I'm 24(M), My fiance 26(F) and recently we met a wonderful young lady 23(F). It's a long distance relationship which is something I've had in the past so it's not new to me. But for my fiance... She's never been apart of one. Neither of us have been in a Throuple and we are all extremely confused on how to do this. Talking is a major point we all have discussed yet we all struggle with talking about problems. We both really like this girl and we've been official for around 2 weeks now but the cracks are starting to show. My fiance says she feels like she rushed in and I asked her if she felt forced cause of me. She insists I didn't but I have a problem when I take the blame for everything and right now I genuinely feel like this is my fault. She keeps saying I didn't force her. She also says that she's doesn't have the time and is stressed but she doesn't want it to end. Both me and our gf are really confused and now our gf is upset and scared and she doesn't know and is now blaming herself.

I'm trying this while trying to avoid breaking down and having a panic attack. I get attached easily. Im trying to understand what's going wrong if something is going wrong I just need advice and tips on how I can help them or what to do to fix the situation.

I am currently pregnant with my families first child (M,F,F). My boyfriend and girlfriend are married to each other and I am single. We have been together since 2017 and have a fantastic relationship. The three of us are so excited.

Does anyone have advice on making a will? My goal is to create a will that would protect my girlfriend's rights to our child if something was to happen to the father and I (the biological parents). We live in AZ. Any advice on what else should be added to the will to protect our child?

Guessing minivans are the go-to?

Man they're expensive, even used.

Also: 3 adults is hard with 1 adult always being in the back in some way :(

I am sharing as a Public Service Announcement this post that I wrote because there should be more education out there about what are the limits of the validity of the negotiation of consent in and out of committed intimate relationships that are totally closed.

Love in any type of connection does not hurt anyone, does not matter at all whether the connection is open or closed, monoamorous or polyamorous, sexual or emotional, romantic or platonic, hetero or gay, cis or trans, hierarchical or anarchist.

What really does hurt is loving the wrong INDIVIDUALS, while there are interested individuals better compatible for any and every sort of thing out there in the world, including any and every sort of rare and complex need, want and desire that someone can value.

FAIRNESS IS EQUITY instead of equality, but love without informed AND genuine consent is a violation instead of love.

Gender variant, gay, polyamorous, aromantic, and asexual people can be united together as worthy of the constant free love fights for basic rights because they are socioculturally discriminated CONSENSUAL love minorities in ways more similar than what you may think.

You should not forget that you should always have the valid freedom of expression right to request as many answers to all sorts of questions that may appear invasive to as many indviduals you may feel is necessary for you to feel secure enough in order for you to give to anything consent that really is informed, as long as you make an effort to be respectful, but no one is necessarily obligated to reply to any of your questions.

Many people are not aware that only a first clear "yes" with enthusiasm is the only genuine consent to anything, and, therefore, is the only one that is not questionable enough to get anyone in legal trouble.

If you are about to go try something that you are not with enthusiasm to try, you are very likely not going to enjoy what you are about to experiment, even if you have an open mind to new experiences.

You should also not forget that consent to anything is not really genuine if results from constant begging, peer pressuring, outcasting, withdrawing, guilt tripping, shaming, blackmailing, threatening or any other type of manipulation not listed, and, therefore, is sexual coercion, also known as sexual abuse.

No consent should be unlimited to anything, because consent can not possibly be given genuinely to anything if you are obligated to keep consenting anyhow, so everyone should always have the valid right to freely stop consenting to anything at any moment, in the sense that consent is constantly being given at every new moment each of all of us shares an experience together with someone.

Only when is granted the freedom to be spending time anyhow anywhere else with anyone else at any time can anyone consent to love someone genuinely instead of out of obligation due to commitment to restrictive and limiting promises.

I really hope that sharing this helps at least someone out there.

Recruiting Consensually/Ethically Non-Monogamous LGBTQ+ research participants:

Are you… • Age 18 or older? • Identify as LGBTQ+? • Live in the U.S.? • In at least one polyamorous, open, or swinging (i.e., consensually/ethically non-monogamous) relationship? • Interested in discussing issues and satisfaction in consensual/ethical non-monogamy? • Able to attend an online focus group for 1.5 hours?

If this sounds like you, then a team of LGBTQ+ researchers at Palo Alto University is interested in hearing from you!

Take this brief survey to see if you are eligible to participate.

https://paloaltou.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6KemfwABcJDsFX8

Please contact the ACReS Project at acres@paloaltou.edu for more information

I (25 f) was in a cult growing up, and always had a crush on the pastor's kid. Nevaeh (24 mtf) came out to me as trans a couple months ago.

After that we did a lot of catching up and I found out she was in a red state that banned gender affirming care, lived with her fundamentalist family, and had a partner-- Pixie (20 mtf).

In a month me and my nesting partner Dick (29 M) made a plan for her to uhaul from the east coast to the west coast. Nevaeh says she's been with Pixie since January, lost her virginity to her, and can't leave her. They both have ASD.

I messaged Pixie to ease her worries about moving here, and from the start she was aggressively sexual towards me. I thought: fuck it, if it makes her more comfortable to move here, it's just sexting.

Through messaging Pixie I really liked her and could feel for her. She had a lot of trauma-- we both do--, was really insecure, and not that stable-- but how could you be in that environment? I really wanted to make her feel safe.

After the plans were set-- thats when the drama started. Pixie tries to fuck Nevaeh's cousin in front of her, making Nevaeh really uncomfortable. Pixie says she wants to live with Martha (their mutual partner) and Nevaeh's cousin in Colorado. Then Martha breaks up with Pixie and verbally abuses her. Pixie pressures me to buy her a car in another state-- that fails miserably.

I fix their resumes and set them up with job interviews for the first week they get here.

Then the two of them fly out here. Things get sexual the first day. Something that Pixie keeps doing is touching my genitals and my chest whenever she wants, randomly. This triggers me badly, but I mask up because I want to please her. After all that I notice her teeth are black and rotting, her breath smells, her gentials smell bad even after a shower.

We have sex, and the first thing she says is, "that was mid."

When I get sexual with Nevaeh, Pixie is always interupting the scene-- barging into the room and trying to talk to us.

Pixie constantly shits on everyone, shits on everything I like, is always complaining about the new state-- after awhile it really got to me. I asked if she wanted to go to therapy, and she vowed she'd never go again. This really eats at me because I'm convinced if people don't seek help for trauma, they are just going to continue it.

After the first week Pixie was obsessed with wanting to buy a bb gun to shoot fish and other invasive animals. My PTSD brain just kind of put the unwanted touching and then the torturing of animals into a category: Pixie was NOT safe anymore.

The whole household came outside. Pixie bought the BB guns, and started shooting lead into our yard-- which is a couple of feet from a protected woodland. Then she started talking about buying guns-- and I had a terrible flashback of when someone pointed a gun at my face at 11.

I started screaming, "NO GUNS, NO GUNS, NO GUNS." Over and over and over. After that we stayed away from each other for a couple of days. And I'm fine with guns, I'm very pro-gun. I'm an anarchist who thinks we need to be wary of the government. But my body just felt super unsafe and terrified of her having guns in the house.

We have 3 cats together, mine and Dick's 2 cats and their cat Max. Well one or two weeks later and my cat Taki is obsessed with Pixie's draw-strings on her favorite pjs. For a week I keep seeing Taki try to bat at the strings and it made me smile. One day, Taki tries to grab them and he accidentally clawed Pixie's thigh.

She then kicks Taki hard away from her.

I scream, "CAN YOU NOT DO THAT NEXT TIME, AND JUST TAKE A STEP BACK!"

Pixie wasn't even apologetic. She just says, "What am I supposed to do when he hurts me?"

And I scream, "NEXT TIME, I'M GOING TO BE VIOLENT." And I left and slammed the door. I then started getting really paranoid. How can I trust she won't kick my cat again? So I go to her room, take her pjs, and cut off the draw strings.

A couple weeks later, and I'm trying to get along. I buy Pixie a car with everything she needs for it. I have a terrible pain attack, and the whole time she's flirting with me through it and touches my boobs.

A day later Pixie has a girl over. She says she's gonna quit her job (that she just got), work with her, break up with Nevaeh (but still live here), and be Mono with this new girl. I was pissed.

The next day I'm going on a date with Nevaeh, im taking her to my favorite fancy restaurant, we both look cute and 10 minutes into the drive Nevaeh goes quiet and starts silently crying. I finish the drive and park near by, but she has completely gone nonverbal. I ask her a bunch of questions but all I can get out of her is that it's about Pixie. This really freaks me out.

I drive to go pick up Dick, and after that my brain can't take it anymore: I switch personalities (something I only do when I'm stressed). *My brother only went nonverbal when my stepdad SA'd him.

We go get drive through, go home, sleep it off.

Then next day I'm still extremely stressed. I think Nevaeh went nonverbal because of the break up. And Pixie brings her new Gf over, and kicks Nevaeh out of the room. I AM FUMING. I turn my music as loud as I can, and tell Dick I do not feel like a safe person at the moment. I scream, I do breathing exercises, I try to punch a pillow, but nothing is working. I'M SOO STRESSED.

Dick says Nevaeh and him want to go out. I put myself together, I get dressed, and by the time I'm out Nevaeh has gone nonverbal again. I lose it. I switch into 5 different personalities infront of them both-- which I've never done before.

"We" say that I don't wanna be around Pixie anymore and that I basically wanna do parallel poly as much as possible.

It's been a month and I still haven't been paid back for the car, I haven't talked to Nevaeh (she hasn't talked to me), and everyone says I'm the bad guy. That I'm making Pixie's life Hell-- even though my mental health has literally gone down the gutter.

I don't know what to do or how to navigate this-- Help.

edited due to how judgemental, self-righteous, and virtue-signaling SOME of the comments were (on r/polyfamilies anyway. r/polyamory was a little bit more empathetic.)

does anyone ever wonder why, as soon as a new "movement" tries to break away from traditional labels, many of the loudest voices want to lock down new labels for their particular movement, getting stuck in pedantry and semantics?

Hello Everyone! Dropping by to let you all know that we’re on for October’s NYC Poly Cocktails.

As always, it’s free, COVID-19 vaccinated only, 21+ with ID, and we ask you to take a rapid antigen test at home before arrival.

For those who have never been, we’re a 17-year-old monthly social of over a hundred attendees who are between the ages of 21 and 87 with the majority in their mid-20s-mid 50s. We’re nerdy mutual aid enthusiasts who meet in a non-cruising space in community and solidarity.

It’s a free event with a cash bar if drinks are your jam (though many don’t drink alcohol and some eat together beforehand), and a rooftop full of warm and dorky community. Open sky if the weather obliges.

You can email me at polychrissy@gmail.com for an email invite, or share an email with me in DM that works for you.

Reach out with any questions and have a beautiful week!

Warmly, Chrissy

Hi folks,

Thanksf for your replies. Your time spent writing and sharing is much appreciated. Although our relationship has since ended, the info you've shared may be valuable to future use. Thanks again. 🙏🙏

I'm hoping some of you might like to share your experiences regarding the division of household costs, including rent, if the partner you live with has kids who spend 50% of their time at your place.

For context, my partner and I live together. My price of admission was 3 kids, and his was 2 Chihuahuas. Rent has always been 50/50, but I pay for gas and electricity, and Disney. He pays for water, internet, Netflix, and the family YouTube account. All groceries are 50/50.

How are your costs calculated and divided? Do you feel your arrangement is equitable? How did you negotiate the arrangement? What sort of resistance was encountered, if any?

I pulled together a "Truth or Dare" sex game for Non-Monogamous Couples. Truths & Dares go from vanilla to hardcore bdsm.

I thought some other redditors might like it, so here it is.

Truth/Dares are in random order, so skipping around is fine!

For more explicit Truth or Dares, please check out the app I made https://apps.apple.com/us/app/truth-or-dare-app-for-couples/id6474484893

Some Examples:

Here are some truth and dare questions tailored for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples:

Truths:

1. What excites you most about our ENM dynamic?
2. Have you ever felt jealous in our ENM relationship, and how did you handle it?
3. What is one boundary in our relationship that is important for you to maintain?
4. What’s the most empowering part of being in an open relationship for you?
5. How do you feel after we each have separate experiences—do you want more connection afterward or space?
6. Have you ever had a fantasy about introducing new dynamics or play in our relationship?
7. What is the most fulfilling aspect of our non-monogamous adventures?
8. If you could change one thing about our ENM relationship, what would it be?
9. What kind of experience are you most curious to explore together in the future?
10. How do you feel about discussing your other experiences with me, and is there anything you’d want to share more openly?

Dares:

1. Share your wildest ENM fantasy involving us that you haven’t mentioned before.
2. Plan a date where we both explore something new or adventurous together, and the other person has to follow along.
3. Describe, in detail, what turns you on most about our open relationship dynamic.
4. Give me a passionate kiss and describe what’s on your mind during the kiss.
5. Pick an item from the room and use it creatively to tease me in a way we haven’t done before.
6. Let’s set aside 10 minutes where you have complete control over me—do whatever you’d like.
7. For the next 15 minutes, you have to be completely open about your desires and what you want me to do to you.
8. Share the most intimate or vulnerable feeling you’ve had in our relationship.
9. Play a sensory game where one person is blindfolded, and the other teases them, gradually intensifying the sensation.
10. Describe how you want our next adventurous experience to be and what you’d want me to do.

How do ya'll manage shared finances? Do you use one account, keep things separate, or a mix of both? How do you split expenses—proportional to income or evenly? I'm looking for insights and tips on what’s worked and crucially what's not worked.

Hi there, 

We are a research team at Western University, and we are actively recruiting non-monogamous couples for a paid 12-week diary study.  

We understand that although those who identify as non-monogamous have fulfilling and loving relationships, they still face discrimination as society largely assumes monogamy to be the “default setting” in partnerships. It is our hope that through research, a broader understanding of these relationships can help to dispel some of the stigma these relationships may face.  

You are eligible for this study if: 

• You have only one partner you would consider as your main or primary partner 

• You and your main partner are in a consensually non-monogamous relationship 

• You and/or your main partner regularly engage in intimate/sexual activity outside of your relationship 

• Both you and your partner are at least 24 years old 

• Both you and your partner are willing to participate 

After you and your partner each complete an initial 10-minute survey, you will be emailed a 5-minute survey each week for 12 weeks. You will be compensated up to $40 ($80 per couple). Compensation is based on the number of surveys completed.  

Your participation will create meaningful advancements in relationship science, and we thank you for your consideration. We invite you to respond fully and honestly; the goal of this research is to be inclusive, supportive, and free of judgement. 

If you and your partner think you may be eligible and are interested in participating, please email us at: cnmdiary@uwo.ca. For more information about our lab, visit us at www.relationshipdecisions.org. 

I am divorced and my ex is poly and integrating our kids (12 and 8) into meeting people in her new relationships. I’ve met her partner, super nice person. I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar boat as me.

Any advice on how to navigate these waters? I was pretty unsupportive early on, but have moved past it. I still worry about stigma and what type of impact this will have on the kids.

Hi!

My partner(34F) and I (34F) are in the beginning stages of a coparenting discussion. We are planning on having 2 children and are also planning on buying a house with another couple (38NB,35F) that we are friends with. Our vision is to buy a house together, and coparent our future kids (3 max). We all plan on having couples therapy as well as therapy with the 4 of us and will be discussing the details, how we want to raise our children and how things are split and obviously expectations of our roles as parents and coparents.

I'm wondering if anyone in this subreddit has a similar dynamic, where the kids of the two couples will not have the same biological parents, but we would like to raise them as siblings in a way. If anyone has any advice on the right questions to ask, the things to know and the warnings or advice or anything else helpful to know!

TLDR: a currently monogamous couple, buying a house with a poly couple, and co-parenting kids together(2 or 3)

I made the mistake of posting in a coparenting sub, and was suggested I move the discussion here with people in similar dynamics.

Additional info!
Some background is important to include I think! Read if you want- I understand (we all understand) this isn’t just a random decision or light-hearted one, and a very serious thing to bring children into the world, let alone in a radically different dynamic. 

We have just started chatting about it as a group, and have always been interested in a commune style living, and having a community of people to be around and that’s when we started discussing what it would look like to buy a house together and raise our children together. We aren’t romantic with the other couple, but we will consider them partners as well. (We will take care of each other financially, emotionally, and physically if needed) It is hierarchical with our respective partners and kids. We’re discussing the what-ifs and the serious impacts if a couple breaks-up, if one of us passes away, if one of us gets really sick, if one of us can’t bear children.  The priorities will be with the children.

There’s discussions and alignment on our values with raising children, education, children with disabilities, the amount of space we all require and will need as individuals and family's.

Now the house situation, we’ve had friends that have bought a house together and they’ve given us advice on what to look out for and that is a lot to think through as well! Obviously, there are some legal things that we will have to go through in the event of separation and life events, or monetary things. We all have the financial ability to get a bigger house, the house will be enough rooms for adults to sleep in together and separately as well as separate rooms for the kids. 

We plan on having this all figured out before even starting to bring kids into the mixture. Or buying a house. My partner and I will have to do IVF or IUF so there is a lot of family planning in general. Our timeline is within the next 4 years for kids, and next 1-2 years for living together.

I just typed up and deleted a very long post (well, I copied it into my private journal as a reminder for myself, haha)

I have been feeling like a coward. Anxious about telling people that my well-established family of three adults and two kids is gaining another adult. But the anxiety is in my brain. It's not a symptom of risk. And if my parents want to raise a moral panic Again, they know where it got them last time. This time I won't be so patient with them. This time I won't let their reactions cause me pain. I'll just roll my eyes and say call me when you're over it and ready to respect us.

She's family. Anyone has a problem with that, fuck em. I've loved her for too long to not shout from the rooftops now that we're acting like it. The fact that friends aren't asking (and why would polite Midwestern queers ask an established triad if there's any news on the romance front?) doesn't mean I can't just tell them because I'm excited!

That's all. Just wanted to share. On a note related to maximizing safety for queer and polyamorous people, US folx please register and make your plan to vote this fall! <3

(Edited to say two kids, not four. It was late and I was tired haha.)

Immediate Cule: A(M29)-Me(F33)-S(M37)-M(F35)

Has anyone ever cohabitated as a polycule that ISN'T a triad or quad? Or as a deeper question, had children? Or even heard of it?

I read all these happy stories of poly families but I can't find any that not everyone is romantically involved with each other or some harem/reverse harem situation.

I'm currently dating A and S. S and M are married and nesting. A and I are long term partners and nesting. We're emotionally and sexually non-hierarchical but recognize privilege that nesting/marriage has. Those were just our setups before S and I became involved. So I hesitate to use the words "primary" and "secondary" here for our specific setup.

We've talked about merging households.

Additionally, I've been considering how much I think I want children.

M cannot conceive due to medical reasons, despite S&M TTC for years several years ago and eventually stopping.

S, M and I have discussed S & me having a child together, since A doesn't want children.

(A has a lot of backstory here and we've discussed options for me having a child with someone else. Theres also a lot of discussion surrounding M's role in a childs life that is also long to type. There's a lot of nitty gritty that I won't get into in the body of this post as I'm looking to see how OTHERS have done this)

Has anyone either cohabitated with or had children in a polycule that isn't a triad or quad? Or heard of someone who has? I'm curious to hear stories about how it's worked out (or not).

I'm doing lots of research to see different dynamics and just aren't seeing our "shape" (N) of a cule represented.

Any insights to this is appreciated!

Hey everyone!

So I've been in this situation for a little while, and it's just making me sad.

I'm so freaking lonely. So is my partner. We live in a pretty remote area of the world (which is a temporary situation, but might be here another few years or so. So... kind of temporary haha) We don't have loads of friends and live in a pretty not poly/trans/neurodiverse friendly area.

I've always dreamed of having a poly family and we've started to talk about having children. I just don't see myself having kids with only one other parent around and I think having that kind of community is going to be a big deal breaker for me, in terms of having a child. There's not much we can do about any of it right now as we would need fertility treatment and a surrogate in order to conceive and have a child. So not at any risk of getting pregnant accidently; it's something we will need to put a lot of time, effort and money into!

We're both on a similar page there and I know in a few years we will be travelling more plus with a base in an area where we're more likely to meet likeminded people. Just really feeling that lack of community right now. It's been a hard few years and we've only really had each other to rely on.

I love reading stories of successful, happy poly families/communities and I'm really hoping that can be us one day.

Thanks for listening XD

Hi all,

I'm currently in a polyfi vee/triad relationship with two people who I may consider being a gestational surrogate and co-parent for in the future. Does anyone have any experience with navigating the legality of a situation like that?

Would it be possible to have all three of our names on the birth certificate? My other two partners are already legally married to each other- would that make gaining custody a challenge for me? Do I have any options other than filing for guardianship or continually-renewed power of attorney? Should I expect to run into any specific legal issues or points of discrimination while filing for guardianship as a member of a poly relationship?

We're located in Oregon if that makes a difference. Just very curious as to the legal precedent for something like this and google isn't returning any real answers.

Hello, so this is poly-adjacent, I'm posting here because I suspect this sub will understand a bit better than ones more focused on having kids in general.

As it stands, I have always known my current partner doesn't want kids and I do and we've discussed many times what the future might look like, have even taken inspo from this sub before, it's all good.

I dunno what switch happened but I had a thought at a family party for his nephew that kids I have, that aren't his, just won't have that same relationship and I guess that hit me like a tonne of bricks because I now have this real sadness that we won't have kids together and I have... no idea what to do with that.

I guess I'm just looking for some advice on how I work through this feeling and move forward... and also just to vent about how this sucks

Hello Everyone! Dropping by to let you all know that we're on for September's NYC Poly Cocktails, and it's a special edition!

We'll have More than Two, Second Edition authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin joining us for a Q&A, and singer-songwriter Rachel Lark sharing a set with us in honor of the release.

As always, it's free, COVID-19 vaccinated only, 21+ with ID, and we ask you to take a rapid antigen test at home before arrival.

To RSVP, you can either DM me here with a good email address for you, and I'll send you the full invite via email, or email me at polychrissy@gmail.com and I'll share that way. Have a beautiful weekend!

Warmly,
Chrissy

Hello all! Looking for sensitive feedback.

I’m the hinge between two wonderful people, we’ll call them A and B. I’ve been married to B for a decade, and in a serious relationship with A for almost as long. I dated B for a few years before we got legally married. We were all initially a triad, but A and B are no longer romantically involved. We own a house, pets, cars, everything together.

Ostensibly we’re closed poly/polyfi, but we’ve all lightly circled finding comfortable/safe avenues to open for a couple of years. I'm open to the idea in concept, but I'm very sensitive to deceit.

As background to the issue below, me and B recently celebrated a big anniversary with a trip, just us. This trip was hard on A, because I haven’t really done any new big trips just with them. At first all our trips were throuple trips or family trips, and then COVID kinda knocked us out of traveling for awhile. Still, it’s something that I want to rectify and recognize the need to fix, but also I needed to honor the big anniversary. The same anniversary will be in a couple of years for me and A.

The Issue: We have a friend who A has been getting close to (we’ll call them C), and it’s gone from social party energy to party make-outs. This is fine and fun, we're all party makeout-type people. A and C clearly like each other, and there’s been the very basics of conversation around maybe opening up to C, casually. Verbally, it’s always been stated as something that A only has casual interest in. C is married and their partner is mono and iffy on poly. They are both intertwined in our friendship circle, so it's something that would need to be taken slow, hypothetically.

During me and B’s trip, A hung out with and found comfort with C and C’s spouse. Great! …But the day before we came back, without any checkins, they had C over solo for lunch. It ended up lasting hours, and they ended up getting physical. Well beyond anything 'okay' discussed in previous boundary discussions.

Once I was home, A was good about telling me about having C over, but they actively lied and understated how physical it got, which I had to find out about elsewhere. Our discussed 'okay' was group-only party kissing only, so I feel pretty strongly about an undiscussed extended home DATE with makeouts and fingering and hand stuff being a strong boundary stretch/break. To be honest, I feel cheated on. I already reacted like it was cheating just to the initial non-sexual lie because actively dating hadn't been discussed yet, and now that I know they purposely lied to avoid copping to the sexual aspect, I’m really uncomfortable.

The deceit is making me distrust the whole stack of what A’s said. C independently messaged me after to apologize, implying that A warned them to, which deeply skeeves me out. I didn't realize I already had a metamour, if that makes sense.

C is a good person as far as I can tell, and I really want to be open to their relationship growing. …But this is the first thing I’ve ever caught A in a lie about, and it’s hitting a lot of big cheating alarm bells that were this a mono relationship I’d probably be reacting pretty decisively to.

I’m not really sure what advice I’m looking for. Am I overreacting in feeling distrustful? I want to be tender about caring for A through a hard time with me and B’s trip, but I feel like I might be being naive and they just used us being gone to finally sneak around / push boundaries. I've never caught A in any major lies in the past, and I already miss that security blanket.

My husband and I have been poly for 4 years. We’re currently on vacation visiting my boyfriend’s family with our son. I can’t even begin to express how happy I am to be here. Boyfriends family is so accepting of us. I have a lot of family baggage, and so being surrounded by this much love is so incredible. I don’t have many friends that I can talk to about my dynamic. I’m not ready to go home.