Hello everyone! 😊

I’m moving to Dublin and it’s my first time in Ireland too! My gf and I are long distance so I’ll be moving by myself. Any advice for a newcomer to the city would be greatly appreciated!

I’d be happy to make LGBTQ+ friends. I’m a 27F, I’m a Leo ♌️, I’m a cinephile, I love chess, Greek mythology, astrology and tarot. I work in tech and still going through the motions of moving and so on 🥹.

Don’t hesitate to say hello 👋🏻 if you’re also looking for a friend.

My Fiancé and I are going to Ireland for a vacation and would love to get engagement photos taken but a LGBTQ friendly photographer. Any recommendations? We will be starting in Dublin stoping along the way to Dingle.

Thanks.

Hi, I am desperate so I am going on here. Year ago, I arrived first in Dublin and went to a bar near Murphy's Ice Cream and George. They had tables outside to stand that were basically pride flag all over them and dogs were welcome. Anyone could help me with name or location please? I want to visit it again and can't find it. If it helps, bar was very long noodle inside like space wise with stairs going like 1 meter upwards and toilets were in back left of these stairs. Haha. Thanks!

Hi folks, I've (30M) recently moved out of Dublin with my wife (33F) to Newbridge and was wondering if there is any sort of queer community to be found?

We're both bisexual and fairly alternative and miss having queer spaces to hang out in. Is there any sort of meet ups, even a coffee morning or something like that?

Cheers ♥️

Hi, I am new to Ireland, relatively, and I am looking for some gay friends in general area of Fermoy, Cork City and between. Haven't had any luck, so desperate try of Reddit, lol. Hit me up if you would like to meet up for coffee or chat. :)

Are there any Americans can that can speak on the differences between gay culture in the U.S. vs. in Ireland? Currently thinking about relocating after I graduate.

"Hey there! I’m diving into some research and would love your insights. Are there any popular gay clubs, bars, or LGBTQ+ hangout spots in Ireland, particularly in Dublin, Wexford, Waterford, and Cork? I’m really curious about the local scene!

Also, are there any naughty hotspots—like saunas, gay sex clubs, gyms with a certain vibe, or cruising zones?

Are guy generally uncut seeing most are catholic?

Lastly, how vibrant is the gay community in Ireland? Would you say it has a large, thriving population?

Are there lots of clubs, parties and hang out places, like a gay movie night type thing or gay dancing and pottery class?

Thanks so much for helping me out with this!"

Just a follow-up from a post I made 2 months ago looking for gay couples therapist recommendations.

My partner and I are experiencing some difficulties at the moment so some guidance would be really appreciated.

I moved from the US a month ago & I like going out, but I was wondering how do gay people meet each other in Dublin? My program and most people I’ve met in school are all women, so I haven’t really met other gay guys.

I’m 22M & I’m just here for a year for school. So it’s not a crazy long time, but I’d definitely like to meet some people eventually lol

Where do irish queer folk hangout on Friday evenings? Hoping for a friendly environment since I am new to Dublin city.

Hi peeps! I need to do a case study on an marginalized group as part of my social studies course. I've been wanting to do it on LGBT but I can't really find enough information on it compared to other much easier groups for this assignment, like homelessness and immigration. It has to be an marginalized group in Ireland too, whereas if I could talk about LGBT issues in the US or UK it'd be a lot easier, so I might just switch to a different group because their is a lot more evidence of them being marginalized, making them so much easier for this assignment.

Hi everyone. I've just moved from rural Ireland to Dublin for work, and was wondering how people make queer friends up here! Do people actually go to stuff on Meetup? Do you actually make friends if you go to gay bars around here? I'm a lesbian in her early twenties and would greatly appreciate any advice. Thanks :)

Hi all, if hypothetically I (45f) were to start dating again after a long relationship, what would the best dating app to use for older lesbians and bi women? I've never used an app before, not even sure what it entails... I've also searched reddit and found some very old posts saying it's not easy at all... due to the size of the country... Any advice?

Iv always been shy. Im a feminine woman who likes other feminine women. I find it difficult to initiate contact with women and because im shy i kind of avoided it. It’s difficult to figure out if they are into it as well as its feminine women im interested in, it gets complicated! The longer i leave it the more i want to do it but the more nervous i get if that makes sense. Id appreciate any advice. Made this on a random account on purpose. Thanks

I'm a queer person from the middle east and I wanna move to a progressive country. How accepting are Irish people compared to other western countries?

Very relaxed atmosphere, at the back of a pub. It's semi outdoors, so you have to wrap up for it, but it's a nice way to watch an offbeat Halloween season movie with a pint and some friendly randos.

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FB is here -

https://www.facebook.com/61564727260341/posts/122118477488490908/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6v

In a mood to do some retail therapy for bits at home. Can anyone give recommendations/links for queer, Irish businesses?

Heey friends xx just wondering if anyone has been to brief encounters recently? I'm a woman in my late 20s so just wanna know Were there any women there? Would you consider it a safe space? Is there an age range of ppl there? Been thinking to try it out but just wondering about safety. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks friends!

Hi guys! I may be moving to cork in February for 9 months from Italy, do you know if there's a way to share a place with people and have fun as well?

Thinking of heading in this evening, wondering how busy it usually is

Hi all. Posted last week regarding isolation stuff. One thing that sometimes helps as a distraction is writing. I find I can't do it when my mood is poor, and "writing your feelings" tends to make me just dwell.

Anyway. As I said in my last post, I'm NI based. There aren't really any creative writing groups up here because people are more focused on sport and religion. Meetup only has the one, but it wasn't the space for me. The Belfast writers group stopped taking in new members some years ago, and other groups fizzled out or moved location.

I have tried a few times over the years to set up my own group, only to have nobody turn up at all. I know it's likely a long shot asking reddit, but I figure, if the nearby LGBT+ spaces are unavailable to me, it might be best attempting to start our own?

Just posting for anyone interested, hope it's okay.

There's a new regular LGBTQ+ event in Longford, TuesGays. They're planning to do something different in Longford Town on the first Tuesday of every month, and the vibe is pretty casual, so it's a nice way to make friends, meet folks or just hang out.

September's was a boardgame night, next one is a horror movie double bill screening, in the fancy outdoor area of Valentine's bar, 1st of October.

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Their Facebook is https://m.facebook.com/61564727260341/ if you want to follow them.

Hi!!

I'm looking to become friends with more lesbians in Ireland!! I am a 22 year old lesbian and I have 0 lesbian friends 😓💔

DM me if you're interested!!

First of all, this account is a throwaway for reasons that'll be pretty clear in the post. I also apologise in advance as this post is gonna be pretty heavy.

I live a relatively quick bus/train journey from Belfast. Northern Ireland is, well for those unaware pretty backwards and hostile towards trans people. Dare I say that between the South and the UK, it's the most hostile place.

In terms of friends and connections, I only really have my girlfriend (also trans) who I see browsing reddit sometimes (a reason for a throwaway). We spend the weekends together and yeah, she's amazing. I love her more than anything.

But, I only have her. I lost my friend circle over a year ago because I had an abusive ex partner who's pretty popular in the wider NI "queer scene" Friends got scared because ex got violent and scattered to the wind.

I'm not here to ask for advice on the domestic violence. It's NI, after all. No resources left here that help trans women through it. Unless you're super lucky and you live near a women's aid centre that happens to not be transphobic (as rare as Kakapos), you’re on your own.

Cara-Friend did run a thing for it, but lost funding.

I also couldn’t find a non-transphobic therapist I could afford. All the ones I went to to talk about what my ex did tried to use it as an excuse to push de-transition.

I don't trauma dump on my girlfriend, but I find that just having her around helps a great deal.

That ex also uses reddit. I'd rather they didn't know I was in a healthy, nonviolent relationship so, that's another reason for the throwaway. Should go without saying that the police didn't do anything about them.

Here's the problem:

My girlfriend is gonna be out of the country for a while. I can't go with her, as much as I'd sell my soul for it. But due to costs, lack of a passport etc it just can't happen. I won't say why she's gonna be away in case she sees this post.

It's gonna be really hard to not have her here. And doubly so because I don't really have anyone else to spend time with. Oh, and the place she's gonna be staying has terrible Internet.

I've tried to rebuild a friend circle since having the strength to walk away from the ex, but they have friends in all the NI queer spaces. Or some of those queer spaces weren't as friendly to trans women as they seemed on the surface, or it's youth groups.

I won't reveal my age, but I'm almost 30. So Cara-Friend, Genderjam etc aren't even options.

Any place my ex has friends isn't really safe, and I've had people "report back" to my ex before in these spaces, which has had devastating consequences in the past.

I'm actually not allowed into many of these queer spaces as ex partner is friends with people who work for the likes of the Rainbow Project, and spun a different narrative. They're very good at manipulating people.

Trying the non-queer spaces and you get bullied out of them. I have tried many of them in the past.

It hit me really hard recently that I only really have my girlfriend, and normally I'm okay with that. But she's gonna be gone for months.

I'll be completely on my own. I'm also worried to tell her all this because she can't afford not to go away. Or it'll add extra stress. I wouldn't do that to her.

So, I'm on reddit instead. I've posted this question to other subreddits already, but I'm trying to broaden my options in terms of asking around (within reason).

How do I have other people in my life in the most transphobic part of these islands, and also with the ex still roaming around?

I've already tried discord but servers tend to fizzle out or be full of drama and I do have a main reddit account I've used in the past to try and ask about potential social meets/spaces but didn't get any real replies. It's just sorta the nature of reddit unfortunately.

I've also tried to set up my own group as an alternative, but same story there too.

Further, any trans-based helplines UK based are impossible to reach as terfs have taken it upon themselves to bombard the numbers. I learned this last week after spending a total of seven hours trying to get through to one helpline, and so resorting to asking someone who worked with them directly.

With other helplines, you just aren't understood. You end up having to explain what being trans even means, and the volunteers can't wrap their head around why you can't just try and befriend the people who hate you for being different.

So even the option of calling a helpline as an alternative to feel less alone, isn't possible.

What do I do?

I'm losing a lot of sleep over this in all honesty. She leaves on Sunday, so I'm running short on time.

I'm asking here rather than say, an NI based subreddit as they tend to be very unwelcoming towards people like me (much like the people here).

Edit: I also asked the r/transireland server for advice too, but no solution could be found on that post so trying my luck here.