I got invited to a potluck at a friend’s house, and I’m getting a ride from another friend who has plans to go somewhere else after dropping me off. The problem is, she can only drop me off 30 minutes early before she needs to head to her own event.

Is it acceptable for me to ask the event host if I can arrive early? If so, what’s the best way to ask? Would it be better to just take a walk around the neighborhood for those 30 minutes?

For Context: Yesterday I was scrolling pinterest and saw an image of ww2 solders reading a newspaper that reads "Hitler Alive". I remember this because I thought it was suppost to be something related to propaganda or something. Anyway, I went on there today and saw the same image but it reads Hitler dead. Apparently this image is very popular, and I havent seen it before seeing the "original" image. It doesnt appear in my activity either. This got me a little worked up, and i was thinking about fake memories and how they form. This is not the first time its happened, either. I get deja vu very often, but this was totally different, almost reversed if that makes sence. Alot of other weird things have happened too that i still cant get over (constanly anxious or not and checking if they were real)

I have in the past spiralled about things that are outside of my control, like the thought that we are simulated, fake conspiracies, etc, Including this time. I have been told by many people that I exhibit signs of ocd because of my constant obsession and checking with these topi, however I cant do anything about that atm.

What do you do when unexplainable events happen? Should you just accept it or ask why? idk what to do, so any advice would be awesome :))

Recently my parents have been trying to prepare me food for work. All we have is taco stuff so my dad was making me a burrito right as I was about to leave.

I saw him touch the fridge handles to open the door and then touch the tortillas and it made me not want to eat anymore. I didn’t like the fact that he touched the handles everyone touches without washing his hands and it ruined my appetite to eat what he made me.

The same thing repeated today and it’s kind of pissing me off. I point it out and they just say “I just washed my hands” but I still refuse to eat it because I can’t get the idea out of my head that it’s gross. I know I open the fridge many times a day and I never wash my hands before doing so and neither does anyone else.

I feel like I may be overreacting but I don’t know what to do. I don’t think my parents will listen to me.

Edit: thanks for the responses, I’ve heard all possibilities. I’m just going to bring it up in therapy and try to prepare my own food.

• major body issues
• jealousy issues
• maladaptive daydreaming
• motivation issues / excessive sleeping
• depressive tendancies
• anxiety / social phobia
• struggle playing games due to fear of being judged by opponents/teammates
• unable to watch new things / anime due to a sinking feeling in my chest

I've been struggling with these things for as long as i can reremember and its finally getting to a point where its growing harder and harder to deal with.

(This is copy and pasted from a previous post of mine, but I don't want to rewrite this again just to spew the same information, so I'm copy and pasting it. I'm not a bot, just a lazy person.)

I tried to make the title a little ambiguous so it'd peak the interest of some people, so that's why it might not make some sense haha. But here's a brief rundown of what the title means.

When the pandemic first started, I was halfway through fifth-grade, and I turned twelve that year. And when the pandemic started, late 2019, my mother enrolled me into homeschooling. This had happened before, as I got homeschooled halfway through second-grade and all of third-grade. During that brief period, I was taught nothing, and my mom let me sit and do whatever I went for that little over a year period. I wasn't signed up for any clubs or extracurricular activities. It was just me being alone at my house the entire time. And it didn't help my family never goes out either. I was never taken out to eat, driven to a cool place to have fun, or anything like that, and I never had. It was just more apparent when I didn't have school to distract me.

This was all my experience of being homeschooled from 2nd-to-3rd-grade. And I'm homeschooled now and have been since 5th-grade, and it's been the exact same situation, but I'm old enough now to know what's happening. Currently, I have absolutely zero friends (there's an exception, but we'll get to that later), I'm never taken out to go anywhere, and any plans my parents have ever made to take me out to places always gets cancelled or forgotten about.

This is what my mother wants, and it's for two reasons:

1. She believes that public school will indoctrinate me into a gay, transgender, liberal, neo-Nazi. She's a giant conspiracy theorist nut.
2. I'm her youngest son, and she's afraid of being alone, so she's forcing me to be with her as much as possible and trying to develop this forced relationship between me and her.

I'm incredibly alone and feel empty. I don't feel that I'm a real human being, and I feel disconnected from the world like I'm a spectator. There's nothing that genuinely makes me excited, as I've had zero human interaction in the past four-years. But I did mention earlier how there was an exception to this. I've become good friends with my brother's girlfriend's sister, her name is -- let's say -- Shiv. I first met her when Texas was getting hit super hard by hurricanes a couple months ago, and though we didn't talk to each other, I later got her social media, and me and her became pretty good friends. She invites me to places pretty regularly, and it's safe to say that that's the one thing I look forward to every day, whether it be just texting her, calling her, or going out to some café with her. It makes me happier than any drug could.

It's also important to keep in mind that education wise, I'm kinda boned. It's incredibly difficult for me to stick to educating myself on things schools would teach on my own without some type of punishments if I don't. I actually enjoyed being forced to go to school, as it made me enjoy it, as weird as that sounds. But now, there isn't anything that's making me learn about math other than myself, and I find it incredibly boring and exhausting to do, as I can't sit still and do that when there's a million other things I could be doing, like listening to music while laying down in bed. And because I haven't been taught anything, when it comes to math, I'm at the skill level of a fifth grader, when I should be in high school. I educate myself on things I like, like history, religion, English, etc.

And I'll answer some common questions here that people ask:

1. Have you ever told your mom you want to go back to school?

Many times. We have gotten into a lot of arguments, and she'll refuse to ever let me go to school.

2. Have you gotten CPS involved?

Yes. My brother called CPS, which forwarded him to the truancy office, which forwarded him to the school district, who said they couldn't do anything. I have also emailed the police, who said that what my parents are doing isn't illegal. So legally, can't do anything there.

I got into a slight heated argument with my grandma and my great aunt, because I also struggle with cleaning everything and over-washing my hands, I told them that they don't understand how it feels to be on my shoes and how im doing all the cleaning, but now I feel bad for yelling at them, but I'm also struggling on apologizing to them because I always had to apologize for unfair reasons, such as either defending myself or my grandma verbally, and one time I had to apologize because I got mad over something that I'm not really comfortable describing, even my grandma understands how I felt, it drives me angry every time I think of it, but does anyone have any advice on what do I do?

Looking to have some customs made because of plantar fasciitis. Insurance won't cover, obviously, so I have to pay for them myself and I don't want to waste $200+ because I chose a bad brand. So, if you've ever had custom Insoles made and you have any advice, I'd appreciate it.

Just asking, because here's the thing: either I'm usually too sympathetic, or I'm just surrounded by disregarding people. An example where this was brought to light happened two days ago.

We had a lecture with a professor who wasn't very capable of controling the class, especially not when an outburst happened. That day, we had a visit from a supervisor, and I could tell she noticed the professor's incapability. After the class was over, I spotted said professor looking distressed as the supervisor told her something, which, to me, signalled red light. I wasn't really paying attention to what I said, so it slipped that I feel bad for the professor because she's probably in trouble now. A colleague of mine was close-by and heard me say that, so she looked at me in confusion and went like "...I don't care".

That's just one time, because on numerous occasions, the same thing happened, and it was always a different person.

The question is: is ut possible to be too sympathetic? And if so, how do I know that applies to me?

The long and short of it goes like this:

My sister in laws boyfriend got DUI #4 in April; this is a felony charge. He has been living in a halfway house since June after finishing a 30 day rehab program.

His final pre-trial date is coming up next week and if nothing is agreed upon there, it will go to trial.

He got DUI #4 (felony charge) mere months after proceedings finished for #3; in line with the timing of my husband and I welcoming our first child. I say that to mention that emotions were heightened and we were forced to look at it thru the lens of parents now.

I’m very hung up and torn about how to feel. Part of me feels disgusted by him and all of my in-laws for wanting to “save him” - I feel like there is no true accountability and that he did the rehab and the halfway house to try and make the courts go easy on his sentencing. The other part of me wonders why I’m looking down on him and judging him so harshly.

If things go in his favor, he will come off of house arrest next week and will begin attending family dinners and events of that nature. When this all came about in April, I took a hard stance that if he was there, my unit would not be.

Sigh. Any advice?

I (13M) have the flu! Its not a major one, just bad enough that its hard for me to think well and near impossible for me to breathe through my nose.

Yesterday, a thanksgiving dinner was hosted by my aunt, we couldn't not go, so i was instructed by my uncle (in a joking way, he isn't a ah) to 'drink lots of juice and eat lots of fruit' which i did as soon as i went home cause, guess what: i don't want this thanksgiving to be the thanksgiving where i sneezed all over the turkey, or gave my toddler cousin a nasty flu.

Now its the next day. I requested to take today off from school because i hadn't gone to school the day before last, i got better, i went to school yesterday, it got worse, maybe its correlation not causation, but im seeing a pattern here.

But now they're claiming i need to go to school, cause 'i was fine at the party' and that ill just take medicine and go. Minor problem though, the nurse already gave me medicine. twice.

I told them this, told them its against policy to knowingly bring a sick and non recovering child to school, and that i have classes in the open cold (for 3 hours!), all true things, but they still won't budge. Either they think im lying, or they don't care is my guess.

I have a meeting with (different) cousins tomorrow, and i really don't want to be as sick as i am

Now i don't know what to do. I know if I go to school, it'll get worse, I've bothered the school nurse enough and if i do again, she may just report me.

What do i do?

TLDR:. Im really sick and everything is saying i shouldn't go to school, but my parents insist i should, what do i do?

Note: for further explanation, i don't LOOK sick, i just really am.

I stopped smoking weed and got broken up with a few days ago, and now i can’t eat. im averaging maybe half a full meal a day, sometimes nothing. i’ve just completely lost my appetite and i don’t have the urge to eat. it’s killing me coz i have no energy to do things and i feel lightheaded all the time. i’ve tried eating things but i only get about two bites in until i physically can’t eat anymore. how do i get my appetite back?

I am getting 4 wisdom teeth removed(third molars),cavities filled and extraction of decaying teeth.

What should I do? I am 27.

I’m 20 years old. I would like to achieve multiple things like buy a used car, travel, start a pressure washing business, and learn about real estate investing. How can I do all of these things when I work 30 hours a week, go to the gym, I do college online. It’s really hard trying to do it all. Like mange time manage, and plan for the future. It causes me stress because I try to please everyone.

I'm 19 years old, and last year, I stopped attending CEGEP(pre-university in Quebec) in the middle of my third semester in the accounting and management program without telling anyone, not even the school. I was fed up and realized I was only doing it because of pressure from my father to choose the program without taking whether i'll be happy in consideration. In high school, I wasn't sure what I wanted to do, and all I associated school with was anxiety. I often avoided assignments and left them to the last minute. Since last fall I pretended to go to school by just leaving the house and coming back on the meantime.

I considered trying dropshipping after a friend introduced me to it so i could become financially independent, but I couldn’t even motivate myself to follow through on it, and I kept pushing projects off. I haven’t found a part-time job yet, and honestly, I avoid social situations because I always feel insecure about my appearance and have often felt like an outsider.

Looking back, I suspect I might have ADHD, which could explain my tendency to avoid work, my anxiety around school, and how easily I get distracted or hyperfixated on things. I want to go back to school, but I’m worried that my R-score is ruined after failing that semester. This time, I want to pursue something I actually enjoy and build a secure career, but I’m not sure how to start.

31 yr old been trying to make my way into the tech field I have been struggling a lot with a career but tech seems like something that I actually enjoy I like the challenge of it I know it is a rapidly changing field I have started watching prof messers videos on the subject have bought the huge A plus book and the audiobook and have been studying it like like a wildfire but lately I have been feeling so much doubt about it and the people who are close to me keep saying go into a trade but I already work a warehouse job where I feel exhausted at the end of the day so any advice if I should keep going or if it’s worth it ?

the title is pretty straightforward but for some back ground info, my boyfriend and i can’t afford our rent because his car needs $6k worth of work done. his parents invited us to stay with them before they moved to mississippi. they planned to leave a few months later than expected so we could get on our feet but in the past week they suddenly decided that they want to move in the beginning of january. after we talked about two weeks ago about us moving in the beginning of december. they have already found a house they’re interested.

my other option is to move to florida where my parents and sister live, so i’d have some family. but id have no healthcare and my mom refuses to even acknowledge my health problems. she’s narcissistic and has gaslit me for years.

i’m finally getting help after 3 years of struggling with disabling chronic illness and mental illnesses. i dont qualify for disability and i dont have access to a lawyer so my boyfriend completely supports me. not to mention he has to miss work because he has to drive me to appointments, as well as his own. which he won’t even be able to do if he doesn’t get his car fixed soon.

my family where i live now is broke and all they do is talk shit behind each others back. even if they wanted to help me, they can’t. i’m absolutely terrified for my future. after struggling for so long i thought i was getting a break. it took me 3 years to find good doctors that actually helped me and now i’m going to be in a worse position than i was before

im 22, paralegal associates, law bachelor (thesis pending). i have a job already but i dont get enough money to survive, i live with mybf and he makes half of what i make, we have a lil debt and we both work, he tried getting a different job but hes having trouble finding one. ive been sending CV for MONTHS and still no job to be found. i work and study but i still have from 3 to 5 free hours daily that i wish i could spend working (remotely), Im also open to relocation but it would have to be a well paying job instead cause i would need to leave my current position.

So, I’ve been wanting a job for awhile now, I applied at the start of this month and every time I would check back it would say that my application was under review, after a few weeks it would say the same thing so i kinda just stopped looking at it because my previous jobs declined me or wouldn’t respond back to me so I was sure I got ghosted. Turns out today I checked and i can schedule an interview! But the thing is, I wasn’t sure if I applied for part time or full time, I can’t double check, and in the time while I was waiting, I was getting ready for college, I start in December and I have to go to college on December 2nd for my advisor, should I schedule my interview beforehand or should I go to it AFTER, because I want to be able to have a schedule that’ll work with my (potential) job just in case and college. I’m meeting up with the advisor to talk about my college schedule so I don’t even have that figured out yet

I have been dealing with fat arms for the LONGEST time, I lose weight everywhere on my body except my arms. I’m talking about yearS of workouts and gym, that still don’t show any signs of fat loss on my arms, and I recently heard of this thing, tho I just wanna know what I need to be prepared for, something that people don’t tell you about.

So I’m in the process of interviewing for a new job. I currently work at Home Depot (it’s no secret if you look at my post & comment history) but I desperately wanted to get out, so I applied to a local bank chain at the recommendation of a friend & former coworker who currently works there. I just had an initial phone interview on Monday, which I guess I did okay on, but now I’m going to have a virtual 1-hour with 3 managers from that branch coming up soon. It was suggested I have some questions for them.

What kind of things should I be asking them, and how do I better answer when they ask what made me want to work there? (I kept things vague the first time & mentioned that I felt it was time for me to move on from HD & how my friend suggested I apply there.)

Hello everyone. Lately, I don't know what the hell is wrong with me at all. I just feel something has left me. One day, I was thinking about some stressful thoughts about me feeling like a worthless human being for being so incompetent in life and it felt like I mentally broke for some reason. I felt immense shame and then this happened suddenly. I don't know exactly what is wrong with me for sure but it feels like something left me. My very essence of morality and what is right or wrong has just left me. It's like some type of entity or being is taking over my body and possessing my soul, making me to do and think things that I don't normally think. It's like it's controlling my very essence and mind and state of my being or something. I don't make certain decisions on time and when people are talking to me, I feel out of touch. I don't respond immediately. My thought process and my normal way of thinking about things are severely distorted in a way that I don't normally think of thing in the same way of how it is.

I feel like my mind is way too confused and I can't form coherent thoughts and make real decisions except the same basic routines that I always do everyday and all the time. It's like I can't form new ideas and decisions to make or even have a free conscious of choice and thought. I also can't feel things strongly like I used to. I really can't feel good dopamine or even cheap pleasure like I used to in the past. I feel way too numb to things and even fear, when I am in serious danger sometimes. I can feel very little ounces of pleasure and satisfaction. It's crazy that this is happening. I feel like doing the first thing that comes to my mind all the time without second thought but then later, my senses come back to me. It's like I am stuck in some trance and I do it immediately, without second thought and then my normal regular self starts to reflect on it. It's like I can't think twice at once, which makes no damn sense.

I feel like something is seriously disconnected from me or that I am losing some kind of sense with what is going on with me in my mindset. It's like I have the opposite desires and the opposite feelings to what I feel. This all started on November 14th, and intensified to a greater level. I don't know what to do and why this keeps getting worse. I feel like I am someone else and thinking their own thoughts and having their identity and then the next time, I am myself but only operating on a very small conscious version of who I really am. Can someone help me?

I own a home that is rented out since I got married and moved in with my husband a couple years ago. We live in the same building as a smoker. I am pregnant, due in February. The smoker is not going to stop smoking so I feel the need to move for the safety of my child, and obviously since I own a place already, that’s the best place for us to go. Baby due in February + needing to give a 30 day eviction notice means I would need to notify the tenant by the end of the month that they need to be out in 30 days…. How evil am I? I feel so bad…. Right before Thanksgiving and Christmas to add this stress to them. But I need to think about my unborn child and it’s not safe here…. The risk of SIDs is astronomically higher with second hand smoke. I have been putting it off because of the guilt I feel to the tenant. Although, they are a single man with no kids who lives alone (in his 50s) so it’s not like an entire family but still…. I need advice. Which is worse, serving him an eviction days before the holiday (he’d have til Jan 1 to move) or possibly causing harm to my baby by staying here?

Also, this tenant is on a month to month lease so yes I can 100% legally end the lease as long as I provide 30 day notice.

I honestly don't understand what is wrong with me. I can internalize that I shouldn't care about what other people think of me, but I always end up caring if certain people were to find out and what they would think of me as a result of the name change. Is this some permanent mental hardwiring I have from my ancestors? Or can I somehow overcome feeling weird about it? There seems to be NO shift in my perspective where I can get past this mental block of caring about others opinions in this specific context. I'm apparently absolutely incapable of talking about this with anyone too as I have this weird "worst case scenario" situation in my head all the time where I'll lose emotional control and not be able to have a coherent conversation about it (even though that's never happened before). I'm wondering what a therapist or psychologist could even tell me that would be useful in shifting my perspective on this issue. I feel like my secret is the weirdest thing someone has thought about. I just want someone to be able to explain to me why I think this way and make sense of my weird brain. And no, for those wondering, my real name isn't "dick piano"

I lay in bed all day except for breakfast,snack,lunch,snack,dinner,and snack,shower time and when I go out in the afternoon.

I lay in bed and doomscrolling all day until I go to sleep.

What can I do?

I am a student, 2nd year under grad and I feel hopeless, I asked once before in this subreddit about ways to focus on studies. I have a major addiction to video games, mangas, light novels etc... Nowadays, I feel oversaturated, I dont even want to read or play, most of the time im just reading novels but its all mindlessly, I dont want to read but i continue to read, its honestly tiring.

Its exam week and I cannot focus on my studies, I know what to do exactly, get my sh*t together and study but I feel too listless and tired.

I sleep at 4am get up at 8 for classes, I cannot sleep earlier even if I am tired, just endlessly scroll YT shorts. I feel like im cooked.

I’m in a tough spot, and I really need some advice.

Over the weekend, I was hanging out at my friend’s house, and we made a questionable decision: we started playing volleyball indoors. (I know, dumb idea—trust me, I’m already kicking myself for it.) Things got out of hand when I lost control of the ball. It went flying into a shelf, sending my friend’s dad’s priceless sand collection crashing to the floor. He’d spent years gathering sand from beaches, deserts, and special places all over the world. Each little jar had a story behind it, and now most of them are shattered, with the sand scattered everywhere. My friend’s dad hasn’t yelled or anything, but the look on his face was devastating. I apologized profusely and cleaned up, but that doesn’t change the fact that these were irreplaceable. I’ve already told myself to make things right, but I don't know where to begin.

What can I do to make things right? Should I try to start replacing some of the sand jars by finding samples online or collecting new ones? Would that seem disrespectful or like I’m minimizing his loss? Or is there another way I can show him how sorry I am and that I genuinely want to make amends? I know I messed up big time, and I want to do everything I can to make it right. Any advice is appreciated!

TL;DR: Played volleyball indoors, lost control of the ball, and broke my friend’s dad’s sand collection from around the world. How can I make amends for destroying something so sentimental?

I am interested in almost everything and I am absolutely torn apart by this. I can barely focus on learning something because I am always attracted to something else I could have been exploring. I do have a main area which I focus on and devote most of my time to since I am a university student, but outside of university this issue persists. This trait of mine is also suggested by my natal chart.

A good advice could have been to find enough discipline to persistently work through something, but I already have something to focus on at uni. I want to study stuff outside of uni, something that would be more relaxing and fun.

I mean even within my major at university I cant specialize in anything because I want to explore other areas and so I am studying a mix of things. While this is not necessarily bad, it would certainly be easier to focus on something particular, and eventually I will have to do it since I want to go into a PhD.

If I decide to focus on something and forget about everything else, I will feel like I am not whole and I am not fulfilling my destiny and astrological/archetypal qualities. If I don't focus I end up jumping around different things and never fully focusing on something.

There has been a gazillion instances of this happening ever since I have been out of the womb. Honestly, running after cheap dopamine is what made me so far behind in life. I am severely disappointed in myself and never really was proud. I am insecure about myself and have no internal validation system.

I am trying to incorporate small habits that would compound to overturn my life. I am trying to eat better. I have lost a lot of weight this year thanks to religiously training. However, I did have to pause because now I am in University. I am open to bulking because I have a the figure of a child (I am short). I am genuinely trying to take action for change.

However, what is the biggest challenge I am facing, is the fact that I too often forget the journey I am on. I compare myself with other people my age who are much more skilled than I am. I succumb to short term pleasure over long term cemented success, and above all, I let emotions lead the way rather than logic. How may I seriously be able to tackle all this? Please, if anyone could be able to help me in the smallest way possible, and let me attain at least something that could make me happy about myself, I would be forever obliged.

I was at work and accidentally stepped on one of the tube lightbulbs that was on the foor. I was told that they were LED but I'm very sceptical that they were, since when i stepped on it it seened to release like gas into the air a couple of moments after (and the person would probably just say that so I can clean it up). I cleaned it up immediently wth my bare hands and a dustpan (as I was told they were LED), but now I'm kinda spiraling. Can anyone know what to do next? Do I have risk of cancer or desease later on? Should I see a doctor?

Any answers are greatly appreciated :))

I've been having so many weird dreams lately and I've woken up at 3-4 AM for so long that I lost count now, but it's probably like 8 or 9 days in a row. When I wake up from them, most of the time I really don't wanna go back to bed and I just stay up most of the time, which is leading me to lose sleep. Does anyone have any advice on how to stop having these weird, vivid dreams or how to get better at falling back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, especially after a bad dream?