/r/FamiliesYouChoose

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This is the place for people to develop family-type relationships with people other than their IRL family. The goal is to create strong and supportive bonds between people, that often go beyond the typical fleeting relationship with other Redditors.

The idea of this subreddit is to give people the chance to have family-type relationships with people other than their traditional family members. You can make whatever kind of commitment, small or big, to your new honorary family members. Whatever you and your honorary family are comfortable with.

The goal is to create something at least a little more than a fleeting relationship with other redditers. The idea isn't to just reply to someone's post and forget all about it. It might just mean checking in on someone 1 month later. Doing something that a family member (perhaps a distant one) might do.

If you have local honorary family members, you may choose to invite them to things you might traditionally invite family to.

If you have non-local honorary family members, you can reach out to them in other ways, just like "regular" non-local family members do.

Please do follow general safety rules, the same rules if your long lost cousin Pat contacted you. Don't share your "real" names or location. Don't publicly share private info (e.g., your address, phone number, etc.). If you decide to message someone with that info, please think carefully about whether you've developed enough of a relationship to share that info. If you're going to meet, please follow these suggestions for how to do it safely. This community is full of awesome wonderful people, and we want all of you to be safe.

Rules

  1. Please help this to be a safe, welcoming, and judgement-free zone.
  2. No throwaway accounts - accounts must be at least 10 days old and have 25 comment karma.
  3. You may create 1 new post every 7 days; commenting is unlimited.
  4. No deleting old posts.

To ensure our community is free of people who continuously violate the rules, the moderators will ban anyone who violates the rules three times.

Want to help? Thanks! You're super cool. How to Make this Community Great

Some other subs you might find helpful

Resources for people who might need more than just the kind words we can offer

/r/FamiliesYouChoose

22,038 Subscribers

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need caring connection - accepting of me - talk relatively daily

27F. I have issues like existential crisis, depression.

1 Comment
2024/12/05
15:24 UTC

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Autistic fifteen year old looking for ANY family

I have to use an alt because I am not comfortable revealing my age on my main (for somewhat obvious reasons I would hope?)

Hi, I’m 15 years old. I am not stating my biological sex because I don’t identify as that anymore. The best thing I’ve found to describe my gender is genderqueer. Anyway, I use He/It/Xe pronouns (and a bunch more but I’m too lazy to list my pronouns card rn😭🙏)

Anyway, I am neurodivergent DIAGNOSED ADHD, OCD, and Autism :)

I like Roblox, Phighting (Roblox game), learning languages (taking French rn), learning about other cultures, horror, dinosaurs, cats, reading, writing, drawing (I’m not that good at it, lol😭), cryptozoology, and a bunch of other stuff I can’t think of Rn

Fair warning that I curse a LOT 😭

Also I am pretty awkward at times (sometimes I disappear for a bit so FAIR WARNING)

anyway yeah

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2024/12/05
13:36 UTC

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15f seeking older sisters or a mom figure.

I'm only seeking older sisters, mom figure or a grandma type figure. I tend to get clingy once I like you and feel comfortable. My childhood wasn't the best and my parents gave me diagnosed ptsd as a result. I'm desperately searching for that female/maternal love I never got as a kid.

Anyways I'm autistic, have adhd, pstd, anxiety and depression . I'm lesbian. (Acceptance is a must for both of those) I love pets and animals. I want to be come a vet tech. I like to crochet and build legos.

Anyways message me if you are willing to chat!

3 Comments
2024/12/04
21:48 UTC

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28 F - Looking for a supportive person to become like family

Hello!

A bit about what I'm looking for : I'm looking for someone who wants to have a deep friendship that can move toward the idea of becoming like family. I'm only looking for a woman who is around my age or older. I'm looking for someone who is mature and has some level of emotional stability.

A bit about me : I am fairly estranged from my biological family. My mother was the arbiter of the relationships I had with my family members and that relationship has really gone downhill so I'm fairly out of the scope of the family now. I am a middle child and very much suffer from "Middle Kid Syndrome". I am married to a wonderful man. I am a religious person (Orthodox Christian) - just as a note, I don't judge anyone for their beliefs, but I state my religion upfront as it's important to me.

I hope to hear from you!!

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2024/12/04
16:25 UTC

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[18M] I’m looking for a father figure over here.

Hii, I used to post here when I first started Reddit but never really found anything. Giving this a shot after 2 years.

I’m an 18 year old gay boy from India. Growing up in an abusive household and emotionally unavailable one has naturally given me a lot of issues mentally. Either way things are a bit better now but the void is still there. I have a bf whom I love very much. But due to his work and life in general he isn’t so available which I completely understand. Therefore I’m looking for some father figure to talk through out the day about anything related to life or whatever.

I’m not in university rn, pretty much just unemployed and lost in life at the moment lol. I spend my days reading books mostly and being in my room. I know not the most happening person but it is what it is. I ofc don’t intend to be like this forever. I guess I’m more on a break from things and life in general atm while trying to fix things for the future step by step in the background.

I should say I am more of an introvert I guess? I can talk a lot when I’m comfortable with someone though. So there’s that. I don’t really care about your age or where you’re from. People of my age are also welcome. I sleep quite less so I’m mostly available all the time anyway. I don’t expect you to be available 24/7 but just try to be as responsive as possible. Dm me if you’re interested

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2024/12/03
20:23 UTC

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[18M] Please if anyone who can be a person I can share my feelings with, DM

I'm an 18 year old guy and I feel like I wasn't loved properly or given much love as a kid and that left a void in my heart. I would love it if any kind person DM's me, I also have mommy issues. So if a willing woman is reading this, please DM me I got lots of things to share with…

1 Comment
2024/12/03
14:48 UTC

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28 [M] Looking for a brother/sister/parent in the US (CT/ET)

I want to start saying that I do have an incredible family and I love them, I currently live with my brother as we both decided to move to the US from our home country.

The thing is that while I love my family, there are a lot of things I dont feel comfortable taking with them and I dont have constant communication as they live in another country.

I want to find a brother, sister, parent, or even just a friend I can constantly talk to, ask for advice and who knows, maybe get to meet one day!

I love watching movies, playing video games and talking about life. Hopefully we can connect.

Hmu via Dm if you think we would be a great fit.

1 Comment
2024/12/03
03:31 UTC

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Hi! I would love to have a new family member to learn from. [30M]

Hi! I’m looking to build a kind-hearted platonic connection.

I’ve been looking into learning from someone because I had an epiphany 2 years ago about why I’m not happy ,followed by a lot of growth, but I made the 3 mistakes of: trying to work on it with no support system, diving into my first relationship (one I repeatedly leave/commit to/am badly hurt by/romanticize) and not keeping track of or codifying what that growth meant to me, so I’m mostly back where I started.

I want to avoid trauma dumping, and would instead love to learn from someone about where they were at, and how they found their happiness. MOST of all, I would LOVE for someone to do two-way active listening with me. I never got that in my first relationship and I realize I want something reciprocal.

I have a good heart, a decent job, an inquisitive and goofy personality, a desire to learn from someone persistent and kind, and a lot of time I’m willing to devote toward a great connection. Message me to talk!

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2024/12/03
01:21 UTC

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42M. Looking For A Son In The USA; Siblings As Well.

So. Hello Everyone. This is my first time posting here. I'm very new to the Reddit world but stumbled across this and thought this was a really cool thing to see caring people looking for family, so I thought I write a post myself to help fill a void in my life knowing I have lots of love, compassion, and respect to give to others. I'm sorry if this goes long but I want to make sure I present my case, so you know who I am and what to expect if you decide to message me.

Wel. About me first I suppose. Well, I am a 42 year old male. I'm married to the most wonderful husband in the entire world. I am very blessed, and we have a great life. We don't want for anything, and I really can't complain about anything to be honest. We work, watch movies, and play games and there really is nothing I could ask for more. I, and him, though have thought our life is missing something. I know we won't have kids of my own and I got so much love to give, and I know if this was my last day one earth, the little knowledge I do have would be gone. I want to give that to someone.

I can't say I have all the answers or truths, but I know I would love to share my experiences and be a good influence, a light of hope for the younger generation. I also know there is so much I could learn from the younger generation as well...like all these words I have no idea what it mean.. like oof, rizz, bussin and what in god's green earth is skibbidy toilet? I also got some lame slang from my day I can give to someone as well. I want the education, kindness, love, and respect to go both ways.

So, about my hobbies? Well. I am a big gamer, sports fan, and love to listen to asmr. I am also a pretty big movie buff as well. I have a gaming pc and xbox if that matters. Other than that, I work and spend time with my hubby. I will say if it goes well, we both would want to be part of your life. I am writing this, but I never would seclude him as he has lots of love as well.

So, what am I looking for? I am looking for a son. Someone I can give advice to, listen to, and have a real family connection. I want to say I am looking for a long-term, forever connection. I don't post this lightly for messaging for a few days and if you are not looking for the same, I would hold of messaging me. I know there are lots of people who don't have dads or never had one and I love to be that role. I am serious in the fact in building a slow relationship and having it in my real life and not just online.

So, what can you expect if you message me? First, you will be respected and treated with the dignity and kindness you deserve. I know online can be a scary place and not all have true hearts but you expect nothing less from me. I truly have only good, honest intentions and I want others to always feel respected and safe around me. I know trust takes time and I want it to take time or it isn't worth anything. So, know if you decide to message me, you will get the things I described above and I will ask the same from you.

P.S. I am also looking for a couple sibling types my age as well.

Just message me and we can go from here. I prefer you be from the use, so we can match timezones.

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2024/12/02
22:55 UTC

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19F - searching for father figure, preferably in the US like me.

Hi everyone,

I’m writing this with an open heart, hoping to find something I’ve never had but have always dreamed of—a father figure. I’m 19, and the idea of having someone to guide me, encourage me, and share life’s moments with feels so comforting, especially now. With the holiday season here and my birthday just around the corner, that longing has grown even stronger. It’s a time of year when people gather with family, and I can’t help but wish I had someone to celebrate with, someone who could give me life advice and truly care about my growth and happiness.

Art is a big part of my life—it’s how I express myself and process my emotions. I often find myself wishing for someone to share my creations with, someone who could encourage me to keep going and remind me of my potential when I’m feeling down. I’ve always imagined what it would be like to have a father figure who supports not just my goals but also my passions, cheering me on as I navigate life and my artistic journey.

I want to be upfront: my only intention here is to find a meaningful, platonic connection. I’m here with sincerity, looking to build something grounded in trust, care, and mutual respect. I’m not looking for perfection—just someone kind, patient, and willing to create a bond that feels like family.

I’m shy and introverted but have a lot of love to give to those I connect with. I’m far from perfect, but I’m working every day to grow into the person I want to be. I value deep conversations, thoughtful encouragement, and the kind of connection that helps both people feel less alone in the world.

If you’re someone who feels a tug at your heart reading this, I’d love to hear from you. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and for considering opening your life to the possibility of chosen family. It would mean the world to me to find someone who believes in me and is willing to build a bond we can both cherish.

3 Comments
2024/12/02
00:28 UTC

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36M Looking to Build a Chosen Family Connection

Hey there, I’m a 36-year-old guy living in the Pacific Northwest, and I’m looking to build a real, meaningful connection with someone who could become part of my chosen family. Whether it’s as an older brother, younger brother, or even a father figure, I’m open to creating that bond that feels like true family.

A bit about me: I’m married with three sons, and I’ve got a love for adventure—camping, road trips, hiking, and gaming (PS5, Switch, Xbox). I’m also a student and work full-time in healthcare, so I understand the balance of being supportive while managing life’s challenges.

What I’m looking for is someone who values loyalty, openness, and respect—a connection where we can have deep conversations, share laughs, and always have each other’s backs. If you’re also craving that kind of family connection and are ready to build something meaningful, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s create the family we choose.

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2024/12/01
18:00 UTC

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28 NB looking for supportive parents or siblings

Hi there. I’m a 28 year old nonbinary person trying to make it through school and heal from my abusive family. I’m looking for any family members, and I’m excited to hear about you as well! I understand I may be a more difficult family member to take on, so I will provide some context.

Here is some background: I have a lot of trauma and I believe I may be autistic and maybe ADHD. I know I have OCD, but I strongly suspect these other things. I’m in a difficult situation and I still have to depend on my manipulative parents for financial support, as they barred me from higher education when I was younger. I also am chronically ill. I’m very emotional but I have dreams and I’m trying my best. I understand if this is too heavy for you, but I don’t have any family I’m close to, and I’m looking to build long term close relationships. I don’t have any friends in school and I’m needlessly excluded, and I’m thinking about switching. I’m studying fashion design abroad. It’s hard to time for hobbies and my health or meeting outside friends with the schedule, and I have to see people who hate me every day at school, even during the weekends.

Here are the positives about me: I speak Spanish, I love games, especially horror, dystopian, and cozy sandbox games. I like sewing, drawing, crochet, knitting, pharmacology, chemistry, philosophy, I’m vegan, I can cook but lately what I can eat has been limited by stomach issues… Ive had many different crazy experiences, I even made a 3 hour documentary all by myself, I’ve lived in a few places, or tried, sometimes it didn’t work out. I used to rave a lot, I like drum and bass and house music. I used to go clubbing alone a lot. I go occasionally if I have time or money. I no longer drink due to health issues. I love learning about people’s hobbies and passions, and I try to enjoy the simple things. I love hot showers and baths, cat cafes, pumpkin spice, being in nature and cozy places, etc.

I’m looking to speak regularly with someone, maybe even call or meet up someday if we can. I understand everyone has their own lives. I will try to give to you just as much. I can be fun, I’m just going through a lot. Feel free to send me a DM or comment if you’re interested :)

5 Comments
2024/12/01
13:05 UTC

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[20M] Looking for long term siblings! :)

Hi! I'm a 20yo M, Like the title says im looking for siblings! I love photography, drawing, playing games, binge watching anime and tv shows and listening to music! I'm also really into true crime stuff, and i know everyone says that nowadays but it's related to my career choice so it's valid lmao. I love learning languages (Spanish, Italian, Portuguese and a little bit of French) and enjoy baking a lot, its my secondary job choice. I really enjoy anime and manga; my top 3 series are JJBA, Initial D and Dandadan. I listen to a bunch of different genres of music; pop, indie, shoegaze, rock and a bunch of other stuff (huge lady gaga fan too lmao). + Thought i should mention ive been a huge Sonic fan ever since i was a kid lol. If you don't share any interests don't worry, im open to anyone :) Siblings don't have to share EVERYTHING in common after all! (no nsfw pls)

4 Comments
2024/11/29
17:18 UTC

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I want a father, Does anybody want a daughter?

I am a 17 years old student, I spend most of my time studying, but I feel lonely a lot and I just want a father figure to talk to. My father passed away when I was six years old, and so did my both grandfathers, I have an abusive step-dad and my mother is not supportive, I have no father figure in my life, if anybody is interested in having a daughter please send me a direct massage:)

11 Comments
2024/11/26
18:21 UTC

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36M Seeking a Real Brother for Friendship

Hey everyone, I’m a 36-year-old guy in the Pacific Northwest looking to build something real—a brotherhood. I’m talking about that deeper connection with a small group of guys or even just one solid bro. To me, a brother isn’t just a friend; he’s someone who feels like family.

A bit about me: I’m into road trips, camping, hiking, video games, and I’m always down to learn something new. I’m the type of guy who values loyalty, honesty, and dependability. I work hard, appreciate meaningful connections, and believe in being there for the people who matter.

I’m looking for someone loyal, honest, and dependable. A brother who’s not afraid to be real—whether that’s sharing life’s highs and lows, challenging each other to grow, or just hanging out without judgment. Someone I can trust to have my back, and who knows I’ll have theirs in return.

I value openness, humor, and the kind of support where we can talk about anything, even the tough or private stuff. If you’re also craving that kind of connection—a bond built on trust, respect, and a shared commitment to showing up for each other—hit me up. Let’s build something real.

4 Comments
2024/11/26
17:48 UTC

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21NB looking for Parental figure/sibling figure

Hello so I know this may sound weird but I'm 21 and I'm looking for a parental figure/ sibling figure
I like don't care if the parents are Trans or NB (heck also part of the LGBTQ+) that goes with the same with sibling
I'm lonely and sad at times my sibling has a life on their own since they're now a parent to kids my parents are busy and sometimes don't want to do anything but if you want to chat please DM me I kinda like need support and someone to talk to and need a figure in my life (Parental or sibling)

2 Comments
2024/11/24
05:06 UTC

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18 years old looking for an elder sister (long term)

I need an elder sister please dm if you are interested.

1 Comment
2024/11/23
07:46 UTC

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34F looking for long term empathetic family

Hi. You can call me Clove, I'm looking for like-minded family members to share life with. We don't have to talk everyday but I would love to commit to getting to know each other and growing together.

I would prefer older siblings or mom as I have came from an abusive home that I'm still trying to heal from.

I need family to talk about daily life with, give each other advice, laugh about silly things, watch movies/tv shows and game together. I am watching the tv show "Recess" as I type this so I'm looking for someone I can share my inner child with, be silly and weird together. A person who is not afraid of taking space and accepts their big personalities and is confident. Maybe it will finally rub off me.

I also don't mind being an older family figure for someone, giving them advice and chat with. 27+ only please.

Some more things about me: I deal with alot of mental health issues and I would prefer to talk to someone who understands.

I am married and have two beautiful doggos. I enjoy everything horror and psychological thrillers. I also watch alot of comedy shows. My favourite is the good place. I am very into spiritual practices and am a witch. I sometimes write, draw and paint but motivation has been difficult.

I'm in a low place right now and feel quite alone. I want to be there for you, be your confidant if you want to be mine back ❤️

Please read this before you message me: Please don't message me with the standard hello, hi etc. Talk to me like we know each other, after all we are family right? I prefer you message me like we're already in a conversation talking about something. Then we can get to know each other that way.

I really hope i get to talk to someone, please don't hesitate to message me!

2 Comments
2024/11/21
10:45 UTC

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25 afab/genderfluid, BIPOC, NYC. Looking for a sibling, a mother, a father—anyone.

I’m looking for someone to bond with, but not in a codependent way. I’m looking for someone who I feel like can read me well. I’m looking for someone pretty open minded and older, but open to speaking with people 18+ that need support. Most of all, I want you to know as much of the real me as possible; some parts are heavy, some are light, so this will be a jumble of things:

I’m a multidisciplinary artist; I love printmaking, experimental darkroom photography, and experimental filmmaking. I play a few instruments and have written a couple scores for films I’ve had screened here. A documentary I worked on a couple years ago just received an Emmy. I moved to NYC in June to escape SW; I think the reason I was in it in the first place had to do with my father s*xualizing me when I was growing up. I’ve been in weekly therapy for a year and a half-ish. I was on track to go into neuroscience in college for 3 years before changing my major. I completed my BA at 24. I ranaway at 18, a couple weeks into my senior year of high school; it improved my grades dramatically. I studied french in Paris, and continue to study it. I’ve always loved to get into new languages while growing up. I recently began writing again, and it takes on a very visceral approach. I’ve enjoyed reading Clarice Lispector this year, finally read Notes by Dostoyevsky, and am reading Murakami at the moment. Aside from that, I’m very independent and have just been through the most stressful period of time from June to now. After escaping SW, I struggled with finding a new apartment and was SA’d at a new job, but now have a great apartment that’s coming together and have gotten a new job and lawyer. I haven’t been in contact with my parents since February. I have a decent amount of older friends—55-70years old typically—but I want something deeper..ish? I want to watch a movie together. I want to speak freely with you, and for you to know the true me. I want you to tell me a secret. I want to write you. I want you to think I’m special; I want someone special.

That’s my stream of consciousness tidbit. I hope to hear from you:) maybe I have what you’re looking for.

2 Comments
2024/11/21
04:52 UTC

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30(m) open to be a caring family for anyone in need

DMs are open so anyone can reach out and I'll be there for anyone who needs someone to listen, give options, share thoughts, desires. Open to any kind of conversation.

3 Comments
2024/11/20
15:08 UTC

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Looking for an older familial figure, or to be an older sibling figure

Hi! I'm not used to posting so I hope you can forgive any faux pas. I'm 25 nonbinary, in the USA. They/them pronouns. I grew up with parents who enabled abuse by an older sibling, and its cost me every familial relationship to escape, aside from a complicated one with another sibling. I have a partner for the first time in my life, and am actively in therapy.

I'm not sure whats important to mention, so I'll say this: I have ADHD and autism. I tend to respond to messages fast, but occasionally they fall by the wayside and then I get embarrassed. I love writing and would love to read anything you write. If someone wants to help me get into D&D, I'd be ecstatic to try. I love video games, but I only ever play on my phone. I hyperfocus and will take any chance to gush about storylines, and I'd love to hear what other people care about as well. Ask me anything you're curious about?

If you need an older sibling figure, it makes me happy to know I help. That said, I am not really open to talk to anyone under 18, sorry

I would also love to meet someone interested in being an older familial figure, though I'm sure its very sought after here haha.

Please comment/DM if interested. Thank you for reading, and happy holidays to all of us looking for connection <3

2 Comments
2024/11/19
03:51 UTC

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(21F) dms open incase you need an ear to rant to, or just want to ask silly questions! id love to be someones older sister!

looking to be a sister to anyone!!

4 Comments
2024/11/14
14:25 UTC

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(36F) [USA] - Offering as a sibling, friend, or whatever fits! (Queer/Gamer relatives WANTED)

Hello again! I posted once here before about 7 months ago, but ended up going on hiatus for my mental health, so I'll copy/paste that below this lil introduction. If you reached out to me before in comments, chat requests, or messages then please leave a comment here so I can find you again! Try to include an introduction so that I know who I'm talking to and what you're interested in!

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PLEASE READ THROUGH ALL OF THIS BEFORE REACHING OUT, so that you know what you're getting yourself into!

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I was thinking that it might be nice to find a small group of people who may be interested in hanging out and playing games especially with the holidays coming up? BUUUT I am introverted and I have a low social battery, which means I need extroverted people to step up to the plate. 😂

Some important things about myself that I want to make clear:

  • As long as no one expects me to reply 24/7 or demands things from me, I'll be okay and I'll be able to chat! Please know that I am not ignoring you if I don't respond right away because I am also a busy person with a lot on my plate-- please don't yell at me over how much I can/can't socialize.
  • I'm a recovering people-pleaser and I tend to be the Mom Friend™ among my friends so I still burn out pretty easily because I was used to putting others needs above my own. This is why I'm asking for the extroverts to take the lead so that I'm not the one always initiating or wrangling people to socialize and be happy y'know?
  • I'm going to take things slow because I'm not sure how many people might contact me and if it's more than 3 then I will likely be very slow if only because I get overwhelmed easily. I'm neurospicy (ASD, ADHD, and CPTSD) with insomnia issues so please be kind to me. ;w; Thank you!!!
  • I am not able to adopt anyone or send money/gifts, not that this is an issue that's come up or anything but I wanted to state this so that there aren't any expectations thrown at me. If we end up very close in the future and wanted to send handmade gifts to each other, then I may be open to that! Just please don't demand things because it makes me uncomfortable.
  • I am a woman of color, Demi-sexual & Bi-romantic (not looking), and polyamorous with two partners. I am also a Democrat and I no longer care to mingle with anyone who voted for Trump because that essentially put myself and other Queer people in danger. We will never get along if you can't understand this, so please don't interact with me! Thank you in advance.
  • I've cut off contact with both sides of my family because of them voting for Trump. I will not accept anyone being cowardly enough to kiss up to that side of the equation. That being said, family positions are open and I'm pretty much okay with any type of relatives. :') Aunt, Uncle, Cousin, Niece, Nephew, Nibling, Sibling, whatever!

I tend to play games on Steam, Nintendo Switch, and PS5. I've also been trying a lot of games on Roblox and I'm considering making some kind of game on there too but I need to learn a lot of things before I try. lol

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  • You can call me Astra or Astraea (not my real name)!
    • 36F, cisfemale, She/They
    • Polynesian-American
    • Demi-sexual & Bi-romantic (not looking)
    • Polyamorous (Husband & Boyfriend)
  • I'm a fierce believer in fighting for what's important to you and thus I care greatly for those of us who are LGBTQIA+, people of color, or anyone who's struggling with their humanity being trampled upon. Wherever you come from, however you personally identify or whomever you choose to love should be celebrated! I want to be part of a safe space for both myself and my chosen family.
  • As for describing more about myself as a person...
    • I'd say that I have a big heart, lots of love and affection to give, but that's only something I can share when I've learned to trust someone. I come from a very abusive home, so I'm pretty guarded for safety reasons. Generally, I will always respect the people around me and try my best to communicate or check on how someone's feeling when I've noticed that they're down. I'm very empathetic by nature and I care enough to pay attention to social cues among other things. lol Much like a cat popping up to distract you or sleep next to you when you're sad, if you know what I mean.
    • I'm sarcastic, but I would never say anything as a "joke" at someone's expense. I love to make people laugh and I giggle a lot myself, so hopefully you'll enjoy being around me especially if we decide to speak over voice chat!
    • Almost forgot to mention that I am introverted (until I get to know someone well enough) so unless we have things to chat about, I might be really quiet for a while? It honestly depends on what we have in common and how well we mesh together. Once I've opened up and feel like we have a good connection, I'll likely become way more extroverted than you're used to.
  • Hobbies / Interests...
    • I love RPGs, life sims, and games that let you customize your home! (Think: Final Fantasy, Story of Seasons, and House Flipper!) I spend much of my free time playing games so you'll probably notice that right away. 😂 I would love to make a career out of this somehow, but I'm not sure which direction I'm going in since I've dabbled in ASMR Roleplay and setting up a youtube channel on the side with the hopes of recording the games that I love. Who knows, maybe I'll pursue art instead since I really want to get into polymer clay and painting!
  • What am I looking for in a relative?
    • I've always wanted a big brother so I am open to that! Hopefully someone I can share games or movies with.
    • Otherwise, I'd probably like a sister closer to my age just to have someone to talk about anything with? Adulting is hard and weird sometimes. haha
    • Honestly I'd be happy to have someone to talk to and share things with, like games/TV shows/movies or arts and crafts projects!
  • Please know that I'm not willing to meet up in person unless we've known each other for a loooong time. Trust issues, y'know? That and I'm shy anyway. :P

Disclaimer: My profile should come up as NSFW because I commented a lot in 18+ communities, but I do NOT post anything NSFW outside of giving my two cents on things that I've read. lol

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2024/11/13
18:53 UTC

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22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For

22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For

Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!

I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure, or even if you just need an older brother. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!

I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.

Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.

As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.

I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.

I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.

I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.

If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.

I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!

Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!

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2024/11/07
02:59 UTC

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27F Looking for mum or sister I can talk to about about my troubles

Going through a lot. I have been my whole life. I have no local support system, where I live is definitely the last place I’d chose to live, I have wanted to escape my whole life. As there is no life for me in this place and culture and it is literally my personal hell. Was abandoned as a foundling and then adopted by abusive and narcissistic parents. Can only rely on internet friends for emotional support, due to living in a toxic environment. No institutional support of any kind. I need a close female family member. Please, message me if you feel called to. I just want to be heard and understood.

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2024/11/06
14:29 UTC

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F16 looking for sister to help on guidance(AGAIN)

HEY im just so so indifferent to everybody else and dont know about going about things to get what i want and would just like a sister or girlie to talk to.

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2024/11/05
11:36 UTC

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29 arab man seeking to be a father figure

Im an accountant and im looking to be a father figure to whoever wants help or guidance. Any age works and i can keep conversations going such as gaming, tv shows, hobbies and much more.

6 Comments
2024/11/04
06:50 UTC

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28 F - Looking for a supportive person to become like family

Hello!

A bit about what I'm looking for : I'm looking for someone who wants to have a deep friendship that can move toward the idea of becoming like family. I'm only looking for a woman who is around my age or older. I'm looking for someone who is mature and has some level of emotional stability.

A bit about me : I am fairly estranged from my biological family. My mother was the arbiter of the relationships I had with my family members and that relationship has really gone downhill so I'm fairly out of the scope of the family now. I am a middle child and very much suffer from "Middle Kid Syndrome". I am married to a wonderful man. I am a religious person (Orthodox Christian).

I hope to hear from you!

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2024/11/01
13:43 UTC

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Supportive mother figure looking to offer support to a young person who feels they could benefit from it 🤗

Hello, I’m 40+ mum of mostly young adults and a couple of children.

A bit about myself, I grew up with a narcissistic mother and an emotionally detached father. Got married at 18 and left home as soon as I could. I went on to have 8 children, lost one along the way and now have 7 amazing children, 2 of which are autistic and 3 have adhd diagnosis.

In my 30’s I spent thousands on therapy. I did a counselling qualification and a social work degree to really heal the wounds left by my family, particularly my mother. It took many years but on reaching the end of that I felt like I was reborn, free to live my life in a way I had never known before.

I know what it’s like to have parents that don’t show up. To feel like you don’t have the support or worse, to feel gaslit and told things you went through never happened. There’s nothing worse than to have your feelings invalidated by a parent. To get great news and have no one to share it with. To need advice and have no door to knock on for it.

I was so lucky to find an incredible lady who took me under her wing and showed me what a true mother was supposed to be. I still credit her from saving me from some very poor decision making and pushing me to achieve. I would like to be that to someone else, pay it forward let’s say.

If you feel like my support is something that could help you then please inbox or comment below ☺️I am so open to forming a positive supportive parental type relationship with someone who needs it. Ideally someone older than 18

6 Comments
2024/10/27
14:31 UTC

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28F Looking for Mother Figure or any support

My mom kicked me out when I was a teenager and I have always felt like I’m missing something. I became very good at taking care of myself because I had to grow up fast, but even as an adult I still feel that loneliness a lot. In the last few years, I’ve been diagnosed with some chronic illnesses, which make it hard for me to socialize and have made the loneliness more difficult. I’m looking for support from a mother figure, or any kind of support really. I care deeply about the people in my life and have the capacity to reciprocate the support.

4 Comments
2024/10/25
06:11 UTC

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