So I asked my best man friend who is a relationship expert this question and this is what he said:

In general I am not on there so I can’t speak of that. I find it off for me to be on it. For me when I have a circuit of friends who are introducing me to their sisters and friends around me who are vetting. I meet a lot of people through my circuit, I bump into them on my circuit. That’s why I find it odd and it’s a bit contrived, you can feel it. There’s a way to do it that is not contrived. This is why they have things like social dancers; you are social first. Partner dancing to socialise, to learn about each other.

I understand what he is saying but when you have a busy life with work and just a few interests how do you meet new people that are part of your usual circuit? What if I can't dance either...haha! I would only meet someone new about every few months these days and the chance of them being single is even slimmer. My friends introduced me to their single friends/family when I was in my 20s but nowadays most of their friends are paired up. So isn't online dating the best option for me now? Anyone having much luck on there?

As you read in the title, I feel like me and my bf don’t talk enough about our relationship. We are kind of long distance and when we are together we are normally out in public, hardly ever any alone time. Anyways, in front of people he just wants to act like a mr cool guy but when it’s just us which it hardly ever is we just talk about random stuff. Even on ft or text he is just totally random. However when we do talk about our relationship it always seems to turn into an argument. We normally talk about our relationship (well when we do) through text which doesn’t really help since you can’t understand how they are talking to you. You could send them a message being calm and they could read it as if you’re mad or yelling at them. We only talk about our relationship through text because whenever we do in person or ft i feel like i’m going to cry, can’t talk and i don’t want him to see me weak, but i do want to talk about our relationship because we have had many times where we had almost had broken up and it’s just always on my mind. I want to talk about what happened when we almost broke up but i am too scared that he might actually end up wanting to end it. What should i do? Is it normal for couples to not talk about their relationship often?

Also it always seems like im the who wants to talk about the relationship and not him and i hate that.

Personally, I don’t believe in love at first sight. To me love is something that more closely resembles an action or a lifestyle. It takes time and effort to cultivate.

That being said… I was introduced to someone a few months back who is making me question things. The instant our eyes met for the first time, something happened in my brain. Time stopped. The whole room went silent. It was like something out of a movie, it was absolutely ridiculous. The feeling was totally unique. It wasn’t simply attraction so much as recognition, something warm and familiar and very focused.

That feeling has never really gone away. Befriending this person has been effortless and comfortable. And as we’ve gotten to know each other, we’ve discovered some wild “missed connections” between us. I won’t get into the details but it’s almost enough to convince me that the red string of fate theory has some merit.

I know our connection might not go anywhere in the long run. Regardless, this is a standalone experience in my life that I literally did not think was possible. Am I deluded? Has this ever happened to you before? Did you choc it up to fate, or karma, or a past life memory, or what? How did things end up?

I had a relationship with this girl for 6 months and i tried everything in my power to make her happy, i was a little experienced so i was finding new things for us to do and stuff, i always bought chocolates for her while she was in her period and texted her that i was there for her, apparently that wasn’t enough though since she secretly cheated on me leaving me in the process, i just winder what i did wrong?

So I'm currently dating this 20F tsundere. Im way older than her

Tsundere is Japanese term for girls that shy about expressing their feelings, and may even try to act harsh but are actually kind-hearted inside.

Her mood is always swinging every day, it's like talking to different person each day She can be very harsh and mean to me in a day but later she will miss me and want me to embrace her

Sometimes she videocall me with her grumpy face, no words. then saying like "It-it's not like I miss you or anything"

She's 10x worse when she's on period Week ago we had romantic dinner and good sex, she was very happy but a day later she blocked me on every social media, unblock me after 3 hours, then immediately blocked me again because she thinks Im looking other girl, and of course she unblocked me again after 6 hours

Sometimes in a day she kept ignoring my messages but later on tiktoks she kept reposting quotes like "I maybe harsh but I love you, dont leave me"

The hardest part in this relationship, she want me to guess her feelings. I already told her to be more honest and open but she refused with grumpy face. I dont know if I'm being played around. She's actually pretty popular and rejected a lot of guys, she said I'm the only one that finally cracked her

hi! for context I’m a girl in college and I started talking to this guy because I thought we vibed well, and we met up more and I realized that the connection wasn’t really there. I definitely know that we are heading in a direction that’s more than friends, just by context and by what he’s hinted at to other people, but we have NOT officially talked about our hang outs as dates or established that we are talking romantically. so how should I let him know I’m no longer interested? I feel bad about ghosting/being really dry (which is what I’m doing right now), but is it weird to suddenly text him/meet up with him in person and be like “hey, I’m not interested” when we’ve never talked about it before?

How would you rekindle a conversation that did not end on a good note?

I was on the initial stages of dating a guy. He may have shown some signs of insecurity and even toxicity, but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and want to get to know him better. Our last talk went like this: I try to arrange to meet, he is slightly dismissive and playful, I get annoyed and ask him to be intentional or leave it alone, he gives up all together.

I may have overreacted and would like to go back to talk to him and see this through. How would you rekindle the talk?

For context: I am very sarcastic and flirt by taking the piss out of the person / making jokes. This could have affected his self-esteem, despite me being direct that I wanted to see him again. He also gives off avoidant energy eg inconsistent communication, either long or immediate replies, on dates feel even a bit clingy and outside of them a bit distant.

I'm a 23 yr old that uses a walker and I'm interested in asking a girl out. Thing is, I don't know her very well at all and I don't have the opportunity to see her very often and am a bit embarrassed because I have to rely on my parents for transport. Any advice?

I 22F just went on a date with a guy 27M that went well we were just talking for a few hours. He kept saying how I turned him on but I said I would only go as far as kissing. I’ve been trying not to do anything on the first date if I like the guy so I rly tried not to but we get to his car to warm up and kiss goodnight but it gets heated and I end up giving him head. He was complimenting me a lot and it was hot but now I am just like damn I did it again. Idk he hasn’t texted me yet and I just feel like he’s only gonna wanna see me for sex now if at all.

I (23F) joined a club at my college last month and I noticed a guy I think is cute. I had a few small talk conversations with him when I first joined but I haven’t seen him since.

Since joining, I’ve been trying to slowly get to know a few people at the club (that he seems to have been friends with for a while). Me and those people aren’t on hangout terms yet, but I’m trying to be friendly with them.

I don’t want to show blatant interest in the guy because I really don’t want to make things awkward or mess up making friends with the group. But I want to get to know him more.

Next time I see the guy, any advice on how to talk to him in a way that isn’t-but is ALMOST flirting? I want to get to know him better than just small talk. But I don’t want to show blatant interest. If that makes sense.

okay so we meet 2 weeks ago at a bar/club and he seen me walked past and called me pretty, then a few hours later we ran into each other again and he asked my for number, i ended up drinking and dancing with him all night then we went back to mine and hooked up. i thought that was gonna be it but he’s still texting me which im very happy about because he seems sweet and i like his vibe. but he hasn’t asked to go out again and do somthing. it’s literally just texting but not about sex just about my day and stuff. i want to see him again, should i just ask him if he wants to go out again? but i’m scared haha i’ve never asked a guy before or should i wait? maybe he’s nervous. i don’t know what he is looking for but im so scared to ask

Sorry if this is long. I've been talking to this girl for almost a month now. A little over a week and a half in, we started to talk about sex.

A bit of context on myself. While I am not a virgin, I did lose it in my last relationship (which was also my first relationship). I wouldn't call it the best thing ever, as she never liked sex and was pretty much a dead lay. I was also never able to cum with her. We were together for 8 months and only did it a handful of times. When the topic of previous sexual partners came up, I talked about how disappointing sex was and that it wasn't all it's cracked up to be (I still think it is boring) but she seems like she wants to prove me wrong?

She's been sending me topless pictures while I've sent her pics of my dick (which she compliments) and keeps asking what turns me on, if I've had any fantasies or interests, or just something I've wanted to try. I was never able to explore sex with my previous partner, so I start spit balling some ideas I've thought looked pretty hot in porn. She seemed interested in letting me try them. I asked her if she had anything she liked doing, but she avoided the question. I also told her what I like to do to girls (lick and suck nipples, use my hands on her, going down) but she didn't seem interested in herself getting off. I also told her that I've got a thing for pretty looking feet (just the look, I'm not into licking or smelling them eww) so she asked me recently what nail polish would I like to see a girl wear on her toes down to the specific hue.

I've been trying not to talk about sex too much (only in joke form) so I don't scare her away, but she brings the topic up a lot (which also turns me on to her). She told me she wears an IUD cause she doesn't want to get pregnant, but I still plan on wearing a condom if we do it.

I'm trying not to over think it and keep a level head, but from my point of view she is preparing to give me the night I never got to experience. Do you think this is what she is doing or am I reading into her wrong? I want a decent relationship, but the idea of actually having good sex is clouding my mind.

I’ve been seeing this guy for a month now, we text every day, see each other a couple times a week, we’ve been intimate. I really really like him, but this is my first dating experience after being with someone for 6+ years, and I don’t know how it works.

I get a little tongue tied around him because he’s older than me and has more experience, but I don’t know if he knows that about me. I want to ask him what he’s looking for/hoping this turns into, but I don’t know how to breech the subject. It feels forced to ask, but I also like clarity. We’ve been on 5 dates, plans in the works for date #6. I know it’s too early for the “what are we” question, but I’d at least like to know if he’s seeing anyone else and if he’s looking for a relationship. We became intimate pretty quickly, but the last few dates we’ve been on we’ve just hung out, got food or something, and had a kiss or two, nothing crazy.

He’s kinda shy so I don’t want to freak him out by asking too much of him too soon. And if I do ask, what’s the noncringey way of asking?

I left a 15 year marriage for several reason, not important to this post. I meet and started a relationship with a woman a few years younger than me and bought a house. It’s been 5 years now, and now not only do we live together, but it’s her 27 years old daughter, 3 grand children, gf adult son was just released from prison, paroled to this house, gf dad and step mom now live hear also. That is the short version of the story. Everyday is some sort of drama, none started with me, but still something I have to deal with. I pay 90% of the bills and all I ask is that the house is clean and organized. 9 people in a house meant for two people. If I break up with her, in essence I am breaking up with her whole family that depends on me for their place to live. I feel like I have idiot written across my forehead for letting all of this happen. Sex with the gf is once a week, usually in the morning on one of the weekend days, never more than once and always missionary. I have offered for her and I to go out of town for a weekend or two and always get told she has something else to do. Usually taking care of the grandkids. I feel stuck, if I were to do something selfish like disappear for a weekend, then I’m accused of cheating. Which I not totally against at this point. How the hell do I get out of this shit, just be an asshole?

Me 36F, met a 36M on bumble. He asked me out multiple times after to and fro texting and showed lots of genuine interest. I agreed to meet him over a coffee and he didn’t even ask me my name on first date. He seemed to be a very genuine guy. The he asked me out on second date over ice cream. And we met over ice cream date and then he asked me my name when I insisted. Lol . Post this he got vanished for 15 days saying he is going to his home town for Navratri and he had to prepone the plan coz his dad is not well. His location on bumble was switched off and he didn’t communicate me at all for those 12-15 days. But he again came back apologized saying he was caught up with dads health and hospitalization. He asked me out over dinner and we went for dinner and we drank and danced. And he seemed all into me during dance. So I got carried away a bit. He asked me to come over at his place for dinner as we both were hungry, pots dinner at his place I booked a cab and he came to my place to drop me and next moment I know we were making out in my bedroom. He stayed back till Sunday evening and we were cuddling and making out in between. He left to his place on Sunday evening saying he has to shower and charge his phone and again he came back on Sunday late night and he stayed back at my place we had sex that night and he left again Monday morning and came back on the same night. Then for Diwali I had my flight on Tuesday so I asked him to leave on Tuesday morning. I was scrolling his Instagram and found a girl had tagged him in vacation pictures so I sent him the post asking who is this girl. And then he didn't reply to me for 3 hours. I scrolled that girls profile and found they both went to Egypt same duration when he claimed to be taking care of his dad's health and besides they went on local trips as well to many places in past. I went all panicky. He after lot of drama accepdet that he is dating this girl and he lied to me about his trip to native. I still continued talking to him and I feel he sensed my emotional desperation and he kept me bread crumbing for few days and then we met again once and he said she is just someone he is seeing casually and he wants a serious relationship with me and he is ready to leave that girl. But even after this discussion he was inconsistent in communication and every weekend he was travelling to his native coz his dad isn't well and some random stuffs. And he was in town only for one day in week. this all went for 1.5 month. I said I don't trust him as its not possible that he is travelling every weekend to his native coz he has lied to me on this in past, and I can prove his lying and I am going to contact the other girl on this. Hearing this he ghosted me and deleted his Instagram profile. I want to know what red flags I ignored and where should have I stopped as he seemed genuine showing interest added me in his Instagram bringing me flowers and everything before I got to know about the girl he went on a trip.

I have just ended things with a girl I loved for almost 2 years. Im only 19 and have never dealt with something like this before. How am I supposed to move on, I still love her as I was practically forced to end our relationship. I know I deserve to be happy but I have no idea how to continue. What am I supposed to do?

In the last year or so I haven’t been able to really connect with anyone. I’ve been on plenty of dates and talked for a few people very briefly. They have all been nice but they’re not people I ever had butterflies over, or felt connected to, or could see myself with. I’m in a transitional period of my life and most of the people around me are not at the same stage I am so I believe that has something to do with my lack of interest but it’s been really discouraging. However, I think another issue is my unrealistic expectations due to Patrick Swayze.. Hear me out here. My favorite movie is Point Break. I watched Youngblood recently and realized Patrick Swayze is kinda hot. Then I watched Roadhouse and he was really hot. Then I watched Dirty Dancing and Ghost for the first times and I just can’t get enough of this man. He is gentle and graceful, but so strong and masculine. I’ve started watching videos of him dancing with his wife and god they are gorgeous and emotional.

I am already extremely introverted and independent, I do not like to give up my time to just anyone. I cannot possibly imagine letting another college boy into my apartment and into my life knowing someone like Patrick Swayze has existed before. This isn’t a bit, I genuinely cannot have feelings for anyone. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but my expectations are raised and i’m willing to wait for Patrick Swayze reincarnated if i have to.

Christmas is coming and gift shopping is in season. I (29m) started dating (F28) 10 months ago. Everything is perfect. We are both professionals (Lawyer/MD(in residency)). She has a shitty amazon card holder she likes and I want to get her a LV version of it.

We are currently long distance (2 months with frequent visits with a hard end date) because I accepted a very lucrative job in AZ (she is in NYC for residency) before we met. My contract ends in May of next year. There are no long distance woes, I am going to marry this girl. My contact is up early 2025 and I have a job lined up in NYC.

Final note: I plan to propose in late ‘25 and all signs suggest family/SO approve.

Is it inappropriate/questionable to get a LV for a first christmas at this point? I feel like she has been a very good sport about the distance and deserves a sign of my commitment while I prepare to propose/move back towards her. She would be fine with a lesser gift, I ask because I want to get her something she will use everyday. She is also on a much tighter budget and this will definitely dwarf her gift to me (which I don’t mind, i’d prefer she spend her money on herself).

I’ve been through enough heartbreaks to last a lifetime. Each one chipped away at my hope for lasting love, and over time, I’ve found myself questioning the ideals I once held dear marriage, a family, and the dream of a happily ever after. At my age, I’ve come to accept that these things just might not be meant for me, and honestly? I’m tired of the disappointment that comes with chasing them.

For years, I invested my time, emotions, and energy into relationships that ultimately left me empty. I gave my heart, only to have it broken time and time again. I used to believe in love with every fiber of my being, but as I’ve gotten older, that belief has faded. The idea of building a life with someone feels less like a realistic goal and more like an elusive dream.

So, I’ve decided to take a different path: friends with benefits (FWB). To some, it might seem unconventional, but to me, it’s a way to reclaim control over my life. With FWB, there are no strings attached no expectations, no emotional entanglements, and most importantly, no heartbreak. It’s about companionship and intimacy without the baggage of traditional relationships.

This isn’t a decision I’ve made lightly. It’s not about bitterness or giving up entirely on human connection. Instead, it’s about protecting my peace and setting boundaries that work for me. At this point in my life, I’d rather share moments with someone without the pressure of labels or long-term promises.

For anyone wondering why someone would choose this route, it’s simple: I’m tired of being disappointed. Tired of putting my faith in relationships only to watch them unravel. This choice gives me the freedom to connect with others while preserving my emotional well-being.

I know this path isn’t for everyone, and I’m not advocating it as a solution to heartbreak. But for those of us who’ve been burned too many times, it can be a way to heal, grow, and redefine what connection looks like on our own terms.

Have any of you taken a similar route? How has it worked out for you? Let’s share and discuss.

Hi, im not sure how to address this topic in the right way with the right words because English is not my first language, sorry in advance.

But why is it so hard just to date, or meet someone new without having an intention? Am I the stupid person? Because I hate the normal “date game” like meeting with the person on a date in a date context if you get what I mean. That’s just so unreal for me, because everyone knows like okay we are here in the restaurant and I have to check if the other one fits, I watch everything, behavior, look, and also if we could talk. But this entire scenario is just unnatural. Why is it so hard just to hangout?

Hangout or do something together without this entire date thing going on. If you hangout, watch a movie, do something fun or whatever without the context or declaration of a date. If you guys vibe then you will both know it pretty fast. I had it once, meet the girl of my dreams, we never date, because we just vibes and got together. Fully natural. Today with Tinder or bumble you will never have this anymore I think. And everything feels like a weird setting.

I hope you get what I’ve tried to say. If not we can discuss.

Hi everyone. I’m a woman in my mid 20s, not quite 30 yet. I’ve had boyfriends in the past, but those relationships were when I was 19 and 21, so I’m not sure if they really count as adult dating. This is my first real experience dating as an adult.

I recently matched with a 30-year-old guy on Bumble, and things moved quickly between us. We were mutually attracted and started texting on October 22nd. Since then, we’ve gone on five dates. On our third date, I went to his house, and we were intimate. For our last two dates, we’ve followed a similar pattern: going out for dinner, spending the night together, and being intimate. Although I initially felt okay with his advances, I’m starting to regret sleeping with him so early in the process of dating.

Now for my question: I’ve asked him a few times if he enjoys going out with me, and he’s said yes—that’s why he keeps planning dates. His texting pace seems normal, and he prefers phone calls, so I’ve made an effort to call him in the last few days. On Friday, he repeatedly mentioned how excited he was to see me, called me pretty at dinner, and said I was cute later that night. Everything seemed fine, and we cuddled.

However, the next morning, I noticed him texting on an app that wasn’t standard SMS for Android. When I asked who he was talking to, his answer didn’t sit right with me. It had something to do with changing the deliver date for his package. I caught a glimpse of the chat format but not the actual messages, and he seemed a bit distant that morning.

For context, he has told me he’s shy, prefers to listen, and doesn’t talk much. He’s also said he’s not very popular with women, hasn’t had many girlfriends, and will only approach women he already knows or has been introduced to.

Am I overreacting by being concerned about this? Can guys go from seemingly being excited to see to over to doing a 360?

I've (M30) been giving Hinge and Bumble a try for awhile. Not in the hookup scene, looking for genuine connections and relationships. I get matches, even get some conversations started, but I feel like I'm just totally lost on how long women want to wait before actually being asked on a date.

When I started trying, I was pretty timid and would pen pal for days working up the courage to ask a match out. Predictably that ended up most often just getting unmatched or ghosted. I built up my confidence and started being more direct and "getting to the point" faster, which has seen a notable improvement in conversation and at least making it to first dates, but most of the time it still feels like I lose their interest even before just one day. Currently I've been trying to basically just chat for a day and then ask them out, but within that day I've often found myself being unmatched still.

Based on the trend I'm seeing it sort of feels like I should just be getting right to the point ASAP, but I wanted to put it to the room here - ladies on the various apps, do yall want to be asked out by a match practically right away, or within the first day at least? Or is this really just par for the course on dating apps?

(I'm perfectly willing to accept the possibility that I'm also just not an interesting conversationalist on the apps, I do think I'm actually pretty socially comfortable in person but sometimes talking on the app feels weird when I try to pick things out of their profiles to ask about).

She’s 6’5 and I’m 5’8. She told me that she doesn’t have a problem with that and I don’t either. I honestly feel lucky to have caught the attention of such a beautiful woman and that she’s into me.

Now I have never been out with a taller woman and I don’t want to make things awkward because of our differences in height.

Feeling extremely rejected. I’m 35M and I matched with a woman (29F) on an app. I didn’t respond right away and she followed me on Instagram. She followed up a few times over the span of six months and when I got less busy with work we hung out.

We had a great date but I could tell something was off. I stayed at hers. We laughed and had to much fun. Sex was great. Cuddling. Convo. She starts being toxic after, asking if I’d be mad if she went on dates. We talked almost every day for a month before hanging out. Then she got weirder as time went by.

When we planned to hangout again, she apologized and said she had already been dating someone. I feel like an idiot and the rejection hurts worse because she sought me out and kept circling back when I stopped responding.

Has anyone ever experienced something like this? I think I need to take a serious break from dating. I was so excited about this woman.

I have been talking to this guy for months now. When we first matched on an app it was super casual and it took like two months for us to meet up. After we did both of us were far more consistent with communication and a week later he asked me out on another date. We spent the whole day together and honestly it was so fun. That was nearly two weeks ago, we tend to talk all the time and I want to be lenient as the holiday season has begun but I am not used to this much time in between someone asking me out on dates. I also don't like asking guys to hang out, I rather they ask me. Do I need to release my ego or just accept if he wanted to he would and let this fizzle?

Just turned 26 (M) & I’m honestly just curious for the women around my age what do you guys value at this age, what do you find attractive in men? And if you’re someone who wants a relationship what do you want out of said relationship? Don’t answer with whats politically correct either keep it real….IG I’m just asking bc I don’t really know wtf is going on or why shit is so difficult these days, & I know looks isn’t really my issue either I’ve had relationships in the past and my fair share of sexual partners & I have no issue getting surface level attention or attraction but when it comes to forming a bond or actual connection these days I simply feel like an outsider, dating & everything just feels weird asf, & it’s so many constant conflicting narratives around genders and relationships being pushed, it doesn’t help.

Okay, so I (24F) have went on a date with this (33M) guy. I had a lot of fun on our first date was and I was looking forward to our next date (he asked me out again during the first!) However, since he had a cold, I have to wait another week before I get to see him again, so about two weeks in between the first and second date.

Now, that I’ve got the timeline out of the way, I feel really anxious. I’ve noticed that our past texts from before our first date were pretty spicy and we texted a lot more, however since our first date there is no spice at all in any of our texts and it’s not as often, which makes me anxious since we slept together on the date. I don’t think he’s necessarily playing me, but I do think he’s less interested in me after having sex with me, if that makes sense? I know that there’s a possibility that maybe he just wants to get to know me more, however a lot of our convos feel very surface-level, with only a good convo here or there. And! We do still text everyday but the majority of it is a good morning text and that’s about it. I know that I’m being very anxiety-ridden and I’m probably making it out to be some big thing that it really isn’t since I still get good convos occasionally and he isn’t even remotely ghosting me. It’s just the fact that none of it is sexual at all which makes me really worried. I have been dating since this summer and I’ve had a lot of bad recent dating experiences where guys would string me along (two of them had played me for a month actually 😅), and it’s really impacted my self-esteem and it’s causing me to over-analyze the texts. I also was the one to reschedule the date because when he got sick, he never suggested a new date for it, and after a day I caved and asked if he wanted to meet again and he picked Saturday. Which is bad because I was trying to gauge if he was even interested in a second date and then I just went and brought it up anyway.

Also, I should probably bring this up: I definitely found his Twitter and he flirts with cute girls under their posts. Some of them don’t do sex work, and they seem pretty normal with the same interests as him. I know that this is such a huge red flag on my part, and I only discovered it because I was trying to make sure he was who he said he was. I don’t even think it’s a red flag that he does this, because I am absolutely guilty of following hot girls, but I’m more of a lurker… I think my anxiety comes from the fact that he does seem to be on Twitter a lot, and occasionally messages the same 2-3 girls. I don’t think they’re in the same area or interested in him at all lol, but it’s just more of a way for my brain to make me insecure over a guy who owes me nothing since we’ve only been on a single date. I’m only bringing this up to show that I think my anxiety is getting the best of me, and I want some comfort.

Especially right now since our last exchange ended with me saying something and he never looked at it. I know he’ll probably message in the morning, but my brain is just spiraling and thinking that what I said was terrible since it was kind of spicy.

I don’t know what to do exactly and I don’t want to stress/pressure the guy, but my anxiety is being really awful :(

And Saturday seems so far away, that it’s just making me feel worse.

Please give me advice. I really like this guy and if this goes anywhere, I really don’t want my anxiety to ruin it.

Hi everyone,

I really do not want to get into too much detail because it will be too much to explain from the beginning. Anyway, this man pursued me. The first day he pursued me he was excited, he put gas in my tank, he took me out to eat. I thought he was a really happy guy. Anyway, as time progresses, I start to see the real him. He started opening up to me about his life problems and money problems. I wouldn’t have assumed he had those type of problems by the way he acted when he first pursued me. Anyway, one day he asked me for money. He was like he was on his last leg he all I had to ask. I lended him the money. Then after that his texting started to get horrible. He would go hours without texting me or calling me. I let him know how I felt about that and he gets mad at me and say he busy he works a lot and I annoy him with all that and all I care is about myself. How do I care about myself when so gave you money and all I am asking for is better communication!? That’s when we started having problems. We kinda rekindled and then it got back bad again. I slept over his house and he barely communicate with me. He was on his phone all night but couldn’t communicate with me. I almost left and he persuaded me to stay he explained that he was sorry and was in a bad mood and he is just not happy with life and that he loved me. Anyway the next day I left and texted him some motivational messages to make him feel better. He didn’t text me back for 16 hours. At this point, I just got furious and sent him a whole memo explaining why I couldn’t do this anymore. There is no reason why you keep repeatedly not texting me back in a good time. He haven’t even took me out since the first day he met me. It’s like he had put on a whole play that day. I never understand why men pursue women knowing that they are not in a good pls d in their life. I told him I understand his life problems but that does not mean it give him the right to treat me this way. Then blocked him. Now I am feeling bad for blocking him, sad, my emotions all over the place because I really love him. But it is only much I can take. It’s not like he did this one time and I blocked him. No he did it multiple times. I just couldn’t take it no more. But at the same I love him and regret blocking him. Am I wrong? What should I do?

I’ve been talking to this guy for 2 weeks now. We’ve gone on like 4 dates already (nothing intimate). We talk on the phone some nights, text all day.

In the beginning when we asked the question of “what are you looking for?” we both agreed we didn’t want to put pressure on anything, but I told him I was ready for something serious if it ever gets to that.

I still can’t figure out where this is going. I know it’s only been two weeks and maybe I don’t need to know where this is going yet, but I really like him and I’m really excited about the potential here and don’t want to do anything to ruin it.

Do I ask him how he feels about me? Do I just keep letting things flow? Am I overthinking here? I haven’t dated in a while so I don’t know how this usually goes. Any advice will be appreciated!

Guy I’m casually seeing asked to see me on Saturday. I said yes. Hadn’t heard from him by 5pm so texted and he replied that he was going out with some work friends. I was disappointed but didn’t say anything. He just texted asking to see me Wednesday. What should I say? Thoughts?