I was recently warned that part of my profile was erased because it contained "inappropriate content" but I'm really stretching my brain here and it just... didn't.

I thought maybe it was wrongly flagged for the word "sex" in the context "on quieter nights I might be ... reading sociology (race, parenting, sex, relationships), ..." so I appealed but they doubled down and said that my description of spending quality time with my children, reading books, seeing friends, playing video games, or surfing the internet was "hateful imagery, or anything overly violent, offensive, illegal, disturbing, or otherwise inappropriate for a dating site."

I am just so baffled. Is this a common thing? Is there some weird particular wording they don't like that is completely non obvious from their posted guidelines? I don't understand what the issue was at all.

Is there any point replying to their "final decision" asking (politely) what it could possibly be in my post that was a problem for them? Or are these kind of arbitrary and seemingly nonsensical judgements just par for the course?

For a while now, I have not really been using okcupid actively, but about two months ago I noticed that out of a few hundred matches only a handful had remained. Even if I found people while swiping that I had matched before, they would not automatically match, and those few who did did not show any of our old messages. Also the list of my own likes was super brief when I checked it this morning, showing only the 20 people or so that I have most recently swiped.

I've had some bugs before on my account, specifically not being shown likes even during a premium period that I had paid for (the one reason that I got premium for).

I have now asked the customer service about it and this was their tier 2 response:

Thank you for responding! I understand that most of your data has gone missing. Let me provide you with the information needed.

As you may know, our site has undergone some major updates recently to enhance the user experience. Please note that this also resulted in discrepancies with your likes/matches. We’ve included details below explaining a few of the changes:

- Read Receipts are now free for all users.
- Likes are removed after 90 days.
- Intros and conversations are removed after 180 days.
- Only 6 months of messages transferred.
- Mutual matches are removed after 210 days.

We really appreciate your patience during this process, and we sincerely apologize for any inconvenience this has caused.

If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact us.

Warm Regards,
[...]
Customer Care Support

While there are many complaints about how OKC is just broken, I have seen little reports that it's as broken as in my case. So I'm curious if any of you also lost most if not all of their matches. Also, I did not find the information that customer support has sent me anywhere else. While I believe that it would be sensible not to display inactive accounts, automatic unmatching is unheard of as far as I know.

I guess I would really like to have the opportunity to at least scroll through all my old matches and decide whom I would like to send some contact possibility outside before closing my account.

PS: I am also a bit surprised that I still get shown that I would have 99+ likes. And the three Intros that I get shown cannot be removed (I dislike the first and it re-appears when I reload), and I am not being shown any superlikes from the past.

So my intros used to let me click on them. I’d see the person’s info and their message. I’m not paying, so I could only manually click through them to read them rather than all at once. That’s fine. Id get maybe 2 or 3. All of a sudden, it’s showing me the number for a large amount of intros, like 70 or so, but when I click on the one revealed, it flashes the message for a second if it does at all, and then I can’t read the message. Or there is no message. When I hit Pass, it closes my access, and if I refresh, it shows me the one I passed on. Theres no link anywhere on the internet to contact them. Is this a new thing or just me?

What are the first few signs that you guys check out for since there's hardly any verified marks? And do you all get yourselves verified?

To be honest, this is the dating app that has a lot of catfish. Because anyone can modify the location. I have been catfished. I wanted to see if anyone of you had been catfished by this person.

He’s Malaysian. You can send me a message to know the name and I can send you pics also. :)

Identity theft is real. And that’s really scary.

I'm experiencing nonsensical stuff in the app and I wany to figure out what's going on. I've been reading recent posts and am already aware that they really broke things, but I want to figure out what's going on in a little more detail so I can dedicate the appropriate amount of despair to it. Here is what I'm seeing:

- my 'preferred height' on my profile was set to "3ft - ". upper bound was unset, which happened last time they mangled the heights to coerce them into fitting another database.

- profile IDs are now 23 alphanumeric characters, rather than 20 numeric characters.

- sending intros keeps the person in my like list without a 'message' icon, giving no indication my intro ever went through.

- I have 3 recent matches, all in response to intros (one of which was painstakingly crafted because she sounded amazing in every way and had interests and personality traits that overlapped mine in nearly every area), yet checking my messages page shows no new matches, and the like is now missing from 'you like...'

- checking my email for the 'you matched with ___' message, and clicking the link to the profile, shows an empty profile, 50% question match rate, no pictures, and an age (not birth date) of 2023. I am led to believe I wasn't blocked, because a blocked account shows "this profile is private or doesnt exist", rather than what i'm seeing now. This 'blank profile with age of 2023' is new since the last disastrous update.

So I want to perform the following steps and see what the outcome is by communicating beforehand with someone willing to help debug:

- you would give me your account link (or just the 23 char id)

- i would send you an intro, and you would let me know if you actually saw it

- you would match with me, let me know that you did so, and I would check to see if i actually receive the match (my hypothesis is I would receive a notification, but the match wouldnt show)

- I would visit your profile again, to see if it's visible. my hypothesis is I would see an 'empty profile' as described above. At this point I would also want to know what you are seeing on your end after matching.

- if the match is still visible to you, i'd want you to message me, to see what the outcome is on my end. If not visibile, i'd also want you to visit my profile and see if you are shown the 'blank profile'.

- If presented with a blank profile, I would try sending another intro. I would want to know if you receive the intro, and whether it was possible to match against that intro, and whether the ensuing chat box displayed both intros.

- If you see a blank profile for me, I'd want you to try blocking it, and I would try to revisit your profile. My hypothesis is that the blank profile would change to the 'profile is private or doesnt exist' message.

Anyone willing to help me test these things? I'm really upset about one particular match that vanished and I am holding on to a (probably impossible) hope that I can figure out what went wrong and somehow fix it.

Thank you

EDIT: I also noticed that if i go into my blocklist, several accounts have been renamed to have some some of UUID in place of the name (ex: D7C225E2-5F17-40CB), and they all show as empty profiles, not 'deleted or private'. These are accounts which i havent interacted with at all (and thus, most likely do not have me blocked), so it's curious that a decent chunk of accounts all went through this renaming process.

If anyone can tell me what they see when they visit https://www.okcupid.com/profile/-49fAzFrJSi03LutNEFU5A2 it would be awesome. I see a blank profile with an age of 2023.

I've just had it with those corporate monsters at Match Group. OKCupid, Tinder, Hinge, whatever. It's plainly obvious that they actively work to ensure you will fail.

So what other services exist that haven't been bulldozed by the corporate troglodytes? Is anything else even viable or has Match dominated the market? (It's not a monopoly, it's a "corporation".) Boo? Zoosk? It will be years before Firefly is a contender, if ever.

If there isn't, I'm just fucked. Circumstances prevent me from meeting someone in person, so online is all that's left to me.

Why is this guy I met on-line want to m9v3e so fast? I mean I just met him a month ago wants to meet family friends etc!

I don’t really understand why there’s no responses. It’s true that I don’t have long term relationship checked but that just me being honest. My profile is short but still has more than most of the women out there. I’m a decent looking guy and my photos are all updated. I guess I just need some advice. Is this normal? I feel like the women on these apps are just constantly bombarded by men, but I don’t know… anyway, I’m using OkCupid, Bumble, and Tinder. Edit: I guess I should say that I’m a 46M, 2 girls, separated, American living in a foreign country - so language barrier is also a problem… but there’s enough English speakers around, at least to date.

Tried google, bing not working , facecheckid had some hits but I have to pay for it Does anyone know a free site? Scammer alert/catfish

So the guy goes by the name Blake or Jack Alexander 38 said he is from London but his accent definitely is not brit, currently lives in Singapore as an IT specialist. He is luring girls to open a fake lazada app downshipping and requires you to cash in some money to process the items ordered by the supposed customers.

I will DM his photo if anyone asks for it. Met him on okc but apparently is also on meetup teamo.ru rusdate.net meetup.com These were the hits from my searches

This is giving me AI vibes…

Hello Xxxx, thank you for your kind words! I appreciate your honesty about the age gap, and I'm glad you brought it up. While age is just a number, it's essential to consider the potential differences in life stage and expectations.

Regarding the living logistics, that's a crucial aspect to consider, given the distance between us. If we were to become serious, I imagine we'd need to have an open and honest discussion about our priorities, goals, and expectations.

Perhaps we could explore options like regular video calls, visiting each other when possible, or even considering a future together in one location. However, that's a conversation for further down the line.

For now, I'm happy to get to know you better and see where this connection takes us.

on desktop: "Message failed to send" error

on mobile: messages say they send, but when you click on message again right after, it gives you the ability to send another intro and does not show the initial message as sent.

Anyone have a workaround?

edit: i should also add that the intro messaging works fine for a few profiles initially and then this error starts happening.

I went into the app to read an old conversation today, because it's the 2 yr anniversary of me and my partner chatting. All matches and messages have completely disappeared. My account is still active. Then when I go to "help" it says my IP is prohibited on cloud flare. I'm using cellular. I'm not sure what is happening. When I do use wifi, it is a mesh network in my apt building,so I believe that is technically considered a "public" IP. This is very frustrating. I haven't been browsing okc for a while, but still.

Without any explanation, I can no longer access my account for the last two weeks. I am a paid premium member.

No explanation from Customer service if my account is banned, if there is a technical error, nothing.

The robot representative sent me this:

"As indicated in our previous email, all ban appeals must follow the instructions located here (they didn't even include the link!) We consider this matter closed and will not respond to further replies."

Best,
Customer Care Support"

I found the form to file an appeal. I filled it out. I filed the appeal 6 days ago. NO RESPONSE FROM ANYONE.

It's VERY HARD TO APPEAL A BAN WHEN I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THE BAN IS FOR!

They require me to select a "Reason for Appeal" BUT I have no idea what happened!

I am a paid premium member and have paid this company over a thousand dollars in my illustrious dating career of the last 20 years :)

Dear OKC, you lost a customer for life and I will be sure to tell everyone about this experience. Obviously you don't give a shit or you would have setup your customer support system to actually help your customers.

Happy to see MTCH Group shares losing value. I will be another short seller starting tomorrow.

Hey all, would you say okcupid is better than hinge? I found hinge very quiet Pof and okcupid were better for me . What do you all think ?

Hi guyz i need your help. When i try to login

Hi I matched with a woman on okcupid Ali from Delaware we were messaging for a few hours than I was waiting for her to send a message so I could respond I looked and out chat and her profile disappeared idk what happened I didn't block or anything and I know she didn't

bro, I hate that I cant tell who I've messaged before.... I cant even go into there profiles and select message to see if there's one there or not. Like, what even is that?

and its not like additional messages dont go out... I've matched with people I sent more than one intro to (accidentally, because I didn't know there was a previous one). it looks so bad, what the fuck man.
and of course I've never gotten a reply from the girls who matched just to have our chat history now show 2 or 3 messages from me already.

The WORST part of it all, the part that bothers me even more, is seeing the different paragraph messages I wrote to her. there's already too much effort demand on guys and now I'm wasting twice as much... looking bad... AND Its ruining my shot.

Fuck, Match group are such A holes.

Hey Hey all, F26 interested in (Male 24 -35) here living in Seattle, Washington state. Dating apps no luck for me, lets try to see if I will find a good match on reddit lol. Interest in connected with guys in my area, and trying to actively date. My hobby baking, singing, dancing, and watching movies. Single, never married, don't have kids.

If you are interested to get connected, Dms me and we can exchange pictures and get to know each other. Looking forward to hear from you lads.

https://x.com/davidfostervlog/status/1859782303683137893?s=61&t=-F7K-GYGUw0zfNBd1gXRHA

https://preview.redd.it/b7fnbmeunc3e1.png?width=1014&format=png&auto=webp&s=0dc4478954c3aa42308b56be45bc5244c04c3b91

I took an 8 month break from OK Cupid. I used to be able to pass on my likes. This is a bug, right? Does anyone know a solution?
EDIT:
Blocking still works, so problem solved.

I admit I should probably know better how crappy these apps are these days.

After not having much luck with Bumble or Facebook dating I thought I'd give okcupid a shot. I was banned from them 10 years ago from the app for posting a shirtless Pic (it was from the beach btw). I didn't even think it would work, but was surprised I signed up with no issue.

A few hours later I check back and have over 40 likes. Still after swiping and not getting any matches, I break down and pay 45$ for the premium membership. What do you know, all the likes are from people in other countries, every single one. About an hour later when I open up the app I notice I'm signed out. I try to sign back in and it says I am suspended for violating terms!

So they basically let me sign back up and took my money just to let me know I'm still banned. Support of course is no help. I disputed the charge with my bank so hopefully I'll get that back. I have no clue how any of this is even legal that they do.

Oh well, I didn't see that my fingers were on the screen while talking with my housemates and accidentally unmatched her with my own eyes. I got to try the option of seeing the unmatched/blocked list on my profile, but I can't message you. Also im not a premium user to be able to search your username.

If you are here Sav, let's reconnect again.

-arci

I have used okcupid for a day and it was fine. now it shows me my own gender and cant turn off identity. I am a man who looks for women why it changed my preferences. if someone knows how to turn it off I would appreciate!

Is it just me? I’ve been getting matches but none of them are messaging. I tried to initiate but they are not replying.

Are these people just collecting matches?

I just got TWO ads pulling me off of okcupid.

They are aggressively trying to empty it.

I recently super liked someone including an introduction message to see how that went. Today I get a notification when entering the app of a blurred image that somewhat resembled the profile I liked, which I also can't find that person on my liked list anymore. Is there a chance that they matched with me but I'll never be able to see it since I don't have the paid version?