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My fiance and I plan to have kids in the near future. He has an older brother with complex ASD (non verbal, needs full support at home) and a younger sister who is undiagnosed but has many many traits. My fiance is not affected, nor is his mum or dad.

I don’t have any ASD in my family to my knowledge.

I guess what I’m asking is… what are the chances my kid/kids will have autism with this genetic factor? I’ve read that the chances are a lot higher which is super worrying to me. I plan to have all my kids before 30 years old if that helps.

My birthday is in about a week and I am planning on inviting a couple friends to a birthday dinner that I am paying for. I need help on how to word the invitation. I want it to just be a simple text. Also wondering if it would be considered rude to just send a group text to everyone, or if I should text each person individually?

I'm acoustic and I have the worst sensory issues with countless things, but the worst is makeup and hair that won't behave. I have TWO cowlicks (one on my hairline and one at the back) and i can never have my hair look good! If it ever looks good its only either tied up or let down, I can never have it look good in both. I'm horrifically annoyed with my hair and acne but I hate using products in my hair or makeup. I need glow up tips asap because this is making me feel like I'm unsalvageable at this point.

I get really loud whenever I get excited about the things I do inside my dorm. I also like to tap on the desk and play instruments like the kalimba or guzheng (basically a lot of my stims involve auditory input/output).

Recently, my roommate asked me to be a bit more quiet throughout the day. She told me something along the lines of..."I know you tend to get loud when you're excited, and that's okay. I ask that you be a bit mindful about your volume". She's super sweet and asked about it nicely, but I couldn't bring myself to lie by saying I'd be more quiet. I instead told her, "I can't guarantee that I'll be quiet, but I'll be more mindful".

My roommate likes to study at the library and is busy throughout the week, so she's rarely in the dorm. However, this is still her dorm and she deserves a comfortable space just as much as me. But what can I do? The dorm is the only place I can comfortably stim in. Most of my stims involve some level of noise except for the guzheng, which I play through an app with my earphones on. I experience physical pain whenever I try to withhold my stims for too long. Sometimes, I become very irritable. I never told her about my diagnosis and I'd like to keep it hidden from her. What should I do?

Anyone hear this a lot while they were younger? I've been reflecting on it a lot lately.

Like yes my special interest was calculus for most of high school but no I was never "smart" enough to realize my pen clicking /loud talking/ interrupting annoyed people so much 🫠

Since the day I first tried it, I’ve always found soda overwhelming. It burns and I honestly don’t see how people enjoy it. It’s like torturing your tongue just for the sake of it. Who agrees and why do people drink it? I like Hi-C because it tastes like Crush or Fanta without the carbonation. What’s your fave drink?

Neurotypical- idk if this might work out

Neurodivergent- I’m all in, it is so cool, I can sell my special interest, making ppl appreciate the depth of my insights about the industry!!!

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I told someone who had trouble eating enough food they were lucky and still think they are. They acted like I committed some kind of crime and were so upset. I struggle with obesity and can’t seem to lose weight. If I had the type of autism where you don’t eat enough food I wouldn’t have these issues.

I wish I would develop an eating disorder and puke all my food out instead of needing to eat so much food to stay full. I wish I had the opposite issue and people who do I find lucky.

Being super thin doesn’t come with the health issues being obese does and it’s so hard to lose weight after you weigh so much. People who have an issue getting enough food don’t realize how many people wish they had that issue. This to me makes them lucky but when I say this people act like it’s so rude. It’s not intended to be rude and people make it into something it isn’t .

I just grow tired reading how many autistic people struggle to get enough calories and how then they are and wish I was that way. Why did I have to get the binge eating and asked being starving autism when some people don’t even like food.

How was everyone’s week?

Having autism as a young teen guy is hard. Im what people might say “higher functioning”, so i dont really tell people cause they never really notice or care. Day to day life, im fine. Life goes by, ive learnt to play my strengths and weaknesses. However, on the days where everythings too much (especially sensory wise) its hard to hide it. I know a lot of people might say “oh you dont have to hide it” and all that, but being in my late teens AND a guy, its a lot easier said than done.

I know my mates that know im autistic dont think of me differently, but i just cant brinng myself to be open like that when it comes to struggles. I dont want them to look at me as some delicate thing, and i feel like i lose a sense of my “manhood” when i talk about those things. Dont get me wrong, if it was anyone of my mates coming to me about the same issues i have, i would support them no matter what and wouldnt think any less of them, but it just feels different for me.

Just had to get that out there, something thats been weighing on me a bit but yeah thanks for reading if you did.

Like the title said. Right now I'm having imposter syndrome really bad (even though I'm diagnosed) because i was talking to my uncle and he mentioned how he's confused about how loud noises bother me so bad because in 2023, I was going to loud rock concerts and standing there in crowds for 3 hours at a time without having a meltdown.

I know, now that I have a diagnosis of AuDHD, that I was hyperfixated on the local band that I was going to see. I remember still being nervous, sweaty, uncomfortable, but it felt worth it to be able to engage with my interest so closely and enjoy the music.

I would just stand there in the exact same spot for the entire three hours not dancing or moving, maybe bopping my head and smiling to try and appear less like a freak just standing still in the middle of an otherwise lively and dancing crowd.

I always remember having to lay down for several hours after the fact, recharging and recovering from the experience even if I had fun because I got to spend 3 hours immersed in my interest.

Is anyone else like this? Like you can sometimes push through things that would otherwise send you into a meltdown for the sake of your special interest/hyperfixation?

It's making me have that terrible imposter syndrome where my brain is telling me that I'm faking it even though I know I'm not, that what I feel and experience is very real and that I'm diagnosed by a psychiatrist. I feel like hearing other Autistic and especially AuDHD perspectives on this would help.

I'm 17 and I really want to get get a job so I can buy stuff to do with my special interest but I already struggle with going to school and keeping my grades up. How do I work at the same time? When I get home I can barely do anything but doom scroll and I'm pretty good at masking and pretending I'm not overstimulated but I don't think that would help my mental health. I live in a small town too so I'm afraid of seeing people I know in public. Idk if any of this made sense but any advice would be great.

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I really want something I can wear all the time to reduce or eliminate noise.

Unfortunately, they have to be a rather specific type:

• I have very physically sensitive ears too, so on/over-ear options don't work. Also, they make my ears too hot.
• They can't be "true wireless", because those things don't stay in my ears, are too easy to lose, and inevitably have low battery life because they literally just don't have anywhere to put enough battery. Neckband-style earbuds are the only option that actually works for me.

It seems like neckband-style in-ear earbuds of any type have gone out of fashion and just aren't being made anymore? But if anyone has any good suggestions, I'd immensely appreciate it.

I've seen a decent amount online about the Dual Driver ANC Pro by 1More, but I can't actually find anywhere to buy those, so I guess they're not an option.

I finally got my license. I get to finally drive my car. I got my license on my second try. The first time I was so focused on everything else that I wasn’t going the right speed and ended up failing. I’m no longer stuck waiting on ubers and paying 10-20+ per trip. I also will be able to work on my car and customize it.

This might seem like a stupid question. But recently I’ve learned that when neurotypicals say “I like you/I have a crush on you”, it means they want to be in a relationship with you. I never really knew this which explains why whenever I told someone I have feelings for them they tell me they don’t want to date me or they already have a partner or someone else they like, despite me only telling them just to let them know with no desire to date them.

This is just how I see it but can anyone confirm that this is what neurotypicals mean when they say “I like you” or have it said to them?

So I (ADHD) have a FAVORITE mug. I use it often, but I have other ones I use interchangeablly. My partner (not autistic but has some executive function problems) and I do the dishes every few days. Today, I was cleaning up the kitchen and opened a cabinet I normally never use, only to find my mug was broken and hidden behind stuff. It was an easy super glue job. Took me 10 seconds to fix.

I am furious, and ask my partner if he was going to tell me that he broke it. He said his plan was to fix it without telling me, but hasn't had the time to. He said he's been "incredibly ashamed and just couldn't look at it" and that he felt terrible. Didn't immediately apologize that he hid it, not that he broke it, nor that he wasn't going to take me. Turns out it's been broken for TWO WEEKS. He apologized a few minutes later, and reiterated that he was too ashamed to tell me.

Admittedly, egg on my face here, I didn't notice it was gone. That's because he's been really sweet these past few weeks and making me my tea for me in the morning. Now it's clicked that he was doing so because I wouldn't go looking for it.

I'm still very frustrated with him because I've watched him play videogames all day on his days off, he's watched me use the super glue to fix something of HIS this week (so he knows where the super glue was) and never did or said anything to me. I'm so hurt that he didn't think to tell me, that he was just going to lie, and that it also took him two weeks to fix something that I love when he had plenty of time and resources to do so.

He's not home from work yet, so I have time to reflect and compose myself. Am I over reacting?

a little bit of context cuz i think is needed but idk: Im 27M and my main group of friends are also in their late 20s, one of them already has a wife and a son, so our gatherings have become more "adult" one could say, one of those adult things is going to high end/luxury restaurants.

I hate going to those places. They are so uncomfortable in so many autistic levels for me. I dont like paying a lot for food that is generally trash for me, my friends always berate me that i dont know how to enjoy finer things, and maybe its true, but one of my quirks is the food, i only eat food i really enjoy, otherwise i just pass. Also the whole social protocol of these places, you gotta act one way, say things one way, it just feels so fucking restrictive and demands a lot of masking on my side. Another thing it bothers me is the freaking ballet parking, i dont like other people to drive my truck, let alone a stranger, but i cannot go around this one, all restaurants we go have this service and theres no parking place near, so is ballet parking or you gotta walk like 800m. And finally the fucking music, its always loud as fuck that i cannot even understand what kind of music i am listening to.

Last week, we went to a brazilian swords place, and i was starting to have a meltdown, of which i could make another post because it revived a lot of memories and made me understand a lot of my infancy but is not the case now. We went there because it was the BD of my best friend, however i just left, i couldnt handle it, it was just so uncomfortable that i didnt understand why i was staying in a place i disliked so much. My best friend understood why i did it as i explained it him, but idk what to do, i dont want to keep from gathering with my friends but they dont seem to be into the same type of spaces i enjoy :/

It's got me feeling super confused on if it's another disorder or just my autism , I can go from being happy one moment to being really sad , or being angry for no reason , but alot of the time I can't recognise what emotion I'm feeling so I'm just numb inside and don't know what to do. It affects me alot but I don't express it to anyone as I don't have people that'll understand.

So just curious if this is an occurrence anyone else experiences?

Okay first things first, I am one the middle of the spectrum (I’m pretty sure) but ever since I’ve started living with my mom, my masking has become worse to a point where I just shutdown in the middle of the day when I’m home. This doesn’t help because my mom and her husband have a farm. I’m not the biggest fan of him but sometimes he’s nice to me but he’s kinda a dick not when I’m not masking, I feel like it’s just really hard to get to like and know him. I know that he is bipolar so getting along with him is frustrating, and we had a argument because I shutdown during chores after masking for 2 full weeks and my mom said that our arguments were annoying and making her not like the both of us but I’m pretty sure that she doesn’t like me the most. She knows that I’m autistic but only knows the basics about it. I also think that she’s starting to not like me is because that I’m “becoming like my dad” who has ADD and doesn’t truly mask that fact but I do have my problems with him too. I don’t hate him or anything but he is just kinda lazy and he lies sometimes. And tbh I’m a pathological liar and I truly want to get help for myself. Also why I think my mom doesn’t like me is whenever I mention my interests and ideas, she always says “oh” and doesn’t seem to care about them. But when I go to my dad’s, I truly feel accepted as an autistic person. Me and him get along really good because we both have the same personality and interests but he likes hunting and I like movies and pop culture. One of the problems my mom has with him is that he doesn’t bring me with him for hunting trips but I know why he doesn’t bring me is because he asks if I want to go sometimes and I usually just say no because I’m not really interested in hunting and he knows that. I feel like I’ve shared enough because typing all this stuff out is exhausting me.

I feel like some people (especially teachers) talk to me like a kid. Some young people around my age have even spoken to me as if I'm super ignorant or dumb. I'm not sure if it's because they can tell I'm on the spectrum or for some other reason. I know it doesn't matter, but it confuses me. It also makes wonder if there's anyone that can actually tell I'm on the spectrum cause a few people didn't beleive me when I told them I have it, yet some people treat me differently as if I'm a kid or autistic. Again, I know it really doesn't matter whatsoever on whether people can tell if I have it or not. I'm just curious if yall think there are signs that people know you're on the spectrum or if they just think I'm dumb and pathetic. I have a need to find out the reasons for everything, including why people talk to me a bit different even though it doesn't matter.

Hello! I’m 23f and I’m looking for friends since I don’t have many.

It doesn’t matter if we’re just online friends or in person. I live in western Pennsylvania.

I like to crochet, paint, draw, do ceramics, and all that crafty stuff. I also really like music, Hozier and Paramore are some of my favs and I play ukulele and piano. I used to play trumpet but I haven’t played in a very long time so I probably forgot how to play.

I also really enjoy nature and going on walks and hikes. I like to do photography as well.

So if anyone wants to be friends I’m here 🥹👉👈

I just find it helps me relax and I enjoy it a lot some of the top gaming consoles for me are, ps3, Xbox 360, ps2, OG Xbox, dreamcast, psp and many more! I have made part of my basement into a retro gaming room,

I am a 17 year old male.... so not all consoles I grew up with as a kid but have come to love these consoles as a teenager!!

I’m 16 and autistic, and I have six hyper-realistic dolls—not reborn dolls, but still expensive and detailed. They bring me a lot of comfort, and I really love them. But today, my aunt, grandma, and grandpa came over, saw them, and immediately started judging me. They said I was “too old” for dolls and acted like it was weird that I still have them.

I tried to explain that they help me emotionally, but they just dismissed it. It really hurt because these dolls are important to me, and I don’t see why they care so much about what makes me happy. It feels like they just don’t understand that autistic people find comfort in different things.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of judgment from family? How do you handle it when people don’t understand your special interests or comfort items

I understand saying excuse me when trying to pass someone if you need them to move, but why say it if they're not in your way? I'm guessing to be polite but is it impolite if you walk by someone and don't say excuse me even though they're not in your way?

And are you supposed to acknowledge them or say something back when they say it?

Title. I used to just show up to interviews with my headphones on, but that seems to give people a bad first impression (because not everyone assumes they are an accommodation), and it took a while to get hired. I am job searching again (just part time retail / food service, im a full time college student) and I've considered putting it in my resume, but I think that might just end up tanking my chances of getting interviews in the first place. What's the move here?

edit: I do want to add that, since I don't have an official diagnosis yet, I would be asking for accommodations for noise sensitivity. I would never disclose autism unless i felt comfortable.