I'm from PONDICHERRY , India,I dated few people ,Do female feel comfortable dating someone younger than them i dated some +1 or 2+ age than me ,i really feel more comfortable with someone elder , because i feel the generational gap with my own generation people or i think really haven't met someone like minded ,But i really enjoy the company of emotional available and mature person irrespective of age .I generally feel that age difference is mandatory for a healthy relationship, atleast for me 😅. Because i feel like if in same age they are more competitive in relationship with fights and understanding.But i feel like age gap makes one of two person with calming effect and maturity ,they understand better I guess.I really love the calming effect of Women who is mature and loves me for who I am.What about you people.

I'm from PONDICHERRY , India,I dated few people ,Do female feel comfortable dating someone younger than them i dated some +1 or 2+ age than me ,i really feel more comfortable with someone elder , because i feel the generational gap with my own generation people or i think really haven't met someone like minded ,But i really enjoy the company of emotional available and mature person irrespective of age .I generally feel that age difference is mandatory for a healthy relationship, atleast for me 😅. Because i feel like if in same age they are more competitive in relationship with fights and understanding.But i feel like age gap makes one of two person with calming effect and maturity ,they understand better I guess.I really love the calming effect of Women who is mature and loves me for who I am.What about you people.

For context: we’ve been dating 5 months. We’re both in our 30s. He texts/calls me everyday. Yet, he does to D.C. to his male cousin’s apartment for Memorial Day Weekend (it’s actually a last minute, 7 day trip) and I’ve barely heard from him (aside from one short/vague text reply at 4:30am when i was asleep).

No texts or calls at night when he’s settling down for bed… no texts about his day… I get that he’s spending time with his cousin doing some male bonding but sheesh…

Oh, his cousin also told my guy to bring his professional DSLR camera because his cousin plans on setting up some photoshoots for my guy, with possibly some of his friends from college (the cousin is still in college). My guy is not a professional photographer or anything but 🤦‍♀️ugh… why do i feel so uncomfortable about all of this? *I feel like if there was better communication, I’d feel less uneasy…

So, I’m a 31 year old male that lives with my mom and dad. I’ve lived with them my whole life. Reasons being that we had a farming business together, I’m an only child, and they’re in their 70s.

So I was just wanting some advice. We live in a mobile home, so the walls are pretty thin and I don’t feel comfortable having intimate conversations with women, dating, having them over, etc. I know most people will say to move out, but with expenses nowadays, I’m not sure I’d be able to make it.

She is older than me

I don't know how to write this so I will just start with the facts. I am 30, My best-friend of 25 years is also 30. My best-friend's wife is 35 and her best friend(the girl that I'm being set up with) is also 35.

Last September I was at my friends birthday where he was celebrating turning 30(I was already 30) and his friends and family were there. During the event I could see some girl was constantly with my friends wife and so I knew she was a friend of hers. Later I get blind sided by being told to turn around and now I must chat up this girl while literally my friend and his wife are with us. Incredibly awkward since I felt like I was doing an exam and I was blindsided.

The second time I met her was the wife's birthday and there was a lot of people again and everyone moved seats so we could sit together( more pressure and couldn't speak to her).

I'm trying to be polite and I'm not attracted to her at this point.

Third time I meet her was at my friend's weddings 2 weekend ago. The girl is a bridemaid and I couldn't take my eyes off her after seeing her enter the church. She was gorgeous. That day I finally get opportunities throughout the day to talk to her and we hit it off. We have lots in common but not everything, so that's great. I find her to be so easy to talk too and there isn't any difficulty or awkwardness. We were even the last to go to bed and somehow our bedrooms are right beside eachother(my friend says he didn't plan it. It's just coincidence)

The weekend ends and my friend out of the blue a few days later texts me if I got on to her. I forgot to get her number so he sends it on. I come up with a great first text that is polite, funny and I ask if she wants to meet up.

Now, I have always been unsure if I like her or not cause I know I can't base my attraction to her by one nice weekend and I'm not the kind of guy to let myself get excited about things because I always think about the future and never the present. I am very much aware of our age difference and what it could mean but I don't have an issue dating someone older than me.

A few days of texting back and forth pass and yesterday was our first date. It was 4 hours long. Talking was easy and I even ended it with a kiss(eejit, maybe, I'm not sure)and I could see she was a little hesitant but I'm not sure was that me perceiving hesitation or what.

Today now she texts me first and Im having a crisis since I can't stop thinking about how while me and her and in the same situation(still living at home(Ireland is in a housing crisis, can't leave until I got money saved for mortgage) and plan to go back to college to get degrees again to earn livable wages). I keep thinking about how my friend and his wife met at 25 and 30, had a home sorted, careers and now have 2 kids. They met at a time their age gap made no difference cause they had time. I don't think I have that with this girl. If we go back to college and save for a home and maybe want a kid. She will be 40 by then. My dad was 40 when I was born and his age gap has always been apparent growing up. I don't want that for my kid if I have any.

There is more I want to say but I already made this post so long that I would have skipped it if I saw it. Any advice would be great and I will answer every question

Hello everyone, me(F27) my partner (M32) dating from 6-7 months!! We meet eachother every other weekend or in between weeks. My bf always said i want marriage for us! When we are in moment he always mentioned my wite, even i want marriage for us !! When my parents asked me about marriage things he mentioned to me he need e atleast a year for marriage!!! I don't know how to feel about that!! Some people says asked him right now, what if he declines in future and leave you! I am also scared of this statement!! So, what sign is have to find in him that shows he is really into me and planning long term relationship (marriage) with me.please advise me ?!!

Two weeks ago, I (25F) met a guy (22) while out with a friend. Besides being incredibly handsome, he was chivalrous, attentive, funny and kind. We both felt a spark, spent the entire night dancing and talking (with just a kiss, nothing more). He quickly mentioned wanting to take me on a date.

Despite living three hours apart, he seemed determined and enthusiastic about meeting up even after I said to him that I didn’t really believe he’d actually come. I obviously didn't expect him to follow through, but he insisted and even gave me his jacket as a funny promise to return.

To my surprise, he messaged me immediately after, and we continued talking for several days, even having a Facetime call that went well. We both expressed how excited we are about the date, he told me what train he’s taking, we discussed everything. However, on the fifth day, he texted saying he wasn't sure if meeting was the best idea due to the distance. He said he’d rather not play around to see if it goes well or not.

I was devastated, ngl, but respected his decision and asked how to return his jacket - get it delivered or drop it off next time I’m in his city.

His response kinda caught me off guard: "If you plan to come back soon, keep it, and we can meet up to talk about everything in person."

This situation has left me feeling so confused. As someone who tends to overthink and is anxiously attached (and working on it), I'd appreciate any perspective on why this happened and whether I should consider meeting him again.

Just to clarify, he mentioned he's currently not seeing anyone and is seeking a committed relationship, which aligns with my own intentions.

TLDR: I met a guy on a night out, we hit it off, planned a date, but he backed out last minute because of distance concerns. He wants to meet up to talk in person next time I’m in his city, but I’m conflicted about whether to pursue it.

I’ve been seeing this girl for a little over 2 weeks, we’ve gone on 4 dates and slept together twice. We have super good chemistry and are super into eachother, I haven’t felt this good about someone in a very long time. On our most recent date she told me she got out of a 4 year abusive relationship. I’m not sure exactly how recent it was but I feel like she talked a bit too much about her ex and the previous relationship, enough that I started to think she may not be completely over him. After I brought her home she texted me later that night and told me that she blocked her ex. I have no reason not to trust her, so I believe her. Everything else between us has been going amazing and I still really like where this is going, but I’ve been someone’s rebound before and I don’t want to go through that again. How much time does it take to not be considered a rebound? What are some ways to tell if I’m a rebound for her?

I (33F) am constantly told 'just go online' in order to meet someone. People are always talking about how easy it is for women to meet men online, but it really isn't. I also don't seem to meet many men I'm attracted to on there which gets me down, I never thought it would be so hard.

My messages are interesting and fun, I ask the other person questions and I try to match their energy. I sometimes take several hours but I usually reply the same day. I've got other things to do and I'm not going to sit and reply immediately to every message, if they don't like that then that's a red flag for me. I'm trying to let them 'chase' me as is constantly drilled into women 🙄

However I'm sick of randomly being ghosted in the middle of what seemed like good conversation, it's happened about 8 times since April. Has this been happening to anyone else a lot?

I (33F) am constantly told 'just go online' in order to meet someone. People are always talking about how easy it is for women to meet men online, but it really isn't. I also don't seem to meet many men I'm attracted to on there which gets me down, I never thought it would be so hard.

My messages are interesting and fun, I ask the other person questions and I try to match their energy. I sometimes take several hours but I usually reply the same day. I've got other things to do and I'm not going to sit and reply immediately to every message, if they don't like that then that's a red flag for me. I'm trying to let them 'chase' me as is constantly drilled into women 🙄

However I'm sick of randomly being ghosted in the middle of what seemed like good conversation, it's happened about 8 times since April. Has this been happening to anyone else a lot?

I just got a match from a woman on eharmony, and I was pretty excited. It’s been a long time since I’ve matched with anyone. And they even messaged me first.

I didn’t know what to do afterwards. I never really got this far before. The few times I matched with a woman before, they either never responded to my initial message, or the conversation ended abruptly after a few replies - and I’ll admit, I’m not very good at holding a conversation.

But this time, I didn’t even know how to respond. All I managed was a simple greeting. A basic acknowledge of her message. But after that, I just panicked. I felt overwhelmed. I didn’t know how to continue the conversation. I tried looking at her profile again to try and come up with something to comment on or ask her a relevant question about. But my mind was just completely blank.

I immediately deleted my entire profile. I felt bad, I just ghosted this woman over, practically nothing.

I waited about a week before I made a new account, but I don’t know if it’s worth it. Even if I match with someone again, I still don’t know how to have a conversation with them. How do I avoid freezing up out of fear and not have a panic attack? What do I do? What do I say?

I just got a match from a woman on eharmony, and I was pretty excited. It’s been a long time since I’ve matched with anyone. And they even messaged me first.

I didn’t know what to do afterwards. I never really got this far before. The few times I matched with a woman before, they either never responded to my initial message, or the conversation ended abruptly after a few replies - and I’ll admit, I’m not very good at holding a conversation.

But this time, I didn’t even know how to respond. All I managed was a simple greeting. A basic acknowledge of her message. But after that, I just panicked. I felt overwhelmed. I didn’t know how to continue the conversation. I tried looking at her profile again to try and come up with something to comment on or ask her a relevant question about. But my mind was just completely blank.

I immediately deleted my entire profile. I felt bad, I just ghosted this woman over, practically nothing.

I waited about a week before I made a new account, but I don’t know if it’s worth it. Even if I match with someone again, I still don’t know how to have a conversation with them. How do I avoid freezing up out of fear and not have a panic attack? What do I do? What do I say?

So maybe I am naive or maybe I’m assuming incorrectly. I want to sand this down to perfection to not hurt anyone’s sensitive feelings. I’m your average looking guy, and have paid for all dating apps and still nothing has come out of it, a woman will usually tell me she’s not interested in dating and wants a friend and then will immediately cry and complain or gloat and exclaim that she went on this date or had sex that night. I have been single and sexless since 2017. I work, way too much. Anyways my problem is this, why did you match with me? Why are you on the dating app in the first place? Every single paid for app has been filled out to the max with those words I want a long term serious relationship and then you go and play me for a fool which again is my fault, not yours. It really makes zero sense. Why are you dating men after me if you weren’t ready for anything in the first place with me, but you’re ready now? Yes the damn friend zone, I DONT WANT A FRIEND. Friends come and go. I want a forever person who I can call mine and she can call me hers? Dating makes as much sense as rocket science, oh wait to rocket scientist that subject makes sense to them, dating makes NO sense.

Hey everyone, hope you're doing well.

So me and this girl we only dated for almost a month and a half, and she told me multiple times she had never met anyone like me, understanding humorous and caring.

Eventually she was the one to end it, cause she basically didn't feel any sexual tension with me, she felt blocked in terms of intimacy ( 2 weeks prior to that we talked about it and she said it's not that she's not attracted to me and if she didn't like me and didn't think I look good she would've ended it already).
But we ended on pretty good terms.

Anyways, 3 months after things ended I got a notficiation she deleted me as a contact in her phone ( this hurt I'll be honest).
But, she still follows me on instagram, views all my stories, and usually she's one of the first people to watch it.
If she deleted me as a contact, doesn't that mean she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore? Why would she not unfollow me as well?

I know I'm probably just holding on to false hope here because I'm still really into her and having a hard time getting over her, but I would love to still hear some opinions.

Thanks in advance everyone

And the message is “Can I see you”….how would you interpret it?

TLDR: how would you interpret a late night (likely drunk) text saying “can I see you”

Hello,
I am 28, female and have been living in Berlin for 2 years now.
Before that I had 0 experience in dating as I was very stressed / depressed due to my studies, being poor and having a lot of work.

In the last years I have been on round about 50 first dates. Only one resulted in a 5 month long "getting to know" phase which ended in a lot of tears as I was just used as a "side-piece".

I had a nice date 2 weeks ago and even though he confirmed he enjoyed it, too he never responded to my message asking if we want to go out again. That's the case most times, the guys I am interested in don't want me.
(please mind they are not "models" / "Fuckboys" .. I try to see people who want a long-term relationship)

I am already in therapy but I have to say I can not do it anymore.
My friends are all in long term relationships and my emotions are extreme. I feel very lonely, envious of them and not understood. I also feel extremely ugly and I am scared to be alone once my family passes away.
I know a boyfriend would not solve that 100% but I also know that when I am on good dates I am completely changed .. I am happy, I am funny and enjoy also myself.

Next to the dating issue I have everything I want... I do a lot of sports and actually I like my body but as I am not successful in dating I blame my body for it / or at least "my looks".
I have a nice fulfilling job, I love the cinema and I also go on solo adventures like biking through Iceland last year on the ring road, or hiking Santiago de camino, ...
But in my heart there is this extreme loneliness and in my head the demon who tells me that I am a piece of shit and it will never change.

Maybe some of you can somehow relate and got out of it? or is there something I can do to get rid of that?

Ive never dated or had sex or anything, would you avoid me when looking for a partner?

I’m 30 years old and ready to find my wife. My ideal woman is someone is decent shape. I am about 10 or so overweight but easy to fix with a little lifestyle change. I match with woman who are skinny but maybe a little above average to curvy. I hit it out with things we have in common or their personality. But when it comes to see them attractive I struggle or it can be hard to picture me with them physically or long term. They are great people and I know I could have a good relationship with them. What I am being so shallow and how do I get past this? I have past up some great woman

I really liked this girl, she seems like a genuine person with a good heart and integrity. But also, I feel like she kind of wants me to chase her or put in work to prove I’m worth her love or something. But to me that’s a bit off putting. But maybe this is normal for higher class women who have good boundaries, I’m not sure. I guess I’m used to women just opening up when they are interested, and that’s kind of my marker. But I did think this women is amazing, but I feel like I shouldn’t have to earn her love, because we should both have to do that for each other, if that makes sense.

Jimmy Deleon oh god he is the fakest mf I ever met! He lies and is very afraid of being left so he begs and buys your love to keep you but when another girl finally gives him attention he will run off and leave you like trash girls beware he comes off great at first but they all do this is a warning he’s a joke!! Don’t let him win get all you can from the mf and leave him before he does you dirty he will.

We just started dating like 2 weeks or so, and we both have issues but we understand both situations and we don't demand constant attention. We usually text each other whenever we can and these few days I had been a bit busy with work and texting was slower. But last night he was going through some personal stuff which unfortunately I couldn't stick around to listen or comfort him because of my work, and he hasn't texted me back since the last text he sent to me. Honestly I don't have any encouragements to say because most of the time he just cools off on his own. Now I wonder if he wants me to comfort him instead of leave him alone like I always do. It has been over 19 hours and I wonder if I should wait a little longer so I don't seem too suffocating.

Do you love it or hate it? Do you think it is disgusting?

Hey everyone,

I’ve been in no contact with my ex for 5 months now, but I’m really struggling at the moment and could use some advice. I recently went on a date with someone new but sure about moving forward with it, she wanted to see me often but I didn’t have the same interest in seeing her so regularly so I told her I was probably too busy to meet her “needs” in terms of how often she wanted to see me. She exploded over text and, at the end, made a jab saying her friend is friends with my ex and that my ex had said some embarrassing things about me.

What’s particularly upsetting is that she only mentioned this after things went poorly between us, so I don’t know if it was just an attempt to try and hurt me or if it was really true. Hearing this really hit me hard, and now I feel the urge to reach out to my ex to address what was said about me. It’s frustrating because I’ve only spoken good things about her and I don’t even know if I can trust this or not. I only want to reach out to address this, it’s nothing about starting anything again.

I know breaking no contact is generally not advised, but I’m torn. On one hand, I want to defend myself, clear the air, and prevent this from happening in the future. On the other hand, I worry that contacting her for no reason when it may not even be true will make me look like a fool. Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated.

I’ve (27M) been on dating apps for as long as they’ve been around and over the past few years I’ve ran into the same issue of matching with girls only for them to respond to a few messages then go dark, agree to a date and even exchange numbers just for a few messages back and forth that doesn’t even amount to a conversation before just never hearing from them again.

Talking to some female friends, they’ve told me that they get so many matches but never talk to or meet up with any of them, I’ll ask why they’re even on there and they just shrug.

Some women will ask why men never approach them and for me it’s always because I’ve heard complaints that when they’re out in public doing their day-to-day life, they wish to be left alone, which is understandable. But still I don’t understand what women want from men now, I’m sorry if I’m venting but I just want to know if I should stop getting my hopes up when it comes to dating.

OK, let me know what all of you think of this… If you’ve been divorced, can you weigh in?

I met this guy on an app and we clicked pretty quickly. He asked me out for the next night and we had a great time. Asked me out pretty quickly again, we chatted between and he set up the next date. Everything really seemed like it was just organically “clicking” so not forced at all. We had a really fun date set up and we were both talking about how we were excited about it. I get a text before the night of our second date and all of a sudden he says he’s not ready to date. I think he’s been divorced for under a year with one child. I was taken aback because if you’re on a dating website, going out on dates, asking me out, then I would conclude you’re ready to date. At least, I would believe you’ve taken some time to think about what you want. My profile said it pretty clearly and he was the one who said he wasn’t looking for hookups. I get that it’s early dating and things fall apart. He said he’d gone on a few dates that really hadn’t gone well and this was likely the first one that had gone well for him.

The text was eerily out of character for how we’d been chatting and didn’t even offer an apology. It was actually really cold and just said he thought about it and wasn’t ready to date. It’s not like I got attached after one date, but I guess the sudden change up just kind of caught me way off guard. I’ve never been divorced so maybe I’m not a good one to evaluate this. Is it more likely he went cold because he realized this was someone interesting and dating became more of a real possibility? Or did he just not want to date me specifically? I’d appreciate if the men weighed in, too! Thanks in advance.

I got ghosted for the last time. I deleted all my apps. I’m done. I’m not doing this anymore.

I guess I’ll always just be alone and loveless and miserable. I’ll never truly be happy.

What a cruel sick joke it is to only want love and never get it. I hate my life.

I wish I knew what’s wrong with me. I wish I knew what I was doing wrong. After rejection, heartbreak, getting stood up, and ghosted countless times… there’s only one common denominator: me.

30 next month and not a single relationship. I’m such a loser. A freak. A weirdo. A red flag. But that’s all I’ll ever be. I’ll never know what it feels like to be loved. I’ll always be in pain. This hurts so much, it feels like I can’t breathe.

I’m a male and I was a relationship with a single mom for a few months. Her son takes priority and I’ve always acknowledged and respected that but out of nowhere she started distancing herself because she felt that I was doing to much for them as a provider and didn’t want to rely on me. With that she started being less intimate. After few weeks we kind of understood that the idea of us was no more. I went on a bender and drank a lot and ski. Like Rick James said snow is a hell of a …. I met this group of friends and we went back to one of the guys place to keep raging. To sum it up I got intimate with the guy and that was my first and only time I did anything with a guy. The passion was intense and he honestly gave me a one of the best bj ever. When I sobered up I regretted everything and felt ashamed. I don’t want anything with the guy but when I was another bender the other day I wanted to experience that passion again. Am I wrong? Am I gay? lol

Hi,

I (27M Human) have recently begun to feel the biological clock ticking... I currently have no friends nor a girlfriend. I live alone in a small city in Northeast. I like to go to the gym (which has a good selection of people!), I also am busy with grad school (girls are mostly 22-23), and work remotely...so pretty solitary life.

Are there any tips or mental thoughts to push you to go outside and meet people? I have some social anxiety, and also Meetupdotcom is not very good in my area. But I see people outside walking etc, how can I randomly bump into someone.. or meet someone..for a long-term relationship? I don't really like meeting people at bars as there's too much alcohol involved, and the restaurants are usually frequented by couples.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

Tl; DR: How can I force myself to be social with no friends, and meet someone for a long-term relationship? I live in a small city.

so there’s this one boy who stays in the same building as me. He visits my room quite often and we usually just talk about uni and random things. I find him cute and i think he likes me too ? i kinda wanna make out with him, and I don’t want anything more than that also I don’t wanna ruin our friendship I feel like it will be kinda awkward after , idk what should I do? :)

Good evening.

I would like to ask if there are any recommendations for places where you have a good chance of meeting a woman.

Thank you in advance