I’m fed up, guys. Please help me.

A little background about me: I studied Computer Science for my bachelor’s but had to drop out due to COVID. Currently, I live in Portugal. Over time, I developed a strong interest in marketing, especially storytelling marketing, and I truly enjoy it. I want to build a career in this field. I love helping others with the little knowledge I have, but I also want to learn more.

The problem is that I work in a restaurant, and I hate the job. But I need the money to pay my bills, so I can’t quit. Because of this, I struggle to go deep into learning and improving my marketing skills. I try to learn whenever I get the time, but I know I need help from senior marketers. I need guidance and opportunities.

Is there any way I can work with an expert to gain real experience? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just need something that feeds my creative hunger. I’m sick and tired of working in a restaurant.

Please, any advice? 🙏

I landed a job as a p*thon developer in a healthcare company in US. This company money isn't a problem, you can do many OT's,schedule adjs and many more. It is a work from homs job and as usual EST time, I am in a PH so its a graveyard shift. Lately I experiencing a time where I can't focus in my task and always taking my phone to watch some reels in fb or vids etc.. I know, youre thinking that I have an ADHD, but how can you handle this situation. Please I need an advice. Thanks.

I hate my current job. I got it because I need the money but my mental health is deteriorating fast. I dread Sundays because it's near the beginning of another week being there. My job is temp but with possibility of full time if they like me. But I'm not happy here for quite a few reasons. I was having a hard time landing a job so I tried temp agencies again. I say this because I actually got my first job through one and I would have loved to stay but it was temporary... I'm considering leaving this job for another but seeing that it's hard enough to find one (I don't have a lot of experience and there is a 6 month gap between the first and this one), I'll have to turn to temp agencies again. Is this something that can be done? Or is my job search supposed to be restricted towards not seeking their help if I'm already with one at the moment? Advice is appreciated.

Hi. I am a 33 yo person seeking opinions on getting a psychology degree. My goal is to become a psychologist, and I know that requires additional schooling. Right now I'm in a culinary arts program, but I definitely feel led to switch to psychology because I feel more passion for that field. I'd just like to know, what makes someone a good fit for this sort of role?

Accepted a new job opportunity and need to give my current company my resignation. I have a good relationship with my manager, so want to give the courtesy of a two weeks notice and, ideally, do it in person. I’m planning on my last day being Friday, 2/21. The only issue is my current company operates on a hybrid schedule and my manager and I will only have one day of overlap in the office this week (Wednesday). He comes in Wednesday-Thursday and I typically come in Tuesday-Thursday, but can only be in through Wednesday this week due to a personal matter. Would you recommend I give my notice in person Wednesday even though it would be more than two weeks notice, or am I better off just giving him a call on Friday and letting him know? Also, do most people prefer to have these conversations in the morning to “rip the bandaid off” or wait for it to be the last thing you do that day? Thanks in advance for any advice!

A few weeks ago, I wrote in another subreddit about my current work situation, burnout, an idiot boss and the general working atmosphere. And I've now finally come to the conclusion that I'm going to resign by April at the latest. But now the next problem is just around the corner. I am a baker. I can easily find a new job as a baker, bakers are wanted everywhere and my average grade in my apprenticeship was a 1.2, which is why most people would take me with open hands and a kiss on the hands, literally.

Problem: there are no good bakers in my town. All employers pay minimum wage. Six days a week is standard. 24 days holiday is the maximum. No matter how long you're in the job or what kind of degree you have. Plus the products are no different from the supermarket ones. I can't work like that. I'd just go from one burnout to the next.

And now to my question: does anyone have any idea where I could apply, with my training, where there are better working conditions and I'm given the freedom to be creative? Because otherwise I see myself unemployed in two months and in the summer in the Pacific Ocean as a human dishwasher.

Tl:Dr; my entire company sucks and I’m on my way out. How can I do less?

I got a new job, and gave my two weeks notice last week.

My boss wants me to make an announcement to my team tomorrow- team of 3 people who have been generally unsupportive and gate keeping.

I also have to make a transition plan and suggestions on how my boss is going to survive without me and meet with two outside consultants multiple times to “teach them” my job because my boss never paid attention to me during our 1:1s. (She put a meeting in her calendar marked “hell” after I told her I was leaving)

Part of me was frustrated but felt bad for the sales people I’m leaving behind.

I told the head or sales I am leaving and he said “if you need a reference in case you don’t have a job lined up let me know”. That kind of irked me because does he think I was fired?

Now I don’t feel as bad and kind of want to do far below the bare minimum.

What would you do?

Hi all, throwaway for anonymity. I held a job at a national pizza chain as a cashier in highschool. I jokingly made a comment on social media that turned into hr calling me saying roughly (you are on suspension while we look into the matter) and I just said you can tell (manager) I quit. Now, fast forward to now, I have recieved an offer from a company, and in their background check process asks if I’ve ever been fired, terminated, etc. I have tried contacting the HR department without much success, so I’m asking what should I exactly do? Will this lead to my offer being rescinded if I was fired? I have since matured and do not want to mess this opportunity up, any advice helps, thanks.

I'm about to graduate college and I have two job offers currently from two different industries within my major. I'm so grateful to have 2 offers and I know both options would be great, but I'm having such a hard time deciding!!

Job 1:

- pays more with less state tax and lower cost of living

- more young people

- interested in the industry

- passionate about the company

- multiple year program in the city that I've spent 20+ years living in

- hybrid (3 days in office)

Job 2:

- less pay with more state tax and higher cost of living

- only a few employees close to my age

- not as interested in the industry

- 5 days in the office

- located in a new city that I've been wanting to move to since high school

Hey guys, finished college & I recently got a job. I should start training this week coming up! Where I’ll be managing the budget of a non-profit. I’ve been so accustomed to working low skilled labor jobs where it’s repetitive whether it was retail or driving for Uber. These jobs were very stress free & never truly gave me mental fatigue. I guess the reason I’m posting here is partially for comfort. While I was in college, it was extremely challenging, having to push myself to the limit to pass midterms & finals. Long hrs & recently have had the same sort of mental fatigue & stress when practicing excel which I’ll most likely be using at work. Should i be concerned? Should i be less worried? Would it be something i just grow accustomed to & will become routine similar to the low skilled labor? Has anybody experienced the same thing as me?

Apologies for the long post. It was longer but I trimmed down a lot. Any advice is appreciated.

TLDR: I got some uneasy vibes from a phone screen and I’m not sure what to do regarding the in-person interview I’m supposed to have tomorrow.

For some background, I’m 27 and I worked at the same retail store from 2016 up until this past December when my store closed down. I’ve been looking for work since October, and have had a few interviews since then. I received a bachelors in business administration in 2023 and want to start focusing on a career instead of retail. I’ve been applying to clerical and customer service roles, as I think that would be a good starting point and some of my skills and experience would transfer. I don’t want to work in healthcare, but it’s a huge industry in my state and a lot of the currently available jobs are in general practices or hospitals. Because of this I’ve been more open to applying to specialized healthcare offices, like dental or physical therapy, but I’m still not super interested in those jobs.

I applied last Wednesday for a receptionist position at a dentist office. I received a message from the dentist running the practice on Thursday regarding scheduling a phone call about the position. I responded saying my schedule is fairly open, and to let me know what time(s) work so I can make myself available. He responded on Friday morning (around 7:50am) asking if he could call at 11am. My sleep schedule has been terrible since I haven’t been working, so I was still sleeping and didn’t see the message when I woke up at 11 to my phone ringing. I didn’t recognize the number so I declined the call. After I looked at my emails and saw the message I realized it was the dentist so I called back and had a discussion with him.

Since I had just woken up and was not prepared for a phone screen, I wasn’t giving my best answers. The way he spoke didn’t seem like he was too fond of what I was saying either, but I’m autistic so I could be misinterpreting this. After asking me some general questions, he asked me math questions unprompted. I’m not bad at math but with the combination of having just woken up and being caught off guard, I know I got most of them wrong. He then talked about how he is extremely strict regarding how things are run and the reputation of the practice. He never went over what the position entails (though a lot of the duties can be assumed given its a receptionist position). He was very vague when I asked about growth in the role (not that I assume there is much with a local dentist office), and said only 70% of new hires make it past the 90 day probation period. At the end of the call, he asked if I wanted to come in for an in-person “working interview” that would be one hour of meeting the team and seeing the office and from there they would determine if it would be a good fit. I’m supposed to go in at 9am for this.

Something about the way the phone call went and how he talked about the position and practice didn’t feel right. I felt uncomfortable being called without my confirmation and the way he spoke made me feel uneasy about the environment. Some family and friends also thought the unprompted math quiz was odd, given the role. The 70% rate of new hires making it through probation also felt low to me, but I’m not sure what the actual average rate for that would be. I’m unsure if I would take the job, if offered. I’m in the process of applying for unemployment though, and I know I would lose that (if it even gets approved) if I turn down an offer, as this would be considered suitable work.

I’m unsure about what to do. I’m feeling a sense of dread about the interview. I have another interview with an entirely different company later in the week that I’m actually looking forward to, as my phone screen with their recruiter was very pleasant, the company seems extremely organized and communicative throughout the process, it pays better than this role would, and has significantly more opportunity for growth and development. My family is suggesting I go in anyway and just try to do really badly on the interview so I don’t get an offer but I’m not really sure how to intentionally do poorly on an interview. Part of me feels that I should withdraw from the interview but I don’t know if I’m overthinking this. I’ve never really felt like this about going in to an interview before (anxiety sure, but not dread) and would like some thoughts about the situation and advice about what I should do from here. Thank you if you read this much.

Im a college undergrad senior psych major and i wont sugarcoat it, i have no fucking clue what i want to do with my life. My original plan was to go to med school for psychiatry but i realized about 9 months ago that it was not for me and my heart wasnt in it. Ive no figured out what i want to but i do know grad school in general isnt on the table. Aside from being lost careerwise i am also extremely burnt out. I know that sounds lazy and like im giving up but i cant lie about it any longer.

Aside from this i also didnt do any internships and ive only worked retail so my prospects as well as my major arent good. The only silver lining is i have 6 months after graduation to start paying my student loans and i only have 20k which isnt too bad.

Ive been applying nonstop for the past month to any job i can find on indeed or elswere that is entry level and only requires any bachlor or a bachlor in psych but im not hopeful.

I feel like a total failure for the situation im in and this feeling is getting stronger the closer i get to graduation. Do i have any hope of salvaging my life or is it pretty much downhill from here? I know this isnt a mental health subreddit but it really seems like having a job is all that matter so im kinda wondering what that means for my existance.

Hello everyone,

I did my bachelors in English Literature, worked for a year as a Technical Writer at a huge SaaS start-up and then moved to the US to pursue MiM. Now Im working as a proposal writer for a federal consulting company for 60k/year. I want to switch to a career - preferably product marketing. What advise/courses would you recommend. Im also looking for general advise on stepping into a better paying job that fits my profile. Willing and open to learn and work.

Thank you in advance!

Hey all,

First of all thanks to all you lovely people who are reading this.

I'm Canadian and fully bilingual, currently working a job that pays bills but it doesn't excite me. I have dual citizenship with France, an English degree, and a desire to get into some kind of international relations... but I don't know what those jobs are.

I love getting to know people and learning about new subjects, I'm good at forging relationships, finding useful information, and connecting people. I want a job that will allow me to take part in a wider world and maybe help create business and diplomatic relationships internationally.

Would anyone be able to give me some starting points for research/outreach? I think I could do really well in this sort of field but it's still vague. I've imagined maybe getting into publishing and the import/export side of things, but I don't really know what that would entail. Is there something I haven't thought of that would provide me the chance to meet people, learn about different cultures, and help connect people?

A really extreme job!

(I apologize if my English isn’t perfect—I’m still learning.)

Hello,

I was recently accepted into university to study psychology, with plans to pursue a master's in neuropsychology. I hope to start college next year, but there is a high likelihood that I may have to wait an extra year. This gives me a lot of time, and I want to use it productively by self-teaching neuropsychology to better prepare for college. Unfortunately, neuropsychology is not a popular field in my country, and finding information on it has been difficult.

I’ve reached out to a few people for guidance, but most have suggested I simply read more books and research papers (which I’ve been doing) and wait until after my undergrad to study abroad. However, I want to start preparing now to increase my chances. I also tried emailing professors, but I haven’t received any responses.

If anyone could recommend forums, online communities, or ways to connect with international students or professionals in this field, i will be very gratefull

Hi everyone! I am currently finishing up my prerequisites for all of these programs and I am applying for all three. Dental hygiene is my first, but chemistry isn’t looking too great right now for my dental hygiene application. So my alternatives are surgical tech and rad tech. If I get accepted to rad tech and surgical tech, which one do you prefer?

Hey everyone, I’m looking for career skill ideas that I can learn in 1 year or less that offer good job opportunities worldwide. I’d prefer something that isn’t too difficult to enter and doesn’t require years of study.

I’m open to suggestions in healthcare, hospitality, services, or any other industry where AI won’t completely take over. What skills or certifications would you recommend that have high demand globally?

Thanks in advance for your insights! 😊

I work part time as sales assistant in retail. Last week I made a mistake that cost us money however it was not at all my fault, my manager also was at fault as she was not supervising me when this happened (i did not get fired). However my manager still after a week is shouting at me and being horrible to me due to what happened. She is no longer being constructive but just mean, saying things to make me feel humiliated, and raising her voice. I gave her the benefit of the doubt when it first happened as I understood why she would be mad but I think now she is taking her frustration all out on me as she got in trouble for not doing her job properly. I thought it was all in my head, but even other colleagues noticed. One asked me if I was ok and that she can tell the manager is mad at me. I know I made a mistake and I apologised so many times but I don’t know how to move forward when she’s bringing it up every time we are alone and being mean. I would just like some advice and if this is ok for a manager to do.

TLDR: Should I quit my full-time job and consult so I have more time to spend with my child?

Full version: I am struggling with the internal politics and dynamics of my job—and have been since the day I started. It was nothing like what was presented to me during the interview process.

Plus, work feels so meaningless when you’re spending so much time away from your baby for them to be raised by strangers and bring home every illness under the sun.

I am at the point where I need to decide: -Do I stick it out for another year? -Do I get another job? -Do I quit the workforce and freelance?

What I have to consider: -I was also at my previous two jobs for only two years, so I don’t want to look like a job hopper. First was a startup going under. Second, I was laid off at 3 months pregnant. Now, in a dead-end role.

-I took this job as a demotion in pay and responsibility because I was needing to quickly find something with a baby on the way and I was also in the underwriting process for a loan.

-We actively trying for a second child, so I could potentially stick it out because, if I want to continue on with my career, I wouldn’t qualify for FMLA elsewhere.

-I’ve been consulting nights and weekends for a few brands to make up for the cut and pay, and now, I’m to the point where I make more than my full-time salary.

What’s going on:

-I’m not allowed to do anything. Basically, I plan out social posts, and then my boss says looks good, and then my boss’s boss redoes them, and I just press schedule.

-Within half a year, I stopped trying to push for what was current and best practices, and just tried to do what I thought my boss’s boss would like…which I still can’t nail down because…

-I keep a note on my laptop of all of her feedback, preferences or criticisms and changes, and she constantly contradicts herself.

-Our social performance is not doing hot, and compared to other brands I’ve supported, it’s terrible.

-Every once in a while, I get a wild hair and bring up stats and best practices, but posting stories and Reels or commenting on other content is all met with resistance.

-So my day-to-day job is basically using the early 2000 stock images and the copy I am told to use to put out. And these posts all do terrible. Then I’m asked with how do we drive engagement and how do we grow our following…

-What’s most frustrating to me is I used to lead communications teams, with people doing social media reporting up to me. I used to work directly with the c-suite. But I’m treated like I have no clue what I’m doing or I’m not capable of doing it. In some circumstances, I’m not even allowed to send an internal email without it getting approved.

-I am bored out of my mind. Whenever I ask for more responsibility, I’m giving tasks like proofreading or order catering.

-I’ve had crucial conversations with my boss on this. She remains Switzerland.

-I know of four other people on the team who are also bored out of their minds, reading books during the workday or applying to other jobs. Two people I know who have left the company (one formerly in my role), left for the same reason.

-I’ve questioned my sanity and have had times where I thought, maybe I actually suck at my job. But the brands I consult for love my work. The organic and paid social we’re doing are performing excellently and driving revenue.

I’m genuinely loss at what to do, if I just stick it out because it’s a means to an end and helps me provide for my child. Or do I change jobs and hope that I find a better environment where I have more autonomy? Or if I have enough work under my belt that I take the leap and go 100% consulting and have more flexibility to be with my child?

I'm currently an undergraduate studying Data Science and have developed an interest in Cognitive Science. I'd love to explore how machine learning intersects with psychology and philosophy. Would it be possible for me to pursue a Master’s in Cognitive Science with a Data Science background? What qualifications or prerequisite courses would help me transition into this field? I have two more years of college ahead and plan to pursue my master's after gaining some work experience. Ideally, I'd like to find a job related to cognitive science in the meantime. Any advice on how to align my studies and career path?

Anyone ones you would recommend with good work life balance and employee culture?

Hey Everyone, I just wanted to ask if anyone had any recommendations for a website for career aptitudes. I would prefer something free if possible. I just want to figure out things that I maybe good at and aligns with my personality a little bit more. TIA.

Originally chose this degree as I thought it had a lot of versatility and was a backup plan as I am a collegiate athlete. However I’ve heard rumors that the degree is too broad and I should have chosen a more specific degree. My current plan if sports doesn’t workout is to go to the military and try to go in as an officer but I’m curious what I should do if I can’t go that route. I graduate next fall.

Hi! I just wanted some advice I currently work as an operations assistant for a marketing company in London my salary is 35k a year which I think is reasonably good for my age considering I don’t have a degree.

However, I have been feeling really bored this last year or so in this role. I have decent GCSE’s and A levels in psychology, biology and sociology and have been thinking about going to university this year to study Criminology.

This is an area I’m super passionate about but I’m just apprehensive about job opportunities once I graduate. I appreciate university isn’t cheap and a few people have told me a criminology degree is a waste of time but life is short and I’d rather be in some debt if it means finding a career I am actually enjoy. Does anybody have any thoughts on this?

A few paths I’d potentially be interested in going down include:

1. a masters in cyber security
2. frontline social work apprenticeship
3. joining the MET on the graduate degree programme

I think the market is way too competitive for me now, hundreds of applications in with no luck. No degree to stand out.

I want to do my best at Target and give this retail thing a try. Maybe go from team member to team leader or something like that. Any advice?

So I just graduated college from Abeleine Christian and currently I am in the midst of looking for a job. On my college application, I did not put that I am an Eagle Scout. Do you think it would be worth it putting that I am an Eagle Scout on my job applications? Would I have a better chance at finding a job? Thanks in advance!

I'm not sure if this sub allows links, but here are my favorite screenshots

Everybody knows that working in the US Government under President Trump is getting exceedingly difficult.

Right now I'm a very senior operations leader managing a multimillion dollar contract with 150 employees. My leadership is not giving me the respect I should be getting. There are conferences I should be attending where ownership is sending a relative. My clients are under a lot of stress and are taking out a lot of pressure on me because Trump is expected to start forcing people out. The pressure is not a great feeling. However I know my position is safe.

I was given an offer at my same salary to be a BD / Growth Lead for that same agency- no longer managing 150 staff or all the clients. I turned it down, but then a recruiter called me back, saying the salary has increased so that it would be a 15% raise. I think the risk of getting fired in 12-18 months is high. But I'm nervous about not making those numbers.

I'm really concerned about being more at risk in a BD role where I may not easily make my numbers under this administration. Sometimes having a large team behind you makes the most sense, even with the stress, that you have the structure of the team to keep your position safe.

Anyone mid-career (20 years in or more) have any advice?

I posted this in r/lifadvice too but I'm yet to recieve any comments, so I wanted to try here. Though my problem stems from a family issue, the decision I'm trying to make is about my career.

So a little intruduction: I'm a 27 yo guy working as a baker. I have four older siblings. And one sentence frequently occupying my mind: "If only one of my children had a degree." That's what my father repeats at family gatherings. Ever since I was little what made you a valuable person was the accomplishments in your field. Not to drag my father's name through the mud, but that's how he made me feel. I understand where he's coming from. He never had that chance. He was born in the fifties he worked in a coal mine in his teens, then joined the military, he had a family and that's it. But the weight he put on us unknowingly haunts the family to this day. At least that's how I see it.

Now to my main concern. After highschool I was unsure about my future. So I decided that I'd be the one to accomplish my father's dream and get a degree that he could proudly hang on his wall. I went to the best university in my country and studied to become a physics and english teacher. Flash forward one year and... I failed. The worst year of my life yet. With my ever-growing anxiety from highschool resulting in very very dark nights by the time I left the uni. It took a lot of effort picking myself up and moving forward. Following another common saying from my father: " A man should either study or work, better case if he does both." So i got a job as a receptionist. Though it was unfulfilling, it gave me time to find out what I wanted to do. I decided to follow my heart and make my hobby (baking) my profession. Fast forward three years and one terrible job I am now here. With a well paying job, the best coworkers I have ever worked with and better mental health then the last ten years.

But one desire is still left. I frequently get the urge to go back to university and study something. This time on my own accord. And I always found psychology interesting. All that's left is to click the apply button... And then a very familiar haunting feeling hit. Is this what I want or am I still trying to make my father proud? Will I fail like last time? Wouldn't it be a waste of time and money? I mean I couldn't dream of a better workplace and now I want to risk it.

To be honest I don't know what I want to hear. I still have two weeks until the application. I'm at a crossroads in my life. Have any of you been in a similar shoe? Thank you for reading this. And if we can have a discussion I would happily read any opinion. Oh and tell me if i should post this in another subreddit. I'm not that familiar with the site.