/r/FamiliesYouChoose
This is the place for people to develop family-type relationships with people other than their IRL family. The goal is to create strong and supportive bonds between people, that often go beyond the typical fleeting relationship with other Redditors.
The idea of this subreddit is to give people the chance to have family-type relationships with people other than their traditional family members. You can make whatever kind of commitment, small or big, to your new honorary family members. Whatever you and your honorary family are comfortable with.
The goal is to create something at least a little more than a fleeting relationship with other redditers. The idea isn't to just reply to someone's post and forget all about it. It might just mean checking in on someone 1 month later. Doing something that a family member (perhaps a distant one) might do.
If you have local honorary family members, you may choose to invite them to things you might traditionally invite family to.
If you have non-local honorary family members, you can reach out to them in other ways, just like "regular" non-local family members do.
Please do follow general safety rules, the same rules if your long lost cousin Pat contacted you. Don't share your "real" names or location. Don't publicly share private info (e.g., your address, phone number, etc.). If you decide to message someone with that info, please think carefully about whether you've developed enough of a relationship to share that info. If you're going to meet, please follow these suggestions for how to do it safely. This community is full of awesome wonderful people, and we want all of you to be safe.
To ensure our community is free of people who continuously violate the rules, the moderators will ban anyone who violates the rules three times.
/r/FamiliesYouChoose
im just looking for any family really and we don't need to talk every minute of every day, i just want someone to talk to when i have a problem but also when im doing well with something. just support basically. i do take the family thing serious tho so i will put effort but sometimes cause of school i may not be on the whole day
i really like rabbit holes on interesting topics especially the darker scarier ones or the ones to do with space. i can enjoy talking about most things tho. i cant think of a lot to say here but i promise i can keep a conversation going. so if you think you would like another family member then just hmu.
Hey my name's Adam. I live in eastern europe. I've never had a real male figure in my life so I'm just looking for someone I could daily chat with. I'm kinda shy and not very talkative at first but when we'll get to know each other better I can yap about everything all the time. I'm also autistic idk if that matters. I can play the guitar and I like drawing. I have 4 cats and i love them so much.
If you're interested in talking my dms are always open
Hi! I’m mainly looking for siblings! I’m a 20m who loves video games, drawing, photography and video editing! I also love baking! One of my biggest passions fr. I also lovee music, some genres i really enjoy are rock, japanese shoegaze and hiphop but i tend to find a liking to any song that i think sounds good regardless of genre. Also a big anime/ manga fan, ask me about jjk or jjba and I’ll be able to answer most questions haha. Like i said in a previous post I tend to respond quickly unless im sleeping! Another hobby i have is learning languages randomly. I’m fluent in english and spanish (I’m latino) and i know a bit of italian, portuguese and french! If you’re interested shoot me a dm or leave a reply! tyty 🙏
title basically says it all my bio family is really really small. i'm an only child and have no cousins. my paternal grandparents are both dead, i have one paternal aunt. i talk to my dads family very rarely and we don't really get along. my maternal grandparents are both alive but my grandpa had a stroke and cant speak and my grandma is mean lol. my parents are both pastors and i do love them and vice versa but... our relationship is terrible (especially my relationship with my dad. like really terrible) we're still in contact but i live across the country now and haven't lived with them since i was like 16.
i'm in college, im a history major about to graduate. after i graduate i plan on going to law school! i love all the typical girly stuff like shopping and makeup and clothes but i love being outdoors and music and video games too. i live in new orleans! love it here :) i have a mini weiner dog who's 14 who i love. idk hmu if you're trying to connect, i've never really had real family and really care about my chosen fam 🥰
Need someone that genuinely has good intentions. I have by now, met too many perverse men. It's so frustrating and disheartening to be stringed along like this. Especially when i've already been failed so many times before.
My biological father is not a kind man. Please don't ask if we can “make up”. I wouldn't be here looking for someone to take that role if he was a good man and father. He’s done enough harm as is. I'm not here to have a sob story, that's just how it is. I can of course tell you my story, if you want to know. But I won't do so publicly.
I'm located in Sweden and I'm Swedish as well. I have no problem with differing time zones. I'm very good at english, so no worries!
I like a lot of things,
Art, video games, music, movies/series — the basics. There could be a lot to say about it, but maybe we can save it for conversation. Though I can guarantee we have something in common. I love old and new stuff in all of those hobbies. (Plus points if you like The Beatles or Queen oh and Fallout).
I'd like to learn, really, anything. If you have a craft/knowledge, I'd really love to get to know it. In another life, i'm an artist's apprentice. Knowledge and learning is the only way we’ll advance. That's what I believe. Though admittedly i can be a bit of a procrastinator, gotta work on that.
And if you want to learn swedish (that's mostly what I can offer) then I'd be happy to help.
As a person, id say im an introvert and generally on the quiet side. Im much an observer and i like when its calm. Though I can be rowdy and talkative when I want, especially if I'm talking about something I'm passionate/interested about. I can ramble a lot and I like to write. Cliche maybe, but I'd say I'm empathetic. Coming from my own troubled past, I can empathize with anyone similar.
I'm not asking for much, just that you can and want to be a dad. A real one, not some nasty pervert who has a fetish.
I'm willing to put in the effort to be real family and have daily conversations. Though keep in mind, im awfully busy these days and so can respond a bit later than i'd like. And it can vary depending on our time zones. But if there’s a will, there’s a way huh?
Thanks for reading. If you’re interested, please send some sort of emoji so i know who actually read all of this.
Have a nice day, bye.
Hey there, i'm Jason.
Giving this way of reaching out to meet new people a try.
Please, be honest and real people - spare your time if you just want to scam - i'm not interested.
I'm very open minded and we can talk about anything. Topics i would suggest we could dive in:
Music
Shows / Movies
Gaming
Books or Audiobooks (which are more for me personally ^^)
Hi everyone! I’m here looking to connect with people who share some of my interests. A little bit about me: I’m an artist who draws digitally, and I love playing video games. I have all three major consoles: Xbox, PlayStation, and Nintendo Switch. so I’m pretty flexible when it comes to gaming.
I have a wide music taste, and as long as the music is good, I’m in! I often use music to cope and express myself, so I sometimes might not be in the mood for certain songs.
I’m mainly looking for friends in North America who enjoy gaming and have similar interests. Even if we don’t have the exact same tastes, as long as you’re up for some gaming, we’ll get along great!
I prefer text chat and don’t use voice or video, but we can move to Discord once we’re comfortable. I’m totally okay if you want to use voice chat. just know I’ll be texting on Discord!
Looking forward to meeting some awesome people!
I'm looking for a female family member as I've always looked up to girls and have a little anxiety talking to guys
l'm a straight guy. In my free time l'm a bellydancer and I have an absolute love in learning makeup, beauty tip and fashion.
I love to gossip aswell. However as a straight guy I never really got the support/encouragment.
I don't know if this is the right group to post in, but I'd love to have a person who I can text daily who sees me for who I am.
Additionally I started doing makeup and beauty tips and would love a "mentor" aswell and support every time I'm doing something new..
Please message me if it's something you're interested in
I need an older sister to talk with, take advices from her and give some back whenever she needs an advice on something Care for each other Someone I can talk about everything that's going on in my life and share my thoughts and Ideas with
I (22F) have a mother. She supports me with my education and needs. But I guess it would just be nice to talk to someone maternally, maybe call them mom. I’m borderline crying as I’m typing this and I think this is maybe problem I’m realizing. Kinda embarrassing.
But maybe like, “hey, I got A in my classes” and instead of “good, don’t waste my money”(tuition she paid for) an “I’m proud of you” would be nice instead??? I don’t know.
Also, to be vulnerable would be nice. To give an idea, at 15 I was cheated on by an ex, turned to my mother crying, hugged her and she didn’t hugged me back. She looked away disappointed. Anyways, it’s hard to go up to her to show weakness.
She prioritized my education and career over everything. I didn’t grew up with electronics, mostly books. But not only academia, but also psychological, lifestyle books or whatever she handed me. So, I knew what The Secret (5th grade) was before Kim K (10th). Just to give a perspective of my lifestyle. Father ain’t in the picture. Fuck that guy 💀. We don’t really chat much. I’m pretty distant with her unless it’s related to my future or to assist her. She’s not all bad it’s just been draining lately….
About myself:
Amongst other stuff but I’m not sure what to add on
Hi my loves. If you need an older sister in your life or even a friend, I’m more than happy to lend a listening ear and help give some advice. I know all too well what’s it like to be young and alone in this world and confused about school, boys, diet and mascara lol
Im into video games, gym and tv shows. Looking to care for someone if you are interested send a dm and thanks 🫂.
So Im 14 I live in germany, but am brazillian would love u to have a german or brazillian sis. I have never really had a older sister figure cause my older sis left when I was 3. Dm me if youre interested
Hi! 👋 I’m a little brother of 2 older sisters irl. Despite having older stepbrothers, none of them have had much of a presence in my life. Tbh, I’ve always felt like I’ve missed out on having that brotherly connection with either a big bro or a dude around my age! I love video games, reading, and Marvel + DC Comics to name a few things. If you feel like we could hit it off at all, feel free to send a DM 😄
(*P.S. I’m gay if that factors in at all lol)
I’m 35M looking for a sister. I don’t have a close relationship with mine and miss that connection. This has been a cool community to view so wanted to finally take part in a post.
I’m from the US and Chicago area so time zones can play a role. I travel a lot for work and want to be able to communicate when possible. If you are ok with being talkative I feel that would work out the best.
I like creative people and open minded that can be their authentic selves. If this is you I’d like to reach out so send me a message.
Im into gym, video games (i have discord) and reading. If anyone wants some help or guidance or something as simple as caring im here 🫂. Thanks.
Hello there. U might Wonder why a person My age is looking for close older friends. Since I was young i grew up faster and so I had problems talking to ppl my age. I still have some friends but talking with older ppl is more easier and fun for me. I also find a brotherhood and dad/son friendships very special and comforting.
I would like to form a close friendship where I can count on somone and they can count on me. Somone I can hug and video call.
About me tho: Im 15. In few days 16 year Old. I adore art. Psychology. Horror media. The paranormal. And any way of showing my love and who I am. Im also Pansexual, polyamorous and Demisexual I also really enjoy video games. Reading a bit. Singing, cooking and creating games and horror stories.
If u want to see how I Look like. Just check my profile.
Please dont text me if you interact with lots of nsfw subjects.
I wish everybody a great day to those who read this. And a great end of the weekend!
Hey! My name is Cody, but you can also call me Mills or Millie, I answer to all of them; my pronouns are He/They
Most of my bio family are not family to me anymore (mostly due to bigotry and transphobia), and that includes most of my grandparents. I don’t have grandparents who are really in my life now that make me feel loved and accepted, and I just feel like that’s a place in my family that’s painfully missing. One of my Grandmas is one of the people who has said the very worst things to me about my gender of anyone
For a bit about me as a person, I’m into TTRPG’s, drawing, cosplay, jewelry making, making characters, sewing, reading, and LARP. My favorite book is Skyward, and my favorite movie is The Princess Bride. Some of my favorite shows include Star Trek, Doctor Who, Transformers Prime, The Owl House, ATLA, A Series of Unfortunate Events, and the Netflix Lost in Space series (I’m not caught up on that last one though). My favorite video games are Don’t Starve Together, Breath of the Wild, Security Breach, Mario Cart, Untitled Goose Game, and I’m currently playing and really enjoying Undertale
Feel free to message me! Just please include in your message your age and pronouns so I know how to refer to you
Hello, my name's Matt, I live in Europe. I can offer myself as a dad or a brother. I'm just looking for someone to take care of. I'm a single and I don't plan on having kids soon. Feel free to dm me and tell whatever's on your mind. I'm also lgbt supportive so I don't mind whoever you are
I am completely alone in this world and desperate for family. Long story short, I was born into a house of horrors where terrible things were done to me. After getting placed into foster care as a teenager, things didn't improve much, and I ended up never getting adopted, which led to being dumped on the streets when I aged out of the system. I took myself from homelessness and addiction to having 4 master's degrees and taking care of children with disabilities for a living. I worked hard to make something of myself, but I have done it completely alone. Nobody cares. There's no one to be proud of me. Nobody to talk to. I spend all holidays alone, not a single call or text. I have so much love to give, but I'm a ghost in this world. I see other people with their families and it breaks my heart. I want that so bad. Even though I'm in my 30s chronologically, deep down I'm still that unadopted foster kid just looking for the love of a family. Is anybody out there? I am in the U.S.
Clarification: Reason I put any family is because I’m basically looking for any parental figure weather you’re technically a grandparent or willing to fill the parent role but would rather be called a big sibling. Also because I’m looking for parental figures that’s either Fem/non binary or a really fierce grandpa who’s protective 😅
Please read the whole thing 🙏🏽
Now with that out of the way, hi! I’ve been struggling for a long time because of my trauma with family relations and other illnesses. My most recent relations of sort that ended, ended with this person throwing away all my belongings including family heirlooms from my deceased grandmother, all my clothes, government documents and limited editions of collectables of my special interest. This action has finally led me here to a place where I can express my need and hopefully get it.
I need a parental figure who could support and help me, whether that’s through tough times or good times. Just BE THERE for me. I want this to be a long term family relationship where we can meet irl (I’m based in Norway), this is why it’s very important that you’re located in CEST/WEST or Finland. So that even if we’re not in the same country it is easy for us to FaceTime/Call/Voice message each other (I’m a sucker for voice message), and it still wouldn’t be to difficult to plan for meeting each other. I mean if you’re willing to travel across the globe to meet I would be happy to start messaging but of course that would be a while til we would even discuss the possibility for such a huge travel and a lot of safety and parental intimacy would have to be established of course :)
I need a parent who wants to talk daily whether irl or on the phone, and would gladly be available to chat almost any time… except the witching ours of course (like a parent with their clingy daughter 😅) I need a lot of help and I’m a weird period where I’m basically waiting on a lot of practical things from the government, it’s stressful and lonely. So it’s important for me to have access to you even on the days when I simply want to talk about the female chinchillas defense mechanism.
I need someone who while can be practical (and doesn’t mind doing things like researching how to make an appointment, ect. lol) also is highly empathetic and is good at comforting and support. Because I have had to parent myself since I can remember I am highly solution orient already but when I’m in really bad situations in life I can’t stop the flow of sadness (and to be honest have been struggling my whole life) and need someone who would do/say validating things like “wow that person/situation is a bitch”, “I’m sorry let it all out and then I’ll help you thing of a plan”, or “don’t worry you can be sad with me I won’t leave you” instead of “you just have to to try to be happy” and “we’re all alone in this world” 😭
Some things to note about me you may wanna know before we take a step into staring this close family relation
I’m politically active in a fuck the government kind of way/although I’m on a hiatus for my health
human rights are human rights and it’s crazy how that’s become a political stance
I will bully you for using older person words (even though I secretly love it and will un ironically start using them)
I love watching movies/tvs and would love to watch one with you through Netflix parties and then comment throughout on FaceTime. I can also quietly sit through movies as I’m a film nerd connoisseur and love to discuss AFTER digesting it all
my favorite shows/movies are Gravity Falls, Pretty Woman, Real Women Have Curves, Shape of Water, Star vs The Forces of Evil, A Series of Unfortunate Events(my life story lol), Abbott Elementary, and Once Upon a Time.
I’m scared that the things I’ve been through and how it’s affected me will scare you off so please don’t contact me if you get easily scared/overwhelmed to the point of distancing yourself
I hope to one day be able to tell the people who come in my life that’s my “insert parental figure name” because I know it’s true without a doubt and the only thing that would actually be different from us compared to other kids and their parental figures is that we don’t share the same blood
if you couldn’t tell by the post I think and plan alot
I collect items (like that of my grandmas :() that belong to the people I love so I can always have a part of them with me and pass it on to potential children I might have(would also like to be a parental figure to the one that slipped away/needs it the most when I’m older and stable hopefully)
I need patience, understanding, and clear communication and I give it back to the best of my ability :)
If you believe that you’re all the things I described I need that’s great, I would love to get to know you!
I am not looking for advice. Just validation and for someone to see me and hold space. I know what I want and need, and who I am inside. I don’t want debaters or anyone trying to convince me of their point of view.
No one has my best interest in mind and they treat me like I don’t matter. Like my needs don’t matter and like I don’t deserve a good life. I was born in a really bad place (a third world country) where I don’t belong, I don’t share any values or worldviews with them, and nothing about this place is normal to me or reflects who I am at all. There is no life for me here. I didn’t have a life, a childhood, or any relationships with anyone I love or respect. I hate this place and always have. I was abandoned as a newborn, but it’s not like it matters, since the people who adopted me have not given me a good life, because, quite frankly, no one here can give me what I need. They think a good life is superflous. But they were especially abusive, and even people here would probably agree. They are religious extremists, moralists, and pro-life. I am irreligious and pro-choice. I used to be an atheist/materialist (even as a kid I never believed in their religion, they could never condition me), now I am quite spiritual/idealist and woo woo. But still very much an individualist and independent thinker. So it would be nice to talk to other people into alternative spirituality, law of assumption, LHP. I am not a realist or practical. I believe in the impossible. I am very sensitive, so being in this hostile environment that’s is not aligned with my soul’s truth is really harmful and distressing. Here are some personality type indicators, so you can have an idea of what I am like: INTJ, 4w5, sp/sx, 458 (tritype).
If you want to know more, feel free to DM.
Hello,
I have posted and messaged many accounts on Reddit, to help people in need with depression and worries. I am looking to add to my family here on Reddit, and would like to offer anyone in need of help or family. Persons younger than I, can see if I work out as a father figure if they like, or maybe something else. Any body else can reach out and see what fits best. I'm flexible and hope to help. Stay safe out there all
So, I'm married, have twin toddlers, but no siblings, cousins, close friends, or even another couple with kids to hang out with in real life. It's a pretty isolating feeling. Work, family, sleep, repeat. I'm an introvert, so I don't mind doing activities at home (board games, card games, video games, or binging on a good sci-fi, action, thriller, or comedy series). Or even just simple laid back outings (dinner, movies, bowling, trip to the beach, etc.). Unfortunately, not having close family/friends to do things with just really sucks. Even if it were just another couple with kids that can relate or something. I'm really just looking for something genuine. I'm a loyal person and have a lot to share and bring to the table, but I won't just open up if the vibe is not right or there's just no chemistry personality wise.
Some key things to note about me not previously shared:
If you're in my area and you think we might have things in common, send me a message. Pics on profile if you want to see who I am. Please make sure you read this entire post before contacting me.
It hurts inside so bad. I can’t even express my self here because it isn’t “right” but I just wished she loved me. I wish I didn’t have this anger. And this hole. I’ve been abandon my whole life. I’m so tired.
Hey there! I’m looking for a family, mainly siblings! I don’t have like. a huge story on why I’m looking for family on this subreddit or anything like that. It’s pretty much just cause the only sibling I really “grew up” with is my little sister, but I was going on 13 when she was born, so… y’know.
Here’s a bit about me! You can call me Jake. I love slasher and psychological horror movies, space, history, the ‘oddities and curiosities’ tag on Etsy, and music. I like pretty much every genre, including country, heavy metal, pop, punk, and rap. This also includes LOADS of subgenres like pop punk, metalcore, deathcore, outlaw country, country rock, southern gothic, trap metal, etc. I’m not a fan of country rap, ‘bro country’, or mumble rap, though.
Would love to have brothers, but I would also more than gladly accept sisters! If anyone needs a big/little brother to annoy them in the way only a brother can, I can easily fill that role! Looking for people to share a genuine and as real as possible sibling bond with. NO RACISTS, HOMOPHOBES, TRANSPHOBES, ETC.
Hi!
I am 25M, and posting on this sub to anyone who would be intetested in having a family member online. Sooooooooo, a little bit about me: Usually the calm and quiet guy just doing his own thing but is down to share stories if the stars align (just kidding). I like sharing experiences/stories as they are fun to share in my opinion. I have been told by people around me that I am a good listener, so if you want to vent to a stranger online my ears are at your service.
Some of my interests are reading about artificial intelligence enhancements, looking at pictures of Space particulary nebulas (they are really cool, mesmerising and pleasing to my eyes). I recently started to learn HTML and CSS as a hobby. I am really enjoying it. Bonus points if someone knows their way around these languages and could help provide tips/tricks 😀
If you have read this far, thank you for your time and feel free to DM me if you wish to connect. If not then have a great day/evening ahead :)
Cheers, Dark_Loose.
Its what the tin says, I just really want an older brother figure i can turn to whenever my dorkiness hits its peak can really get me and match my excitment!
Someone like that has always been a kinda person I've wanted to have in my life, cause it's been a whole since I've had someone in my life who was truly as much of a nerd as me that I can ramble to whenever wanted! Here's some stuff that are my main fixation:
Persona [3 - 5], Dungen Meshi, Danganronpa [ 1 - V3], Undertale [Yellow], Deltarune & Cant Stop Cursing You, & Pokemon!
Really hoping to find a geeky big bro ^^!
Can't offer myself as a father since I'm too young for that lol. Just a 27 yo guy. I'd love to be a part of your life! And i mean it. So if you're looking for something meaningful and long lasting, then let's connect! Who knows! This might be the beginning of something great!
I really want lasting relationships and close family. I was originally going to go just female family members but I also think I could really use guy influences on my life too. In a mom, I just want someone who's warm and interested in me and non judgmental. In a dad I just want someone who accepts me for who I am and is a good listener. Same with aunts and uncles. For siblings, I just want someone closer to my age or a bit older that I can actually talk to since IRL I'm the oldest. I like the sims 4, CK3, anime and cosplay, dad jokes, cooking, cats, and nails. I'm relatively stubborn and I get attached easy but I'm a good listener and give decent advice.