After something like this happens my boyfriend is upset and angry. I know I should stand up for him but I feel weak myself, I never stand up for myself either (I know, not good) any advice on how to comfort him or do anything against those people?

It's hard to when you're constantly exposed to it every day

Hi all, I'm looking to help organize a book club or movie showing at my organization to think through diversity, equity, and inclusion topics -- could be focused on racism, or other intersectional topics (any of the other -isms, really). We're wondering if there are any movie or book recommendations for something that is fiction, possibly not too heavy given current morale, and that avoids major triggers like severe violence (for example, I'd thought about /The Hate U Give/ but know that could be really triggering). Ideally something that is more focused on community resilience and hope. It doesn't have to have a good ending necessarily. Just looking for something that could generate discussion and promote unity/hope given the current societal context.

I know I'm asking for a bit of a unicorn, so I appreciate any suggestions the hive mind might have! I also wasn't sure if there are other reddit threads where I should ask this. All suggestions welcome. Thank you so much!

Edit for clarity: The organization is a university department with a commitment to doing health equity research. The potential facilitators are not very experienced - meaning, they have experience in facilitating discussions in a didactic context and expertise in health equity topics but nothing at the level of organizational trainer on DEI topics.

I (mixed/black female) was having a conversation with one of my friends (white female) about racism I’ve experienced. She has always been very progressive and respectful towards any bigotry so I didn’t feel uncomfortable to bring it up. She then admitted to me that she used to say the n-word as a kid, explaining that she grew up in an environment where that word was taught to be “cool”, even her black friends at the time would “give her the pass”, so she didn’t know how hurtful and offensive the word is until she left that environment. I believed her when she said this (she was around 12 at the time). However, she started tearing up and explaining about how there’s a video of her saying it out there and how embarrassing it is. She kept saying profusely how she isn’t racist and went on about how could anyone even be racist. She then asked me if I hate her. I definitely don’t hate her and I think she’s a genuinely kind and amazing person. I just found it uncomfortable to console her about it. She didn’t even want me to (I tried to give her a hug but she refused). It just felt weird and now I feel like our friendship is different now, she was crying the rest of the night but trying to hide the tears, and I didn’t know what to do so I just tried to be normal. I don’t want to lose a friendship that I feel like could’ve gotten closer (we’re new friends) but I’ve also never really experienced that situation before. It felt weird to console her about it but I also felt like I’d rather just do it so we could move on. I don’t know… It almost makes me feel weird that I would console someone about it? It’s all confusing.

I’ve never used reddit before and don’t really know how this works, or where to post this so apologies if it’s in the wrong place, but if there are any POC that have been in a similar situation, I would really appreciate your thoughts on how to handle situations like these. Or even just how you feel about situations like these. Any thoughts at all would be appreciated :)

Hi all small rant/vent, I mixed dutch-moluccan 22F had an appointment in the hospital yesterday. Nurse greeted me and called in the other nurse to say hi. First thing this nurse asked me if I spoke Dutch. It kinda baffled me, because it was in a professional setting and I have a Dutch last name. I mean I know im a poc, but just to assume that I don't speak the language, because im not white? After a small pause i just laughed it off and said i spoke dutch very well. Because laughing these type of comments off is just a bad habit of mine :/

I'm torn.. my 17 year old black son has some (white, if it matters) friends that use racist terms and sterotypes as "Jokes". My son says he doesn't care, doesn't bother him, etc. but I know I'm angry about it. I know it's possible he truly doesn't care but I feel like he shouldn't be so accepting of it. I also worry he accepts it because he wants to be accepted by people. Any useful advice?

Hello my names Mckayla, I wanted to get on here to talk about my experience when I first started high school, because this is something that has affected my life very badly. I have nobody to talk to this about/ people who care that much about my situation. Christine Buechler was my English teacher I recall she would always make little remarks about my ethnicity, mind you Im indigenous and lots of other indigenous kids go to that school. It's mostly white and natives that go to that school because it's 15 minutes from the reservation, but I remember the day she called me an Indian. We were talking about cultural appropriation and then we got to the part where she started talking about indigenous people. She laughed and said "Back in my day I remember dressing up as cowboys and Indians" Then she turned to me said "Mckayla how would you like it if I dressed up as cowboys and Indians again? This woman knows that I'm a serious advocate for my people and I love being indigenous, I have a strong sense of social justice therefore she specifically targeted me. Im a shy good kid so I have never ever done anything for her to not like me besides my race, I was also in her art class and I was making an art piece that fit the criteria but I wanted to write something in Ojibwe my native language. So I did write in my language as soon as I handed it in she says that I shouldn't have wrote in Ojibwe because "it takes away from my art" mind you everyone else wrote something in English... Obviously got a bad grade on that, and there is so much more she has said but I wanna get into another teacher Tichenoff this guys is a racist and likes looking at teen girls. He was my geography teacher and business teacher, the second day he separated the coloured people in my class on the left side was natives and a few other people. On the right side was the white kids, he knew what he was doing. So in class we had to do a presentation and there were these twin girls in my class and there beautiful but not to sound weird or anything but they had a big bottom and this in gonna be important for in the story. They get up to do their presentation and I noticed him staring at the one girls behind and there standing to where there in front of him and he's behind them. He's not taking his eyes off them so I tell my friend beside me like "do you see this guy?" then he puts his hand in his front pocket and starts rubbing his crotch area through his pants. He could've been itchy but I swear he wouldn't be itchy for THAT long, The same thing happened again with the same girls but this time he was listening to a voice recording they made for a project, he starts rubbing himself again through his pocket. Like I said before there's way more to it but those were the main things, they put me through hell. I suffer with depression and other stuff and I almost ended my life because of how bad it was, call me sensitive or whatever because I am and I know there's gonna be racist people everywhere I go but school should be a safe place especially If its your first year. Well it ruined everything for me I don't attend school because of the trauma, I literally have a fear of school. I had my whole life planned out I wanted to be a social justice lawyer and fight for people and now I don't know what will happen in the future, but I pray things will get better as I'm still "in" high school thanks

(I’m new to Reddit so I’m not sure how the whole posting process works, if there’s like any tags or something needed please let me know.)

The recent election results has had everyone be scared lately, but especially people of color. I myself am white but I want to do as much as I can to comfort my friends who are struggling the most. One of my best and closest friends is black and he has been feeling very suicidal because of his intense fear of Trump’s possible policies. Especially Trump’s plan to grant police immunity from prosecution. I know there might not be much to be done, but I don’t want my best friend to die and he seems very unwell, and I want to be able to be there for all my other friends to the fullest too. I’ve listened to all his vents and feelings, I’ve told him how much I love him, I held him as he cried but it doesn’t seem like anything’s helped at all. Is there really anything left I could possibly do? I’m desperate here. I love my best friend so much. Sorry if my words are jumbled or my grammar is off or anything is hard to understand, it’s been a very emotional week.

I suppose I already know the answer but I always found that interesting since signs like these started popping up about terrorism after 9/11…

In Australia it’s customary to shorten words e.g. afternoon = arvo, mosquito = mozzie, service (gas) station = servo, football = footy, etc. you get the point….

I’m trying to explain to an Australian why it’s racist to call an Indian person ‘Indo’ or a Filipino person ‘Filo’, can someone help me out as I’m too emotional to explain properly? They’re saying it’s just how Australians talk, I’m saying it’s not acceptable as it’s derogatory.