/r/problemgambling

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A resource for individuals who have struggled - or know somebody who has struggled - with a gambling problem.

A resource for individuals who have struggled - or know somebody who has struggled - with a gambling problem.

  • Individuals who are concerned with their gambling behavior
  • Folks who have seen others suffer due to their gambling
  • Persons in recovery
  • Treatment professionals
  • Prevention professionals
  • Educators
  • Students

All are welcome to participate.

If you have any questions, comments, information, or advice for others regarding compulsive gambling, please share here.

FAQ

This is not an alternative to treatment and we cannot provide professional counseling by means of this community.

Posting Guidelines

It is to be understood that this is a community to which people sometimes turn to seek advice, opportunities to vent, and other situations where they may be left emotionally vulnerable. While this is not a place to get treatment or other professional help, the conditions above require a safe place. As such:

  1. Reddit content and spam policy: All sitewide Reddit content policies will be upheld and enforced. All posts that are determined by the moderators to be unsolicited links and “spammy” by nature will be removed.
  2. Interpersonal respect: All good-faith users are assumed to be of equal value and worth, and are expected to treat others as such. Therefore, disrespectful comments will be removed at the Mod Team’s discretion.
  3. No Promoting gambling: Content which promotes or encourages gambling behavior, methods, or strategies are prohibited and will be removed. URLs (hyperlinked or not) related to and discussions about gambling-related sites are prohibited without exception. Such material will be removed and likely result in a permanent ban!
  4. Discussing wins: Please refrain from discussing winnings: this can be terribly triggering for other people in recovery to read, and can be triggering to the writer. If you are discussing losses, please consider doing so carefully and only if it will be beneficial to both the reader and the writer. Tag all posts/comments with the "Trigger Warning!" flair as a courtesy to others.
  5. Discussions on financial bailouts and chargebacks are prohibited: An essential part of gambling recovery is assuming responsibility for gambling losses. For problem gamblers, this constitutes a bailout which erodes responsibility for gambling behavior and very much enables the compulsion. Out of respect for this facet of recovery: requesting money (including but not limited to links to GoFundMe, Kickstarter, or other crowdfunding sites) and discussions on chargebacks will be instantly removed.
  6. No Gatekeeping: This community was launched with the intention of being a safe place to learn about problem gambling, for any and all people to participate. Academics and treatment professionals can share knowledge, lay people can learn, and people seeking recovery can find resources and support. Sometimes people approach the community with genuine questions because they do not understand problem gambling and addiction. Users here are expected to inform, educate, enlighten, but not shame or abuse others for their questions. If you believe a user is posting here in bad faith, report the post immediately so that the moderators can judge the appropriateness of the post/comment.
  7. Research, Survey, and Interview Requests: All people looking to submit a post requesting participation in research or interviews for a journalistic piece must review our Research, Survey, and Interview Guidelines.
  8. Offers to treat, coach, or otherwise resolve a gambling problem are prohibited: Posting advice, recovery suggestions, and helpful comments are fine, but claims to be able to assist with gambling recovery without substantiated evidence of being a qualified recovery professional are tenuous if not harmful. Licensed professionals, peer recovery support providers, and/or other certified gambling recovery experts should message the mods or reply to our Monthly Resource Post and request that you be added to our Resources Page, but please do NOT comment (comments will be promptly removed) or DM users to solicit services.

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6 days

0 Comments
2024/12/17
05:59 UTC

2

Little hi and about my problem

Hey, I've been facing gambling addiction since teenage years now. I was sober for over 5 months and a month ago i started heavy gambling again. I can barely manags my funds to food and stuff now.

Yesterday night I ran 60 cent balance to over 70$ and then lost it all while trying to squeeze out couple more dollars. I needed that 70 SO badly, it was just enough to buy what I needed.

I have constant sleep problems and social life is slowly falling apart because of my issues.

Any help is welcome.

4 Comments
2024/12/17
05:34 UTC

5

Open up

To anyone going through the battle we call gambling addiction and have come to the realization that you are in fact a problem gambler please do what I did last night .

I told my family and friends that I am an addict and I need help I need counseling and I need support , I’ll be very honest with you I was so hesitant on the discussion because I thought I would be treated without seriousness and was expecting an angry response .

My brothers within 2 hours had found support groups and counselling, my girlfriend had taken control of my bank account and had created a debt plan.

I guess my point is it won’t be easy and I’ve balled my eyes out the last 48 hours coming to the realization of how much I’ve hurt them but these people love me and I could have tackled this earlier if I would have just talked .

Talk to your family and get help please . Wish me luck on my journey 🙏

3 Comments
2024/12/17
05:10 UTC

3

Day 24

No gambling for me today, thank you

1 Comment
2024/12/17
04:45 UTC

3

To be honest

a month ago I had lost 14k I had to wait a month to get paid benefits just to lose it on roulette today I feel sick I can’t stop and I don’t know why

I have meetings with gam care and judging from my experience I really don’t think they can help. let’s be frank if there’s no ways they can teach us to be financially stable or rich then what’s the point? Telling you about how bad my problems are on a scale of 1-10 is nothing. There’s only so much times you can use food banks

Not blaming anyone but I don’t think anyone can help

2 Comments
2024/12/17
04:09 UTC

2

Day 7

I have thought about playing every day. Not having money has helped lol.

Breaking the habit is the hard part as I played every day for a week straight just prior to stopping due to having nothing left.

The thoughts of “just give it a try with a small amount and you can probably double it” keeps hitting me, as there were a lot of things I needed to buy which I had the money for, until I lost it all.

Recovery isn’t easy but need to take it one day at a time.

1 Comment
2024/12/17
04:02 UTC

4

lost everything again

lost everything a few years ago, and managed to lose everything again

i feel so fucking hopeless

no matter what i do, i can’t stop gambling

3 Comments
2024/12/17
03:45 UTC

3

Gambling has ruined me (sports betting,slots,roullete all online and in shop) it's deadly addiction I cant do it anymore I have lost all my hard earn money through out the years mainly on sports betting in online casino.today I said enough is enough it's all scam you will never win and come ahead ev

2 Comments
2024/12/17
03:31 UTC

9

Day 21 - Healing

It seems like a long time since I placed a trade but it hasn’t even been a month. Feeling a lot better. I don’t think about the loss as much. I don’t think I even thought about it today or over the weekend. I wouldn’t have gotten here with a much better mindset without doing the deep work I have been doing since then.

This includes a lot of journaling, a lot of mental reframing, exercise, and reading. Avoiding social media. Not giving up.

I’m grateful to be going in this new journey. I’ve been a lot more self aware. Realizing more and more that my happiness or self worth doesn’t rely on how much money I can “win” or gain or how I can do better than my peers. But it’s about everyday decisions, being grateful simple joys and doing things with my family.

3 Comments
2024/12/16
23:26 UTC

4

Gamblers Anonymous meeting

G.A. Meeting tonight, December 16, 2024 at 7:00 pm est time on Zoom. Meeting ID: 8627683586 Password: 1234 Chairperson: Gail F Topic: “Unravelling the emotions of relapse.”

“Our experience in recovery has shown us that recovery is really hard. We ourselves experience relapse sometimes, or those that we care about and consider family in the rooms may experience relapse. There are emotions that are experienced on both sides of a relapse. Sadness? Anger? Guilt? Fear? Question 20? Is it possible to move past the big emotions involved and approach a relapse from the perspective of curiosity instead? Curiosity about feelings in that moment? Curiosity about what led up to it? Curiosity about what can be done differently in future?

If it has been a friend/someone you were close to who relapsed, do you have the ability to take the information that your curiosity has gathered and apply it to self to help your own recovery journey? “

Or feel free to share whatever is in your heart that you came into the room with that needs to be shared.

2 Comments
2024/12/16
23:08 UTC

3

Day 2

Maybe tomorrow.

4 Comments
2024/12/16
21:29 UTC

8

Gambling Addiction

Hello everyone, I came upon this page and thought about sharing my thoughts/what im currently going through with my developing gambling addiction.

I’m 19 and I have lost over 10K in sports betting as well as in-person and online casinos. All I think about is getting the grand or hitting a big jackpot. Though, my inner self knows it won’t happen. Every time I find myself winning a couple hundred bucks, I decide to continue playing and hopefully that thing hits, and of course, I lose it all, turning in to a session of regret. It has gotten so far to the point where I prioritize gambling before my education. I am currently enrolled in my second year as an undergrad in my local university.

I have no money. I live under parents, but I feel the pressure. I help pay with bills but once I see money on my bank account I go there and think, “oh, ill be getting paid soon from this and this job”, basically paycheque to paycheque. Even if I don’t have the money, I try to look for stuff around the house I could sell in order to go make it use at the casino.

I’m slowly developing a cycle of depression. There are many factors to it, including my education, financial situation, etc.. I’m very disappointed in myself. I cannot stop thinking about the casino, and it hurts.

5 Comments
2024/12/16
20:31 UTC

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Day 41

Life gets better, one day at a time.

1 Comment
2024/12/16
19:34 UTC

5

Day 7

I have been free from the grasp of social casinos for about a week now, I didn't realize how hard it would be with the constant thoughts to go back and telling myself it's just a $100 deposit, which quickly turns into $1000+, though I have stayed strong and am relying on what it could do to those around me if I keep down the self destructive path. Any advice would be appreciated to keep on this better path. Thank you in advance, I have not zeroed out my accounts but lost way more than I am comfortable with and the compulsion still there.

2 Comments
2024/12/16
19:21 UTC

3

Day 0

Day 0 again, slowly but surely ruining my life :)

1 Comment
2024/12/16
18:56 UTC

3

Content

Consider praying:

“Father, help me to be content.”

Consider writing down 3 activities that you could do instead of gambling.

Keep praying, keep quoting key verses, keep fighting.

2 Comments
2024/12/16
18:41 UTC

18

I never thought suicide would be this much desirable to end this pain.

I lost everything, the people, the money, integrity, self respect. I don't have anything to live for. Gambled away evey last little money I had, took a personal loan of 13K$ (I make only 5.5k yearly $- 3rd world country) lost it all in stock market options and prop fund evaluations. Lost the interest to work too completely so very likely to get kicked in a couple of days so if I lose the job then my life support is gone. Although I'm not that terrified either because I've decided to end the pain.

Stop it when you could. Gambling will never get you rich. There isn't a single gambler in the world who has been successful unless they own the casino.

17 Comments
2024/12/16
18:10 UTC

5

Relapsed after 6 days

12 Comments
2024/12/16
15:26 UTC

5

Day 1

I’ve been here on and off for years. The sting of losses is no longer there and I just go numb. Probably around 6 figures losses for the year. I’m so terrified to really let those closest to me in on how much I’m hurting. And by not doing so I’m really damaging those relationships as I’m miserable to be around when losing.

I know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I’ve had some success posting on this page in the past. Hope to join many on the journey.

When I think about the happiest I’ve ever been or best person to others, gambling was in no way involved. I need to remind myself that daily.

4 Comments
2024/12/16
15:11 UTC

4

5 days

3 Comments
2024/12/16
14:31 UTC

5

Fighting My Way Back - 1 Day Free Again

Gambling ruined my life i won’t go into details, but I know my current situation is because of it. Strangely, I keep feeling like gambling is the fastest way to fix things, even though I know it’s not the answer. I believe in myself and can see a better future ahead, but staying on track is tough. I’m fighting to rebuild, but relapse keeps knocking me down. Still, I refuse to give up.

1 Comment
2024/12/16
14:20 UTC

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Day 2

0 Comments
2024/12/16
14:20 UTC

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This evening ,i am writing this with lots of pain in my heart ! I have decided that i am never going back to gambling again ,i have just closed my two accounts that remained. I am ready to follow a tough path to recover ,to all former gambling addicts ,which steps did you use to recover ?

2 Comments
2024/12/15
20:46 UTC

1

Day 63. Phone just stopped working and mental is destroyed again

Yeah it doesn’t matter if you stop gambling, the depression and lack of luck will always stick with us. This year I gambled away enough to buy around 15 phones and now my phone broke and I don’t have money to fix it or buy a new one.

I have destroyed my life in a year and literally have no strength or way to get out of this shit. Destined to live in misery.

3 Comments
2024/12/16
08:02 UTC

1

Day 1 - Re-committing

Relapsed after a solid few months of avoiding. A website exclusion ended, thought I had set them all to 5 years/permanent... Hit a new all time low, accompanied by some very dark thoughts and quite frankly, that scared the shit out of me. Ive got to stop, or this won’t end well.

Will be checking in weekly go forward to provide an update, whatever that may be.

3 Comments
2024/12/16
03:01 UTC

2

Day 0

I’m a fucking dirty lying gambling addict. Currently at the very worst point of my life, I’m fucked

0 Comments
2024/12/15
22:19 UTC

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Day 13

Last day 13 ever.

1 Comment
2024/12/16
09:51 UTC

5

I'm at a dead end. Looking for tools to help

Hi everyone. I've hit a wall on the gambling front, and life in general. It's gotten to the point where I wanted to get to zero just for it to stop. I sound absolutely insane saying that. But it's the truth.

Are there any tools out there that you have used to help with your addiction?

If not, I'll be putting my heart and soul into creating one, to help everyone effected by this disease.

Nate

6 Comments
2024/12/16
10:50 UTC

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Day 1

1 Comment
2024/12/16
12:04 UTC

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Day 59

1 Comment
2024/12/16
12:15 UTC

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