/r/FamiliesYouChoose

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This is the place for people to develop family-type relationships with people other than their IRL family. The goal is to create strong and supportive bonds between people, that often go beyond the typical fleeting relationship with other Redditors.

The idea of this subreddit is to give people the chance to have family-type relationships with people other than their traditional family members. You can make whatever kind of commitment, small or big, to your new honorary family members. Whatever you and your honorary family are comfortable with.

The goal is to create something at least a little more than a fleeting relationship with other redditers. The idea isn't to just reply to someone's post and forget all about it. It might just mean checking in on someone 1 month later. Doing something that a family member (perhaps a distant one) might do.

If you have local honorary family members, you may choose to invite them to things you might traditionally invite family to.

If you have non-local honorary family members, you can reach out to them in other ways, just like "regular" non-local family members do.

Please do follow general safety rules, the same rules if your long lost cousin Pat contacted you. Don't share your "real" names or location. Don't publicly share private info (e.g., your address, phone number, etc.). If you decide to message someone with that info, please think carefully about whether you've developed enough of a relationship to share that info. If you're going to meet, please follow these suggestions for how to do it safely. This community is full of awesome wonderful people, and we want all of you to be safe.

Rules

  1. Please help this to be a safe, welcoming, and judgement-free zone.
  2. No throwaway accounts - accounts must be at least 10 days old and have 25 comment karma.
  3. You may create 1 new post every 7 days; commenting is unlimited.
  4. No deleting old posts.

To ensure our community is free of people who continuously violate the rules, the moderators will ban anyone who violates the rules three times.

Want to help? Thanks! You're super cool. How to Make this Community Great

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(21F) dms open incase you need an ear to rant to, or just want to ask silly questions! id love to be someones older sister!

looking to be a sister to anyone!!

2 Comments
2024/11/14
14:25 UTC

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[20M] Looking for long term siblings! Other fam welcome aswell :)

Hi! I'm a 20yo M, Like the title says im mainly looking for siblings! I love photography, drawing, playing games, binge watching anime and tv shows and listening to music! I'm also really into true crime stuff, and i know everyone says that nowadays but it's related to my career choice so it's valid lmao. If you don't share any interests don't worry, im open to anyone :) Siblings don't have to share EVERYTHING in common after all! (no nsfw pls)

1 Comment
2024/11/13
20:20 UTC

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(36F) [USA] - Offering as a sibling, friend, or whatever fits! (Queer/Gamer relatives WANTED)

Hello again! I posted once here before about 7 months ago, but ended up going on hiatus for my mental health, so I'll copy/paste that below this lil introduction. If you reached out to me before in comments, chat requests, or messages then please leave a comment here so I can find you again! Try to include an introduction so that I know who I'm talking to and what you're interested in!

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PLEASE READ THROUGH ALL OF THIS BEFORE REACHING OUT, so that you know what you're getting yourself into!

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I was thinking that it might be nice to find a small group of people who may be interested in hanging out and playing games especially with the holidays coming up? BUUUT I am introverted and I have a low social battery, which means I need extroverted people to step up to the plate. 😂

Some important things about myself that I want to make clear:

  • As long as no one expects me to reply 24/7 or demands things from me, I'll be okay and I'll be able to chat! Please know that I am not ignoring you if I don't respond right away because I am also a busy person with a lot on my plate-- please don't yell at me over how much I can/can't socialize.
  • I'm a recovering people-pleaser and I tend to be the Mom Friend™ among my friends so I still burn out pretty easily because I was used to putting others needs above my own. This is why I'm asking for the extroverts to take the lead so that I'm not the one always initiating or wrangling people to socialize and be happy y'know?
  • I'm going to take things slow because I'm not sure how many people might contact me and if it's more than 3 then I will likely be very slow if only because I get overwhelmed easily. I'm neurospicy (ASD, ADHD, and CPTSD) with insomnia issues so please be kind to me. ;w; Thank you!!!
  • I am not able to adopt anyone or send money/gifts, not that this is an issue that's come up or anything but I wanted to state this so that there aren't any expectations thrown at me. If we end up very close in the future and wanted to send handmade gifts to each other, then I may be open to that! Just please don't demand things because it makes me uncomfortable.
  • I am a woman of color, Demi-sexual & Bi-romantic (not looking), and polyamorous with two partners. I am also a Democrat and I no longer care to mingle with anyone who voted for Trump because that essentially put myself and other Queer people in danger. We will never get along if you can't understand this, so please don't interact with me! Thank you in advance.
  • I've cut off contact with both sides of my family because of them voting for Trump. I will not accept anyone being cowardly enough to kiss up to that side of the equation. That being said, family positions are open and I'm pretty much okay with any type of relatives. :') Aunt, Uncle, Cousin, Niece, Nephew, Nibling, Sibling, whatever!

I tend to play games on Steam, Nintendo Switch, and PS5. I've also been trying a lot of games on Roblox and I'm considering making some kind of game on there too but I need to learn a lot of things before I try. lol

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  • You can call me Astra or Astraea (not my real name)!
    • 36F, cisfemale, She/They
    • Polynesian-American
    • Demi-sexual & Bi-romantic (not looking)
    • Polyamorous (Husband & Boyfriend)
  • I'm a fierce believer in fighting for what's important to you and thus I care greatly for those of us who are LGBTQIA+, people of color, or anyone who's struggling with their humanity being trampled upon. Wherever you come from, however you personally identify or whomever you choose to love should be celebrated! I want to be part of a safe space for both myself and my chosen family.
  • As for describing more about myself as a person...
    • I'd say that I have a big heart, lots of love and affection to give, but that's only something I can share when I've learned to trust someone. I come from a very abusive home, so I'm pretty guarded for safety reasons. Generally, I will always respect the people around me and try my best to communicate or check on how someone's feeling when I've noticed that they're down. I'm very empathetic by nature and I care enough to pay attention to social cues among other things. lol Much like a cat popping up to distract you or sleep next to you when you're sad, if you know what I mean.
    • I'm sarcastic, but I would never say anything as a "joke" at someone's expense. I love to make people laugh and I giggle a lot myself, so hopefully you'll enjoy being around me especially if we decide to speak over voice chat!
    • Almost forgot to mention that I am introverted (until I get to know someone well enough) so unless we have things to chat about, I might be really quiet for a while? It honestly depends on what we have in common and how well we mesh together. Once I've opened up and feel like we have a good connection, I'll likely become way more extroverted than you're used to.
  • Hobbies / Interests...
    • I love RPGs, life sims, and games that let you customize your home! (Think: Final Fantasy, Story of Seasons, and House Flipper!) I spend much of my free time playing games so you'll probably notice that right away. 😂 I would love to make a career out of this somehow, but I'm not sure which direction I'm going in since I've dabbled in ASMR Roleplay and setting up a youtube channel on the side with the hopes of recording the games that I love. Who knows, maybe I'll pursue art instead since I really want to get into polymer clay and painting!
  • What am I looking for in a relative?
    • I've always wanted a big brother so I am open to that! Hopefully someone I can share games or movies with.
    • Otherwise, I'd probably like a sister closer to my age just to have someone to talk about anything with? Adulting is hard and weird sometimes. haha
    • Honestly I'd be happy to have someone to talk to and share things with, like games/TV shows/movies or arts and crafts projects!
  • Please know that I'm not willing to meet up in person unless we've known each other for a loooong time. Trust issues, y'know? That and I'm shy anyway. :P

Disclaimer: My profile should come up as NSFW because I commented a lot in 18+ communities, but I do NOT post anything NSFW outside of giving my two cents on things that I've read. lol

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If you made it to the bottom then it'll show me that you read this by giving me the details below! Feel free to be vague and share what you're comfortable with, but know that I've written a lot about me here so I do want to know who I'm talking to. lol

  • Your Nickname: (You can give an alias or fake name!)
  • Your Age: (You can be vague and say something like 30+!)
  • Your Pronouns: (Your pronouns matter to me!)
  • Your Timezone: (Mine is PDT/PST & UTC−07:00/UTC−08:00!)
  • Your Family Role: (Are you an aunt, uncle, cousin, nibling, sibling, etc.?)
  • Family Wanted: (What kind of relatives are you looking for?)
  • Introvert / Extrovert: (Where do you lean?)
  • Personality: (Describe yourself!)
  • Hobbies & Interests: (Tell me about anything! Crafts, TV Shows, Fun Things, etc.!)
  • Games: (Favorites, multiplayer games, or anything you're looking forward to!)
  • Extra Details: (Honestly, anything you want to add if you think of something that I haven't mentioned or want me to know about.)
  • Are you a Trump Supporter? (Yes/No)
1 Comment
2024/11/13
18:53 UTC

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15f seeking older sisters or a mom figure.

I've posted here many times before but I just want to find genuine people who will actually become like family to me. I'm only seeking older sisters or a mom figure. I tend to get clingy once I like you and feel comfortable.

Anyways I'm autistic, have adhd, pstd, anxiety and depression . I'm lesbian. (Acceptance is a must for both of those) I love pets and animals. I want to be come a vet tech. I like to crochet and build legos.

Anyways message me if you are willing to chat!

1 Comment
2024/11/13
00:49 UTC

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14F looking for family in general but no men over 20 because it makes me uncomfy

hii i’m AJ i’m autistic and i have other complex medical conditions my interests are miffy, sylvanian families,jellycats,mine-craft,crafts and colouring and i also like music i dont rlly have any requirements on family aslong as u are lgbt friendly and within my timezone (GMT) aslong as u aren’t like 4 hours behind or ahead of my time idgaf

2 Comments
2024/11/10
02:25 UTC

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15, m, Uk looking for basically any family! (lgbtq friendly please)

Hi!

i'm just looking for family for support as my family isn't very great. at this point it feels more like having room mates that have nothing in common with me so we just talk when we need to. i would love anything from siblings to parents. i dont mind at all. im a bi (50/50) femboy and very open about that stuff.

i can be a friendly ear too so i can help, and i am happy to talk about anything. I'm into some gaming, space, i like horror and sci fi movies, i like retro movies too because i think the aesthetic is nice. I really like math and statistics too.

like i said any family any age is fine.

4 Comments
2024/11/08
09:43 UTC

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22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For

22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For

Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!

I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure, or even if you just need an older brother. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!

I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.

Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.

As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.

I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.

I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.

I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.

If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.

I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!

Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!

1 Comment
2024/11/07
02:59 UTC

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27F Looking for mum or sister I can talk to about about my troubles

Going through a lot. I have been my whole life. I have no local support system, where I live is definitely the last place I’d chose to live, I have wanted to escape my whole life. As there is no life for me in this place and culture and it is literally my personal hell. Was abandoned as a foundling and then adopted by abusive and narcissistic parents. Can only rely on internet friends for emotional support, due to living in a toxic environment. No institutional support of any kind. I need a close female family member. Please, message me if you feel called to. I just want to be heard and understood.

3 Comments
2024/11/06
14:29 UTC

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F16 looking for sister to help on guidance(AGAIN)

HEY im just so so indifferent to everybody else and dont know about going about things to get what i want and would just like a sister or girlie to talk to.

2 Comments
2024/11/05
11:36 UTC

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29 arab man seeking to be a father figure

Im an accountant and im looking to be a father figure to whoever wants help or guidance. Any age works and i can keep conversations going such as gaming, tv shows, hobbies and much more.

4 Comments
2024/11/04
06:50 UTC

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28 F - Looking for a supportive person to become like family

Hello!

A bit about what I'm looking for : I'm looking for someone who wants to have a deep friendship that can move toward the idea of becoming like family. I'm only looking for a woman who is around my age or older. I'm looking for someone who is mature and has some level of emotional stability.

A bit about me : I am fairly estranged from my biological family. My mother was the arbiter of the relationships I had with my family members and that relationship has really gone downhill so I'm fairly out of the scope of the family now. I am a middle child and very much suffer from "Middle Kid Syndrome". I am married to a wonderful man. I am a religious person (Orthodox Christian).

I hope to hear from you!

1 Comment
2024/11/01
13:43 UTC

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14F just looking for family or friends of any kind only thing i ask is no men over 20 message me. (actually read body text)

Hello I'm AJ and I'm looking for any family I'm autistic and have other comorbid disabilities as well I love minecraft and I sometimes play GTA5 but not too often anymore I also love colouring and watching youtube there’s not rlly much else to me and the only thing i ask is u be LGBTQ friendly and within my timezone pls i’m in GMT timezone if ur more than 4 hours behind or in front then i’m sorry but i cant speak to u :( please include ur age when u message me and what role u want me to be to u or what role u want to be to me 🌷

2 Comments
2024/11/01
01:49 UTC

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Supportive mother figure looking to offer support to a young person who feels they could benefit from it 🤗

Hello, I’m 40+ mum of mostly young adults and a couple of children.

A bit about myself, I grew up with a narcissistic mother and an emotionally detached father. Got married at 18 and left home as soon as I could. I went on to have 8 children, lost one along the way and now have 7 amazing children, 2 of which are autistic and 3 have adhd diagnosis.

In my 30’s I spent thousands on therapy. I did a counselling qualification and a social work degree to really heal the wounds left by my family, particularly my mother. It took many years but on reaching the end of that I felt like I was reborn, free to live my life in a way I had never known before.

I know what it’s like to have parents that don’t show up. To feel like you don’t have the support or worse, to feel gaslit and told things you went through never happened. There’s nothing worse than to have your feelings invalidated by a parent. To get great news and have no one to share it with. To need advice and have no door to knock on for it.

I was so lucky to find an incredible lady who took me under her wing and showed me what a true mother was supposed to be. I still credit her from saving me from some very poor decision making and pushing me to achieve. I would like to be that to someone else, pay it forward let’s say.

If you feel like my support is something that could help you then please inbox or comment below ☺️I am so open to forming a positive supportive parental type relationship with someone who needs it. Ideally someone older than 18

3 Comments
2024/10/27
14:31 UTC

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28F Looking for Mother Figure or any support

My mom kicked me out when I was a teenager and I have always felt like I’m missing something. I became very good at taking care of myself because I had to grow up fast, but even as an adult I still feel that loneliness a lot. In the last few years, I’ve been diagnosed with some chronic illnesses, which make it hard for me to socialize and have made the loneliness more difficult. I’m looking for support from a mother figure, or any kind of support really. I care deeply about the people in my life and have the capacity to reciprocate the support.

3 Comments
2024/10/25
06:11 UTC

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18M | Been feeling pretty lonely lately, looking for people who will stand by and care about me, while I do the same for them!

Hey, just came across this sub and wanted to try. I'm no stranger to posting in friend-making subreddits, but this one feels different so far.

I've been feeling pretty down lately (can explain why if you want to hear) and wanted to put a stop to that. Happy to introduce myself more and talk about more positive stuff (hobbies, interests etc) in the DMs.

Can't wait to hear from some of you guys!

2 Comments
2024/10/24
22:21 UTC

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I'm a 20 year old guy looking for a mom/older sis type of rolemodel

I'm a sweet and caring 20 year old guy from Denmark. My interests are bellydancing and videogames. I'd love to gush and gossip over tea aswell ♡♡

2 Comments
2024/10/24
12:55 UTC

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21F (autistic, C-PTSD), looking for a maternal figure

Hi everyone!

Little bit about me - I am an autistic young adult slowly learning to navigate the world around me. I love parrots, music, Rupaul's Drag Race, and drawing. Despite my many neurosis, I am enthusiastic, thoughtful, humorous, and a good listener.

I am looking for somebody who’s kind, warm, patient, and understanding. Preferably someone who’s sapphic and/or on the spectrum, so we can bond over similar life experiences ^_^ Anyone who knows what it’s like to grow up with shitty parents and wants to end the cycle of abuse is welcome.

My biological spawn point is an inconsiderate, narcissistic b-word who abused me physically and emotionally for most of my life, leaving me with CPTSD. She's the sole reason why I still struggle with vulnerability and trusting others. I ran away from home at 18 and never looked back. After fightiing to stay financially independent, I am now extremely burnt out.

I briefly had a mother figure in my late teens, but unfortunately we lost touch. The void she left behind is very much still present in my life, and I miss her dearly with all my heart. Apart from her, I have never experienced anything resembling loving or supportive parents.

If you think we could get along, feel free to shoot me a message ꉂ (´∀`)

Whoever takes the time to read this, I hope you have a wonderful day, kind human✨

2 Comments
2024/10/19
16:07 UTC

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22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For

22M Looking For Those People To Care For

Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!

I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure, or even if you just need an older brother. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!

I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.

Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.

As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.

I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.

I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.

I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.

If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.

I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!

Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!

2 Comments
2024/10/18
00:55 UTC

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f15 looking for sister of any age to give a feel of what its like

hey im f15 and am looking for a sister to just talk to and be a role model for me thanks.

2 Comments
2024/10/17
12:07 UTC

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15f looking for a mother figure or a grandma figure!

Hey! I'm 15f and I'm looking for a mother type figure or a grandma figure. I tend to get clingy once I get comfortable. Im in search of a long term bond together, someone who wont ghost me and someone i can talk with daily.

Anyways I like to crochet and build legos. I'm from the east coast USA and I don't have any siblings. I am neurodivergent which impacts me alot negatively and positively. So support and acceptance around that is required. My adoptive parents can be difficult to manage sometimes. (I don't know my bio parents). My parents aren't the most affectionate and loving people. So I'm really just looking for that maternal love and support.

Please include your age, location and a little bit about yourself if you do choose to message me.

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2024/10/17
02:06 UTC

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f15 am looking for a sisters to talk as well as guidance

Hey im looking for a sister older or younger to give to just talk to since i have not had a sister before i like the idea of having one tho also if they could just give solid advice and guidance.

3 Comments
2024/10/14
20:54 UTC

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I (27F) am looking for a Mom who wants a daughter

Hey everyone! I’m excited to join this group. I’m at a point in my life where I’m seeking a mother figure for the love and guidance I’ve been missing. As I think about starting my own family, I’d really appreciate having someone to turn to for support.

I’m based in Florida, and while it would be wonderful to connect with someone nearby, I’m open to building a meaningful relationship no matter the distance. I love going to the beach, boating/jet skiing, making jewelry, shopping, and spending time with friends. I have a rescue dog who I love! I love animals.

In return, I promise to be an excellent daughter—supportive, loving, and eager to share in your wisdom and experiences. My mother in law once called me the ideal DIL, so I can provide references lol

If you think you could be that mentor and mama bear I’m looking for, I’d love to hear from you!

So I guess…you could say I am accepting applications for a mom (bonus points if you are older, established in life, are in want of a daughter) 😊

2 Comments
2024/10/14
00:21 UTC

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Hey new family f15 i just wanna a sis or anyone really.

im just so lost and need a real role model to give solid guidance and advice to lead me into taking and making better decisions. Self improvement

2 Comments
2024/10/12
16:31 UTC

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Over 60F looking for sisters near the same age.

I find life without any family to be incredibly lonely, and would like to make connections with others who feel the same way for mutual emotional support and understanding. Most people simply cannot relate to my situation. which makes it all the harder. My interests are wide and varied, and include reading, languages, TV and more.

1 Comment
2024/10/11
18:20 UTC

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15f and am looking for a older sisters that can give guidance and advice.

hey im 15f and am overall just looking for a big sister that can give me guidance on how to act out things and do better overall.

1 Comment
2024/10/11
16:30 UTC

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21F looking for parental figures to love me

Clarification: Reason I put any family is because I’m basically looking for any parental figure weather you’re technically a grandparent or willing to fill the parent role but would rather be called a big sibling. Also because I’m looking for parental figures that’s either Fem/non binary or a really fierce grandpa who’s protective 😅

Please read the whole thing 🙏🏽

Now with that out of the way, hi! I’ve been struggling for a long time because of my trauma with family relations and other illnesses. My most recent relations of sort that ended, ended with this person throwing away all my belongings including family heirlooms from my deceased grandmother, all my clothes, government documents and limited editions of collectables of my special interest. This action has finally led me here to a place where I can express my need and hopefully get it.

I need a parental figure who could support and help me, whether that’s through tough times or good times. Just BE THERE for me. I want this to be a long term family relationship where we can meet irl (I’m based in Norway), this is why it’s very important that you’re located in CEST/WEST or Finland. So that even if we’re not in the same country it is easy for us to FaceTime/Call/Voice message each other (I’m a sucker for voice message), and it still wouldn’t be to difficult to plan for meeting each other. I mean if you’re willing to travel across the globe to meet I would be happy to start messaging but of course that would be a while til we would even discuss the possibility for such a huge travel and a lot of safety and parental intimacy would have to be established of course :)

I need a parent who wants to talk daily whether irl or on the phone, and would gladly be available to chat almost any time… except the witching ours of course (like a parent with their clingy daughter 😅) I need a lot of help and I’m a weird period where I’m basically waiting on a lot of practical things from the government, it’s stressful and lonely. So it’s important for me to have access to you even on the days when I simply want to talk about the female chinchillas defense mechanism.

I need someone who while can be practical (and doesn’t mind doing things like researching how to make an appointment, ect. lol) also is highly empathetic and is good at comforting and support. Because I have had to parent myself since I can remember I am highly solution orient already but when I’m in really bad situations in life I can’t stop the flow of sadness (and to be honest have been struggling my whole life) and need someone who would do/say validating things like “wow that person/situation is a bitch”, “I’m sorry let it all out and then I’ll help you thing of a plan”, or “don’t worry you can be sad with me I won’t leave you” instead of “you just have to to try to be happy” and “we’re all alone in this world” 😭

Some things to note about me you may wanna know before we take a step into staring this close family relation

  • I have autism and ADHD and age regress sometimes because of trauma

  • I need my parent figures to be learning to be racially aware/sensitive (you can always start today and it’s always better later than never)

  • I’m politically active in a fuck the government kind of way/although I’m on a hiatus for my health

  • human rights are human rights and it’s crazy how that’s become a political stance

  • I will bully you for using older person words (even though I secretly love it and will un ironically start using them)

  • I love watching movies/tvs and would love to watch one with you through Netflix parties and then comment throughout on FaceTime. I can also quietly sit through movies as I’m a film nerd connoisseur and love to discuss AFTER digesting it all

  • my favorite shows/movies are Gravity Falls, Pretty Woman, Real Women Have Curves, Shape of Water, Star vs The Forces of Evil, A Series of Unfortunate Events(my life story lol), Abbott Elementary, and Once Upon a Time.

  • I’m scared that the things I’ve been through and how it’s affected me will scare you off so please don’t contact me if you get easily scared/overwhelmed to the point of distancing yourself

  • I hope to one day be able to tell the people who come in my life that’s my “insert parental figure name” because I know it’s true without a doubt and the only thing that would actually be different from us compared to other kids and their parental figures is that we don’t share the same blood

  • if you couldn’t tell by the post I think and plan alot

  • I collect items (like that of my grandmas :() that belong to the people I love so I can always have a part of them with me and pass it on to potential children I might have(would also like to be a parental figure to the one that slipped away/needs it the most when I’m older and stable hopefully)

  • I need patience, understanding, and clear communication and I give it back to the best of my ability :)

If you believe that you’re all the things I described I need that’s great, I would love to get to know you!

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2024/10/09
15:11 UTC

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A Boo-tiful Day to Hit 22k - Fall Roll Call!

Happy [Relevant Timezone], friends and family! I hope you're having a fantastic October so far. Sending a note since we hit 22,000 members in the subreddit today!

To celebrate, tell me what you're looking forward to this month. I know November and December are right around the corner and bring their own grievances, but for today, we're right here and in this moment together. Isn't that nice?

Your fun fact for the day is that people who incorporate gratitude into their daily lives see a 5% to 15% increases in optimism and 25% increased sleep quality.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Best regards, Tea

p.s. - I hope you've noticed a decrease in weird posts & more timely responses to your reports. Please keep reporting when you find something, I'm on reddit a lot, but not 24/7. Your support keeps everyone around us safe!

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2024/10/07
17:18 UTC

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M27 - Looking for any sort of family. Building connections

Hello all,

I am trying to branch out a bit more, both online and in person. You’re free to look through some of my post history, but suffice it to say, I never had a great family. I was raised by a single mom who, unfortunately, had grown up in an abusive household herself. She suffered a lot and took it out on me. Eventually, we stopped talking. Unfortunately, she ostracized me from anyone who would have been my family. I guess I’m trying to form relationships in response to that. I suffer from some mental health issues, but I am in therapy working on myself.

I am open to meeting any person. I also want to mention that I am married and not looking for anything outside of friendships that could take on elements of familial relationships. I am gay, so anyone who can relate to having family difficulty due to your orientation or identity I can especially sympathize with.

I have a lot of varied interests. I’m kind of all over the place, honestly. I really do enjoy listening to music, though. I've recently been into modern funk, house, and anything with a good beat. But I can listen to anything, given my mood.

I’ve also gotten into exercising. I do cardio most days and strength training for several days. I’ve lost a lot of weight, and I’m also a serious CICO person. I'm happy to motivate someone on a similar journey. I’ve been using MyFitnessPal for something like the last 130 days.

I’m currently in school, getting an MBA. I’m more than halfway done now, and I’m so excited to be done. Before this, I studied religious studies and psychology. The human experience and the ideas of what comes next really interest me.

If we do talk, sometimes I can get quite a bit busy. I try to respond whenever I can, so if I am unresponsive for a moment, hang tight.

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2024/10/01
04:31 UTC

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22M Parental Figure Looking For People to Care For

22M Looking For Those People To Care For

Hello! My name is Gio, and I’m a 22 year old male looking for some great family members to chat with and build a long-lasting relationship with and become close for many years, and so anyone is welcome!

I’m someone who likes to believe in kindness, respect, and being there for the people I care about, and so I like to be seen as a kind of father figure. I may not know you yet, but I’d like to be that solid presence in your life. The person who’s always ready to listen, offer support, and share experiences, and become great friends for many years!

I’ve always been someone who enjoys looking after others. I love checking in with people and making sure everything’s going well.

Whether you need someone to talk to about your day or a reminder to take a break and grab something to eat, I’m here for that.

As a person, I’m calm, level-headed, and usually easy to get along with. I’m not loud or anything like that, but I’d love to find people who are filled with a bit more energy and excitement than I am, as I’m sure it’d be an interesting friendship.

I may not always be the life of the party, but I’ll always be someone you can count on.

I am someone who values loyalty and effort. I believe friendships are a two-way street, and I’ll always give back what you give me.

I would like to build a relationship where both of us can feel safe, knowing that we’re both in this for the long run.

If you’re willing to spend your life with me, I’m more than happy to spend mine with you.

I’m someone who’s willing to talk openly and honestly, and who likes building a strong, supportive bond. If you’re looking for something more meaningful, I’m sure we’ll get along great.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m more than happy to start a conversation and see where our relationship goes!

Life is better when we share it with good people, and I’m eager to hopefully find that with you!

2 Comments
2024/09/26
15:46 UTC

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16m about to be 17 I'm just looking for people to bond with

Some of my hobbies are some sports, video games, watching tv/movies, and just doing random things I'll talk about literally anything I'm just bad at picking things to talk about

7 Comments
2024/09/25
20:05 UTC

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