I love my fiancé deeply and I want to spend every moment I can with him. We have a wonderful relationship and have so much fun together. We’ve been together for 3.5 years and moved in together summer of 2023. It’s honestly been a dream. We, of course, had a little bit of adjustment to go through when we first moved in together but it was minimal and we’ve really grown together the last year and a half and things get better everyday.

I have a teenage daughter who lives with us and he has a teenage son who is here every other weekend. The whole family gets along great together. It’s as close to perfect as I think you can get.

We don’t get a lot of time to ourselves, though. Which, honestly, most of the time we don’t want. If given the choice, we’re choosing to spend time together. However, he had to go out of town for the night so we have about a day apart.

I just bought myself a ticket to the movies. I’m going to clean up a little and go for a walk over lunch and right after work and then head to the movies then come home and maybe take a bath while watching a cheesy show (Buffy maybe?) and go to bed early. I invited my daughter to the movies with me but she said “nah, I’m good” which I’m relieved about bc I really wanted to go alone.

I can absolutely do all of these things when he’s home and he would support me having time to myself if I wanted it, but we just usually want to be together.

I’m really excited for this forced time with myself tonight. I’m excited to go to the movies alone, come home and relax before going to bed early. Then get up early and do some self care (I do that every morning and more of it weekend mornings bc I get up before everyone else) and then welcome him home around lunch. His son comes over tomorrow around lunch so, depending on the timing of it all, I may take him to get lunch somewhere- for the first time being just the two of us. His son is great; such a good, sweet kid.

What’s your favorite way to spend time alone?

Hey all! For those of you who struggle with intensity of feelings when falling for someone you’re dating, how do you distract yourself and keep a level head to build a healthy relationship?

I am great at keeping distance and boundaries over the first few dates while I evaluate him for red flags/dealbreakers (and check in with friends), then if I get a good feeling and start to trust him, I pour a lot of myself into the relationship. Work used to help keep me from doing this but I’m unemployed right now…

For anyone who successfully navigates these early stages or has improved at handling them, what do you do that’s worked? I don’t necessarily want to bottle my feelings up so he thinks I’m losing interest, but I do want to show him that I’m engaged without overwhelming him. Should I count the minutes between texts? Write what I want to say in my notes? Haha…

From what I read, the 4b movement is a feminist movement originating in South Korea that's 4 tenets: no sex with men, no dating men, no giving birth, no marriage with men. I have given birth from a previous marriage, but I am planning to stay the fuck away from men for the next 4 years, and possibly beyond. Given that Republicans are trying to restrict access to birth control, outlaw abortion, and outlaw no-fault divorce, essentially trapping women in these terrible relationships with men, this seems like the wisest thing to do. I am already content being alone and haven't tried to date for about a year, and this election has solidified my decision to just stay the fuck away from men now. I'd like to hear opinions from other women on this. TIA!

Which is your preference and why?

Bonus question: where are you from? I've always been a walk-in person and never thought much about it but on a recent drive south (I'm from the northeast) I noticed that I was almost always one of the only people in the store whereas the drive-thru line would be looong.

I'm sure there's plenty on here that have been following the news closely, but in case you haven't.. I would try to go shopping today for groceries and what not. Tarrifs on Mexico and Canada are starting tomorrow.

Found out yesterday morning that my boyfriend of 12 years has been secretly texting and hanging out with another girl for two weeks. He says nothing physical has happened, but I’ve lost all trust in him at this point. It’s been a rough couple of years, and after the support I’ve given him, this is the final straw for me. Or it should be.

I’m incredibly lucky to have a local support system, and I’ve left to my family home for an undetermined length of time. Things are still up in the air, but I know I have to end the relationship. We’ve been dating since he was 19 and I was 20. The future seems empty and lonely. I’ve never been on a date. The possibility of having a family feels hopeless. I guess I’m just looking for the light at the end of the tunnel from anyone else who has experienced this. The motivation to end it and move on. What my next steps should be. Ultimately I know it’s the right thing to do, but sweeping it under the rug would be so much easier.

A woman reached out via my contacts on a website. Asked if I knew my boyfriend. We are both listend on there. Strangely my phone no. was written next to his name. Or she did some snooping whatever. Had a sinking feeling and yeah, she is his girlfriend of 6 months and couldn’t get a hold of him. Send me a picture of them at the beach. She lives in a city where he was stationed for work.

I feel so dead inside and also stupid. Around Christmas I wrote out a lengthy paragraph in my notes app about his behavior. Cold, forgets my Birthday, tells me I can plan a trip with my girlfriends and then „I don’t know if I have to be on site that week, so no promises.“ Apprently this trip was around the time he told her he would quit his job and move in with her. She asked me to take her keys away from him lol.

He had to be on site for the weekends and it was plausible as we do the same jobs, but he probably stayed with her. I also found condoms under the passenger seat in his car (coincidentally, when I was parking the cars down the street.) We don’t use those. But I thought they must have come from an old travel bag or something. I always thought, if we don’t trust each other we can’t live like this, both travelling for work and all.

I almost, almost broke up with him around Christmas and thought this way we can renain friends. Damn, let this he your lesson.

Disclaimer that yes, I know I’m generalizing, everybody’s different, there are plenty of younger men who are very handy (and who are skilled tradesmen), and women can and should learn these skills too. Just commenting on a general trend I’ve noticed personally

Does anyone else find that younger generations of men are just less handy than the older ones? My dad was an educator and not a blue collar guy at all, but can still fix just about anything around the house, can build a shed no problem, do minor plumbing, electrical, and car repairs, and so on. His friends (mostly boomer age) are all similar.

It seems like more and more younger men don’t have these skills and don’t even know where to start. To be clear, I’m not expecting men to fix things for me. I have a toolbox and a drill and I can figure out most minor handy stuff with a YouTube video, but a lot of my male friends or the guys I’ve dated don’t even know where to begin and don’t have any of those basic skills.

I don’t ascribe to gender roles, but it seems like women continue to know how to do traditionally feminine labour (cooking, cleaning, childcare) while also learning the traditionally masculine skills and tasks, while also working full time and advancing in their career, whereas men seem to be losing those skills over time.

Has anyone else noticed this phenomenon?

If your mother and her sister fell out, and now you don't speak to your aunt, things along those lines. What started the grudge, and how has it kept going?

I currently make $80k but was offered a position at another company making $90k. Benefits are a a little higher so it’s technically an $8,300 increase when you factor that in. Is it worth it to take the jump?

I can’t be bothered to slather my whole body with lotion after a shower, but I am itchy and dry and it sucks. Would love to find a body wash that hydrated well enough on its own. Currently trying Olay Ultra Moisture, and finding it just okay but not great.

February blahs have set in for me and it's still January! I'm sick of reductive online lists of home spa products being marketed as self-care. I know all about drinking water, eating well, exercising, meditating, or reading a book. What are the unusual/niche things you do to take care of yourself when you need a boost?

I have a tumblr (shout out millennial tumblr girls🎉) but it’s not exactly what I’m looking for. I don’t really want the endless feed of content, I’m trying to cut back on my doom scrolling. I want a program where I can write and also offers some creativity to how I edit/format my journal. I’m not sure if something like this exists outside of the obvious social media platforms and goggle docs. Thank you!

A bit of background: I’m 31 (F), and I met this man, now 37, when I was in my mid-twenties. We were both young attorneys working in similar fields. Now, we’re both partners at our respective law firms.

When I first met him, I was genuinely in love. He was—and still is—intelligent, occasionally a bit arrogant, but affectionate, thoughtful, and reasonable. I truly believed he was the love of my life. But then I found out he was married, though separated from his ex-wife. Apparently, she had cheated on him, and he packed up his stuff, left her, and moved to New York to start fresh.

I felt completely blindsided and betrayed. He tried to justify it, claiming he had already filed for divorce (which I later found out wasn’t true) and insisted the marriage was over, even though his ex-wife wanted to reconcile. When I pushed him to file the divorce papers, he would flip out and tell me to give him some grace (what?). At the time, I believed he was being manipulative, taking advantage of my naivety, and exploiting the power dynamic between us—he was older and more experienced, both personally and professionally.

The whole situation turned into a mess, and I lost all trust in him. I ended things, as hard as it was for me, and told him to sort out his life without involving me. I moved on, focused on dating other people, and built my career. I wanted whatever was left of our relationship to be purely professional, but even that became difficult because he would become insanely jealous and upset whenever I was romantically involved with someone else. One time, we got into a fight over this, and he actually called me a whore. After that, we agreed to have no relationship at all.

Fast forward to now. We’ve reconnected, and I feel like he’s changed. He’s more transparent and mature. He’s deeply invested in us, talking about marriage and even building a home for me.

But I’m not entirely sure where I stand. I’m the product of profound betrayal, stemming from a traumatic childhood where I was abandoned by my parents and grew up in foster care. Trust doesn’t come easily for me — and when it’s broken, rebuilding it feels nearly impossible. However, I’m very forgiving and have forgiven him for what happened before.

Since we reconciled, he hasn’t done anything to break my trust. When we’re together, it’s fun, and I enjoy his company. But we’re stuck in this undefined “situationship.” According to him, this won’t last much longer because he’s tired of the ambiguity and wants more commitment.

Am I wrong for keeping him in this limbo?

So I'm trying out few routines to balance out personal life and career with a kid. Something always gets missed out and that's frustrating. I'm unsure if this will be accepted here.

Anyway if someone is sailing this boat.ah aye captain! pls lend me some advice.

Usually career takes the most time ( min 8 hrs a day anyway and say 10 hrs in busy days), Avg work 9. Sleep 7 hrs Cooking, commute etc 4

So 20 hrs gone. In those 4 hrs, effective time spent with the kid is around 1 hr. Mostly tired to do anything for 3 hrs (over thinking, blaming, watching random stuff, sometimes shopping and other household chores fills in)

Ghosh, I sometimes feel that I'm raising my kid to be responsible. Compared to SAHM (I know they have a different world of struggles) but I assume when they spend time with their kid them and kids will be at their peak performance. Their academic performances are better. I hear they teach at least 2 hrs daily.

Having only few hrs left that too at our worst state, I don't read her text books. We read other stories, play and stuffs. Sometimes she does her own hobbies. She is 6 yrs old,can read herself ( not my contribution,put her in phonics class), pretty much does her works, she just needs my presence. So how do I raise myself along with kid and career?

Did anyone has found/have a successful routine to clear away the guilts. Don't want to break career. I remember seeing my mom as a best SAHM and I had no career aspirations yet have a decent one. Now she wants to have a career looking at me. I would like her to dream more and reach heights.

Thanks in advance!

37F with two full term births under my belt. Aside from when I was pregnant and breastfeeding my period has been rock solid and predictable since I was 14.

I’m the past year I’ve gone though a ton of physical changes. I have an autoimmune disease and I was in a horrible flare for most of 2024. I am on month IV meds for that already, but I was also on a very high dose of daily steroids as well as Methotrexate. Fast forward to June of last year, I decided to try a GLP-1 not just to lose the excess of 30 pounds that I had gained from all the steroids, but I had also been reading a lot about the anti-inflammatory properties of the medication and my doctor encouraged me to try it. It’s been a godsend, and I am virtually symptom free right now!

All that said, I am going to my gynecologist next week for my yearly. I was there last year in February in the throes of all of this flare mess. My hair was falling out in chunks and I was overall just in a lot of pain and miserable.

At that time I brought up the hair loss as well as the fact that my periods are very heavy and clotty and my cycle had been shortened to about 23-25 days when I was always very regular at 29-31 days.

The doctor that I saw immediately blamed the steroid use, as well as age for everything that I was experiencing. She refused to do any bloodwork and honestly I was in such a state that I was not a good advocate for myself.

I’m heading back next week in a much better place but my cycles are still very short. Sometimes only 21 days between bleeding. The first few days I have a quarter size clots consistently.

What questions should I ask and what should I push for? I don’t want to get overwhelmed, and let them talk me down and leave there without any path to resolution. I am fully able to except that it could really just be age at this point, but I would like to know for sure, because the Internet is a scary place and there are other things that it could be that I don’t want to miss.

Thanks for reading!

I'm prepping for a major surgery and looking for recommendations. I'm looking for easier and shorter reads (no game of thrones, first law trilogy, etc) for my time to recover.

I prefer fantasy, murder mystery, sci fi, spooky and thrillers. Fast paced is what I'm looking for! While I liked Eat, Pray, Love there's no way I'm staying awake for that after surgery.

Excited to see what y'all are reading and loving right now!

I’ve recently had this observation in my own life. My husband and I, almost 17 years together, have a pretty solid relationship. Yes we have disagreements, but we are pretty good at talking things through and deciphering what our common goals in life are.

Some of my friends have pretty rocky relationships with their partners. I feel for them because some of them seem in a constant fight mode with their partners. I don’t really say much, and I also don’t go in at length complaining about my partner. Anyways, I’ve noticed over the years I get the “ohh your perfect life” comments, eye rolls, not invited as a couple, etc…

My husband also feels it from the men/partners. We recently found out we are pregnant and my husband shared this news. The friend didn’t even congratulate him. He also gets the eye rolls and what not from the men.

We aren’t getting into people’s business or intentionally bragging… but of course if someone asks how my weekend was, I will be honest if I had a good one and did something nice with my husband. 🤷‍♀️

How do you exist as a couple in these group dynamics?

Nothing good has ever come out being overly accommodating to men

I’m in my late 30s and as the title states, I had a shocking realization yesterday that almost every single man I have dated romantically has at one point or another taken away my ability to say no/make informed decisions regarding my health and own body. This realization came after what I thought was a canker sore and getting it swabbed at the dermatologist and finding out it’s been a cold sore the whole time. I pasted it together and the timeline fits with an X that used to get these. I am a germophobe and a Health nut and asked him about these and he defensively (red flag) assured me he had them checked and it was just a canker sore, which is not contagious. Obviously, he was lying and purposely exposed me to this which I will have for the rest of my life.

I realized this was a common experience with men. I am not a man hater, but I am tired of this narrative. Numerous other times, if there wasn’t flat out physical, emotional, or verbal abuse, my choice was taken away from people taking off condoms then saying it broke, trying to talk me into something I vehemently said no to, gaslighting my experience when I called them out about lying, faking test results when I ask, cheating. Etc. I had a man rip a mole off my body once because he didn’t like how it looked and he felt justified to do so because he was a doctor. It’s absolutely exhausting. I am a conventionally attractive woman, and a sensitive. I have felt hunger coming from men all of my life. Sometimes when they look at me, I get this feeling of this dark hunger, like they would just take what they wanted for me whether I said yes or no if they could. I was reminded of Marilyn Monroe (not saying I am like her it’s just a comparison that seems to make sense here) and how her body disappeared after her death, and even when she was buoyed, some man wanted to be buried faced down above her so he’d always be on top of her, even in death.

Just wanted to vent to people who might understand and possibly get some commiseration. I have nobody to talk to about this and it’s deeply been bothering me. Again it’s not about hating men. It’s just realizing the common experience I’ve had with a very vast majority of them and being heartbroken about it.

I (34f) recently had to cut off a man who wasn’t treating me right. We started out amazing (of course). We got along super well and were really attracted to each other, similar values, great sex. Then he ghosted me for a month. He apologized and I gave him another chance and he started telling me about going out with all the other single people from work and how during his ghosting stage he went to a party and was flirting with someone. He was making it clear he didn’t want anything serious so I said I’m going to have to pass on this bud. It’s the first time I’ve ever cut off or broken up with someone I actually liked and I’m proud of myself but it’s hard. I would love to hear other stories about people walking away from someone early on in the relationship who couldn’t offer them what they wanted or wouldn’t commit!

I knew I didn’t really want to get married. I got married due to societal pressures and he wanted to. We’ve been together 6 years but now I’ve decided to leave for multiple reasons.he is adamantly against this and his move out is supposed to be Monday. He’s at this begging, pleading and making every promise under the sun to change but I’m done. I feel so guilty, he’s trying to play on that. I know this is the best thing for me but he’s starting to break me down to stay. Those who have been here, tips on staying strong, seeing this through? I still care about him and it hurts to see him this way but I just can’t stay.

My therapist I’ve been seeing weekly through the last 2 months instead of every 2 weeks working through this but it’s getting really hard now that move out day is basically here

Background: I am and always have been the breadwinner. I wouldn’t get married without a prenup and alimony waiver. I also tend and take care of most the household duties even though he hasn’t worked in 2 yrs. So I’m breadwinner plus housewife all in one, his promises to do more every time I was frustrated or expressed resentment, it led to a week of him stepping up, then right back to normal. He’s moving back to his parents (40yrs old) no job and I’ve cut him off from all my CC because he doesn’t contribute. He literally asked his 70 yr old parents for gas and drinking money to go out with friends last week because he has no CCs of his own.

Hi, I got married a couple of years ago. It was an Indian wedding. As the title says, I am still disappointed with how I looked and how the photographs turned out.

For starters, everything happened so fast that I could not make sure I looked my very best. My hairstyle was not the most suitable for my face or attire. The photographer captured my attire in a totally different color from what it actually was. My makeup could have been better. Just a few months after the wedding, when I received the photos from our photographer, I guess I was too tired to notice all these small things and found the photos to be okay (Indian weddings are quite hectic and tiring). But some months later, when I looked at those photos without my rose-tinted glasses, I felt hopeless. I had always imagined that I would look my best on my wedding day. It was MY day to shine. But sadly, that wasn’t the case.

Now my problem is that I often feel jealous of other new brides who get to look beautiful on their day and can’t genuinely feel happy for them. Another issue is that I don’t feel like dressing up for any occasions since my mind says, "What's the point of looking beautiful now when you couldn't look beautiful on the day that mattered the most? Even if you look beautiful, there are no cameras or direct attention on you." So, in total, I feel like I lost my chance to be my most beautiful self. I will never get to see HER.

I have cried far too often about it to my sweet husband. He has tried everything in his power to make me believe otherwise, but the feeling keeps returning. My mind keeps thinking: What if I had invested in an expensive photographer? What if I had chosen a different-colored outfit? What if someone had told me that the hairstyle did not suit me? What if…

So, wise ladies, is there anyone out there who has also felt the same way about their wedding photos? How did you manage the hopelessness?

My sister is struggling with health issues and for that reason cannot conceive at the moment. It’s heartbreaking to see her deal with all of this stuff and it makes me sad and makes me feel guilty. Previously when people have gotten pregnant she’s gotten very upset and doesn’t want to hear that other people are pregnant even family members. I obviously have to tell her but I’m losing sleep over the thought of it.

She lives in another state so I can’t go see her and am thinking of telling her over the phone.

Hey ladies!

I’ve noticed random abdominal pain that I’m not sure the cause of. I got my period 1/21 and it was a lot lighter than usual. I usually have atleast two heavy days. This time most of it was just brown and the entire cycle could have been just one 1 single pad. I was worried that it might be implantation bleeding since I have had unprotected sex but all three pregnancy test came back negative. I noticed the pain 4 days ago and it’s gotten more and more persistent each day. I’m now feeling pain every 2mins. The pain isn’t bad at all just very light uncomfortable cramp. I was tested for stds a month ago that came back negative but I have had unprotected sex since then. I’m worried it could be a number of things. Has anyone experienced this before?

I (30F) had a friend N (31F) for several years, we met in a house share in our early twenties and lived together for around a year.

She was a very close friend just by nature of us meeting through living together I guess, movie nights in bed, she was the person I came home to after my nans funeral, called my boss when I was crying too much to get ready for work after she had passed. I was the person who cuddled her on the sofa after a fuckboy ghosted her, family dinners, bbqs etc.

I was already with my ex at the time we met, we were medium distance and he would spend a couple weekends a month at our place so they ended up pretty friendly.

My ex’s behaviour changed a lot when we moved in together, more noticeably when we bought a house some distance from where I had been living and my network of friends. I never told anyone about this change or the things I did as a result of his manipulation.

Fast forward to mid 23 and I was miserable, several suicide attempts, one hospitalisation, antidepressants, antipsychotics and I couldn’t explain to anyone why I was so unhappy in my life because outwardly he was such a great guy.

To cut a long story short I eventually broke up with him, we owned a house so continued living together in separate bedrooms. As a way to get out of the house I started dating (it’s easier to date on apps than it is to make friends as an adult, weird huh?) and had a little fling probably 2 months post breakup. Even post breakup I hadn’t told anyone why I had been so miserable.

Eventually he started to make things about the house difficult and I felt trapped and agreed to get back together just so I didn’t lose my home, this was obviously a bad idea and I knew I didn’t love him or want a romantic relationship.

To everyone in my life I told them we’d reconciled, but I was going through the motions to keep my home whilst still messaging my fling. I’m not proud of this at all, we continued our situationship on and off through September - December mostly via text and met up once.

End of January I decided no matter the consequences I couldn’t spend my life with someone I didn’t even like, let alone love. He dragged his feet on the house sale, told me I was his family etc did grand romantic gestures and basically turned back into the person he was before we lived together.

Then I said let’s go to counselling, he agreed and I set up an appointment for a couple weeks time. About a week later I fell down the stairs, hurt my ankle, couldn’t put any weight on it, it turned black etc and he said I should go to minor injuries.

I asked him to come with me because I couldn’t walk and would need to get a taxi (he couldn’t drive) he refused because getting a taxi might be difficult and couldn’t I call my mom to take me (she was a two hour drive away and it was a weeknight, she works) we were also living about 2 hours from N. I called my mom in tears and she headed over.

While she was on the way my ex basically left me on the couch and went to game, I messaged him and asked why he wouldn’t come with me just from a practical point of view, after all he’s been saying he’ll always be my family, always care about me and at bare minimum we’re housemates right now and you would take your injured housemate to the hospital right? He told me I wasn’t his problem or responsibility anymore and I realised his recent behaviour was a mask.

I told N over message I’d hurt myself and was going to minor injuries and we messaged back and forth, when I got home I called her v upset that my ex had basically left me in pain and wouldn’t help me even if I had no one else. She said ‘it’s not his responsibility’ over and over while I cried. Eventually I hung up, she tried to message several times over the next few weeks but I never responded, I felt betrayed I guess. Eventually her messages made me angry as my ex had disclosed they’d been messaging about me behind my back throughout our relationship and breakup under the guise of him being ‘concerned about my mental health’ but in pretty sure he did it to get her on his side and isolate me.

Essentially, I’ve never told her my perspective of our relationship and breakup, I miss her and her friendship, do I reach out and see if she wants to talk?

We all know the value of getting work done around the house like cooking, cleaning, taking care of chores, all that. Chocolates, flowers, a self care day at a spa or salon are great too, but what are some other things your husband/boyfriend/SO does to make you feel loved, or what do you wish they would do?

Full disclosure: I [33M] have been with my wife [33F] for going on 15 years, married almost 9, and I love trying to find out of the box ways to keep the romantic spark alive. She is having our second kid in a few months so I feel like these efforts are about to be more important than ever. We are fairly comfortable financially, but neither of us feel comfortable with booking a vacation or weekend getaway without consulting the other, so a big surprise like that is out.

TIA for all your help!

This is probably going to be a horribly written post so just bear with me. So tonight I was out with my boyfriend of about 8 years with my sister and her girlfriend. Getting dinner before a concert, a band I love and have been so excited to see. My boyfriend honestly sometimes doesn’t have the best table manners around people he’s comfortable with, other times usually he’s fine, but I’ve noticed him talk with his mouth open. Tonight I said something along the lines of “you want to not talk with your mouth full”. He thanked and agreed but as soon as I said that he got a lot quieter but seemed okay at the concert. As soon as we got home he said something about how he was bothered about what I said at dinner and “was trying to shake that” and it was more so the tone of the way I said it.

I know no one here can know the tone of the conversation, but I’m having a hard time because I know for a fact I did not say it in a way that was disrespectful or rude. I grew up seeing my parents relationship and I always saw my mom vilified for the way she was saying things to my dad, but now being older I know my mom was just trying her best to raise 4 kids with a partner who committed infidelity and was just not an active person in our lives, she was trying her best. I can see herself in me. But I just want so badly to have a partner who can understand me and my tone when I’m just trying to say something that’s not trying to put them down. Of course this “is the guy I planned to have kids with” but I have such a fear of having kids with someone who I can’t be a little bit of an ass hole too (not say I was at dinner!!) but it’s like come onnnnn dude, who tf is going to tell you table manner at this point?? And I really need to be careful of how I say it?? Like if I’m going to be pregnant around you and raise children with you, I feel like I shouldn’t have to worry about that. One thing you guys will absolutely love!!///SSSSS is his mom tells me “you raised him” I’m sorry ladies, Ive been wanting to post and am now just doing it coming home from a concert on 🍄. I hate that I’m making a complaine post because of course “I don’t want to break up with him” but fucking need advice. Already told him tonight we should go to therapy.

I’ve been on the pill for brief periods in my life. I had to come off because of the mental health effects. This was years ago.

Lately after I had my thyroid removed I have had such bad period pain and really bad pms. I guess maybe pmdd. I can survive it but that’s really what it feels like every month-survival.

Just wondering if anyone had good experiences after bad experiences. Which pill did you take? Any bad side effects.

The one thing I’m not worried about is my sex drive because I just don’t need it right now.

I’m a single 31f just got 200 skydives in 6 months and I feel like it was such a hard accomplishment and I achieved my goal. I have no family left but all the people around me don’t understand how important this is to me. We celebrate baby showers and weddings and I am not in that stage of life and I would like to celebrate it with friends. I know this is silly to complain about but it’s just feels like I get judgement on why I would want to do that and not live the more traditional path. I don’t need the attention just having people that care and recognize how important this is to me, and how hard I worked for it. I just feel like left out it’s not kids or weddings. I’m so happy for everyone in that stage of life it just is hard at this age if you are not on that path.