/r/FamiliesYouChoose
This is the place for people to develop family-type relationships with people other than their IRL family. The goal is to create strong and supportive bonds between people, that often go beyond the typical fleeting relationship with other Redditors.
The idea of this subreddit is to give people the chance to have family-type relationships with people other than their traditional family members. You can make whatever kind of commitment, small or big, to your new honorary family members. Whatever you and your honorary family are comfortable with.
The goal is to create something at least a little more than a fleeting relationship with other redditers. The idea isn't to just reply to someone's post and forget all about it. It might just mean checking in on someone 1 month later. Doing something that a family member (perhaps a distant one) might do.
If you have local honorary family members, you may choose to invite them to things you might traditionally invite family to.
If you have non-local honorary family members, you can reach out to them in other ways, just like "regular" non-local family members do.
Please do follow general safety rules, the same rules if your long lost cousin Pat contacted you. Don't share your "real" names or location. Don't publicly share private info (e.g., your address, phone number, etc.). If you decide to message someone with that info, please think carefully about whether you've developed enough of a relationship to share that info. If you're going to meet, please follow these suggestions for how to do it safely. This community is full of awesome wonderful people, and we want all of you to be safe.
To ensure our community is free of people who continuously violate the rules, the moderators will ban anyone who violates the rules three times.
/r/FamiliesYouChoose
looking to be a sister to anyone!!
Hi! I'm a 20yo M, Like the title says im mainly looking for siblings! I love photography, drawing, playing games, binge watching anime and tv shows and listening to music! I'm also really into true crime stuff, and i know everyone says that nowadays but it's related to my career choice so it's valid lmao. If you don't share any interests don't worry, im open to anyone :) Siblings don't have to share EVERYTHING in common after all! (no nsfw pls)
Hello again! I posted once here before about 7 months ago, but ended up going on hiatus for my mental health, so I'll copy/paste that below this lil introduction. If you reached out to me before in comments, chat requests, or messages then please leave a comment here so I can find you again! Try to include an introduction so that I know who I'm talking to and what you're interested in!
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I was thinking that it might be nice to find a small group of people who may be interested in hanging out and playing games especially with the holidays coming up? BUUUT I am introverted and I have a low social battery, which means I need extroverted people to step up to the plate. 😂
Some important things about myself that I want to make clear:
I tend to play games on Steam, Nintendo Switch, and PS5. I've also been trying a lot of games on Roblox and I'm considering making some kind of game on there too but I need to learn a lot of things before I try. lol
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Disclaimer: My profile should come up as NSFW because I commented a lot in 18+ communities, but I do NOT post anything NSFW outside of giving my two cents on things that I've read. lol
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If you made it to the bottom then it'll show me that you read this by giving me the details below! Feel free to be vague and share what you're comfortable with, but know that I've written a lot about me here so I do want to know who I'm talking to. lol
I've posted here many times before but I just want to find genuine people who will actually become like family to me. I'm only seeking older sisters or a mom figure. I tend to get clingy once I like you and feel comfortable.
Anyways I'm autistic, have adhd, pstd, anxiety and depression . I'm lesbian. (Acceptance is a must for both of those) I love pets and animals. I want to be come a vet tech. I like to crochet and build legos.
Anyways message me if you are willing to chat!
hii i’m AJ i’m autistic and i have other complex medical conditions my interests are miffy, sylvanian families,jellycats,mine-craft,crafts and colouring and i also like music i dont rlly have any requirements on family aslong as u are lgbt friendly and within my timezone (GMT) aslong as u aren’t like 4 hours behind or ahead of my time idgaf
Hi!
i'm just looking for family for support as my family isn't very great. at this point it feels more like having room mates that have nothing in common with me so we just talk when we need to. i would love anything from siblings to parents. i dont mind at all. im a bi (50/50) femboy and very open about that stuff.
i can be a friendly ear too so i can help, and i am happy to talk about anything. I'm into some gaming, space, i like horror and sci fi movies, i like retro movies too because i think the aesthetic is nice. I really like math and statistics too.
like i said any family any age is fine.
22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For
Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!
I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure, or even if you just need an older brother. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!
I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.
Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.
As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.
I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.
I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.
I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.
If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.
I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!
Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!
Going through a lot. I have been my whole life. I have no local support system, where I live is definitely the last place I’d chose to live, I have wanted to escape my whole life. As there is no life for me in this place and culture and it is literally my personal hell. Was abandoned as a foundling and then adopted by abusive and narcissistic parents. Can only rely on internet friends for emotional support, due to living in a toxic environment. No institutional support of any kind. I need a close female family member. Please, message me if you feel called to. I just want to be heard and understood.
HEY im just so so indifferent to everybody else and dont know about going about things to get what i want and would just like a sister or girlie to talk to.
Im an accountant and im looking to be a father figure to whoever wants help or guidance. Any age works and i can keep conversations going such as gaming, tv shows, hobbies and much more.
Hello!
A bit about what I'm looking for : I'm looking for someone who wants to have a deep friendship that can move toward the idea of becoming like family. I'm only looking for a woman who is around my age or older. I'm looking for someone who is mature and has some level of emotional stability.
A bit about me : I am fairly estranged from my biological family. My mother was the arbiter of the relationships I had with my family members and that relationship has really gone downhill so I'm fairly out of the scope of the family now. I am a middle child and very much suffer from "Middle Kid Syndrome". I am married to a wonderful man. I am a religious person (Orthodox Christian).
I hope to hear from you!
Hello I'm AJ and I'm looking for any family I'm autistic and have other comorbid disabilities as well I love minecraft and I sometimes play GTA5 but not too often anymore I also love colouring and watching youtube there’s not rlly much else to me and the only thing i ask is u be LGBTQ friendly and within my timezone pls i’m in GMT timezone if ur more than 4 hours behind or in front then i’m sorry but i cant speak to u :( please include ur age when u message me and what role u want me to be to u or what role u want to be to me 🌷
Hello, I’m 40+ mum of mostly young adults and a couple of children.
A bit about myself, I grew up with a narcissistic mother and an emotionally detached father. Got married at 18 and left home as soon as I could. I went on to have 8 children, lost one along the way and now have 7 amazing children, 2 of which are autistic and 3 have adhd diagnosis.
In my 30’s I spent thousands on therapy. I did a counselling qualification and a social work degree to really heal the wounds left by my family, particularly my mother. It took many years but on reaching the end of that I felt like I was reborn, free to live my life in a way I had never known before.
I know what it’s like to have parents that don’t show up. To feel like you don’t have the support or worse, to feel gaslit and told things you went through never happened. There’s nothing worse than to have your feelings invalidated by a parent. To get great news and have no one to share it with. To need advice and have no door to knock on for it.
I was so lucky to find an incredible lady who took me under her wing and showed me what a true mother was supposed to be. I still credit her from saving me from some very poor decision making and pushing me to achieve. I would like to be that to someone else, pay it forward let’s say.
If you feel like my support is something that could help you then please inbox or comment below ☺️I am so open to forming a positive supportive parental type relationship with someone who needs it. Ideally someone older than 18
My mom kicked me out when I was a teenager and I have always felt like I’m missing something. I became very good at taking care of myself because I had to grow up fast, but even as an adult I still feel that loneliness a lot. In the last few years, I’ve been diagnosed with some chronic illnesses, which make it hard for me to socialize and have made the loneliness more difficult. I’m looking for support from a mother figure, or any kind of support really. I care deeply about the people in my life and have the capacity to reciprocate the support.
Hey, just came across this sub and wanted to try. I'm no stranger to posting in friend-making subreddits, but this one feels different so far.
I've been feeling pretty down lately (can explain why if you want to hear) and wanted to put a stop to that. Happy to introduce myself more and talk about more positive stuff (hobbies, interests etc) in the DMs.
Can't wait to hear from some of you guys!
I'm a sweet and caring 20 year old guy from Denmark. My interests are bellydancing and videogames. I'd love to gush and gossip over tea aswell ♡♡
Hi everyone!
Little bit about me - I am an autistic young adult slowly learning to navigate the world around me. I love parrots, music, Rupaul's Drag Race, and drawing. Despite my many neurosis, I am enthusiastic, thoughtful, humorous, and a good listener.
I am looking for somebody who’s kind, warm, patient, and understanding. Preferably someone who’s sapphic and/or on the spectrum, so we can bond over similar life experiences ^_^ Anyone who knows what it’s like to grow up with shitty parents and wants to end the cycle of abuse is welcome.
My biological spawn point is an inconsiderate, narcissistic b-word who abused me physically and emotionally for most of my life, leaving me with CPTSD. She's the sole reason why I still struggle with vulnerability and trusting others. I ran away from home at 18 and never looked back. After fightiing to stay financially independent, I am now extremely burnt out.
I briefly had a mother figure in my late teens, but unfortunately we lost touch. The void she left behind is very much still present in my life, and I miss her dearly with all my heart. Apart from her, I have never experienced anything resembling loving or supportive parents.
If you think we could get along, feel free to shoot me a message ꉂ (´∀`)
Whoever takes the time to read this, I hope you have a wonderful day, kind human✨
22M Looking For Those People To Care For
Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!
I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure, or even if you just need an older brother. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!
I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.
Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.
As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.
I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.
I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.
I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.
If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.
I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!
Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!
hey im f15 and am looking for a sister to just talk to and be a role model for me thanks.
Hey! I'm 15f and I'm looking for a mother type figure or a grandma figure. I tend to get clingy once I get comfortable. Im in search of a long term bond together, someone who wont ghost me and someone i can talk with daily.
Anyways I like to crochet and build legos. I'm from the east coast USA and I don't have any siblings. I am neurodivergent which impacts me alot negatively and positively. So support and acceptance around that is required. My adoptive parents can be difficult to manage sometimes. (I don't know my bio parents). My parents aren't the most affectionate and loving people. So I'm really just looking for that maternal love and support.
Please include your age, location and a little bit about yourself if you do choose to message me.
Hey im looking for a sister older or younger to give to just talk to since i have not had a sister before i like the idea of having one tho also if they could just give solid advice and guidance.
Hey everyone! I’m excited to join this group. I’m at a point in my life where I’m seeking a mother figure for the love and guidance I’ve been missing. As I think about starting my own family, I’d really appreciate having someone to turn to for support.
I’m based in Florida, and while it would be wonderful to connect with someone nearby, I’m open to building a meaningful relationship no matter the distance. I love going to the beach, boating/jet skiing, making jewelry, shopping, and spending time with friends. I have a rescue dog who I love! I love animals.
In return, I promise to be an excellent daughter—supportive, loving, and eager to share in your wisdom and experiences. My mother in law once called me the ideal DIL, so I can provide references lol
If you think you could be that mentor and mama bear I’m looking for, I’d love to hear from you!
So I guess…you could say I am accepting applications for a mom (bonus points if you are older, established in life, are in want of a daughter) 😊
im just so lost and need a real role model to give solid guidance and advice to lead me into taking and making better decisions. Self improvement
I find life without any family to be incredibly lonely, and would like to make connections with others who feel the same way for mutual emotional support and understanding. Most people simply cannot relate to my situation. which makes it all the harder. My interests are wide and varied, and include reading, languages, TV and more.
hey im 15f and am overall just looking for a big sister that can give me guidance on how to act out things and do better overall.
Clarification: Reason I put any family is because I’m basically looking for any parental figure weather you’re technically a grandparent or willing to fill the parent role but would rather be called a big sibling. Also because I’m looking for parental figures that’s either Fem/non binary or a really fierce grandpa who’s protective 😅
Please read the whole thing 🙏🏽
Now with that out of the way, hi! I’ve been struggling for a long time because of my trauma with family relations and other illnesses. My most recent relations of sort that ended, ended with this person throwing away all my belongings including family heirlooms from my deceased grandmother, all my clothes, government documents and limited editions of collectables of my special interest. This action has finally led me here to a place where I can express my need and hopefully get it.
I need a parental figure who could support and help me, whether that’s through tough times or good times. Just BE THERE for me. I want this to be a long term family relationship where we can meet irl (I’m based in Norway), this is why it’s very important that you’re located in CEST/WEST or Finland. So that even if we’re not in the same country it is easy for us to FaceTime/Call/Voice message each other (I’m a sucker for voice message), and it still wouldn’t be to difficult to plan for meeting each other. I mean if you’re willing to travel across the globe to meet I would be happy to start messaging but of course that would be a while til we would even discuss the possibility for such a huge travel and a lot of safety and parental intimacy would have to be established of course :)
I need a parent who wants to talk daily whether irl or on the phone, and would gladly be available to chat almost any time… except the witching ours of course (like a parent with their clingy daughter 😅) I need a lot of help and I’m a weird period where I’m basically waiting on a lot of practical things from the government, it’s stressful and lonely. So it’s important for me to have access to you even on the days when I simply want to talk about the female chinchillas defense mechanism.
I need someone who while can be practical (and doesn’t mind doing things like researching how to make an appointment, ect. lol) also is highly empathetic and is good at comforting and support. Because I have had to parent myself since I can remember I am highly solution orient already but when I’m in really bad situations in life I can’t stop the flow of sadness (and to be honest have been struggling my whole life) and need someone who would do/say validating things like “wow that person/situation is a bitch”, “I’m sorry let it all out and then I’ll help you thing of a plan”, or “don’t worry you can be sad with me I won’t leave you” instead of “you just have to to try to be happy” and “we’re all alone in this world” 😭
Some things to note about me you may wanna know before we take a step into staring this close family relation
I have autism and ADHD and age regress sometimes because of trauma
I need my parent figures to be learning to be racially aware/sensitive (you can always start today and it’s always better later than never)
I’m politically active in a fuck the government kind of way/although I’m on a hiatus for my health
human rights are human rights and it’s crazy how that’s become a political stance
I will bully you for using older person words (even though I secretly love it and will un ironically start using them)
I love watching movies/tvs and would love to watch one with you through Netflix parties and then comment throughout on FaceTime. I can also quietly sit through movies as I’m a film nerd connoisseur and love to discuss AFTER digesting it all
my favorite shows/movies are Gravity Falls, Pretty Woman, Real Women Have Curves, Shape of Water, Star vs The Forces of Evil, A Series of Unfortunate Events(my life story lol), Abbott Elementary, and Once Upon a Time.
I’m scared that the things I’ve been through and how it’s affected me will scare you off so please don’t contact me if you get easily scared/overwhelmed to the point of distancing yourself
I hope to one day be able to tell the people who come in my life that’s my “insert parental figure name” because I know it’s true without a doubt and the only thing that would actually be different from us compared to other kids and their parental figures is that we don’t share the same blood
if you couldn’t tell by the post I think and plan alot
I collect items (like that of my grandmas :() that belong to the people I love so I can always have a part of them with me and pass it on to potential children I might have(would also like to be a parental figure to the one that slipped away/needs it the most when I’m older and stable hopefully)
I need patience, understanding, and clear communication and I give it back to the best of my ability :)
If you believe that you’re all the things I described I need that’s great, I would love to get to know you!
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Hello all,
I am trying to branch out a bit more, both online and in person. You’re free to look through some of my post history, but suffice it to say, I never had a great family. I was raised by a single mom who, unfortunately, had grown up in an abusive household herself. She suffered a lot and took it out on me. Eventually, we stopped talking. Unfortunately, she ostracized me from anyone who would have been my family. I guess I’m trying to form relationships in response to that. I suffer from some mental health issues, but I am in therapy working on myself.
I am open to meeting any person. I also want to mention that I am married and not looking for anything outside of friendships that could take on elements of familial relationships. I am gay, so anyone who can relate to having family difficulty due to your orientation or identity I can especially sympathize with.
I have a lot of varied interests. I’m kind of all over the place, honestly. I really do enjoy listening to music, though. I've recently been into modern funk, house, and anything with a good beat. But I can listen to anything, given my mood.
I’ve also gotten into exercising. I do cardio most days and strength training for several days. I’ve lost a lot of weight, and I’m also a serious CICO person. I'm happy to motivate someone on a similar journey. I’ve been using MyFitnessPal for something like the last 130 days.
I’m currently in school, getting an MBA. I’m more than halfway done now, and I’m so excited to be done. Before this, I studied religious studies and psychology. The human experience and the ideas of what comes next really interest me.
If we do talk, sometimes I can get quite a bit busy. I try to respond whenever I can, so if I am unresponsive for a moment, hang tight.
22M Looking For Those People To Care For
Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!
I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!
I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.
Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.
As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.
I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.
I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.
I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.
If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.
I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!
Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!
Some of my hobbies are some sports, video games, watching tv/movies, and just doing random things I'll talk about literally anything I'm just bad at picking things to talk about