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/r/NeedToTalk

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Here’s my story…

I’m too exhausted to even write this. I hope you all know why and what led me to this point. I hope you know with all your heart because I’ve been crying for help for many months and I’ve done my best to express and communicate and I’ve repeated myself multiple times.

there is no use in continuing on with this life. I am a failure. I am 26 years old and all I’ve achieved is a bachelors degree. Al the people I’ve ever loved with my whole heart, including those close too me have hurt me beyond words can express. I’ve done nothing to these people but love them and give them my all — that’s my fault. My cup is empty.

My own father emotionally abandons me. He has cancer. Growing up he had muscular dystrophy. He cuts me off whenever he wishes over the stupidest reasons. I’ve worked on our relationship for several years, to make it healthy to work on communication, showing love, something as simple as finally saying “I love you” more often. I worked hard because it’s not a linear journey, it was full of pain and stress and setbacks. But now , when I’m broken And weak and need someone, he abandons me. He says there’s nothing wrong with our relationship. If anything, I’m actually the problem in the relationship…..after I’ve been crying to him for days to please fix our relationship please I need a father.

It’s my birthday week. I feel as though I don’t have friends. Only a few people remembered — which I’m not saying to sound pretentious or I’m entitled to anything. Quality over quantity. It just excarbated my feeling of loneliness as I feel as though I no longer have close genuine friends. Both of my best friends I lost last year because one was cheating and called me a bitch when I confronted her that her mother knowingly gave me black magic.

On the topic of black magic, I’ve suffered from it for ten years. It ruined my life. Turns out— a family member did it too me because at 15 years old I refused her son for marriage in the future. At 15…he’s also my cousin..

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple of months now probably more than six months. We started off as best friends two years ago. He had a girlfriend at the time we met and we became friends, and I used to always help him with his relationship and give him advice and comfort him well that relationship ended me and him started dating immediately because we realized what we had was special But as soon as we started dating, he started his chemotherapy. My boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer and it’s been a long journey as he has a rare type of cancer we have done surgery. We have done chemotherapy we have done immunotherapy and now he is taking pills ever since his diagnosis of cancer like a year and a half ago every time he goes to the hospital, he gets more bad news That his cancer keeps spreading to his bones that there’s no cure for his cancer that every treatment they’ve done is not working to at least contain it if there’s no cure my boyfriend‘s cancer, diagnosis came three months or four months after my dad got his cancer diagnosis my dad lives in a different country than me When he got his cancer diagnosis I went back home and I took care of him and I was a caregiver for him for many months. It took a toll on me because he has muscular dystrophy and because of our relationship and just being a caregiver is hard in general at the time I was 24 years old I am now 26 years old. I just turned 26 on Tuesday. I feel like my whole life has been struggling. I have been under so much pressure I run and take care of everyone and their problems and leave myself behind.

I’m no longer myself to add onto my pain and grieve my old self every day and I feel like I’ve fallen in a hole and I can’t get out of it to be my old self again just to make a note during this time during the past two years now I have been unemployed for most of the time due to the current job market conditions that are horrible Every day I would apply to many many jobs. I would worry I need a salary so if my dad loses his job due to his disability and cancer, I could pay for his treatment.

So much has happened in my life this is only but a mere snapshot into the last few months and the last year, I’m too exhausted and too drained to write everything in detail. Please ask me questions if you have any.

I’ve been through a lot in life. I’m too exhausted to detail everything. I hope you believe me.

I live in fear of tomorrow. I will no longer live.

5 Comments
2025/01/31
19:34 UTC

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Listen

This is my proposal, a chance at temporary solance.

It is late at night for me. I am on the balcony onto which I mourned all the blood I spilled for so long. I have a discord... If you feel comfortable we will talk. Don't care about what, don't care how. An exchange, a shared pondering, regret.

1 Comment
2025/01/31
18:05 UTC

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Hey 25M, just want to talk to someone. I’m just sad and want to make friends

Early last year, my main friend group kicked me out out of the group, they made up some bs story about how I was rude to so many people in the group. Turns out, the “main” friend was dating a minor and kick anyone he know would have a problem with that.

After being kicked out, I haven’t been able to find a friend group I could talk to everyday, or even someone I could talk too. I’ve buried myself into my work, now I’m doing 12hours shifts every other day, 6 or 7 days a week, I’m just so exhausted and just want to talk to people, laugh with friends again.

I’m a shy person and I struggle to talk in general, but once I’m comfortable with someone I don’t hold back and I’m quite loud. I’m not looking for one type of person / group. Just spilling my heart out and hoping for the best.

If you read all of this thanks, it kinda helped just typing this out

4 Comments
2025/01/31
06:52 UTC

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[18M] Need someone to listen. I am more comfortable with women, but all are welcome.

I’ve had a few experiences recently that I don’t feel comfortable sharing with any people I’m close to personally. I need someone who doesn’t know who or what I’m talking about to explain my feelings about these experiences. As mentioned in the title, women are preferred, I tend to feel I can talk more freely with you, but all are welcome.

2 Comments
2025/01/30
23:51 UTC

1

[Lounge]

Break a conversation here

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6 Comments
2025/01/29
19:31 UTC

2

Anyone free to talk to?

Just need a random stranger to chat with about my crazy family

1 Comment
2025/01/29
15:17 UTC

2

Anyone down to talk?

15F and this is my 3rd time posting here 😅 other account got removed.. still don’t care about age or gender I just enjoy meeting new people.

0 Comments
2025/01/29
04:29 UTC

3

Can any females lend a listening ear need to get some stuff off my chest.

Nothing weird just need to vent to a stranger.

2 Comments
2025/01/28
21:49 UTC

1

Need To talk about a girl

Respond me for the details

0 Comments
2025/01/28
19:08 UTC

2

Looking for someone to talk to

15F

Again, I don’t really care about age or gender lol… people are people.

2 Comments
2025/01/28
05:24 UTC

2

Can anyone listen to me talk about my experience of my mom dying

Hi, I'm 23 and my mom recently died. I feel like talking through the experience of what happened might help me process it, and my therapist is focused more on how to focus on daily life right now. Looking for someone who this wouldn't be too much for, and if you have something to talk about too I can definitely listen.

2 Comments
2025/01/27
21:54 UTC

1

Can someone please message me I need some advice at something that’s been eating me up

23 F, I can’t stop feeling awful

2 Comments
2025/01/27
17:29 UTC

2

I can't bottle everything up anymore

I feel as if I've been through so much and I need to get it out without being judged.

1 Comment
2025/01/27
03:28 UTC

1

Feel like I’ve messed up big time!

I really feel like I’ve messed up and could do with someone to talk to and get an outside perspective on this.

1 Comment
2025/01/25
21:44 UTC

1

Hello I could really use someone to talk to

Hi, I would love to have someone to talk to and I am open to everything and listen to you too

2 Comments
2025/01/25
21:06 UTC

2

Feeling low rn !! Anyone up for talk?😊 (no adult stuff, )

4 Comments
2025/01/25
17:31 UTC

1

I need to talk with someone, severely depressed, I'm kind with myself just need friends to be honest

I have been down on my own since September, i have a long list why i am depressed but let's not get into that now, i just need PEOPLE

1 Comment
2025/01/25
02:47 UTC

1

Would anyone be down to listen to me vent about a lg problem of mine?

3 Comments
2025/01/24
16:48 UTC

3

Having a hard time with moving on from a “dying” friend group and crush

Four years ago I (F30) moved to a new town and got hired at this company. I became a part of this friend group and for the first time in a really long time I felt like I had found my “tribe”, my little chosen family.

We bonded instantly and would hang out almost literally 24/7. It was a truly magical time. I felt like I was part of a family, something I had been craving all my life.

I know people have negative opinions on being friends with coworkers, I get it’s a bad idea. But I’m a foreigner, I didn’t grow up here so I don’t have any friends outside of work, no family members here.

The company I work for mostly has young people (20s) or around my age (30s). And almost feels like a campus. My managers are all my around my age or younger. So the vibes are very much carefree fun times. This is something everyone agrees on at work. The pay sucks but most of us chose to stay because of how light and jovial the atmosphere is at work, all the coworkers have such great relationships between them.

Then there’s this guy. My crush. This guy that I’ve been secretly lusting over for the past 4 years. When I still had all my friends at work it was easy to talk to him. I had lots of opportunities to go hang out around their desks because he was seated near them and was also part of the group. But now we pass each others desks and just say hi, nothing more. Every time I run into him in the hallway I never know what to say, I act so awkward. It sucks because we used to joke around so much back in the day, we had great repartee. But it was facilitated by the general playful vibe of our group.

We used to have house parties and go out for drinks and he would be there because we all got invited. Now, the house parties are hosted by some new coworkers that I don’t know. He’s a very social guy so he’s usually there but I’m not invited or don’t feel comfortable going because none of my besties will be there.

As for my friend group, we’ve been slowly drifting apart and it’s killing me. I changed departments at work a few years ago, some of my friends left the company, others have moved to a different city, got new friends or coupled up and so we never really see each other anymore.

More and more of my coworkers are leaving the company and I feel like I’m left behind. I’m having a hard time accepting that my friend group will never go back to how it used to be.

I’ve tried to make new friends outside of work, through hobbies like dance. But nothing ever really took. It’s not effortless like it was with my old friends. It feels like I have to force every social interaction. Like I have to artificially create the connection. And that’s just not what I want. I want true friendship where you just stumble into it. Where you’re not even aware that you’re creating this amazing friendship bond. The type of friendship where you just hang out organically all the time.

I’ve tried to recreate the magic and ask them to hang out but they’re all so busy and it’s just not how it used to be.

I’ve tried to talk about it with them but they don’t really seem to be as bothered as I am. I guess they’re more mature than me and realize that office friendships can’t really last.

We still are all in contact. No bad blood between anyone or anything like that. So maybe the tide will change and somehow we’ll all reunite later in life?

I always hear people talk about their friends from out of town or their high school or college friends. How do they maintain those friendships without even living in the same town? Why can’t we keep the friendship alive?

I hate that I no longer have mutual friends with my crush. I still see him everyday at work and I’ll have to keep being reminded of the fact that nothing ever happened between us. That nothing ever will. He seems to have moved on too, I was told he’s dating a new girl from work.

I have so many unresolved feelings about this guy. How do I become okay with the fact that our story has ended before it ever even started?

How do I accept that my friend group is now dead? I can’t go back to having no friends. I spent the entirety of my 20s alone and isolated. I want to be part of a group so bad. Hobbies and online connections is just not cutting it for me.


TLDR: I (30F) became part of a really tight knit group of friends from work. Our friendship lasted four years, we have now all drifted apart. And I’m having a really hard time accepting that those good old days are now over. I spent most of my 20s completely alone and isolated so I don’t want to go back to being “invisible”. I love spending time with myself and being alone but I NEED true genuine friendships too. I hate feeling lonely and unclaimed.

I’ve tried to make new friends outside of work through hobbies but it just feels forced and nothing really takes.

My crush was also part of this group dynamic. I waisted that opportunity and never really went for it. I’m having a really hard time accepting that nothing will ever happen with this guy.

How do I move on and stop hurting about things ending?

0 Comments
2025/01/24
11:05 UTC

1

Please help

Hey guys I'm going through a pretty rough break up right now which has left me with no one. I'm 18(m) but I'm not like every other guy these days who just do what they want and leave. I care like a human. I feel like a human. I make mistakes like a human. But I made mistakes and regretted them too much and Eventually one of my mistakes cost me a relationship that could've ended with us sitting side by side watching our grandkids play in our garden. I really wish I could go back but it's too late. So now I'm just sat in my bed trying to stop crying knowing that she is doing the exact same. If someone could message me I would really really appreciate it. Thank you

2 Comments
2025/01/24
02:28 UTC

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Tomorrow is day 50 of being away from my wife and kids

I’m not going to get into it but I have been away from my wife and 2 kids (4yo girl and 9yo boy). I miss them so much I can hardly get any work done. We missed my b-day, x-mad and new years together. I wish there was more I could do to make things easier for all of us. All I can do is love and support from afar.

2 Comments
2025/01/23
05:20 UTC

7

Just need kind words or a friend

24/f- I just moved across the country, I thought it would be awesome. New experiences, new scenery, new everything.

Unemployed and it’s so hard to find a job (I have a college degree and I’ve really been trying) otherwise I’ve always been a line cook but nowhere is hiring I swear. I miss my family and I miss my friends. We talk on discord once a week but other than that I just watch reruns of ink masters or unsolved mysteries and play video games. I’m a pretty normal person idk, I just don’t know how to keep going on like this and I’m so tired of being alone. I don’t know how much longer I can feel like this. I’m sad enough to post on Reddit. If anyone can help let me know.

1 Comment
2025/01/22
08:49 UTC

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I'd love to listen if anyone needs to talk 🌸

I'm a listener, send me a message if you meed to talk about anything, hopefully I can be there for you 🌷

But no man please 🌸

5 Comments
2025/01/19
23:07 UTC

2

I get test anxiety.

Whenever I have an exam I get very anxious like extremely. I forget simple things and last year when my result came my parents told me things that were so cruel that whenever I remember them I start crying and this year I have been kind of falling behind. like every year I would get a scholership but I couldn't this year and every day my parents remind me how my this year's grade would determine whether I am inteligent or not. I know they would say things that I could never forget and I wouldn't be able to move forward or choose what I want to study. How can I get rid of this test anxiety?

0 Comments
2025/01/19
13:44 UTC

2

Going through a breakup

(29F) I’m going through one of the worst breakups of my life and I could really use some support and someone to vent to. Another woman preferably.

7 Comments
2025/01/19
02:32 UTC

2

I'm just a listener

Talk whatever you wanna talk about there's no limit

1 Comment
2025/01/18
18:33 UTC

1

Need someone to talk to about topics that I don’t feel like I can talk to people close to me about.

Struggling with some feelings that I don’t feel I can share with people in my life for fear of judgement.

1 Comment
2025/01/18
18:01 UTC

2

I feel so alone and unwanted!

I just need someone to take all to.;

0 Comments
2025/01/18
05:50 UTC

2

Just need someone to talk to

Feeling very frustrated and I kind of need to vent to a kind stranger.

2 Comments
2025/01/18
03:19 UTC

1

After 30 years I finally have a diagnosis!

After 30 years of horrible periods I finally got diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis today! I've known what was wrong for a long time, but it's so validating to finally have a doctor confirm my suspicions.

1 Comment
2025/01/18
02:40 UTC

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