So my sister,her boyfriend and I all went out to drink for Halloween. After two drinks we were. Completely done for the night, we ended up getting over served, my sister and her boyfriend have been fighting the last few days because he’s really not into the relationship suddenly and she just wants to make it work and he has made it clear his priorities are himself then his feelings before anything else. Theyve been together for a year and just I got into a fight with him cuz she blacked out from the amount of alcohol and tried to move her and she threw up so he left her where I was also just as drunk and tried to help her. She was crying saying she just wanted her boyfriend to take care of her and I got fed up and asked him what is he was doing, does he not care that she’s passed out In Her own puke etc. His response was that I was taking care of her so he doesn’t have anything to do with it. I got fed up and told him I’m sick and tired of how he’s treating her and what is he going to do. I don’t know what to do now. It hurts me because I know it’s going to hurt her when she realizes the fight that happened when she blacked out and I’m just at a loss for everything. She’s insisting he’s the one and nothing will ever be the same because of his attitude and she’s just as lost.

I've spent the last 20 years on self-improvement. It was rough. I won't go into details, but I've gone from being a loser living in my moms literal basement to having what many find an enviable life. I own a business, have great relationships, have traveled the world, etc, etc.

I'm at a point where I want to help others.. not just *want* to.. but I don't feel like there is anything else meaningful for me to do.

And yet, despite all the self-improvement content and forums out there, I'm lost as to how to personally be involved and make a difference.

I have answered people's questions on this and other subs, but most people are not serious about change, and are just there to vent. I've started making content on YT, but the algorithms love lowest-common-denominator, tell-them-what-they-want-to-hear, entertaining nonsense.. and I'm just no willing to demean myself to create that.

I find the most satisfaction in offering one-on-one mentorship (or coaching, or whatever you want to call it), but it seems to be an extremely tough sell.. even when offer to give it away for free! There are so many coaches/mentors/gurus etc out there, and they are so good at marketing b.s., that it's very difficult to be found.

My apologies if this comes off as a bit of rant. I don't mean it that way.

I'd love to have some answers from the self-improvement community on *any* of these questions:

1. Has anyone here managed to turn their self-improvement journey into a meaningful vocation?
2. Of the people who are working on self-improvement, how many are seriously invested, and how many are just looking to blow off steam?
3. Does anyone have suggestions for me, personally, as to how I might proceed?

I am extremely guarded and closed off. I’ll admit I act like a jerk a lot and I completely detracted from my emotions. If I feel pain I won’t tell anyone and I won’t acknowledge it . I’m also extremely lonely.

I don’t know why I’m like this but it’s been going on for 3 years and I’ve just accepted that it’s who I am.

I didn’t grow up with any trauma in my life and I haven’t experienced anything near death nor did I have an abusive childhood.

But I kinda wish I did so I would have justification to why I am like this. And as sadistic as it sounds, I think having trauma and persevering is so cool and badass. It also gives a person character and a cool story to tell lol.

So yes I kind of wish I had trauma.

I’ve wrote a post about this before but I have an unhealthy obsession with a fictional character. Levi Ackerman from aot. I’ve kind of developed a lot of his habits like being stoic and blunt. The only difference between me and him is that he grew up with trauma and he has a reason for acting so closed off (because he lives in a literal war zone lol) . I don’t nor have I been in a situation like that and now I feel like I just act stupid. And for some reason I want trauma to be closer to his character.

Sometimes I dream of being in an alternate reality or a different verse where I was in a near death experience kind of like a zombie apocalypse or even aot itself lol. Life just is so boring. I mean the cycle of life like growing up going to school, getting married, getting. A job, starting a family, etc.

It would be cool to be in a situation where my flight or fight response would kick in with endless amounts of adrenaline and dopamine.

I know it sounds silly but it’s an actual problem and PLEASE if you have any advice help me out.

I am an 18 yr old female in her freshman year of college to give perspective.

hey guys, I really have no idea what to do or who to talk to about this, but I've been dating a girl for a few months now and I'm pretty serious about her. for context me and her met in university in our first year and for my second University I transferred to another country in another timezone. my girlfriend never used to go out clubbing before but this weekend she's just been going on and on about going clubbing with people I dislike. I try my best not to say no to her, but seeing her prioritize going out with friends and shopping for her club nights and other bs like that makes my whole body feel extremely weird. I won't deny that I am extremely possessive over her but my whole body feels like Its screaming at me to ask her not to go out tonight and I have a terrible feeling about it. but for some reason I just don't wanna say no. I want her to decide not to go out on her own accord even though every single bone in my body says I should tell her not to go out, I find myself unconsciously expressing disdain for the fact that she's going out, but when she asks how I feel about it I say "no baby go" "have fun" "ill be asleep anyway we won't be talking" am I overthinking like crazy or should I trust my gut????

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I feel like a real piece of shit—and I was! And I also know that wallowing in that feeling isn't helpful to the person I hurt (with whom I'll be having an extended break of contact) nor to myself, and I gotta get a grip. Looking for ways to stop myself when I start spiraling in my thoughts and also maybe what to do if I'm concentrating on something else and I notice the guilty feelings creeping up. Thanks!

i don't know if this is where I should be posting, but I could really use some tips or advice.

I know logically that people aren't attacking me when they give criticism, they are trying to help. but I tend to shut down and feel like a failure when they do.

I don't want to blame my childhood for my problems now, but after getting in a fight with my boyfriend I had some reflection about this.

I realized the feelings i struggle with feels very much like when my parents would sit me down and scold me for failing to keep up with chores/schoolwork or for my attitude.

just so much pressure to reach their standards, but I'm just a failure and a disappointment.

I really want to grow into a better person, but I just don't know where to start.

For past few months IAM dealing with some sort of false memory. Few months back I had a thought that earlier in my life I believed that I have done something inappropriate with someone and that thought didn't appeared in my lifetime again. I remember that at that time this was a vague thought but at now at this point in life when it came in to my mind evidences suggested that it didn't happened like I believed earlier it was something less inappropriate and that less inappropriate thing didn't ever poped in my mind too but I definitely know that that less Inappropriate thing happend which resonates with the inappropriate thing, every environmental memory which was linked to my thought about inappropriate thing was present in that less inappropriate act. So I gathered evidences in my mind about this that instead of that inappropriate thing less inappropriate thing happened and I have no memory of that how inappropriate thing happend executed and I imagined different scenarios linked to inappropriate thought and I concluded that it doesn't happened becase that thing was kinda impracticable too.

But what if scenarios keeps popping in my mind that what is that inappropriate thing is true. Secondly since iam overthinking a lot about this thing so the evidence about that I have no memory of this thing , due to overthinking it is erasing the line between real and false memory because I have been continously thinking about this for past many months Thirdly I gathered a evidence since it didn't popped up in my mind in my life so it is false memory but what if scenario arises that what about that thought your thought earlier for example due to which that inappropriate thing thought might have resurfaced earlier.

I hope I have explained well my scenario I am desperate want to come out of this loop and scenarios which is disturbing me a lot I can't sleep I can't focus on my tasks in night I cry a lot due to overthinking and depression. Please please someone help me or share if someone had same experiences.

Everything started 5 months ago when I saw her at uni and started talking to her. Over the summer, we chatted every single day, she told me a lot about herself and so did I. We had great time, even though it was only over internet, because we lived in different cities and we could not get together. She goes to the same Uni as me, and we have a tone of things in common, and when I say it, I MEAN it. She is me and I am her. But this last month was tough. She is holding back, idk why. And it is so frustrating. Firstly, she barely texted, well I always started conversations and it was not a change, that I did not text her for a day and she texted first, I thought this was an amazing sign. But lately, she's been replying to my texts coldly, like she says bare minimum. I went out with her once, but after that, she rejected me 3 times, yea, I know, 3 is way too much. Note that she was acting this way before we went out. She had grate time and so did I. But now, she literally does not text me anymore. I texted her something today, and only thing she said was: "nope". She could have said soo much more, and I know she would do so in the past, but know she chose only that. She is sending mixed signals, Our 109 Tik-Tok streak ended because I did not text her first. I thought she was done with me, but she restored it, like why? I know some might say this is childish but it is not. I genually like her, she is also not type of girl who dates every other boy every other week, and I am feeling bad. If she does not like me, I at least want to know that. I know that not everybody will feel the same as you do towards them, she is very good girl and I genually wish the best for her, but if there is a chance of me being with her, I would take that chance. But if tehre is not, I would at least like to know that, so I can start moving on, because this is eating my brain, and I am too young, there are many things I need to get done. My life will turn over if I do not get this situation sorted out. What would yall recommend, cause I really do not know what to do right now. She with her mixed signals is driving me crazy. oagbipqekgnpiqnfingf.

Thanks for staying <3.

You know that nagging “What if?” feeling that creeps up at the weirdest times? I just read an article that dives into when those everyday jitters are actually waving a big red flag at you. Spoiler: constant anxiety isn’t just “part of adulting.”

The article breaks down some eye-openers, like:

• Why your brain sometimes acts like it’s training for the Anxiety Olympics 🥇
• How it’s not normal for random stress to mess with your sleep, social life, and focus all the time
• Tips on spotting when anxiety is crossing the line and what to do about it before it gets worse

This hit home for me because it’s easy to brush off anxiety as “just stress,” but sometimes, it’s worth taking a closer look. If you’re finding anxiety creeping into every corner of life, this might be a solid read. Here’s the link if you want to check it out!

Link to the Article

I really hope I’m posting this to the right place because I have no idea where else to ask

Anyway, we’ve all heard that when someone is being mean to us or bullying or anything like that, it’s because they’re insecure or jealous of us or something. But I’ve always questioned whether that’s true because I’m personally a very insecure person (about my appearance for example) and there’s times when I’m jealous of other girls (not in a bitter way, more of a I-wish-I-was-like-them kind of way) but I’ve never ever felt the need to bring anyone down because I’m jealous of them or because of my own insecurities so my question is, should we really be shrugging off the hate by telling ourselves that person is jealous or insecure? Maybe they really are being honest and that’s really what they think and it has nothing to do with their own self? Or maybe they themselves don’t realize they’re insecure? I don’t know

I hate everyone. I get pissed looking at people especially girls my age they act so dumb and foolish.

My college roommate was a dumb foolish girl I wanted her to leave so I found a way. She created a huge mess and stank up the entire place. I'm a bad person. I act like a jerk towards others. I am emotionless and I don't feel any empathy for others. I push others away and always have my guard up.

I don't ever show my emotions and if I do I find a way to shut it off right away.

My face is always monotone and I rarely show any expression. I speak in a very harsh and blunt way. I know I have a problem. I am extremely lonely. But I just can't make a friend or let people get close to me.

I’m not going to therapy because I don’t want to make it an official problem. I’m not one of those sad emo kids that mopes around and plays the victim. I’m stronger than that.

Another thing: A lot of people talk about the 48 laws of power. It's a toxic book I know but it will help me forget about my loneliness issue. Is this true? Please help

I graduated high school four years ago, but I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life until later. I started community college at 21M but wasn’t taking it seriously. Now, I’m 23, about to turn 24, and I’m finally on the right path. I know exactly what I want to do, and I’m passionate about it. My only concern is whether I’ll be able to land a job after graduating, as I’ve never had a job in my life before. I also didn’t do that well in school in the past, but I’m currently fixing my GPA. The semester is almost over, and based on how well I’m doing now, I should end up with a GPA around 3.0. I’m hoping this will give me a shot at landing an interview or a job through a co-op or internship.

To give you more context, I’m majoring in software development at a community college that has a great program. From what I’ve heard, a decent number of students land jobs through the program. But I’ve also heard that some students go through the whole curriculum without getting a single co-op or job. That’s what concerns me—whether I’ll even be able to land a job, or if I’ll end up needing more time in college, potentially graduating when I’m 27. I know it’s my own path, and I shouldn’t care about that stuff, but mentally it does affect me. It makes me feel like I wasted my life in the past. I kind of beat myself up about it, and I know I need to work on being kinder to myself.

Currently, I’m taking two online web classes, which aren’t live, so I don’t even get to see or interact with anyone—not even a teacher. I could reach out to them if needed, but I’m mostly home all day since the classes are online. On top of that, I don’t have a driver’s license, so I feel even more isolated.

For the past four years, I’ve essentially been home every single day. I can literally count on one hand the number of times I’ve left the house this year. My daily routine is wake up, study or do schoolwork if needed, play video games, maybe work out a little, and then I’m back at it the next day. I don’t have any friends, and I haven’t had a girlfriend since eighth grade. I also realized the friends I had in high school weren’t really friends, so I’ve been completely isolated for years.

What makes things worse is that I sometimes find myself looking at the social media of people I knew from high school—people I used to like or considered friends. I see them enjoying life, graduating, having careers, starting families, or just living a fun and carefree life. There was even a girl I had a crush on who now owns a successful business and has a kid. I want to stop reminiscing about these people and what’s going on in their lives. I want to move on completely and forget about them because I’m sure they don’t even think about me. Living like this, being home all day and seeing these things, makes me feel like I’m stuck and unable to progress in my own life.

On top of all that, I’ve struggled with a porn addiction in the past, which made me feel even more depressed because I didn’t have any real connection with anyone. It used to be a lot worse, but it’s gotten better. I’ll go long periods without it, but it’s still something I find difficult to completely stop, especially with the way my life is right now—isolated, no friends, no social interactions. I don’t want to feel this way anymore.

I’m tired of living this way. I’m tired of just playing games, scrolling social media, and feeling like I’m wasting my life. I feel like I’ve lost touch with what it’s like to actually interact with people my age, and it’s starting to affect my mental health. I’m not a weird person, and I think I can hold great conversations when I meet people. I’ve even been told I’m good-looking and in shape, so it’s not that I lack confidence—I just don’t know where to start.

I want to meet people, create new connections, and have a more fulfilling life. I’m not looking for long-lasting friendships right away, just the opportunity to meet people consistently and start getting out of this routine. What can I do to improve my situation and make my life more meaningful? I’m productive at home, I study hard, and I take care of myself, but I’m stuck in this loop of never leaving the house or having any social interaction.

Please, any advice would be appreciated. I just want to figure out how to make things better and start living again.

So I have a overwhelming urge, desire, passion to wanna make a impact with my story!! I have a strong message and don’t shy away from any opportunity to share it when asked. I have told my story as a inmate to inmates, was part of the scared straight program as a inmate to high school students headed down the wrong path. I have brought meetings into juvenile correctional facilities and shared my story, and have spoken in rehabs.

I have a powerful message of hope, a message that shows the power of resilience and how unconditional love was everything I needed to turn someday into day one!! I have survived through alot of hard times, I have been in the system since I was 13, hung out with the wrong crowd, started using drugs at a early age, battled substance abuse most my life, have been shot, stabbed, between the age of 25-35 I did 7 1/2 years in jail, joined a prison gang, survived cancer, and out of all that, it was nothing compared to the narcissistic abuse I barely escaped with my life!! I made thru all that for 1 reason, and that’s my son!!

I believe I made it through all that to help others who can relate to anything I share in my story, and I genuinely care about people struggling to hold on, I absolutely love to see people win!! I go into every speaking engagement with the hope that what I have to say registers with just one person, that’s one life that hopefully got talked off the ledge!!

I don’t know how to start, how to make this my life, how to get plugged in with people to make this happen. I’m dying to find a mentor, someone who knows how to push me in the right direction, who will show me the ropes. I don’t have thousands of dollars to spend on this course or that course, I am a single father who is barely getting by, and without help am afraid that I’ll never get a chance to see how impactful my story really is!! I’m not looking for any hand outs, I’m ready and willing to work harder than anything I have ever worked for in my life, none of it would be work, it’s my passion!!

Please if yall can help me out, point me in the right direction, it would mean the world to me and the payout on the investment is well worth it!!

I know people say that they feel lonely. but I am LONELY.

The only people I really have are my parents. My sister doesn't even talk to me she's just doing her own thing. I don't have a single friend. Only a few acquaintances that I talk to once ever month or something. And I'm being honest. I'm in freshman in college right now, everyone my age is going to frats, Halloween parties and even if I wanted to go (which I don't) I don't have anyone to go with.

Sometimes I even go days without talking to a single soul.

I am 18 right now very young. But even in high school I wasted my entire experience. I never went to a single party, a single dance, I didn't even attend prom. And I know I'm wasting my life.

That's why to cope I have delved myself into work. So that I feel like I did something worthwhile with my life and I won't regret anything in the future. I find success in only schoolwork, grades, passion now because i have frankly given up on my social life and friends.

I've just accepted that it's who I am. But every now and then I get sad. I look at other people and get sad.

Please help me

Hey guys. So I don't know if you are familiar with the character Levi Ackerman from the anime Attack on Titan. I have an unhealthy obsession with Levi.

I analyze everything about his personality so I can be like him. I even developed his habits like his stoic demeanor, his badass attitude, and his harsh way of talking to people. I act so closed off as him that I literally pushed all my friends away and now I’m afraid people just see me as a jerk.

I love how he’s so excellent in his field. That’s also what I’m trying to do I’ve kind of became a workaholic now lmao. I dismiss emotions and act very guarded around people it’s hard for me to make friends.

This is become a big habit that I can’t get myself out of.

Levi is so badass and cool. But irl I don’t think his characteristics are helpful But in my eyes I see him as perfect.

In every situation Im in, I think “What would Levi do” because I want to be exactly like him.

Also, I can’t make myself develop feelings for any guy (I am a female) because they just simply can’t compare to Levi EVEN THOUGH HES A GODDAMN FICTIONAL CHARACTER.

It’s becoming a problem that my family thinks I act too masculine and I should be more like a girl. ( I am not lesbian lol)

I know it sounds really weird lol but It is a genuine problem and I don't know what to do.

So I (28M) am a gay man who can’t seem to find the right path to anything in regards to dating. It’s now been 6+ years since I was in a relationship with my last ex, and since then, I have been single who feels like they’re on clearance. My last ex was 19 at the time and I was only 22. We went to the same school together with the same group of friends. Eventually things would take a turn when I noticed he wasn’t keeping any of my promises and wasn’t being too serious about our relationship together. Me and a lot of my friends at the time realized what was happening and it would get to me for the better or worse. I had noticed that he would start getting more and more intoxicated whenever he was in school…much less at his new place. For the record, he moved into a friends apartment who was also the same age as my ex. This was where he took advantage of everything and decided drinking was a fun thing to do, even at home. The promise I had asked him was that he would not drink even if he was in school, regardless of where he was. This was the same promise I kept with my mother since she was also in school full time. She never drank at home while she was studying, and neither did I. Eventually when I heard that he was drinking more and more often, I basically went up to him one morning (and this was a lesson I had learned ever since then as well as the hard way) and basically asked him “Well, which one is it gonna be? Me or the alcohol?” And that’s where things got messy. I eventually learned the hard way that you can’t convince someone who becomes an addict to stop their addiction that fast. He did eventually break up with me through a Facebook Live video. And ever since then I have not been able to open up to a relationship for the sake of trust and honesty.

I’ve never really experienced how it really feels to have a long term partner since then, and I am feeling that fate has a path for me that I am not seeing. Maybe I’m not fit to date, or maybe I’m picky, I don’t know. But any constructive criticism or advice would be appreciated. I can take it…I just need someone, or people, to tell me what I could be doing wrong or what I could do better.

My English is terrible, I don't even know if I can put a page for "private fundraisers" here.

If not, I apologize.

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I am very disgusted at a character trait of myself: I am way too focused on other people. I am very judgmental towards them. For example, in the gym, I constantly find myself watching other people workout and silently criticising their form, choice of exercises. I know that I would be way better off focusing on my own workout but I keep relapsing. Furthermore I‘ve noticed that I can become pretty jealous of other people’s possessions if they have more than I do, even close friends and it scares me that I have these feelings. I am also too concerned about how other people (friends) see me. It even goes that far that I directed a girl that tried to hit on me at the club to approach a friend of mine, because I was afraid of being rejected in front of my friends (yes the girl hit on me, so not really rational).

These are some things I‘d like to improve my character on. Throwaway acc, hope I am using the correct subreddit.

Recently everything seems to be going fine but I just don't feel happy with my life for some reason. It doesn't feel like there's much reason to it all. Everything I seek out to do, everything I try to enjoy, as soon as I try to share it with one of my friends saying "hey i can finally do something!!" they make it sound like anybody can do that and they've also been doing that exact thing every day for the last year.

Like... I love the stuff that's been going on recently. I got a new pc, got a cat, and sure, they do make me a lot happier, but there's still just a void that just doesn't seem to be getting any better no matter what I try.

I just want to be able to feel happy while living my life but I keep getting farther and farther off that goal every day. I don't know what to do anymore so I figured... Why not type something up here and see if there's anything that could help. Thanks for reading.

Ever since I went to college I can literally go 1 to 2 days without eating. And many times I'll only eat one to two things a day. I didn't really care before but I recently went to the dentist and found out I need a root canal. Literally went to the dentist before college and had perfect teeth, so I think my diet might be apart of the problem. How do I fix this?

During my second semester of sophomore year of college(I’m currently a junior)I transferred schools. School A wasn’t a competitive university, it was mediocre at best. School B is known as one of the most difficult and competitive universities in the country, due to there being no curves at all. In fact, our school was notorious for having a high suicide rate for a very long time.

Before I transferred, it seemed like my life was finally coming together. I was a consistent deans list student, I was physically fit, and my relationship (even though it was long distance) was smooth. Now that I’ve transferred, it seems like all of those things have just 180ed. I’m barely a C student, I have 0 motivation to go to class, I haven’t gone to the gym consistently in months and my relationship seems like it’s falling apart. I ended up changing majors because I realized that the major I was doing wasn’t really for me. I got into this massive fight with my family, where they basically said we won’t pay for your college if you change your major. I eventually convinced them, but the overall experience has just left me distrusting.

I don’t regret transferring, but it’s just been an uphill battle since with things like motivation and consistency. The issue isn’t a lack of goals, because I have a lot of them (and maybe they’re unrealistic even), but it’s the motivation aspect that’s killing me. I recently got ADHD tested, so I thought that was the issue. If I took the medication, it might decrease my motivation issues, so when I tested positive, I was fairly relieved. I expected myself to go back to being the deans list student I was.

It is now late October, and I am sitting here with low grades, 10 lbs heavier than I was before, and just overall disappointed in myself.

To be honest I don’t know why I’m writing this, I never thought I’d be one of those people to just pick up their phone and vent on Reddit. I just feel so lost and clueless. I tell myself that I need to do x,y, and z to succeed, and in the moment I’ll really take it in. But when it comes to action, it’s just nothing.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? I feel as though I’m out of options and will just be mediocre for the rest of my life.

Is this bipolar or just mood swings?

I have taken a few online tests to see if I have signs of bipolar. And they say I’m borderline. But I want to know what it’s like. Because one thing that happens to me is that in the morning, I’ll be extremely annoyed pissed off and just under the weather. I’ll say things to my parents if they r infront of me and it makes them hurt.And then less than an hour later im feeling guilty and I feel the urge to send messages of “I’m sorry” but then the cycle repeats every single day. Or things like I’ll get angry all of a sudden at my sibling and then less than a minute later I’m thinking this is too much and then I go and act normal and want to play with him as a way to “cancel” out the bad I’ve done. Is this even bipolar? I’m sorry if it’s not and I don’t come as a way to mock people diagnosed with it but I genuinely want to figure out if I am bipolar or if this is just some other problem. Any help would be appreciated.

Title basically says it all. I'm 20yrs old and i struggle so much with decision making, to the point where it's become a source of depression. When presented with options like who to go see today or what to do today I never know whether to follow my gut feeling, or follow what logically makes sense, or follow what makes me happiest etc. for example today I've decided not to go see some friends whom I had a scheduled thing with because I wanna sort out some stuff at my home but then I wonder if i made the right choice and stuff. So yeah any advice would be great. I just can't decide how to live my life and it's eating away at me every day.

Hey everyone! 👋 If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably read your fair share of “anxiety tips” that sound nice in theory but don’t really do much in practice. I just stumbled upon this article on Medium, and it’s honestly refreshing because it dives into tips that are backed by science — no fluff, just genuinely helpful stuff. Here’s the link if you want to check it out: 10 Anxiety Tips That Actually Work

What I really liked about it:

1. Grounding Techniques That Really Work 🌎: Forget the usual “just breathe” advice. It gets into practical ways to ground yourself in the present.
2. Why Your Diet Can Make a Difference 🥑: Some foods can actually help ease anxiety (no magic cures, just manageable changes).
3. The Power of Micro-Habits 🧩: These aren’t major lifestyle overhauls — just small, doable habits that can bring relief.
4. Mindfulness for Non-Meditators 🧘‍♂️: Not everyone’s into meditation, but this breaks down realistic ways to be more mindful in day-to-day life.

I tried out a couple of these already, and I have to say, I’m seeing some small but positive changes. 🙌 Just thought I’d share this in case anyone else is looking for practical strategies that actually make a difference! What’s one anxiety tip that’s helped you the most?

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I’ve been at my current job for 5 months. It’s fully remote, good pay, good benefits. It’s honestly the perfect job but I still feel major imposter syndrome. I have little experience in corporate work culture, zoom meetings, presenting, etc. I’ve also grown more and more anxious in the past few years and being in a new work environment has made me even more anxious. When I get on zoom meetings, I feel very awkward trying to jump into conversation with coworkers. When I’m asked to speak, I get super anxious and stutter or talk in circles. I feel like I’ve gotten better w/ client meetings where I’ve perfected ‘my script’ so to speak. But I still often second guess myself and find myself over-analyzing everything I said. I have 1-1s weekly with my manger and she’s never brought anything negative up about my performance. I often ask for feedback but overall just get positive or non-descriptive feedback. I’ve gotten positive feedback from coworkers at times but I’m mostly left to myself to do my job. This week, the 3 managers from our department went for an onsite meeting. Every week, we have an internal meeting for our department of about 15 people. My manager asked me yesterday if I could host the meeting today in their absence. I wanted to say no but felt I didn’t have a choice, so I agreed. I feel like I talked in circles and embarrassed myself in front of my coworkers. I was so nervous I feel like I just rambled and didn’t present any of the information that well. It shouldn’t have been a big deal but I haven’t been able to get it off my mind. I started to think maybe my manager picked me to host the meeting because she knows I’m shy or some other negative reason. I hate that I can’t objectively observe myself and always focus on the negative. Is this normal to feel like this at a new job/career? How can I feel less anxious and more confident?

I (20M) know that my long relationship is about to end. And the pain of feeling so good and so loved by someone to only feeling hurt is killing me. I have no friends and I have no one there to love me the way she did. I feel so lost and empty. Just before writing this I tried praying, praying for anything. I haven’t prayed in years. She has someone in her life and has feelings for him and I’m currently in the worst mental state and can’t be there the way she needs. I know we are going to end things or she is going to cheat on me. It’s inevitable. There is no fixing it, only prolonging it. I’m scared that I have no one to be vulnerable with. And the thought of her being with someone else and being intimate kills me. I’m already in outpatient and still I feel so alone. I need anyone. This is my own cry for help. If we do breakup I truly don’t know what to do. I don’t know if emotionally I’ll ever recover. I wanted to marry her. To whoever finds this I am so sorry you came across this. If someone has found out how to get over someone you can’t let go and had a whole future with. Please I need anything. I’m scared, alone, and I just want some kind of comfort but all I’ve been getting are hard truths. I’m not strong enough and have nothing to fall back on. Writing this is like somehow trying to find someone to help me, or someone to guide me. We took each other’s virginity. She was my first for everything. I don’t know if I’ll ever be loved the way she loved me. And I am someone who needs someone there to love. I have so many physical needs. I need someone who will be here for me mentally and someone to hold, have sex, and idk. I don’t fucking know what I’m even writing at this point. Please, to whoever can help. I will take anything.

so i never really use reddit so i dont know if im doing this right but i want to expain my situation

pretty much i have a massive fear of losing my partner by her yk ending it

in the past she has had many attempts to do so but she hasnt attempted anything in a few months now she has many mental issues for example bpd along with many others but she can very quickly change from being extremely happy to not wanting to live iykwim but i get massive anxiety which more times then not leads up to panic attacks and me constanly listening for her breathing on a facetime call or when she moves etc

but i was wondering how i could better manage myself to try stop having this anxiety feeling and to help both of us work towards a happier and more sustainable life

I started working out around today, but I know I will cut myself. Will it interfere with my work out if I do it, and workout after? Maybe I'm on the wrong sub reddit. I just need someone's input on this