I just saw a video from before I became a mother and wow. I was so happy and stress free. I miss THAT version of me. I use to be “the glass half full” type of person. Now I’m definitely “the glass half empty” type of person. I love my children more than anything, they are my life, they are my joy, they are my reason. BUT in some ways, this life has ruined me. The past 2 years have been the absolute hardest years of my life and I know it will be a while before I reach that level of happiness again. Knowing that makes me so sad. Wow.

P.s. please do not judge me. I’m deep in the trenches of motherhood right now. This chapter of life is draining. I just need a break.

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I wish my husband would try harder to surprise me. He is amazing in all aspects. He's very sweet, considerate, supportive, talented, an amazing father and husband. Christmas is coming up and he asked my ring size and said not to check out Amazon cart so I haven't- but I've been ordering our 2 kids and in-laws Christmas gifts so I've been checking the arrival dates on those. This morning I checked and saw a ring was being delivered and although it's beautiful, I hate that he didn't try harder to hide it or even go in person to get a ring so it could be a surprise since he knows I've been doing the Amazon orders. I ordered his gift from a different website so he wouldn't see it. I'm really hard to surprise in the first place but anyway. I'm just venting. The ring is beautiful and I hate that I have to have a fake reaction to it.

I’ve discovered taking surveys for little bit of income and I hit the jackpot this season. I was eligible for a few surveys that paid very well and was able to buy my kids some gifts on Amazon this year. I bought them a nugget dupe, along with a bunch of other gifts that they will love.

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It’s honestly been such a blessing that I have been able to afford more things because of this app. I’ve made about 900$ this year from it, and I feel like that’s really good for being able to stay home and play with my kiddos all day.

For context. I’m 31 with 3 under 4. I love being a mom. Don’t get me wrong. And I do have a routine. Monday-Friday I get out of the house every morning whether for the gym or for Bible study. But then I come back home and do nap time in the middle of the day and then the afternoon is mostly just a blur of walks or the kids playing (or fighting lol) and making dinner. Rinse and repeat. My husband works a lot so it’s mostly just me and the girls. I do have friends and do make an effort to “socialize”. But I also have a lot of down time when it’s just me and my thoughts and the kids

It does feel like groundhogs day most days. I gave up my job as an RN after having my first kid because we have no family and finding childcare for 12+ hour shifts was nearly impossible. My husbands work schedule is all over the place that even if I wanted to go back to work, it would need to be a Monday-Friday gig and I can’t stomach the thought of putting my kids in daycare five days a week all day. I didn’t have kids to have someone else watch them all day. I grew up in daycares and after school programs and only seeing my parents for 2 hours at the end of the day when they were exhausted, and I didn’t want that for my kids.

But I have a good friend that’s getting her masters. All of my friends that are moms work. They are making career gains and being celebrated as mom bosses. And I know, from observation, that their kids get the leftovers. A lot of my mom friends are also divorced, so they only have to raise their kids every other week and get to do the single life every other week. And social media is the killer of all joys. And I was raised with divorced parents, and it does a number on the kids so I don’t envy their kids.

But I can’t help but feel like I’m being left behind. And that my kids will pity me someday. They’ll see all their friends who had working mothers who showed them “what’s possible” and then they’ll have me. Someone who “just” stayed home. And I start to get anxiety and panic and think that I’m worthless. And I dunno. A lot of big thoughts at the moment. But my friends are sick of hearing about it and they also don’t understand. Perspective is a bitch.

Anyways. Not sure what I’m looking for, other than for someone else to relate. Did any of you grow up with stay at home moms and not pity them as adults but respect the choice they made for you? I have a few friends that look down on their mothers for never having gotten a job and just choosing to stay home and homeschool them and whatnot. And that kind of perspective terrifies me. That my life work as a mother will someday be a point of ridicule and laughter to my kids. And that I’ll just be painted as “my poor mom that gave up a career just to be a housewife”

I know it might sound unreasonable. But that’s where I’m at.

Over Thanksgiving my BIL asked how staying at home is going. I enjoy it, and thought it made financial sense compared to what I brought in working. But I did say I was frustrated with only having one weekend away in the last year. I think he frowned upon me saying that, so I’m curious. How often do the rest of y’all get time away from the kids with your spouse only? SO and I have been to couples therapy and were told to start planning date nights again. SO makes it such a big ordeal to plan that I’ve since stopped proposing we do them. Last time we’ve been alone together was August.

Edit: I’d like to thank everyone for offering me some perspective. It was helpful and did make me feel less alone in my motherhood journey. For reference I’m 27f SO is 38m. Our child is 12.5 months with baby number 2 due mid June.

Our one weekend away was to a concert several hours away from home. They were tix I bought him for a valentines gift. I realize outings like that are probably unrealistic to plan frequently with littles. I do hope we can make date nights happen a lil more often, like once every 2 months. Otherwise start getting more creative with our time after babies in bed. Thanks again!

Hi fellow SAHMs! I’m newer to this as baby is only about 5 months old but so far very happy with my decision to stay home. It was always our plan and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Sometimes I am running out of ideas for what to do with baby. Any time she is napping, I am doing dishes/laundry/cleaning. If she is happily occupying herself in her exersaucer or play mat, I will also try to clean or organize the house.

We go to story time once/week for an hour and also attend a sensorimotor class once/week. She goes with me to pick up groceries once/week as well. We usually go to my parents’ house once/week to hang out. She is currently in a phase of wanting to be entertained by me most of the time that she is awake. We read books, sing songs, play with rattles, do tummy time, look at contrast cards, etc. Sometimes I honestly just start getting bored of playing with her toys though lol. I try to encourage independent play, which she will do for a bit, but once she wants my attention she will whine until I play with her.

Does anyone have any other ideas of things I can do with her that won’t bore me to death lol or other activities we can participate in outside of the house? It’s winter here and very cold so we cannot take walks or do much outside. Maybe it’s just the age she is at but I feel like there are not a lot of options for activities I can bring her to.

Being vulnerable here, and would love to hear some advice on how to make a home, be more feminine, and help my husband lead.

Backstory is I grew up in a female dominated family, with mother being alpha. I thrived off the attention of my achievements, so I did really well in school and was naturally good at sports. I followed “the right path” that my parents felt was best and graduated from college and entered the corporate world until present day.

I made a huge mistake. I never asked myself what kind of wife do I want to be? I have been married 5 years, and been with my husband for 15 years. My mom always told me and my husband I am a career woman. I never dug within myself to find out what I truly want until my husband and I completely moved away from my extended family.

I have felt I’ve always been tough, athletic, and “in control”. I answer back, I have smart-ass banter, I get defensive etc. a lot of the way I communicate is exactly how my mom does, but I want to change and be better. I definitely don’t take care of myself the way I used to, I actually was taught that those who care about their appearance are vain… so I’m trying to break that mentality. I also feel extreme guilt when I spend any $ on myself. When I have “alone” time, I have NO clue what to do with it. I feel like I don’t know who I am at all.

Now after having kids, I’m tired and I just want to be home with them, take better care of myself, feel more feminine, have my husband lead, and make a home. I want to find myself.

My husband is 100% on board, and working towards transitioning me to be SAHM, but with this transition I’ve sensed it’s hard for him to get into his “masculine” after all these years.

How can I help him lead? How can I take better care of myself? How can I be more feminine? How can I find my identity?

Besides your advice, I’m open to resources, books, role models etc.

I initially posted this on the marriage community, but got inappropriate messages, and discouraging responses saying it won’t happen. I’m not looking for those responses.

Hello, my husband and I are both FT workers. I work remote and he works in person. My job is very attention demanding though and I have to be very careful not to make mistakes or my it affects numerous groups of people and patients (medical field). So it’s taken pretty seriously if mistakes happen. My husband and I have always wanted to save up to get a house or condo in the future and pay debt (we have three loans). We both together make about 6k a month but right now our rent is sucking most of it out. We would like to move somewhere cheaper to save more money.

The plan was to continue working until the baby had to go to school (plan was to homeschool). My husband however recently told me he is giving me the option to be a SAHM after maternity leave. He said he doesn’t want me to miss out on the baby growing up since he was already going to miss a lot with work. He wants me full attention to be on raising the baby instead and doing home stuff. He thinks with my job it be hard since my attention would be split and I would t be able to enjoy the baby (which is true).

I would love to be a SAHM since my job stresses me out so much BUT I feel like it will be a huge downfall for us when it comes to paying off debt and saving money for the future. We already agreed to move next year to a one bedroom apartment which would cut our rent almost in half. We have a side business where we roast coffee also. It’s a very small business that mostly has family as customers and family friends but it’s does not bring in enough income to rely on it even as a part time job. I would like to focus on it so it replaces my job but it’s very hard getting people interested. My only option I see is to work until I can’t do it anymore and miss out on my baby which makes me extremely sad.

Has anyone been in a similar situation. I need advice because I really don’t know what to do.

Hi all, I recently had my son, (10 weeks old) I absolutely adore him but staying at home with him all day on my own is destroying my mental health. I got so much purpose from working, going to gym, etc. All the things I now cannot do until my partner gets home at 7pm and I'm too exhausted. The daily routine is monotonous and I dread it, I miss having more to my life than just being a mum. No I don't have PPD, I look forward to being around my son, I don't have any scary thoughts I just want space. Does this make me a bad mother?

Me (27F) and my husband (26M) have 2 little boys (1 yr old & 2 month old). Our 2 month old was hospitalized for a month due to an infection and requires extra care (therapies & medicines) because of it. He sleeps in a different room than us since he does have to work and he gets a nap in the day too. Whenever my husband and i argue he freezes the credit card he gave me so i don’t have access to any money. In addition when we argue he refuses to help with the kids and will literally let the baby scream and just sit there so i have to stop whatever I’m doing. He also says we are not equal since he pays for everything and i would have nothing without him and he could still do everything i do if i wasnt there. He says i need to talk to him as i would my father but he can disrespect me because he pays for everything. Whenever we disagree he says i should jusy agree bc he has money to do for me and when i disagree im just being stubborn and disobedient. Is this normal in yall’s relationship am i crazy for thinking this isnt fair?

I've lurked on this sub, as well as the workingmoms sub, for a while but I think I need to write out my situation and get some feedback/advice/support. Here's some context:

• My baby just turned 1. He's my only child. I love him more than life itself. I've been back at work for 7 months and I still feel really sad a lot of the time because I feel like I'm missing out on so many moments with him. My mom keeps him during the day while my husband and I work. It's a great (and free!) setup.
• I hope to get pregnant again in a few months. I had postpartum pre-eclampsia and gestational diabetes last time, so I'm prepared for a higher-risk situation this time around.
• I have always been a career-motivated person. I hustled straight from undergrad through grad school, post-grad clinical training, and have been a fully licensed therapist for almost 5 years now. I've been promoted several times at my current job and have a hybrid clinical/administrative role. My commute is literally 3 minutes. I have a great boss and team. After coming back from maternity leave, my boss starting allowing me to work four 9-hour days per week.
• I recognize how insanely privileged that setup is as a working mom. But I still feel sad and empty at work– like I just wish I had more time with my son while he's this young. Although I only work 4 days, they are LONG days with nonstop meetings/sessions and a considerable amount of stress. I come home exhausted and feel like I don't have anything left to give him. I spend my whole day missing him, and then when I get home I can't wait for him to go to bed. This is not the kind of mom I want to be.
• I have over 6 years credit (out of 10 years) for the Public Service Loan Forgiveness program. I need about 3.5 more years of full-time work before my loans are forgiven. However, my service does not have to be consecutive, so if I leave my current job for a few years and get another nonprofit/public sector job in a few years when my kid(s) are school age, I can pick up where I left off for loan forgiveness.
• My husband makes about $140k/year and I make $80k/year. We could make it work on his salary– it would be tighter, of course, and we would have to cut back on vacations, extra spending, etc., but we could do it.
• I could WFH on a very part-time basis for a health company doing teletherapy. I can set my own schedule and work 10-12 hours/week (summers off) and earn about $2k/month doing this. This would also allow me to keep up my skillset and license (and hold onto some sort of professional identity). My mom would keep him while I worked those part-time hours.

I guess I'm feeling guilty that I'm still struggling working full-time even though I have a lot of advantages that other working moms don't have– working 4 days a week, free childcare with my mom, no commute. Would I be stupid for leaving this job with such a good setup?

I'm a stay home mom, my little one goes half days and my older goes full days. I just feel depressed, anxious and overwhelmed. I know I have all the time in the am to get things done however now that the weather has gotten colder I'm a home body. I just feel down and depressed. I live my babies don't get me wrong. I also feel a huge disconnect with my husband. He has a job that he loves and that allows us to live very comfortably. On the flip side it takes a lot out of him and he is always tired. We have had the cold/sinus crap run through our house for the last month and though I stayed healthy I am now sick and it sucks. Yesterday I slept all day and when I came down this am my house was destroyed. My husband doesn't do well having both kids by himself. I have spoke to him about our discounted and we are even in counseling about it. He seems to get it when we are in the counselors office but doesn't get it once we have left there. I just feel ver lonely and am wondering how some of you mom's pull yourself out of this rut. I feel like a home body and also lack a ton of energy and always feel tired. Not sure what to do about it

This past year I became a SaHM- I have a newly 2 year old & a 4 month old. I’ve been selling houseplants as a way to make a little income here and there, and along the way have realized my 2 year old LOVES collecting money(she sings a money song and does a dance with it lol) and putting it in my “money box” when I do sell one. I’ve been pondering the idea to have her make her own thing and I can post it online for purchase so if she sells it- she can put it in her piggy bank and actually get her savings built up- while learning entrepreneurial skills with it. She’s big on crafts but I don’t want to have her just make some bracelets, as I feel like she’ll make 3 and be like “eh I’m good” plus I’ve seen that done many times before. I was thinking something a little more unique like birdseed ornaments or having her grow her own herbs(even catnip!) to sell. This way we could do a batch or two and then if she still wants to do more- we can, but it won’t cause burnout for her, as it may just be a short term learning fun activity for her that could give her a few extra dollars of her own. Thoughts? Opinions? Suggestions? TIA for any input.💗✨

I’m new to being a SAHM. I have a toddler and a baby. The baby takes up a lot of my time so I’m trying to find activities to occupy the toddler.

Now that it’s cold out, outside time is limited which is how we filled most of our days. My toddler’s attention span is approximately 2 minutes. How do I kill the time in a day and what are some easy activities that need minimal supervision since I do still spend a lot of time tied up feeding the baby, pumping, and holding the baby since all she wants to do is stand?

I'm F24 sahm with a 2 year old daughter and today my husband was filling out paperwork and he asked if I was a dependent and I said idk. I am it turns out since I stay home with my daughter but it was harder to hear then I imagined. I love being able to stay home with my baby but some part of me wants to work so badly and just experience that lifestyle. I feel kind of bad for feeling guilty about this but in all seriousness I wish I could work even at home. Feeling excited about learning, having a career that I love and are passionate about. I have big dreams and becoming a mom didn't stop me from having this dreams and one of them was absolutely to get married and start a family which I did and so beautifully but I feel like I need and want to be independent. I should add i have snap and food stamps so me working I don't think would benefit us much in the long run plus idk how my baby would be taken care of so obviously a lot to think about. Or just an at home job but those are extremely hard to find for myself they all look like scams. I'm just stuck, have any of you felt this way or is it just me? How can I solve this issue or at least make it feel better? Thank you in advance! I don't have friends or moms to ask.

When someone asks Abt my experience of being a SAHM . I tell them the truth.

I don't enjoy it

It has its perks

I wish I had more help than etc

We can't financially afford daycare / childcare

I struggle with it due to mental health and trauma

Which I seek help for.

Pretty much brutal honest truth And people are so offended when they hear it

But like any other profession , isn't there highs and lows etc ?

How are people more okay with sharing their struggles about their profession but when it comes to motherhood.

They expect to only hear the good parts of it .

I have been a SAHM to an only child in a foreign country with no support system other than my husband for about 3 years now.

I have also been a military spouse for almost 2 and half years .

Just venting .

To those who enjoy and embrace motherhood I'm so happy to see you do something that gives you joy but I'm not going to sit here and lie to people about my experience.

I moved to USA to be with my american husband. Our child was born in my country. I have always been a sahm since then. Fully dependent on my husband so I can be hands on with our son. After we got married in my country he bought a house here in USA and only put basic furniture saying we will decorate it together when i get to the US so i can have an input to it make it my home. He has always referred to it as “his house”. I thought it would change when i get to the US but it’s still “his house”. Legally, I don’t think my name is on the house and it just hurts me more when it’s only “his house” makes me feel like a maid doing chores and I don’t even get paid. I correct him everytime also when he says “my money” and he would always apologize but everytime this happens it stings, makes me overthink my place. Recently, we made a purchase, a nice dining table. We have been planning to get that so we can host parties/family events. He told me to look for a nice dining table within $1000 on facebook marketplace and I saved and showed him my picks and we talked about them but we ended up getting the one he liked that is a little over the budget but it’s okay because I like it too definitely a good buy. When we finally have it in our home, he referred to it as “my table”. I was shocked but I kept quiet and didn’t say anything. When Im upset and I dont say anything, it will haunt me from time to time. Am I making it a big deal? Should I again correct him? Or should I just ignore that? Should I stop caring everytime it happens? I am a stay at home mom because I love to take care of our son and my husband but it’s just very demotivating when I am reminded that I don’t own anything and there’s is nothing in my name because I picked to be a housewife instead of having my own career, my own money. Even if I get a job and buy a piece of furniture for this house, wouldn’t it be “ours” because it is in this house that we both live in. Am I overthinking it?

You know how it is. Some days you feel like you’re living the same day over and over again. I’m looking for a motivating podcast for mothers to help inspire me.

I am about to become a sahm because I am getting laid off from my current job (I knew about it months ago, so I was mentally prepared already). Because I have a toddler at home and due to the cost of childcare, we decided this is the best decision for the time being. My husband is pretty busy at the moment, so I probably won’t get much help with my kid for a while. However, I decided to use this opportunity to do a major change in career path for me after slaving away for 17 years in a field I absolutely hated. I decided to pursue my dream of becoming a freelance designer. Without getting into much specifics, I just wanted to ask, are any of you freecelance artists or designers while working from home raising babies/toddlers? I know my time will be very much limited to my kid’s nap, sleep, and very short preschool hours, but I really want to do this no matter how long it takes. Thankfully, I have my husband’s full support in doing this, so no financial pressure or deadline on my part. Would anybody in this field care to share some tips? I will be creating all my artwork on my ipad, so it’s not like I’m gonna have to go into a physical studio to work. Somebody tell me this is doable? Yes, I am kicking my lazy ass self for not having done this sooner before having a kid, when I had all the time and freedom in the world. But better late than never, right? Actually, becoming a sahm with my unpredictable toddler is currently more frightful than the uncertainty of this new career path. Wait, did I say that out loud? Lol…..

I finally feel like I’m out of my depressive rut, and ready to get back in a routine. I was working and my daughter was in daycare, up until this fall where we had to take off of work and it’s been hard trying to find something worth going back to work for. Anyways, we used to have such a nice routine, we’d wake up at 6 on weekdays, and 730-8 on weekends it was nice, she took her perfect 2-2.5hr nap, and recently slowly her wake up time became later and later, after daylight savings aaallll of it went out the window, we wake up around 10/11 nap at like 5pm, go to bed at 2am ITS NOT GOOD!!!! I know the simple answer is to wake up earlier and set the routine but i tried it and we just sat on the couch bc we were so tired & it was so cold outside ! Any tips?!

I mean, need I say more???! lol. My only consolation is that she lives upstairs. Say hello to your new alarm clock, grandma. She knows damn well she would have never allowed me to have one of those

I know that’s quite the dramatic statement to make, but it accurately describes how I’ve been feeling lately. I am 31 and had my first baby in January this year. Prior to that I worked various job positions since the age of 13 (yep, I started early), attained a college degree, and travelled the country on solo road trips. To increase the sinking feeling that I don’t have an identity and don’t exist, neither my husband nor I have any family members nearby. Mine is over 2,000 miles away in another state, and his is a three hour drive from here in another state. We are also no contact with his family due to the way his Mom disrespected me on numerous occasions, so even if we wanted to make that drive, it’s not happening.

It really is just us. My husband works two jobs, one is a M-F 9-5 day job and the other is 4 nights a week at a grocery store stocking shelves. As soon as he gets home from the overnight job he’s either sleeping past noon to make up for those shifts or he’s driving to his day job.

It’s just my daughter and I seven days a week, 24-7. It’s been almost one year of this and I can safely say that the only places I’ve gone this entire time are my daughter’s pediatric appointments, my dogs veterinarian appointments, grocery shopping, and walks at the park.

Any advice? I’m so damn lonely and I miss being a productive adult who talks to other adults regularly 🫠

I'm currently a sahm and I'm desperate to claim my life back, going back to work and getting back into hobbies etc. but I'm having the worst time trying to find anything suitable and it's got me at my wits end, I feel like a failure and being at home for extended periods of time make me really depressed. I LOVE being a mummy to my little girl but I've lost all sense of who I am outside of that. Even my youngest brother only really knows me as "....'s mummy" and doesn't process that I'm his sister not just his nieces mum - admittedly there's only a couple years between them but it still kinda breaks my heart a little bit.... I'm desperate to find and make new friends since I moved closer to home but unable to join clubs due to lack of funds but how on earth am I supposed to apply for jobs with the catch of "I can't work outside of school hours, no weekends, no holidays, need to start after I've dropped her off and I need to finish in time to pick her up" I've worked in the hospitality and catering industry since my first job at 15 year old. I can work a cafe like theres no tomorrow. I was always the member of staff that covered the busy periods and short falls and I feel guilty basically having to explain to a new potential employer that I can't work more than 4-5 hours a day and I'm limited to only being available during school hours so when they probably need the help the most I can't be there. Not to mention the lack of school hour jobs advertised without it being in a school (nothing against working in a school at all except for the fact the schools local to me either are fully staffed or secondary schools with kids I actively cross the street to avoid (groups of Balaklavas, ramping and raving... I do my best not to judge them but I also know that the kids I avoid are friends of my brother who himself has carried knives for "protection" - I had to talk to him about that, explaining that there'd be no need for "protection" if none of them felt the need to start unprovoked territory wars....) Besides the point, I remember being a kid and my mum taking me along to the launderette for her shifts so she could work when she didn't have childcare for me and while I understand the health and safety regulations around it, I'm gutted at the lack of help out there for parents who dont have extra childcare to enable them to work. My family are unable to help due to their own commitments and I can't afford after-school/Holiday clubs nor do I particularly feel okay in dumping her in the hands of a stranger to be able to go to work.... I don't really know what the point of this post is. I guess just a long winded, scrambled rant at the pressures of being a mum that works (or wants to work in my case) as well as being able to maintain any form of social life outside of parks and playgyms 😅...

Anyone else deal with this? I have a great routine with both of my boys, cleaning, cooking, activities, etc. But when thier dad is off for more than two days in a row everything seems to become neglected and thrown out the window. We enjoy being able to spend time with him when he is home and love it so much but getting back into our routine is so hard. The home becomes chaotic, and everyone feels a little off for a few days and I have to rush around to make up for all of it while getting my kids back to their normal day to day.

We currently making a lot of money, but will move to US in 2 years due to my husbands career - he's already a atteding doctor in our country but will do his residency in another area in the US. His salary will be 60k for 3 years and he will apply for places where we can afford to live in, but we dont know anything about that.

I am a sahm and we have 2 toddlers that we homeschool. We're baptists and currently live in a small rural town in south Brazil.

I’ve snapped. 3 months in and the laundry is everywhere, the baby is doing amazing but because she has my full focus. Nothing else gets done. I lost it on my husband today. Happy Thanksgiving! I say I need help and I’ve needed it. I’ve asked for it, when I do, it’s like I have to nag for any help to be done in the house.

He says this is what stay at home moms do so it’s my job to keep the home tidy and acknowledges I needed help. I miss when I thought all this would be manageable without losing my shit. I know it will pass but today It all just hit me. Family came over and I hadn’t even had the chance to get out of pajamas. Bleh.

My nervous system reacts as if there is an enormous danger when my son (17monthsold) whines or cries for something.
99% of the time it's just him asking for something he wants so no danger whatsoever. But my body cares equally if my baby is asking for a cookie or if he's in agonizing pain and in extreme danger. It reacts the exact same way in both cases since the noise he makes for either of these two situations is the same one.
I know he's expressing a need and he can't use words yet, nor can he rationalize. But i spend every day and every hour of the day alone with him, (which is a blessing i wouldn't want to change for anything in the world). My point is there's no one around to watch him while i go collect myself in another room where no one is screaming at me or touching me. So i have no idea how to stay calm, when this little man is running around yelling at me all day and i keep getting triggered. So is this a normal thing? Am i the only one going through this? I hope not, and if i'm not, my question is, how do you cope, do you have a way of thinking which changes your perspective, or any trick that helped you regulate in these moments?