Been using and drinking for a long time.

I’m done. I want to live without using or drinking.

Tomorrow is my last day one. Give me any tips, suggestions, anything.

I’ve been eating clean the last week or so and will continue to do so. Hydrating. Exercising. Got a doctor visit at end of the week to checkup. I’m specifically looking for any tips other than that. Thanks for anything. Relieved to finally be leaving the “party.” Time for sobriety. I finally want it.

I have hard time filling my free time Still dealing with depression and other mental health issues. But have a hard time filling my free time to get my mind off things I’ve been trying to walk daily and color/draw/journal but outside of those things I have no idea what to do. I get bored very quickly. I try to read but my memory is not there so I can’t remember what I read. Any ideas for other hobbies now that winter is upon us I am getting really bored/ the winter blues.

Hey all. I have found in recovery it’s hard for me to find things to do. I am thinking of creating an app that cultivates hobbies and activities to do in my city. Kinda of like a more comprehensive list of places, location, price. Etc. Would that interest anyone?

I think alcohol has a more net negative than positive effect on my life. I was looking for a fun resolution that would actually teach me something, and I figured I would test this out. I am 20s F. Any advice welcome!! Also happy to answer any questions!

I'm struggling to understand how an addict can work on sobriety when their life as an addict isn't terrible, just... comfortable. They might be making decent money, getting by, and not facing major consequences, but things also aren't great. There's this understanding that life would probably be better sober, but the lack of a clear incentive to change makes it hard to take that step. How do you break out of this 'comfortable' rut and commit to sobriety?

I (59m) am SO happy to be weed and alcohol free but I’ve noticed that my mood is sort of middling. I feel like I’m in neutral emotionally, no super highs or lows but no major joy either. Is this normal?

Do you use a Sober App to help track your progress?

I use "I Am Sober" (not an ad!) - it's been very helpful for my journey so far.

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I think my husband is using heroine again how would I drug test for it?

i am a 21yo (F) and i have been noticing that i’m starting to drink more. Im talking about during weekdays during any hour no matter what the activity/event is….& sure it could be seen as normal maybe by some people…but it’s come to the point where i am taking such large amounts that I vomit, miss work, miss school & always wake up to these nasty hangovers… it doesn’t help aswell that my friends also drink and i don’t know how to say no:,) Im turning 22 in april and i really want to improve myself and be sober at least until my birthday…

I want to stop drinking. Period. My mom is an alcoholic and I fear that I may have the same tendencies. I hate how dumb and emotional and impulsive I get from drinking. I hate the dumb conversations and the brain fog and the guilt in the morning. I hate the loud bars and expensive beers and the lack of control that can come from having one too many. II also look around at the way my friends behave when thet drink and it fills me with second-hand embarrassment and irritation. Several of them are running into serious problems in their lives in no small part due to drinking. Every tiime I have had alcohol for the past few months it has ended in me feeling out of control or terribly depressed and it just feels like a huge waste of time, money, and health. In some contexts I'm fine with it - having some booze at a dinner event filled with food and friends, for example, feels more manageable - but drinking for the hell of it on a Friday night is filling my life with more and more diminishing returns.

My partner, however, does not share my sentiments. We simply have a different relationship with drinking. She sees this as a hypochondriac neurosis of mine and thinks I need to be able to let loose and enjoy myself more rather than be so high strung and on guard about my behavior. She can handle having a glass of wine or two without having a small mental breakdown while I can't. I've suggested several times embarking on being sober together and she has no interest in the idea - if anything, she sees such a choice as unhealthy.

I love her and have built my life around her for the past three years but feel this difference between us risks destroying the whole thing. I want to make some serious lifestyle changes and I have to accept that I may have to go it alone and she will not be on board. I know I can't be the only person out there who has struggled with this but ai certainly feel alone right now. For those here who have gone sober without their significant other's involvement, what did that look like for you and how did it end up?

Hi! I am 23 years old and in college again after rehab. I was over a year sober and relapsed and have been using for 2 weeks now and have not stopped. I dont know what to do from here and i cannot afford to go to rehab again. Please I need help

i quit recently this is pretty much my first week completely off it, up till then i was just finishing off what little was left. anyways today i have not ate anything but a protein shake. its really bothering me i know i need to eat but i cannot seem to get hungry no matter how hard i try to convince myself by looking at food i like, but still i feel nothing. idk what to do? i’m not good at forcing myself to eat i just end up gagging and spitting it out. i have no idea what to do any advice would be appreciated. also idk if this would make a difference but i feel i should mention in case it does, i been smoking everyday non stop for a decade. i also used to have an eating disorder when i was a tween but i’ve never had an issue with that ever since but idk if that could also be a factor?

My bf and I need help getting healthy and non-drinking hobbies or date ideas.

We dated and drink for the first year of dating and are now some what struggling finding things for us to do since we aren’t drinking anymore TY!

Today is my 1 year sober. I never imagined when I got sober that I could feel this good. I'm not working a religious program but, I do believe in a higher power. I did a lot of self-work & completely surrendered. I was self-destructive, selfish, & living in a vaccuum. This is your reminder to keep going. Your reminder that you deserve love and you deserve to have a loving relationship with yourself. You deserve a life without bondage to a chemical/substance/behavior.

When it’s your 148th day sober … and the clarity that it brings finally makes you realise that you’ve destroyed your life and hurt those around you. You’re the loneliest you’ve ever been in your life. It’s a peeve.. but a good peeve. It’s hard to rationalise…but you’re also the strongest you’ve ever been. It’s easy to live your life in a blur … it’s harder to face life head on … but SO much more satisfying. You’re the real you again. Like me or not … it’s the me you’re gonna get.

I’ve edited this because I’m typing as I’m thinking it through. It’s from the heart tho. If I can do this anyone can. Don’t do it on your own like I did. Go easy on yourself… and start when you are ready to do it for YOU…not anyone else .. it will trickle down. Then pay it forward 🙏

I’m 28, and my family has a history of severe alcoholism. Thankfully, I don’t struggle with it myself—I drink on weekends with friends, but I don’t crave it or feel dependent on it. I feel really fortunate in that way. However, my family also has a pattern of getting angry when drunk, and I’ve noticed that I share this trait.

I live in New York, and my friends and I still party a lot. In the past, I had issues with getting angry when I was drunk, but I’ve worked on it and improved. These days, 9.5 out of 10 times, I can drink with no issues and have a great time.

That said, this past weekend, I got really drunk (to be fair, we all did), and I caused a big fight with one of my friends. It was entirely my fault, and it happened because I was drunk.

I talked to my best friend of 15 years about it and asked if she thinks I have a problem. She told me that most of the time, I’m fun to be around, but people know not to upset me when I’m very drunk.

Now I’m wondering if I should stop drinking. It’s tough because drinking and going out is such a big part of what my friends and I do. Even when I try to cut back, they’ll encourage me, saying things like, “Come on!”

It’s frustrating because, at my core, I’m a kind and fun person, and I love my friends. But when I drink too much, something shifts, and I can become mean. I can have a drink or three without any issues, and to be clear, I’m never blacking out—I always remember everything. It’s just that when I reach a certain level of drunk, my behavior changes, and I wish it didn’t.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you decide what to do?

ive been sober off all different kinds of shit for months and ive been great, but weed is the only thing i cant seem to get rid of, ive been smoking every day for almost 2 years and only recently ive noticed the bad impact it has on me. dont get me wrong tho, i love my w33d, makes me feel at ease and i love my idgaf attitude but at some situations, my addiction to it became a serious problem. ive been trying to deal with it on my own, im currently on tbreak my 6th day and every day ive been crying, breaking down, stressing out, just not in the best mood for existing you could say. how do you deal with that? how do i form a healthy relationship with it? and any tips i could better my memory and attention span?

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Has been one of the hardest but best years of my life

Today I woke up realizibg I gave into temptation. I WOKE UP..at 9pm and the demons in my head took over me. I HAVE been good with these negative vibes. Been in recovery consistentky. I need to play that whole video from beginningto end when these entities try to overcome me..How do you deal with these any feedback is appreciated...

Starting at a position that I have worked a long time up to and I can say I am proud of it. Hoping work can help me get my mind off needing alcohol to get through the day. Really need to focus to get through this. My friends want to celebrate my birthday next week and I want to politely decline, or at least suggest an activity that doesn't involve smoking or drinking.

It was enough and I was ruining everything around me and about me. Blacked out and just had enough. Needed to press the reset button. I know there are underlying issues, but I have to start somewhere.

Traveling for business tonight and meetings and hope I don’t fall for the “innocent” glass of wine or cocktail with colleagues.

Once I start it seems stopping can be a challenge when I’m traveling.

Hope to make an updated post when I’m on Day 5. Thanks for dealing with my stream of consciousness.

Happy to hear advice!

I’m doing my best to quit some pills and I do ok at home but when it’s time for work I feel like I’m going to lose my mind or have a panic attack. Then I end up taking some 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ does anyone have any advice for handling work through this?