So, here’s the mess I’m dealing with. I (F19) went on a date with a guy I’d met online, and his profile made him seem pretty cool, attractive, and honestly, way more put-together than most people I’d been chatting with. But the second he showed up, I knew something was seriously off. He looked nothing like his pictures—not even close. And I’m not just talking about angles or filters. His photos were straight-up lies, and his vibe in person was just… weird.

I tried to keep it polite and get through the date, but he was already giving me a bad feeling. I made it clear I wasn’t interested in a second date, but he didn’t take it well. Ever since, he’s been bombarding me with messages and even trying to guilt-trip me into giving him “another chance” or calling me shallow for not wanting to see him again. He even found my Instagram somehow. I tried to block him but he keeps creating new accs

I’m honestly at a loss here. I don’t want to make things worse by responding. Have any of you been in a situation like this? How did you handle it? Should I call the cops? I’m starting to feel uneasy, and I just want this whole thing to be over.

So I’ve been talking to this guy for about a week now and I have a weird feeling about him.. the thing is he really hasn’t done anything wrong. I guess I became a little weary because I saw him on the “are we dating the same guy” Facebook group and someone was asking about him just over a month ago and wondering if anyone claims him.. like why would she ask that if there wasn’t suspicion? I commented to ask her if she is still currently talking to him and she hasn’t answered me and it’s been a day. Also I noticed he unmatched me on hinge. We started texting a couple days after we started talking on hinge but I find this strange because no guy has ever unmatched me before like that while currently talking to him still. I asked him yesterday what he is looking for (just to be for sure) and he said definitely a relationship and asked me why I asked that… what do y’all think? Are these things red flags or am I just being paranoid?

My experience is with a guy 33M and I am 28F.

I was chased for two months, I just checked my phone call log and every single day there were calls or FaceTimes happening. It was long distance, so when he came to my city for a week, we met up and hooked up a few times. I could tell there was a spark but he couldn’t commit to long distance. Then, as he was losing interest, calls decreased to 1x/week. Finally I ended things because it seemed like he was unable to.

Now, I am struggling to forget about him. I wonder if he is doing the same, especially because he invested quite a bit of time and effort into chasing me.

32m met a girl 29f on an app. We live about 2 hours apart. She was in a 12 year relationship that was toxic af and he broke it off unexpectedly. She took a year off before dating.

We've been dating 2 and a half months, texting frequently every day, and see each other 1-2 times a week. I've brought up commitment and she says she's not ready, I've told her I understand. Beyond emotionally, she's also reserved physically. We've made out and have gotten each other off over the phone a lot but she still hasn't been ready for physical sex. She's definitely into it, but I'm fine with her pace.

She went on vacation recently for a week and everything was good. She sent me pictures and updates, and I made sure to let her have a good time. She did get jealous once when a girl was hitting on me when I went out. She came back and things were normal.

Here's the problem: we were supposed to go to a Halloween party and she was going to stay over (she has before), but was sick from her trip (totally legit) so I ended up going alone with friends. At the party, I got a lot of attention and even some phone numbers, and it made me feel weird, guilty and even a little annoyed at her for not committing when these girls were all in. I was transparent about the girls but didn't communicate how I was feeling as I didn't really grasp it until later. Ultimately it was my problem to work through but I was pretty grumpy with her for a few days. I made jokes at her expense for being closed off and she didn't like that. She made a jealous joke about girls at the party and I made a crude joke about them wanting to have sex which annoyed her. I ended up confronting her asking what boundaries she wanted us to have. She said she was unsure and randomly starting talking about the distance bothering her. I told her I felt as though I've made myself pretty available and if things got serious in the future, I'd be cool moving as my job is transferrable. Then she started talking about how she feels as though I'm not okay with how closed off she is and that maybe she needs to take therapy to see if she's ready for a relationship. I asked if she was making a firm decision and she was still being iffy. I figured she's getting scared and coming up with excuses to end things and threw a hail Mary and told her how meaningful our time has been and that if she wanted to move on because she wasn't interested, there were no hard feelings, but if she felt the same way that she should think about things. She asked if she could respond after work and I told her if she needed a couple days, she should take the time. She said she'd reach out after a couple days. I haven't heard anything for 3 days, but from a girls perspective, what's she thinking? I hate that I didn't communicate well and that I stopped contact as I'd like to just explain how I was feeling and that I felt perfectly fine with our pace, but I fear it might be too late. I'm assuming I should just wait it out and leave her alone? I've also been preparing for the worst just to be realistic. She's true to her word, so I'm not worried about her ghosting at least.

TLDR: girl was in a long, tumultuous relationship and now doesn't want to commit with me. She thinks she might need more time to heal but is unsure because she does like me. I told her to take a few days to think and haven't heard back.

For the single (or even coupled) people on Reddit, what is your dating age range and what age are you?

Would you have a different age range for something casual vs something more serious and long term?

Or is the range based on any dynamic in general?

I’m curious to know...

okay i’m so confused right now. i (21f) matched with a guy (22m) on tinder about a few weeks ago. we went on two dates and both were pretty good i’d say (they were both dinner dates, and the second one had a movie in his room after dinner). we kissed on the second date and we’re still texting each other, yet his profile is gone from tinder. i texted him today asking if the date was still on and he said it was, so i’m genuinely confused as to what could have happened. should i ask him about it? i really don’t want to get played, especially if it’s the case that he unmatched me. sigh just when i thought things were going well…

(Sigh) so I got matched with somone (not a dating app) and they are my type from what I see on their account, we had one conversation over text but they took ages to reply so I thought they wernt interested, but their texting style looked like they were until...... they left me on seen, what I said wasn't completely unrespondable but they didn't even try, so I jus let it go and then a few days later they like my story... now I'm confused should I text them or am I being delusional?

How does a man feel when he meets the first girl in his life? I am currently not engaged to any girl despite reaching the age of 24. I am also shy to talk to girls in reality or in the virtual world, or rather I do not know how to deal with the subject because I personally am a very calm person and not nervous. I always try to think rationally instead of emotionally. It is difficult for me to express my feelings and thoughts to anyone. In short, I am a mysterious personality. From afar, you may see me as one person, and from up close, you may see me as another person. I am kind to everyone.

Hi.

Last week I got ghosted from a guy I met on an online dating app and went on a date with. We work in the same field and I know a couple of people he knows too and vice versa.

Today I called him out on his bad behavior and then blocked him right after doing so. And it feels like I did the right thing! 💪 I basically told him that what he is doing is unnecessary, hurtful and disrespectful and that Idk what happened to him, but I have done nothing to him to deserve such treatment.

Still feeling a bit sad, disappointed and angry, though. Anyone wants to share with me their empowering story of how you fight ghosts? :)

So to not try and over explain everything. My boy was born little over 6 years ago. Me and his mother was really happy at that point. Stuff started to get routine and I thought it was going good. She didn’t feel the same and started talking to a friend of mine. I found out and called her out and it didn’t stop her. If anything she then left me here with our little boy most the time for months. Took a long time to process all that but it went exactly how I thought. Dude was garbage and I still wanted to do right by my boy. So after so much time I tried to work things out between us. Didn’t happen and we actually got away from each other for couple years. I accepted that we wasn’t going to recover. Been doing well for myself and got a good job. She was working for the same company for awhile different shift though and different building. She lost that job because she had dated couple different coworkers. I tried to help her keep the job but didn’t matter. Anyways I’d been pursuing different women trying to find one good woman to be apart of my life and my boys. We also had been doing well coparenting and taking care of our son. We decided to go trick or treating together all 3 of us. She showed up and had a drink already. So by time we made it to where we was going at little fair like thing she was buzzed. Already running her arm through mine to just keep steady. Felt awkward but I didn’t mind as to not draw attention to ourselves. Well I had her take a seat for a minute and I rode few things with our boy. When I came back she asked me to help her ans stay with her. I’m like ok and our boy was playing with friends. Well she starts running her hand up and down my back. I’m wondering wtf. I try to express my curiosity. She didn’t catch what I was putting down. Then something flipped and I started to enjoy it. I haven’t had that kinda attention in too long. She proceeded to all but pinch my arm and hold on tight to me. I started hugging back and forth a moment all things get right in the world. What the fuck is wrong with me that I would allow that. I then proceeded to try and prolong our time there just because my kid was having a blast and so was I. Well she hadn’t touched me directly but she did rub all over my back and in the car her hand went to my leg. I should have been bigger man but I put my hand on her leg and just lightly moved it in circle. Up near her knee and well she got into to say it lightly. I kept rubbing her leg and got closer to where I was all but touching her. Just grazing her private and she squirted or had multiple orgasms. Then we made it back and nothing else happens short of myself. Iv gotten drunk 1000’s of times and I still knew what I was doing. Tell me that had to be intentional right. She opened up my old wounds and now I’m hurting again. Why I allowed myself I couldn’t say. I’d do anything for my son . She has to be thinking about all this too right. Someone please tell me what you think? I don’t know how to deal with this. I haven’t got to talk to her in person since and it’s all iv thought about .

I have gone through many stages in my life and I never fell in love until I entered university and since the first year I have made many girls friends but I did not feel love towards any of them This really bothers me. Is there anyone else who feels the same way?

So we talk on snap and he never initiates a conversation, it's always me asking him about something, but he does reply with enthusiasm, will send a snap only when I send first, I don't want to waste my time, but I am confuse. He is not the shy type 😬 so...tf we both 19

I’ve been talking to this guy I met on hinge for about 2 months now. We had plans to meet once it ended up not working out- nobody’s fault. Second time I asked him to hangout we made plans and he canceled the day of. We text every single day and I recently asked him if we could try and make some plans and he said yes we haven’t because hes been working the weekends. Well now this weekend he’s not working and crickets. How long am I supposed to be waiting? It feels ridiculous at this point I’m not gonna lie but I do like him and enjoy talking to him but I don’t wanna keep asking

Okay so I basically started talking to this guy I met online. We live in the same city, but we've never met irl. Our thoughts align a lot and we get along pretty well. We share the same music taste, have same opinions about places and what not. We often throw flirty lines towards each other. He even replies to my stories, calling me pretty and stuff and I reply back too. Recently, he encountered my friend and asked her if I was single. (Ig he wasn't rly sure about my relationship status).

I kinda like him and would really love to date him. But he's not rly showing me enough signs for me to guess if he wants to date me back... Pls lmk what you guys think abt this...

I'm a 20yo female, I've never been in a relationship -- or anything remotely in the romantic area.

So...How do I do this?

An old friend from school (20yo male) came forward on insta and confessed he used to have a crush on me. He then asked if I wanted to go out sometime.

We met earlier this week and got coffee, then went around town and went to some places like a museum spontaneously. I had alot of fun, and felt quite giddy. We really vibed. Then we walked our dogs together today, and when we parted ways we hugged and he said I was cute.

I'm not sure if I like him like him -- he definitely likes me because he's asked about meeting for a third time to get lunch. I'm very emotionally constipated, and completely new to all of this. I did get butterflies when we hugged, I just really don't know how to go about this and am a nervous wreck. Some advice would be amazing!!!

So my boyfriend and I went out on Halloween to a bar. Throughout the night, at least 5 girls that I noticed clearly flirted with him in front of me. I just brushed it off, as he didn’t respond back. But at the end of the night, we ordered tacos as everyone was headed out of the bar. As we were eating them, this girl comes in between us and asks my bf if she can have a bite of his taco. Without hesitation, he let her have a bite. I didn’t make a scene or anything but told him after how it made me feel uncomfortable. He didn’t see it as a big deal, just saying “it doesn’t mean anything, I’m just too nice sometimes.” Do y’all think what he did was disrespectful? Should I let it go? Thanks!

TL;DR: Been in a FWB/Fuck Buddy-type thing for about 8 weeks, and I’ve been making such great strides to not get attached to this guy, that I think I’ve been detached to my own feelings. I feel more like an object than partner in this “arrangement” and I don’t really know what to do about it. Any advice would be welcome. Apologies for how long this is, but I’m not very good at being concise. Also, the NSFW tag isn’t coming up for me, so I added the SPOILER tag instead.

Story: I (32F) have been in FWB-type “arrangement” with a guy (33) for just under 8 weeks now. Early on, it was mentioned quite often how this was a “no commitment” kind of deal, and I kept reassuring him that I understood the assignment, and even though this was my first time stepping into the world of casual dating, I was taking steps to make sure I steer clear of catching feelings.

My game plan included not asking any get-to-know-you questions, not really asking about his day, not asking his opinion on things, etc. and I would try really hard not to hold on to any information freely given if it came up. The only information I would pay attention to is if it was related to sex, seeing as the whole reason we were seeing each other was to use one another. Now, I’ll be honest, I didn’t even pay attention to how he looked at me or ask what it was that attracted him to my online dating profile in the first place, so remember that for later. The only real thing I learned that he liked about me is my boobs.

Anyway, he, on the other hand, was very direct in asking what I liked/didn’t like in bed, which was very new to me as I have always been so awkward talking about sex, but it led to some great sex. Otherwise, he kind of did the same about everything else, where he didn’t ask many questions about me, but I have a bad habit of sharing my story anyway, mostly due to not having a lot of people to talk to. I was on medical leave from work for the first half of our “arrangement” and even though I have since returned to work, I haven’t been getting hours (long story, no need to tell it here). So I have all this time on my hands, and not much to do.

This leaves me with all this time to sit and think about things, but I am determined to NOT bother this guy. If I think of a question I could have asked him, I write it in a note I have on my phone to get it out of my head so it doesn’t bore a hole in my brain. I try to think through stuff from all angles or get perspectives from the few friends I have before bringing any problems to him, because I firmly believe this guy doesn’t owe me shit and why make a big deal out of something that isn’t going anywhere anyway? Just enjoy it as it is for as long as you have it, right?

This was working until this past week. I had gone down some Reddit rabbit hole and somehow stumbled on some threads upon an issue that’s come up over the last several weeks that has to do with how he finishes.

When we first started hooking up, he made some comment about how a guy should finish (I won’t quote him), and that told me that I will never get him to finish the way I like, which is inside me. I’m on BC, do everything in power to not get pregnant, but I still prefer that kind of ending, solely because of how it feels for me. But with what he said, I knew I’d never get that, and it was a hard pill to swallow. I never mentioned my preference, eventually got over it, and we just finished his way. Then about 5-6 weeks in, a storm came through and we couldn’t see each other for a few days. I got super worried due to some PTSD, and once the storm finally arrived, neither of us could sleep so we got talking. The conversation eventually turned sexual, and somehow he got that bit of info out of me. He said he’d try to finish that way for me, that he wanted to do that for me, but it takes him a while. He got back after the storm passed, we tried a few times, and after maybe the fourth time, without actually saying anything, we kind of gave up and understood that it was never going to happen. I was disappointed, but I told myself I already knew this, so don’t be too upset.

Within a few days of us giving up, we kind of had an incident where I got a little too sensitive over some words he used (doesn’t matter what), and I got upset. He tried to comfort me, and in doing so said something to the effect of “I wouldn’t be fucking you if I didn’t find you attractive,” and my immediate reaction was, “That’s good to know.” Those words have been echoing in my head ever since because I legitimately didn’t know he found me attractive. Like I said, I don’t really pay attention to how he looks at me and I never asked what attracted him to my profile in the first place. The only thing that became obvious very quickly is that he liked my boobs. This was the first clear verbal confirmation that I could recall of him saying he thought I was attractive. Even then, I didn’t entirely know what he meant by that, and I was hesitant to ask. I ended up going home soon after that for various reasons and we talked things out in the morning.

Back to the Reddit rabbit hole. I went down this rabbit hole because I was originally going to make this exact post last week, and ended up down the rabbit hole instead, discovering that some guys can’t finish through sex because of how they masturbate. For some context, the guy I’m seeing is pretty damn fit, and has incredible grip strength. He’s a musician and uses one of those grip strengthening things at home, and he works out. He’s not a chronic beater, but his grip is super strong. When we first hooked up, he gave me bruises by accident simply because he gripped my legs too hard. It took a bit of adjusting to keep from bruising me since then.

Anyway, I think you can kind of figure out that I am not the one to physically make him finish at this point. Sure, I help by stimulating other parts of him, but still. Ever since this realization that 1) I will never make him finish through sex and 2) I will never make him finish with my hand [or mouth] has me kind of messed up. I’m not even sure of what my role in this “arrangement” is at this point anymore. He has said the sex is great, and I only kind of doubt that, because like… what’s the point of having sex if it’s not how you finish? Like, am I missing something? Am I dumb?

I’m clearly not understanding something, either because I have deliberately not been looking, or I’m just ignorant of how men/casual dating works. Whatever it is, it has made me feel like I am literally just a sex toy for this guy. I should mention that he has the easiest role in all this. I drive to his place, he never comes to mine (I live with someone that would be very unhappy if I brought someone over), I never ask for food/snacks/drinks because I’ll bring my own, and I don’t even stay the whole night even though he has said it’s ok because I feel like that’s a trap for catching feelings. I feel the less I ask for, the less likely I’ll get too close, the easier it’ll be to get over it if/when it ends.

I mean, even when we matched, I was so confused. If you assigned character stats to dating profiles, this dude is out of my league, even if by just a bit. Then we met, and that gap became more obvious, and now 8 weeks later, and I’m like… the fuck do I even bring to the table, other than being a self-delivering human fuck toy?

I feel so hollow. I feel so useless. I am in therapy, and I am supposed to see my therapist on November 6. Any advice would appreciated. Apologies again for how long this is.

Last week an old classmate of mine reached out to me saying she recently got in touch with an old friend of hers who is single and asked if I'd like her number. I said sure and we started texting. Right off the bat she was very social but started asking a lot of random questions about me as opposed to letting the conversation flow naturally. I could tell she's trying to see if I fit into her mold of what she wants in a guy. Anyways, we kept talking for a while and it was getting late so she asked if it would be ok if she reaches out to me in the morning as she's going to head to bed. I told her no worries and same I'm about to go to bed too lol.

Fast forward to the next day and I never heard from her. I didn't want to double text but wondered if she was waiting for me to reach out. Anyways, I waited until late in the day and she never reached out so I texted her. I could tell off the bat that she wasn't as social as the day before. Kind of seemed like she was disinterested in texting. So, I figured ok maybe she just wants to get to the point since her friend set us up and she knows a good bit about me already. I asked her if she'd like to go out this week and basically was told yes but the weekend would be better than during the week. I said ok cool does Sunday work for you and she said I'm not sure which day yet or if I'll be available at all but I'll lyk.

Fast forward and I texted her a couple of days ago to see if we're on for this weekend. She said she can't and was sorry for not being able to. I asked her if she still wants to go out or would like to leave things here. She told me she'd like to go out but has been so busy lately that she's unable to commit to a day. Which when she told me that I was thinking to myself ok so how am I supposed to plan a date with you? I then asked her generally speaking would you prefer if we aim for some weekend cause of her being busy with work and she didn't respond.

I then decided to reach out to the girl who was setting us up to see if she's said anything to her. She told me that she hasn't talked to her friend since she gave me her number and asked if we hit things off. I told her the entire story and she was like huh she has been really busy lately so that's definitely true because she was trying to hang with her friend and she genuinely hasn't been available. She said she's going to reach out to her in a few days to ask how things are going with me and will get back to me on what she says.

I'm just so confused by all of this. I'd assume she's just not interested and told my old classmate as much. I just find it so weird that you were very talkative day one, don't reach out day two but then tentatively agree to a date, tell me you're not free this weekend and don't know when you will be but still want to go out, and then stop responding. I'm assuming she's not interested, as her actions are a pretty clear indication to me that she's not. But I just find it so weird cause the whole way this happened was my old classmate and her friend were hanging out, my classmate told her friend about me, showed her some pics of me and her friend said she was interested in getting to know me. We barely even start getting to know each other and then you start acting all weird? Can anyone explain to me what on earth is happening here lol. Is she genuinely just busy since she hasn't even been talking to her friend either? Is she not interested? Is she just shy and got scared cause I asked her out?

So I've been having a massive crush on a girl for like 5 years but I've been always scared to do anything (also i didnt know how to talk to girl). So after those 5 years I still had a crush on her but I started talking to other girls to learn how I should talk to her. I'm fairly attractive so it was pretty easy when one of my friends texted me that he's in a gc full of girls and that he'll add me so I talk to some. When he added me I started talking and than I checked the people in it and whop it was her. But too scared to talk to her I decided to talk to some else. It was going well for a few weeks when she tells me to meet her friends, when we reached them I saw that the girl I had a crush on was LITERALLY one of her best friends. First of all I was shocked, second my heart was beating so fast I couldn't talk(I was doing this every time I've seen her in the hallway, but with time it disappeared). Things go well with that girl, we get into a semi-relatuonship when I find out she was talking with more guys so I left her. That was a year ago and since that day I've barley spoke to any girls and been thinking about that girl(ima call her anna) nonstop. All the symptoms I've had returned and now knowing that I can actually talk to girl and not only that I'm like 1-2 LEAGUES above her and I know I can pull her and after this much time actually be in a loving relationship with her. BUT, because of the mistake of talking to her friend I realized there NO chance I can talk to her knowing that I was with her (almost best friend) meaning that I can't just text her or hit on her in the hallway (prbl going to do it on text cuz I would shit my pants in person). Help me get around the friend problem someone please 🙏

This Is my First post on reddit And English Is not my First language,so forgive me if it Is bad.

So,i(25,male) Met this girl(28)2 years ago and during this time we become best Friends,however i want It to become something more but She told me She only wants me as a friend.I told her i Needed to distance myself and that we could never be only Friends but She was saddened by that and for a time i avoided her but then we reconciled. This was 1 year ago,i tried to remain Just a friend this year but i still hoped that something would change one day.During this time we showered each other With affection,gifts,messages,hugs,lots of phisical contact,however one day some months ago She told me She liked Someone else.Obviously i was Heartbroken but i tried to remain friends with her. However recently i couldn't stand It anymore so i told her that i Needed to cut our Friendship,because i couldn't see her only as a friend and while again saddened,she respected my decision and told me if i ever think we could be friend again i could Always call her.I know that i have to cut contacts to make feelings subside,however i do not understand why she never wanted to face this thing when i told her i had feelings for her,she wanted to remain friends knowing that i wanted something more.Why would she do that?

I know there will be different answers, but I want to know everyone’s opinion.
Do you have sex before having a relationship or do you wait until you’re in a relationship?
If you don’t wait, how many dates do you tend to go on before you have sex?
I personally think having sex before a relationship is best because you know if you’re compatible sexually instead of getting emotionally invested and then finding out you’re not compatible in that aspect.

yearning for something i never had

hi, im a 20f(never been in a rs) been in a talking stage for how many times,cant seem to get out from the cycle(meet a new person-we talk-gets ghosted after a month or two) i’ve dated two guys before -i met the guy from a dating app, we met irl after talking for a month and a half. He showed up not fully sober from being drunk the other night,paid for his meal, and had to borrow money from me. After the date, i messaged him telling that i cant talk to him anymore because the date was a bit messy. (of course as a girl, i wanna be treated like a princess iykyk. i dont wanna be the one who pays for your meal)

-the second guy was schoolmate(a friend of my friends bf), he “courted” me for three months then when i told him im ready to give yes as an answer,he started pulling back. then i found out, he still hasn’t moved on from his ex. then months later after i cut that guy off my life, i saw him and his ex on my tiktok fyp together at a photobooth

dude, i just wanna experience real love so bawddd i just wanna be held and loved genuinely. i wonder if my “significant other” does exist, i wonder if they yearn for my love like i yearn for theirs..😎(😢)

Hello, I turned 22(F) recently, graduated a few months back and at the moment, taking a gap year before pursuing my Master's program. Well, I am your typical shy, quiet, reserved and extremely introverted nerdy girl. I have very few friends, all girls since I completed my school in an all girls' institute. College was co-ed, but nothing happened there.

I do not have any social medias (fb, ig, x, etc.). My private life has impacted a lot in my social life, though I do not complain about it. I like it very much this way.

I feel like I am falling far behind. I'd appreciate any advice.

(PS: I don't use dating apps, I spend most of my time at home, I'm afraid of joining clubs, and normally roam around at town alone. Never dated as well. I'm already sorry 😅).

okay so ive been crushing on the girl for about 2-3 months. i just recently invited her to go trick or treating with me and she came over. we were out yk walking around and stuff. when it was just me and her, she would always be talking and right next to me, but when my friends came, she stayed back and was on her phone. she’s coming over again later today so i can teach her how to play darts. notes: she always laughs around me. she usually always texts me in uppercase and with extra letters. i bought her a pair of earrings and she was actually happy. we called 2 times last night and talked about random stuff. anything helps. i’ll give more info is anyone’s interested.

Hi. Please help me. 🥺

My boyfriend (someone who's very different from my exes) got mad at me for telling him I wanna talk. He instantly blocked me. I know he is not that kind so I always think he might unblock me. It might just be because he was mad and you know, heat of the moment.. But it hurts when he said we should end our relationsip. He promised so much to me. Like building a family together. We were already talking about him moving close to me. I thought he is the one because we are like getting along in so many things, he made me feel so much in such a short time. But now, he is like that. Should I stop hoping he'd come back? Or should I just wait for him?

I added the "Just Venting" flair but if you have advice I'm open to receiving it. I'm 20 (male) and I haven't dated since I got dumped in the 9th grade. That relationship was my first and it lasted a little over two years so it was pretty serious to me at the time. I didn't try dating again until I was 17, though I had crushes. My only attempt at a relationship was with a girl I was friends with and began to really like, but she didn't reciprocate. Now I work in a small town and see the same people every day. I also joined a weightlifting team but I don't look at anyone I know there romantically for multiple reasons. Given I don't meet people I've tried dating apps, but I haven't gotten any interaction on them. I had a Bumble account for two months and just deleted it because the only notification I ever got was about upgrading to premium. It also rubs salt in the wound that my friends have no issue garnering female attention.

Why does this always happen? Match on Hinge, have a good "text" conversation, plan a date and then they bail. Sometimes they give an excuse why they can't make it, and other times they just ghost. Why match with someone, take the time to talk with them. Then just disappear?

I'm a 26-year-old introverted woman working in uae but born and raised in the Philippines. Seeking a genuine partner to share life’s meaningful moments. I'm not interested in casual flings or just "fun".I’m looking for a real connection. I value authenticity, deep conversations, and emotional bonds, so my ideal partner appreciates a quieter lifestyle.

I may be a little biased, but I’d like to think I’m pretty cute myself (haha). So, I’m hoping to meet someone taller than me (I’m 163 cm) who’s also smart, fun, cute, polite, patient, understanding, and family-oriented. It would be a bonus if you’re an animal lover, too.

After work, I recharge with calm nights at home, as social settings can be draining. Though I don’t go out often, I’d love to build something special with someone who respects my need for personal space and values a true connection.

If you want something real, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s start with a photo exchange to see if we connect.

Basically i had a glowup but ive always been scared of smashing for multiple reasons, im not really embarrassed to tell a women this if the time comes but im curious and i tried looking on the internet for an answer to this specific question but there is none.

(29f) As the title says, I love sex and have a high sex drive. Because of this, I usually sleep with a guy on the first date (if they’re attractive and I’m into them of course). In general I just really enjoy lots of intimacy with the people I date.

I’m starting to wonder if I should hold back from this. I don’t want guys to only date me because I’m an easy fuck - I want someone to like my mind as much as my body, and to date me because they enjoy my company and want to connect with me emotionally as much as physically.

I just ended things with a guy I was seeing for a little over a month. He seemed to really like me in the beginning but as time went on, our dynamic became more sex-focused, and less on building any other type of connection. I get the impression that he lost interest in me as a person and only continued to see me for as long as he did because of the sex.

When I ended things he didn’t seem all too bothered and said he would ‘miss the sex and conversations we had’.

I don’t know. I’m a bit confused with how to progress as I don’t want to limit something I genuinely really enjoy but I feel it might be for the best to weed out guys who are only with me for the physical aspect..?

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**EDIT: I haven’t ALWAYS slept with guys on the first date - and I have waited in the past. However when men eventually do sleep with me and realise A) I’m quite good in bed and B) generally love sex - I feel the dynamic shifts and becomes mainly sex focused. And I fear they stay with me mainly because of the above. So it kind of doesn’t matter whether it happens on the first date or not. Ugh.