What are some gifts someone can give or receive to help them with motivation, productivity, self-improvement, and/or growth.

Is there something you use regularly that helps you stay on track with your goals?

I am an 18 year old male. My girlfriend and I broke up after about 1 year of dating, and after doing some research, I found that I have a fearful avoidant attachment style.

Most, if not all of the hardship we faced as a couple was a result of my avoidant behavior. It feels like everything is click

I am going through a really bad situation! I have attachment issues and i want to trin myself to not care about people and stop relying on them Help me figure out how. Please

Hi everyone! I'm looking for book recommendations that come with a workbook (one you can buy separately and work through as you read the book) or have exercises built into them (part book part workbook).

I learn best when I can actually do something with what l'm reading, so anything interactive would be awesome.

The topics l'm most interested in are:

• Anxiety
• ADHD
• Relationships and/or attachment styles
• Or anything combining those ^^^

If you've read anything like this and it helped, please let me know! I'd really appreciate it.

okay so i really wanna know if i need help. lately, any person i talk to i always put the thought in my mind that i'd never know them again and i dont even know why this is in my mind. Maybe i make myself think that way because i don't want to get hurt. I even do that with my own friends and i dont know whyyy. Like i don't consider any to be a friend, i dont know why this is happening. is it a trauma related to losing friends like i really feel like im making myself lonely. sometimes even in the lectures i choose to sit alone and not beside them because i tend to think thats what would eventually happen so i make myself used to it. i really dont know whats this. and i dont also call them when i arrive to college i dont know why. i feel like maybe its strength if i dont call but thats too stupid like wth is that. Maybe this happened because im not used to having friends idkkk. I also always have the feeling of not expecting anyth gtom anyone so when the least thing happens like even my best friend supposedly we were going out after a hang out i had so i thought she was hanging out with other friends and then would see me, but it turned out that she went from her home to see me and i was susprised, why is that?? i tend to never expect anyth thats nice. also my closest friend in college when my leg got splinted and she called, which is somth thats supposedly normal cause shes the closest to me, but what my response was gurl thankss alot and i would make u tired if u send me the notes and stuff, likeee brooo why do i never expect anyth. i also dont like starting chats and nothing

So first off, please excuse my english.

I have a friend which i would us pretty close and a month ago we had a pretty big conflict which caused me to crashed out to him, the conflict mainly was about him being egoistical and not wanting to participate in a e-sport competition which is gonna be held the day tomorrow. I comforted him and encourage him to go tomorrow but he doesnt want to because his teammate was too "egoistical" which from my point of view, hes the one being egoistical and all of my friends agreed too, the conflict was huge that caused him to leave 2 of our friend group chats. From that day, he kept venting to me literally non stop with his problem with his girlfriend the competition, and the problem was literally as simple but he made it too complicated and its unnecessary. I helped him by sorting out his mind and solve the complication together but he carelessly kept venting to me and disregarding my mental health. Because of that, he drained me sooo much that i had no energy to do my school work and go to school for a week.

The night after he texted me still trauma dumping of the same problem and implying that he will commit sui$ide that night. I think for a while to connect the dots and he sent me a video like a farewell that he will go elsewhere for a long time that got me super worried at 11 am while tomorrow is school day. He gave me his tiktok account to keep the "streak" hes got with his girlfriend and me and he will not let the streak ends so he gave the account to me by saying that he will take days off of social media. I freaked out to my closest friend and i cried and was shaking, he didnt answer my phone call which got me thinking that he mustve done it. Which hurt me so much.

The next day at school he didnt show up and i had to contact his brother just to get the information that hes lying down asleep in bed, i sighed with relieve but at the same time i got hurt so much by that accident. When i got home from school and wanted to switch tiktok account to send streak to her girlfriend and i saw that hes already done it, i feel somehow betrayed because he said that he will take days off of social media just to discover less than 24 hours hes already back.

I was drained so much and my heart hurts it feels like a knife stabbed me. During the same day and its night time, he texted me and trauma dump to me and i knew part of myself couldnt take it anymore and i unapologetically crashed out to him, i told him everything i feel. He apologized but i feel like it wasnt genuine and enough.

Fast forward to recently, he ignored me at school and only texts me to keep the tiktok streaks on, i feel annoyed and sometimes i get pissed off because he ignored me at school and only text me if he want something from me, im the only one that reached out to him, make jokes to him but he dont, he prioritize his girlfriend over me and i get annoyed with it and i still havent recovered from that day.

Please, i dont know what to do for our friendship now, i feel like i want to cut him off but is my reason valid?

Winter's here, and if you're like me, that mix of gloomy skies and shorter days can seriously mess with your anxiety. I wrote this article on Medium to share 5 practical hacks I've found to help combat the winter blues and keep anxiety in check during the cold months.

From cozy rituals to mindset shifts, these tips are designed to bring a little warmth and calm. Check it out and let me know which ones you use—or share your own winter anxiety survival tips!

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Hey everyone,

So, something totally unexpected happened at work the other day. During a team meeting, my boss (who is usually all about KPIs and quarterly goals) casually dropped this self-improvement method he uses called the UNO Reverse Method. At first, I thought he was joking, but nope—he was dead serious, and honestly? It’s kind of brilliant.

What Is the UNO Reverse Method?

Here’s the gist: whenever you’re stuck with a problem, imagine playing an UNO Reverse card on it. Basically, you flip the situation back on itself or look at it from the opposite perspective to uncover creative solutions.

It sounds ridiculous, but stay with me—it works.

How It Works :

1. Identify the Problem Card: Write down whatever issue you’re facing.
2. Play the Reverse Card: Visualize slamming down that iconic card.
3. Flip the Perspective: Ask yourself:
   • What’s the opposite of this problem?
   • How can I turn this issue on its head?
4. Take Reversed Action: Brainstorm and implement solutions from this new perspective.

My Boss’s Example:

Problem: "Our team isn’t hitting its deadlines."

UNO Reverse: What if the deadlines aren’t hitting the team?

Flipped Perspective: Maybe we’re not setting realistic goals or prioritizing effectively.

Action: We restructured our workflow and gave team members more input on deadlines—and productivity went wayup.

How I Used It in My Own Life:

Naturally, I had to try this out on my personal problems, and the results have been pretty surprising:

1. Career Goals
   • Problem: "I feel like I’m not growing in my role."
   • UNO Reverse: What if my role isn’t growing with me?
   • Flipped Perspective: Maybe I need to expand my responsibilities instead of waiting for opportunities.
   • Action: I pitched a new project idea to my boss. Not only did he approve it, but he also praised my initiative.

2.Struggling with Confidence

Problem: "I’m not confident enough to approach her."

UNO Reverse: What if she’s not confident and is waiting for someone to break the ice?

Flipped Perspective: I started seeing myself as the one doing someone else a favor by initiating.

Action: I approached conversations with a relaxed vibe, thinking, "Let’s just see if we connect." This mindset took the pressure off.

3.Health Issues

• Problem: "I can’t stick to my workout routine."
• UNO Reverse: What if the routine isn’t sticking with me?
• Flipped Perspective: Maybe I need something more flexible or fun.
• Action: Switched from boring gym sessions to dance classes. Now I actually want to work out.

Why This Works

The method forces you to think differently—like a mental reset button. It’s not about ignoring problems; it’s about reframing them in a way that makes solutions easier to spot.

TL;DR:

My boss taught us the UNO Reverse Method—flip your problems to see them from the opposite angle and find creative solutions. It’s weird, but it actually works. Give it a try and let me know if it helps!

I have spent the majority of my life studying and working so far (24f). This was very consuming and often took up most of my free time. Now that I have no study left to do, I don’t know what to do with myself. I want to find my purpose of existing, a reason to be happy. But lately I have been feeling like nothing feels as full filling as before. I feel pretty lost. I don’t really have any hobbies. I don’t go out because I don’t know where to go or who to go with. Does anyone else ever feel this way? How did you move past it?

Alrightttt settle down.

At functions, I can easily chat someone up and be their lad for the time being, but it's radio silence afterwards. Thoughts? Prayers?

I sprayed some body mist into my hands and then sniffed it straight away. Felt a strong taste and smell hit the back on my throat and started panicking. It was one spray and I think I'm just worrying myself. Anyone else experienced this?

I’m not sure if this is the right group or not because I’m new to this but Is there any way someone can help me with a pizza. My kids and I are having a hard time. I do get EBT but it doesn’t replenish till December 13. I recently lost my parents and had to take some months off from work to grieve. My company didn’t pay me short term because they said I didn’t sign up for it which I know I did. I just went back to work but my check won’t come in till the 13th. Please if there is anyway I can send you my address. We are just hungry tonight. Monday I can I hope go to the food bank in Gainesville GA. Plus k can pay you back when I get paid

We have all experienced moments of heightened anxiety, intense anger, or deep depression. During these times, it often feels as though our options and potential courses of action are severely limited. These options, or thought-action repertoires, represent the immediate thoughts and possible actions available to us in any given situation. Considering anxiety, anger and depression in their evolutionary context provides a useful platform to build our understanding:

• Anxiety: Prepares us for real or imagined trouble ahead.

• Anger: Energises us to confront and overcome threats in the moment.

• Depression: Withdraws us from the present.

These powerful emotions originate from our limbic system, an ancient part of our brain shared with many other animals. In our evolutionary past, these emotions provided significant evolutionary advantages to our ancestors: those who could notice imminent threats were better prepared to handle or avoid them, those who could mobilise energy swiftly were more likely to survive confrontations, and those who knew when to withdraw often lived to see another day. Rinsed and repeated through the aeons, our evolution has left us with indelible legacies.

However, our modern lives differ vastly from those of our ancient ancestors. Beyond the primitive limbic system, our brains have evolved further, giving us the neocortex – the structure that enables us not only to survive but to thrive. How then, can we harness this evolutionary gift?

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (SFH) offers a compelling answer, supported by extensive research in wellbeing psychology. Professor Barbara Fredrickson's ‘Broaden and Build’ theory reveals that while anxiety and anger narrow our thought-action repertoires, positive emotions – joy, gratitude, hope, and love - broaden them. Positive emotions inspire a multitude of thoughts and a variety of potential actions. In each moment, our thoughts heavily influence our behaviour. The confluence of our behaviour in that environment at that time predicates the outcome of any situation. At a very general level, when our thoughts support behaviour which is aligned with the environment, we are more likely to achieve a positive outcome. Cumulated over time, this creates opportunities to build lasting personal resources and fostering personal growth and transformation through positive, adaptive spirals of emotions, thoughts, and actions.

Experiencing more positive emotions more often expands our range of thoughts and actions, increasing the likelihood of behaving and undertaking activities that enhance our lives in enduring ways. Positive moods not only broaden our thought-action repertoires but also help build enduring personal resources: enhancing our wellbeing.

At the core of Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is the practical application of this theory. This approach helps clients shift the balance of control, reducing the influence of the limbic system and enhancing the role of the modern neocortex. This shift fosters positive and adaptive spirals of emotions, thoughts, and actions, enabling clients to thrive in self-determined ways.

If you are grappling with anxiety, depression, or anger, know that help is available. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can support you in broadening your thought-action repertoire, empowering you to lead a more fulfilling and balanced life: the life you are free to choose – and live - for yourself.

💬 TL;DR : I have a “fearful-avoidant” attachment style. Anyone else with this same attachment style? Any advice or tips on how to communicate and navigate relationships with this style? Any experiences you’ve had that you can share?

👩🏼‍❤️‍👨🏼  25f & 25m / under 1 year - committed relationship
📍 My results / attachment style are below the questions - it DEFINITELY describes me! 

I have taken some tests about my attachment style and they have always been more so "anxious attachment" in the past and this week I took it again
(it's been a WHILE since I took the last one )

I have some questions if anyone is willing to help! Any advice or shared experiences would mean so much to me, even if it’s just a small step that’s worked for you. 
I want to work on communication, mental health, and us in general! 🥰
THANK YOU!! 🩷

1. If you have this attachment style / feel this way in relationships - How do you manage these conflicting feelings / navigate relationships with this attachment style? Any stories?
2. What are some strategies you've used to communicate your feelings and needs effectively with a partner? (I sometimes go nonverbal during discussions or disagreements, which makes it harder to express myself. How do you handle similar challenges?)
3. What has helped you work through your fears of abandonment AND discomfort with closeness?
4. Are there any books, resources, or therapy techniques that have been particularly helpful for you?
5. I know attachment styles can change with effort and support—what’s helped you move toward a more secure style?

📍 RESULTS :
You may lean toward a Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment style. This style combines:
*   Avoidant tendencies, such as discomfort with too much emotional closeness or difficulty fully opening up.
*   Anxious tendencies, such as occasional fears of abandonment or craving reassurance.

What This Means:
*   You might feel conflicted in relationships-wanting closeness but feeling uncomfortable or overwhelmed by it at times.
*   You may struggle to trust fully, and communication of your feelings could be challenging.
*   Your attachment style could also shift depending on the situation or the type of relationship, as you expressed variability in your answers (e.g., "it really depends")

If you feel stuck for some reason, lost in the rat race or just wish to find something authentic within, there are self help instruments to explore. In such a journal you write or draw whatever comes to your mind while reflecting on questions regarding your health, ego, compassion, relationships, letting go of the past and other themes.

The idea is to uplift oneself in a holistic way, to find some meaning in everyday life while facing truths within ourselves that we otherwise avoid or do not give enough attention to.

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Moinsen alle zusammen, ich hoffe, euch geht's gut!

Vor einiger Zeit habe ich ein Projekt im Bereich Travel & Wealth gestartet und möchte nun gerne allgemeine Meinungen dazu sammeln. Dafür habe ich eine kurze Umfrage erstellt, die sich speziell an die Zielgruppe 18-30 Jahre richtet.

Falls du mir dabei helfen möchtest und ein paar Minuten Zeit hast, würde ich mich echt über deine Unterstützung freuen!
Schick mir einfach eine DM, wenn du dabei bist, und wir können dann gerne über Discord telefonieren, um mehr darüber zu sprechen.

Ich möchte das Ganze über Discord machen, weil ich den persönlichen Austausch sehr schätze und außerdem ein bisschen üben möchte. In Zukunft plane ich nämlich, auch in Städten Straßenumfragen zu machen, und möchte davor so viel Erfahrung wie möglich sammeln.

Wäre wirklich eine große Hilfe! Danke dir schon mal im Voraus! 🙏

Own Your Journey: Empowerment Through Self-Awareness

Did you know that dedicating just a few moments each day to reflection could unlock a more fulfilling life? Discover how in this concise guide on self-awareness.

What is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness, as defined by the dictionary, is “knowledge and awareness of your own personality or character.”

Self-awareness sits at the core of our personal development and wellbeing. It involves truly knowing oneself – understanding personal preferences, motivations, strengths, weaknesses, and the principles guiding your life. Think of self-awareness as a compass, providing clarity and direction in navigating life's complexities. It goes beyond mere likes and dislikes; it entails a deep understanding of what drives you, what defines you, and the habits that shape your daily existence.

Why Developing Self-Awareness is Important

Self-awareness is more than just a psychological buzzword; it's a powerful catalyst for life transformation. When you deeply understand your inner workings, a path to a more enriched and fulfilled life unfolds.

Firstly, self-assuredness becomes your greatest asset. Thorough self-knowledge empowers you to confidently navigate life's challenges. Criticism becomes constructive feedback, fueling personal growth and development.

Moreover, understanding your motivations is essential. Whether fueled by love, passion, or financial incentives, recognizing these driving forces sheds light on your choices and actions. Acknowledging strengths and weaknesses sets the stage for continuous improvement.

Living by a set of principles, whether personal beliefs or external guidelines, adds depth to self-awareness. These principles serve as a compass, ensuring your actions align with your values.

Practical Steps to Increase Self-Awareness

Identify your preferences: Start by recognising your likes and dislikes. Whether it's a disdain for certain activities or a passion for others, acknowledging these preferences sets the foundation for self-awareness.

Uncover Motivations: Reflect on what truly motivates you. Is it love, personal interest, or financial gain? Understanding your driving forces illuminates the path to a more purposeful life.

Assess Strengths and Weaknesses: Take stock of your abilities. Identify strengths to leverage and weaknesses to address for personal growth.

Define Your Principles: Consider the principles guiding your life. Whether rooted in religion, family values, or personal beliefs, recognising your principles enhances self-awareness.

Review Your Habits: Habits reveal a lot about you. Identify and understand your daily routines, as they define you and offer opportunities for positive change.

Embrace Feedback: Open yourself up to feedback. Honest insights from others provide a fresh perspective, enriching your self-awareness journey.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the more self-knowledge you acquire, the more consciously you can navigate life's intricacies. Embrace self-awareness as a continual process, and experience its positive impact on your daily life. Elevate your self-awareness for a more rewarding and fulfilling life.

The further and further I get in life the more I realize that self awareness is one of the greatest skills someone can acquire. Being in touch with yourself can give you such an advantage in life. This is why I recommend doing a nightly check in with yourself in which you ask yourself a series of questions.

1. “What went well today?”, “What didn’t go well today?”, “What can I do better tomorrow?”.

In order to improve, you need to be able to confront what worked and what didn’t, then adjust as needed. 2. “Am I doing okay?”, “Why am I (not) doing okay?”, “What can I do to feel better?”. CHECK IN WITH YOUR EMOTIONS. I promise it is worth it! It helps you avoid burn out and ensures that you are making choices that support your mental health instead of bringing it down. Knowing not only how you feel, but why you feel the way you do is also super important. It shows you where you should be focusing your energy, either to maximize wellbeing or to minimize suffering. Lastly, if you have all 3, you’re basically a super hero. Congratulations, you’re halfway an expert in emotional regulation. Knowing what you can do to pick yourself up when you’re feeling down is the last key to the puzzle and one of the most important. This is not a one shoe fits all situation, and there is so much value in figuring out what it is for you that can heal you, energize you, and make you feel whole again. 3. “How did I act today?”/ “Why did I act this way?”, “What impression did I give off?”/ “How do I feel about that?”, “If needed, how can I change?”. Social awareness is an important aspect of self awareness. It helps us have a deeper understanding of the way we are perceived, our relationships, and our role in the wellbeing of these relationships. Asking yourself these questions each night can revolutionize your life and encourage some deep thinking. I can’t recommend it enough.

I’m a 21-year-old college student, and I feel like I’m completely falling apart. I have no discipline, no structure, and a weak sense of self-control. I can’t seem to set boundaries with myself, even when I know my choices will hurt me in the long run. I act recklessly, constantly taking the lazy, irresponsible way out because I just don’t have the motivation to do anything better.

My schedule is a mess—I sleep at 6 a.m. and wake up at 4 p.m. most days. I don’t go to class, I don’t study, I don’t eat right, and I barely make it to the gym, maybe 1–3 times a week. Bodybuilding used to be something I loved, but I’ve lost my passion for it, and I can see the muscle I worked hard for slipping away.

I’m in credit card debt. I’ve struggled with sky-high anxiety and OCD since i was like 12, and all these issues combined have left me depressed, unmotivated, and with zero confidence in myself. My self-talk is relentlessly negative, and I genuinely feel like I’ve become my own worst enemy.

I was once in the honors program at my university, but my inability to sleep properly and keep up with classes has made me feel like I’m not smart or capable anymore. I’m probably not going to stay in the program much longer if I keep going down this path.

I’ve tried everything. I’ve read every self-help book, downloaded productivity apps, created schedules, and set up reminders, but I never follow through. No matter how good my intentions are in the moment, I always fall back into my old habits. It’s like I’m stuck in this cycle, and no matter what I do, I can’t break free.

I get bursts of motivation, like right now while I’m writing this, but I know it’s only temporary. Eventually, I’ll fall back into the life I’m trying so desperately to escape. My lack of confidence is obvious to the people around me. I’m losing friendships, and it feels like nobody cares about me anymore. I feel helpless and completely lost.

If anyone’s been through something like this and found a way out, please tell me what worked for you. I just want to get my life together, but I don’t even know where to start anymore.

I’m lucky enough to have people around me that are proud of me but not necessarily people that can help me. I’m letting them down and i’m letting my future self down.

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Hey Reddit, I recently wrote an in-depth guide on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), diving into its core strategies for emotional regulation, mindfulness, and improving mental well-being. If you’ve ever felt like emotions get the best of you or know someone dealing with intense emotional swings, this approach might just be the missing piece.

In the article, I break down:

• The key components of DBT
• How it can help you navigate emotional turbulence
• Practical skills you can apply right now

I’d love to hear your experiences with DBT or any other tools that have helped you manage emotions better. Let's discuss!

👉 Read the full article here

I need someone to do an evaluation of my current position and tell me what needs to be improved about my life and HOW. This post is prompted by a breakup and I recently found out the girl instantly got with someone else so I, in all likelihood got cheated on.

I am 26 years old, I work for an investment bank doing back office work, I make $65,000 a year, I live in central Florida, I am 5'8 (on a good day), my friends and family describe me as handsome and above-average attractiveness, my hobbies are playing video games, building things in my wood-shop, repairing vehicles, and taking my dog on adventures. I have a passion for homesteading and want to live that lifestyle one day, I know how to hunt, fish, camp, everything outdoors. What the fuck is wrong with me that I'm left by everyone I loved, and women avoid me like the PLAGUE?

Hey guys

Life's been pretty shit as of late. Esp coz 99% of my problems are of my own doing, I have really bad executive dysfunction and I am confident I probably have ADHD but I am not in a place where I can get checked out and support for that so I'm just suffering.Struggle to do even the most basic easy shit and now I'm failing my classes. So im hella stressed

And this one thing that confuses me. I've always had this insatiable desire for violence, to beat someone up to a pulp, smash their skull, etc (even though I cant stomach gore much lol) ever since I was very young. And I never understood why.

It always gets worse too whenever I am very stressed or depressed or yada yada. I just feel the need to tear something up, destroy things, hurt someone even more intensely than I always do.

Right now because of my predicament I am very stressed and depressed and feel like jumping off a cliff but at the same time this weird desire for violence has become so loud it hurts that I can't let it all out.

What do I do? Why do I always feel like I want to hurt others? Especially in times of strife?

Maybe it is just simply in my nature, but I feel like something is off, for me to crave bloodshed like this.

Edit: To add, I have always struggled a lot with empathy. Relating and understanding other human beings is a lot harder for me I've noticed, compared to other people.

I am making this post to vent and get some tips. Background I am in a competitive program right now that is very fast paced and I obviously want to succeed academically so this is stirring up some strong feelings of competition and jealousy if others do better than me.

I come from a big family, 4 brothers, 1 of which, my oldest brother always seen as some sort of “prodigy” child. I was often compared to him. All the teachers loved him because he was very social and smart and every teacher that had him was always saying how brilliant he was and it was hard to measure up. I also got tested when I was younger I assume for being on the spectrum?? but my results were negative but who knows because I only got one test. Anyways, my brothers would tease me all the time about the fact that I got tested and made it a joke for years. Besides being compared to my brother, my parents made it clear too. My dad was an I guess functional alcoholic, he was drunk most of childhood. He got very drunk one night when I was really young (grade 7 i think) . I had just started a new school that year and I had one of my friends over for the first time. I said something about him drinking and being drunk stumbling around as I was so embarrassed of my living situation. He got offended and told me that I would never amount to anything in life and that they only kid that might go somewhere is my older brother. It’s almost 10 years later and that has stuck with me and I feel the need to compete with my siblings and feel upset when I don’t do as well as my classmates too. I also want to prove my parents wrong, they never believed in me and when I had any ideas as a kid they would make me feel like I was aiming too high for my abilities.

Another instance, is when I found out my ex boyfriend was using only fans our whole relationship and saying he wanted to stare at other women. I was healing from this and I know its not me but the feeling of being ugly, choosing someone more attractive and honestly internally hating really pretty girls who I wish I looked like has been brewing. I am also going to add that I was teased in school for being hairy for a girl, big nose and I have chicken skin on my arms. Other than that I have lost 20 lbs since my breakup and started going to the gym and eating healthy. So I guess, that can play into it but seeing other gym girls and comparing myself to them that way too.

Anyways, this one girl in my program is really pretty, smart and all the teachers pet and honestly I cant help myself but hate her almost, not really hate but like you know. I hate that I feel like this.

I do have a boyfriend right now as well and hes great but even when we are around other pretty girls I feel like he’s gonna wish he was with them.

I also think I need therapy, but a girl is brokeee.

So basically I think this stems from being insecure about my intelligence, my personality and my looks. Like everything…

I hate this feeling and I am aware if I cant shake it I will be miserable my whole life. I just feel like if I could rid myself of this aspect I could be more likeable which is another insecurity of mine. I just want to be at peace and free. I am struggling to find any self worth outside of what I look like and what I have to offer.

If you guys have any tips or different perspectives of thinking when these feelings come up let me know.

Lately, I’ve been on a journey to improve myself and my relationships, especially with my kids. I stumbled upon an app called Era - Parent Journal & Diary, and it’s been an absolute revelation.

What I love about : ERA

Daily prompts: These make journaling a breeze, even when I’m running on fumes.
Mindfulness tools: It’s not just about writing; Era helps me reflect on my parenting style and guides me toward intentional growth.
Curated resources: I’ve found some incredible podcasts and tips through this app that I never would have discovered otherwise.
If you’re looking to strengthen your connection with your family while working on personal growth, I highly recommend checking it out. The best part? It’s free and super easy to use.

Anyone else here using journaling as a parenting tool? Let’s share tips and experiences! 🖊

Give me challenges [Like things i have to physically do] [The more detailed the better] [Impractical Jokers style] that would turn a semi-social person into a super mega social person.

Every challege within good rationality i will completcomplete and report back on.

So I’ve never been in a relationship before never even talked to someone to even be loved/ comfortable for someone or had someone be that for me ever and I’m 24 now. but I don’t want the loneliness that I have to turn into something worse for me. But I don’t know what to do because everywhere I look everybody has had or is In some type of relationship / commitment/ situation with someone, and I fear people wouldn’t want to be with me due to my lack of (life experience), I guess. Idk what it would be called but I’m not lonely on the inside like I can be alone with my self ever, but I’m lonely in wanting companionship it weighs VERY hard on the heart also being the one everyone doesn’t see it for, I feel like Im not good enough for basic things like friendship. Basically and I don’t know what to do. I’ve always been the one who HAD TO go get any and everything I wanted out of life so far, but I’m so tired of being the one who has to chase everything to get it and not be the one who be (chased) you know. What should I do I know I would have to still be the one to who still has to be the one who still has to look for the love I just don’t want to find to find the wrong thing and completely break.

This has been going on for quite a while in my life and i have nobody to tell about this . the only person that knows about this is my girlfriend of 3 years and ive been too scared of the consequences of what’s going to happen if i speak up for once . So i am just trying out reddit for the first time and see what everybody’s opinions are on the matter . this is 100% real , no fake story , no made up plot . i am under 18 and still in high school to this day . When i was 5 or 4 my uncle from Massachusetts(not 100% if that’s where he came from) came down , we barely talked but got along and i would constantly ask to sleep in his room because i was little and i would do that with all my family as a kid , my aunt , my grandma , my mom . but one night i was sleeping in there he made me suck his you know- his private area . and made me and i was crying and trying to get that to stop but it didnt and then i find out my cousin had the same experience but to this day he told me that it was a lie or a dream he might of had . but the next morning i told my aunt and i didn’t know what happen after that, nothing happen for a while until one day he would get really touchy and would kiss me and force me even tho i would try to get away and i would sleep in there with him (which made me more vulnerable) but i liked sleeping in there because he always kept every video game in there and i kinda see why now, but randomly he would touch my butt or slap it randomly while i was 5-14 and put his hands in my pants. it was disgusting . and i would try to tell him to stop but nothing worked . he would do disgusting things to me then reward me after . on incident was i was playing the computer and he told me to go to him and he put his hands in my pants and touched my butt and he had his hands in his pants touching himself… i was violated every day in nasty ways and with that he would yell and throw stuff around . one time i put ice in his milk and he threw the cup across the table all the way to the wall and it shattered . if anyone would slitly mess up anything he would blow up . there’s so much things i could say about him but my phone is lagging the more i type . if you have a questions let me know and i will try to reply to any and i will add more to this after . also i only ever just felt like speaking up because i have little brothers and he is a licensed dcf parent which he shouldn’t be with this kinda back ground and the way he treats kids . [Update] i don’t know what to do anymore , if i say something ima js ruin my whole life . i just feel like the only escape is to die.? idk why i feel this way .

Hi everyone, just wanted to share something. I went through a terrible breakup recently. I also smoke a lot of ciggerates. I lack consistency in any thing I do. Can someone suggest how can I overcome these challenges.