Kind of a weird one because the difference between one can be a night ender.

Do you prefer seeing a girl get flustered, shoot back with something playful/banter with you, or some other third thing?

A friend of mine F22, confessed to me that she was raped by a guy at a house party. She was passed out in a bedroom and was awoken when a guy she knew came into the room and started touching her. She tried to push him off and told him no, but he forced himself on her as she cried. How do I deal with this because she begged that I tell no one? I am a big guy with some years of martial arts training and have considered at least seriously rearranging the man's look(reddit rules against violence), but she would view it as a break of trust. How do I even go about this because she is unwilling to tell authorities and this guy is walking about as if nothing happened.

Per title, got rejected by a girl for the first time. It was a second date, we were back at my place, where all the vibes and energy was pointing towards us getting closer. Then, she says the vibes were more friendship. After that, she basically left. Chances are we won’t see each other again.

I am ok with this, and have no problem with her walking away. It is not like she was the GOAT of females, but for some reason, this has shattered my confidence. How do I get past this mentally, without doubting myself and confidence in who I am? For some reason, it’s really affecting me and I don’t really understand why.

My wife often complains that my beard smells like wet dog after I take a shower. I’ve always felt like I have great hygiene, so it really threw me off when she first mentioned it. I use my normal hair shampoo/conditioner to wash it when I’m washing my hair and then it gets washed again with my daily face wash.

I keep it trimmed fairly short. Is it time to start using a balm or oil after I shower?

Me personally, I just didn’t/don’t want the responsibility. I want to live my life free and with as little responsibilities as possible, and be in as little debt as possible. And I got a vasectomy earlier this year, because I’m that certain

Hey guys. I’ve been with my girl for 6 years. I’m 45 and she’s 52. Over the past 3 years her sex drive has decreased as mines increased, to the point where we’re having sex 2x a month- only if I initiate it. With that said, there are several factors that have caused this. For one- she can’t take hormones. It conflicts with other medications she’s taking. Also, she suffers from depression and takes Paxil, which I take, and has a negative affect on your libido. Third, she’s insecure about her body. I addressed this with her numerous times and each time she gets defensive, although she has admitted that it bothers her and that it’s not fair to me. The point is- I’m running out of patience. I really don’t want to break up but I don’t know what else to do?

Dear wise and love-savvy fellow redditors,

I’m carrying a frustrating fear that I’ve wasted my youth/prime in a committed relationship.

Here’s the situation: I (M32) live in the suburbs with my sweet girlfriend (F31), whom I’ve been with for 8 years. We met in my mid-twenties during a tough mental period. Time has since flown, and now I’m 32 and facing the question of whether to start having kids.

It ties my stomach in knots because I don’t feel ready. Beyond that, I have an unsettling sense that I’ve spent my time wrong.

I’ve always been fond of women and dancing, and I feel extremely attracted to the many beautiful women walking around in the city. I’m fairly well-built myself but have never used my looks with confidence. I’ve never used dating apps and have a “body count” of about 20-something. I don’t know if that signals I’ve experienced too little, just enough, or too much. I’ve mostly taken what came my way. That included my girlfriend, and we’ve had a very safe and warm relationship, full of care and mutual understanding.

But now I feel a bit drained by it, and I’m scared of all the experiences I’ve missed out on by not being single between 26-30, when I could have spread my wings. When I see my gray hairs in the mirror, there’s just this feeling that the ship has sailed, and now I’m in this safe relationship where I feel unchallenged and unmotivated. The only thing left is kids, which make everything more serious but could also be wonderful—or so people say about having kids.

My girlfriend is a very warm person and will probably be a great mom, but she struggles with confidence. I feel like I’ve learned all I can from her and dream of a woman who challenges me in different ways. Our sex life is largely on my terms, which is both great but also sometimes flat. Moreover, I have a feeling I could date someone who better fits my physical ideals. But then again, maybe that’s just self-delusion because a partner is a package deal, and no one’s perfect. Still, I’m tall, and she’s quite short, and when I see tall women in the city, it feels extra attractive—like something biological clicks and says, “ding-ding.”

I feel like I’m in a catch-22. If I stay, the relationship has been worth it: a nice home, kids, and a good story. But if I break up, then the relationship feels wasted because those 8 years ultimately led to nothing. Everything is heightened by the decision about having kids, as I don’t want to deceive her or waste her time in terms of her desires and biological clock. I should also mention that I’m currently unemployed and have always been a bit of a doubter. I’m aware that I can’t just offload the responsibility of making my life exciting onto her. But this doubt has also been present, even peaking when I’ve been working or studying.

What does one do in a situation like this? Accept that life is like this? Venture out into a new chapter where life feels more exciting and authentic? Go out, realize I had it better than I thought, and regret leaving her? Work on personal growth instead of demanding it from my partner? Just get a job and say, “it’s good enough”? I’m torn and could really use some advice or shared experiences from anyone who’s been through something similar.

Lastly, I would like to add that I deeply appreciate my girlfriend, and we support each other a lot in our daily lives. We provide each other with care, listening, and attention. She’s a wonderful woman. However, the purpose of this post is to dissect and self-expose my doubts. The mention of body count is included to provide as much relevant context as possible within the scope of this post, to shed light on the situation in terms of youth and how much one "should" live it out.

Seeking advice, and thank you in advance.

I'm 16, I've been taking care of my diet for 5-6 months and taking care of added sugars, adding the gym, obviously.

Now that the holidays are approaching, my desire to train has dropped a lot and I have been training for about two weeks by discipline only. Now in my house there are many sweet things, so I end up tempting myself with very few things.

I think my body noticed eating small amounts of foods with added sugars, as I got pimples. I really think it's normal for motivation to drop at this time of year, but as my first year training is, I don't know what other people's advice or experiences are with motivation at Christmas and New Year's.

Hey fellas, so I've always had problems with dry skin in the winter, as I'm sure a lot of people do. But it's typically reserved for my legs, arms, hands, etc. so it's really not that big of a deal. I'd moisturize regularly and just deal with it.

But this year for whatever reason it seems to be only affecting my face, which is new for me. I moisturize my face once a day all year-round but in the last week or two that doesn't seem to be helping. My face and specifically my cheeks are visibly extremely dry, and I can't stand it. I bought a new facial scrub for dry skin and a new high-quality moisturizer, and I've been using those several times a day for the last 3 or 4 days. It feels better so far, but the dry skin on my cheeks hasn't really changed.

Is there anything else I should be doing? Is there such thing as over-moisturizing your face, causing it to dry out?

Please help, I'd rather not look like The Thing from Fantastic Four in holiday photos.

As an example, calling your 6 month girlfriend by your ex name, the mother of your children. Sorry if it’s not understandable English is my second language.

Hey guys I am looking for advice, i am 22 years old looking at buying a nice car now that I have just graduated college. Something’s about me, I do live at home and plan too for the next two years most likely. I landed an IT management job at a fortune 10 company coming out of school. I opened my own retirement account and investment accounts 2+ years ago to be solid down the line. I don’t drink, smoke, party or spend any of my money in unrewarding settings. I’m the cheapest out of all of my friends and my one guilty “pleasure” is cars. As far as cars go I’d still plan to spend 15% or less while saving at least 40% of my post tax income. I do have student loans but it’s nothing crazy once I receive my bonus next February (2026) I plan to pay it off at once. I don’t necessarily plan on spending more than 30k on a car, hard cut at 35k. While owning car at home i know it’s important not to let it own you, I’d be making sure I have enough additional to own an apartment and splitting that amount between an emergency fund and investments. I would 110% keep the car I have now if it was paid off but it’s not. I’d rather buy something newer for a couple grand more than start to fix and throw a lot of money at something I still owe a pretty big chunk on. (I can still trade it in for what’s owed) yes there is an opportunity cost, I could invest the extra amount of the new car cost and be even more financially free one day. But understanding that opportunity cost means I need to be smarter with my investments and financial decisions to lessen the blow. I won’t be able to fully mitigate the blow of owning another car but being aware of it and acting accordingly is the best I could do. Under no circumstances do I plan to buy a car that is more then half of my base salary or salary + yearly bonus. Since high school I’ve worked extremely hard, learning and getting extra certifications, internships etc while my peers just had a good time. Now it has paid off, Is it wrong to treat yourself for your success? Do I just follow the American “dream” and get what I want when I barely can crawl in and out of it at 60? I probably should mention I’d work remote and the car wouldn’t be driven everyday.

Should I go ahead and pull the trigger, I know after 5 years I will settle down and get married. I probably won’t have time for a sports car then. P.S. when I mention 15% that’s counting insurance and the TOTAL cost of ownership not just a car payment. I also plan to keep this car for the next 5 years.

I am writing a post about a common trope on tv when I was growing up and it's impact on how men view themselves, and I'm having a total brain fart.

I'm hoping you guys can give me some examples in TV or even in books with the old trope that's like the male equivalent to "the dumb blonde" (eww) statement for women where men who were portrayed as good looking were also portrayed as having no brains. Anything from the 80's until todays date if possible. Think like Johnny Bravo but not animated or the surfer stereotype, not so much like Married With Children where it's just the dumb man trope if that makes sense. Thanks for your time!

Do you need to kiss you gf daily? Do you enjoy doing it, or do you think it’s more of a routine? Can a good kiss turn you on?

Hey gents,

I'm dealing with the super bad almighty boss level of cold right now. I feel like absolute shit... and I somehow made it worse.

So, the usual stuff, nose started to run (that one where the liquid just keeps dropping out), sore throat... and like most of us would, I tried to get rid of the symptoms as quickly as possible.

I decided to attack the cold symptoms by eating spicy soup. Horrible mistake. I ended up with a burning freelane in my ass.

Now my question is how do you deal with the common flu and its evil siblings?

It’s an interesting thought, isn’t it? Comparing where we are to where they were what they struggled with, what they achieved, and how life looked for them. Share your stories; I’m curious.

it's basically a website where people rate you. I tried asking for advice as captions on my photos but I didn't receive any satisfactory responses. My rating is not bad but I don't feel like it's reliable. do you guys think it's full of bots or something like that?? Anyone here tried it? I know I'm coming across as if I'm spamming or something like that but I just wanted to make sure if the website is reliable or not. Since I mainly heard of it being unreliable from guys and also because majority of people on it are guys which is why I'm asking here.

As men, we often don’t talk about body image issues, but it’s something many of us struggle with. Whether it’s feeling self-conscious about muscle mass, weight, or even facial features, it can be hard to ignore. I’ve personally dealt with fluctuating confidence due to unrealistic standards set by social media and the pressure to look a certain way. How do you handle these feelings? Do you find it easier to embrace your body, or are you still working on it? I’d love to hear how other men deal with body image and if there’s anything that’s helped you.

Most of the guys I know and dated would say “what?” a lot. When no one is talking to them, do they tune the outside world out?